Why is it so hard to pardon/ forgive? It’s hard because of a person’s past experiences and how those experiences either weaken their ability to forgive or strengthen it to forgive. The longer the hurt/wounds remains the more harder it becomes to forgive/pardon. One of the solution is, to forgive ourself of the follies we did to ourself. If we can truly forgive ourself we have the power to forgive others of their trespass against us.