gentlemen whats going on....confidence
is it that super drug,,,,the link to kicking ass, walking on water and dominating life...

because its quite apparent the head down mumbling type
gets a life that reflects just that
a mumbled jumble of leftover scraps

while on the other hand the the baby kissing life affirming, hand shaking, wheaties eating
vitamin taking big grinned son of gun seems to.....own his life as one that walks in that perfect confidence
.....and self possession we all wish we had

he wears Confidence as a suit of armor...he eats at the big boys table...no scraps for me

THIS man has learned to tailor that suit of confidence to HIS specific talents, needs, goals, and desires.

he seems to walk a little taller...and a little more ballsy

We see those people that wear confidence like it's the perfect fit. Like they were born to own life.

and i started thinking about this over the weekend as me and my son were figuring out ways to
break in his new first baseman's glove...

these suckers come off the factory line more stiff than a 40 year old virgin at an instagram
model convention .....

on the beach....bikinis....

and im not playing.....its like squeezing the hardest vice grip ever....nearly impossible to catch a ball
with my squeeze...much less a ten year olds grip...

so im watching youtube videos...praise god...and im throwing the glove in the sshower under hot water...i'm stretching
it,,,im beating it with a mallet,

im throwing it against concrete....mixed with thrown
prayers of please god just let it work.....

i'm folding it in the way he wants it to look and fit to his specific hand...

its been bent and folded more than a ten year old dollar bill
circulated through 1,000 strip clubs......and just as dirty looking...

but with patience,,,effort,,,,lots of effort....repeated effort,,,,with some experienced
guidance from more informed men.....

the glove is beginning to have some function and utility

so the glove didn't come shaped to my sons hand

and Much like my son WANTING the glove to come out ready made for his comfort

We often error in believing confidence SHAPES us,....
when in fact we have to mold confidence in correlation with our strengths....

Personal strengths and confidence are hand in hand....there is this intersection where they become effortless flow...
that flow we admire in other accomplished men

Whether in sports, the workplace, hobbies, women, or conversation...

And we shape our strengths by getting in the Mudd and practicing them..... we throw
ourselves into difficult situations....
and uncomfortable positions so that we begin to mold ourselves...

Stretching our capabilities, getting outside of that prison pit of hell and bending our desire to our will...

The glove,no matter our want, or wishing, doesn't show up bow wrapped and ready to use to perfection.

And WE FAIL ourselves and OUR possibilities when we fall victim to that weak line of thinking.

As if we SHOULD just be confident...

Confidence is ultimately a reward for you being good at something, and that goodness is a consequence of repetitive shaping...

You get good at something after continual effort....life seriously is that simple...

Continual preparation prepares you to have more genuine assurance in yourself.

The participation trophy culture wants the confidence of the ceo,

yet they've never even put in the effort of the janitor...

If you're unwilling to clean the toilet you sure as hell don't deserve to shit in it.

1,000 hours of practice....1000 attempts at talking to a woman.....1000 hours in the gym...
1000 of anything sure as hell gives you more confidence

than the man that is too fearful to
get in the mud and start stretching his potential to meet his needs, desire and direction

dont be afraid to start practicing life men....lets get out there and start shaping the possibilities

love and respect....you will hear from me