When people speak of sacrifices that they have made in their lives for others, they are speaking in terms of what they have given up.  What they have done and what has happened to them as a result of this sacrifice. “I did this all for you so that you could have the experience that you wanted.”  The word sacrifice literally means to give something up or permit something to happen in order for someone to achieve a desired goal. Be under no illusion, no matter how heart wrenching, how disappointing, no matter how painful or soul destroying the sacrifice made, it was a choice.  It was a choice driven by a personal agenda that sacrificer had. They wanted a specific outcome and by giving up or doing _______ you fill in the blank, even when it was counterintuitive, they had their beady little eye on a prize. When the prize materialized, and or not, or people were not suitably grateful or chose to do something else, which flew in the face of the sacrifice etc.  Then the sacrificer regurgitates all that they have done, outlining each supposed selfless act in all its passionate detail in an attempt to bend others to their will. Or at the very least to emotionally blackmail them into feeling contrite and suitably apologetic for putting them through whatever it is they chose to go through. At the end of the day, sacrifice is all about your own personal agenda, nothing more, nothing less...so, don’t get ‘em twisted.  The next time you feel like you have fallen on your sword for someone and they weren’t suitably grateful, remember your sword didn’t stab you, you stabbed your sword.

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expressions and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore sacrifice and what that means.