How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationshipshttps://www.spreaker.com/podcast/how-to-split-a-toaster-a-divorce-podcast-about-saving-your-relationships--6794751enRelationships© TruStory FMhttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/a8e43a82c83ea807a7cac6be340d99fe.jpgHow to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationshipshttps://www.spreaker.com/podcast/how-to-split-a-toaster-a-divorce-podcast-about-saving-your-relationships--6794751Sat, 23 May 2026 15:10:50 +0000TruStory FMTruStory FMshows@trustory.fmSeth Nelson is a Tampa based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective — saving your most important...trueepisodicThe Final Toast: Your Essential Divorce Questions Answeredhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-final-toast-your-essential-divorce-questions-answered--68576701The hosts explore crucial topics including coercive control in divorce, psychological evaluations for new partners, dissipation of assets, and enforcing custody agreements across international borders. Seth provides practical legal insights while Pete offers thoughtful perspective on navigating these challenging situations.Notable Legal Insights

Child support and alimony obligations remain non-dischargeable even in bankruptcy
Courts take coercive control seriously when properly documented and presented
Foreign divorce judgments can be domesticated and enforced in U.S. courts with proper procedure

Co-Parenting Challenges
Seth and Pete discuss strategies for handling difficult co-parenting dynamics, including:

Managing relationships with new partners
Protecting children during high-conflict divorces
Navigating custody when mental health issues are involved
Addressing parental alienation concerns

Financial Considerations
The episode covers important financial aspects of divorce:

Division of marital assets and debts
Handling joint business interests
Pension division through QDROs
Tax implications of custody arrangements

As their final episode, Seth and Pete reflect on over 230 episodes helping listeners navigate divorce while preserving relationships. While new episodes won't be produced, the extensive archive remains available as an ongoing resource for those facing divorce and separation challenges.This farewell episode encapsulates the show's core mission: providing practical legal guidance and relationship-saving strategies to help listeners move forward constructively after divorce.Links & Notes

Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Listener Questions
(00:50) - Question 1: Trapped and Terrified
(03:04) - Question 2: Barb L.
(04:08) - Question 3: Rhonda and Gene
(05:32) - Question 4: Deb
(09:59) - Question 5: Deduction Dilemma in Denver
(11:54) - Question 6: Drained and Dissipated
(14:29) - Question 7: CEO in Crisis
(16:43) - Question 8: Secretly Surveilled
(18:02) - Question 9: Overseas Obstacle
(19:48) - Question 10: Drowning in Debt
(20:29) - Question 11: Rental Dilemma
(22:23) - Question 12: Expatriot Predicament
(23:34) - Question 13: Blindsided Bride
(25:05) - Question 14: Bankrupt and Bewildered
(26:04) - Question 15: Desperate Dad
(27:53) - Question 16: Bullied by the Bar
(29:30) - Question 17: Closeted and Concerned
(30:52) - Question 18: High-Conflict Headache
(31:59) - Question 19: Accused of Agreement Breach
(34:23) - Question 20: Stymied by Shoddy Split
(38:02) - Our Last Episode!

]]>6c3dd5f1-8dc6-4e1a-82e8-a8f8fc194927Tue, 28 Oct 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMThe Final Toast: Answering Your Burning Divorce QuestionsIn this farewell episode of How to Split a Toaster, family law attorney Seth Nelson and co-host Pete Wright tackle a collection of diverse listener questions about divorce, relationships, and...The hosts explore crucial topics including coercive control in divorce, psychological evaluations for new partners, dissipation of assets, and enforcing custody agreements across international borders. Seth provides practical legal insights while Pete offers thoughtful perspective on navigating these challenging situations.Notable Legal Insights

Child support and alimony obligations remain non-dischargeable even in bankruptcy
Courts take coercive control seriously when properly documented and presented
Foreign divorce judgments can be domesticated and enforced in U.S. courts with proper procedure

Co-Parenting Challenges
Seth and Pete discuss strategies for handling difficult co-parenting dynamics, including:

Managing relationships with new partners
Protecting children during high-conflict divorces
Navigating custody when mental health issues are involved
Addressing parental alienation concerns

Financial Considerations
The episode covers important financial aspects of divorce:

Division of marital assets and debts
Handling joint business interests
Pension division through QDROs
Tax implications of custody arrangements

Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Listener Questions
(00:50) - Question 1: Trapped and Terrified
(03:04) - Question 2: Barb L.
(04:08) - Question 3: Rhonda and Gene
(05:32) - Question 4: Deb
(09:59) - Question 5: Deduction Dilemma in Denver
(11:54) - Question 6: Drained and Dissipated
(14:29) - Question 7: CEO in Crisis
(16:43) - Question 8: Secretly Surveilled
(18:02) - Question 9: Overseas Obstacle
(19:48) - Question 10: Drowning in Debt
(20:29) - Question 11: Rental Dilemma
(22:23) - Question 12: Expatriot Predicament
(23:34) - Question 13: Blindsided Bride
(25:05) - Question 14: Bankrupt and Bewildered
(26:04) - Question 15: Desperate Dad
(27:53) - Question 16: Bullied by the Bar
(29:30) - Question 17: Closeted and Concerned
(30:52) - Question 18: High-Conflict Headache
(31:59) - Question 19: Accused of Agreement Breach
(34:23) - Question 20: Stymied by Shoddy Split
(38:02) - Our Last Episode!

]]>2661break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse124fullThe Mirror Effect: Breaking Divorce Cycles Through Self-Discovery with Lionel Moseshttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-mirror-effect-breaking-divorce-cycles-through-self-discovery-with-lionel-moses--68576705• Examine your patterns in relationships rather than focusing solely on your partner's behavior
• Develop emotional resilience by understanding your authentic needs versus performative habits
• Build self-awareness before entering new relationships to break recurring relationship cyclesThis episode offers invaluable guidance for anyone navigating divorce or seeking healthier relationship patterns. Through Lionel's candid sharing and Seth's legal wisdom, listeners gain practical tools for self-reflection and personal growth during major life transitions.Whether you're considering divorce, in the midst of proceedings, or rebuilding after separation, this conversation provides a roadmap for using life's challenges as opportunities for transformation and healing.Links & Notes

Find Lionel on his website, LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram
Check out The Marriage Seed
Schedule a consult with Seth

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Lionel Moses
(00:58) - What Is the Mirror Effect?
(02:18) - The Transformation
(03:46) - Too Much Focus on the Other Side
(06:28) - Figuring Out How to Manage Relationships
(11:20) - Emotional Resilience
(14:40) - Reflecting on What You Were Attracting
(15:48) - The Marriage Seed
(21:02) - Connecting to Legal Commitments
(23:46) - Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
(26:27) - Making Hard Decisions
(28:03) - Performative
(30:16) - Wrap Up

]]>9fbe6ee0-6f0f-4d10-b036-88f9903f5e0dTue, 21 Oct 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMLooking in the Mirror: Finding Self-Awareness Through DivorceFamily law attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome Lionel Moses, a Desert Storm veteran and relationship coach who helps people break unhealthy relationship patterns through what he...• Examine your patterns in relationships rather than focusing solely on your partner's behavior
• Develop emotional resilience by understanding your authentic needs versus performative habits
• Build self-awareness before entering new relationships to break recurring relationship cyclesThis episode offers invaluable guidance for anyone navigating divorce or seeking healthier relationship patterns. Through Lionel's candid sharing and Seth's legal wisdom, listeners gain practical tools for self-reflection and personal growth during major life transitions.Whether you're considering divorce, in the midst of proceedings, or rebuilding after separation, this conversation provides a roadmap for using life's challenges as opportunities for transformation and healing.Links & Notes

Find Lionel on his website, LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram
Check out The Marriage Seed
Schedule a consult with Seth

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Lionel Moses
(00:58) - What Is the Mirror Effect?
(02:18) - The Transformation
(03:46) - Too Much Focus on the Other Side
(06:28) - Figuring Out How to Manage Relationships
(11:20) - Emotional Resilience
(14:40) - Reflecting on What You Were Attracting
(15:48) - The Marriage Seed
(21:02) - Connecting to Legal Commitments
(23:46) - Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
(26:27) - Making Hard Decisions
(28:03) - Performative
(30:16) - Wrap Up

]]>1935break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse123fullThe Protection Paradox: Why We Sabotage Our Divorce Journey with Dr. Philip Agrioshttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-protection-paradox-why-we-sabotage-our-divorce-journey-with-dr-philip-agrios--68576703Dr. Agrios identifies three fundamental reasons for self-sabotage: past success followed by loss, avoiding necessary actions, and fear that success brings more pain. These patterns particularly impact divorce proceedings where emotional stakes are high and rational decision-making is crucial.Legal Impact and Court Behavior
Seth Nelson emphasizes how self-sabotage manifests in legal settings, particularly during depositions and court appearances. Clients often undermine their cases by over-talking, treating minor issues as emergencies, or failing to provide required documentation timely—all of which increase legal costs and complexity.Key Insights:

Self-sabotage often serves as unconscious protection from perceived greater pain
Court time constraints require focusing on truly significant issues
Understanding behavioral patterns helps navigate divorce more effectively

Breaking Free from Self-Sabotaging PatternsThe discussion outlines practical strategies for recognizing and addressing self-sabotage, including:

Identifying protective behaviors versus growth behaviors
Working with attorneys efficiently to manage costs
Understanding personal triggers and responses

The episode provides valuable insights for anyone navigating divorce while dealing with self-sabotaging tendencies. Dr. Agrios' expertise combined with Seth's legal experience offers practical tools for maintaining focus and making better decisions during divorce proceedings.Links & Notes

Check out Dr. Philip Agrios on his website, LinkedIn, X/Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube
Check out Dr. Philip’s book Life’s One Law
Schedule a consult with Seth

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Dr. Philip Agrios
(01:06) - Recognizing Self Sabotage
(02:40) - Three Reasons
(05:16) - Afraid to Succeed
(09:06) - Staying Can Be Self-Sabotaging
(12:04) - During the Divorce Process
(16:05) - Emotional Superpowers
(18:38) - Three Traits
(20:33) - Self-Sabotage in Court
(24:54) - Tying Back to the Principles
(27:21) - Becoming Self-Aware of Self-Sabotaging Tendencies
(33:15) - Wrap Up

]]>ab5f3075-0fc5-4bae-8e71-cad171f6afbeTue, 14 Oct 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMSelf-Sabotage in Divorce: Understanding Hidden PatternsIn this compelling episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright explore the psychology of self-sabotage during divorce with guest expert Dr. Philip Agrios. The conversation...Dr. Agrios identifies three fundamental reasons for self-sabotage: past success followed by loss, avoiding necessary actions, and fear that success brings more pain. These patterns particularly impact divorce proceedings where emotional stakes are high and rational decision-making is crucial.Legal Impact and Court Behavior
Seth Nelson emphasizes how self-sabotage manifests in legal settings, particularly during depositions and court appearances. Clients often undermine their cases by over-talking, treating minor issues as emergencies, or failing to provide required documentation timely—all of which increase legal costs and complexity.Key Insights:

Self-sabotage often serves as unconscious protection from perceived greater pain
Court time constraints require focusing on truly significant issues
Understanding behavioral patterns helps navigate divorce more effectively

Breaking Free from Self-Sabotaging PatternsThe discussion outlines practical strategies for recognizing and addressing self-sabotage, including:

Identifying protective behaviors versus growth behaviors
Working with attorneys efficiently to manage costs
Understanding personal triggers and responses

Check out Dr. Philip Agrios on his website, LinkedIn, X/Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube
Check out Dr. Philip’s book Life’s One Law
Schedule a consult with Seth

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Dr. Philip Agrios
(01:06) - Recognizing Self Sabotage
(02:40) - Three Reasons
(05:16) - Afraid to Succeed
(09:06) - Staying Can Be Self-Sabotaging
(12:04) - During the Divorce Process
(16:05) - Emotional Superpowers
(18:38) - Three Traits
(20:33) - Self-Sabotage in Court
(24:54) - Tying Back to the Principles
(27:21) - Becoming Self-Aware of Self-Sabotaging Tendencies
(33:15) - Wrap Up

]]>2135break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse122fullThe Digital Divide: How to Split the Cloudhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-digital-divide-how-to-split-the-cloud--68576714The hosts identify several critical digital touchpoints that need attention during divorce:

Cloud storage and shared photo albums
Smart home devices and security systems
Location sharing services and tracking
Streaming services and digital purchases
Password managers and account access
Family calendars and school portals

Legal and Security Considerations
Seth emphasizes the importance of proper timing when modifying digital access, particularly regarding shared homes and accounts. The discussion covers potential legal issues with unauthorized account access and the benefits of starting fresh with new accounts post-divorce.Key Insights:
• Create new separate accounts rather than trying to untangle shared ones
• Turn on two-factor authentication for all important accounts
• Don't delete digital content until after divorce proceedings concludePractical Digital Separation Steps
The hosts recommend:

Digitizing physical photos and albums early in the process
Setting up independent password management systems
Establishing new banking relationships
Creating fresh email accounts without personally identifiable information

Smart Home Security
Pete and Seth discuss the delicate timing of changing smart home access, emphasizing that modifications should align with legal possession arrangements rather than emotional impulses.This episode provides essential guidance for maintaining digital boundaries while navigating divorce, highlighting both technical and legal considerations for separating intertwined digital lives.Links & Notes

Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:27) - The Digital Divide
(02:13) - Photos
(05:38) - Cloud Services
(07:36) - Smart Homes
(09:25) - Changing the Locks
(10:23) - When It’s Appropriate to Remove Someone
(11:54) - Location Sharing Tools
(13:42) - Entertainment Services
(17:26) - Password Managers
(21:36) - Logging into Your Ex’s Accounts
(23:23) - Family Communication
(25:25) - Including These Items in a Divorce Agreement
(26:11) - Securing Yourself Going Forward
(29:36) - When Can You Purge
(30:11) - Wrap Up

]]>554b33ab-fb6a-4583-99a9-cf20754c9ea4Tue, 07 Oct 2025 09:00:00 +0000TruStory FMDigital Divorce: Managing Your Tech Life After SeparationSeth Nelson and Pete Wright discuss the often-overlooked digital aspects of divorce. They explore how to handle shared digital assets, from photos and passwords to smart home devices and...The hosts identify several critical digital touchpoints that need attention during divorce:

Cloud storage and shared photo albums
Smart home devices and security systems
Location sharing services and tracking
Streaming services and digital purchases
Password managers and account access
Family calendars and school portals

Digitizing physical photos and albums early in the process
Setting up independent password management systems
Establishing new banking relationships
Creating fresh email accounts without personally identifiable information

Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:27) - The Digital Divide
(02:13) - Photos
(05:38) - Cloud Services
(07:36) - Smart Homes
(09:25) - Changing the Locks
(10:23) - When It’s Appropriate to Remove Someone
(11:54) - Location Sharing Tools
(13:42) - Entertainment Services
(17:26) - Password Managers
(21:36) - Logging into Your Ex’s Accounts
(23:23) - Family Communication
(25:25) - Including These Items in a Divorce Agreement
(26:11) - Securing Yourself Going Forward
(29:36) - When Can You Purge
(30:11) - Wrap Up

]]>1885break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse121fullYou Asked, We Answer: Essential Divorce Guidance from Your Questionshttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/you-asked-we-answer-essential-divorce-guidance-from-your-questions--68576709The hosts explore how technology has transformed divorce and co-parenting, addressing concerns about constant communication through phones and co-parenting apps. Seth provides practical strategies for setting boundaries while maintaining necessary contact, especially regarding court-ordered response times and children's FaceTime calls.Legal Considerations and Personal Growth
The conversation shifts to critical legal topics like relocation, annulments, and protecting oneself in future relationships. Seth emphasizes the importance of consulting local jurisdiction laws while offering insights on navigating high-conflict situations and managing communication effectively.Mental Health and Moving Forward
A significant portion focuses on the value of mental health support before, during, and after divorce. The hosts discuss how emotional work can positively impact custody arrangements and co-parenting relationships, while emphasizing the importance of setting healthy boundaries.Key Insights:
• Set clear communication boundaries through co-parenting apps and scheduled check-ins
• Consider mental health support early in the divorce process to improve outcomes
• Protect yourself legally and emotionally in future relationships through careful planningThe episode provides practical guidance for managing modern divorce challenges while maintaining focus on healthy relationships and effective co-parenting. Listeners gain valuable insights from both legal and personal growth perspectives, helping them navigate their divorce journey more effectively.For anyone facing divorce in today's interconnected world, this episode offers essential strategies for managing technology, protecting their interests, and maintaining healthy boundaries while prioritizing children's well-being.Links & Notes

Read BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns by Bill Eddy
Tune in to It’s All Your Fault: The Hight Conflict People podcast with Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Question One
(06:39) - Question Two
(09:27) - Questions Three and Four
(16:42) - Question Five
(19:12) - Question Six
(22:02) - Question Seven
(25:07) - Question Eight
(25:52) - Question Nine
(29:38) - Wrap Up

]]>5e532596-58e7-4eb3-a9c2-4ef0e16824a6Tue, 29 Jul 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMNavigating Modern Divorce: Technology, Communication, and Moving ForwardIn this listener Q&A episode of How to Split a Toaster, divorce attorney Seth Nelson and host Pete Wright tackle pressing questions about divorce in the digital age. The...The hosts explore how technology has transformed divorce and co-parenting, addressing concerns about constant communication through phones and co-parenting apps. Seth provides practical strategies for setting boundaries while maintaining necessary contact, especially regarding court-ordered response times and children's FaceTime calls.Legal Considerations and Personal Growth
The conversation shifts to critical legal topics like relocation, annulments, and protecting oneself in future relationships. Seth emphasizes the importance of consulting local jurisdiction laws while offering insights on navigating high-conflict situations and managing communication effectively.Mental Health and Moving Forward
A significant portion focuses on the value of mental health support before, during, and after divorce. The hosts discuss how emotional work can positively impact custody arrangements and co-parenting relationships, while emphasizing the importance of setting healthy boundaries.Key Insights:
• Set clear communication boundaries through co-parenting apps and scheduled check-ins
• Consider mental health support early in the divorce process to improve outcomes
• Protect yourself legally and emotionally in future relationships through careful planningThe episode provides practical guidance for managing modern divorce challenges while maintaining focus on healthy relationships and effective co-parenting. Listeners gain valuable insights from both legal and personal growth perspectives, helping them navigate their divorce journey more effectively.For anyone facing divorce in today's interconnected world, this episode offers essential strategies for managing technology, protecting their interests, and maintaining healthy boundaries while prioritizing children's well-being.Links & Notes

Read BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns by Bill Eddy
Tune in to It’s All Your Fault: The Hight Conflict People podcast with Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Question One
(06:39) - Question Two
(09:27) - Questions Three and Four
(16:42) - Question Five
(19:12) - Question Six
(22:02) - Question Seven
(25:07) - Question Eight
(25:52) - Question Nine
(29:38) - Wrap Up

]]>1869break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse1113fullThe Ghosts in Your Divorce with Nanette Murphyhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-ghosts-in-your-divorce-with-nanette-murphy--68576715

Letting go of the home can unlock emotional and financial freedom

Redefining physical space helps rewire emotional memory

Divorce coaching prepares clients to approach legal decisions with clarity

This episode is for anyone facing the wrenching choice of what to take—and what to leave behind—when your relationship ends but your memories remain. Divorce isn’t just a legal process. It’s a spatial one. A sensory one. And sometimes, the most healing thing you can do is move your pizza cutter to a new drawer.Links & Notes

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(09:31) - Ghosts in the Home
(20:15) - Ghosts and Your Attorney
(26:24) - Learn More

]]>bcbde20c-3a3c-4d8b-b6e1-34871381e84cTue, 22 Jul 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMWhat do you do when the most emotionally complicated part of your divorce isn’t your ex, your kids, or even the lawyer sitting across the table—but your living room? On this episode of How to Split a Toaster, family law attorney Seth Nelson and Pete...

Letting go of the home can unlock emotional and financial freedom

Redefining physical space helps rewire emotional memory

Divorce coaching prepares clients to approach legal decisions with clarity

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(09:31) - Ghosts in the Home
(20:15) - Ghosts and Your Attorney
(26:24) - Learn More

]]>1749break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse1112fullTaking a Sick Dayhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/taking-a-sick-day--685767101d8e424d-d1c6-4a55-ac59-039f35e88f7cWed, 16 Jul 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMWe missed an episode! No, it doesn't happen often. But sometimes life kicks you in the sniffles. Here we are without an attorney and, as the old saying goes, "what's a podcast if we don't have an attorney?" I'm sure someone said that. In any case,...79break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse1111fullSecond Time's The Charm?: Understanding Remarriage Rights with Attorney Kara Chrobakhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/second-time-s-the-charm-understanding-remarriage-rights-with-attorney-kara-chrobak--68576712

Prenuptial agreements can protect children from previous marriages while allowing couples to build shared assets

Estate planning requires careful coordination between divorce agreements and current relationship needs

Setting healthy relationship boundaries should be celebrated rather than stigmatized

The conversation reinforces that divorce—whether first, second, or subsequent—doesn't represent failure but rather demonstrates the courage to make healthy choices. Listeners gain practical insights into navigating complex legal and emotional terrain while maintaining focus on building positive future relationships.Links & Notes

Connect with Kara on LinkedIn
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Second Marriages and Beyond
(01:22) - The Stigma of Multiple Divorces
(06:15) - Cultural Shift
(08:54) - Navigating the Traditionalist Shame
(12:11) - Learning from Celebrity Divorces
(15:50) - Pre- and Post-Nups
(25:30) - Keeping Things Updated
(27:08) - Estate Management
(28:57) - Aliquat Reductions
(35:34) - Boundaries
(37:43) - Finding Kara
(38:28) - Wrap Up

]]>e5f82c00-0b9f-485c-8ece-90c60cb62e5cTue, 08 Jul 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMMoving Forward: Understanding Second Marriages and Divorce StigmaFamily law attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome guest Kara Chrobak to explore the complexities of second marriages and divorce stigma. Chrobak, a Colorado-based family law...

Prenuptial agreements can protect children from previous marriages while allowing couples to build shared assets

Estate planning requires careful coordination between divorce agreements and current relationship needs

Setting healthy relationship boundaries should be celebrated rather than stigmatized

Connect with Kara on LinkedIn
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Second Marriages and Beyond
(01:22) - The Stigma of Multiple Divorces
(06:15) - Cultural Shift
(08:54) - Navigating the Traditionalist Shame
(12:11) - Learning from Celebrity Divorces
(15:50) - Pre- and Post-Nups
(25:30) - Keeping Things Updated
(27:08) - Estate Management
(28:57) - Aliquat Reductions
(35:34) - Boundaries
(37:43) - Finding Kara
(38:28) - Wrap Up

]]>2406break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse1110fullThe Avoidance Trap: Managing Divorce Emotions with Dr. Michelle Maidenberghttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-avoidance-trap-managing-divorce-emotions-with-dr-michelle-maidenberg--68576706

Identify conflicting core values to better understand emotional reactions during divorce

Set appropriate boundaries around communication to maintain emotional stability

Work with qualified professionals to develop personalized coping strategies

The Role of Professional SupportThe episode highlights how legal counsel and mental health professionals can work together to support clients through divorce. Seth Nelson shares practical strategies for managing difficult communications, while Dr. Maidenberg offers therapeutic perspectives on processing divorce-related emotions.Plus, the conversation explores how different therapeutic modalities—from CBT to mindfulness-based approaches—can help individuals navigate divorce's emotional challenges while staying true to their values.This episode provides valuable insights for anyone seeking to better understand and manage their emotional responses during divorce, while offering practical tools for maintaining stability throughout the legal process.Links & Notes

Find Michelle on her website, LinkedIn, X, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube
Check out Michelle’s book “Ace Your Life: Unleash Your Best Self and Live the Life You Want”
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Dr. Michelle Maidenberg
(01:01) - Emotional Avoidance
(02:18) - Formative Values
(06:36) - When in Distress
(07:54) - In the Divorce Process
(10:13) - Dealing with Fear
(12:10) - Conflict of Values
(16:56) - Values Charting
(17:59) - Learning to Self-Regulate
(23:19) - EMDR
(27:20) - Finding the Right Therapist
(29:36) - Finding Michelle
(31:19) - Wrap Up

]]>51df4a3a-78b4-40df-8d74-a6fc9e04b6bfTue, 01 Jul 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMNavigating Emotional Avoidance in DivorceIn this illuminating episode of How to Split a Toaster, family law attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright explore emotional avoidance during divorce with expert guest Dr. Michelle Maidenberg, a specialist in...

Identify conflicting core values to better understand emotional reactions during divorce

Set appropriate boundaries around communication to maintain emotional stability

Work with qualified professionals to develop personalized coping strategies

Find Michelle on her website, LinkedIn, X, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube
Check out Michelle’s book “Ace Your Life: Unleash Your Best Self and Live the Life You Want”
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Dr. Michelle Maidenberg
(01:01) - Emotional Avoidance
(02:18) - Formative Values
(06:36) - When in Distress
(07:54) - In the Divorce Process
(10:13) - Dealing with Fear
(12:10) - Conflict of Values
(16:56) - Values Charting
(17:59) - Learning to Self-Regulate
(23:19) - EMDR
(27:20) - Finding the Right...]]>1977break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse119fullWhen Trust Breaks: Understanding Betrayal Trauma with Mr. Jayhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/when-trust-breaks-understanding-betrayal-trauma-with-mr-jay--68576719
How is betrayal trauma different from other life challenges?
What steps can I take to co-parent effectively after betrayal?
How do I protect my emotional health while dealing with a betrayer?

Key Takeaways:

Healing requires addressing both current wounds and past trauma
Self-love and boundary-setting are crucial for emotional recovery
Effective co-parenting starts with personal healing

The episode provides essential insights for anyone struggling with betrayal during or after divorce, offering practical tools for healing while maintaining necessary relationships for the children's sake. Mr. Jay's approach emphasizes personal growth and self-care as fundamental steps toward building a healthy post-divorce life.Links & Notes

Visit Mr. Jay’s website
Find Mr. Jay on Instagram, X, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, or his other links
Check out Mr. Jay’s journal
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:31) - Mr. Jay and Betrayal Trauma
(01:43) - Mr. Jay’s Background
(05:40) - Defining Betrayal Trauma
(08:28) - Trauma vs. Betrayal Trauma
(10:47) - What If You Still Care?
(14:01) - Affecting the Past as Well
(18:28) - Co-Parenting
(21:23) - Healing for You
(22:53) - Admitting It
(23:44) - Define what forgiveness means to you
(28:14) - Getting Better Equipped
(32:30) - Asking the Hard Questions
(33:30) - Wrap Up

]]>6587b7f0-67e6-4bd2-b90f-3965ef5ed9bfTue, 24 Jun 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMHealing After Betrayal—A Guide for Co-ParentsDivorce attorney Seth Nelson and co-host Pete Wright welcome relationship coach and betrayal trauma expert Mr. Jay for an insightful discussion about healing and co-parenting after profound betrayal....

How is betrayal trauma different from other life challenges?

What steps can I take to co-parent effectively after betrayal?

How do I protect my emotional health while dealing with a betrayer?

Key Takeaways:

Healing requires addressing both current wounds and past trauma
Self-love and boundary-setting are crucial for emotional recovery
Effective co-parenting starts with personal healing

Visit Mr. Jay’s website
Find Mr. Jay on Instagram, X, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, or his other links
Check out Mr. Jay’s journal
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:31) - Mr. Jay and Betrayal Trauma
(01:43) - Mr. Jay’s Background
(05:40) - Defining Betrayal Trauma
(08:28) - Trauma vs. Betrayal Trauma
(10:47) - What If You Still Care?
(14:01) - Affecting the Past as Well
(18:28) - Co-Parenting
(21:23) - Healing for You
(22:53) - Admitting It
(23:44) - Define what...]]>2155break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse118fullDivine Divorce? Catholic Annulments Explained with Father David Mowryhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/divine-divorce-catholic-annulments-explained-with-father-david-mowry--68576721
How does a Catholic annulment differ from a civil divorce?
What happens if one spouse refuses to participate in the annulment process?
How does the Church support children whose parents are going through divorce?

Key Takeaways:

The Catholic Church views marriage as a permanent covenant—annulments determine if a valid marriage ever existed
Annulment processes include extensive pastoral and legal support systems
Local priests serve as initial guides but specialized Church courts handle the formal proceedings

This episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating the complex intersection of faith and divorce. Whether you're Catholic or simply interested in understanding different approaches to marriage dissolution, Father Mowry's explanation of the Church's compassionate yet structured approach to failed marriages provides a fascinating perspective on healing and moving forward.Links & Notes

Learn more about Father David Mowry on his website
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:27) - Meet Father David Mowry
(04:31) - Catholic Annulments vs. Divorce
(05:16) - Civil vs. Church Law Around Marriage
(12:20) - Annulments – The Loophole
(18:05) - What the Church Looks at
(20:27) - Counter to Catholic Thinking?
(23:08) - A Way to Set People Free
(24:06) - Unwlling Participant
(25:46) - When It’s Contested
(27:34) - Appeals Process
(28:15) - Judges
(31:50) - Emotional Infrastructure
(36:55) - Working with the Kids
(41:31) - Where the Job Begins and Ends
(45:06) - Historical Records
(46:47) - Pete’s Story
(48:35) - Wrap Up

]]>dabb8c98-97dc-4152-8f2a-404008437576Tue, 17 Jun 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMFaith, Family Law, and Finding Peace: Understanding Catholic AnnulmentsIn this enlightening episode, divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome Father David Mowry, a Roman Catholic priest and assistant professor at the University of St. Mary...

How does a Catholic annulment differ from a civil divorce?

What happens if one spouse refuses to participate in the annulment process?

How does the Church support children whose parents are going through divorce?

Key Takeaways:

The Catholic Church views marriage as a permanent covenant—annulments determine if a valid marriage ever existed
Annulment processes include extensive pastoral and legal support systems
Local priests serve as initial guides but specialized Church courts handle the formal proceedings

Learn more about Father David Mowry on his website
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:27) - Meet Father David Mowry
(04:31) - Catholic Annulments vs. Divorce
(05:16) - Civil vs. Church Law Around Marriage
(12:20) - Annulments – The Loophole
(18:05) - What the Church Looks at
(20:27) - Counter to Catholic Thinking?
(23:08) - A Way to Set People Free
(24:06) - Unwlling Participant
(25:46) - When It’s Contested
(27:34) - Appeals Process
(28:15) - Judges
(31:50) - Emotional Infrastructure
(36:55) - Working with the Kids
(41:31) - Where the Job Begins and Ends
(45:06) - Historical Records
(46:47) - Pete’s Story
(48:35) - Wrap Up

]]>3141break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse117fullStoic Empathy: Building Strength Through Understanding with Shermin Krusehttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/stoic-empathy-building-strength-through-understanding-with-shermin-kruse--68576704

How can I stay calm and focused when dealing with a hostile ex-spouse?

What practical exercises help build emotional resilience during divorce?

How do I balance being strong with staying empathetic in co-parenting?

Key Takeaways:

Practice discomfort in safe settings to build emotional control
Use active listening and pausing to better understand others' perspectives
Remember your responses are in your control, even when others' actions aren't

This episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating divorce or high-conflict relationships. Kruse's blend of philosophical wisdom and practical experience provides actionable strategies for maintaining composure while building stronger post-divorce relationships.Links & Notes

Find Sher on her website, LinkedIn, Instagram, or Facebook
Tune in to Sher’s podcast Stoic Empathy
Check out Sher’s book Stoic Empathy
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Shermin Kruse and Stoic Empathy
(02:07) - What Is Stoic Empathy?
(06:06) - The Practice of Stoicism
(14:03) - Working on Empathy
(20:08) - In the Divorce Process
(32:43) - After Divorce
(36:26) - Sher’s Book

]]>0b75f69b-c528-437e-9bb2-82e5861e9b8bTue, 10 Jun 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMMastering Stoic Empathy During and After DivorceDivorce attorney Seth Nelson and co-host Pete Wright welcome leadership expert and author Shermin Kruse to explore how combining stoicism with empathy can transform the divorce experience. Kruse, who...

How can I stay calm and focused when dealing with a hostile ex-spouse?

What practical exercises help build emotional resilience during divorce?

How do I balance being strong with staying empathetic in co-parenting?

Key Takeaways:

Practice discomfort in safe settings to build emotional control
Use active listening and pausing to better understand others' perspectives
Remember your responses are in your control, even when others' actions aren't

Find Sher on her website, LinkedIn, Instagram, or Facebook
Tune in to Sher’s podcast Stoic Empathy
Check out Sher’s book Stoic Empathy
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Shermin Kruse and Stoic Empathy
(02:07) - What Is Stoic Empathy?
(06:06) - The Practice of Stoicism
(14:03) - Working on Empathy
(20:08) - In the Divorce Process
(32:43) - After Divorce
(36:26) - Sher’s Book

]]>2412break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse116fullBeyond Sorry: The Real Work of Divorce Healing with Rabbi Danya Ruttenberghttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/beyond-sorry-the-real-work-of-divorce-healing-with-rabbi-danya-ruttenberg--68576727

Can you heal from divorce without receiving an apology from your ex?

How do you move forward when the other person won't take accountability?

What role does personal accountability play in divorce healing?

Key Takeaways:

True healing requires owning your part, regardless of the other person's actions
The five steps of repentance provide a practical framework for divorce healing
Modeling accountability and repair helps children navigate divorce impacts better

This episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating divorce or its aftermath. Rabbi Ruttenberg's framework, combined with Seth's legal expertise and Pete's facilitation, creates a powerful roadmap for personal growth and healing during one of life's most challenging transitions.Links & Notes

lifeisasacredtext.com
Get Rabbi Ruttenberg’s book “On Repentance and Repair”
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg
(03:47) - Repair in the Context of Divorce
(05:06) - When the Other Party Won’t Engage
(06:50) - Doing Your Work
(11:24) - Needing to Face the Music Together
(13:00) - Steps of Repentance
(17:56) - Readiness for Change
(19:08) - From the Legal Perspective
(21:42) - Blame
(24:48) - Learning Better Ways to Communicate
(27:56) - Repentance Around the Kids
(30:33) - When Kids Become a Focus
(34:38) - Finding Peace
(36:24) - Wrapping Up

]]>6a73ab53-5914-4c9b-9a76-085d9c271e47Tue, 03 Jun 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMAncient Wisdom Meets Modern Divorce: A Guide to Repair and HealingSeth Nelson, a Tampa divorce attorney, and Pete Wright explore the complex journey of repentance and repair during divorce with special guest Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg, author of "On...

Can you heal from divorce without receiving an apology from your ex?

How do you move forward when the other person won't take accountability?

What role does personal accountability play in divorce healing?

Key Takeaways:

True healing requires owning your part, regardless of the other person's actions
The five steps of repentance provide a practical framework for divorce healing
Modeling accountability and repair helps children navigate divorce impacts better

lifeisasacredtext.com
Get Rabbi Ruttenberg’s book “On Repentance and Repair”
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg
(03:47) - Repair in the Context of Divorce
(05:06) - When the Other Party Won’t Engage
(06:50) - Doing Your Work
(11:24) - Needing to Face the Music Together
(13:00) - Steps of Repentance
(17:56) - Readiness for Change
(19:08) - From the Legal Perspective
(21:42) - Blame
(24:48) - Learning Better Ways to Communicate
(27:56) - Repentance Around the Kids
(30:33) - When Kids Become a Focus
(34:38) - Finding Peace
(36:24) - Wrapping Up

]]>2325break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse115fullKids First: Avoiding Divorce Trauma with Dr. Larry Waldmanhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/kids-first-avoiding-divorce-trauma-with-dr-larry-waldman--68576717

How do parents unknowingly traumatize their children during divorce?

What's the best way to handle transitions between homes?

When should older children have input in scheduling decisions?

Key Takeaways:

Keep photos of both parents visible in children's spaces
Focus on positive experiences during transitions between homes
Maintain appropriate parent-child boundaries; don't make children confidants

This episode provides essential guidance for any parent going through divorce, offering both practical strategies and deeper insights into protecting children's emotional well-being. Dr. Waldman's expertise, combined with Seth's legal perspective and Pete's facilitation, creates a valuable resource for maintaining healthy family relationships during and after divorce.Links & Notes

Get Dr. Waldman’s book “Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your Ex”
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:27) - Meet Larry Waldman
(01:11) - Invisible Damage
(04:48) - Damnatio Memoriae
(06:15) - What Does Divorce Look Like to the Child?
(08:47) - Making the Child a Confidant
(09:32) - Weaponizing Your Kids in Court
(10:30) - Someone New
(12:19) - Stability and Security During the Divorce
(15:26) - When They’re Older
(20:00) - Your Child Is the Focus
(21:04) - When They Grow Up
(22:22) - When They Come Back from the Other Parent’s
(23:59) - Using the Kid as a Scapegoat
(25:51) - Larry’s Book
(27:16) - Demonstrating What’s Most Important
(29:38) - Wrap Up

]]>a2290cb3-a3f0-4fa7-9ad1-60aabb9dd62dTue, 27 May 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMProtecting Your Kids Through Divorce: A Mental Health Expert's GuideSeth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome Dr. Larry Waldman, a psychologist with over four decades of clinical experience helping families navigate divorce. As the author of "Love Your...

How do parents unknowingly traumatize their children during divorce?

What's the best way to handle transitions between homes?

When should older children have input in scheduling decisions?

Key Takeaways:

Keep photos of both parents visible in children's spaces
Focus on positive experiences during transitions between homes
Maintain appropriate parent-child boundaries; don't make children confidants

Get Dr. Waldman’s book “Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your Ex”
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:27) - Meet Larry Waldman
(01:11) - Invisible Damage
(04:48) - Damnatio Memoriae
(06:15) - What Does Divorce Look Like to the Child?
(08:47) - Making the Child a Confidant
(09:32) - Weaponizing Your Kids in Court
(10:30) - Someone New
(12:19) - Stability and Security During the Divorce
(15:26) - When They’re Older
(20:00) - Your Child Is the Focus
(21:04) - When They Grow Up
(22:22) - When They Come Back from the Other Parent’s
(23:59) - Using the Kid as a Scapegoat
(25:51) - Larry’s Book
(27:16) - Demonstrating What’s Most Important
(29:38) - Wrap Up

]]>1863break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse114fullBeyond the Break: Transforming Divorce into Unity with Rabbi Avi Kahanhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/beyond-the-break-transforming-divorce-into-unity-with-rabbi-avi-kahan--68576718

How can you de-escalate high-conflict divorce situations?

What role does "fairness" really play in divorce proceedings?

How can religious perspectives help in understanding divorce as transformation rather than failure?

Key Takeaways:

Focus on living your life, not your divorce—don't let temporary legal proceedings define your actions
De-escalation often requires helping both parties want the divorce, not just need it
Court litigation can force parents to suppress their authentic selves, potentially harming children

The episode offers valuable insights for anyone navigating a contentious divorce, especially those dealing with cultural or religious complexities. Rabbi Kahan's perspective on viewing divorce as a unifying rather than separating force provides a fresh framework for approaching this challenging life transition. Links & Notes

Visit Rabbi Avi Kahan on the web, Instagram, LinkedIn, or YouTube
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Rabbi Avi Kahan
(01:15) - De-Escalation and Rabbi’s Background
(03:29) - In the Interpersonal Space
(06:21) - Getting Them on the Same Page
(09:51) - To Make Life Better Post-Divorce
(10:42) - Decompressing the Proxy Battle
(14:56) - Fairness
(22:20) - Husband v. Wife, Father v. Mother
(24:53) - Lack of Agency
(27:46) - Escalation as Coping Mechanism
(29:28) - Affecting the Children
(33:12) - Preparing for Mediation and Litigation
(36:59) - Wrap Up

]]>5a76c3a7-ae86-434b-9ad6-93c445376652Tue, 20 May 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMDe-escalating High-Conflict Divorce: A Rabbi's Perspective on Finding PeaceRabbi Avi Kahan joins Seth Nelson and Pete Wright to explore how de-escalation techniques and cultural sensitivity can help families reach sustainable resolutions during...

How can you de-escalate high-conflict divorce situations?

What role does "fairness" really play in divorce proceedings?

How can religious perspectives help in understanding divorce as transformation rather than failure?

Key Takeaways:

Focus on living your life, not your divorce—don't let temporary legal proceedings define your actions
De-escalation often requires helping both parties want the divorce, not just need it
Court litigation can force parents to suppress their authentic selves, potentially harming children

Visit Rabbi Avi Kahan on the web, Instagram, LinkedIn, or YouTube
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Rabbi Avi Kahan
(01:15) - De-Escalation and Rabbi’s Background
(03:29) - In the Interpersonal Space
(06:21) - Getting Them on the Same Page
(09:51) - To Make Life Better Post-Divorce
(10:42) - Decompressing the Proxy Battle
(14:56) - Fairness
(22:20) - Husband v. Wife, Father v. Mother
(24:53) - Lack of Agency
(27:46) - Escalation as Coping Mechanism
(29:28) - Affecting the Children
(33:12) - Preparing for Mediation and Litigation
(36:59) - Wrap Up

]]>2408break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse113fullLittle Hearts, Big Changes: Helping Kids Navigate Divorce with Danielle Lindnerhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/little-hearts-big-changes-helping-kids-navigate-divorce-with-danielle-lindner--68576729

How can you tell if your child is struggling with divorce beyond what they're telling you?

When should you consider bringing in professional help for your children?

How do you handle introducing new partners when kids express negative feelings?

Key Takeaways:

Maintain consistency and kindness across both households
Validate children's feelings without overloading them with information
Consider early intervention with counseling—it's better to start early than wait for problems

This episode provides practical, actionable advice for parents navigating divorce with young children. Whether you're just beginning the process or already co-parenting, Lindner's expertise offers valuable insights into supporting children's emotional health while maintaining positive family relationships during and after divorce.Links & Notes

Find Danielle on her website, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube
Check out Danielle’s books
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Danielle Lindner and Positive Parenting
(01:35) - First Signs a Child Is Struggling
(06:01) - Myths Around Kids and Divorce
(10:27) - Positive Parenting
(11:57) - Coaching Parents
(15:07) - Tools for Struggling Children
(18:21) - Scaffolding
(20:19) - Learning to Be Emotionally Resilient
(22:12) - Social Media
(26:35) - Third Parties
(30:35) - Daily Reminder
(33:23) - When to Use a Counselor
(34:40) - Danielle’s Book
(38:27) - Wrap Up

]]>8ca2152a-32f9-4d15-b6d8-37d48c4050a5Tue, 13 May 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMHelping Kids Navigate Divorce with Parent Coach Danielle LindnerSeth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome parent coach and early childhood education expert Danielle Lindner to discuss how children process divorce and what parents can do to help them stay...

How can you tell if your child is struggling with divorce beyond what they're telling you?

When should you consider bringing in professional help for your children?

How do you handle introducing new partners when kids express negative feelings?

Key Takeaways:

Maintain consistency and kindness across both households
Validate children's feelings without overloading them with information
Consider early intervention with counseling—it's better to start early than wait for problems

Find Danielle on her website, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube
Check out Danielle’s books
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Danielle Lindner and Positive Parenting
(01:35) - First Signs a Child Is Struggling
(06:01) - Myths Around Kids and Divorce
(10:27) - Positive Parenting
(11:57) - Coaching Parents
(15:07) - Tools for Struggling Children
(18:21) - Scaffolding
(20:19) - Learning to Be Emotionally Resilient
(22:12) - Social Media
(26:35) - Third Parties
(30:35) - Daily Reminder
(33:23) - When to Use a Counselor
(34:40) - Danielle’s Book
(38:27) - Wrap Up

]]>2426break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse112fullBreaking Free: How to Stop Family Patterns from Sabotaging Your Divorce with Jerry Wisehttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/breaking-free-how-to-stop-family-patterns-from-sabotaging-your-divorce-with-jerry-wise--68576702

How do I know if I'm emotionally enmeshed with my ex?

What can I do when I feel triggered by my ex's behavior?

How do I protect my children from inheriting dysfunctional relationship patterns?

Key Takeaways:

Focus on yourself and your healing instead of blaming your ex
Learn to respond rather than react to triggering situations
Work on breaking unhealthy patterns before they affect your children

This episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating divorce or struggling with challenging family dynamics. Jerry's expertise, combined with Seth and Pete's practical legal and personal experience, provides listeners with actionable strategies for breaking free from toxic patterns and building healthier relationships moving forward.Links & Notes

Find Jerry on his website, Instagram, or YouTube
Check out Jerry’s Road to Self program
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Jerry Wise and How to Divorce without Passing Down Toxic Patterns
(02:37) - Lots of Things Affect Kids
(04:21) - Enmeshment
(07:49) - Getting Unmeshed
(09:13) - Focus on Yourself
(10:27) - Emotional and Legal Divorce
(11:07) - Things You Can Do
(16:23) - Breaking the Triggering Patterns
(19:18) - Not All Feelings Are Equal
(21:20) - Role Model for Kids
(24:37) - Kids’ Resilience
(26:08) - Realizing You’re Ready for Change
(30:49) - Leaving Because...
(32:09) - It’s a Lot
(33:14) - You Won’t Always Feel This Way
(35:27) - Marker 17
(39:18) - Wrap Up

]]>f00d91ef-b12d-42f1-8985-a87459a92addTue, 06 May 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMBreaking Free from Toxic Family Patterns During DivorceIn this compelling episode, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright are joined by Jerry Wise, a family systems coach with over 45 years of experience helping people heal from dysfunctional and emotionally...

How do I know if I'm emotionally enmeshed with my ex?

What can I do when I feel triggered by my ex's behavior?

How do I protect my children from inheriting dysfunctional relationship patterns?

Key Takeaways:

Focus on yourself and your healing instead of blaming your ex
Learn to respond rather than react to triggering situations
Work on breaking unhealthy patterns before they affect your children

Find Jerry on his website, Instagram, or YouTube
Check out Jerry’s Road to Self program
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Jerry Wise and How to Divorce without Passing Down Toxic Patterns
(02:37) - Lots of Things Affect Kids
(04:21) - Enmeshment
(07:49) - Getting Unmeshed
(09:13) - Focus on Yourself
(10:27) - Emotional and Legal Divorce
(11:07) - Things You Can Do
(16:23) - Breaking the Triggering Patterns
(19:18) - Not All Feelings Are Equal
(21:20) - Role Model for Kids
(24:37) - Kids’ Resilience
(26:08) - Realizing You’re Ready for Change
(30:49) - Leaving Because...
(32:09) - It’s a Lot
(33:14) - You Won’t Always Feel This Way
(35:27) - Marker 17
(39:18) - Wrap Up

]]>2533break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse111fullThe Grand Finale: Your Questions About the Divorce Journey • Your Divorce Casehttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-grand-finale-your-questions-about-the-divorce-journey-your-divorce-case--68576722

How do courts typically handle parenting plans when parents disagree about medical treatment?

What options exist when you suspect hidden financial assets?

How are digital assets like cryptocurrency handled in divorce proceedings?

Key Takeaways:

Settlement opportunities can arise at any point during the divorce process - even during trial
Court orders and requirements vary significantly by jurisdiction
Documentation and proper legal counsel are crucial throughout the divorce process

This episode serves as both an excellent standalone resource for specific divorce questions and a fitting conclusion to the season-long examination of the divorce process. Whether you're just starting your divorce journey or looking for specific guidance on complex issues, this episode offers valuable insights into navigating the legal and emotional challenges of divorce.Links & Notes

Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Listener Questions
(00:52) - Question One
(03:11) - Question Two
(04:09) - Question Three
(04:52) - Question Four
(06:58) - Question Five
(08:44) - Question Six
(10:44) - Question Seven
(16:56) - Question Eight
(19:48) - Question Nine
(21:14) - Question Ten
(24:20) - Question Eleven
(29:05) - Question Twelve
(31:57) - Question Thirteen
(34:31) - Question Fourteen
(36:33) - Question Fifteen
(38:40) - Question Sixteen
(40:08) - Question Seventeen
(42:11) - Question Eighteen
(45:49) - Question Nineteen
(47:43) - Wrapping Up the Season
(50:40) - Wrap Up

]]>00fdfe1d-cbc7-4921-a6c2-65a74b3da8c2Tue, 25 Mar 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMIn this special season finale episode of How to Split a Toaster, family law attorney Seth Nelson joins Pete Wright to wrap up their comprehensive "Your Divorce Case" series by tackling pressing listener questions. This episode marks the conclusion of...

How do courts typically handle parenting plans when parents disagree about medical treatment?

What options exist when you suspect hidden financial assets?

How are digital assets like cryptocurrency handled in divorce proceedings?

Key Takeaways:

Settlement opportunities can arise at any point during the divorce process - even during trial
Court orders and requirements vary significantly by jurisdiction
Documentation and proper legal counsel are crucial throughout the divorce process

Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Listener Questions
(00:52) - Question One
(03:11) - Question Two
(04:09) - Question Three
(04:52) - Question Four
(06:58) - Question Five
(08:44) - Question Six
(10:44) - Question Seven
(16:56) - Question Eight
(19:48) - Question Nine
(21:14) - Question Ten
(24:20) - Question Eleven
(29:05) - Question Twelve
(31:57) - Question Thirteen
(34:31) - Question Fourteen
(36:33) - Question Fifteen
(38:40) - Question Sixteen
(40:08) - Question Seventeen
(42:11) - Question Eighteen
(45:49) - Question Nineteen
(47:43) - Wrapping Up the Season
(50:40) - Wrap Up

]]>3149break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse1029fullWhen Divorce Gets Appealing: Understanding Appeals Court with Ceci Berman • Your Divorce Casehttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/when-divorce-gets-appealing-understanding-appeals-court-with-ceci-berman-your-divorce-case--68576707

What exactly is an appeal and how does it differ from the original trial?

How long does the appeals process typically take?

What happens if you win your appeal?

Key Takeaways:

You have just 30 days from the final judgment to file an appeal
Appeals are expensive and time-consuming - carefully consider if it's worth pursuing
Winning your appeal means starting over - potentially with the same judge who ruled against you initially

This episode provides an invaluable look at a complex but crucial part of the divorce process that many people misunderstand. Whether you're considering an appeal or just want to better understand how the system works, Ceci's expert insights combined with Seth and Pete's practical experience make this an essential listen for anyone navigating divorce proceedings.Links & Notes

Ceci Berman – Brannock Berman & Seider
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(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - The Appeal with Ceci Berman
(01:55) - How Is It Different?
(04:04) - Who Decides?
(07:21) - Finality
(08:21) - Triggers for an Appeal
(13:57) - Preservation of Error
(20:16) - Mechanics of an Appeal
(27:48) - Three Judges
(29:25) - Time to Get an Opinion
(32:06) - What Your Role Is
(35:21) - Juggling Relationships with Attorneys
(36:24) - Stays
(38:24) - Questioning Results
(39:51) - Hard to Win
(41:31) - Taking Time
(43:39) - Expensive
(45:24) - Wrap Up

]]>2f6e4c77-288f-4466-813e-b9e57b842dddTue, 18 Mar 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMNavigating the Appeals Process in Divorce CasesContinuing our season-long Your Divorce Case series, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome appellate attorney Ceci Berman to discuss what happens when divorce cases move to the appeals court. As a...

What exactly is an appeal and how does it differ from the original trial?

How long does the appeals process typically take?

What happens if you win your appeal?

Key Takeaways:

You have just 30 days from the final judgment to file an appeal
Appeals are expensive and time-consuming - carefully consider if it's worth pursuing
Winning your appeal means starting over - potentially with the same judge who ruled against you initially

Ceci Berman – Brannock Berman & Seider
Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - The Appeal with Ceci Berman
(01:55) - How Is It Different?
(04:04) - Who Decides?
(07:21) - Finality
(08:21) - Triggers for an Appeal
(13:57) - Preservation of Error
(20:16) - Mechanics of an Appeal
(27:48) - Three Judges
(29:25) - Time to Get an Opinion
(32:06) - What Your Role Is
(35:21) - Juggling Relationships with Attorneys
(36:24) - Stays
(38:24) - Questioning Results
(39:51) - Hard to Win
(41:31) - Taking Time
(43:39) - Expensive
(45:24) - Wrap Up

]]>2870break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse1028fullCourt Presence: Anatomy of a Divorce Trial, Part III • Your Divorce Casehttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/court-presence-anatomy-of-a-divorce-trial-part-iii-your-divorce-case--68576720

What are the most common courtroom etiquette mistakes that can hurt your case?

How should you handle emotionally triggering statements during trial?

What's the proper way to communicate with your attorney during proceedings?

Key Takeaways:

Maintain neutral facial expressions and conservative dress in court
Use note-taking to manage emotions and assist your attorney effectively
Stay off social media before, during, and after trial

Whether you're preparing for trial or simply want to understand the court process better, this episode provides invaluable insights into navigating the complexities of divorce court. Seth and Pete's practical advice and real-world examples make this a must-listen for anyone facing divorce proceedings or interested in understanding courtroom dynamics.Links & Notes

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(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:37) - The Trial Part III
(01:16) - Mastering Courtroom Behavior
(04:38) - Handling Emotional Triggers
(06:48) - Judicial Hot Buttons
(10:04) - Being an Asset to Your Legal Team
(13:00) - Communicating During Zoom Court
(13:29) - Strategy and Psychological Preparation
(16:34) - The Courthouse Encounter
(19:22) - Avoid Social Media
(21:33) - Post-Trial Steps
(25:45) - Testing Pete
(30:27) - Don’t Get Freaked Out
(31:45) - Wrap Up

]]>96e2b399-16f8-4175-9a18-47d0afd898a7Tue, 11 Mar 2025 10:00:00 +0000TruStory FMMastering Courtroom Behavior: Your Guide to Trial SuccessIn this final installment of our three-part series on divorce trials, Tampa family law attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deep into courtroom etiquette, behavior, and psychological...

What are the most common courtroom etiquette mistakes that can hurt your case?

How should you handle emotionally triggering statements during trial?

What's the proper way to communicate with your attorney during proceedings?

Key Takeaways:

Maintain neutral facial expressions and conservative dress in court
Use note-taking to manage emotions and assist your attorney effectively
Stay off social media before, during, and after trial

Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:37) - The Trial Part III
(01:16) - Mastering Courtroom Behavior
(04:38) - Handling Emotional Triggers
(06:48) - Judicial Hot Buttons
(10:04) - Being an Asset to Your Legal Team
(13:00) - Communicating During Zoom Court
(13:29) - Strategy and Psychological Preparation
(16:34) - The Courthouse Encounter
(19:22) - Avoid Social Media
(21:33) - Post-Trial Steps
(25:45) - Testing Pete
(30:27) - Don’t Get Freaked Out
(31:45) - Wrap Up

]]>2016break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse1027fullStrategic Moves: Anatomy of a Divorce Trial, Part II • Your Divorce Casehttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/strategic-moves-anatomy-of-a-divorce-trial-part-ii-your-divorce-case--68576711

What happens when you finally take the witness stand?

How do attorneys measure success in divorce court?

Why don't clients really get their "day in court"?

Key Takeaways:

Trial momentum can shift dramatically between days
Your attorney should be completely transparent about how the case is progressing
The best outcome often beats the last settlement offer, not necessarily "wins" everything

Whether you're headed to trial or trying to decide if you should settle, this episode offers crucial insights into how divorce trials really work. Seth and Pete's practical discussion helps demystify the process while providing valuable perspective on what constitutes success in divorce court.Links & Notes

Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:37) - The Trial Part II
(01:44) - Be Prepared for Anything
(06:21) - It’s Not Your Day in Court
(08:56) - Sit Still and Don't React
(10:55) - Legalese
(16:19) - Shifting Strategies
(20:56) - The Final Judgment
(23:39) - Momentum
(25:03) - In-Court Relationships
(27:51) - Closing Statements
(33:28) - Finishing the Case and Measuring Success
(42:58) - Being Honest
(46:04) - Wrap Up

]]>4ecacddb-daa8-4612-8c52-ca2f3993c702Tue, 04 Mar 2025 11:00:00 +0000TruStory FMTrial Strategy: Making Your Case in Divorce CourtIn this second installment of their three-part series on divorce trials, Tampa divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deeper into trial strategy and momentum. Part of their season-long "Your...

What happens when you finally take the witness stand?

How do attorneys measure success in divorce court?

Why don't clients really get their "day in court"?

Key Takeaways:

Trial momentum can shift dramatically between days
Your attorney should be completely transparent about how the case is progressing
The best outcome often beats the last settlement offer, not necessarily "wins" everything

Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:37) - The Trial Part II
(01:44) - Be Prepared for Anything
(06:21) - It’s Not Your Day in Court
(08:56) - Sit Still and Don't React
(10:55) - Legalese
(16:19) - Shifting Strategies
(20:56) - The Final Judgment
(23:39) - Momentum
(25:03) - In-Court Relationships
(27:51) - Closing Statements
(33:28) - Finishing the Case and Measuring Success
(42:58) - Being Honest
(46:04) - Wrap Up

]]>2904break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse1026fullBehind the Bench: Anatomy of a Divorce Trial, Part I • Your Divorce Casehttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/behind-the-bench-anatomy-of-a-divorce-trial-part-i-your-divorce-case--68576724

What does a divorce courtroom look like and who will be there?

How does evidence get admitted during a trial?

What happens during opening statements and how do they shape the case?

Key Takeaways:

Trials move quickly—preparation and organization are crucial
Evidence must be authenticated, relevant, and admissible to be considered
Like a tennis match, trials have momentum shifts but staying focused is key

Whether you're facing a divorce trial or simply want to understand the process better, this episode provides invaluable insights into how divorce trials actually work. Seth and Pete's engaging discussion demystifies the courtroom experience while offering practical knowledge about what to expect when your divorce goes to trial.Links & Notes

Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:36) - The Trial Part One
(01:29) - The Courtroom
(04:56) - Public Viewing
(06:57) - Taking Notes
(08:26) - Procedures
(10:54) - Memoranda, Joint Stipulated Exhibits, Etc.
(16:36) - Evidence
(17:40) - Getting It Into the Transcript
(19:00) - Housekeeping Issues
(20:02) - Kids
(20:24) - Back to Housekeeping Issues
(23:58) - Opening Statements
(27:06) - Presenting the Evidence
(28:13) - Closing Statements
(29:25) - Painting a Picture
(30:15) - Chess Match
(33:00) - Next Time and Wrap Up

]]>7c082a19-d1d8-4444-9d46-29f341bdb515Tue, 25 Feb 2025 11:00:00 +0000TruStory FMInside the Courtroom: What Really Happens During a Divorce TrialTampa divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright explore what really happens when a divorce case goes to trial in this first episode of a two-part deep dive. As part of the tenth...

What does a divorce courtroom look like and who will be there?

How does evidence get admitted during a trial?

What happens during opening statements and how do they shape the case?

Key Takeaways:

Trials move quickly—preparation and organization are crucial
Evidence must be authenticated, relevant, and admissible to be considered
Like a tennis match, trials have momentum shifts but staying focused is key

Schedule a consult with Seth
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:36) - The Trial Part One
(01:29) - The Courtroom
(04:56) - Public Viewing
(06:57) - Taking Notes
(08:26) - Procedures
(10:54) - Memoranda, Joint Stipulated Exhibits, Etc.
(16:36) - Evidence
(17:40) - Getting It Into the Transcript
(19:00) - Housekeeping Issues
(20:02) - Kids
(20:24) - Back to Housekeeping Issues
(23:58) - Opening Statements
(27:06) - Presenting the Evidence
(28:13) - Closing Statements
(29:25) - Painting a Picture
(30:15) - Chess Match
(33:00) - Next Time and Wrap Up

]]>2096break-up,divorce,relationship,splitfalse1025fullYou Asked, We Answer: Your Toughest Divorce Questionshttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/you-asked-we-answer-your-toughest-divorce-questions--68576725

Post-divorce cohabitation: Managing shared home ownership with a low interest rate

Dating during slow-moving divorce proceedings: Understanding potential consequences

International divorce complications: Handling custody with a foreign national spouse

Reunification therapy timeline: What to expect in the healing process

Documenting parental alienation: Effective strategies for court

Catholic annulment concerns: Managing religious and legal proceedings

Creative settlement options: Handling significant age gap divorces

Legal annulment vs. divorce: Understanding the differences and requirements

Enforcing custody agreements: Dealing with violations and discovery requests

Why This Episode MattersThe episode delivers valuable insights for anyone facing divorce, whether dealing with unique living arrangements, complex financial situations, or challenging custody scenarios. Seth and Pete's practical approach and clear explanations make complex legal concepts accessible while emphasizing the importance of making informed decisions throughout the divorce process.Links & Notes

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(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:27) - Listener Questions!
(01:16) - Question One
(09:44) - Question Two
(12:06) - Question Three
(14:26) - Question Four
(16:09) - Question Five
(20:06) - Question Six
(25:40) - Question Seven
(28:10) - Question Eight
(31:11) - Question Nine
(37:30) - Wrap Up

]]>ae05ab05-9d69-474b-995b-748e07af2468Tue, 18 Feb 2025 11:00:00 +0000TruStory FMYour Burning Divorce Questions: Expert Answers for Real-Life SituationsAs part of this season's deep dive into "Your Divorce Case," Pete Wright and family law attorney Seth Nelson tackle listener questions spanning complex financial arrangements to...