22 APR 2024 · When most of us started recovery we thought we needed to just tweak a few things so that stopped our problematic porn patterns.  What we soon find, however, is that recovery is a window into the disfynctional way we have been doing our lives and a springboard into a whole new set into new life patterns! If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life! If you are looking for some free resources as well as informatin on the finding traction podcast you can check out the website https://bandofbrothers.care

17 APR 2024 · Is our porn drive the same as our sex drive?  In this episode Vern explores the differences between the two and how returning to our normal sex drive is the goal of our porn recovery. If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life! If you are looking for some free resources as well as informatin on the finding traction podcast you can check out the website https://bandofbrothers.care

29 MAR 2024 · Anybody who has been at porn recovery for a while can identify with the natural drift that can take place.  When we take our hands off the steering wheel - this drift can lead us into the ditch or into oncoming traffic! If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com We offer both weekly finding traction groups using our 52 week video course as well as a monthly connection meeting where you can join with other guys committed to walking away from porn and moving toward a much much better life! If you are looking for some free resources as well as informatin on the finding traction podcast you can check out the website https://bandofbrothers.care

20 MAR 2024 · Most of us would like to reverse engineer our last relapse so it doesn't happen again.  In this episode Vern looks at the idea of 3 different dimensions of a relapse and how to reverse anticipate what will take place when we are drawn to porn the next time. In today's lesson we also introduce our brand new Finding Traction Community for those who subscribe for $10/month.  On the last Sunday night of each month we will be offering our subscribers an opportunity to connect with other like minded guys around the topic of porn recovery. I'll be sharing a short lesson and there will be an opportunity to ask question and hear from other guys as to what has worked for them.  For our subscribers we will also send out a link to the first 13 weeks of the video course Finding Traction:  Freedom from Porn.  Each quarter you are in the group I will be sending out the next quarter for you. To receive your zoom link for our monthly meetings as well as the link to Quarter 1 of the Finding Traction course send me (Vern) an email with the word "Community" in the subject line to bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

11 MAR 2024 · What happens when life feels "Meh..."  Today we talk about the term recovery doldrums - the feeling that you could use a pick me up to compensate for feeling "off". In today's lesson we also introduce our brand new Finding Traction Community for those who subscribe for $10/month.  On the last Sunday night of each month we will be offering our subscribers an opportunity to connect with other like minded guys around the topic of porn recovery. I'll be sharing a short lesson and there will be an opportunity to ask question and hear from other guys as to what has worked for them.  For our subscribers we will also send out a link to the first 13 weeks of the video course Finding Traction:  Freedom from Porn.  Each quarter you are in the group I will be sending out the next quarter for you. To receive your zoom link for our monthly meetings as well as the link to Quarter 1 of the Finding Traction course send me (Vern) an email with the word "Community" in the subject line to bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

4 MAR 2024 · Is there as way to look at our recovery in a series of stages. In this episode Vern looks at some of the stages common to recovery, how we can get stuck at any one stage, and how we can proceed to truly walking a life of freedom and blessing. If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you are looking for some free resources as well as informatin on the finding traction podcast you can check out the website https://bandofbrothers.care

19 FEB 2024 · There is a funny super bowl ad that says to remember something you need to forget something. In this podcast Vern talks about the role that forgetting plays in our relapses and the need to bring specific things to mind. If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you are looking for some free resources as well as informatin on the finding traction podcast you can check out the website https://bandofbrothers.care

12 FEB 2024 · When I tell guys about what caused a tipping point in my recovery - I often forget to include an event that helped cement some of the recovery changes that were happening. In this episode I explore the value of that experience by inviting Daugherty of Be Broken Ministry to discuss what can be an invaluable recovery experience - the Intensive. If you want to connect with Vern (and he loves to hear from guys) you can contact him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to find some free resources as well as information on the Finding Traction course you can check him out on his website https://www.bandofbrothers.care/ If you want to connect with Jonathan Daugherty you can connect with him and the Be Broken Ministry at https://www.bebroken.org

5 FEB 2024 · There are two opposite ditches we can get into when we are walkg out our recovery. One is the despair (Mission Impossible) that creeps in when we relapse or fail to live up to the best hopes of our intentions. The other is the over confidence (Mission Accomplished) that we want to leap to when we are having a few good days or weeks! In this episode Vern talks about how to navigate between these two ditches. If you want to connect with Vern (and he loves to hear from guys) you can contact him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to find some free resources as well as information on the Finding Traction course you can check him out on his website https://www.bandofbrothers.care/

29 JAN 2024 · Being at home on a "snow day" gives you time to think. In this episode Vern talks about how to "keep your road clean" as well as the NFL advice given to it's new rookies "Nothing good happens after midnight". If you want to connect with Vern about the finding traction course, joining one of the Traction groups or just have a zoom call with him to get started on your recovery you can contact him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com or you can check out the website for free resources https://bandofbrothers.care