24 FEB 2020 · Do you ever wonder how somewhere got to where they are? Or how they had the courage and tenacity to reclaim their life after being on a challenging trajectory? In this interview she focuses on: •A brief glimpse into her childhood including the sexual abuse perpetrated by a close member of th In this episode, our incest survivor guest, Elona Washington, discusses the impact childhood degradation and abuse had on her becoming a stripper, how she changed her life, and where she is today. You’ll be amazed! Please visit our website at www.tailofhebell.com for show notes and further information. Like and follow us on Facebook at Facebook.com/TailOfTheBell If you like our work, please subscribe, rate and review on Apple podcasts. Feedback is always welcome and appreciated…drop us a line at info@tailofthebell.com . YANA!

10 FEB 2020 · We hear various recommendations for child sexual abuse prevention along with keeping ourselves and our children safe, such as talking to our children etc. However, we don’t often hear specifics about trainings and products that are available to help us. I wanted to explore that further and sought out Carol who I met at a Darkness to Light conference. Our guest, Carol, was sexually abused by a member of the clergy when she was a child. Now, as an adult, she is an advocate, speaker and trainer for multiple sexual assault and sexual abuse focused organizations. She is also a Damsel in Defense independent distributor. In this capacity, she provides personal protection products and safety training for sexual assault survivors, their loved ones and the public. Carol joins us to discuss child sexual abuse prevention. In this interview she focuses on: •A brief glimpse into her childhood including the sexual abuse perpetrated by a close member of the clergy as well as her family’s response •Child Sexual Abuse prevention education and the need to target 3 distinct audiences •An in-depth discussion around the Damsel in Defense SAFE Hearts 11 educational book series that help parents have those difficult “Kid-versations” as well as other personal safety products offered by Damsel in Defense (stun guns, personal alarms, pepper spray etc.) •A comparison of the SAFE Heart children series to other sexual abuse trainings including Darkness to Light’s Stewards of Children program geared towards adults and Domestic Minor Sex Trafficking •Her view on the top kid focused prevention strategies •Her recommended read, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals the Protect Us from Violence, written by Gavin de Becker •Other products and trainings such as the NRA’s Refuse to be a Victim, martial arts, Citizen’s Police Academy, and Neighborhood Watch offerings Please visit our website at www.tailofhebell.com for show notes and further information. If you like our work, please subscribe, rate and review on Apple podcasts. Feedback is always welcome appreciated…drop us a line at info@tailofthebell.com . YANA!

3 FEB 2020 · In this Episode: Aurora, our incest survivor guest, discusses her traumatic childhood and how she used fear and denial as a pathway to acceptance. In this interview, she focuses on: •Her childhood abuse impact on her sense of self including feeling invisible •Embracing the notion, “it’s ok to not be ok” as part of acknowledging and healing and working through body memories •Various forms of fear she experienced and the differentiation between healthy and unhealthy fears •How fear partners with denial to keep you from doing the healing work and why it’s important to move past the denial •Connecting to and building relationships with your emotions •Tools used in her healing process including writing, inner-child work, yoga, nature, play, mindfulness, somatic experience therapy and techniques, self-compassion, having a support system, affirmations etc. •Examples of somatic experience therapy techniques that were helpful to her •Tips to other survivors that may help them on their own healing journey •Various poems and authors that have inspired her •What acceptance means to her and how she’s living it Please visit our website at www.tailofhebell.com for show notes and further information. If you like our work, please subscribe, rate and review on Apple podcasts. Feedback is always welcome appreciated…drop us a line at info@tailofthebell.com . YANA!

27 JAN 2020 · We're back with our first episode of Tail of the Bell Season 2! In this episode, host Nancy Allen interviews Lauren Crigler, a doctor of physical therapy who specializes in pelvic floor health. Lauren coaches women in person and online who are having pain with sex, he lping them to solve the underlying pelvic floor issues, as well as communicate with their partner and reconnect with their bodies. In this session we discuss: •What a pelvic floor physical therapist is and does •Some of the ways to identify if the pelvic floor is not working properly and differentiating between short term new onset pain vs chronic long term pain •Understanding the connection between the emotional and physical aspects, specifically chronic stress and the postural muscles (including shoulders, jaw and pelvic floor) •How Lauren works with women one-on-one OR in combination with their partner to learn internal and external techniques either face-to-face in her Georgia brick-and-mortar practice as well as online through video conferences •Shifting from months or even years of abstinence or “grinning and bearing it” to sexual experiences that increase intimacy and physical pleasure •Coaching clients on positive, future focused strategies used to tell their partner about painful sex, possible partner responses, as well as to temper negative self-assessment •Stopping self-blame and fear in the therapeutic processes BY shifting mindset away from "this is something happening to me” TO "this is something that is happening for me and with me”; setting boundaries; setting both small steps and big goals; and by celebrating successes •The silver linings including a deeper more intimate relationship having worked through the problem with their partner, increased sexual desire and reaching orgasm •How Dr Crigler got into this specialty and to an online treatment model Please visit our website at www.tailofhebell.com for show notes and further information. If you like our work, please subscribe, rate and review on Apple podcasts. Feedback is always welcome appreciated…drop us a line here or at info@tailofthebell.com . YANA!

18 NOV 2019 · Caryn Walker, our father-daughter incest survivor guest, discusses reporting and prosecuting her father as an adult. Caryn is from the England where there is no statue of limitations on reporting child sexual abuse. In this interview, she focuses on: •Her childhood abuse suffered at the hands of both parents •The abuse turning sexual at a very young age with her father’s grooming, manipulation and her mother’s complacency •The impacts of her childhood carrying into her adult relationships •The process of reclaiming herself beginning with extracting from her abusive marriage •The build up to her decision at age 40 to break her silence and report her father’s crimes to the police •The processes experienced during reporting, trial, verdict, and sentencing •Who supported her through the process •Strategies and tips for other survivors that may be looking to prosecute •The post-trial impacts on herself, siblings, and other relationships •Writing her memoirs, “Tell Me You’re Sorry, Daddy” available at https://bit.ly/2WDN348 Please visit our website at www.tailofhebell.com for show notes and further information. If you like our work, please subscribe, rate and review on Apple podcasts. Feedback is always welcome appreciated…drop us a line here or at info@tailofthebell.com . YANA!

4 NOV 2019 · In this episode, Orlena Kerek, our doctor turned weight-loss and health coach expert guest, discusses self-worth and self-care. She focuses on: •Shifting from an external validation of self-worth to an internal perspective. •The connection between self-worth and self-care. •The Thought – Emotion-Action circle using both positive and negative examples •How to change our Thoughts, Emotions and Actions •Intercepting the Thought-Emotion-Action loop at each point to make the negative to positive shift •Her podcast, Fit and Fabulous and her membership offering. If you like our work, please subscribe, rate and review on Apple podcasts. Feedback is always welcome appreciated…drop us a line here or at info@tailofthebell.com . YANA!

28 OCT 2019 · Jade, our incest survivor guest, discusses her background with physical, emotional and sexual abuse by two primary perpetrators, her father and older brother. She then walks us through her struggles with her own healing, suicide attempts, and dealing with the death by suicide of someone close to her. Join us as she expands upon: •Understanding the varying responses to abuse by each perpetrator •Childhood life without boundaries •Ways she “normalized” the situation •Her rocky path to healing •Sensory memories •Coming to terms with the much too soon deaths of her siblings •Her crash course in self-love and reclaiming herself •Practical tips on addressing suicidal thoughts and helping survivors of suicide loss •Her book “Wake Me from the NIGHTMARE: Hope, Healing and Empowerment After Suicide Loss”

21 OCT 2019 · Robyn, our incest survivor guest, shares her insights on grieving all our childhood incest related losses as a path to accepting ourselves in all ways, in all parts of self, and loving ourselves through whatever we are going through. Join us as she expands upon: •Her chaotic childhood with sibling incest, parent-to-parent domestic violence, her mother’s mental illness and all the resulting shame and smallness thrust upon her •Unraveling her resurfaced lifelong survival mechanisms and patterns as she battled a major physical illness •The build-up of unprocessed losses •Finding acceptance through the full body grieving process, witnessing, shadow work, and peer support •The ultimate “gifts” of grief •How she helps others today For more information, on Robyn and topics covered, please see our show notes on the Podcast section of our website at www.TailoftheBell.com. If you enjoy this episode please subscribe, rate and review us wherever you get your podcasts!

15 OCT 2019 · Jenn Taylor, our incest survivor guest, shares her story of exploring, understanding, reclaiming, and ultimately embracing her sexuality. Join us as she expands upon: •Her background including physical, emotional and sexual abuse •What it was like living in a home environment where her mother was experiencing catastrophic domestic violence •Experiencing date rape •Her path to struggling with her own sexuality and her quest to “feed the beast” •The trials, tribulations, and ultimate successes on her path of reclaiming her body, her life and herself •How she stepped into fostering and adopting children •Her book, Hello my name is Princess Warrior •Her podcast, The Naked Podcaster Please see our show notes at www.TailOfTheBell.com for more details. If you like the show, please subscribe, rate and review us! Thanks!

30 SEP 2019 · Dr. Sharon Cohen, a dating and relationships consultant, uses my personal experiences as an incest survivor as a jump off point as we discuss: •3 stages of relationships •Incest survivors’ common concerns and tips on how to address them •Dating readiness •Trusting your choices and instincts •Non-negotiables •Handling the topic of your past •Dating practical safety tips See www.TailoftheBell.com for more information and links to stuff mentioned in this episode. See www.DrSharonCohen.com to connect with Dr. Cohen