Too many assumptions are based on lies that directly connect with childhood wounds that lead to a the lens of perception. Perceiving yourself as the world and the world is distorted. When we've had trauma around verbal, sexual, physical abuse, etc. we assume that when things go awry, it's because the pain is happening again. When we project our assumptions onto our significant others, we disconnect from them by assuming that they're that they are treating us with disdain. This assumption itself leads the other person to feel confused and hurt that they are being viewed in this light in order to clean up faulty assumptions, we have to go to the faulty blueprint that created them by dismantling the lies that wrap around assumptions, we can be the cause of seeing ourselves, our partners in the world more clearly, and we connect to them.