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Today's mindset thought for the day

Human faults are like garden weeds. They grow without cultivation and soon take over the place if they aren’t thinned out.

Habits are formed so slowly that most of us don’t realize what is happening until the habits are too strongly entrenched to be broken.

Seldom can one pattern of behavior be eliminated without replacing it with another. It has been said that nature abhors a vacuum and will always find something to fill a void.

The best way to thin out the “weeds,” or faults in your character, is to identify those traits with which you are dissatisfied and replace them with their positive counterparts. If you have a tendency to lose your temper, for example, find a replacement for your anger. Neutralize it with a positive expression or affirmation, such as, “No one can make me angry unless I let them. I will not let anyone else control my emotions.” ~ Napoleon Hill

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Once I make the decision that I want to change a habit - whether it is my response to change, to types of people, to environmental things - I replace that habit with something different. I decide what I want the new habit to look like, then I focus my attention on practicing the new until it replaces the old.

I did this with my approach to public speaking. It didn't matter if I was hidden behind a PowerPoint on a webinar or actually on a stage - my physical response was anxiety, my throat closed, my heart pounded, my knees knocked, and I didn't recall my words after.
I joined Toastmasters and was a member for 3 years and that is where I learned how to prepare content, how to be on stage, how to speak from the stage. That is when I realized that it was the "before the speech" preparation that needed my attention.

Today I have a routine, a habit, that I do before I speak on a webinar, from the stage, from behind a podium. This is assuming that I've practiced the material to the point that I have it memorized and can change content as needed to suit the audience. The routing involves breathing, power poses, music (I'm Back in the Saddle Again by Aerosmith is often used). This helps me focus my attention on what is most important - meeting the audience expectations.

I've used these 'change your habit' tactics to stop smoking, to speak up when I used to walk away, to look people in the eye when I was comfortable checking out the designs in the carpet, to ask questions of instructors or successful people when I was afraid of being laughed at or rejected. And much more. I know this works and have taught others how to do this so that they, too, could gain confidence and become who they wanted to be.
\Morning Mindset Cafe is about sharing a success principle or quote and what it looks like in real life. Drink your coffee or tea, listen to the short episode, then think on it a bit and look for ways that you can put it to use in your life. Join the GROW Alliance Facebook group to meet others and share your thoughts about each episode. https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGROWAlliance/ Today's mindset thought for the day Human faults are like garden weeds. They grow without cultivation and soon take over the place if they aren’t thinned out. Habits are formed so slowly that most of us don’t realize what is happening until the habits are too strongly entrenched to be broken. Seldom can one pattern of behavior be eliminated without replacing it with another. It has been said that nature abhors a vacuum and will always find something to fill a void. The best way to thin out the “weeds,” or faults in your character, is to identify those traits with which you are dissatisfied and replace them with their positive counterparts. If you have a tendency to lose your temper, for example, find a replacement for your anger. Neutralize it with a positive expression or affirmation, such as, “No one can make me angry unless I let them. I will not let anyone else control my emotions.” ~ Napoleon Hill ------------------------- Once I make the decision that I want to change a habit - whether it is my response to change, to types of people, to environmental things - I replace that habit with something different. I decide what I want the new habit to look like, then I focus my attention on practicing the new until it replaces the old. I did this with my approach to public speaking. It didn't matter if I was hidden behind a PowerPoint on a webinar or actually on a stage - my physical response was anxiety, my throat closed, my heart pounded, my knees knocked, and I didn't recall my words after. I joined Toastmasters and was a member for 3 years and that is where I learned how to prepare content, how to be on stage, how to speak from the stage. That is when I realized that it was the "before the speech" preparation that needed my attention. Today I have a routine, a habit, that I do before I speak on a webinar, from the stage, from behind a podium. This is assuming that I've practiced the material to the point that I have it memorized and can change content as needed to suit the audience. The routing involves breathing, power poses, music (I'm Back in the Saddle Again by Aerosmith is often used). This helps me focus my attention on what is most important - meeting the audience expectations. I've used these 'change your habit' tactics to stop smoking, to speak up when I used to walk away, to look people in the eye when I was comfortable checking out the designs in the carpet, to ask questions of instructors or successful people when I was afraid of being laughed at or rejected. And much more. I know this works and have taught others how to do this so that they, too, could gain confidence and become who they wanted to be. read more read less

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