Dear Steve,

My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and have been living together for almost six months. I felt like before we moved in together, everything was perfect. However, that is not the case now. I love him but I wonder if he will ever grow up. I'm constantly picking up after him, and I pay all the bills. He has a job but it's not serious.

I'm finding out that living together is just more work for me to do. Meanwhile, I’m working my butt off in grad school. We have always talked about marriage and a family one day, but now I feel like I'm second guessing every decision we've made together. I have tried to talk to him about my issues with our living situation, but he always brushes it off and won't go into deep conversation on ways to make living together easier. Can I change him to start being mature? Or should we go our separate ways?

Signed,
– Frustrated