Recorded: 10/04/2020 / Published: 3/21/2021

On this episode of The Krypt LylacWine is joining us to talk about the concept of free space and a piece she has written on a sub in free space.

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Rules to Love By:
1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

- Free Space (with reference to D/s and submission specifically)
Definition: (my definition)
The place or a state of being occupied by a submissive at the end of his/her dynamic and the beginning of a new one. A sub in free space still holds sacred their submissive heart and values therein. He/she is unowned and can be uncollared or self collard in free space.
The place of deep contemplation, reflection, healing, and self-growth after the ending of dynamic. The re-acclamation of self whilst still striving to preserve his/her submissive values.
Similar to the vanilla version of being “single” after the end of a relationship.

The Kite and the String (Full writing and shownotes at https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/314

1. We have the definition but why call it “free space” and not just single?
2. Talk about the piece “The Kite String”
I. what was the motivation for writing this piece?
2. What does it mean to you to “hold your own string” as you state in the piece?
Why do you write? What do you get out of it and why? (not sure this question is a good one but brainstorming again).

3. Things that you can do as a submissive to assist in healing and growing in free space (? self collaring, writing, support groups, mentors, etc)
You are self collard so explain that and the reasons why and what you gain from it. Are there any downsides that you have discovered?
4. how to stay safe as a submissive in free space. (Mentors, protectors, common sense, etc)

5. Dating again (eek) the pitfalls and learning from the past. (this might need to be a follow-up show given that we will talk our donkeys off for the first lot of subjects lol)
Recognizing and owning your own issues, pitfalls, and your own place at the end of your last dynamic. (i think this is an important part of learning to hold your own string so might need to put this up further ?).

6. Question everything (particularly yourself)

Quote: You are being given a choice to evolve or repeat what happens next is entirely up to you. - author unknown

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