It's so, so hard to let go... In the aftermath of a breakup or even divorce, many people continue on with their Ex in quasi-relationship "situationships." Living with their Ex, having sex with an Ex, being hang-out buddies with an Ex, or texting back and forth with an Ex are all common.
While this is understandable, it's also destructive. As a therapist, marriage counselor, and breakup recovery expert, I have had a ring-side seat to many, many relationships, divorces and breakup recovery situations. I've spoken to the broken hearted, as well as to their Exes and have learned a lot about why. On this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'm sharing my perspective on:
- Why people going through breakups often do self-destructive things in order to maintain their connection with their Ex
- Why having sex with an Ex is always damaging (but only to one of you)
- The power dynamics at work in every breakup
- How your Ex really feels about hooking up with you
- What post-breakup purgatory is really about… and what it does to your self esteem
- The magical thinking that people going through breakups are vulnerable to
- How to cut the cord and set yourself free
All the best,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Ps: We discussed a number of resources in this episode. Here are the links to learn more: