There is a difference between healthy entitlement and unhealthy entitlement. When children get their needs met, and feel OK about asking for their needs, they grow up in an environment of healthy entitlement. When children grow up either spoiled or deprived, they end up getting their needs met by controlling and empowering over others through aggressive or passive aggressive needs. Unhealthy entitlement is the same as unhealthy narcissism versus healthy narcissism. When our needs are meet early in life, we feel good about asking others about meeting our own needs. When we have a whole in the soul, the needs become an endless, bottomless pit that no one can fulfill.