Why is it so we are so often cruel to the ones we love? I once heard, if you want to have a nice holiday dinner, invite a friend, as you'll never say to an acquaintance the nasty things, you'll say to a loved one? How do we learn to stop ourselves? Today's guest, Dr. Sue Johnson, creator of Emotional Focused Therapy, is continuing to build a science of intimate relationships and mapping how our conversations and actions reflect our deepest needs and fears and either build up or tear down our most precious connections. She speaks to this in couples therapy, and you'll hear her express that an intimate relationship is a unique and different bond. I agree! Listen in as you'll see her work parallels and is of relevance for any relationship or any conversation. Her book, Hold me tight, is THE BEST book on relationships I've ever read!