We start off today talking about how sometimes we have certain expectations of our children and when they don’t meet those expectations, we get frustrated and start thinking we need to maybe punish them, when in fact punishing them for innocent things they’re doing can just frustrate your children. Sometimes we forget what it was like to be a kid and thus put a higher standard on children than what we should, especially our own children. Our goal is not always to get the kids to behave at school, or a more formal location, as they would in home. Often when they’re with their peers and in a group setting, they have to conform, but when they’re home, there isn’t as much order and things are more relaxed. Your own peers can even influence your expectations of your own children based on what they do with theirs. Parenting has taught many things, and one main thing is the principle of patience. We don’t always need to be improving ourselves in a certain area, but often what we need to gain from parenting is patience. We need to remember that kids don’t always play by our own playbook, and our playbooks are determined by our own childhood.

Adam’s flashback from his childhood 5:04
A reason why we have unrealistic expectations of children 10:10
One thing Rosie has learned 16:40

“Sometimes we have these expectations on our children or our babies. We can just have them ourselves or we can get them from society, we can get them from a book, we can get them from different places, but it’s like we expect or want one thing to happen and when it doesn’t happen, we are frustrated or we think we’re behind or we feel that life isn’t going in the right direction when in fact everything is fine. It’s just our expectation in that situation that's upsetting things.” 1:33

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