Most often survivors are told to immediately forgive their abuser yet no demands are placed on the abuser. Survivors are told that this is the only way they can receive healing. We long for the day when justice is sought FIRST, then people talk about forgiveness. In the end, what keeps us all safe from abusers is when some form of justice keeps them at bay where they can no longer produce victims, contact victims, or harass innocent people. Once an abuser begins the process of repaying what they took from their victims we can begin a conversation about forgiveness.

Please note that we are not attempting to convince anyone to change their views on forgiveness. We are, however, talking about what worked for us and many survivors we've spoken with. You may find these conversations difficult but that in no way diminishes your healing journey.

Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

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Intro--
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