For most people after being ghosted or discarded by a Borderline or Narcissist Ex rumination is central and very painful. For those also with Limerence this focus on the Ex can be even more intense. The intense focus on the Cluster B increases your pain and your increased pain will exacerbate the intensity of your focus on the Cluster B. This is agony, and dangerous emotionally and physically because it means that your mind and body are in a hyperfocused and hyperaroused state of flight/figh, freeze or fawn trauma response. Most people need professional help to learn how to cope more effectively and break the cycles of this unhealthy focus that can block your recovery.
For most people after being ghosted or discarded by a Borderline or Narcissist Ex rumination is central and very painful. For those also with Limerence this focus on the Ex can be even more intense. The intense focus on the Cluster B increases your pain and your increased pain will exacerbate the intensity of your focus on the Cluster B. This is agony, and dangerous emotionally and physically because it means that your mind and body are in a hyperfocused and hyperaroused state of flight/figh, freeze or fawn trauma response. Most people need professional help to learn how to cope more effectively and break the cycles of this unhealthy focus that can block your recovery.
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