3 JUN 2018 · I have never lied Let's play a quick game, the rules of the game are to answer the next questions truthfully and honestly:- Have you ever told a lie? Have you told a lie in the last 72 hours? Are you a liar? Well apparently, on average humans lie about ten times a week. Is there a thing such as a bad lie or a good lie? So the existence of Santa was one of the biggest lies told to me whilst growing up but were my parent wrong for doing so, were they telling a good lie or a bad lie? If lying is a factor in human behaviour then where do we draw the line between a good lie or a bad lie, or is a "Lie a Lie". The intention may be good or bad but it's an LIE. Another example is you are responsible for arranging a friends surprise birthday, but you are withholding the truth from your friend, you may even tell a little lie about where you are going to be on their birthday. Why do we lie? Many psychologists say we are primed to deceive and studies has shown that there are clear biological benefits to dishonesty but also emotional stress. But what are the factors behind lying:-  To protect ourselves To Cover up a mistake To escape other people To get somewhere Shape a positive image of themselves To get one's way/desire Out of fear To fit in Acceptance To avoid confrontations To intentionally hurt someone To protect someone   Don't forget to leave us an honest review Don’t forget to follow us on our social media platforms Website Twitter Instagram Pinterest Facebook Soundcloud Apple Podcast Youtube  

20 MAY 2018 · What holds you back? Our very own belief systems are built to help us navigate the world, it helps us understand what is right and what is wrong, however, sometimes our own beliefs system holds us back from greatness. This all highlights how powerful our mind can be, a classic way of illustrating limiting belief is an image of an elephant tied to a peg, physically it is at the stage where it could break the peg if it tried but it doesn't because it once tried when it was smaller Where does it come from? Limiting beliefs are learned from various of ways:- Past Experiences – often form to protect us these are usually based on a negative experience. For example, if you were cheated on in a past relationship; it is likely you will enter a new relationship with a guard to avoid being hurt again. Social Constructs – place upon us by society and it rules, it determines what we should and shouldn't do. For example, we covered an episode on being alone and how it's often seen as a lonely experience if you do something alone Parenting – some of the lessons our parents try to teach us are intended to protect us or arm us for the future For example, A parent fear of something could impact their child, so traveling alone could be a fear of a parent and it could potentially discourage their child Religion – Which have values to live by, but these can often cause a conflict. Friendships – The people we associate ourselves with is very important Ola speaks about how his friend told him how it's impossible to buy a property and how you should give up. So how do you overcome your limiting beliefs? Questioning One of the most powerful techniques is asking a question. Why do you have the belief you have? Could it change? Where did it stem from? Reflection Goes with questioning, understanding and looking back on times you may have given into your limiting beliefs Meditation Taking time out can aid you greatly, it gives you time to process and think about your actions and your behaviour Awareness Having the ability to identify when you are becoming a victim of your own limiting belief Fear List Writing down the fears down, take the fear down and then write solutions to overcoming those beliefs You have the power to overcome your beliefs! All these factors have an impact on our lives because we are a product of our environment, whether you have to unlearn the lesson taught to you by your parents, or have someone in your life who breaks the "status quo" and make certain thing seem achievable. It's important to remember "the one thing we can control is our actions, the one thing you can't control is our feelings" It's also down to the language; have you ever heard or said "It's not for me, I can't do that… it's often our limiting belief and our worry about stepping out of our comfort zone. Tieing it back to our previous

6 MAY 2018 · Cutting people off Do we live in a generation where people are so quick to cut people out, "I don't like the way she dresses or I don't like the way he walks"? We explore on the podcast is there a valid reason to cut people out and do you have to give a person a reason for you removing them? Reasons to cut people out One of the biggest reasons to cut someone out is if they are having a negative impact on you, it is important you have awareness of how you feel when you are around this person. Do you regret being with them from the very second, do you leave feeling in a bad mood just because you were with them. For your own wellbeing, you have the right to cancel that friendship subscription. Remember not everyone is for you. People could be holding you back In life, you will come across many obstacles and adventures and it's important to surround yourself with the right people around you, be deliberate with the people you spend time with. As mentioned multiple times on Tag Me In Podcast you are the  average of your 5 closest friends. So it is important to keep out the negative fixed mindset in your circle, these people have the potential to hold you back from reaching your next level in your life. A book mentioned in the podcast is "Necessary Endings" which echoes the fact the above statement about how some people will hold you back from fulfilling your potential. Products from Amazon.co.uk

22 APR 2018 · Do you enjoy your own company? Born out of a story Ola told about a work colleague who wanted to go for lunch but because no one joined her she opted for the vending machine because she didn’t feel comfortable about having lunch alone. Growing up we both admitted to seeing people who were eating by themselves and felt sorry for them. But as we got older we started to credit them for it. It’s often our own narrative that put us off doing things and how we perceive other people. Can you recall how you previously used to look at people? Was it a negative stigma? Is it something along the line of "aww" look at them all alone. Amazingly, some people can not do things alone because of their insecurities and fear of being alone with their own thoughts. But there is so much benefits from being able to do thing alone. Not reliant on others – If there is something you are interested in but no one else is interested. You have no issue going alone – of course, it would be nice to go with others to share the experience but that’s not going to stop you. Discovery – You find your own interests and likes, you can explore new things as you please No need to compromise – often when with others you have to compromise Builds current relationships – Doing your own thing can have an impact on current relationships; the time away will allow you to think how you can improve relationships Timeout for yourself – you often need to time for yourself to re-energise. Think about taking yourself away just to recharge and relax Strength in self – overcoming the uncomfortable feeling of being by yourself can make you stronger. You won’t need to seek approval from others, the only approval you need is your own. Love for self –If you can love your time alone, you begin to love traits about yourself. Now it is important to get the balance right, you can enjoy your own company too much. You may spend every moment of the day in solitude and feel you don’t need anyone around you. Interaction with others make for better experiences and memories, you also have a system that can support you. Often a conversation about a problem can aid a person, even those who think they can deal with it themselves. The most important thing to establish in life is if you want to do something, don’t wait on others especially if no one is interested. Just ACT.     Don’t forget to follow us on our social media platforms Website Twitter Instagram Pinterest Facebook Soundcloud Apple Podcast

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8 APR 2018 · Do you believe in coincidences? In life, you come across individuals who have the potential to completely change your world for the good. When we come across individuals like this we usually summarise this connection as a "Coincidences". Just take a moment to think; have you ever mentioned any of these terms when talking about your friendships/relationships? It was an coincidence we met? It was written in the stars? It was destined to happen? Perhaps you have actually used that term about an old relationship that no longer exists, some people enter our lives for a reason and sometimes that is limited to a season. As we explored the term "Coincidence" we spoke about the parrallel opposite which can see events occur by being in the wrong place at the wrong time.   Don’t forget to follow us on our social media platforms Website Twitter Instagram Pinterest Facebook Soundcloud Apple Podcast Youtube #tagmeinpodcast

1 APR 2018 · Characteristics VS Looks In society, there has been an ongoing debate about building attraction when it comes to dating. One of the perennial debates is whether looks make a bigger difference than a person's personality. Now, don’t get me wrong. It’s a generally accepted truth that people who are conventionally physically attractive have an advantage when it comes to dating Not only do visual signs of health – clear skin, facial symmetry, etc. – stir certain instincts in us all but attractive people also benefit from pretty privilege or the halo effect. Because they’re good looking, they’re also seen as being more trustworthy, kinder and smarter – all very attractive traits to have. In terms of mating value – the aspects of attraction which are intrinsically based on certain favorable traits. Some, like financial success or social status, help ensure that any child will be raised successfully to adulthood. Others, like physical attractiveness and athleticism, are inheritable traits that help assure the child’s own reproductive success. Except science has shown that looks lone are not enough for a lasting relationship. In fact, a recent research study found that it’s actually uniqueness that defines attractiveness over time rather than just looks or charisma. In the paper, Relational Mate Value: Consensus and Uniqueness in Romantic Evaluations, Eastwick and Hunt found that over time, who we consider attractive changes – people we may have seen as “alright” at first become far more appealing to us while people who are hot as the sun at first actually find that their advantages decline in importance. Also, not surprising, they also found out that people tend to form a relatively uniform consensus about somebody’s appeal fairly quickly. Getting to know somebody over time makes them more attractive to you. And this is how over the long term character can prevail over somebodies good looks. The truth is that there will always be people who are able to leverage looks for a short-term advantage, but in the long run, it’s getting to know someone that ultimately makes them more attractive. How Personality Wins Out When Building Attraction There a simple factor that comes into play to help make people more attractive to us. And the way it works is because of a psychological quirk that marketers have long exploited: the Exposure Effect. When you’re exposed to something repeatedly, you tend to develop a taste for it. It becomes preferable to you because it’s familiar. The Exposure Effect – increased familiarity with somebody can make them seem more likable and pleasing. In fact studies have shown that the more two people interact in a face-to-face setting, the more attracted they feel to one another Attraction, after all, is about more than looks. It’s about how someone makes you feel. This is known as the Reward Theory of Attraction: the more somebody’s presence makes us feel good, the more we prioritize that relationship. We associate those feelings with that person and develop a new appreciation for them, a fondness for the things that make them uniquely them. However, its important to bear in mind that beauty doesn’t necessarily win out in the long run: because the way we feel about people changes how we perceive them. Exposure alone doesn’t automatically mean that two people are going to fall in love.  Exposure doesn’t magically make love happen, it enh

20 MAR 2018 · In this week's special episode, we thought we'd do things a little differently. We decided to release an episode where we would give you guys a real true and honest glimpse into our minds, by this, we mean really talking candidly about whats been happening currently with personal endeavors and dreams etc. By no means was this something that either of us found easy to complete, but we felt it therapeutic to some degree. No one has a perfect life and most people are still trying to figure this thing called life out.