What is the best version of yourself? This seems to be a hard question and exercises the mind of philosophers, psychologists, in fact every single human with any level of self awareness. In fact self awareness is key because modern life robs you of that with politically correct expectations of equal outcome and social media driven ideals as well as the disintegrating effect of materialism. The end result is rapid consistent erosion of cultural , national and personal identity which is why depression and suicide has been increasing. The answer is that the best you can ever be is yourself. We broach the subject of relationships and that it is highly unlikely that a relationship will be happy until you accept yourself. How many of us have done that?