Do you feel like you have to be perfect in order to feel happiness? Do you feel that if I don't criticize and/or punish yourself then you’ll never go anywhere or do anything in life? When you are perfect then people will like, approve of, and validate you right?

It’s possible to be gentle with yourself and still have the drive to achieve what it is that you want in life. Furthermore, you don’t need to base your self-worth on other people’s opinion of you.