22 FEB 2023 · Throughout my life, I’ve been surrounded by people who fell far short of being fair. People who weren’t kind, weren’t generous, weren’t sympathetic. You’ve known these people too. And though, on some level, I could feel how awful they were, I gave them too many passes. I did this not because I rationally determined that they had more good in them than bad, or were more deserving of my friendship than not. There was no cost-benefit analysis leading me to the spot where I was left thinking, “What the fuck am I doing with this toxicity in my life?!” I chose to overlook their behavior simply because of what I knew about them first. Information that comes early is most sticky. What comes first is most unshakable. And because of this, we make poor decisions because we rely on poor information. This episode is about how this phenomenon plays out in our everyday lives, and how we can protect ourselves from being stuck with the wrong people.