26 AUG 2023 · So... I the guy.. Was lying on the bed last night. Eyes closed but unable to sleep. I got grumpy a few days ago, and last night i thought about why i did that. I think i was grumpy as a self defence mechanism to prevent my partner's mood from dropping into the grumpy zone.. Do it first before she does it. But that's really mean of me. Or thats what i thought. So after a long haitus, i asked if we could talk it out.. Just like how we did on Compatibility Complimentary. And this is the episode fot it. And hence we find out what really goes on in each others minds and what we think about being grumpy. "I'm grumpy, so that you wont be grumpy" (its sooo mean!) vs "I'll be happy, so that you can be happy,.. Together" Notes side not in recording: 1. On talking to each other. Communication betwen partners is crucial to the relationship (duh uh). But we dont need to expect to have super deep philosophical debates about life with each other on a dsily basis (or even at all). That category of corespondance can be filled with friends with the conspiracy theories... But it is one of the utmost importance that partners can talk to each other about the things that... They wouldn't normally talk to anyone else. Not their best friends, parents, or strangers. They should feel so.. Open enough, with trust and confidence that they can confide in the one they sleep beside, to hear and listen out anything and everything on their mind... And it is all safe. A safe place. 2. On babies. So yup we became parents. Life has.. drastically changed.. I feel mostly for the better. Fundamentally.. We try to keep it the same. Build on that solid Rock. Our schedules have been affected. Sports. Social. Work. Now it revovles around feeding, nappy changes, naps, sleep, sleepless nights.. And play. Its wonderful. Nothing changes life like having a kid. Till next time. Stay compatibly complementary to each other!

28 NOV 2021 · We went over to a friends birthday party which turned out into a counselling session. 4 couples: P&P, W&J, S&Y and Crystal&Light. The birthday girl was sharing her heart out infront of us and crying. The birthday girls husband was sharing his part of the story mostly. In this episode we talk about gender roles, communicating the middle ground, what it means to compromise and when it comes sacrifice. If it is healthy for one to change their personality or character for the other. Or lose themselves in the process and end up unhappier. We came home thag night with so much on our plates and minds that we had to talk it out and just decided to record this impromptu. Hence, i hope you catch the drift of the convo, on how a guy and girl's way of dealing with things are vastly different. Some take away points would be: its notcjust about doing what your partner wants to do just for the sake checking off a task list, its more of questioning the 'why' behind each request and digging into the reasons of it being asked. Feelinga of both parties are valid, and we should be able to express ourselves in healthy ways.

20 NOV 2021 · How looking at someone's Instagram can trigger year old memories of dreams back then. Crystal rasies up an old idea we had when we were about two years younger just after we arrvied in Nz. Not knowing what the future held back then, we were optimistic and threw ideas about going backvand doing things. The extensions NZ government has been giving due to Covid made us stay much longer than expected and life's initial plans have changed. Yet the desire and purpose in our hearts haven't. In this episode, we share about why it's so hard to start pursuing one's dreams. And how being a part of some community can help achieve that. Also what NOT being a part of community does and the down ward spiral into living a safe comfortable complacent risk-free life can be. And introvert's point of view and an extrovert's, we complement each other by challenging each other's lifestyle, beliefs and habits. Not with the goal of changing the other's personality to suit the idea imaginary ones in our heads of what the other partner should be. But instead, holding each others hand and encouraging to step out along the edge of what is and what could be. We strive to grow, learn, move and live a fuller life together each and every day. Well.. I guess that's what the hope is for, currently that's honestly now what our daily habits are reflecting. Bummer. Hope you enjoyed the episode! And btw, trees aren't introverts.

16 OCT 2021 · In the third installment we chat over the counter table top on a Sunday morning about how money affects people growing up, family values that are imprinted into an individual. When they should stop blaming it, and take responsibility of their life, characteristics and personalities. Is it possible to change from being a spoilt entitiled brat? Or change to be more selfish (self-loving) from someone too generous and always pouring out for others. Will money ruin families, or is it the lack of it that does so? Some poor families have 'everything': time, love, experience of fighting together (side by side) to survive. That rich families don't: absent parents always away on work, unloved, fighting together (at each other), etc. Some families got it together, no too poor to be without a bed and roof, but not too rich to not be able to love. We also talk about confronting other people's values. How to talk in a way to be empathetic. Sensing when the listener is not ready, they will show signs of claming up.. running and hiding instead of facing the confrontation. Because it makes them feel uneasy. They 'pretend' to be busy doiing other things instead of dealing with the inner core. How irritating Socrates was going around asking people what was their life about and purpose and meaning. Is life worth living with out money? Is life worth loving with too much money? How to be grateful in the balance point. How to respect other peoples view points and their desire to live the way they want to live life without bwing condescending as if pne way of living was bettet than the other. To some have too much money is not a bad thing. God for them then. But what is the cost? What do they sacrifice in pursuit of it? Can one be a lazy bum and not earn anything and still be happy? No, to feel fulfilled in life, one has to have a goal to strive for. A house, a family and home to come back to after a long days work. Nice hot meals. The feeling pf accomplishment that comes when finishing off a task. Like making tbis podcast.

3 OCT 2021 · Second episode is out (we actually recorded a few other stuff before this but i felt they weren't up to standard, until this one came along). Here's the gist of how this conversation came up: our housemate bought a second hand PS4, Crystal likes to play beat saber, and I think it is okay to just buy our own VR set and connect it to the friend's PS. Hitchiking in a way (owh thos sounds like another possible episode where we share different views on too!) We start on the surface of things, with rwal life examples. And then take a dive deeper into why we grew up into adulthood with these polar opposite characteristics. I think you listners can guess whose who and what we'd like to do. Obviously our preferences are different but that's what makes us compatible complementary. Hope you enjoy the episode and relate to it in a way!

20 AUG 2021 · We tried to come up with a name for our podcast "Opposites Attract" but when searched, it was already taken by another couple. Well I guess we're not alone in this journey! we touched a little on daily life, work, the podcast idea before going deeper into the main content: our background, religion - YewLeung (Light) is from a neo-Baptist church, large group of friends, active in school (Scouts, CF, athletics, leadership camps, competitions) while Crystal is from a non-serious Buddhist faith, school life - the theory that people are attracted to people that look like themselves - guess whom is the introvert and who's the extrovert - interactions with friends and inviting them the house - what to expect in the episodes to come