Victim role is poorly addressed by the current experts but defines one of the core pathologies of current times. It has been touted as not taking responsibility but this is just one of the manifestations. It is the lack of taking meaningful control of your life and anything that is not meaningful and of service to developing you as a person or your life in a better way is pathological. It becomes habit and then we are controlled by our pathological control be it wanting to be looked after and becoming increasingly child like or manipulating crises, or addictions or self harm or relentless goal seeking, the latter being seen by many as virtuous although it as far from it and simply another manifestation of victim role. Even bullies are an example of pathological control causing suffering for themselves and others due their own inferiority complex and in their failure to address their own deficiencies they seek to suppress those around them as a pathological way of giving themselves an illusion of control.
Self esteem is one of the keys to taking meaningful control and in the absence of this giving yourself the expectation that you are better than your current state and consequent to this giving yourself an easy task to achieve in a journey to meaningful control and responsibility is the only way forwards. It is a habit that has to be developed relentlessly. You can help others by not criticising but by saying that they are better than their current mode of operating. Humans are programmed to want to be helpful to each other as we are tribal and that leads us to being easily manipulated into helping professional victim rollers so be aware of falling into this trap. The fruit of your efforts will be poisoned and so will the seeds. If you are the victim of some misfortune then those who do not take meaningful control ask why this happened to them rhetorically whereas those who do take meaningful control ask what their role was and what they can do to avoid it in future and what they can do to move forwards. This means looking forwards not just in blind acceptance but understanding and forgiveness being wiser next time so you are not a victim of your own bitterness .