On this episode we cover the keys to a healthy and happy relationship. In a relationship we tend to believe that our partner has the responsibility to make us happy or that we have to make them happy, that their actions or inactions is the result of how we feel. But this behavior is known as emotional childhood, which means that we are blaming others for how we feel, or finding happiness externally. When we become emotional adults, we take full responsibility of how we choose to think, feel, and act.

Once we take control of ourselves, we can then realize what “manuals” we have for others. Manuals are a set of instructions or expectations we have for others of how we would like them to act in order for us to feel good and be happy.

But the reality is that other people’s behavior has nothing to do with how we feel, it’s how we choose to think about it that causes a feeling and then we act accordingly.

We have all the power! And yet almost always we give the control of our thoughts, emotions and actions to others. The funny part being, that they are not even aware of how much control they have over our lives.

Having boundaries is another key to having a successful relationship. Once we have thrown out the manuals for others we will need to set up healthy boundaries to keep ourselves safe. Boundaries are about you. It’s what YOU will do if someone behaves in a certain way.

Utilizing these tools is essential to having a happy, loving relationship.

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