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Less Youth, More Life. "40 Is Coming" is a series of reflections and rants about turning 40, and what - if anything - it means. This is a podcast about...
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Less Youth, More Life.
"40 Is Coming" is a series of reflections and rants about turning 40, and what - if anything - it means. This is a podcast about the lives we wanted, the lives we have, and the gaps between them. Join us as we explore the dreams & desires, distractions & delays, detours & diversions, dedication & destinies that all come with the big 4-0.
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"40 Is Coming" is a series of reflections and rants about turning 40, and what - if anything - it means. This is a podcast about the lives we wanted, the lives we have, and the gaps between them. Join us as we explore the dreams & desires, distractions & delays, detours & diversions, dedication & destinies that all come with the big 4-0.
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1 MAY 2025 · Twice this week, I had a movie studio quality, REM sleep dream sequence abruptly cut short by my phone alarm. An alarm that I set thinking that I had given myself enough time to rest and to dream. The reality of the alarm was that my time for those dream sessions was over sooner than I expected.
For some of us, turning 40 feels like an alarm that has interupted the dream of young adulthood. For others, approaching 40 is more like a notification bell that is reminding you that it is time to get back to your dreams.
What is the state of your dreams at this stage of your life? Do you still dream? How have your dreams changed? Do your thoughts and past experiences amplify your dreams, or weigh you down so much you don't have any energy left for dreaming?
What are the alarms in your life that are interrupting your dreams?
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19 APR 2025 · We live in a world that rewards the bold individual, the spicy hot take, most strongest worded opinions, and a never-back-down approach to advocating and arguing for what we believe in.
In most areas of our lives, especially online, our society does not have much patience for taking time to reflect on what has been done, to examine what has been said, to be self-aware about the stories we tell about who we like to think we are. Â
We're not very good at admitting when we are wrong. We struggle to understand how our perspective could be incomplete. Many of us have a very hard time dealing with life circumstances where we were right, and things still went wrong.Â
At this stage of your life, how are you making decisions about the right thing to do?
And when you thought you were right, and the perspective you had could be trusted, and things wound up turning out differently that you anticipated...what do you do next?
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8 MAR 2025 · A recent TikTok poking fun at those of us who use the elite, world-renowned "Bunny Ears" method of shoelace tying hit close to home, and made me think about how we respond when presented with a new way of doing something we've done a particular way our whole lives.
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23 FEB 2025 · Depending on your lifestyle and the part of the country you live in, it can be easy to think that the postal mail system is not a big deal, aside from receiving packages from online shopping. However, recent natural disasters in the U.S., and the seemingly endless list of conflict and war related disasters around the world, have presented the world with images of people who once had hometowns, and homes, and mailboxes.
This has led me to think a lot about the phrase "return to sender", and how we handle situations when we discover that the things we planned on receiving, and the lives we expected to be living, are not going to arrive.Â
By 40, most of us have experienced some significant life shift that reoriented the plans that we made, and redirected the life paths we were on. Learning to process the loss of that which has been marked "return to sender" in our lives is critical to making the most of this new version of life we now find ourselves in.
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30 JAN 2025 · As a transition from tears and prayers of the 1st half of Jamie Foxx's Netflix special, "What Had Happened Was", to the laughs and vibes of the 2nd half, Jamie does a bit based on the refrain, "If I can stay funny, I can stay alive."
This phrase becomes more powerful as he shares multiple stories about how his sense of humor carried him through the toughest parts of the recovery process from a serious medical issue he suffered last year.
At 40, each word in Jamie's refrain take on new meaning. How would you fill in the blank for this stage in your life? If I can stay _______, I can stay ______.
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31 DEC 2024 ·  A beautiful holiday week moment in my current city and a terrible holiday week moment in my previous city reintroduced some important research about how our psychology is impacted by our social contexts, and got me to thinking about fire fighters, who becomes a fire fighter, and whether we have enough of them.
For the purposes of this episode, I'm using the phrase fire fighters to refer broadly to the kind of people who choose to remain attentive, attuned, and aware to the smoke signals in our families, schools, neighborhoods, workplaces, and societies. People who choose to respond to tragedy by getting up, getting involved, and working to try to reduce suffering and provide aid & assistance.
Who are the fire fighters in your life? Are you a fire fighter?
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30 NOV 2024 · The human body is incredible. And what happens to it over time is both fascinating and frightening.
Have you ever had a sudden "health humble"? A time when you found yourself receiving medical information about your body that you weren't prepared to hear and did not see coming?
How did you handle it? Complete denial? Intense research? Drastic lifestyle changes?
Entering your 40s often means dealing with some kind of health humble. Some are small, and you can learn to live with and/or laugh at them. Some are big, and require you to fundamentally change parts of your life you may have taken for granted. Some are serious, and don't come with good answers or happy endings.
How do you process these moments?
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18 NOV 2024 · One of the cultural trends that have shaped our generation of 40 year olds has been the resurgent popularity of all kinds of personality assessments.
From the use of zodiac signs to screen romantic partners, to the use of tools like the StrengthsFinder and DISC assessements to evaluate employees, to the experimentation with tests like the Enneagram within spirtual communities to help individuals identify their purpose, the various personality categories, labels, and descriptions have seeped into our societal subconscious and have become a widely-used shorthand for describing ourselves, and others.
The godparent of these personality tests is the Myers Briggs Personality Test. I recently took the Myers Briggs test, nearly 20 after the first time I took the assessment, in my 20s. And it got me to thinking about how these assessments, the labels that come with them, the conclusions we draw from them, and the way we award and avoid others based on the meanings we assign to different personality traits.
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2 SEP 2024 · Between The Olympics and the 60+ national elections being held around the world, we're in a fascinating moment to observe endless case studies in human behavior when people are in crowds.
Since I was young, I've been interested in this aspect of life. What is the difference between the kind of people who start chorus of cheers or lead a crowd in a protest chant, and the kind of people who are the last to finish clapping at the end of standing ovation or the last person to throw a punch in a street brawl.
Humans are social, tribal beings. So we are still being influenced by others, and influencing others, far beyond our youth. Peer pressure doesn't end when we leave school.
At this point in your life, in what areas are you the "first clapper", leading the group; the "last clapper", joining at the last minute or with the last word; or the "middle clapper", not in a hurry to join the masses, but ready to engage when the timing feels right.
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7 JUL 2024 · I've been thinking about the cliche phrase "Get Off My Lawn" a lot recently. It's one of the timeless anthems of middle and old age. The point when people feel like they've lived long enough and paid enough dues in a society to claim some ownership of its "lawn" - the social norms, values, and standards of the society, which we begin to take responsibility for around 40.
One of the true gifts of youth is the privilege to dissent, to debate, and sometimes, to disobey the very people and institutions you depend on for your survival and development. Part of the work of child development and human maturity is not just to identify the literal and metaphorical lawns of the society around them and "touch grass", but to pull up the blades, dig random holes in the dirt, run all over the lawn, and daydream on the lawn.
And part of the work of adulting is balancing the questioning and exploring of the youth with guidance and perspective.
But with life being as hectic as it can be, and with our individual status on the lawn of society being as precarious as it can be, it's easy to fall into the habits of past generations of 40-year olds in responding to teens and 20-somethings whenever they start asking too many questions and making too many calls for change.
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Less Youth, More Life. "40 Is Coming" is a series of reflections and rants about turning 40, and what - if anything - it means. This is a podcast about...
show more
Less Youth, More Life.
"40 Is Coming" is a series of reflections and rants about turning 40, and what - if anything - it means. This is a podcast about the lives we wanted, the lives we have, and the gaps between them. Join us as we explore the dreams & desires, distractions & delays, detours & diversions, dedication & destinies that all come with the big 4-0.
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"40 Is Coming" is a series of reflections and rants about turning 40, and what - if anything - it means. This is a podcast about the lives we wanted, the lives we have, and the gaps between them. Join us as we explore the dreams & desires, distractions & delays, detours & diversions, dedication & destinies that all come with the big 4-0.
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| Author | OverPond Media |
| Organization | Deji Komolafe |
| Categories | Personal Journals , Society & Culture |
| Website | 40iscoming.com |
| nowapproaching40@gmail.com |
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