Adam and I came into a relationship knowing that we would still be healing layers from our previous experiences that may get triggered in a relationship dynamic. We each knew we could heal individually while also healing being in a relationship we just didnt quite know the formula yet. How do we hold space for our companion while they are healing? We had to go from back and forth NOT getting it and battling it out ....fast forward to now to where we have this freedom, this gift of agency and ability to tell each other all of it recognizing what is ours and what is not. We are able to love and hold space while the other may be triggered which allows us to just settle into this space of healing and forward momentum. This has been the key...holding space for growth not demanding perfection. Once we figured out how to do that it all changed.