https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unfeigned--6667231enSelf-ImprovementCopyright Jay Millerhttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/b835ca8f5309be5bd5c4165f4968939f.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unfeigned--6667231Wed, 05 Aug 2026 22:42:59 +0000Jay MillerJay Millerfeeds@spreaker.comUNFeigned the podcast is dedicated to helping people experience healing, growth, and redemption as they walk in their unmasked story.falseepisodichttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/value-vs-purpose--73519528ada9944a-44bf-41f9-b1e6-cf2f924a8bc7Wed, 05 Aug 2026 20:51:08 +0000Jay MillerI wasn't expecting to learn one of the biggest lessons of my life from a Hallmark Christmas movie...but there I was.Somebody asked a man why he walked away from a successful venture capital career to move back to his hometown in Maine so he can help...2980falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-m-not-supposed-to-feel-this-right--718831913780bf1b-5daf-4413-a316-980fcb67556eWed, 06 May 2026 00:17:27 +0000Jay MillerWhat are you supposed to do if you're feeling broken after you've healed? I've healed from these things already. I'm not supposed tofeel broken again...am I?860falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/effects-of-social-media-grown-addicted--68065225On this episode of UNFeigned the Podcast, we’re flipping the camera on us l, the adults...the parents...the professionals...the leaders, because maybe it’s not just our kids who need a digital detox. Maybe it’s us.]]>f4046868-11a4-4f59-b6d7-dfbfcd1520bcWed, 08 Oct 2025 14:33:52 +0000Jay MillerWe tell our kids to get off their phones, while we’re scrolling in the bathroom. We call it ‘work,’ ‘networking,’ or ‘staying informed’, but let’s be real, most of us are just chasing that same dopamine hit, wrapped in grown-up excuses. On this...On this episode of UNFeigned the Podcast, we’re flipping the camera on us l, the adults...the parents...the professionals...the leaders, because maybe it’s not just our kids who need a digital detox. Maybe it’s us.]]>1349falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/effects-of-social-media-generation-scroll--68024104Have you ever handed your kid a phone just to get a moment of peace? Yeah, we all have. Here’s the part that keeps me up at night though. We didn’t just give them a device. We handed them a mirror that talks back.
➡️ That mirror doesn’t just reflect who they are; it tells them who they should be...24/7.
➡️ That mirror compares, measures, mocks, edits, filters, validates, and rejects them, all before their brains even know how to process identity.
We didn’t mean to, but we’ve created the most connected, and simultaneously, the most anxious, depressed, overstimulated, and under-connected generation in history.]]>82e7ee60-a462-4a8f-98ed-5f4550670b56Sun, 05 Oct 2025 21:22:22 +0000Jay Miller🎙️ Episode 2...Generation Scroll: What It’s Doing to Our Kids Have you ever handed your kid a phone just to get a moment of peace? Yeah, we all have. Here’s the part that keeps me up at night though. We didn’t just give them a device. We handed them a...Have you ever handed your kid a phone just to get a moment of peace? Yeah, we all have. Here’s the part that keeps me up at night though. We didn’t just give them a device. We handed them a mirror that talks back.
➡️ That mirror doesn’t just reflect who they are; it tells them who they should be...24/7.
➡️ That mirror compares, measures, mocks, edits, filters, validates, and rejects them, all before their brains even know how to process identity.
We didn’t mean to, but we’ve created the most connected, and simultaneously, the most anxious, depressed, overstimulated, and under-connected generation in history.]]>1488falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/effects-of-social-media-the-digital-drug--68017374We live in the most connected time in history, and yet we’ve never been more disconnected from ourselves, our families, and our peace.
The 'Effects of Social Media' series is a raw, unfiltered, deeply human look at what constant connectivity is doing to our minds, our bodies, and our souls.
This series blends psychology, neuroscience, faith, sarcasm, and truth to unpack how social media rewires our brains, reshapes our relationships, and rewrites our sense of worth. It’s part therapy, part intervention, and part mirror, the kind you probably don’t want to look into, but need to.
Each episode challenges you to confront digital addiction, reclaim your attention, and rediscover what it means to be present, because your life deserves more than likes; it deserves your attention.
We’re not just losing focus, we’re losing ourselves. It’s time to take our minds, our families, and our souls back.]]>bbcf230c-37e6-47c0-a608-d10647219000Sun, 05 Oct 2025 04:23:52 +0000Jay Miller🎙️ New Series: The Effects of Social Media We live in the most connected time in history, and yet we’ve never been more disconnected from ourselves, our families, and our peace. The 'Effects of Social Media' series is a raw, unfiltered, deeply human...We live in the most connected time in history, and yet we’ve never been more disconnected from ourselves, our families, and our peace.
The 'Effects of Social Media' series is a raw, unfiltered, deeply human look at what constant connectivity is doing to our minds, our bodies, and our souls.
This series blends psychology, neuroscience, faith, sarcasm, and truth to unpack how social media rewires our brains, reshapes our relationships, and rewrites our sense of worth. It’s part therapy, part intervention, and part mirror, the kind you probably don’t want to look into, but need to.
Each episode challenges you to confront digital addiction, reclaim your attention, and rediscover what it means to be present, because your life deserves more than likes; it deserves your attention.
We’re not just losing focus, we’re losing ourselves. It’s time to take our minds, our families, and our souls back.]]>2089falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/be-curious-not-judgmental-questions-save-relationships--67898572You ever had someone ask you a question that wasn’t really a question? It was more like an accusation wearing a trench coat. You know, "Why are you always late?" or, "Why can’t you just…?" Those aren’t questions. Those are judgmental grenades...but real questions, curious questions, can literally save relationships.
On Episode 2, 'Questions Save Relationships', we’re going to unpack how asking the right kind of questions can take a marriage off life support, rebuild trust between friends, and even stop conflict in its tracks. Here’s the truth: questions can heal, or they can destroy.]]>4d263f12-ea33-4a31-b1e3-33658fd6e71cThu, 25 Sep 2025 14:58:39 +0000Jay Miller🎙️ (Ep. 2) Be Curious, Not Judgmental: Questions Save Relationships You ever had someone ask you a question that wasn’t really a question? It was more like an accusation wearing a trench coat. You know, "Why are you always late?" or, "Why can’t you...You ever had someone ask you a question that wasn’t really a question? It was more like an accusation wearing a trench coat. You know, "Why are you always late?" or, "Why can’t you just…?" Those aren’t questions. Those are judgmental grenades...but real questions, curious questions, can literally save relationships.
On Episode 2, 'Questions Save Relationships', we’re going to unpack how asking the right kind of questions can take a marriage off life support, rebuild trust between friends, and even stop conflict in its tracks. Here’s the truth: questions can heal, or they can destroy.]]>970falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/be-curious-not-judgmental-curiosity-vs-judgment--67896464This series digs into one of my core mantras: Be Curious, Not Judgmental.
Each episode explores what it means to approach people with openness, humility, and curiosity instead of assumptions, accusations, or hidden agendas. It unpacks how curiosity builds bridges in every type of relationship, whether with a spouse, a child, a friend, a coworker, or even with strangers, and how judgment shuts those bridges down before they can even be walked on.
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#attentionattractionpursuit #choosecommitconfront#becuriousnotjudgemental]]>df94bed7-f219-4abe-aa93-dd0ba10e8be2Thu, 25 Sep 2025 13:10:55 +0000Jay Miller🎙️ New Podcast Series: Be Curious, Not Judgmental This series digs into one of my core mantras: Be Curious, Not Judgmental. Each episode explores what it means to approach people with openness, humility, and curiosity instead of assumptions,...This series digs into one of my core mantras: Be Curious, Not Judgmental.
Each episode explores what it means to approach people with openness, humility, and curiosity instead of assumptions, accusations, or hidden agendas. It unpacks how curiosity builds bridges in every type of relationship, whether with a spouse, a child, a friend, a coworker, or even with strangers, and how judgment shuts those bridges down before they can even be walked on.
unfeigned.org
#attentionattractionpursuit #choosecommitconfront#becuriousnotjudgemental]]>898falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/unintelligence-charlie-kirk--67754339In this episode, we dive into the necessity of intelligent conversations, why they matter, and why settling for immature, unintelligent arguments has left us with chaos, cultural decline, and a generation unable to discern right from wrong. We’ll talk about the importance of recognizing absolute truth, because without it, we’re just chasing feelings, trends, and opinions that shift like the wind.
Real change doesn’t come from yelling louder or canceling those we disagree with. It comes from being willing to sit down, reason together, and pursue truth with clarity and conviction. If we actually want to move forward as a society, it starts here: choosing maturity over immaturity, intelligence over ignorance, and truth over confusion.]]>dc19788c-4b4c-4c09-8fcf-a6c6ba898c2eSun, 14 Sep 2025 14:46:39 +0000Jay MillerIn today’s world, we’re drowning in noise...social media hot takes, childish name-calling, and debates that sound more like playground fights than meaningful dialogue. The result? Division, confusion, and a culture that’s forgotten what truth even is....In this episode, we dive into the necessity of intelligent conversations, why they matter, and why settling for immature, unintelligent arguments has left us with chaos, cultural decline, and a generation unable to discern right from wrong. We’ll talk about the importance of recognizing absolute truth, because without it, we’re just chasing feelings, trends, and opinions that shift like the wind.
Real change doesn’t come from yelling louder or canceling those we disagree with. It comes from being willing to sit down, reason together, and pursue truth with clarity and conviction. If we actually want to move forward as a society, it starts here: choosing maturity over immaturity, intelligence over ignorance, and truth over confusion.]]>1682falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/let-s-talk-about-it-healing-sexual-wounds--676173955911d6ce-9fe1-4d6b-bd08-e2b2389412beWed, 03 Sep 2025 13:14:20 +0000Jay MillerMost of us carry wounds when it comes to sex...wounds from the way we were taught about it, wounds from experiences that hurt us, wounds from shame and silence, and you can try to cover it up with performance, with jokes, with busyness…but wounds have...885falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/healing-out-loud-narcissism--67566439unfeigned.org skool.com/unfeigned"The Legends of Arkeia" ↔️ https://a.co/d/5Ez9HrA]]>4a6298b7-7d9a-48ba-82aa-a07e683faec1Sat, 30 Aug 2025 22:32:39 +0000Jay Miller➡️ How do I tell if I’m with a narcissist?➡️ Why is it that men are only called narcissists?➡️ Can’t women be narcissists too?➡️ What are the signs of narcissism?➡️ Can you do a deep dive into narcissism?➡️ How do I ‘deal’ with a narcissist?...unfeigned.org skool.com/unfeigned"The Legends of Arkeia" ↔️ https://a.co/d/5Ez9HrA]]>2290falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/let-s-talk-about-it-the-art-of-play--67469211Here’s the truth...sex without play is like a joke without a punchline. Intimacy dies when laughter leaves.
In this episode, of 'Let’s Talk About It', we’re breaking down why flirting, laughter, and curiosity might just be the sexiest things in your relationship.
unfeigned.org ➡️ JOIN THE TRIBE]]>6c387228-e43e-40ad-981e-931a1f903265Thu, 21 Aug 2025 14:31:48 +0000Jay MillerLet’s be real. Too many couples are having “maintenance sex”...Scheduled. Serious. Silent. Then they wonder why the spark is gone. Here’s the truth...sex without play is like a joke without a punchline. Intimacy dies when laughter leaves. In this...Here’s the truth...sex without play is like a joke without a punchline. Intimacy dies when laughter leaves.
In this episode, of 'Let’s Talk About It', we’re breaking down why flirting, laughter, and curiosity might just be the sexiest things in your relationship.
unfeigned.org ➡️ JOIN THE TRIBE]]>1312falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/let-s-talk-about-it-whats-going-on-in-your-head--67418276We’re going to unpack the unspoken mental soundtrack that plays during intimacy, and why it matters more than most couples ever admit.]]>56fa2128-ca7d-4e91-a508-06c0db562a6fMon, 18 Aug 2025 15:35:13 +0000Jay MillerThe biggest block to great sex isn’t usually physical. It’s mental. It’s the stories we’re telling ourselves in the moment, and those stories can either draw us closer or shut us down completely. We’re going to unpack the unspoken mental soundtrack...We’re going to unpack the unspoken mental soundtrack that plays during intimacy, and why it matters more than most couples ever admit.]]>927falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/let-s-talk-about-it-why-men-women-miss-each-other--67360938It’s misunderstanding.
Two people who care about each other, who want each other, who have the right intentions, but they’re missing each other like two trains running on parallel tracks that never cross..and the wild part? Most couples don’t even realize it’s happening until the damage has already piled up.
This episode takes you inside this problem; how men and women often come at intimacy from two totally different directions, why that creates frustration and resentment, and how to stop living in the cycle of “you never…” and “you always…”, before it kills connection.]]>3cb593f2-97de-4b3b-8455-9e50293b9fb1Wed, 13 Aug 2025 21:51:19 +0000Jay MillerThere is something that quietly kills desire in a relationship. It’s not betrayal. It’s not attraction fading. It’s not even a lack of love. It’s misunderstanding. Two people who care about each other, who want each other, who have the right...It’s misunderstanding.
Two people who care about each other, who want each other, who have the right intentions, but they’re missing each other like two trains running on parallel tracks that never cross..and the wild part? Most couples don’t even realize it’s happening until the damage has already piled up.
This episode takes you inside this problem; how men and women often come at intimacy from two totally different directions, why that creates frustration and resentment, and how to stop living in the cycle of “you never…” and “you always…”, before it kills connection.]]>1010falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/let-s-talk-about-it-intimacy-is-not-what-you-think--67347483This isn’t your typical, "surface-level talk" about relationships. In this raw and unfiltered series, we’re getting real about what happens behind closed doors, and beyond them. From the beauty of true intimacy, to the struggles couples rarely admit, we’ll unpack the truth about sex, love, and connection without the shame or sugarcoating.
If you’re ready for honest conversations that challenge, inspire, and make you think differently about your own relationships, let’s talk about it!]]>b373d55a-baf9-450d-b3b8-cf4fa36ef98bTue, 12 Aug 2025 15:55:14 +0000Jay MillerNew Series:Let’s Talk About It: Sex, Love, & Intimacy in Real Life This isn’t your typical, "surface-level talk" about relationships. In this raw and unfiltered series, we’re getting real about what happens behind closed doors, and beyond them....This isn’t your typical, "surface-level talk" about relationships. In this raw and unfiltered series, we’re getting real about what happens behind closed doors, and beyond them. From the beauty of true intimacy, to the struggles couples rarely admit, we’ll unpack the truth about sex, love, and connection without the shame or sugarcoating.
If you’re ready for honest conversations that challenge, inspire, and make you think differently about your own relationships, let’s talk about it!]]>1135falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/myths-we-believe-about-healing--672778292d9f16db-e51c-40e4-ae91-f26989ec7ac9Wed, 06 Aug 2025 20:03:48 +0000Jay MillerOne of the myths we believe about being healed is that, in order to be healed, the emotions that we used to feel when we were broken must disappear. It's as if we think that if we feel any of those things, then we must not be healed. That couldn't be...1256falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/after-the-break-radical-honesty-no-more-secrets--672302104393dece-6b2b-4897-a575-1714addbb071Sat, 02 Aug 2025 16:33:36 +0000Jay MillerThis episode will be hard. It will feel vulnerable. It may feel terrifying, because today, we’re talking about radical honesty. Not partial confessions. Not half-truths. Not convenient omissions.This is the moment where the lights get turned all the...960falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/healing-out-loud-pt-2-7-25-25-episode-includes-sensitive-material--67114487On this episode, I answer the following question:
What advice would you give to someone who was groomed and taken advantage of by a mentor?]]>a9e07ffd-009c-45cb-9944-ba3a352459cdFri, 25 Jul 2025 15:57:09 +0000Jay MillerHealing Out Loud is a series, released the last Friday of every month, where we dive into questions submitted by y'all. On this episode, I answer the following question: What advice would you give to someone who was groomed and taken advantage of by...On this episode, I answer the following question:
What advice would you give to someone who was groomed and taken advantage of by a mentor?]]>1487falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/healing-out-loud-7-25-25--67114486On this episode, I answer the following question:
How should one propose Christian-based coaching to a spouse when counseling (secular) was torturous for them? They struggle with communication. We have been together for decades but we have so much to work on to restore our marriage. We can’t fix this on our own. We need an outside party to lead the conversation. What can they look forward to with coaching?]]>8fa6b5d0-c7b3-4abe-b93c-44ae9531dbc2Fri, 25 Jul 2025 15:53:58 +0000Jay MillerHealing Out Loud is a series, released the last Friday of every month, where we dive into questions submitted by y'all. On this episode, I answer the following question: How should one propose Christian-based coaching to a spouse when counseling...On this episode, I answer the following question:
How should one propose Christian-based coaching to a spouse when counseling (secular) was torturous for them? They struggle with communication. We have been together for decades but we have so much to work on to restore our marriage. We can’t fix this on our own. We need an outside party to lead the conversation. What can they look forward to with coaching?]]>1905falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/behind-the-mask-ep-1--67073043"Behind The Mask" is where I take you there, to the unspoken, to the wounds I’ve lived through but haven't talked about on this podcast yet, to the moments that shaped me in ways that ultimately led to my healing.
No script. No polish. Just raw. Just me. And maybe, just maybe, you'll hear a piece of you in it too.
🎙 Episode 1 is available now for everyone, but moving forward, these raw and unfiltered episodes will only be available to my podcast supporters, because some conversations deserve sacred space.
If you've ever felt hidden behind your smile…If you're carrying things you don’t talk about…If you’re ready to heal in real-time, not just in hindsight...
Then come Behind The Mask with me.
🎧 Listen now. Be moved. Be seen. And if you're ready to go deeper, join the tribe of supporters making space for this kind of healing.
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#BehindTheMask#attentionattractionpursuit #choosecommitconfront #becuriousnotjudgemental]]>9d342594-0b7b-4b24-b1ba-6730bd3b25b0Tue, 22 Jul 2025 13:13:27 +0000Jay MillerThere are parts of my story I’ve never shared on this podcast. However, those parts were very real, very painful, and very broken —when I was sitting in silence, trying to hold the pieces together, asking if I'll ever feel whole again. "Behind The..."Behind The Mask" is where I take you there, to the unspoken, to the wounds I’ve lived through but haven't talked about on this podcast yet, to the moments that shaped me in ways that ultimately led to my healing.
No script. No polish. Just raw. Just me. And maybe, just maybe, you'll hear a piece of you in it too.
🎙 Episode 1 is available now for everyone, but moving forward, these raw and unfiltered episodes will only be available to my podcast supporters, because some conversations deserve sacred space.
If you've ever felt hidden behind your smile…If you're carrying things you don’t talk about…If you’re ready to heal in real-time, not just in hindsight...
Then come Behind The Mask with me.
🎧 Listen now. Be moved. Be seen. And if you're ready to go deeper, join the tribe of supporters making space for this kind of healing.
unfeigned.org
#BehindTheMask#attentionattractionpursuit #choosecommitconfront #becuriousnotjudgemental]]>2435falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/after-the-break-naming-what-broke--67039584This is about what happens when the marriage has been shattered by betrayal, when one of you, or both, stepped outside the covenant, when one of you was left reeling, when trust was broken, hearts were crushed, and everything feels like it’s hanging by a thread.
This is about truth. This is about repair. This is about restoration. I want you to hear this...Healing is possible. Restoration is possible, but it begins with naming what broke.]]>ab609873-debc-41dd-be96-51e633d4a9deSat, 19 Jul 2025 17:38:36 +0000Jay MillerThis isn’t about pointing fingers. It’s not about quick fixes. It’s not about hiding behind “God will work it out”, without actually doing the work. This is about what happens when the marriage has been shattered by betrayal, when one of you, or both,...This is about what happens when the marriage has been shattered by betrayal, when one of you, or both, stepped outside the covenant, when one of you was left reeling, when trust was broken, hearts were crushed, and everything feels like it’s hanging by a thread.
This is about truth. This is about repair. This is about restoration. I want you to hear this...Healing is possible. Restoration is possible, but it begins with naming what broke.]]>2803falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/new-series-after-the-break-restoring-marriage-after-infidelity--6703508239407676-1ba0-4714-93ee-d996acc390bfSat, 19 Jul 2025 03:24:08 +0000Jay MillerThis new series, "After the Break - Restoring Marriage After Infidelity", is a deeply honest and healing series, designed for couples walking through the devastation of betrayal, and also for singles who want to build healthy, lasting love in the...617falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotionally-whole-series-living-regulated-in-a-dysregulated-world--66976029It’s one thing to regulate your emotions in a quiet morning with your Bible open, coffee hot, worship music on……but what about when you walk out the door?What about when you turn on the news?What about when you go to work, or sit across the dinner table from someone who pushes every button you have?
We live in a world that is Loud...Overstimulated...Reactive...Addicted to outrage, and if you’re not careful, you’ll start to match its pace. You’ll pick up its fears. You’ll mirror its anxiety.
We were not designed to mirror the chaos. We were designed to carry peace.]]>ed1fa97a-66d9-4a06-a1b7-2c656c0d2c89Mon, 14 Jul 2025 15:26:30 +0000Jay MillerOn this final episode in our Emotionally Whole Series, we’re going to talk about how to sustain emotional regulation, when the world around you still feels chchaotic. It’s one thing to regulate your emotions in a quiet morning with your Bible open,...It’s one thing to regulate your emotions in a quiet morning with your Bible open, coffee hot, worship music on……but what about when you walk out the door?What about when you turn on the news?What about when you go to work, or sit across the dinner table from someone who pushes every button you have?
We live in a world that is Loud...Overstimulated...Reactive...Addicted to outrage, and if you’re not careful, you’ll start to match its pace. You’ll pick up its fears. You’ll mirror its anxiety.
We were not designed to mirror the chaos. We were designed to carry peace.]]>1366falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotionally-whole-series-healing-the-inner-critic--66976030You know what I mean — that harsh, accusing, critical, unforgiving voice that lives in the back of your mind, repeating:
“You’ll never be enough.”“Why did you do that?”“See, you messed up again.”
That voice is sneaky. It sounds like truth, but it’s actually shame, and if you’ve lived long enough, you’ve probably started to believe that voice was you.]]>5e52bfcc-e294-42af-b31c-3ac513b1be4eMon, 14 Jul 2025 15:12:29 +0000Jay MillerOn this episode, we’re talking about a voice that can feel louder than all the others...the inner critic. You know what I mean — that harsh, accusing, critical, unforgiving voice that lives in the back of your mind, repeating: “You’ll never be...You know what I mean — that harsh, accusing, critical, unforgiving voice that lives in the back of your mind, repeating:
“You’ll never be enough.”“Why did you do that?”“See, you messed up again.”
That voice is sneaky. It sounds like truth, but it’s actually shame, and if you’ve lived long enough, you’ve probably started to believe that voice was you.]]>1737falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotionally-whole-series-learning-to-pause-before-you-explode-or-dissappear--66909444We’re going to learn how to pause in that moment — to hold the tension — so you can respond in truth instead of react in fear.
Pausing is hard, but it is holy work. It is a sacred practice that changes relationships, changes families, and changes your legacy.]]>9aad5b6c-fade-44df-9ccb-797464330f3fWed, 09 Jul 2025 05:29:17 +0000Jay MillerThis episode is about that split-second moment — when you feel the surge of anger, the flood of tears, the urge to run, or the impulse to shut down. That moment when you’re about to explode… or disappear. We’re going to learn how to pause in that...We’re going to learn how to pause in that moment — to hold the tension — so you can respond in truth instead of react in fear.
Pausing is hard, but it is holy work. It is a sacred practice that changes relationships, changes families, and changes your legacy.]]>1704falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotionally-whole-series-feelings-aren-t-facts-they-re-messengers--66863911Feelings aren’t facts, they're messengers. They are real, but they aren’t always right.
unfeigned.org coff.ee/unfeigned]]>9e8a1d09-2feb-417b-a7c4-92cd628508efFri, 04 Jul 2025 20:44:28 +0000Jay MillerWe either believe every feeling we have is truth, or we shame ourselves for even having feelings in the first place. Feelings aren’t facts, they're messengers. They are real, but they aren’t always right. unfeigned.org coff.ee/unfeignedFeelings aren’t facts, they're messengers. They are real, but they aren’t always right.
unfeigned.org coff.ee/unfeigned]]>1626falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotionally-whole-when-you-re-triggered-and-don-t-know-why--66825066That, my friend, is what we call being triggered. A trigger is not weakness. A trigger is not proof you’re failing. A trigger is an alarm system.
Y’all, triggers are not the problem. They’re the invitation.]]>22fd9818-81d7-4c6e-bcb8-093a1fbeff23Tue, 01 Jul 2025 17:35:26 +0000Jay MillerEveryone of us has gone through this...those moments where you’re going about your day, you’re fine — and then you're not; something happens: a comment, a look, a memory, a tone of voice. Your chest gets tight. Your mind is racing. You shut down or...That, my friend, is what we call being triggered. A trigger is not weakness. A trigger is not proof you’re failing. A trigger is an alarm system.
Y’all, triggers are not the problem. They’re the invitation.]]>1633falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/healing-out-loud-6-27--66772613On this episode, I answer two questions:
1) I feel like I’ve lost myself after years of putting everyone else first. Where do I even begin to heal when I don’t recognize who I am anymore?2) My spouse and I are barely speaking. I don’t know how to fix what’s been broken for so long. Is it too late to restore our marriage?]]>2e5d2a3e-532f-4672-bd32-628e285c85b0Fri, 27 Jun 2025 12:35:13 +0000Jay MillerHealing Out Loud is the last Friday of every month, where I answer questions submitted by y'all. On this episode, I answer two questions: 1) I feel like I’ve lost myself after years of putting everyone else first. Where do I even begin to heal when I...On this episode, I answer two questions:
1) I feel like I’ve lost myself after years of putting everyone else first. Where do I even begin to heal when I don’t recognize who I am anymore?2) My spouse and I are barely speaking. I don’t know how to fix what’s been broken for so long. Is it too late to restore our marriage?]]>1726falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotionally-whole-series-what-even-is-emotional-regulation--66752463Some of us learned how to numb before we ever learned how to feel. We learned to shut down, to shut people out, to keep everything under control because we didn’t trust what would happen if we let our emotions lead, but this series...This series is about learning a better way, a whole way, a healing way.
You don’t have to be ruled by your emotions. You don’t have to shut them down, either. There’s another way—and it’s called being emotionally whole.]]>33a98a9b-2a83-4670-8ad0-be321d212667Tue, 24 Jun 2025 16:55:45 +0000Jay MillerWe’re starting a brand new series called “Emotionally Whole: Learning to Feel Without Falling Apart.” Some of us learned how to numb before we ever learned how to feel. We learned to shut down, to shut people out, to keep everything under control...Some of us learned how to numb before we ever learned how to feel. We learned to shut down, to shut people out, to keep everything under control because we didn’t trust what would happen if we let our emotions lead, but this series...This series is about learning a better way, a whole way, a healing way.
You don’t have to be ruled by your emotions. You don’t have to shut them down, either. There’s another way—and it’s called being emotionally whole.]]>1524falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/brokenness-to-healing-series-redeemed-for-purpose-your-story-has-power--66752464You are redeemed for a reason. Your story isn’t something to hide, it’s something to hold up as a light.
You’ve walked through brokenness.You’ve faced the wounds.You’ve chosen healing.You’ve been rebuilt.You’ve been restored.You are whole.
Now, you’re ready to live redeemed for a purpose.
unfeigned.orgunfeignedpodcast@gmail.comcoff.ee/unfeigned]]>3fa2f165-164d-40f6-88a1-d03b00234026Sun, 22 Jun 2025 01:59:04 +0000Jay MillerThe pain you’ve endured, the healing you’ve walked through, the breakthroughs you’ve experienced...they were never just about you. You are redeemed for a reason. Your story isn’t something to hide, it’s something to hold up as a light. You’ve walked...You are redeemed for a reason. Your story isn’t something to hide, it’s something to hold up as a light.
You’ve walked through brokenness.You’ve faced the wounds.You’ve chosen healing.You’ve been rebuilt.You’ve been restored.You are whole.
Now, you’re ready to live redeemed for a purpose.
unfeigned.orgunfeignedpodcast@gmail.comcoff.ee/unfeigned]]>1255falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/brokenness-to-healing-series-wholeness-living-unbroken--66752478Wholeness is not perfection. Wholeness means you are:
Fully presentFully awareFully surrenderedFully at peace with your past, present, and future
You were never meant to live broken forever.Healing brought you out, but wholeness moves you forward.
Healing is a process. Wholeness is a lifestyle.]]>108adc25-9c69-4030-9623-a775fd831541Tue, 17 Jun 2025 04:39:16 +0000Jay MillerAfter brokenness, after healing, after rebuilding—comes wholeness, but what does it actually look like to live unbroken, to not just heal from your past, but to stop living like you’re still wounded? Wholeness is not perfection. Wholeness means you...Wholeness is not perfection. Wholeness means you are:
Fully presentFully awareFully surrenderedFully at peace with your past, present, and future
You were never meant to live broken forever.Healing brought you out, but wholeness moves you forward.
Healing is a process. Wholeness is a lifestyle.]]>1659falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/brokenness-to-healing-series-the-restoration-trusting-again-loving-again--66752475Pain makes us self-protective, and while that may serve us temporarily, long-term it becomes a prison. If you don’t confront the residue of your brokenness, you’ll sabotage your restoration.]]>8151cf90-2494-4e18-ae39-a256c8858f75Fri, 13 Jun 2025 13:03:18 +0000Jay MillerThere is something we all long for, but often fear: restoration. More specifically—how do you begin to trust again and love again, when the very things that broke you were tied to relationships? Pain makes us self-protective, and while that may serve...Pain makes us self-protective, and while that may serve us temporarily, long-term it becomes a prison. If you don’t confront the residue of your brokenness, you’ll sabotage your restoration.]]>1696falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/brokenness-to-healing-series-the-rebuilding-identity-after-the-break--66752468We often think healing means returning to who we were before the pain, but the truth is, that version of you can’t carry the weight of your calling. God isn’t restoring you to the past — He’s rebuilding you for the future. Letting go of who you used to be is sacred work.
You are not your trauma.You are not your survival mechanisms.You are not your shame.You are becoming!]]>a6f932c8-51d0-4735-9434-ff05397caf2aTue, 10 Jun 2025 00:55:41 +0000Jay MillerWhen the pain fades, when the pieces begin to come together — What remains? What emerges? We often think healing means returning to who we were before the pain, but the truth is, that version of you can’t carry the weight of your calling. God isn’t...We often think healing means returning to who we were before the pain, but the truth is, that version of you can’t carry the weight of your calling. God isn’t restoring you to the past — He’s rebuilding you for the future. Letting go of who you used to be is sacred work.
You are not your trauma.You are not your survival mechanisms.You are not your shame.You are becoming!]]>2008falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/brokenness-to-healing-series-the-confrontation-facing-what-you-ve-avoided--66752476www.unfeigned.orgunfeignedpodcast@gmail.com
Today's episode is one of the most pivotal in the series. Healing isn't just about naming the pain - it's about facing it. Confrontation is not cruelty; it's clarity. It's the moment you stop hiding, stop blaming, and start owning the path to healing. Freedom isn't found in avoidance. It's found in facing what you'd rather forget. Confrontation isn't about discomfort - it's about freedom.]]>c5490583-34e7-4337-9f39-d978374f7bdbSat, 07 Jun 2025 02:09:21 +0000Jay MillerAre you looking to heal from areas of brokenness in your own life and/or in your relationship? Schedule a coaching session & let's connect! www.unfeigned.orgunfeignedpodcast@gmail.com Today's episode is one of the most pivotal in the series....www.unfeigned.orgunfeignedpodcast@gmail.com
Today's episode is one of the most pivotal in the series. Healing isn't just about naming the pain - it's about facing it. Confrontation is not cruelty; it's clarity. It's the moment you stop hiding, stop blaming, and start owning the path to healing. Freedom isn't found in avoidance. It's found in facing what you'd rather forget. Confrontation isn't about discomfort - it's about freedom.]]>1307falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/brokenness-to-healing-series-choosing-to-heal--66752480Survival is not the same as healing, and healing is not a feeling—it’s a decision. You can’t heal what you haven’t chosen. If you make the choice to heal today, you'll be doing something powerful—making a choice, and every day forward, that choice will shape your transformation.
Healing is not a one-time moment. It’s a daily yes. A consistent confrontation. A sacred commitment to wholeness.]]>870ab142-1004-420a-8372-a249f881e2b5Tue, 03 Jun 2025 01:34:09 +0000Jay MillerIn our first two episodes, we talked about acknowledging brokenness and uncovering the wounds. On this episode, we talk about what might be the most difficult—and most courageous—step in the journey: choosing to heal. Survival is not the same as...Survival is not the same as healing, and healing is not a feeling—it’s a decision. You can’t heal what you haven’t chosen. If you make the choice to heal today, you'll be doing something powerful—making a choice, and every day forward, that choice will shape your transformation.
Healing is not a one-time moment. It’s a daily yes. A consistent confrontation. A sacred commitment to wholeness.]]>1433false128fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/1st-live-q-a--66752481www.unfeigned.org unfeignedpodcast@gmail.com www.tinyurl.com/unfeignedpodcast
On the last Friday of every month, we will dedicated that episode to answering listener submitted questions, and to offering advice that our listeners have asked for. You can submit questions, and/or ask for advice, by going to the 'Live Q&A's page at www.unfeigned.org.]]>836234ad-1c09-4954-bd62-a71a21a80216Fri, 30 May 2025 17:15:04 +0000Jay MillerToday's episode is the first episode in our live Q&A series. On this first episode, we dive into the topic of loving your spouse/partner without pushing them away. This is in the context of a broken relationship, whether that be a relationship...www.unfeigned.org unfeignedpodcast@gmail.com www.tinyurl.com/unfeignedpodcast
On the last Friday of every month, we will dedicated that episode to answering listener submitted questions, and to offering advice that our listeners have asked for. You can submit questions, and/or ask for advice, by going to the 'Live Q&A's page at www.unfeigned.org.]]>1529false128fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/brokenness-to-healing-series-uncovering-the-wounds--66752467The beliefs formed in pain become the stories we live by—and until we confront them, we’ll repeat them. Healing starts with attention. The more you notice, the more you can name. And the more you name, the more can be redeemed.]]>2f74d2eb-6d40-4417-9242-88ea43c130c8Thu, 29 May 2025 02:00:27 +0000Jay MillerIn the last episode, we confronted the reality of brokenness. Today, we go deeper. Because in order to heal, we must uncover where the pain began. That requires honesty, awareness, and the courage to look inward—not to shame ourselves, but to...The beliefs formed in pain become the stories we live by—and until we confront them, we’ll repeat them. Healing starts with attention. The more you notice, the more you can name. And the more you name, the more can be redeemed.]]>1792false127fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/brokenness-to-healing-series-beauty-from-brokenness--667524908c528110-fbbe-4207-9f19-fca049758fa6Tue, 27 May 2025 21:58:13 +0000Jay MillerThis is the first in a series of episodes that will dive into going from brokenness to healing. In this episode, we will talk openly about what brokenness looks like, how do I identify its roots, and how to begin walking the path to healing.2014false126fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/live-q-a--667524775439f5b2-797f-432f-ac19-67058705bae4Sat, 24 May 2025 02:13:12 +0000Jay MillerGo to the 'Live Q & A' page at www.unfeigned.org and submit any questions you have, and/or advice you want, regarding healing in your own personal life or in your relationships. You can do this throughout the whole month, every month. You can also...106false126fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/exciting-announcement-tease--66752479d1428891-acb3-4538-b5da-dabd53b76dd6Fri, 23 May 2025 18:14:43 +0000Jay MillerCheck out UNFeigned the podcast, tonight after 10pm for an exciting announcement.62false125fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/it-s-not-that-big-of-a-deal--66752487560ca8bd-4e74-4dfd-a80c-65cead203644Thu, 22 May 2025 12:18:38 +0000Jay Miller"It's not that big of a deal". That phrase is used often in situations like this. But...Maybe it should be! Maybe it should be a big deal. Maybe if we were purposefully and intentionally making it a bigger deal, we wouldn't have so many broken...1683false124fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/there-s-power-in-forgiveness--667524833b15943e-06d8-4abd-a3bb-4f5afe884169Sun, 18 May 2025 11:46:11 +0000Jay MillerIt's often said that forgiveness isn't for the other person, that it's for you. However, I think that statement is only half true. When we forgive, it absolutely frees us from bondage, but it also does something to the other person. Check out this...991false123fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/where-the-hard-things-are--66752493098f6007-cf28-442b-b0e6-aa5cbfba9459Fri, 16 May 2025 20:38:33 +0000Jay MillerWhen confronted with the "hard things", the very things you need healing in, the difference between brokenness and healing isn't that those "hard things" disappear. The difference is in how we're affected and how we respond.926false122fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/are-we-supposed-to-are-triggers-a-thing--667524864fc66562-ca78-4233-a935-4585b8ea0a37Tue, 13 May 2025 16:23:20 +0000Jay MillerHow many times have we heard someone doing something because "that's the way it's always been done"? How many times have we allowed someone to act in a toxic way because, "that's just how they are"? How many times have we done these things ourselves?...2461false121fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/practical-help-for-healing--667525042a9fbdd7-1219-43a4-b63e-297be482ca58Sun, 04 May 2025 00:24:41 +0000Jay MillerRemember to follow this podcast!!! unfeignedpodcast@gmail.com Over the last few days, I have been asked a specific question. How did I heal? Like what were some of the practical things you did to heal? There is one thing that has to happen in order...2425falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-moment-of-vulnerability--66752492dfbaab16-36be-4c78-b92d-fe61ad2e31f5Wed, 30 Apr 2025 03:45:40 +0000Jay MillerIn a moment of vulnerability, I share two thoughts that came to me today. The first one absolutely wrecked me, and involved a trip down memory lane then thinking about "lasts". The other one is regarding a perspective on what to do when healing meets...1472false119fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/permission-to-grieve--66752489cd36f82d-1239-4533-992c-8893741a6d21Tue, 29 Apr 2025 04:00:39 +0000Jay MillerIt's so easy, and most of us do it, to simply get up and dust ourselves off, slap on a smile, and push through. Something that I missed early on in my healing journey, was giving myself permission to grieve. I failed at it miserably! Had I simply...1703false118fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/never-wonder-what-happened-again--66752470What if you could guarantee that you would never lose the romance in your relationship, the passion in your relationship, the love in your relationship, or the connection in your relationship?
There is something that we can do, that seems so simple yet carries unimaginable power, that will guarantee that we are never left wondering "what happened to our relationship".]]>ad9a3d62-77d2-485d-874d-3d8d5d00986aWed, 23 Apr 2025 12:56:12 +0000Jay Millerunfeignedpodcast@gmail.com What if you could guarantee that you would never lose the romance in your relationship, the passion in your relationship, the love in your relationship, or the connection in your relationship? There is something that we can...What if you could guarantee that you would never lose the romance in your relationship, the passion in your relationship, the love in your relationship, or the connection in your relationship?
There is something that we can do, that seems so simple yet carries unimaginable power, that will guarantee that we are never left wondering "what happened to our relationship".]]>1732falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-key-to-unlocking-the-perfect-relationship--66752505dd749d1e-2779-41a6-af0e-8cfb02846b33Sat, 19 Apr 2025 18:35:52 +0000Jay MillerOn this episode, discover a key to unlocking the "perfect" relationship. Find out why Perspective and Perception are such vital ingredients. Find out if one influences the other, and which one it is. Do this one simple thing and you will experience a...1782falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/fear-fuels-brokenness--66752471a3962414-58e1-462d-a92f-b6bd12673880Wed, 16 Apr 2025 19:07:16 +0000Jay MillerWhat stops us from experiencing healing? To understand that, we have to take a look at what stops us from being vulnerable and transparent. Whenever there is a risk of feeling uncomfortable, or hurt, or pain, we'll naturally choose comfort and safety....1790falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/coping--66752469745dafe9-8edf-4646-8837-94c13dbb191aThu, 10 Apr 2025 17:36:52 +0000Jay Millerwww.tinyurl.com/unfeignedpodcast unfeignedpodcast@gmail.com When life gets hard, how do you deal? How do you deal with really stressful times, or really difficult emotions? We all have coping mechanisms, and they will either be healthy or...1673falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/healed-not-perfect--6675249459a399a1-6fb4-4cd5-a6b2-7433672572aeFri, 04 Apr 2025 22:46:37 +0000Jay MillerWhat does it mean to be healed? Healing is misunderstood far too often. It's as though if even the slightest glimpse of who we used to be, or what we used to do, creeps up, then it's assumed that we're not actually healed. It's almost as though the...2277falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/never-grow-apart-again--66752495fd18fa7c-d943-40c8-b13a-8a677091492cTue, 01 Apr 2025 21:36:55 +0000Jay MillerThere's a common pitfall shared by broken relationships. It's the idea of "growing apart". When asked why relationships took a turn for the worse, or ended, the reason most commonly given is, "we grew apart". What if you could guarantee that you would...2754falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/functional-mental-health--667524724fbbf7cc-cd47-437c-9bae-fbcd020f4b8cFri, 28 Mar 2025 16:54:03 +0000Jay MillerThe idea of mental health is far too often used as a buzzword, thrown around so carelessly. I think it's great that it seems like it's being talked about more today than it ever has been, but I also still believe it's not talked about enough. There is...2647falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/power-of-attention--667525002f2bdee9-f0f6-45c1-952d-a1d98255fd72Tue, 25 Mar 2025 13:00:43 +0000Jay MillerWe all have an "inner critic" that, all too often, speaks to us out of our insecurities. As we give more of our attention to that, it's inevitable that we become attracted to it, and then we begin pursuing that. Unfortunately, once that process...3328false110fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/surrender-to-jail-part-3--66752496b89d7ba8-0a52-402e-8c9e-c4a96c44f38dSat, 22 Mar 2025 05:09:42 +0000Jay MillerPart 33035false19fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/surrender-to-jail-part-2--667524747ea966f3-8f55-4f12-93e3-db248614a1dcFri, 21 Mar 2025 04:36:36 +0000Jay MillerPart 23587false18fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/surrender-to-jail-part-1--66752497056c72be-c88c-4878-8739-828854d36e38Fri, 21 Mar 2025 04:28:17 +0000Jay MillerThis "season", Surrender to Jail, is probably the most crucial aspect of my 9-year journey. In this episode, I talk about how I got my life back on track but then how it all came crashing back down when I got arrested. Surrender to Jail will be a...3248false17fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/kicked-out-to-surrender--667525079b69d233-8c41-4b6e-b920-c7abcc073bfeFri, 14 Mar 2025 11:41:19 +0000Jay MillerMy whole world was turned upside down, and I just wanted to give up. It was during that darkest time of my life, when God came and got me. I was a Christian, but I never surrendered...until that day.3769false16fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/affair-kicked-out--66752498b009bfb2-cda8-412e-a887-2c4b1c910ab4Mon, 10 Mar 2025 01:07:42 +0000Jay MillerMy 9-year journey has happened in four "seasons", with the first one being from the affair to when I got kicked out of the house. This episode gives an overview of this first "season" of the journey.3169false15fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-journey-begins-part-2--6675250130637fbe-e740-4c9a-9a47-10b9908bc259Thu, 06 Mar 2025 04:17:10 +0000Jay MillerThis episode starts where the previous episode left off.1971false14fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-journey-begins-part-1--66752482b86b71c4-9f9d-4900-a2db-2413c7f1ba08Thu, 06 Mar 2025 00:04:13 +0000Jay MillerMy 9-year journey began back in 2016, with an event that took place that would forever change the course of my life.1217false13fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/life-s-formula--667525080ad25650-ed3b-4f46-88d8-b31bda5b2d4bFri, 28 Feb 2025 07:31:24 +0000Jay MillerOn this episode, I share a formula for most, if not all aspects of life. I also provide a backstory for one of the most crucial "battles" of my life. I'd love to hear from y'all. Email me at unfeignedpodcast@gmail.com.2223false12fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/laying-the-foundation--6675250991ad8211-bc34-404a-9e0e-29e6b4957ebdFri, 21 Feb 2025 05:23:57 +0000Jay MillerThis episode will be a bit different than future episodes. The focus of this episode is to provide some history, backstory, and vision for the podcast & future episodes. Thank you for listening. I really appreciate y'all. It would be awesome if...1981false11fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/unfeigned-trailer--66752503f52663ba-643b-4a47-85ba-f90766ae5429Thu, 13 Feb 2025 00:12:22 +0000Jay MillerUNFeigned is dedicated to helping people experience healing, growth, and redemption as they walk in their unmasked story.36falsetrailer