Are you suffering as a result of what Dr. Gary Salyer calls "badly-formed love?" You could be. Suffering is part of it, for sure. And, so much more. Do you know what well-formed love is? Have you seen it when you were growing up, or created it as an adult? Were you comfortable with it? BIG QUESTIONS! Dr. Gary Salyer has been my guest on Save Your Sanity before, and we talked about Trauma-Bonding. He was also on my Emotional Savvy podcast and we talked in-depth about Attachment Theory and Styles. (And, P.S. there are still over 150 episodes available to listen to even though I don't do it anymore.)So much wisdom, great insights, and a wicked sense of humor, too. Enjoy! Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What well-formed love isWhere you form the basis for badly-formed loveWhat is reasonable to expert from a "loving relationship"What might skew or warp your ideas of what a healthy relationship isWhat Dr, Gary Salyer means by "bonded to misery"The dysfunctional bond when love is mixed with suffering GUEST: DR. GARY SALYER Based on a field of study called Attachment Theory, the science of intimate relationships, Dr. Salyer’s insights have a profound and often times immediate impact. As a transformational relationship mentor, he helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains. After Dr. Gary Salyer’s second marriage crumbled he felt like an utter, complete failure. Rather than give in, he dedicated himself to doing deep research about all things love. He read, researched, furthered his education in the field, talked to experts and to people he loved. Most of all he did the deep transformation work that unlocked his heart and released his soul to love as he had always imagined.Love and how to make it lasting – became his life’s highest calling—In so doing, he has developed a powerful and effective methodology to make it “Safe to Love Again” GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time.CONNECT WITH DR. GARY SALYER:WEBSITE: https://www.garysalyer.comPODCAST: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/SafetoLoveAgainYOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dr.gary.salyer/LINKEDIN: http://www.linkedin.com/pub/gary-d-salyer-ph-d/8/93a/8a5TWITTER: https://twitter.com/GaryDSalyer--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ----------------------------------------------------------------------#drgarysalyer #badlyformedlove #illformedlove #attachmentstyles #whymyrelationshipisfailing #sabotagingrelationship #safetoloveagain #ruiningrelationships #subconsciousrelationshippatterns #canIbeloved #passiveaggressive#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #passiveaggressive Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.