When we describe our latest grudge to a friend, they might say something designed to try and cheer us up. How we're likely to feel about their intervention will depend on whether they're sugar-coating or offering us something genuinely positive.

In this episode, Sophie looks at the difference between the two approaches, and how to distinguish one from the other.

Also in this episode, Helen Acton and Anne Grey join Sophie to discuss how to embrace but not inflame negative feelings.

Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast

The How to Hold a Grudge theme was provided by Annette Armitage, a composer, musician and teacher, and co-writer (with Sophie) of two mystery themed musicals: THE GENERALIST - A MURDER MYSTERY MUSICAL and WORK EXPERIENCE - A MUSICAL LOCKED ROOM MYSTERY.