The number of women having their first child over the age of 40 has doubled in 20 years. This age of supposed equality is in fact not equality but an enforced equal outcome irrespective of the individual which has led to soaring anxiety, depression, self harm and suicide in women. We look at the disintegration of structure in society an example of which is the casualty of family values and how seeking pleasure through more choice reduces happiness. Humans are emotional which is one major distinguishing factor from computers and as such cannot be counted in to make consistent rational decisions if at all. We also discuss Ketamine approved by the FDA for depression, MDMA granted break through status by the FDA for post traumatic stress disorder and at research showing oxytocin the socializing hormone treats addiction in mice. This is the future of medicine which is being hindered by the pharmaceutical companies holding patents in antidepressants and who cannot patent these pre existing compounds so canmot make a profit from them .