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If I replied to their posts with the advice they actually need, I'd just get banned and be told that I'm an idiot by the other commenters (despite having been on more dates with more women than all of them combined).

That's where this podcast comes in.

I'm checking out the most cringeworthy, clueless dating and relationship posts from Reddit to provide REAL dating advice for men that the gatekeepers of the internet don't want you to know.]]>enRelationshipsCopyright Roy Calvin | Dating Advicehttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/72fa563fea0e7c5c9ecd9212cced9dc4.jpghttps://www.linktr.ee/roycalvinTue, 15 Sep 2026 17:33:43 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceRoy Calvin | Dating Adviceyoudontknowroy@proton.meThere's a lot of clueless guys asking for dating advice on Reddit, and there's just as many people providing them with terrible guidance. If I replied to their posts with the advice they actually need, I'd just get banned and be told that I'm an...
If I replied to their posts with the advice they actually need, I'd just get banned and be told that I'm an idiot by the other commenters (despite having been on more dates with more women than all of them combined).

That's where this podcast comes in.

I'm checking out the most cringeworthy, clueless dating and relationship posts from Reddit to provide REAL dating advice for men that the gatekeepers of the internet don't want you to know.]]>truef8c94de4-0c5e-5661-a06a-7daceb2a6a23episodichttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/she-s-seeing-4-other-guys-and-told-me-this-is-just-how-dating-works-is-she-right--74712267- A guy who is sharing a girl with 4 other guys and thinks that might be fine.
- An insecure guy who doesn't like his girlfriend going out to clubs with her "guy friends."
- A guy whose relationship has fundamental issues but he's worried about the girl moving to another city.
- An overweight guy who says most couples meet on dating apps, so it's okay that he doesn't cold approach even though he gets no matches.
- A guy who drove an hour to a girl's house and then got told she's having a crisis and can't go out.

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Dating questions answered this episode:

1. Is it normal to date multiple people at the same time? Dating multiple people before exclusivity is established is possible, but that does not mean you have to be comfortable with it. If someone tells you she is actively dating several other men and that behavior is a major turnoff, you are allowed to decide that she is not the right person for you.
2. Should you date someone who is seeing several other people? You do not have to continue dating someone whose approach to dating conflicts with your own values. Even though neither person has technically broken an exclusivity agreement, you can still decide that dating someone who is seeing multiple other people is not something you want.
3. How can dating multiple people reduce anxiety in dating? Having several women in your dating life can make rejection or disappointment easier to handle because one person does not become your only option. When you have other opportunities, you are less likely to become overly invested in one woman before you really know her.
4. Is dating multiple people at once a normal part of modern dating? Multiple first dates may be common, but continuing to date several people after progressing to a third date is presented as much less typical. Dating several people can be useful for maintaining options, but it does not necessarily mean every woman is simultaneously pursuing several men.
5. How should you handle a girlfriend who goes out drinking with single friends and other men? You should distinguish between feeling jealous and deciding that someone's behavior is incompatible with what you want in a relationship. Rather than trying to control where she goes or what she wears, you can decide that you do not want to remain with someone whose lifestyle creates that level of concern.
6. How often should couples see each other when they are dating? Seeing each other once a week for roughly half a day can be enough, particularly early in a relationship. Spending less time together can preserve some excitement and give each person more experiences to talk about when they meet again.
7. What should you do when a long-term relationship is ending because of distance? If a relationship has been going well for around ten months and both people are serious about it, moving to the same city may be worth considering before simply accepting a breakup. Finding work in the same city can be one option to explore when distance threatens an otherwise successful relationship.
8. How can you improve your chances of getting dates if dating apps are not working? Put yourself in better physical shape and expand the ways you meet women instead of relying entirely on dating apps. Cold approaching can create more opportunities than apps, while dating apps can remain another option rather than your only strategy.
9. Does physical appearance affect dating app success? Yes. Some aspects of appearance cannot easily be changed, while others can. Getting in shape is presented as something within your control that can improve your chances both when approaching women in person and when using dating apps.
10. What should you do if someone cancels a date after you have already arrived? A last-minute cancellation after you have driven to someone's home is a reasonable reason to stop pursuing the relationship, particularly when the person had enough opportunity to tell you beforehand. Arriving at the agreed location only to wait and then receive a cancellation is a serious sign that she does not value your time.

]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/74712267Sat, 12 Sep 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who is sharing a girl with 4 other guys and thinks that might be fine. - An insecure guy who doesn't like his girlfriend going out to clubs with her "guy friends." - A guy...- A guy who is sharing a girl with 4 other guys and thinks that might be fine.
- An insecure guy who doesn't like his girlfriend going out to clubs with her "guy friends."
- A guy whose relationship has fundamental issues but he's worried about the girl moving to another city.
- An overweight guy who says most couples meet on dating apps, so it's okay that he doesn't cold approach even though he gets no matches.
- A guy who drove an hour to a girl's house and then got told she's having a crisis and can't go out.

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Dating questions answered this episode:

1. Is it normal to date multiple people at the same time? Dating multiple people before exclusivity is established is possible, but that does not mean you have to be comfortable with it. If someone tells you she is actively dating several other men and that behavior is a major turnoff, you are allowed to decide that she is not the right person for you.
2. Should you date someone who is seeing several other people? You do not have to continue dating someone whose approach to dating conflicts with your own values. Even though neither person has technically broken an exclusivity agreement, you can still decide that dating someone who is seeing multiple other people is not something you want.
3. How can dating multiple people reduce anxiety in dating? Having several women in your dating life can make rejection or disappointment easier to handle because one person does not become your only option. When you have other opportunities, you are less likely to become overly invested in one woman before you really know her.
4. Is dating multiple people at once a normal part of modern dating? Multiple first dates may be common, but continuing to date several people after progressing to a third date is presented as much less typical. Dating several people can be useful for maintaining options, but it does not necessarily mean every woman is simultaneously pursuing several men.
5. How should you handle a girlfriend who goes out drinking with single friends and other men? You should distinguish between feeling jealous and deciding that someone's behavior is incompatible with what you want in a relationship. Rather than trying to control where she goes or what she wears, you can decide that you do not want to remain with someone whose lifestyle creates that level of concern.
6. How often should couples see each other when they are dating? Seeing each other once a week for roughly half a day can be enough, particularly early in a relationship. Spending less time together can preserve some excitement and give each person more experiences to talk about when they meet again.
7. What should you do when a long-term relationship is ending because of distance? If a relationship has been going well for around ten months and both people are serious about it, moving to the same city may be worth considering before simply accepting a breakup. Finding work in the same city can be one option to explore when distance threatens an otherwise successful relationship.
8. How can you improve your chances of getting dates if dating apps are not working? Put yourself in better physical shape and expand the ways you meet women instead of relying entirely on dating apps. Cold approaching can create more opportunities than apps, while dating apps can remain another option rather than your only strategy.
9. Does physical appearance affect dating app success? Yes. Some aspects of appearance cannot easily be changed, while others can. Getting in shape is presented as something within your control that can...]]>1622advice,dating,reddit,storiestrue36fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-want-to-be-friends-with-girls-that-won-t-sleep-with-me-why-do-they-keep-ghosting--74333781- A guy who got ghosted after the third date by a girl he says is uglier than him.
   - A guy wondering if bowling is a good first date idea or not (it is NOT).
   - A guy who's been ghosted three times recently and is perplexed (to me, two of them had obvious reasons).
   - A guy dating a doctor who demands that he call her "Doctor."
   - A guy who has been to clubs all over the world and thinks they're a terrible place to meet girls.
   
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   Dating questions answered this episode:
   
   1. Why do women sometimes lose interest after a few dates? There may not be a clear explanation for why a woman stops responding after several good dates. Instead of obsessing over every detail and trying to identify one mistake, accept that interest can change and move on when the communication stops.
   2. How long should a date last? Longer is not always better. A three- or four-hour date can drain the energy between two people, especially when much of the time is spent traveling, waiting, or doing an activity. Shorter dates can leave more momentum for seeing each other again.
   3. How often should you text someone you are dating? Texting should not become a substitute for actually seeing each other. If texting starts slowing down, do not compensate by sending increasingly long messages. Keep communication relatively light and use texting primarily to make plans for the next date.
   4. What are good ideas for a second date? Activity dates can work well once you have already established some connection. Something like bowling gives you something to do together while still allowing conversation, whereas a first date generally benefits from having more opportunity to talk and get to know each other.
   5. How should you make plans for a date? Take the lead by suggesting a specific place and time rather than giving someone a list of options and asking them to plan the date. A clear invitation makes it easier to determine whether she actually wants to meet.
   6. What should you do when someone says they only want to be friends? Treat it as a rejection if you are looking for a romantic or sexual relationship. Do not continue pursuing her while hoping that friendship will eventually change her mind.
   7. Can friendship turn into a relationship if one person is not interested? It can happen, but staying friends solely because you hope the other person eventually changes her mind is a bad strategy. If you genuinely enjoy the friendship, that is different; otherwise, continuing the connection can keep you stuck on someone who already rejected you.
   8. What should you do when someone says they are not looking for a relationship? Take the answer seriously and move on rather than trying to persuade her to give you a chance. Continuing to push for contact after someone has made her lack of interest clear is unlikely to create genuine attraction.
   9. What are common dating red flags to look for early in a relationship? Unusual demands, rigid expectations, or disproportionate reactions to harmless behavior can be warning signs. The episode specifically treats insisting on being addressed by a professional title and becoming genuinely upset when that boundary is challenged as a potential red flag.
   10. Are clubs a good place to meet women? Clubs can be difficult places to meet women because people often arrive in groups and are focused on their friends, dancing, drinking, or taking photos. Approaching women in quieter public settings can make it easier to have a direct one-on-one conversation.
   ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/74333781Sat, 29 Aug 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who got ghosted after the third date by a girl he says is uglier than him. - A guy wondering if bowling is a good first date idea or not (it is NOT). - A guy who's been...- A guy who got ghosted after the third date by a girl he says is uglier than him.
   - A guy wondering if bowling is a good first date idea or not (it is NOT).
   - A guy who's been ghosted three times recently and is perplexed (to me, two of them had obvious reasons).
   - A guy dating a doctor who demands that he call her "Doctor."
   - A guy who has been to clubs all over the world and thinks they're a terrible place to meet girls.
   
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   Dating questions answered this episode:
   
   1. Why do women sometimes lose interest after a few dates? There may not be a clear explanation for why a woman stops responding after several good dates. Instead of obsessing over every detail and trying to identify one mistake, accept that interest can change and move on when the communication stops.
   2. How long should a date last? Longer is not always better. A three- or four-hour date can drain the energy between two people, especially when much of the time is spent traveling, waiting, or doing an activity. Shorter dates can leave more momentum for seeing each other again.
   3. How often should you text someone you are dating? Texting should not become a substitute for actually seeing each other. If texting starts slowing down, do not compensate by sending increasingly long messages. Keep communication relatively light and use texting primarily to make plans for the next date.
   4. What are good ideas for a second date? Activity dates can work well once you have already established some connection. Something like bowling gives you something to do together while still allowing conversation, whereas a first date generally benefits from having more opportunity to talk and get to know each other.
   5. How should you make plans for a date? Take the lead by suggesting a specific place and time rather than giving someone a list of options and asking them to plan the date. A clear invitation makes it easier to determine whether she actually wants to meet.
   6. What should you do when someone says they only want to be friends? Treat it as a rejection if you are looking for a romantic or sexual relationship. Do not continue pursuing her while hoping that friendship will eventually change her mind.
   7. Can friendship turn into a relationship if one person is not interested? It can happen, but staying friends solely because you hope the other person eventually changes her mind is a bad strategy. If you genuinely enjoy the friendship, that is different; otherwise, continuing the connection can keep you stuck on someone who already rejected you.
   8. What should you do when someone says they are not looking for a relationship? Take the answer seriously and move on rather than trying to persuade her to give you a chance. Continuing to push for contact after someone has made her lack of interest clear is unlikely to create genuine attraction.
   9. What are common dating red flags to look for early in a relationship? Unusual demands, rigid expectations, or disproportionate reactions to harmless behavior can be warning signs. The episode specifically treats insisting on being addressed by a professional title and becoming genuinely upset when that boundary is challenged as a potential red flag.
   10. Are clubs a good place to meet women? Clubs can be difficult places to meet women because people often arrive in groups and are focused on their friends, dancing, drinking, or taking photos. Approaching women in quieter public settings can make it easier to have a direct one-on-one conversation.
   ]]>1959true35fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-girl-who-rejected-me-8-years-ago-is-now-divorced-with-2-kids-and-finally-wants-to-date-me--73676758- A 26-year-old who started dating 8 months ago and has gotten his heart rekt already (the girl told him she wanted to take things slow).
   - A guy who had a girl with a long-distance boyfriend flirting with him HARD, but he blew it.
   - A guy who has been contacted by a girl that rejected him before she had 2 kids and is now looking for a life raft.
   - A guy who recently started cold approaching and is worried about being seen by people he knows (the comments had it all wrong).
   - A 36-year-old, bald, short guy who has had absolutely no success in dating.
   
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   Dating questions answered this episode:
   
   1. Why did she lose romantic interest after three months of dating? Waiting until the fifth date to kiss and failing to create opportunities for intimacy may have contributed to the loss of attraction. The advice is to escalate earlier, try for a kiss on the first or second date, and create practical opportunities to spend time alone together.
   2. How often should you see someone when you are newly dating? Eight dates over three months is not necessarily too slow. Dating once or twice a week is not a requirement, and a pace of roughly eight dates in three months can be perfectly reasonable when both people are busy.
   3. What should you do if you live with your parents and have nowhere private for a date? You still need to figure out the logistics of spending time alone. That could mean using a separate living space, planning an activity that naturally leads somewhere private, or arranging another practical solution rather than repeatedly going on dates with no path toward intimacy.
   4. What should you do if a female friend acts romantic but says you are just friends? Do not keep asking her to define the relationship. Her words should be taken seriously, but if you are interested, make your intentions clear through your actions and ask her to spend time with you one-on-one rather than trying to get verbal confirmation of what the relationship means.
   5. How can you tell if a woman is flirting or just naturally affectionate? Look at how she behaves around other men before assuming that physical affection means romantic interest. Someone who is naturally touchy with many friends may behave intimately without intending to flirt, so the surrounding context matters.
   6. Should you stay friends with a woman you actually want to date? If you are attracted to her, pretending you only want friendship can keep you stuck in a situation that is not what you actually want. Make a move, accept the possibility of rejection, and then decide whether continuing the friendship makes sense.
   7. Should you date a woman who rejected you years ago and now wants a relationship? Past rejection alone does not have to determine the decision, because people and circumstances change. In this case, however, the major issue is that she now has two children, which the advice treats as a reason to walk away rather than overlooking the situation simply because she is interested now.
   8. Is it normal for a man to go out alone to meet women? Yes. Going out specifically to meet women is presented as a deliberate dating strategy rather than something embarrassing. If meeting women is not happening naturally through your hobbies or daily routine, you may need to intentionally create opportunities to talk to them.
   9. Does “just do your hobbies and you will meet women” actually work? Not necessarily. If spending years playing video games, going to the gym, or doing hobbies has not resulted in meeting women, continuing to wait for dating opportunities to appear naturally may not change anything. The alternative presented is to deliberately talk to single women through approaches, dating apps, or actual dating events.
   10. What should you do if years of dating rejection have destroyed your confidence? Stop assuming that more of the same approach will eventually produce different results. The advice is that years of rejection can understandably make someone negative, but the solution is to change the dating strategy and create more opportunities to actually talk to single women rather than relying on female friends, social events, or expensive dating coaches.
   ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/73676758Sat, 15 Aug 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A 26-year-old who started dating 8 months ago and has gotten his heart rekt already (the girl told him she wanted to take things slow). - A guy who had a girl with a long-distance...- A 26-year-old who started dating 8 months ago and has gotten his heart rekt already (the girl told him she wanted to take things slow).
   - A guy who had a girl with a long-distance boyfriend flirting with him HARD, but he blew it.
   - A guy who has been contacted by a girl that rejected him before she had 2 kids and is now looking for a life raft.
   - A guy who recently started cold approaching and is worried about being seen by people he knows (the comments had it all wrong).
   - A 36-year-old, bald, short guy who has had absolutely no success in dating.
   
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   Dating questions answered this episode:
   
   1. Why did she lose romantic interest after three months of dating? Waiting until the fifth date to kiss and failing to create opportunities for intimacy may have contributed to the loss of attraction. The advice is to escalate earlier, try for a kiss on the first or second date, and create practical opportunities to spend time alone together.
   2. How often should you see someone when you are newly dating? Eight dates over three months is not necessarily too slow. Dating once or twice a week is not a requirement, and a pace of roughly eight dates in three months can be perfectly reasonable when both people are busy.
   3. What should you do if you live with your parents and have nowhere private for a date? You still need to figure out the logistics of spending time alone. That could mean using a separate living space, planning an activity that naturally leads somewhere private, or arranging another practical solution rather than repeatedly going on dates with no path toward intimacy.
   4. What should you do if a female friend acts romantic but says you are just friends? Do not keep asking her to define the relationship. Her words should be taken seriously, but if you are interested, make your intentions clear through your actions and ask her to spend time with you one-on-one rather than trying to get verbal confirmation of what the relationship means.
   5. How can you tell if a woman is flirting or just naturally affectionate? Look at how she behaves around other men before assuming that physical affection means romantic interest. Someone who is naturally touchy with many friends may behave intimately without intending to flirt, so the surrounding context matters.
   6. Should you stay friends with a woman you actually want to date? If you are attracted to her, pretending you only want friendship can keep you stuck in a situation that is not what you actually want. Make a move, accept the possibility of rejection, and then decide whether continuing the friendship makes sense.
   7. Should you date a woman who rejected you years ago and now wants a relationship? Past rejection alone does not have to determine the decision, because people and circumstances change. In this case, however, the major issue is that she now has two children, which the advice treats as a reason to walk away rather than overlooking the situation simply because she is interested now.
   8. Is it normal for a man to go out alone to meet women? Yes. Going out specifically to meet women is presented as a deliberate dating strategy rather than something embarrassing. If meeting women is not happening naturally through your hobbies or daily routine, you may need to intentionally create opportunities to talk to them.
   9. Does “just do your hobbies and you will meet women” actually work? Not necessarily. If spending years playing video games, going to the gym, or doing hobbies has not resulted in meeting women, continuing to wait for dating opportunities to appear naturally may not...]]>2109true34fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-smell-like-garbage-and-plan-to-live-on-15k-a-year-why-can-t-a-find-a-girlfriend--73011720- A guy who is worrying about offending girls when he talks to them after he approaches other girls.
      - A guy accusing girls of "giving up" on the relationship when he hasn't even asked them out.
      - A former video game addict who now cares about his appearance and healthy hobbies because of a girl.
      - An extremely frugal guy who makes a living dumpster diving but can't find a girl who wants to be part of that (he's a serial Reddit complainer).
      - A guy who played it safe...and the girl he was dating ghosted him (a tale as old as time).
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Approaching women after rejection is not as embarrassing as it feels. Most people are not watching your every move at a bar, on the street, or in public. If one woman turns you down, you can still talk to another woman instead of assuming everyone noticed.
      2. Do not worry about making a woman feel like a second choice. If she did not see the first rejection, it does not matter, and if she did see it, she can still choose whether she wants to talk to you. Approaching gives you a chance; doing nothing gives you zero.
      3. If the energy feels stale after a few rejections, change locations. You do not need to quit for the night, but moving to a different bar, street, or area can reset your mood. Sometimes a fresh environment helps you keep approaching without carrying the weight of the last rejection.
      4. Dating app conversations should not drag on for weeks before a real invitation. If you are texting every day and building momentum, ask her out by day two or three. Waiting too long gives the connection time to fade before anything real happens.
      5. A vague “we should go out sometime” is not a real date invitation. Give her a specific plan or at least specific days you are free. If you leave the timing up to her, you are making her lead, and most women will not do that for you.
      6. Nothing from a dating app matters until you meet in person. Long texts, jokes, and apparent chemistry can vanish overnight. Until she actually comes out with you, the connection is not real enough to treat like a relationship.
      7. A crush can motivate self-improvement, but do not let one girl become the whole reason. If liking a woman pushes you to dress better, create art, play music, or improve your life, use that momentum. Just make sure the new habits become yours, not something you only do hoping she notices.
      8. Do not decide a woman’s answer for her before you ask her out. If you still want to give it a shot, send the message and invite her properly. Assuming her silence means no may be correct, but you only know for sure if you actually ask.
      9. If your lifestyle makes dating nearly impossible, you may need to change the lifestyle. Extreme frugality, low income, no car, and plans to live on very little money will shrink your dating pool. If you want a wife, kids, or a normal family life, your money and lifestyle need to match that goal.
      10. Playing it safe on dates can kill romantic momentum. If you only hug after two strong dates, avoid physical escalation, and never invite her home, you may come across too passive. Women can say they want to take things slow, but you still need to lead, escalate, and create progression.
      ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/73011720Sat, 01 Aug 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who is worrying about offending girls when he talks to them after he approaches other girls. - A guy accusing girls of "giving up" on the relationship when he hasn't even...- A guy who is worrying about offending girls when he talks to them after he approaches other girls.
      - A guy accusing girls of "giving up" on the relationship when he hasn't even asked them out.
      - A former video game addict who now cares about his appearance and healthy hobbies because of a girl.
      - An extremely frugal guy who makes a living dumpster diving but can't find a girl who wants to be part of that (he's a serial Reddit complainer).
      - A guy who played it safe...and the girl he was dating ghosted him (a tale as old as time).
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Approaching women after rejection is not as embarrassing as it feels. Most people are not watching your every move at a bar, on the street, or in public. If one woman turns you down, you can still talk to another woman instead of assuming everyone noticed.
      2. Do not worry about making a woman feel like a second choice. If she did not see the first rejection, it does not matter, and if she did see it, she can still choose whether she wants to talk to you. Approaching gives you a chance; doing nothing gives you zero.
      3. If the energy feels stale after a few rejections, change locations. You do not need to quit for the night, but moving to a different bar, street, or area can reset your mood. Sometimes a fresh environment helps you keep approaching without carrying the weight of the last rejection.
      4. Dating app conversations should not drag on for weeks before a real invitation. If you are texting every day and building momentum, ask her out by day two or three. Waiting too long gives the connection time to fade before anything real happens.
      5. A vague “we should go out sometime” is not a real date invitation. Give her a specific plan or at least specific days you are free. If you leave the timing up to her, you are making her lead, and most women will not do that for you.
      6. Nothing from a dating app matters until you meet in person. Long texts, jokes, and apparent chemistry can vanish overnight. Until she actually comes out with you, the connection is not real enough to treat like a relationship.
      7. A crush can motivate self-improvement, but do not let one girl become the whole reason. If liking a woman pushes you to dress better, create art, play music, or improve your life, use that momentum. Just make sure the new habits become yours, not something you only do hoping she notices.
      8. Do not decide a woman’s answer for her before you ask her out. If you still want to give it a shot, send the message and invite her properly. Assuming her silence means no may be correct, but you only know for sure if you actually ask.
      9. If your lifestyle makes dating nearly impossible, you may need to change the lifestyle. Extreme frugality, low income, no car, and plans to live on very little money will shrink your dating pool. If you want a wife, kids, or a normal family life, your money and lifestyle need to match that goal.
      10. Playing it safe on dates can kill romantic momentum. If you only hug after two strong dates, avoid physical escalation, and never invite her home, you may come across too passive. Women can say they want to take things slow, but you still need to lead, escalate, and create progression.
      ]]>2165true33fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-sent-her-nudes-and-she-sent-me-fakes-i-can-still-trust-her-right--72793577- A guy who talks to girls on apps but never asks them out and wonders why they lose interest.
      - A guy who thinks his uncle goes and picks up random girls in his cool car at will.
      - An immigrant in a brand new country who doesn't know how to meet girls (they're all around him).
      - A guy who feels like he gets too anxious unless he's dating multiple women (this is a GOOD thing).
      - A clueless guy who sent nudes to a girl on a dating site but really it was probably a guy in Nigeria.
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Dating app conversations should turn into dates quickly. If you talk to women online for weeks or months without asking them out, you are creating the reason they lose interest. Ask for the date within a couple of days instead of trying to build a fake relationship through messages.
      2. Do not wait for women to ask you out. If you are the man, you need to move things forward. A woman may match with you, text you, and seem interested, but that does not mean she will be the one to suggest meeting.
      3. Stop swiping on women you are not willing to meet. If a woman lives two or three hours away and you know you will not make the trip, do not waste time matching with her. Dating apps only matter when they lead to real-life dates.
      4. Nothing on a dating app is real until you meet in person. Texting can feel like progress, but it is not a relationship, and it is barely even real dating. Until you meet face-to-face, you should treat the conversation as temporary and fragile.
      5. If you know a man who is good with women, ask him how he does it. Do not sit around feeling jealous of someone who seems to pick up women easily. If your uncle, friend, or someone close to you has success with girls, use that access and learn from him.
      6. Dating as an immigrant is easier when you approach women directly. You do not need a friend circle before you start dating. Street approach, malls, grocery stores, and everyday public places can help you meet women and learn the city at the same time.
      7. Do not rely on Meetup groups or friend circles to create your dating life. Hobbies, events, and friendship groups can be useful for life, but they are not a consistent dating strategy. If you want women, go meet women directly.
      8. Dating multiple women can help reduce anxious attachment. If one woman is your only option, you are more likely to overthink texts, get clingy, and panic when she pulls away. Having multiple options keeps you calmer and helps you choose better.
      9. You do not need to tell women about every other woman you are dating. Until exclusivity is clearly established, you can date multiple women without giving a full report. Most women do not actually want to know every detail about who else you are seeing.
      10. Do not send sexual photos to strangers from dating sites. If someone online asks for nude photos before you have met, assume something is wrong. It may be a scam, a fake profile, or someone trying to use the photo against you.
      ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/72793577Sat, 18 Jul 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who talks to girls on apps but never asks them out and wonders why they lose interest. - A guy who thinks his uncle goes and picks up random girls in his cool car at will. -...- A guy who talks to girls on apps but never asks them out and wonders why they lose interest.
      - A guy who thinks his uncle goes and picks up random girls in his cool car at will.
      - An immigrant in a brand new country who doesn't know how to meet girls (they're all around him).
      - A guy who feels like he gets too anxious unless he's dating multiple women (this is a GOOD thing).
      - A clueless guy who sent nudes to a girl on a dating site but really it was probably a guy in Nigeria.
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Dating app conversations should turn into dates quickly. If you talk to women online for weeks or months without asking them out, you are creating the reason they lose interest. Ask for the date within a couple of days instead of trying to build a fake relationship through messages.
      2. Do not wait for women to ask you out. If you are the man, you need to move things forward. A woman may match with you, text you, and seem interested, but that does not mean she will be the one to suggest meeting.
      3. Stop swiping on women you are not willing to meet. If a woman lives two or three hours away and you know you will not make the trip, do not waste time matching with her. Dating apps only matter when they lead to real-life dates.
      4. Nothing on a dating app is real until you meet in person. Texting can feel like progress, but it is not a relationship, and it is barely even real dating. Until you meet face-to-face, you should treat the conversation as temporary and fragile.
      5. If you know a man who is good with women, ask him how he does it. Do not sit around feeling jealous of someone who seems to pick up women easily. If your uncle, friend, or someone close to you has success with girls, use that access and learn from him.
      6. Dating as an immigrant is easier when you approach women directly. You do not need a friend circle before you start dating. Street approach, malls, grocery stores, and everyday public places can help you meet women and learn the city at the same time.
      7. Do not rely on Meetup groups or friend circles to create your dating life. Hobbies, events, and friendship groups can be useful for life, but they are not a consistent dating strategy. If you want women, go meet women directly.
      8. Dating multiple women can help reduce anxious attachment. If one woman is your only option, you are more likely to overthink texts, get clingy, and panic when she pulls away. Having multiple options keeps you calmer and helps you choose better.
      9. You do not need to tell women about every other woman you are dating. Until exclusivity is clearly established, you can date multiple women without giving a full report. Most women do not actually want to know every detail about who else you are seeing.
      10. Do not send sexual photos to strangers from dating sites. If someone online asks for nude photos before you have met, assume something is wrong. It may be a scam, a fake profile, or someone trying to use the photo against you.
      ]]>1120true32fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-asked-for-permission-to-touch-her-chest-she-said-yes-then-she-freaked-out--72531681- A guy who had a trip booked with his parents before he met his girlfriend, and she says he needs to cancel.
      - A guy who keeps getting interrupted by his girlfriend trying to show him Instagram garbage when he just wants to relax and play video games.
      - A guy wondering if he got scammed when the girl he was on a date with suddenly invited a friend (some commenters thinks he missed out on a threesome).
      - A guy who feels like he has to constantly be searching for girls.
      - An autistic guy who asked for permission to touch a girl's "chest" while they were in his car.
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Relationship boundaries matter more than keeping your girlfriend happy every second. If your girlfriend wants you to cancel a family vacation that was planned before the relationship got serious, you should not rearrange your life around her anxiety. A strong relationship should be able to survive a short trip.
      2. Separation anxiety in relationships is not always your problem to fix. If a woman detaches after only three or four days apart, that is something she needs to manage. You can be understanding, but you should not spend your life trying to prevent her from feeling alone.
      3. Texting while on vacation should not become emotional babysitting. You can message your girlfriend while you travel, but do not turn the trip into a full-time job of reassuring her. Go enjoy the vacation and deal with relationship problems when you get back.
      4. How often you see your girlfriend sets the tone for the whole relationship. If you train a woman to expect constant access to you, time apart will feel like a crisis. Keep enough independence early on so a week or two away does not become a major relationship problem.
      5. Alone time in a relationship needs to be clearly protected. If your girlfriend keeps interrupting you while you are gaming, working, or relaxing, tell her calmly that you need uninterrupted time. Do it outside the heat of the moment so it does not become a fight.
      6. A girlfriend who interrupts you constantly needs a clear boundary, not endless patience. Tell her when you are about to be busy, ask if she needs anything first, and then expect her to wait. She can send videos, photos, or reels for later instead of demanding your attention every minute.
      7. Bringing a friend on a date is a first-date red flag. If a girl invites a friend 20 minutes into the date or says she needs emotional support, leave. A date is supposed to be one-on-one, not a setup where you entertain her friend too.
      8. Who pays on a date should not include paying for her friend. If a woman brings another girl and expects you to cover both of them, do not play along. Paying for extra drinks or meals will not make her like you more, and it can turn you into the night’s free tab.
      9. Dating anxiety can be useful if it pushes you to take action. Feeling pressure to meet women is not automatically bad. Use that energy to approach, date, and create options instead of sitting around watching dating videos and hoping confidence appears.
      10. Physical escalation on a date should happen in steps. Do not jump straight to sexual touching, and do not make every move a stiff verbal permission request. Start with smaller touches, read her reaction, go for the kiss, and let the interaction build naturally.
      ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/72531681Sat, 04 Jul 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who had a trip booked with his parents before he met his girlfriend, and she says he needs to cancel. - A guy who keeps getting interrupted by his girlfriend trying to show...- A guy who had a trip booked with his parents before he met his girlfriend, and she says he needs to cancel.
      - A guy who keeps getting interrupted by his girlfriend trying to show him Instagram garbage when he just wants to relax and play video games.
      - A guy wondering if he got scammed when the girl he was on a date with suddenly invited a friend (some commenters thinks he missed out on a threesome).
      - A guy who feels like he has to constantly be searching for girls.
      - An autistic guy who asked for permission to touch a girl's "chest" while they were in his car.
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Relationship boundaries matter more than keeping your girlfriend happy every second. If your girlfriend wants you to cancel a family vacation that was planned before the relationship got serious, you should not rearrange your life around her anxiety. A strong relationship should be able to survive a short trip.
      2. Separation anxiety in relationships is not always your problem to fix. If a woman detaches after only three or four days apart, that is something she needs to manage. You can be understanding, but you should not spend your life trying to prevent her from feeling alone.
      3. Texting while on vacation should not become emotional babysitting. You can message your girlfriend while you travel, but do not turn the trip into a full-time job of reassuring her. Go enjoy the vacation and deal with relationship problems when you get back.
      4. How often you see your girlfriend sets the tone for the whole relationship. If you train a woman to expect constant access to you, time apart will feel like a crisis. Keep enough independence early on so a week or two away does not become a major relationship problem.
      5. Alone time in a relationship needs to be clearly protected. If your girlfriend keeps interrupting you while you are gaming, working, or relaxing, tell her calmly that you need uninterrupted time. Do it outside the heat of the moment so it does not become a fight.
      6. A girlfriend who interrupts you constantly needs a clear boundary, not endless patience. Tell her when you are about to be busy, ask if she needs anything first, and then expect her to wait. She can send videos, photos, or reels for later instead of demanding your attention every minute.
      7. Bringing a friend on a date is a first-date red flag. If a girl invites a friend 20 minutes into the date or says she needs emotional support, leave. A date is supposed to be one-on-one, not a setup where you entertain her friend too.
      8. Who pays on a date should not include paying for her friend. If a woman brings another girl and expects you to cover both of them, do not play along. Paying for extra drinks or meals will not make her like you more, and it can turn you into the night’s free tab.
      9. Dating anxiety can be useful if it pushes you to take action. Feeling pressure to meet women is not automatically bad. Use that energy to approach, date, and create options instead of sitting around watching dating videos and hoping confidence appears.
      10. Physical escalation on a date should happen in steps. Do not jump straight to sexual touching, and do not make every move a stiff verbal permission request. Start with smaller touches, read her reaction, go for the kiss, and let the interaction build naturally.
      ]]>1744true31fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/she-f-d-her-co-worker-while-i-was-dating-her-and-another-girl-how-could-she-do-this--72225524- A guy who is worried that he's going to be able to see the girl he's dating "only" 3 times in the next 6 weeks.
      - A virgin who can't believe that two people would ever want to have a one night stand (it's not as simple as he thinks).
      - A guy whose pride is keeping him from going on a second date (I tell a story about a time when I made the same mistake).
      - A self-sabotager who doesn't want to meet a girl again because he thinks he can't improve her life.
      - A hypocrite who can't believe the girl he was dating (now his girlfriend) hooked up with her co-worker just a few weeks after meeting, even though he did the same thing with her (he was also juggling multiple women).
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Do not overthink dating momentum after a great first date. If the first date went well and the next date is already planned, you do not need to panic about losing momentum. Early dating works best when you stay interested without becoming overly eager.
      2. Two weeks between dates is not too long in the early stages of dating. A busy schedule does not automatically mean low interest. Seeing someone every few weeks can still build attraction, especially when the connection is strong and both people have real-life obligations.
      3. Texting after a first date should be light, confident, and purposeful. You do not need to text all day or force constant communication. A couple of thoughtful messages between dates can keep the connection alive without putting pressure on the situation.
      4. Video calls are usually unnecessary in early dating. If you are only waiting a week or two for the next date, you do not need to rely on video calls to maintain attraction. In-person chemistry matters more than trying to build a relationship over the phone.
      5. Casual dating and one-night stands are often less planned than people think. Many one-night stands happen because one person later decides not to continue, not because both people clearly agreed in advance that the encounter would be casual and temporary.
      6. Someone who rejected you once is not always treating you like a backup option. People can change their minds for many reasons, including timing, mood, uncertainty, or personal circumstances. Rejecting someone purely out of pride can cause you to miss a real dating opportunity.
      7. Do not let pride ruin a second chance in dating. If someone reaches back out and you are still interested, it may be worth setting up another date instead of assuming the worst. Staying calm and direct is often better than acting from resentment.
      8. Do not decide you are not good enough for someone you like. If a woman agrees to go on a date with you, let her decide whether she enjoys your company. Self-rejection, anxiety, and insecurity can sabotage a connection before it has a chance to grow.
      9. Most women will not initiate the second date, even if they are interested. Waiting for her to ask you out again is not a reliable way to measure attraction. If you want a second date, take the lead and make a clear plan.
      10. Exclusivity in dating doesn't need to be clearly discussed early on. If two people have not clearly agreed to be exclusive, conflict can happen when one person dates or sleeps with someone else. Clear expectations matter more than vague assumptions about loyalty.
      ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/72225524Sat, 20 Jun 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who is worried that he's going to be able to see the girl he's dating "only" 3 times in the next 6 weeks. - A virgin who can't believe that two people would ever want to have...- A guy who is worried that he's going to be able to see the girl he's dating "only" 3 times in the next 6 weeks.
      - A virgin who can't believe that two people would ever want to have a one night stand (it's not as simple as he thinks).
      - A guy whose pride is keeping him from going on a second date (I tell a story about a time when I made the same mistake).
      - A self-sabotager who doesn't want to meet a girl again because he thinks he can't improve her life.
      - A hypocrite who can't believe the girl he was dating (now his girlfriend) hooked up with her co-worker just a few weeks after meeting, even though he did the same thing with her (he was also juggling multiple women).
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Do not overthink dating momentum after a great first date. If the first date went well and the next date is already planned, you do not need to panic about losing momentum. Early dating works best when you stay interested without becoming overly eager.
      2. Two weeks between dates is not too long in the early stages of dating. A busy schedule does not automatically mean low interest. Seeing someone every few weeks can still build attraction, especially when the connection is strong and both people have real-life obligations.
      3. Texting after a first date should be light, confident, and purposeful. You do not need to text all day or force constant communication. A couple of thoughtful messages between dates can keep the connection alive without putting pressure on the situation.
      4. Video calls are usually unnecessary in early dating. If you are only waiting a week or two for the next date, you do not need to rely on video calls to maintain attraction. In-person chemistry matters more than trying to build a relationship over the phone.
      5. Casual dating and one-night stands are often less planned than people think. Many one-night stands happen because one person later decides not to continue, not because both people clearly agreed in advance that the encounter would be casual and temporary.
      6. Someone who rejected you once is not always treating you like a backup option. People can change their minds for many reasons, including timing, mood, uncertainty, or personal circumstances. Rejecting someone purely out of pride can cause you to miss a real dating opportunity.
      7. Do not let pride ruin a second chance in dating. If someone reaches back out and you are still interested, it may be worth setting up another date instead of assuming the worst. Staying calm and direct is often better than acting from resentment.
      8. Do not decide you are not good enough for someone you like. If a woman agrees to go on a date with you, let her decide whether she enjoys your company. Self-rejection, anxiety, and insecurity can sabotage a connection before it has a chance to grow.
      9. Most women will not initiate the second date, even if they are interested. Waiting for her to ask you out again is not a reliable way to measure attraction. If you want a second date, take the lead and make a clear plan.
      10. Exclusivity in dating doesn't need to be clearly discussed early on. If two people have not clearly agreed to be exclusive, conflict can happen when one person dates or sleeps with someone else. Clear expectations matter more than vague assumptions about loyalty.
      ]]>1827true30fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/my-girlfriend-says-she-s-too-insecure-to-do-arts-crafts-together-should-i-finally-dump-her--72102619- An autistic guy who wants to apologize to the girl he's dating over and over when he makes mistakes.
      - A university student who asked a girl out, got a NO, and is wondering how to deal with still regularly seeing her (it's time to be cool).
      - A guy who is worried about competing against other guys and offending girls.
      - A serially friendzoned guy who thinks girls like him.
      - A guy who has been complaining about his insufferable girlfriend online for over a year but still hasn't broken up with her.
      
      (Also, I somehow managed to say the F word literally 50 times in this episode. More than twice a minute. Enjoy that.)
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Over-apologizing in a relationship can create more pressure than the original mistake. If you already apologized and your girlfriend has moved on, bringing up the same small mistake again can make the situation feel worse. A sincere apology is usually enough.
      2. Relationship anxiety can lead to rumination, reassurance-seeking, and self-sabotage. When you replay small mistakes for days or weeks, the real issue may be anxiety rather than the mistake itself. Constantly asking for reassurance can put unnecessary strain on the relationship.
      3. Learning how to stop apologizing repeatedly is important for relationship confidence. After you apologize once, the best move is often to stay calm, stop revisiting the issue, and return to normal behavior. Repeated apologies can make you seem less secure.
      4. Rejection feels worse when you have limited dating experience. Being rejected by someone you like can feel devastating, especially if you spent months building up your feelings. The key is to accept the answer, stay composed, and keep meeting new women.
      5. Seeing someone after they rejected you does not have to be awkward. If you share classes, hobbies, or mutual friends with someone who turned you down, the situation is only as awkward as you make it. Be polite, relaxed, and avoid acting bitter.
      6. Do not build your hobbies around impressing a girl. Sports, fitness, and hobbies should be things you enjoy for yourself. If your motivation depends on one woman’s approval, rejection can make you lose interest in something that could still benefit you.
      7. Dating success is a numbers game, and a few rejections do not define your attractiveness. A small number of failed attempts does not mean you are undesirable. One yes can change your entire outlook, so focus on increasing your opportunities instead of obsessing over a temporary losing streak.
      8. Sliding into DMs is not the only way to meet women. If Instagram, dating apps, or online messaging feel too competitive, meeting women in real life can help you stand out. A real conversation gives you more context than a random message.
      9. Unwanted attention often depends on whether attraction is mutual. You cannot always know in advance whether a woman will welcome your attention. Make a respectful move, accept rejection if it happens, and do not assume every approach is automatically unwanted.
      10. Staying in an unhappy relationship in your early twenties can waste valuable dating years. If a relationship is emotionally draining, one-sided, or full of repeated complaints, it may be better to end it than keep hoping things will change. Your early twenties are an important time to gain dating experience and learn what you actually want.
      ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/72102619Sat, 06 Jun 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - An autistic guy who wants to apologize to the girl he's dating over and over when he makes mistakes. - A university student who asked a girl out, got a NO, and is wondering how to...- An autistic guy who wants to apologize to the girl he's dating over and over when he makes mistakes.
      - A university student who asked a girl out, got a NO, and is wondering how to deal with still regularly seeing her (it's time to be cool).
      - A guy who is worried about competing against other guys and offending girls.
      - A serially friendzoned guy who thinks girls like him.
      - A guy who has been complaining about his insufferable girlfriend online for over a year but still hasn't broken up with her.
      
      (Also, I somehow managed to say the F word literally 50 times in this episode. More than twice a minute. Enjoy that.)
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Over-apologizing in a relationship can create more pressure than the original mistake. If you already apologized and your girlfriend has moved on, bringing up the same small mistake again can make the situation feel worse. A sincere apology is usually enough.
      2. Relationship anxiety can lead to rumination, reassurance-seeking, and self-sabotage. When you replay small mistakes for days or weeks, the real issue may be anxiety rather than the mistake itself. Constantly asking for reassurance can put unnecessary strain on the relationship.
      3. Learning how to stop apologizing repeatedly is important for relationship confidence. After you apologize once, the best move is often to stay calm, stop revisiting the issue, and return to normal behavior. Repeated apologies can make you seem less secure.
      4. Rejection feels worse when you have limited dating experience. Being rejected by someone you like can feel devastating, especially if you spent months building up your feelings. The key is to accept the answer, stay composed, and keep meeting new women.
      5. Seeing someone after they rejected you does not have to be awkward. If you share classes, hobbies, or mutual friends with someone who turned you down, the situation is only as awkward as you make it. Be polite, relaxed, and avoid acting bitter.
      6. Do not build your hobbies around impressing a girl. Sports, fitness, and hobbies should be things you enjoy for yourself. If your motivation depends on one woman’s approval, rejection can make you lose interest in something that could still benefit you.
      7. Dating success is a numbers game, and a few rejections do not define your attractiveness. A small number of failed attempts does not mean you are undesirable. One yes can change your entire outlook, so focus on increasing your opportunities instead of obsessing over a temporary losing streak.
      8. Sliding into DMs is not the only way to meet women. If Instagram, dating apps, or online messaging feel too competitive, meeting women in real life can help you stand out. A real conversation gives you more context than a random message.
      9. Unwanted attention often depends on whether attraction is mutual. You cannot always know in advance whether a woman will welcome your attention. Make a respectful move, accept rejection if it happens, and do not assume every approach is automatically unwanted.
      10. Staying in an unhappy relationship in your early twenties can waste valuable dating years. If a relationship is emotionally draining, one-sided, or full of repeated complaints, it may be better to end it than keep hoping things will change. Your early twenties are an important time to gain dating experience and learn what you actually want.
      ]]>1455true29fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/she-has-kids-from-2-other-men-and-demands-the-princess-treatment-so-i-pay-for-everything--71862111- A guy who doesn't want to have sex with his new girl because he's starting a new job in a month (even though he hasn't gotten laid in a year).
      - A 25-year-old guy who thinks that the guys getting girls are "complete trash."
      - An insanely jealous guy who is worried that his older girlfriend with kids is gonna find someone else (they just started dating and are already having huge fights).
      - A guy who is paying for everything for his girlfriend (she demands a "princess treatment") who has two kids from two different men.
      - A guy who let a girl slip through his fingers all because he didn't want to meet one hour later than originally planned.
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Do not self-sabotage when a woman clearly wants to have sex with you. If you like her, find her attractive, and she is willing, turning down the opportunity for vague or overly cautious reasons can ruin the momentum. Men should take advantage of good dating opportunities when they appear.
      2. Dating a coworker is risky, but the situation changes if you are already leaving the job. It is usually smart not to date where you work, but if the connection has already started and you are leaving soon, the risk may be less serious than it feels in the moment.
      3. Do not put words in a woman’s mouth and then react as if she said them directly. In the first post, the man claimed the woman called him a “pussy,” but he was the one who introduced that word. Men should avoid escalating a situation based on their own framing.
      4. Self-improvement alone will not fix your dating life. Going to the gym, earning money, eating clean, and having your life together are useful, but they will not automatically make women appear. Men still have to actively talk to women and create opportunities.
      5. Dating apps often do not work well for average men, so real-life approaching can be more effective. If dating apps are giving you few matches, no replies, or no dates, cold approaching women in real life may be more effective than relying only on apps.
      6. Cold approach is a numbers game, and a few rejections mean almost nothing. Approaching only a few women is not enough to judge whether cold approach works. Increase your number of approaches before deciding that women are not interested.
      7. Asking for exclusivity too early can make you look anxious and desperate. Men should not beg for exclusivity or repeatedly ask whether a woman might meet someone else. Stay calm, avoid needy conversations, and accept that a woman could always choose someone new.
      8. Major arguments early in dating are a serious warning sign. If a relationship is already filled with conflict, emotional repair, and pressure to prove yourself, it may not be worth saving. Early dating should not feel like constant damage control.
      9. Do not pay for constant “princess treatment” without reciprocity. Paying for dates, flowers, gifts, beauty expenses, and emotional support while receiving little in return creates a one-sided relationship. Set the tone from the beginning and avoid becoming a provider for someone who does not appreciate it.
      10. When a woman gives you a chance to meet, make the date happen. If she asks to move the date by one hour and you want to see her, be reasonable and make it work. Losing a date over a small scheduling issue can cause the connection to fade before it starts.
      ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/71862111Sat, 23 May 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who doesn't want to have sex with his new girl because he's starting a new job in a month (even though he hasn't gotten laid in a year). - A 25-year-old guy who thinks that...- A guy who doesn't want to have sex with his new girl because he's starting a new job in a month (even though he hasn't gotten laid in a year).
      - A 25-year-old guy who thinks that the guys getting girls are "complete trash."
      - An insanely jealous guy who is worried that his older girlfriend with kids is gonna find someone else (they just started dating and are already having huge fights).
      - A guy who is paying for everything for his girlfriend (she demands a "princess treatment") who has two kids from two different men.
      - A guy who let a girl slip through his fingers all because he didn't want to meet one hour later than originally planned.
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Do not self-sabotage when a woman clearly wants to have sex with you. If you like her, find her attractive, and she is willing, turning down the opportunity for vague or overly cautious reasons can ruin the momentum. Men should take advantage of good dating opportunities when they appear.
      2. Dating a coworker is risky, but the situation changes if you are already leaving the job. It is usually smart not to date where you work, but if the connection has already started and you are leaving soon, the risk may be less serious than it feels in the moment.
      3. Do not put words in a woman’s mouth and then react as if she said them directly. In the first post, the man claimed the woman called him a “pussy,” but he was the one who introduced that word. Men should avoid escalating a situation based on their own framing.
      4. Self-improvement alone will not fix your dating life. Going to the gym, earning money, eating clean, and having your life together are useful, but they will not automatically make women appear. Men still have to actively talk to women and create opportunities.
      5. Dating apps often do not work well for average men, so real-life approaching can be more effective. If dating apps are giving you few matches, no replies, or no dates, cold approaching women in real life may be more effective than relying only on apps.
      6. Cold approach is a numbers game, and a few rejections mean almost nothing. Approaching only a few women is not enough to judge whether cold approach works. Increase your number of approaches before deciding that women are not interested.
      7. Asking for exclusivity too early can make you look anxious and desperate. Men should not beg for exclusivity or repeatedly ask whether a woman might meet someone else. Stay calm, avoid needy conversations, and accept that a woman could always choose someone new.
      8. Major arguments early in dating are a serious warning sign. If a relationship is already filled with conflict, emotional repair, and pressure to prove yourself, it may not be worth saving. Early dating should not feel like constant damage control.
      9. Do not pay for constant “princess treatment” without reciprocity. Paying for dates, flowers, gifts, beauty expenses, and emotional support while receiving little in return creates a one-sided relationship. Set the tone from the beginning and avoid becoming a provider for someone who does not appreciate it.
      10. When a woman gives you a chance to meet, make the date happen. If she asks to move the date by one hour and you want to see her, be reasonable and make it work. Losing a date over a small scheduling issue can cause the connection to fade before it starts.
      ]]>2050true28fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-hired-a-dating-therapist-but-she-gave-up-after-5-sessions-because-i-m-hopeless--71004232- A guy who says he can easily talk to girls...but is too scared to actually start the conversation.
      - An autistic guy who was seeing a dating therapist (she wanted him to lie to girls) but she cut things off.
      - A guy who is traumatized from his breakup so he doesn't want to continue the hobbies he did with his ex.
      - A guy who jumped to the conclusion that a girl didn't want a second date because she didn't reply to his message (he's so wrong).
      - A guy who was on a date where the girl was just scrolling on her phone as if he wasn't even there (he actually handled it pretty well).
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. How to overcome approach anxiety: practice talking to women more often. Freezing up when a woman responds positively is common when you do not have much experience approaching. The best way to get better is to practice more, assume she will respond well, and stop treating silence like failure.
      2. What to say after approaching a woman: keep the conversation moving. If she smiles, turns toward you, and says something friendly, anything is better than giving up and walking away. Even a simple or imperfect follow-up keeps the interaction alive.
      3. Assume women will want to talk to you when you approach them. A positive mindset helps you stay prepared instead of freezing. Approaching with the assumption that she may enjoy the conversation makes it easier to respond naturally.
      4. Use simple conversation starters when talking to women in bars or social settings. You do not need a scripted routine, but it helps to have easy topics ready. Commenting on the venue, the music, the dance floor, or something she is wearing can keep the conversation moving.
      5. Dating therapists and dating coaches may not fix your dating life, especially female ones. Spending money on dating therapy does not guarantee results, especially if the advice does not help men create attraction. Men should be cautious about paying for advice that does not lead to real dating improvement.
      6. Being liked by women is not the same as creating sexual attraction. A man can be friendly, hygienic, and easy to talk to while still failing to create romantic or sexual interest. To change that, he needs to approach women directly, ask them out, and stop relying only on being liked.
      7. If your dating mindset is not working, you need to change your approach. If the same beliefs and behaviors keep producing the same results, refusing to consider a different strategy will keep you stuck. Being open-minded about dating advice is necessary when your current approach is failing.
      8. How to enjoy hobbies after a breakup: create new memories with new people. If a hobby reminds you of an ex, avoiding it forever can make the breakup control more of your life. Going with friends and creating new memories can help separate the hobby from the old relationship.
      9. How to ask for a second date: send a clear invitation, not a vague text. Saying “we should do this again sometime” is not the same as asking for a second date. If you want to see her again, suggest a specific day or plan instead of waiting for her to take the lead.
      10. Phone use during a first date is disrespectful, but call it out smoothly. If a woman keeps scrolling while you are talking, it is fair to stop and address it. A calmer line like “I’m waiting until you’re finished on your phone” may give the date a better chance of continuing than a harsher confrontation.
      ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/71004232Sat, 09 May 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who says he can easily talk to girls...but is too scared to actually start the conversation. - An autistic guy who was seeing a dating therapist (she wanted him to lie to...- A guy who says he can easily talk to girls...but is too scared to actually start the conversation.
      - An autistic guy who was seeing a dating therapist (she wanted him to lie to girls) but she cut things off.
      - A guy who is traumatized from his breakup so he doesn't want to continue the hobbies he did with his ex.
      - A guy who jumped to the conclusion that a girl didn't want a second date because she didn't reply to his message (he's so wrong).
      - A guy who was on a date where the girl was just scrolling on her phone as if he wasn't even there (he actually handled it pretty well).
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. How to overcome approach anxiety: practice talking to women more often. Freezing up when a woman responds positively is common when you do not have much experience approaching. The best way to get better is to practice more, assume she will respond well, and stop treating silence like failure.
      2. What to say after approaching a woman: keep the conversation moving. If she smiles, turns toward you, and says something friendly, anything is better than giving up and walking away. Even a simple or imperfect follow-up keeps the interaction alive.
      3. Assume women will want to talk to you when you approach them. A positive mindset helps you stay prepared instead of freezing. Approaching with the assumption that she may enjoy the conversation makes it easier to respond naturally.
      4. Use simple conversation starters when talking to women in bars or social settings. You do not need a scripted routine, but it helps to have easy topics ready. Commenting on the venue, the music, the dance floor, or something she is wearing can keep the conversation moving.
      5. Dating therapists and dating coaches may not fix your dating life, especially female ones. Spending money on dating therapy does not guarantee results, especially if the advice does not help men create attraction. Men should be cautious about paying for advice that does not lead to real dating improvement.
      6. Being liked by women is not the same as creating sexual attraction. A man can be friendly, hygienic, and easy to talk to while still failing to create romantic or sexual interest. To change that, he needs to approach women directly, ask them out, and stop relying only on being liked.
      7. If your dating mindset is not working, you need to change your approach. If the same beliefs and behaviors keep producing the same results, refusing to consider a different strategy will keep you stuck. Being open-minded about dating advice is necessary when your current approach is failing.
      8. How to enjoy hobbies after a breakup: create new memories with new people. If a hobby reminds you of an ex, avoiding it forever can make the breakup control more of your life. Going with friends and creating new memories can help separate the hobby from the old relationship.
      9. How to ask for a second date: send a clear invitation, not a vague text. Saying “we should do this again sometime” is not the same as asking for a second date. If you want to see her again, suggest a specific day or plan instead of waiting for her to take the lead.
      10. Phone use during a first date is disrespectful, but call it out smoothly. If a woman keeps scrolling while you are talking, it is fair to stop and address it. A calmer line like “I’m waiting until you’re finished on your phone” may give the date a better chance of continuing than a harsher confrontation.
      ]]>1562dating,reddit,relationships,storiestrue27fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/can-you-send-an-emoji-when-you-ve-seen-my-message-i-get-anxious-when-you-don-t-reply-quickly--70654903- A guy who gets super anxious whenever his girlfriend doesn't reply to his texts within an hour (a commenter gives TERRIBLE advice).
      - A guy who got rekt in the comments because he mentioned he makes six figures and thinks girls are basic.
      - A 20-year-old guy who gets no attention from women (they even make fun of how he looks).
      - A guy whose girlfriend told him she loves him, and now he feels the pressure.
      - A guy who got unmatched on a dating app immediately after what he thought was a great first date.
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Anxious attachment and texting can ruin the relationship dynamic. Getting anxious when your girlfriend takes an hour to reply creates unnecessary pressure. Even if you feel uneasy, do not act on it, do not demand reassurance, and do not ask why she has not texted back yet.
      2. Stop texting your girlfriend constantly if you want a healthier dating life. Constant texting makes every delay feel bigger than it is. Taking an hour or more to reply should be normal, and a man should not apologize or explain himself every time he takes time to respond.
      3. If girls lose interest after one to three dates, the dates may not be exciting enough. Repeating dinner, coffee, or sit-down conversation dates can kill momentum. After the first date, plan something more active or interesting so the connection does not feel stagnant.
      4. Go for sex on the first date if the opportunity is there. If you want better dating results, you need to create romantic and sexual momentum early. Trying to bring her home on the first date, or at least by the second date, keeps the interaction from becoming dull or overly platonic.
      5. Women do not need to share your hobbies to be worth dating. A woman’s hobbies do not have to match yours. What matters more is whether she has a good attitude and is willing to join you for activities you enjoy.
      6. Do not expect money, height, or self-improvement alone to keep women interested. Being six feet tall, earning six figures, working out, or having your life together can help, but those traits do not automatically create attraction or keep a woman around.
      7. If dating apps are not working, focus on approaching women in real life. Dating apps are often a bad fit for men who are not getting matches or replies. Public approach gives you a better chance to show personality, confidence, and presence beyond a profile photo.
      8. Being short or below average looking does not mean you should give up on dating. Height and looks can create disadvantages, but they are not automatic dealbreakers. A man who is 5'7" can still date successfully, especially by approaching women in public and improving his style, body, and confidence.
      9. Do not feel pressured to say “I love you” after only one month of dating. If a woman says “I love you” quickly, you do not need to force yourself to say it back before you mean it. Keep dating at your own pace and let her decide whether the timeline works for her.
      10. If she unmatched you after a good first date, text her instead of overthinking it. Unmatching after exchanging numbers does not automatically mean rejection. If the date went well and you have her phone number, send a clear message to set up the next date and get your answer.
      ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/70654903Sat, 25 Apr 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who gets super anxious whenever his girlfriend doesn't reply to his texts within an hour (a commenter gives TERRIBLE advice). - A guy who got rekt in the comments because he...- A guy who gets super anxious whenever his girlfriend doesn't reply to his texts within an hour (a commenter gives TERRIBLE advice).
      - A guy who got rekt in the comments because he mentioned he makes six figures and thinks girls are basic.
      - A 20-year-old guy who gets no attention from women (they even make fun of how he looks).
      - A guy whose girlfriend told him she loves him, and now he feels the pressure.
      - A guy who got unmatched on a dating app immediately after what he thought was a great first date.
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Anxious attachment and texting can ruin the relationship dynamic. Getting anxious when your girlfriend takes an hour to reply creates unnecessary pressure. Even if you feel uneasy, do not act on it, do not demand reassurance, and do not ask why she has not texted back yet.
      2. Stop texting your girlfriend constantly if you want a healthier dating life. Constant texting makes every delay feel bigger than it is. Taking an hour or more to reply should be normal, and a man should not apologize or explain himself every time he takes time to respond.
      3. If girls lose interest after one to three dates, the dates may not be exciting enough. Repeating dinner, coffee, or sit-down conversation dates can kill momentum. After the first date, plan something more active or interesting so the connection does not feel stagnant.
      4. Go for sex on the first date if the opportunity is there. If you want better dating results, you need to create romantic and sexual momentum early. Trying to bring her home on the first date, or at least by the second date, keeps the interaction from becoming dull or overly platonic.
      5. Women do not need to share your hobbies to be worth dating. A woman’s hobbies do not have to match yours. What matters more is whether she has a good attitude and is willing to join you for activities you enjoy.
      6. Do not expect money, height, or self-improvement alone to keep women interested. Being six feet tall, earning six figures, working out, or having your life together can help, but those traits do not automatically create attraction or keep a woman around.
      7. If dating apps are not working, focus on approaching women in real life. Dating apps are often a bad fit for men who are not getting matches or replies. Public approach gives you a better chance to show personality, confidence, and presence beyond a profile photo.
      8. Being short or below average looking does not mean you should give up on dating. Height and looks can create disadvantages, but they are not automatic dealbreakers. A man who is 5'7" can still date successfully, especially by approaching women in public and improving his style, body, and confidence.
      9. Do not feel pressured to say “I love you” after only one month of dating. If a woman says “I love you” quickly, you do not need to force yourself to say it back before you mean it. Keep dating at your own pace and let her decide whether the timeline works for her.
      10. If she unmatched you after a good first date, text her instead of overthinking it. Unmatching after exchanging numbers does not automatically mean rejection. If the date went well and you have her phone number, send a clear message to set up the next date and get your answer.
      ]]>1831dating,reddit,relationships,storiestrue26fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/it-s-so-unfair-that-women-expect-me-to-have-confidence-and-therapy-didn-t-help--70443179- A guy who thinks all the new girls he meets are downgrades compared to his ex (the Reddit comments on this one are really dumb).
      - A guy who's convinced himself that he's not afraid of rejection, he just doesn't want to inconvenience girls.
      - An overly-anxious guy who thinks it's a bad thing that a girl is texting less after the first date (even though the next date is already scheduled).
      - A pessimistic guy that I was going to give advice to, but I gave up.
      - A regular customer of a cute girl, so he gave a napkin with his phone number on it to her but didn't receive any texts.
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Everyone feels like a downgrade after a breakup when you are not over your ex. Comparing every new woman to your ex is normal after a painful breakup, especially when she was your first girlfriend. The solution is not to stop dating, but to keep meeting women while staying open to the possibility that another great one will come along.
      2. Your ex may not be as special as she feels right now. When you are young and inexperienced, a first serious girlfriend can feel impossible to replace. More dating experience often reveals that the relationship was not as unique as it seemed in the moment.
      3. Dating after heartbreak requires going on dates instead of romanticizing the past. If you are getting matches and opportunities, use them. Sitting around comparing every woman to your ex keeps you stuck, while going on more dates gives you the experience needed to move forward.
      4. Approaching women in public does not mean you are ruining their day. Worrying that you are inconveniencing a woman by flirting can stop you from ever taking action. If you approach respectfully and accept rejection, you are not doing anything wrong.
      5. A woman feeling uncomfortable after a respectful approach is not your responsibility. If you politely shoot your shot and she is not interested, that is the end of it. You do not need to leave the venue, apologize for existing, or manage her feelings after a normal interaction.
      6. Stop waiting for women to text first after a date. Most men cannot rely on women to pursue them, even if the date went well. If you want to see her again, take the lead, set up the next date, and do not play passive texting games.
      7. Less texting between dates usually creates less anxiety and better momentum. After a date is planned, you do not need constant conversation to keep her interested. Save your conversations for the date and send a simple confirmation message the day before.
      8. Do not ask a woman if she is losing interest because her texting changed. Sending a needy message about her texting patterns can create the very loss of interest you are afraid of. Stay calm, avoid insecure check-ins, and focus on whether she agrees to meet again.
      9. Confidence and humor matter in dating because women value how a man makes them feel. Resenting the importance of confidence or a sense of humor will not help your dating life. If your current mindset is bitter, negative, or self-hating, it will be much harder to attract women.
      10. Do not give a coffee shop girl your number on a napkin and wait passively. Passing a note can feel bold, but it is usually not the best move. If you like a woman who works somewhere you visit regularly, talk to her directly when she has a moment and ask for her number with words.
      ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/70443179Sat, 11 Apr 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who thinks all the new girls he meets are downgrades compared to his ex (the Reddit comments on this one are really dumb). - A guy who's convinced himself that he's not...- A guy who thinks all the new girls he meets are downgrades compared to his ex (the Reddit comments on this one are really dumb).
      - A guy who's convinced himself that he's not afraid of rejection, he just doesn't want to inconvenience girls.
      - An overly-anxious guy who thinks it's a bad thing that a girl is texting less after the first date (even though the next date is already scheduled).
      - A pessimistic guy that I was going to give advice to, but I gave up.
      - A regular customer of a cute girl, so he gave a napkin with his phone number on it to her but didn't receive any texts.
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. Everyone feels like a downgrade after a breakup when you are not over your ex. Comparing every new woman to your ex is normal after a painful breakup, especially when she was your first girlfriend. The solution is not to stop dating, but to keep meeting women while staying open to the possibility that another great one will come along.
      2. Your ex may not be as special as she feels right now. When you are young and inexperienced, a first serious girlfriend can feel impossible to replace. More dating experience often reveals that the relationship was not as unique as it seemed in the moment.
      3. Dating after heartbreak requires going on dates instead of romanticizing the past. If you are getting matches and opportunities, use them. Sitting around comparing every woman to your ex keeps you stuck, while going on more dates gives you the experience needed to move forward.
      4. Approaching women in public does not mean you are ruining their day. Worrying that you are inconveniencing a woman by flirting can stop you from ever taking action. If you approach respectfully and accept rejection, you are not doing anything wrong.
      5. A woman feeling uncomfortable after a respectful approach is not your responsibility. If you politely shoot your shot and she is not interested, that is the end of it. You do not need to leave the venue, apologize for existing, or manage her feelings after a normal interaction.
      6. Stop waiting for women to text first after a date. Most men cannot rely on women to pursue them, even if the date went well. If you want to see her again, take the lead, set up the next date, and do not play passive texting games.
      7. Less texting between dates usually creates less anxiety and better momentum. After a date is planned, you do not need constant conversation to keep her interested. Save your conversations for the date and send a simple confirmation message the day before.
      8. Do not ask a woman if she is losing interest because her texting changed. Sending a needy message about her texting patterns can create the very loss of interest you are afraid of. Stay calm, avoid insecure check-ins, and focus on whether she agrees to meet again.
      9. Confidence and humor matter in dating because women value how a man makes them feel. Resenting the importance of confidence or a sense of humor will not help your dating life. If your current mindset is bitter, negative, or self-hating, it will be much harder to attract women.
      10. Do not give a coffee shop girl your number on a napkin and wait passively. Passing a note can feel bold, but it is usually not the best move. If you like a woman who works somewhere you visit regularly, talk to her directly when she has a moment and ask for her number with words.
      ]]>1621dartingadviceformen,dating,datingadvice,datingstories,reddit,relationships,storiestrue25fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/we-ve-been-dating-for-a-year-and-she-just-gave-me-herpes-should-i-be-mad--70248869- A guy who has been on 5 dates with a girl who has now told him she's going on a date with another guy.
      - A guy who got kicked to the curb after hooking up with an older woman (he brought wine to her house).
      - A post removed by Reddit mods from a guy who got herpes from his girlfriend.
      - An overthinking guy who doesn't like that his girlfriend told him he can "do whatever he wants" physically.
      - A guy wondering if he should keep seeing a girl he's really into or cut it off (isn't it obvious?).
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. If the woman you are dating says she is going on a date with another guy, move on. Even without an exclusivity talk, most men will not feel good hearing that a woman they have slept with and dated multiple times is seeing someone else. If she openly tells you this, it may be a sign to find a better woman instead of trying to rationalize it.
      2. Do not ask for exclusivity just because you feel threatened. Asking for the boyfriend-girlfriend talk or exclusivity talk can make things feel forced and needy. It is better to keep the dynamic natural, let actions speak, and avoid turning dating into a negotiation.
      3. Living far away can make dating harder if you are not available when she wants to see you. When you live two hours away and cannot meet, another man who is more convenient may win her attention. If you like a woman and want to keep things moving, you may need to make the trip, get a hotel, or find a way to see her.
      4. Stop overanalyzing whether a woman is scared of intimacy if she is already sleeping with you. If she is having sex with you, do not get stuck worrying about whether she avoids kissing, cuddling, or emotional closeness. Focus on what is actually happening instead of creating a story about her past.
      5. A one-night stand can feel brutal when you wanted more, but the decision may already be made. If a woman tells you it was only a one-night thing and removes you from social media, do not keep chasing her. Accept that it is over, forget about her, and understand that women can be just as harsh after sex as men are accused of being.
      6. When a woman invites you to her apartment early, understand that it may only be a one-night stand. Showing up at her place with wine, having sex, staying overnight, and then expecting a relationship can set you up for disappointment. Pay attention to the signals she gave before and after the date.
      7. If your girlfriend had herpes and did not tell you, find out what she actually knew before deciding what to do. It is fair to feel shocked, angry, or turned off, but the key question is whether she knowingly put you at risk or genuinely did not understand it could still be passed on. A one-year relationship should not automatically be thrown away without understanding the full picture.
      8. Do not ask a woman for permission before every physical move. Asking about physical affection and boundaries can kill the mood when the woman already likes you and tells you to do what you want. In most dating situations, the man should lead physically and trust that she will stop him if she does not want something.
      9. If she says “do whatever you want,” stop overthinking and make a move. A woman who is spending time with you, enjoying your company, and telling you to do what you want is giving you a good signal. Do not wait for her to initiate hugs, cuddling, kissing, or other physical affection.
      10. If she is not ready for a relationship but wants to keep seeing you, keep it casual. If you like her and the dates are going well, do not throw the situation away just because she does not want a label yet. Keep seeing her, keep the pressure low, and protect your feelings by dating other women too.
      ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/70248869Sat, 28 Mar 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who has been on 5 dates with a girl who has now told him she's going on a date with another guy. - A guy who got kicked to the curb after hooking up with an older woman (he...- A guy who has been on 5 dates with a girl who has now told him she's going on a date with another guy.
      - A guy who got kicked to the curb after hooking up with an older woman (he brought wine to her house).
      - A post removed by Reddit mods from a guy who got herpes from his girlfriend.
      - An overthinking guy who doesn't like that his girlfriend told him he can "do whatever he wants" physically.
      - A guy wondering if he should keep seeing a girl he's really into or cut it off (isn't it obvious?).
      
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      Dating lessons from this episode:
      
      1. If the woman you are dating says she is going on a date with another guy, move on. Even without an exclusivity talk, most men will not feel good hearing that a woman they have slept with and dated multiple times is seeing someone else. If she openly tells you this, it may be a sign to find a better woman instead of trying to rationalize it.
      2. Do not ask for exclusivity just because you feel threatened. Asking for the boyfriend-girlfriend talk or exclusivity talk can make things feel forced and needy. It is better to keep the dynamic natural, let actions speak, and avoid turning dating into a negotiation.
      3. Living far away can make dating harder if you are not available when she wants to see you. When you live two hours away and cannot meet, another man who is more convenient may win her attention. If you like a woman and want to keep things moving, you may need to make the trip, get a hotel, or find a way to see her.
      4. Stop overanalyzing whether a woman is scared of intimacy if she is already sleeping with you. If she is having sex with you, do not get stuck worrying about whether she avoids kissing, cuddling, or emotional closeness. Focus on what is actually happening instead of creating a story about her past.
      5. A one-night stand can feel brutal when you wanted more, but the decision may already be made. If a woman tells you it was only a one-night thing and removes you from social media, do not keep chasing her. Accept that it is over, forget about her, and understand that women can be just as harsh after sex as men are accused of being.
      6. When a woman invites you to her apartment early, understand that it may only be a one-night stand. Showing up at her place with wine, having sex, staying overnight, and then expecting a relationship can set you up for disappointment. Pay attention to the signals she gave before and after the date.
      7. If your girlfriend had herpes and did not tell you, find out what she actually knew before deciding what to do. It is fair to feel shocked, angry, or turned off, but the key question is whether she knowingly put you at risk or genuinely did not understand it could still be passed on. A one-year relationship should not automatically be thrown away without understanding the full picture.
      8. Do not ask a woman for permission before every physical move. Asking about physical affection and boundaries can kill the mood when the woman already likes you and tells you to do what you want. In most dating situations, the man should lead physically and trust that she will stop him if she does not want something.
      9. If she says “do whatever you want,” stop overthinking and make a move. A woman who is spending time with you, enjoying your company, and telling you to do what you want is giving you a good signal. Do not wait for her to initiate hugs, cuddling, kissing, or other physical affection.
      10. If she is not ready for a relationship but wants to keep seeing you, keep it casual. If you like her and the dates are going well, do not throw the situation away just because...]]>1355advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,datingtips,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,stories,tipstrue24fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-m-28-an-18-year-old-wanted-to-go-on-a-date-with-me-i-said-no-am-i-weird--70193193- A guy with no prospects and no sex in the past 7 years who quickly cut things off with a girl after one date.
          - A guy whose photo got posted on Facebook by a girl he was dating because she wanted dirt on him.
          - An ugly, boring guy with no personality wondering how he could ever attract a woman (me and him actually aren't so different). 
          - A guy living in a huge city (Phoenix) but still can't find any women to date.
          - A guy who has so many women in his life that he rejected an 18-year-old who wanted to go on a date.
          
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          Dating lessons from this epiosde:
          
          1. Do not cut things off after one date because of a texting argument. Texting can create misunderstandings, especially when personal topics come up too early. If the woman was good in person and you do not have other options, it is usually better to meet again before throwing the situation away.
          2. Texting should mainly be used to make plans, not to argue about personal issues. Long emotional conversations over text can damage a dating situation before it has a chance to develop. Save serious topics for in-person conversations and use texting mostly to set up the next date.
          3. If you regret ending things with a woman, send the message and get your answer. Worrying about seeming needy is less important than finding out whether there is still a chance. If you want to see her again, be straightforward, accept the outcome, and avoid sitting in regret.
          4. Women-only Facebook dating groups are creepy and invasive when they post about men before a date. Being posted in a private group with your name, location, and dating details can feel like a privacy violation. If a woman posts about you before even meeting, it is reasonable to feel creeped out and cancel the date.
          5. “If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about” is a bad dating privacy argument. Being a decent guy does not mean strangers should be able to discuss your personal life in private groups. Men should not have to give up privacy because other men behave badly.
          6. Do not rely on women randomly showing interest in you if you want a dating life. Most men will not have women approaching them, complimenting them, or openly flirting with them. If you want results, you need to pursue women directly instead of waiting to be chosen.
          7. If you think you are ugly or boring, you still need real data from approaching women. Feeling unattractive does not prove that women will reject you. You need to actually approach women, ask for numbers, and create a large enough sample size before deciding what is or is not working.
          8. Dating apps are not enough for most men, especially if the top of the funnel is weak. If online dating gives you few matches or no dates, you need to create opportunities in real life. Cold approach, malls, Target, parks, and other public places can work if you actively talk to women instead of waiting for perfect openings.
          9. Ditch the business card when cold approaching women. Handing a woman your business card can make the interaction feel like networking instead of dating. If you meet a woman in public, talk to her normally, get her phone number, and follow up like a man who wants a date.
          10. Do not reject an attractive 18-year-old just because of an age gap if she is legally an adult. If she wants to go on a date and she is attractive, do not decide for her that the age difference is wrong or that you have nothing in common. Go on the date first, then decide based on the actual interaction.
          ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/70193193Sat, 14 Mar 2026 14:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy with no prospects and no sex in the past 7 years who quickly cut things off with a girl after one date. - A guy whose photo got posted on Facebook by a girl he was dating...- A guy with no prospects and no sex in the past 7 years who quickly cut things off with a girl after one date.
          - A guy whose photo got posted on Facebook by a girl he was dating because she wanted dirt on him.
          - An ugly, boring guy with no personality wondering how he could ever attract a woman (me and him actually aren't so different). 
          - A guy living in a huge city (Phoenix) but still can't find any women to date.
          - A guy who has so many women in his life that he rejected an 18-year-old who wanted to go on a date.
          
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          Dating lessons from this epiosde:
          
          1. Do not cut things off after one date because of a texting argument. Texting can create misunderstandings, especially when personal topics come up too early. If the woman was good in person and you do not have other options, it is usually better to meet again before throwing the situation away.
          2. Texting should mainly be used to make plans, not to argue about personal issues. Long emotional conversations over text can damage a dating situation before it has a chance to develop. Save serious topics for in-person conversations and use texting mostly to set up the next date.
          3. If you regret ending things with a woman, send the message and get your answer. Worrying about seeming needy is less important than finding out whether there is still a chance. If you want to see her again, be straightforward, accept the outcome, and avoid sitting in regret.
          4. Women-only Facebook dating groups are creepy and invasive when they post about men before a date. Being posted in a private group with your name, location, and dating details can feel like a privacy violation. If a woman posts about you before even meeting, it is reasonable to feel creeped out and cancel the date.
          5. “If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about” is a bad dating privacy argument. Being a decent guy does not mean strangers should be able to discuss your personal life in private groups. Men should not have to give up privacy because other men behave badly.
          6. Do not rely on women randomly showing interest in you if you want a dating life. Most men will not have women approaching them, complimenting them, or openly flirting with them. If you want results, you need to pursue women directly instead of waiting to be chosen.
          7. If you think you are ugly or boring, you still need real data from approaching women. Feeling unattractive does not prove that women will reject you. You need to actually approach women, ask for numbers, and create a large enough sample size before deciding what is or is not working.
          8. Dating apps are not enough for most men, especially if the top of the funnel is weak. If online dating gives you few matches or no dates, you need to create opportunities in real life. Cold approach, malls, Target, parks, and other public places can work if you actively talk to women instead of waiting for perfect openings.
          9. Ditch the business card when cold approaching women. Handing a woman your business card can make the interaction feel like networking instead of dating. If you meet a woman in public, talk to her normally, get her phone number, and follow up like a man who wants a date.
          10. Do not reject an attractive 18-year-old just because of an age gap if she is legally an adult. If she wants to go on a date and she is attractive, do not decide for her that the age difference is wrong or that you have nothing in common. Go on the date first, then decide based on the actual interaction.
          ]]>1738advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,datingtips,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,stories,tipstrue23fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-want-to-play-tennis-with-one-girl-and-date-another-this-is-cheating-right--69848606- A guy who was taking it "slow" with a girl (AKA they weren't even dating) and now she hooked up with someone.
          - A guy who knows that he needs to approach women, but freeze up when he tries.
          - A guy who desperately wants to forget about a girl that he loves (HE broke up with HER so wtf?) + a story about a girl who was banging me while her boyfriend wasn't in the country.
          - A worried guy wondering if his girlfriend who moved 4 hours away should be instantly replying to his texts (and my advice for when girls you hang out with go travel somewhere).
          - A guy who feels guilty just because he hangs out with more than one women throughout his week.
          - An ugly-duckling (self-proclaimed) who is suddenly getting TONS of female attention (what happened?).
          
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          Dating lessons from this epiosde:
          
          1. If your crush sleeps with another guy, forget about her and pursue other women. Even if you thought she liked you, sleeping with another guy shows she is not acting like a woman who is seriously interested. Do not pedestalize her, do not wait around, and do not chase one girl when you should be pursuing several.
          2. Taking it slow with a woman can make you lose the opportunity. If you like a woman, you need to act on your intentions instead of slowly hoping something develops. Going too slow out of “respect” can leave you hurt when she chooses a man who moves faster.
          3. How to start a conversation with a girl: give yourself permission to fail. Most men do not approach women at all, so taking action already puts you ahead. You may freeze, stumble, or say something awkward at first, but practicing cold approach is how you build confidence.
          4. Cold approach gets easier when you stop judging success by the phone number. The first win is making yourself approach, not whether she gives you her number. Some days will be bad, some days will be good, and failure is temporary if you keep talking to women.
          5. The best way to get someone out of your head is to meet more girls. If you are stuck replaying a woman in your mind, dating and sleeping with new women is the most effective way to detach. Even temporary distraction with another girl is better than sitting alone in mental replay.
          6. Do not always end things just because a woman is thinking about another man. If she is still seeing you, sleeping with you, and not actively dating someone else, it may be better to keep the situation going instead of cutting it off too quickly. Take advantage of what is in front of you while it lasts.
          7. If a woman moves away temporarily, keep expectations low and stay lightly in touch. A woman being four hours away for an internship does not have to end the connection, but you should not get needy about slow replies. Check in occasionally, consider visiting, and accept that the situation may fade.
          8. Slow texting does not automatically mean a woman is losing interest. If she still apologizes, replies, and has shown affection in person, do not assume every delayed message is rejection. Texting every day may be unnecessary, especially when the better move is to set up the next time you see her.
          9. You can date multiple women at once when nothing is official. After one date, you do not owe exclusivity to anyone. You can keep meeting new women, keep seeing the girl you have chemistry with, and even play tennis with another woman if there is no official relationship.
          10. If women suddenly show interest in you, stop self-sabotaging and escalate. Getting more attention means you need to practice turning interest into dates, kissing, sex, and real experience. You may feel inexperienced, but you deserve the opportunity, and the only way to get better is to go for it.
          ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/69848606Sat, 28 Feb 2026 15:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who was taking it "slow" with a girl (AKA they weren't even dating) and now she hooked up with someone. - A guy who knows that he needs to approach women, but freeze up when...- A guy who was taking it "slow" with a girl (AKA they weren't even dating) and now she hooked up with someone.
          - A guy who knows that he needs to approach women, but freeze up when he tries.
          - A guy who desperately wants to forget about a girl that he loves (HE broke up with HER so wtf?) + a story about a girl who was banging me while her boyfriend wasn't in the country.
          - A worried guy wondering if his girlfriend who moved 4 hours away should be instantly replying to his texts (and my advice for when girls you hang out with go travel somewhere).
          - A guy who feels guilty just because he hangs out with more than one women throughout his week.
          - An ugly-duckling (self-proclaimed) who is suddenly getting TONS of female attention (what happened?).
          
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          Dating lessons from this epiosde:
          
          1. If your crush sleeps with another guy, forget about her and pursue other women. Even if you thought she liked you, sleeping with another guy shows she is not acting like a woman who is seriously interested. Do not pedestalize her, do not wait around, and do not chase one girl when you should be pursuing several.
          2. Taking it slow with a woman can make you lose the opportunity. If you like a woman, you need to act on your intentions instead of slowly hoping something develops. Going too slow out of “respect” can leave you hurt when she chooses a man who moves faster.
          3. How to start a conversation with a girl: give yourself permission to fail. Most men do not approach women at all, so taking action already puts you ahead. You may freeze, stumble, or say something awkward at first, but practicing cold approach is how you build confidence.
          4. Cold approach gets easier when you stop judging success by the phone number. The first win is making yourself approach, not whether she gives you her number. Some days will be bad, some days will be good, and failure is temporary if you keep talking to women.
          5. The best way to get someone out of your head is to meet more girls. If you are stuck replaying a woman in your mind, dating and sleeping with new women is the most effective way to detach. Even temporary distraction with another girl is better than sitting alone in mental replay.
          6. Do not always end things just because a woman is thinking about another man. If she is still seeing you, sleeping with you, and not actively dating someone else, it may be better to keep the situation going instead of cutting it off too quickly. Take advantage of what is in front of you while it lasts.
          7. If a woman moves away temporarily, keep expectations low and stay lightly in touch. A woman being four hours away for an internship does not have to end the connection, but you should not get needy about slow replies. Check in occasionally, consider visiting, and accept that the situation may fade.
          8. Slow texting does not automatically mean a woman is losing interest. If she still apologizes, replies, and has shown affection in person, do not assume every delayed message is rejection. Texting every day may be unnecessary, especially when the better move is to set up the next time you see her.
          9. You can date multiple women at once when nothing is official. After one date, you do not owe exclusivity to anyone. You can keep meeting new women, keep seeing the girl you have chemistry with, and even play tennis with another woman if there is no official relationship.
          10. If women suddenly show interest in you, stop self-sabotaging and escalate. Getting more attention means you need to practice turning interest into dates, kissing, sex, and real experience. You may...]]>1857advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,datingtips,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,stories,tipstrue22fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-broke-up-with-2-girls-because-they-texted-too-much-what-should-i-tell-my-therapist--69528013- A guy who broke up with his last two girlfriends because they wouldn't stop texting him.
              - A guy wanting to know what women find attractive and how he can change his personality/appearance.
              - A 33-year-old guy who thinks he's running out of time to find a girl to have kids with (he might be right).
              - A guy who needs help dealing with a girl who told him "I'll have to check my schedule."
              - A 39-year-old virgin who wants to know if he should tell girls about that fact before dating.
              
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              Dating lessons from this episode:
              
              1. If you do not like texting, set the tone from the beginning of dating. You do not need to text women all day to keep them interested, but you do need to establish that dynamic early. If you start a relationship by texting constantly and then suddenly pull back, it can create suspicion, pressure, and unnecessary conflict.
              2. Texting less does not mean ignoring women completely. If a woman sends something worth replying to, answer it, but do not treat every message like an obligation to start a long conversation. Taking a few hours to reply is normal and can reduce the feeling that texting is a part-time job.
              3. Use texting mostly to make plans, not to maintain constant connection. Daily texting is not required for dating success. A better approach is to use texts to set up dates, confirm plans, and occasionally send something relevant, while saving most conversations for in-person meetings.
              4. What women find attractive starts with looks, but confidence can overcome a lot. A good face, height, and a fit body make dating easier, but they are not the whole game. Confidence, experience, and the ability to approach women can help a man succeed even if he is not naturally extremely attractive.
              5. Going to the gym gets you to the minimum acceptable level for many women. Being fit is not some magic advantage; it is often the baseline. If you are fat, too skinny, or physically out of shape, improving your body should be treated as a basic requirement for better dating results.
              6. Do not approach women pretending you only want friendship. If you are attracted to a woman, let that intention guide the interaction instead of hiding behind “let’s be friends and see what happens.” Women usually understand when a man is talking to them because he finds them attractive.
              7. Dating in your thirties means you should take time pressure seriously. At 33, you are not out of options, but you are also not getting younger. If you want a girlfriend, marriage, or kids someday, you need to be honest about that pressure and start dating with more clarity.
              8. If a woman says she has to check her schedule, follow up instead of spiraling. “I’ll check my schedule” does not automatically mean she has low interest. Give her a little time, then send a direct follow-up asking whether she can meet, so you get an answer instead of sitting in uncertainty.
              9. Keep dating other women instead of over-prioritizing one who barely sees you. If you only see a woman twice a month or she is hard to schedule, do not make her your only option. Keep meeting new women so one uncertain situation does not control your dating life.
              10. If you are a 39-year-old virgin, do not put that information on your dating profile. You do not need to announce your inexperience early or make it the center of your dating identity. Let women assume you are normal, avoid oversharing, and only address the topic if it somehow becomes necessary.
              ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/69528013Sat, 14 Feb 2026 15:00:02 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who broke up with his last two girlfriends because they wouldn't stop texting him. - A guy wanting to know what women find attractive and how he can change his...- A guy who broke up with his last two girlfriends because they wouldn't stop texting him.
              - A guy wanting to know what women find attractive and how he can change his personality/appearance.
              - A 33-year-old guy who thinks he's running out of time to find a girl to have kids with (he might be right).
              - A guy who needs help dealing with a girl who told him "I'll have to check my schedule."
              - A 39-year-old virgin who wants to know if he should tell girls about that fact before dating.
              
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              Dating lessons from this episode:
              
              1. If you do not like texting, set the tone from the beginning of dating. You do not need to text women all day to keep them interested, but you do need to establish that dynamic early. If you start a relationship by texting constantly and then suddenly pull back, it can create suspicion, pressure, and unnecessary conflict.
              2. Texting less does not mean ignoring women completely. If a woman sends something worth replying to, answer it, but do not treat every message like an obligation to start a long conversation. Taking a few hours to reply is normal and can reduce the feeling that texting is a part-time job.
              3. Use texting mostly to make plans, not to maintain constant connection. Daily texting is not required for dating success. A better approach is to use texts to set up dates, confirm plans, and occasionally send something relevant, while saving most conversations for in-person meetings.
              4. What women find attractive starts with looks, but confidence can overcome a lot. A good face, height, and a fit body make dating easier, but they are not the whole game. Confidence, experience, and the ability to approach women can help a man succeed even if he is not naturally extremely attractive.
              5. Going to the gym gets you to the minimum acceptable level for many women. Being fit is not some magic advantage; it is often the baseline. If you are fat, too skinny, or physically out of shape, improving your body should be treated as a basic requirement for better dating results.
              6. Do not approach women pretending you only want friendship. If you are attracted to a woman, let that intention guide the interaction instead of hiding behind “let’s be friends and see what happens.” Women usually understand when a man is talking to them because he finds them attractive.
              7. Dating in your thirties means you should take time pressure seriously. At 33, you are not out of options, but you are also not getting younger. If you want a girlfriend, marriage, or kids someday, you need to be honest about that pressure and start dating with more clarity.
              8. If a woman says she has to check her schedule, follow up instead of spiraling. “I’ll check my schedule” does not automatically mean she has low interest. Give her a little time, then send a direct follow-up asking whether she can meet, so you get an answer instead of sitting in uncertainty.
              9. Keep dating other women instead of over-prioritizing one who barely sees you. If you only see a woman twice a month or she is hard to schedule, do not make her your only option. Keep meeting new women so one uncertain situation does not control your dating life.
              10. If you are a 39-year-old virgin, do not put that information on your dating profile. You do not need to announce your inexperience early or make it the center of your dating identity. Let women assume you are normal, avoid oversharing, and only address the topic if it somehow becomes necessary.
              ]]>1947advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,datingtips,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,stories,tipstrue21fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-told-her-that-i-m-on-antidepressants-and-she-got-upset-should-i-quit-taking-them--69383790- A guy who thinks he got ghosted after a 6 weeks of dating (but I'm not so sure).
              - A guy who is thinking about ending it with the girl he's been dating because she doesn't meet up frequently enough (he should take a lesson from her approach to dating).
              - A guy who received the ol' "let's just be friends" text message and wants to know the best response.
              - A guy who handed a note to a girl who was working that asked her to hang out sometime (what did he expect her to do?)
              -  A depressed guy that is considering quitting his meds because the girl he's dating was shocked when he told her.
              
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              Dating lessons from this episode:
              
              1. Getting ghosted after six dates can happen when the connection moves too fast. If a woman goes from constant “I miss you” texts and affection to complete silence, the early intensity may have been unsustainable. Set the tone from the beginning so the relationship does not peak too hard too early and collapse.
              2. Do not match a woman’s love-bombing energy too quickly. When a woman sends constant affectionate texts early on, replying instantly with the same intensity can create unrealistic expectations. Keeping your replies slower and steadier can help prevent the dynamic from burning out.
              3. If she stops replying after saying she is busy, send one more clear invite. “Let me know when you’re free” is often too passive because most people are bad at making plans. If you like her, follow up with a specific message asking when she is free instead of assuming the situation is dead.
              4. Sleeping together on the first date does not explain why she ghosted. Having sex on the first date does not automatically mean a woman is playing the field or that the connection was doomed. First-date sex can still lead to strong dating momentum, so do not blame the timing of sex for every ghosting situation.
              5. If a woman only wants to meet every two weeks, stop trying to force more time together. Seeing someone every two weeks can be enough early on, especially if she is still willing to meet. Pushing for more frequent dates, texting every day, or calling to ask where things are going can make you look too eager.
              6. Asking for permission to kiss can make the moment awkward. Instead of asking directly, it is better to read the situation and make a move naturally. A small physical step, like kissing her cheek, can help you gauge interest without turning the moment into a verbal negotiation.
              7. If a woman gets quiet after making out, she may be waiting for you to escalate. Quietness after kissing does not always mean discomfort or rejection. In some situations, especially after several dates, it may mean she is mentally preparing for sex and waiting for you to lead.
              8. The best response to “let’s just be friends” is no response. If a woman sends a “just friends” text after a date, she is usually not actually trying to start a friendship. Do not argue, teach her a lesson, or send a reactive goodbye message; stay silent and go date someone else.
              9. Do not give a woman your number on a note if you could talk to her normally. Handing a note to a woman who works somewhere you visit can feel awkward and usually gives her very little reason to respond. Build small conversations first, learn something about her, and ask directly when the timing is better.
              10. Do not reveal antidepressant use early in dating unless it is necessary. Bringing up antidepressants on the fifth date can create doubts before the relationship is established. Do not stop medication for a woman, but in future dating situations, avoid oversharing medical or mental-health details too early.
              ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/69383790Sat, 31 Jan 2026 15:00:07 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who thinks he got ghosted after a 6 weeks of dating (but I'm not so sure). - A guy who is thinking about ending it with the girl he's been dating because she doesn't meet up...- A guy who thinks he got ghosted after a 6 weeks of dating (but I'm not so sure).
              - A guy who is thinking about ending it with the girl he's been dating because she doesn't meet up frequently enough (he should take a lesson from her approach to dating).
              - A guy who received the ol' "let's just be friends" text message and wants to know the best response.
              - A guy who handed a note to a girl who was working that asked her to hang out sometime (what did he expect her to do?)
              -  A depressed guy that is considering quitting his meds because the girl he's dating was shocked when he told her.
              
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              Dating lessons from this episode:
              
              1. Getting ghosted after six dates can happen when the connection moves too fast. If a woman goes from constant “I miss you” texts and affection to complete silence, the early intensity may have been unsustainable. Set the tone from the beginning so the relationship does not peak too hard too early and collapse.
              2. Do not match a woman’s love-bombing energy too quickly. When a woman sends constant affectionate texts early on, replying instantly with the same intensity can create unrealistic expectations. Keeping your replies slower and steadier can help prevent the dynamic from burning out.
              3. If she stops replying after saying she is busy, send one more clear invite. “Let me know when you’re free” is often too passive because most people are bad at making plans. If you like her, follow up with a specific message asking when she is free instead of assuming the situation is dead.
              4. Sleeping together on the first date does not explain why she ghosted. Having sex on the first date does not automatically mean a woman is playing the field or that the connection was doomed. First-date sex can still lead to strong dating momentum, so do not blame the timing of sex for every ghosting situation.
              5. If a woman only wants to meet every two weeks, stop trying to force more time together. Seeing someone every two weeks can be enough early on, especially if she is still willing to meet. Pushing for more frequent dates, texting every day, or calling to ask where things are going can make you look too eager.
              6. Asking for permission to kiss can make the moment awkward. Instead of asking directly, it is better to read the situation and make a move naturally. A small physical step, like kissing her cheek, can help you gauge interest without turning the moment into a verbal negotiation.
              7. If a woman gets quiet after making out, she may be waiting for you to escalate. Quietness after kissing does not always mean discomfort or rejection. In some situations, especially after several dates, it may mean she is mentally preparing for sex and waiting for you to lead.
              8. The best response to “let’s just be friends” is no response. If a woman sends a “just friends” text after a date, she is usually not actually trying to start a friendship. Do not argue, teach her a lesson, or send a reactive goodbye message; stay silent and go date someone else.
              9. Do not give a woman your number on a note if you could talk to her normally. Handing a note to a woman who works somewhere you visit can feel awkward and usually gives her very little reason to respond. Build small conversations first, learn something about her, and ask directly when the timing is better.
              10. Do not reveal antidepressant use early in dating unless it is necessary. Bringing up antidepressants on the fifth date can create doubts before the relationship is established. Do not stop medication for a woman, but in future dating situations, avoid oversharing medical or...]]>1322advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,datingtips,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,stories,tipstrue20fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-have-87-posters-of-a-korean-idol-in-my-apartment-will-girls-think-that-s-weird--69305883- A guy who had a girl tell him she can't meet for 3 months (but don't worry, she's not gonna talk to any other guys before then).
                  - A guy whose girlfriend is having long text conversations with the new guy at work.
                  - A spineless guy that paid everyone's bill when the girl he's been dating brought her friends to their meetup (he needs to grow a pair).
                  - A guy who wants to be eXcLuSiVe with the girl he's seeing and wants to know how to broach the topic.
                  - An obsessive guy that has 87 posters of a Korean idol on his walls and wants to know if girls will think that's a red flag.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Waiting three and a half months for a first date is usually a bad use of your time. If a woman says she cannot meet for months, do not text her every day trying to keep the momentum alive. Ask her on a real date, put the ball in her court, and only check in occasionally if you still want to keep the option open.
                  2. Do not confuse asking about her “first date policy” with asking her on a date. If you want to meet a woman, ask directly whether she is free on a specific day. Vague conversations about dating expectations are not the same as making a concrete plan.
                  3. The longer it takes to get a woman on a first date, the lower your chances usually become. A match or phone number loses value the longer it sits without an in-person meeting. If you cannot meet quickly, keep your investment low and do not act like you are committed to someone you have never dated.
                  4. If your girlfriend is messaging a male coworker too much, you are right to be concerned. Work conversations are one thing, but full conversations about weekends, personal life, and getting to know each other are a problem. A girlfriend should keep it short with men who clearly have non-work intentions.
                  5. A girlfriend who entertains male attention is creating a problem she will eventually have to deal with. If she keeps engaging a man who is interested in her, the situation can escalate until he asks her out or crosses a line. Cutting it off early is cleaner than letting another man build momentum.
                  6. If a woman brings three friends on a date and you pay for everyone, you got taken advantage of. A date should not turn into a group outing where you are expected to cover her friends. Do not let a woman put you on the spot financially, and do not pay for people you did not invite.
                  7. Do not try to teach a woman a lesson by making her jealous. If she brings friends on a date or behaves badly, handle your own situation directly instead of playing games. Ask whether she is bringing friends again, say you want to meet one-on-one, and only pay your own bill if needed.
                  8. Do not bring up exclusivity with a woman you are dating. If a woman likes you enough, she may naturally stop seeing other men without a formal conversation. Trying to lock her down too directly can make you look needy and may lower her attraction.
                  9. If she wants exclusivity, let her bring up the conversation. Men should avoid confessing, negotiating, or asking whether she will stop talking to other guys. Keep dating, keep the dynamic vague, and let her raise the relationship label if she wants it.
                  10. An apartment covered in 87 posters of one celebrity is a dating red flag. A few decorations are one thing, but an obsessive celebrity shrine looks childish, feminine, and strange to women. If you want a better dating life, take the posters down and make your apartment look like an adult man lives there.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/69305883Sat, 17 Jan 2026 15:00:08 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who had a girl tell him she can't meet for 3 months (but don't worry, she's not gonna talk to any other guys before then). - A guy whose girlfriend is having long text...- A guy who had a girl tell him she can't meet for 3 months (but don't worry, she's not gonna talk to any other guys before then).
                  - A guy whose girlfriend is having long text conversations with the new guy at work.
                  - A spineless guy that paid everyone's bill when the girl he's been dating brought her friends to their meetup (he needs to grow a pair).
                  - A guy who wants to be eXcLuSiVe with the girl he's seeing and wants to know how to broach the topic.
                  - An obsessive guy that has 87 posters of a Korean idol on his walls and wants to know if girls will think that's a red flag.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Waiting three and a half months for a first date is usually a bad use of your time. If a woman says she cannot meet for months, do not text her every day trying to keep the momentum alive. Ask her on a real date, put the ball in her court, and only check in occasionally if you still want to keep the option open.
                  2. Do not confuse asking about her “first date policy” with asking her on a date. If you want to meet a woman, ask directly whether she is free on a specific day. Vague conversations about dating expectations are not the same as making a concrete plan.
                  3. The longer it takes to get a woman on a first date, the lower your chances usually become. A match or phone number loses value the longer it sits without an in-person meeting. If you cannot meet quickly, keep your investment low and do not act like you are committed to someone you have never dated.
                  4. If your girlfriend is messaging a male coworker too much, you are right to be concerned. Work conversations are one thing, but full conversations about weekends, personal life, and getting to know each other are a problem. A girlfriend should keep it short with men who clearly have non-work intentions.
                  5. A girlfriend who entertains male attention is creating a problem she will eventually have to deal with. If she keeps engaging a man who is interested in her, the situation can escalate until he asks her out or crosses a line. Cutting it off early is cleaner than letting another man build momentum.
                  6. If a woman brings three friends on a date and you pay for everyone, you got taken advantage of. A date should not turn into a group outing where you are expected to cover her friends. Do not let a woman put you on the spot financially, and do not pay for people you did not invite.
                  7. Do not try to teach a woman a lesson by making her jealous. If she brings friends on a date or behaves badly, handle your own situation directly instead of playing games. Ask whether she is bringing friends again, say you want to meet one-on-one, and only pay your own bill if needed.
                  8. Do not bring up exclusivity with a woman you are dating. If a woman likes you enough, she may naturally stop seeing other men without a formal conversation. Trying to lock her down too directly can make you look needy and may lower her attraction.
                  9. If she wants exclusivity, let her bring up the conversation. Men should avoid confessing, negotiating, or asking whether she will stop talking to other guys. Keep dating, keep the dynamic vague, and let her raise the relationship label if she wants it.
                  10. An apartment covered in 87 posters of one celebrity is a dating red flag. A few decorations are one thing, but an obsessive celebrity shrine looks childish, feminine, and strange to women. If you want a better dating life, take the posters down and make your apartment look like an adult man lives there.
                  ]]>953advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,storiestrue19fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/girls-cheat-on-me-all-the-time-is-it-time-to-accept-that-it-s-all-my-fault--68814063- A guy who keeps getting cheated on and thinks it's all his fault (he might have a point).
                  - A guy whose girlfriend told him she used to sext with a guy who was in a relationship.
                  - A guy who wants to know if it's a good idea to date a girl who is mentally ill and hates him.
                  - An overreactive guy who left a girl he was literally in bed with because she started saying they should just be friends.
                  - A guy searching for a nerdy girl and not finding any where he thought they'd be (unsurprisingly to me).
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you keep getting cheated on, look for warning signs instead of becoming controlling. Being cheated on is not your fault, but repeated bad experiences may mean you are missing red flags or choosing low-quality women. Do not turn into a jealous, overbearing boyfriend; learn to read women better and detach more early on.
                  2. Do not tell a woman that cheating would completely break you. Saying “if you cheat on me, I’ll be broken” gives her too much power and makes you look weak. Even if that is honestly how you feel, keep it to yourself and avoid making cheating paranoia the center of the relationship.
                  3. A two-month relationship is too new to let cheating destroy your whole mindset. Cheating still sucks, but after only two months, the woman is basically still a stranger. Do not let a short dating situation convince you that every future relationship will end the same way.
                  4. Use cheating experiences to become less reactive, not more paranoid. Instead of checking phones, acting jealous, or assuming every woman will betray you, use the experience to stay calmer and less overinvested. Trust women until they give you a real reason not to, and enjoy the relationship while it is good.
                  5. A woman sexting a man who was in a relationship is not automatically your problem. The person in the relationship is the one responsible for protecting it. Her past behavior may show questionable judgment, but the bigger issue is whether she gives you confidence that she would not do something similar again.
                  6. “I’m human and flawed” is a bad answer when you ask if she would repeat shady behavior. If a woman says she would not want to do something again but cannot clearly say she would never do it, that can feel like a red flag. Listen to whether her answer makes you more or less attracted to her.
                  7. Do not date a woman with major mental health problems if she is already showing chaos. Bipolar disorder, anxiety, depression, random hate, and anger over slow replies are a bad combination early in dating. If the warning signs are already there after two months, the relationship is likely to get worse.
                  8. If a woman gives mixed signals in bed, do not panic and leave too quickly. Some women create back-and-forth before sex because they want more comfort, effort, or reassurance. If she says “maybe we should just be friends” while already in bed with you, stay calm and lead instead of overreacting.
                  9. Do not confuse normal sexual hesitation with rejection. Pulling back, asking questions, or saying uncertain things before sex does not always mean she wants everything to stop. Take a breath, respond confidently, and understand that some back-and-forth is part of the process.
                  10. To find girls your type, stop over-filtering and start approaching more women. Nerdy girls are not always hiding in bookstores or gaming shops, and your ideal type may show up anywhere. Approach women who are cute enough, warm up socially, and stop using “she is not my type” as an excuse to avoid talking to women.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/68814063Sat, 03 Jan 2026 15:00:08 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who keeps getting cheated on and thinks it's all his fault (he might have a point). - A guy whose girlfriend told him she used to sext with a guy who was in a relationship. -...- A guy who keeps getting cheated on and thinks it's all his fault (he might have a point).
                  - A guy whose girlfriend told him she used to sext with a guy who was in a relationship.
                  - A guy who wants to know if it's a good idea to date a girl who is mentally ill and hates him.
                  - An overreactive guy who left a girl he was literally in bed with because she started saying they should just be friends.
                  - A guy searching for a nerdy girl and not finding any where he thought they'd be (unsurprisingly to me).
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you keep getting cheated on, look for warning signs instead of becoming controlling. Being cheated on is not your fault, but repeated bad experiences may mean you are missing red flags or choosing low-quality women. Do not turn into a jealous, overbearing boyfriend; learn to read women better and detach more early on.
                  2. Do not tell a woman that cheating would completely break you. Saying “if you cheat on me, I’ll be broken” gives her too much power and makes you look weak. Even if that is honestly how you feel, keep it to yourself and avoid making cheating paranoia the center of the relationship.
                  3. A two-month relationship is too new to let cheating destroy your whole mindset. Cheating still sucks, but after only two months, the woman is basically still a stranger. Do not let a short dating situation convince you that every future relationship will end the same way.
                  4. Use cheating experiences to become less reactive, not more paranoid. Instead of checking phones, acting jealous, or assuming every woman will betray you, use the experience to stay calmer and less overinvested. Trust women until they give you a real reason not to, and enjoy the relationship while it is good.
                  5. A woman sexting a man who was in a relationship is not automatically your problem. The person in the relationship is the one responsible for protecting it. Her past behavior may show questionable judgment, but the bigger issue is whether she gives you confidence that she would not do something similar again.
                  6. “I’m human and flawed” is a bad answer when you ask if she would repeat shady behavior. If a woman says she would not want to do something again but cannot clearly say she would never do it, that can feel like a red flag. Listen to whether her answer makes you more or less attracted to her.
                  7. Do not date a woman with major mental health problems if she is already showing chaos. Bipolar disorder, anxiety, depression, random hate, and anger over slow replies are a bad combination early in dating. If the warning signs are already there after two months, the relationship is likely to get worse.
                  8. If a woman gives mixed signals in bed, do not panic and leave too quickly. Some women create back-and-forth before sex because they want more comfort, effort, or reassurance. If she says “maybe we should just be friends” while already in bed with you, stay calm and lead instead of overreacting.
                  9. Do not confuse normal sexual hesitation with rejection. Pulling back, asking questions, or saying uncertain things before sex does not always mean she wants everything to stop. Take a breath, respond confidently, and understand that some back-and-forth is part of the process.
                  10. To find girls your type, stop over-filtering and start approaching more women. Nerdy girls are not always hiding in bookstores or gaming shops, and your ideal type may show up anywhere. Approach women who are cute enough, warm up socially, and stop using “she is not my type” as an excuse to avoid talking to women.
                  ]]>1590advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,storiestrue18fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/we-barely-bang-and-i-caught-her-sexting-another-guy-but-our-relationship-is-good--68754560- A guy that's been practically paralyzed by getting rejected from girls he's approached (featuring the advice I was given when I first started approaching girls).
                  - A guy who is wondering what to do about his girlfriend of 5 years that he caught cheating through text. Oh, also they've barely banged in the past 2 years.
                  - A guy dating an identical twin and wondering how to handle the fact that they fight like crazy.
                  - A nerdy guy who is looking for a nerdy girl (his intentions are good but his mindset is totally wrong).
                  - A guy who is, for some reason, hiding the fact that he got laid off from his girlfriend.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you freeze around women in real life, the answer is more practice. Being good at talking to girls online does not automatically translate to confidence face to face. You need to approach more women, get rejected more, and give yourself permission to fail until real-life conversations stop feeling so intimidating.
                  2. Rejection hurts less when you stop treating every approach as pass or fail. The real win is making yourself walk up and talk to the girl, not whether she gives you her number. If you make the effort, you are already doing more than most men, and every rejection gives you more experience.
                  3. Bad experiences with women do not mean you missed your chance at dating. Even if college did not go how you wanted, you are still young enough to build confidence and get results. Do not let a few failed approaches convince you that your dating life is already ruined.
                  4. If your girlfriend says she loves another man online, the relationship is over. Emotional cheating, sexual messages, hidden chats, and sending another man details about your life are not harmless. If she is telling another guy she loves him and wants him sexually, there is nothing left to discuss.
                  5. A dead bedroom is already enough reason to end a relationship. If you have barely had sex for two years, the relationship is not as good as you think it is. Regular sex is a basic part of having a girlfriend, and living together does not make up for the lack of it.
                  6. Do not ignore incompatibility just because breaking up is inconvenient. Moving houses, signing a lease, or being together for years can make a breakup complicated, but that does not mean the relationship should continue. If she wants something you are not and the attraction is gone, staying only delays the inevitable.
                  7. When dating an identical twin, do not get involved in sibling fights. Twins may be unusually close, competitive, and intense with each other, but their fights are not your job to solve. Let them argue, let them move on, and avoid taking sides in family dynamics.
                  8. To meet nerdy girls, stop only looking in stereotypically nerdy places. Anime bars, gaming shops, conventions, and board-game meetups can be full of men or too competitive. A better strategy is to approach women anywhere, then find out whether they are open to your interests.
                  9. A woman does not need to share your hobbies to enjoy dating you. If you like video games, mini golf, batting cages, or other activities, invite her to do those things with you. Many women will join you even if the hobby is not already part of their identity.
                  10. Losing your job does not automatically mean the woman you are dating will leave. If you get laid off, do not panic or hide it for weeks. Tell her plainly, keep applying for jobs, and understand that if she leaves immediately because you lost work, she was not worth keeping.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/68754560Sat, 20 Dec 2025 15:00:07 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy that's been practically paralyzed by getting rejected from girls he's approached (featuring the advice I was given when I first started approaching girls). - A guy who is...- A guy that's been practically paralyzed by getting rejected from girls he's approached (featuring the advice I was given when I first started approaching girls).
                  - A guy who is wondering what to do about his girlfriend of 5 years that he caught cheating through text. Oh, also they've barely banged in the past 2 years.
                  - A guy dating an identical twin and wondering how to handle the fact that they fight like crazy.
                  - A nerdy guy who is looking for a nerdy girl (his intentions are good but his mindset is totally wrong).
                  - A guy who is, for some reason, hiding the fact that he got laid off from his girlfriend.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you freeze around women in real life, the answer is more practice. Being good at talking to girls online does not automatically translate to confidence face to face. You need to approach more women, get rejected more, and give yourself permission to fail until real-life conversations stop feeling so intimidating.
                  2. Rejection hurts less when you stop treating every approach as pass or fail. The real win is making yourself walk up and talk to the girl, not whether she gives you her number. If you make the effort, you are already doing more than most men, and every rejection gives you more experience.
                  3. Bad experiences with women do not mean you missed your chance at dating. Even if college did not go how you wanted, you are still young enough to build confidence and get results. Do not let a few failed approaches convince you that your dating life is already ruined.
                  4. If your girlfriend says she loves another man online, the relationship is over. Emotional cheating, sexual messages, hidden chats, and sending another man details about your life are not harmless. If she is telling another guy she loves him and wants him sexually, there is nothing left to discuss.
                  5. A dead bedroom is already enough reason to end a relationship. If you have barely had sex for two years, the relationship is not as good as you think it is. Regular sex is a basic part of having a girlfriend, and living together does not make up for the lack of it.
                  6. Do not ignore incompatibility just because breaking up is inconvenient. Moving houses, signing a lease, or being together for years can make a breakup complicated, but that does not mean the relationship should continue. If she wants something you are not and the attraction is gone, staying only delays the inevitable.
                  7. When dating an identical twin, do not get involved in sibling fights. Twins may be unusually close, competitive, and intense with each other, but their fights are not your job to solve. Let them argue, let them move on, and avoid taking sides in family dynamics.
                  8. To meet nerdy girls, stop only looking in stereotypically nerdy places. Anime bars, gaming shops, conventions, and board-game meetups can be full of men or too competitive. A better strategy is to approach women anywhere, then find out whether they are open to your interests.
                  9. A woman does not need to share your hobbies to enjoy dating you. If you like video games, mini golf, batting cages, or other activities, invite her to do those things with you. Many women will join you even if the hobby is not already part of their identity.
                  10. Losing your job does not automatically mean the woman you are dating will leave. If you get laid off, do not panic or hide it for weeks. Tell her plainly, keep applying for jobs, and understand that if she leaves immediately because you lost work, she was not worth keeping.
                  ]]>1523advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,storiestrue17fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-have-low-self-esteem-and-hate-myself-why-don-t-women-want-to-hang-out-with-me--68653142- A guy who wants to dump a girl after two dates because she chose a restaurant out of his budget for the next date.
                  - A guy who says he has no self-esteem and doesn't understand why women don't want to meet him.
                  - A needy guy who is upset that the girl he's dating doesn't have big conversations via text (he's overthinking it).
                  - A guy who got some numbers at a party but thinks his conversations were boring.
                  - A guy whose mental health is getting rekt because he gets attached too easily.
                  
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                  Lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If a woman suggests an expensive date, do not make your budget the main issue. If she plans a restaurant that costs more than you normally spend, it may be better to go this time and take the loss instead of making the third date feel like a money problem. In the future, take the lead on planning dates so you control the cost.
                  2. Do not let the woman choose every date location. A woman taking initiative is a good sign, but the man should usually lead the date planning. If you let her decide, you may end up in expensive or awkward situations that could have been avoided by choosing the plan yourself.
                  3. One expensive date does not mean your lifestyles are incompatible. After only two or three dates, do not overthink long-term financial compatibility. Go on more dates, gather more information, and stop trying to decide the whole future from one restaurant suggestion.
                  4. Dating apps can work, but many women are there for attention and validation. Matching with a woman does not mean she is serious about meeting you. Keep your expectations low, ask her out sooner, and do not treat every match like it is already a real opportunity.
                  5. Ask women out faster on dating apps instead of texting endlessly. If the conversation is decent, send the invite after a few messages rather than dragging it out. If she ignores the invite, she probably was not going to meet anyway, and you save yourself time.
                  6. Self-improvement alone will not fix your dating life if you never take action. Working on yourself, hobbies, and life goals is not enough if you still are not asking women out or approaching them in real life. Dating success comes from creating opportunities, not waiting for improvement to magically attract women.
                  7. A woman who is great in person but bad at texting can still be worth pursuing. If she shows up, has great conversations, and enjoys the dates, her texting habits do not matter much. Judge her by what she does in person, not whether she sends perfect messages between dates.
                  8. Stop treating slow or minimal texting as ghosting. A woman leaving a goodnight text on read is not ghosting if there is nothing meaningful to reply to. Use texting to set up dates and save your real conversations for when you meet.
                  9. To make conversations more flirty, focus on not being boring. Do not rely on basic interview questions like “where are you from?” or “what do you do?” early in the conversation. Comment on something in the moment, make her laugh, and let the playful vibe develop naturally.
                  10. To detach emotionally from dating, get more options and stop overinvesting early. If one woman breaking things off after a few dates ruins your mental health, you are getting attached too fast. Go on more dates, meet more women, and stop imagining a future before the situation is actually serious.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/68653142Sat, 06 Dec 2025 15:00:07 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who wants to dump a girl after two dates because she chose a restaurant out of his budget for the next date. - A guy who says he has no self-esteem and doesn't understand why...- A guy who wants to dump a girl after two dates because she chose a restaurant out of his budget for the next date.
                  - A guy who says he has no self-esteem and doesn't understand why women don't want to meet him.
                  - A needy guy who is upset that the girl he's dating doesn't have big conversations via text (he's overthinking it).
                  - A guy who got some numbers at a party but thinks his conversations were boring.
                  - A guy whose mental health is getting rekt because he gets attached too easily.
                  
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                  Lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If a woman suggests an expensive date, do not make your budget the main issue. If she plans a restaurant that costs more than you normally spend, it may be better to go this time and take the loss instead of making the third date feel like a money problem. In the future, take the lead on planning dates so you control the cost.
                  2. Do not let the woman choose every date location. A woman taking initiative is a good sign, but the man should usually lead the date planning. If you let her decide, you may end up in expensive or awkward situations that could have been avoided by choosing the plan yourself.
                  3. One expensive date does not mean your lifestyles are incompatible. After only two or three dates, do not overthink long-term financial compatibility. Go on more dates, gather more information, and stop trying to decide the whole future from one restaurant suggestion.
                  4. Dating apps can work, but many women are there for attention and validation. Matching with a woman does not mean she is serious about meeting you. Keep your expectations low, ask her out sooner, and do not treat every match like it is already a real opportunity.
                  5. Ask women out faster on dating apps instead of texting endlessly. If the conversation is decent, send the invite after a few messages rather than dragging it out. If she ignores the invite, she probably was not going to meet anyway, and you save yourself time.
                  6. Self-improvement alone will not fix your dating life if you never take action. Working on yourself, hobbies, and life goals is not enough if you still are not asking women out or approaching them in real life. Dating success comes from creating opportunities, not waiting for improvement to magically attract women.
                  7. A woman who is great in person but bad at texting can still be worth pursuing. If she shows up, has great conversations, and enjoys the dates, her texting habits do not matter much. Judge her by what she does in person, not whether she sends perfect messages between dates.
                  8. Stop treating slow or minimal texting as ghosting. A woman leaving a goodnight text on read is not ghosting if there is nothing meaningful to reply to. Use texting to set up dates and save your real conversations for when you meet.
                  9. To make conversations more flirty, focus on not being boring. Do not rely on basic interview questions like “where are you from?” or “what do you do?” early in the conversation. Comment on something in the moment, make her laugh, and let the playful vibe develop naturally.
                  10. To detach emotionally from dating, get more options and stop overinvesting early. If one woman breaking things off after a few dates ruins your mental health, you are getting attached too fast. Go on more dates, meet more women, and stop imagining a future before the situation is actually serious.
                  ]]>1238advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,storiestrue16fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/cold-messaging-girls-on-instagram-didn-t-work-now-i-think-i-m-exiled-from-the-local-bars--68600876- A guy who started dating the hot girl at the MMA gym and now all the guys there want to beat the hell out of him (he should just quit).
                  - A guy who is thinking about hiring a professional dating service after sending messages on Instagram to girls out of nowhere was unsuccessful.
                  - A short guy that is worried about the male competition that comes with trying to pursue women at Meetup events.
                  - A guy who broke up with a girl after 5 dates because she wasn’t a good conversationalist (so what?).
                  - A guy who did it raw with a girl he’s known for a week and is in panic mode.
                  
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                  Lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If guys at your MMA gym are trying to hurt you over a girl, switch gyms. Staying at a gym where men are sparring too hard because they are jealous is not worth the risk. You already got the girl, so do not worry about looking like a pushover; leave the toxic environment and train somewhere safer.
                  2. Do not feel bad because other men failed to get the woman you are dating. If other guys bought her flowers, teddy bears, or tried to win her over and she chose you instead, that is not your problem. You won, and their jealousy does not mean you owe them anything.
                  3. Joining a new gym together after one week of dating is not a lifelong commitment. Switching gyms with a woman you just started dating may feel like a big move, but it does not mean you are locked into her forever. If the relationship ends, you can change gyms again.
                  4. Cold messaging women on social media usually has a very low success rate. Unless you are very attractive, semi-famous, or have a strong profile, random DMs are unlikely to get good results. Following, liking, and occasionally responding to stories is usually better than sending a cold message out of nowhere.
                  5. Only send messages to women that you would not be embarrassed for others to see. Women can screenshot your messages, show friends, or post them publicly, so never send anything weird, sexual, or incriminating. A normal message is fine, even if she decides to call it creepy.
                  6. Professional dating services are not the answer for a 23-year-old who needs real-world practice. Before paying someone to solve your dating life, go out and talk to women in person. Bars, streets, grocery stores, and everyday places give you chances that do not require dating apps or paid services.
                  7. The best way to deal with male competition is to avoid competing directly. Bars, clubs, meetups, and social events can put you in a room full of men chasing the same women. Approaching women one-on-one in public gives you her undivided attention and removes most of the competition.
                  8. Being 5'6" does not disqualify you from dating attractive women. Height matters, but it is not everything. If you are in shape, improve your personality, and approach women directly, you can still have success even around taller or more physically impressive men.
                  9. Do not end things with a woman too quickly just because conversation is not perfect. If the physical chemistry is strong and the sex is good, do not throw her away after five dates because she is not an amazing conversationalist. Keep seeing her while dating other women, and use more activity-based dates that do not rely only on talking.
                  10. If you have unprotected sex early, learn from it and use condoms next time. It is easy to get caught up in the moment, especially with limited experience, but condoms are still the responsible choice. Keep condoms nearby, use them going forward, and do not assume you can accurately judge a woman’s sexual history.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/68600876Sat, 22 Nov 2025 15:00:07 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who started dating the hot girl at the MMA gym and now all the guys there want to beat the hell out of him (he should just quit). - A guy who is thinking about hiring a...- A guy who started dating the hot girl at the MMA gym and now all the guys there want to beat the hell out of him (he should just quit).
                  - A guy who is thinking about hiring a professional dating service after sending messages on Instagram to girls out of nowhere was unsuccessful.
                  - A short guy that is worried about the male competition that comes with trying to pursue women at Meetup events.
                  - A guy who broke up with a girl after 5 dates because she wasn’t a good conversationalist (so what?).
                  - A guy who did it raw with a girl he’s known for a week and is in panic mode.
                  
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                  Lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If guys at your MMA gym are trying to hurt you over a girl, switch gyms. Staying at a gym where men are sparring too hard because they are jealous is not worth the risk. You already got the girl, so do not worry about looking like a pushover; leave the toxic environment and train somewhere safer.
                  2. Do not feel bad because other men failed to get the woman you are dating. If other guys bought her flowers, teddy bears, or tried to win her over and she chose you instead, that is not your problem. You won, and their jealousy does not mean you owe them anything.
                  3. Joining a new gym together after one week of dating is not a lifelong commitment. Switching gyms with a woman you just started dating may feel like a big move, but it does not mean you are locked into her forever. If the relationship ends, you can change gyms again.
                  4. Cold messaging women on social media usually has a very low success rate. Unless you are very attractive, semi-famous, or have a strong profile, random DMs are unlikely to get good results. Following, liking, and occasionally responding to stories is usually better than sending a cold message out of nowhere.
                  5. Only send messages to women that you would not be embarrassed for others to see. Women can screenshot your messages, show friends, or post them publicly, so never send anything weird, sexual, or incriminating. A normal message is fine, even if she decides to call it creepy.
                  6. Professional dating services are not the answer for a 23-year-old who needs real-world practice. Before paying someone to solve your dating life, go out and talk to women in person. Bars, streets, grocery stores, and everyday places give you chances that do not require dating apps or paid services.
                  7. The best way to deal with male competition is to avoid competing directly. Bars, clubs, meetups, and social events can put you in a room full of men chasing the same women. Approaching women one-on-one in public gives you her undivided attention and removes most of the competition.
                  8. Being 5'6" does not disqualify you from dating attractive women. Height matters, but it is not everything. If you are in shape, improve your personality, and approach women directly, you can still have success even around taller or more physically impressive men.
                  9. Do not end things with a woman too quickly just because conversation is not perfect. If the physical chemistry is strong and the sex is good, do not throw her away after five dates because she is not an amazing conversationalist. Keep seeing her while dating other women, and use more activity-based dates that do not rely only on talking.
                  10. If you have unprotected sex early, learn from it and use condoms next time. It is easy to get caught up in the moment, especially with limited experience, but condoms are still the responsible choice. Keep condoms nearby, use them going forward, and do not assume you can accurately judge a woman’s sexual history.
                  ]]>1676advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,storiestrue15fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-ve-brought-her-to-the-same-cafe-for-every-single-date-is-that-a-bad-thing--68434928- A guy who was close to getting it on with a girl on the first date but didn't even try on the second.
                  - A guy who has been on several dates with a girl, all at the same coffee shop, and now he's worried about her lack of emoji when texting.
                  - A guy that's dating two girls and doesn't know how to juggle them.
                  - A guy who asked a girl out for a third date and she said she'd "think about it and let him know."
                  - A guy who's wondering if Tinder is any good for finding a long-term relationship.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If a girl loses feelings after two good dates, you were probably more invested than she was. A date can feel perfect to you while still not being enough for her to continue. More dating experience and more options make it easier to accept that a good date does not guarantee future interest.
                  2. Do not let dating momentum regress after she comes over and makes out with you. If she came to your place and made out with you on the first date, the second date should keep progressing rather than becoming less physical. Always try to move things forward instead of letting the connection stall.
                  3. If you want to get a girl back, send the message and get your answer. Most advice will tell you to move on, but if you actually want another chance, nothing happens unless you take the risk. Send a simple message, invite her out, and accept the outcome either way.
                  4. Do not take every date to the same coffee shop. Having a familiar spot can feel comfortable, but repeating the same coffee date over and over can become boring. Switch things up with activities, different locations, and dates that create more energy than just sitting across from each other talking.
                  5. Activity dates help prevent conversations from becoming repetitive. Coffee and dinner dates can work early, but eventually you need dates that give you something to do. Activities reduce conversational pressure, create fun disruption, and make the dating experience feel less monotonous.
                  6. Dating two women at once is a good situation, not a problem. If you are not exclusive with either woman, keep dating both and see which one you like more over time. Do not force yourself to choose too quickly when the whole point of dating is to gather more information.
                  7. Do not bring up exclusivity just because you are dating multiple women. You are not cheating if nothing has been defined. Avoid unnecessary conversations about who else you are seeing and keep the situation moving unless one of them directly raises the issue.
                  8. If she says she will think about a third date, follow up instead of waiting forever. Do not make up her mind for her or assume silence means the final answer. Send a simple invite with specific days and let her either accept, reject, or ignore it so you know where you stand.
                  9. Do not ask for the next date at the end of the current date. Asking in person can put pressure on a woman and lead to vague answers like “I’ll let you know.” It is usually better to wait a few days, text a clear invite, and see how she responds without forcing the moment.
                  10. Tinder is not pointless for finding a long-term relationship, but it should not be your only strategy. Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, and most dating apps are full of time wasters, but serious women still exist there. Keep using apps if they work, but also approach women in real life because one real conversation can go further than a match.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/68434928Sat, 08 Nov 2025 15:00:08 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who was close to getting it on with a girl on the first date but didn't even try on the second. - A guy who has been on several dates with a girl, all at the same coffee...- A guy who was close to getting it on with a girl on the first date but didn't even try on the second.
                  - A guy who has been on several dates with a girl, all at the same coffee shop, and now he's worried about her lack of emoji when texting.
                  - A guy that's dating two girls and doesn't know how to juggle them.
                  - A guy who asked a girl out for a third date and she said she'd "think about it and let him know."
                  - A guy who's wondering if Tinder is any good for finding a long-term relationship.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If a girl loses feelings after two good dates, you were probably more invested than she was. A date can feel perfect to you while still not being enough for her to continue. More dating experience and more options make it easier to accept that a good date does not guarantee future interest.
                  2. Do not let dating momentum regress after she comes over and makes out with you. If she came to your place and made out with you on the first date, the second date should keep progressing rather than becoming less physical. Always try to move things forward instead of letting the connection stall.
                  3. If you want to get a girl back, send the message and get your answer. Most advice will tell you to move on, but if you actually want another chance, nothing happens unless you take the risk. Send a simple message, invite her out, and accept the outcome either way.
                  4. Do not take every date to the same coffee shop. Having a familiar spot can feel comfortable, but repeating the same coffee date over and over can become boring. Switch things up with activities, different locations, and dates that create more energy than just sitting across from each other talking.
                  5. Activity dates help prevent conversations from becoming repetitive. Coffee and dinner dates can work early, but eventually you need dates that give you something to do. Activities reduce conversational pressure, create fun disruption, and make the dating experience feel less monotonous.
                  6. Dating two women at once is a good situation, not a problem. If you are not exclusive with either woman, keep dating both and see which one you like more over time. Do not force yourself to choose too quickly when the whole point of dating is to gather more information.
                  7. Do not bring up exclusivity just because you are dating multiple women. You are not cheating if nothing has been defined. Avoid unnecessary conversations about who else you are seeing and keep the situation moving unless one of them directly raises the issue.
                  8. If she says she will think about a third date, follow up instead of waiting forever. Do not make up her mind for her or assume silence means the final answer. Send a simple invite with specific days and let her either accept, reject, or ignore it so you know where you stand.
                  9. Do not ask for the next date at the end of the current date. Asking in person can put pressure on a woman and lead to vague answers like “I’ll let you know.” It is usually better to wait a few days, text a clear invite, and see how she responds without forcing the moment.
                  10. Tinder is not pointless for finding a long-term relationship, but it should not be your only strategy. Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, and most dating apps are full of time wasters, but serious women still exist there. Keep using apps if they work, but also approach women in real life because one real conversation can go further than a match.
                  ]]>1157advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,storiestrue14fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-ve-spent-thousands-on-dating-apps-where-are-the-girls-that-date-short-old-virgins--68226059- A guy who is ruining dates before they even happen because he's expecting too much from girls.
                  - A guy who thinks he shouldn't go on a date with a girl if he doesn't think they'll be together forever.
                  - A guy thinking that maybe he should give up dating his new girl because she doesn't speak English that great.
                  - A frustrated guy that has been on the apps for years and hasn't been on a single date because he's unattractive.
                  - A guy who keeps ending up sitting alone with two glasses of water when he makes a date reservation at a restaurant.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you self-sabotage dates because women do not text enough, stop cutting them off too early. A woman not messaging much does not mean she is uninterested, especially if she is still willing to meet. If she texts you later saying she hopes you are having a good week, treat that as interest and use it to set the date back up.
                  2. Confirm dates instead of assuming they are not happening. Many women will assume a date is off if you do not check in the day before or the day of. If you want to meet her, follow through, confirm the plan, and stop throwing away dates because she did not text exactly how you wanted.
                  3. If a woman is willing to meet you, that is already a form of interest. Do not demand high attention over text before you give her a chance in person. Some women show interest by showing up, not by texting constantly, so judge her actions more than her messaging style.
                  4. Do not end things just because you cannot picture a future too early. If you have only dated a woman for a short time, it is usually too soon to decide whether she could be long-term. Keep seeing her, keep dating other women if needed, and let your opinion develop through experience.
                  5. Mental health issues are not good girlfriend material just because she is otherwise lovely. A woman can be caring, attractive, and affectionate while still being a bad long-term choice if untreated issues make her unreliable. Do not confuse short-term chemistry with someone you should build a family with.
                  6. A language barrier does not have to stop a dating connection. If the vibe is good, imperfect English is not a major problem. Ask her directly when she does not understand, encourage her to tell you, and focus more on the connection than perfect communication.
                  7. Activity dates are especially useful when there is a language barrier. Mini golf, games, and other physical activities reduce the pressure to talk constantly. When conversation is harder, dates that give you something to do can make the interaction more relaxed and fun.
                  8. There is no special place full of women looking for short guys or older virgins. Do not waste time trying to find a magical niche where your disadvantages disappear. Stop announcing your inexperience, get off dating apps if they are giving you nothing, and start approaching women in public.
                  9. If dating apps have produced zero dates for years, try real-life approaching instead. Spending money on photos, subscriptions, and profile tweaks is not helping if the result is still no dates. Go to malls, grocery stores, streets, or public places and start talking to women directly.
                  10. If you get stood up, lower the effort and keep first dates casual. Do not wear a suit, make serious reservations, or overinvest before you even know she will show up. Confirm the date, keep it simple, and if she says she might be sick 30 minutes before, cancel and invite her again another day.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/68226059Sat, 25 Oct 2025 14:00:10 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who is ruining dates before they even happen because he's expecting too much from girls. - A guy who thinks he shouldn't go on a date with a girl if he doesn't think they'll...- A guy who is ruining dates before they even happen because he's expecting too much from girls.
                  - A guy who thinks he shouldn't go on a date with a girl if he doesn't think they'll be together forever.
                  - A guy thinking that maybe he should give up dating his new girl because she doesn't speak English that great.
                  - A frustrated guy that has been on the apps for years and hasn't been on a single date because he's unattractive.
                  - A guy who keeps ending up sitting alone with two glasses of water when he makes a date reservation at a restaurant.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you self-sabotage dates because women do not text enough, stop cutting them off too early. A woman not messaging much does not mean she is uninterested, especially if she is still willing to meet. If she texts you later saying she hopes you are having a good week, treat that as interest and use it to set the date back up.
                  2. Confirm dates instead of assuming they are not happening. Many women will assume a date is off if you do not check in the day before or the day of. If you want to meet her, follow through, confirm the plan, and stop throwing away dates because she did not text exactly how you wanted.
                  3. If a woman is willing to meet you, that is already a form of interest. Do not demand high attention over text before you give her a chance in person. Some women show interest by showing up, not by texting constantly, so judge her actions more than her messaging style.
                  4. Do not end things just because you cannot picture a future too early. If you have only dated a woman for a short time, it is usually too soon to decide whether she could be long-term. Keep seeing her, keep dating other women if needed, and let your opinion develop through experience.
                  5. Mental health issues are not good girlfriend material just because she is otherwise lovely. A woman can be caring, attractive, and affectionate while still being a bad long-term choice if untreated issues make her unreliable. Do not confuse short-term chemistry with someone you should build a family with.
                  6. A language barrier does not have to stop a dating connection. If the vibe is good, imperfect English is not a major problem. Ask her directly when she does not understand, encourage her to tell you, and focus more on the connection than perfect communication.
                  7. Activity dates are especially useful when there is a language barrier. Mini golf, games, and other physical activities reduce the pressure to talk constantly. When conversation is harder, dates that give you something to do can make the interaction more relaxed and fun.
                  8. There is no special place full of women looking for short guys or older virgins. Do not waste time trying to find a magical niche where your disadvantages disappear. Stop announcing your inexperience, get off dating apps if they are giving you nothing, and start approaching women in public.
                  9. If dating apps have produced zero dates for years, try real-life approaching instead. Spending money on photos, subscriptions, and profile tweaks is not helping if the result is still no dates. Go to malls, grocery stores, streets, or public places and start talking to women directly.
                  10. If you get stood up, lower the effort and keep first dates casual. Do not wear a suit, make serious reservations, or overinvest before you even know she will show up. Confirm the date, keep it simple, and if she says she might be sick 30 minutes before, cancel and invite her again another day.
                  ]]>1855advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,storiestrue13fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/these-single-moms-are-using-sex-as-bait-how-can-i-stop-the-manipulation--68075853- A serial single-mom-dater that doesn't like how they're using sex to lure him in.
                  - A guy who loves orchestral music and is surprised when girls back off when he tells them.
                  - A guy in a relationship with a girl who doesn't initiate things (which is ideal!).
                  - A guy who thinks meeting up with a girl is something to joke about.
                  - A guy who doesn't like the natural progression of texting (he doesn't realize how good he has it).
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Dating single moms can create mismatched expectations after casual hookups. A woman may hook up quickly and still want the interaction to turn into something more serious afterward. Fast sex does not always mean both people agree that the situation is casual.
                  2. A woman having sex on the first meeting does not prove she only wants a hookup. Some women can sleep with a man quickly and still want a relationship. Do not assume that first-meeting sex automatically removes expectations, pressure, or emotional attachment.
                  3. If you only want casual sex, be careful which women you keep pursuing. Women with kids, divorces, or more serious life circumstances may be more likely to want clarity or commitment. If that creates pressure you do not want, choose different women instead of getting annoyed when the same pattern repeats.
                  4. Niche interests can hurt attraction if you explain them in a way nobody can relate to. You do not need to change who you are, but you do need to make your interests easier to talk about. Instead of leading with obscure fiction or orchestral music, give people a simpler entry point that keeps the conversation moving.
                  5. A woman does not need to share all your hobbies for dating to work. Compatibility does not require identical music, books, games, or activities. It is often enough if she tolerates what you like, joins you sometimes, and does not make you feel bad for enjoying it.
                  6. If your girlfriend never initiates sex, that does not automatically mean she does not desire you. In many relationships, the man is expected to lead sexually. If she enjoys sex, compliments you, and stays affectionate, her lack of initiation may say less about attraction and more about the normal dynamic.
                  7. Ask for sexual initiation as something that turns you on, not as a complaint. Instead of saying you feel unwanted because she never starts sex, tell her specifically what you want her to do. Clear direction framed as desire works better than vague emotional pressure.
                  8. Texting for three weeks without asking her out increases the chance of getting ghosted. Long conversations and video calls do not replace a real date. If the vibe is good, ask her out directly instead of joking vaguely about meeting someday.
                  9. A dating app match is not a real connection until you meet in person. A woman can text every day, have a video call, and still disappear if no date is actually set. Keep expectations low until you meet, and do not get emotionally invested in someone you have never seen in real life.
                  10. If texting gets drier but the dates are still great, stop worrying. When a woman keeps meeting up, stays affectionate, and things are progressing physically, shorter texts are not the main signal. Judge her by what happens in person, not whether she keeps late-night texting alive.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/68075853Sat, 11 Oct 2025 14:00:08 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A serial single-mom-dater that doesn't like how they're using sex to lure him in. - A guy who loves orchestral music and is surprised when girls back off when he tells them. - A...- A serial single-mom-dater that doesn't like how they're using sex to lure him in.
                  - A guy who loves orchestral music and is surprised when girls back off when he tells them.
                  - A guy in a relationship with a girl who doesn't initiate things (which is ideal!).
                  - A guy who thinks meeting up with a girl is something to joke about.
                  - A guy who doesn't like the natural progression of texting (he doesn't realize how good he has it).
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Dating single moms can create mismatched expectations after casual hookups. A woman may hook up quickly and still want the interaction to turn into something more serious afterward. Fast sex does not always mean both people agree that the situation is casual.
                  2. A woman having sex on the first meeting does not prove she only wants a hookup. Some women can sleep with a man quickly and still want a relationship. Do not assume that first-meeting sex automatically removes expectations, pressure, or emotional attachment.
                  3. If you only want casual sex, be careful which women you keep pursuing. Women with kids, divorces, or more serious life circumstances may be more likely to want clarity or commitment. If that creates pressure you do not want, choose different women instead of getting annoyed when the same pattern repeats.
                  4. Niche interests can hurt attraction if you explain them in a way nobody can relate to. You do not need to change who you are, but you do need to make your interests easier to talk about. Instead of leading with obscure fiction or orchestral music, give people a simpler entry point that keeps the conversation moving.
                  5. A woman does not need to share all your hobbies for dating to work. Compatibility does not require identical music, books, games, or activities. It is often enough if she tolerates what you like, joins you sometimes, and does not make you feel bad for enjoying it.
                  6. If your girlfriend never initiates sex, that does not automatically mean she does not desire you. In many relationships, the man is expected to lead sexually. If she enjoys sex, compliments you, and stays affectionate, her lack of initiation may say less about attraction and more about the normal dynamic.
                  7. Ask for sexual initiation as something that turns you on, not as a complaint. Instead of saying you feel unwanted because she never starts sex, tell her specifically what you want her to do. Clear direction framed as desire works better than vague emotional pressure.
                  8. Texting for three weeks without asking her out increases the chance of getting ghosted. Long conversations and video calls do not replace a real date. If the vibe is good, ask her out directly instead of joking vaguely about meeting someday.
                  9. A dating app match is not a real connection until you meet in person. A woman can text every day, have a video call, and still disappear if no date is actually set. Keep expectations low until you meet, and do not get emotionally invested in someone you have never seen in real life.
                  10. If texting gets drier but the dates are still great, stop worrying. When a woman keeps meeting up, stays affectionate, and things are progressing physically, shorter texts are not the main signal. Judge her by what happens in person, not whether she keeps late-night texting alive.
                  ]]>1457advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,storiestrue12fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/my-friend-said-my-girlfriend-is-his-dream-lay-do-i-tell-her--67866552- A guy who wants to know what he should text a girl until he sees her again.
                  - A guy texting with a girl for HOURS every day, and she's still updating her dating apps.
                  - A guy whose "friend" told him he wants to hook up with his girlfriend more than any other woman in the world.
                  - A guy that found much more success when he made his dating profile have player vibes.
                  - A guy who claims that girls who offer to split the bill are indicating that they never want to meet again.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Do not over-text between the first and second date. If the second date is already loosely planned, there is no need to keep texting just to “stand out.” Too much texting can hurt your chances more than it helps, so save the conversation for when you see her again.
                  2. Confirm the date the day before so she knows it is still happening. Many women will assume a date is off if they do not hear from you before it happens. A simple confirmation text with the time and place is enough to protect your own time and keep the plan alive.
                  3. Taking notes after dates helps you remember important details. If you are dating multiple women or have a bad memory, write down what you talked about, what she likes, and any future date ideas. This keeps you from mixing women up and helps you stay sharper when you meet again.
                  4. If she keeps updating her dating profile, she is still open to other men. Updating photos, changing a bio, or adding selfies after you have been talking for a month means she is still active on the app. That does not mean she is doing something wrong, but it can still be a major turnoff.
                  5. Texting fifty times a day before meeting creates too much investment. Long daily texting, good morning messages, goodnight texts, calls, games, and playlists can make the situation feel more serious than it is. Until she is actually dating you consistently in person, do not treat her like a girlfriend.
                  6. If your friend says he wants to sleep with your girlfriend, stop hanging out with him. A real friend does not name your girlfriend when asked who he would sleep with. That is disrespectful, possibly malicious, and enough reason to cut him out of your life.
                  7. Tell your girlfriend if one of your friends openly wants her. If you suddenly stop hanging out with that friend group, she is going to know something happened. Tell her the truth, watch her reaction, and do not hide a serious boundary issue from a three-year relationship.
                  8. A casual dating profile can get better results than one that looks too serious. If a more relaxed profile brings in more matches, keep using it. Getting matches and dates is the first step, and a casual profile can still lead to a long-term relationship if it gets women to meet you.
                  9. Dating app pictures matter more than what you say you are looking for. Many women may not study your bio or relationship-intention label before swiping. More natural, casual photos can sometimes work better than overly polished pictures that feel too professional or forced.
                  10. A woman paying or splitting the bill does not automatically mean she is uninterested. Some women pay because they do not want to feel like they owe anything, while others simply prefer fairness. Do not overread the bill situation; keep dates affordable, try to split, and judge interest by the bigger pattern.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/67866552Sat, 27 Sep 2025 14:00:07 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who wants to know what he should text a girl until he sees her again. - A guy texting with a girl for HOURS every day, and she's still updating her dating apps. - A guy whose...- A guy who wants to know what he should text a girl until he sees her again.
                  - A guy texting with a girl for HOURS every day, and she's still updating her dating apps.
                  - A guy whose "friend" told him he wants to hook up with his girlfriend more than any other woman in the world.
                  - A guy that found much more success when he made his dating profile have player vibes.
                  - A guy who claims that girls who offer to split the bill are indicating that they never want to meet again.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Do not over-text between the first and second date. If the second date is already loosely planned, there is no need to keep texting just to “stand out.” Too much texting can hurt your chances more than it helps, so save the conversation for when you see her again.
                  2. Confirm the date the day before so she knows it is still happening. Many women will assume a date is off if they do not hear from you before it happens. A simple confirmation text with the time and place is enough to protect your own time and keep the plan alive.
                  3. Taking notes after dates helps you remember important details. If you are dating multiple women or have a bad memory, write down what you talked about, what she likes, and any future date ideas. This keeps you from mixing women up and helps you stay sharper when you meet again.
                  4. If she keeps updating her dating profile, she is still open to other men. Updating photos, changing a bio, or adding selfies after you have been talking for a month means she is still active on the app. That does not mean she is doing something wrong, but it can still be a major turnoff.
                  5. Texting fifty times a day before meeting creates too much investment. Long daily texting, good morning messages, goodnight texts, calls, games, and playlists can make the situation feel more serious than it is. Until she is actually dating you consistently in person, do not treat her like a girlfriend.
                  6. If your friend says he wants to sleep with your girlfriend, stop hanging out with him. A real friend does not name your girlfriend when asked who he would sleep with. That is disrespectful, possibly malicious, and enough reason to cut him out of your life.
                  7. Tell your girlfriend if one of your friends openly wants her. If you suddenly stop hanging out with that friend group, she is going to know something happened. Tell her the truth, watch her reaction, and do not hide a serious boundary issue from a three-year relationship.
                  8. A casual dating profile can get better results than one that looks too serious. If a more relaxed profile brings in more matches, keep using it. Getting matches and dates is the first step, and a casual profile can still lead to a long-term relationship if it gets women to meet you.
                  9. Dating app pictures matter more than what you say you are looking for. Many women may not study your bio or relationship-intention label before swiping. More natural, casual photos can sometimes work better than overly polished pictures that feel too professional or forced.
                  10. A woman paying or splitting the bill does not automatically mean she is uninterested. Some women pay because they do not want to feel like they owe anything, while others simply prefer fairness. Do not overread the bill situation; keep dates affordable, try to split, and judge interest by the bigger pattern.
                  ]]>1434advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,storiestrue11fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/she-gets-angry-when-i-ask-her-to-cook-kindest-girl-in-the-world-though--67723777- A guy who is surprised most girls in their 30s are married (he needs to lower his accepted age range).
                  - A guy that keeps getting ghosted after making out on dates.
                  - A guy who doesn't understand why he kisses girls that he's on dates with.
                  - A guy with a girlfriend who treats him like dirt, but apparently she's the sweetest person he knows.
                  - A guy who had a perfect situation to open up a conversation with a girl but didn't.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you never meet single women in real life, stop waiting for organic connections. “Just live your life and someone will come along” is bad dating advice for most men. If women are not naturally appearing in your life, you need to actively approach them instead of hoping your normal routine eventually produces a girlfriend.
                  2. At 31, dating younger women is usually a better strategy than looking for women your own age. Many women in their early thirties are already married, in serious relationships, or unavailable. If you want a serious girlfriend or future wife, women in the 25 to 29 range are often a better target.
                  3. If you see a cute woman in public, go talk to her. Cafes, grocery stores, malls, parks, and everyday places can all create opportunities if you actually approach. Do not treat “outright hitting on women” like a bad thing when that is exactly what gets you out of waiting mode.
                  4. Dating apps are fine if they work, but they should not be your only path to women. If apps get you dates, keep using them, but do not rely on them completely. Real-life approaching gives you more control and creates chances that will never appear through swiping.
                  5. If girls make out with you and then ghost, you may not be escalating enough. Making out in parks, cars, or outside her place can be a strong signal, but stopping there may kill momentum. If she is making out with you, try to bring her home and move the date toward sex.
                  6. Going for sex on the date often reduces ghosting. Women who like masculine men usually expect the man to lead physically. If she does not want to go further, she will tell you, but failing to try can make the interaction feel weak or incomplete.
                  7. Trying to kiss a girl on a date is the right move, even if she says no. If she is cute and you are on a date, you should usually take the chance. A polite rejection is not a disaster; it gives you experience and makes you more comfortable leading in future dates.
                  8. A girlfriend who turns small mistakes into huge emotional issues is not worth keeping. Getting extremely upset over trash, cooking, food timing, or other minor problems is not normal relationship behavior. If a woman makes you constantly apologize for tiny things, the relationship is probably not worth saving.
                  9. It is almost always appropriate to approach a woman in real life. Concerts, bars, parks, shared hobbies, and casual public settings are all fair places to start a conversation. You are not ruining her day by saying hello, especially if you can read when she does not want to keep talking.
                  10. If you freeze around women, you need to practice approaching before you waste more years. The regret of not talking to a woman can last longer than the sting of rejection. Start with easy situations, build reps, and train yourself to act when an opportunity appears.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/67723777Sat, 13 Sep 2025 14:00:08 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who is surprised most girls in their 30s are married (he needs to lower his accepted age range). - A guy that keeps getting ghosted after making out on dates. - A guy who...- A guy who is surprised most girls in their 30s are married (he needs to lower his accepted age range).
                  - A guy that keeps getting ghosted after making out on dates.
                  - A guy who doesn't understand why he kisses girls that he's on dates with.
                  - A guy with a girlfriend who treats him like dirt, but apparently she's the sweetest person he knows.
                  - A guy who had a perfect situation to open up a conversation with a girl but didn't.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you never meet single women in real life, stop waiting for organic connections. “Just live your life and someone will come along” is bad dating advice for most men. If women are not naturally appearing in your life, you need to actively approach them instead of hoping your normal routine eventually produces a girlfriend.
                  2. At 31, dating younger women is usually a better strategy than looking for women your own age. Many women in their early thirties are already married, in serious relationships, or unavailable. If you want a serious girlfriend or future wife, women in the 25 to 29 range are often a better target.
                  3. If you see a cute woman in public, go talk to her. Cafes, grocery stores, malls, parks, and everyday places can all create opportunities if you actually approach. Do not treat “outright hitting on women” like a bad thing when that is exactly what gets you out of waiting mode.
                  4. Dating apps are fine if they work, but they should not be your only path to women. If apps get you dates, keep using them, but do not rely on them completely. Real-life approaching gives you more control and creates chances that will never appear through swiping.
                  5. If girls make out with you and then ghost, you may not be escalating enough. Making out in parks, cars, or outside her place can be a strong signal, but stopping there may kill momentum. If she is making out with you, try to bring her home and move the date toward sex.
                  6. Going for sex on the date often reduces ghosting. Women who like masculine men usually expect the man to lead physically. If she does not want to go further, she will tell you, but failing to try can make the interaction feel weak or incomplete.
                  7. Trying to kiss a girl on a date is the right move, even if she says no. If she is cute and you are on a date, you should usually take the chance. A polite rejection is not a disaster; it gives you experience and makes you more comfortable leading in future dates.
                  8. A girlfriend who turns small mistakes into huge emotional issues is not worth keeping. Getting extremely upset over trash, cooking, food timing, or other minor problems is not normal relationship behavior. If a woman makes you constantly apologize for tiny things, the relationship is probably not worth saving.
                  9. It is almost always appropriate to approach a woman in real life. Concerts, bars, parks, shared hobbies, and casual public settings are all fair places to start a conversation. You are not ruining her day by saying hello, especially if you can read when she does not want to keep talking.
                  10. If you freeze around women, you need to practice approaching before you waste more years. The regret of not talking to a woman can last longer than the sting of rejection. Start with easy situations, build reps, and train yourself to act when an opportunity appears.
                  ]]>1273advice,dating,datingadvice,datingadviceformen,datinghelp,datingstories,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationships,storiestrue10fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-invited-a-girl-to-my-place-i-m-annoyed-that-she-had-sex-with-me--67010845- A "good guy" who doesn't get laid, but at least people don't think he's a "f boy."
                  - A possibly homosexual guy (not that there's anything wrong with that) who cut things off with an obsessive girl.
                  - A guy who is confused about a girl's repeated cancelling and rescheduling.
                  - A guy who lost weight and is surprised that women aren't swarming him.
                  - A clueless guy who wrecked the vibe on his date because he takes advice from the internet.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Being a good guy does not automatically make women attracted to you. Being sweet, genuine, wholesome, moral, and emotionally healthy are good qualities, but they are not enough by themselves to create dating success. Attraction requires more than being nice and self-improved.
                  2. Self-development does not replace putting real effort into dating. Taking years off to work on yourself can improve your life, but it does not guarantee women will appear. If you want dating results, you need to actively date, ask women out, and create opportunities instead of waiting for self-improvement to pay off.
                  3. If dates keep stalling after the first or second date, try bringing women home earlier. If you are getting dates but nothing is progressing, the problem may be that you are not escalating enough. Try to bring her home on the first date and see whether a more direct physical approach changes your results.
                  4. Do not turn down sex with a woman you brought home unless you truly do not want her. If a hot woman is at your place and wants to have sex, refusing because you are unsure whether you like her can be self-sabotage. If you do not want sex, do not bring her home in the first place.
                  5. A woman asking about kids or marriage early is not automatically a red flag. Some women know what they want and do not want to waste time with a man who wants something different. Asking early can be practical, especially if she is dating with serious intentions.
                  6. If a woman gets obsessive too quickly, slow her down instead of instantly bailing. Talking about family, holidays, or future plans after one or two dates can feel intense, but it does not always mean you need to end it. If you like her, keep control of the pace and tell her to slow down.
                  7. If she cancels but offers specific alternative dates, she is probably still interested. A woman who reschedules with a clear new day is showing more interest than one who simply cancels. Confirm the new date the day before and do not panic just because there is silence in between.
                  8. Losing weight does not automatically make women give you attention. Getting fit can improve your health, confidence, and appearance, but it usually only brings you up to a basic acceptable level. You still need personality, confidence, and action to turn self-improvement into dating results.
                  9. Going to the gym is the dating baseline, not a magic advantage. Being in shape helps, but many men work out now, so it does not make you special on its own. Treat fitness like brushing your teeth: necessary, valuable, and expected, but not enough to create attraction by itself.
                  10. Do not ask for permission to kiss a woman on a date. Asking can kill the moment and make you look unsure. If the vibe is right, go for the kiss and let her stop you if she does not want it.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/67010845Sat, 30 Aug 2025 14:00:08 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A "good guy" who doesn't get laid, but at least people don't think he's a "f boy." - A possibly homosexual guy (not that there's anything wrong with that) who cut things off with...- A "good guy" who doesn't get laid, but at least people don't think he's a "f boy."
                  - A possibly homosexual guy (not that there's anything wrong with that) who cut things off with an obsessive girl.
                  - A guy who is confused about a girl's repeated cancelling and rescheduling.
                  - A guy who lost weight and is surprised that women aren't swarming him.
                  - A clueless guy who wrecked the vibe on his date because he takes advice from the internet.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Being a good guy does not automatically make women attracted to you. Being sweet, genuine, wholesome, moral, and emotionally healthy are good qualities, but they are not enough by themselves to create dating success. Attraction requires more than being nice and self-improved.
                  2. Self-development does not replace putting real effort into dating. Taking years off to work on yourself can improve your life, but it does not guarantee women will appear. If you want dating results, you need to actively date, ask women out, and create opportunities instead of waiting for self-improvement to pay off.
                  3. If dates keep stalling after the first or second date, try bringing women home earlier. If you are getting dates but nothing is progressing, the problem may be that you are not escalating enough. Try to bring her home on the first date and see whether a more direct physical approach changes your results.
                  4. Do not turn down sex with a woman you brought home unless you truly do not want her. If a hot woman is at your place and wants to have sex, refusing because you are unsure whether you like her can be self-sabotage. If you do not want sex, do not bring her home in the first place.
                  5. A woman asking about kids or marriage early is not automatically a red flag. Some women know what they want and do not want to waste time with a man who wants something different. Asking early can be practical, especially if she is dating with serious intentions.
                  6. If a woman gets obsessive too quickly, slow her down instead of instantly bailing. Talking about family, holidays, or future plans after one or two dates can feel intense, but it does not always mean you need to end it. If you like her, keep control of the pace and tell her to slow down.
                  7. If she cancels but offers specific alternative dates, she is probably still interested. A woman who reschedules with a clear new day is showing more interest than one who simply cancels. Confirm the new date the day before and do not panic just because there is silence in between.
                  8. Losing weight does not automatically make women give you attention. Getting fit can improve your health, confidence, and appearance, but it usually only brings you up to a basic acceptable level. You still need personality, confidence, and action to turn self-improvement into dating results.
                  9. Going to the gym is the dating baseline, not a magic advantage. Being in shape helps, but many men work out now, so it does not make you special on its own. Treat fitness like brushing your teeth: necessary, valuable, and expected, but not enough to create attraction by itself.
                  10. Do not ask for permission to kiss a woman on a date. Asking can kill the moment and make you look unsure. If the vibe is right, go for the kiss and let her stop you if she does not want it.
                  ]]>1607advice,dating,datingadvice,datinghelp,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationshipstrue9fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-spent-200-on-our-first-date-and-she-ghosted-me-is-it-because-i-asked-for-a-receipt--66839884- A guy who is being pursued by a girl that may or may not be ugly.
                  - A guy whose long-distance girlfriend won't come visit him over the summer.
                  - A guy that's more worried about if girls think he's cheap by asking for a receipt on dates rather than realizing $200 is way too much to pay for a date.
                  - A guy whose wife is a stay-at-home-mom but he does 80% of the housework, AND she's pissed that he plays video games.
                  - For the first time, a guy who I'm PRAISING on how he reacted when his girlfriend said she wanted a month-long break.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If a woman gives you her Instagram through a friend and you are not interested, you do not owe her a response. The cleanest move is usually to do nothing. If you never asked for her contact information and do not want to pursue her, you can simply not message her and let the situation end on its own.
                  2. Do not switch gyms just because rejecting a woman feels awkward. If a girl at the gym likes you and you do not feel the same way, that is more awkward for her than it is for you. Stay at your gym, keep your routine, and do not overreact to a situation that will probably fade quickly.
                  3. Texting another girl does not mean you should ignore every new option. Unless you are in a real relationship, texting one woman does not make you unavailable. If another attractive woman shows interest, you can still pursue it if you want to.
                  4. If your long-distance girlfriend says she cannot afford to visit but spends money going out, she probably does not want to visit badly enough. People often claim they have no money for travel while still spending on nights out, shopping, food, and drinks. If she wanted to see you enough, she would likely find a way.
                  5. A brand-new long-distance relationship does not need constant travel to survive. If you have only been dating for a month and will be apart for the summer, it may be better to meet once in the middle or simply reconnect when she returns. Do not overinvest in flights and visits before the relationship is actually solid.
                  6. Do not spend $100 or $200 on early dinner dates. The receipt is not the real problem; the expensive date is. Keep first dates cheap, casual, and within an amount you are comfortable losing if she ghosts afterward.
                  7. Get women to pay their share on early dates. Paying for everything can leave you annoyed if she does not come home with you, does not thank you, or never sees you again. Splitting the bill protects your money and keeps you from feeling used.
                  8. A wife should not control your harmless hobbies when your responsibilities are handled. If you make the money, prioritize your family, and only play video games during free time, your wife should not treat your hobby like a childish problem. A relationship should not require giving up normal downtime just because she disapproves.
                  9. If your stay-at-home wife makes you do most of the housework, the relationship dynamic is broken. A man who works, supports the family financially, and still does most of the chores is being walked over. You need to stand up for yourself before the imbalance becomes permanent.
                  10. If a woman asks for a month-long break, treat it as a breakup. Serious relationships do not get paused whenever life becomes stressful. If she wants space for a month, end it cleanly instead of waiting around while she decides whether she still wants you.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/66839884Sat, 16 Aug 2025 14:00:07 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who is being pursued by a girl that may or may not be ugly. - A guy whose long-distance girlfriend won't come visit him over the summer. - A guy that's more worried about if...- A guy who is being pursued by a girl that may or may not be ugly.
                  - A guy whose long-distance girlfriend won't come visit him over the summer.
                  - A guy that's more worried about if girls think he's cheap by asking for a receipt on dates rather than realizing $200 is way too much to pay for a date.
                  - A guy whose wife is a stay-at-home-mom but he does 80% of the housework, AND she's pissed that he plays video games.
                  - For the first time, a guy who I'm PRAISING on how he reacted when his girlfriend said she wanted a month-long break.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If a woman gives you her Instagram through a friend and you are not interested, you do not owe her a response. The cleanest move is usually to do nothing. If you never asked for her contact information and do not want to pursue her, you can simply not message her and let the situation end on its own.
                  2. Do not switch gyms just because rejecting a woman feels awkward. If a girl at the gym likes you and you do not feel the same way, that is more awkward for her than it is for you. Stay at your gym, keep your routine, and do not overreact to a situation that will probably fade quickly.
                  3. Texting another girl does not mean you should ignore every new option. Unless you are in a real relationship, texting one woman does not make you unavailable. If another attractive woman shows interest, you can still pursue it if you want to.
                  4. If your long-distance girlfriend says she cannot afford to visit but spends money going out, she probably does not want to visit badly enough. People often claim they have no money for travel while still spending on nights out, shopping, food, and drinks. If she wanted to see you enough, she would likely find a way.
                  5. A brand-new long-distance relationship does not need constant travel to survive. If you have only been dating for a month and will be apart for the summer, it may be better to meet once in the middle or simply reconnect when she returns. Do not overinvest in flights and visits before the relationship is actually solid.
                  6. Do not spend $100 or $200 on early dinner dates. The receipt is not the real problem; the expensive date is. Keep first dates cheap, casual, and within an amount you are comfortable losing if she ghosts afterward.
                  7. Get women to pay their share on early dates. Paying for everything can leave you annoyed if she does not come home with you, does not thank you, or never sees you again. Splitting the bill protects your money and keeps you from feeling used.
                  8. A wife should not control your harmless hobbies when your responsibilities are handled. If you make the money, prioritize your family, and only play video games during free time, your wife should not treat your hobby like a childish problem. A relationship should not require giving up normal downtime just because she disapproves.
                  9. If your stay-at-home wife makes you do most of the housework, the relationship dynamic is broken. A man who works, supports the family financially, and still does most of the chores is being walked over. You need to stand up for yourself before the imbalance becomes permanent.
                  10. If a woman asks for a month-long break, treat it as a breakup. Serious relationships do not get paused whenever life becomes stressful. If she wants space for a month, end it cleanly instead of waiting around while she decides whether she still wants you.
                  ]]>1434advice,dating,datingadvice,datinghelp,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationshipstrue8fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/her-cooking-is-delicious-and-i-want-more-i-guess-i-m-a-woman-hater--66636331- A guy who spent 10 hours with a girl but wouldn't even kiss her because he thinks he'd be an asshole if he did. 
                  - Another guy in his 30s who is fed up with dating apps, but at least he's in therapy.
                  - A guy whose girlfriend makes delicious food but he's afraid of being called a misogynist by asking for more.
                  - A 23-year-old guy who wants to know if it's okay to date a senior citizen.
                  - A guy freaking out because he liked his co-worker's Tinder profile.
                  - A guy who gets an erection whenever he holds hands, but also doesn't wanna have sex.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you suck at flirting, the real issue may be that you are not making moves. Compliments, jokes, and teasing are useful, but they are not the same as breaking the touch barrier, going for the kiss, or escalating physically. If women are telling you they had a great time but only felt friendly vibes, you need to start leading.
                  2. Being too respectful can hurt your dating life if it stops you from acting. Trying not to be an asshole is fine, but using respect as an excuse to avoid rejection will make women lose interest. Making a move is not wrong if you act decently and stop when she is not into it.
                  3. Most of the time, the man has to make the first move. It is easy when a woman gives you an obvious green light, but you cannot depend on that. If you want the kiss, the sex, or the relationship to progress, you need to take the risk and lead.
                  4. Do not ask “is this okay?” every time you touch or kiss a woman. Asking can kill the moment and make the interaction feel awkward. Read the situation, make the move, and let her tell you if she does not want it.
                  5. Dating apps are frustrating for most men, even when they put in effort. Thoughtful messages, witty openers, and good profiles still often lead to one-word replies, ghosting, or silence. This is normal on dating apps, so do not assume every bad interaction means something is wrong with you.
                  6. Do not build emotional connections over dating apps before meeting. Apps should be used to create a basic conversation and set up a date, not to develop deep attachment through texting. Ask her out sooner so you can find out whether she is actually willing to meet.
                  7. If dating apps feel exhausting, approach women in real life. Cold approach gives you face-to-face interaction and breaks the repetitive cycle of swiping, matching, texting, and getting ghosted. Even one real conversation can feel more useful than another week of app messages.
                  8. Wanting your girlfriend to cook for you is not misogynistic. If she makes great food and you want more, just ask. A girlfriend who likes you may enjoy doing something that makes you happy, especially if you help by buying the ingredients.
                  9. Dating a woman more than twice your age can be fun, but do not pretend it is a normal long-term plan. If you are 23 and she is 50, short-term sex or companionship may be fine, but marriage, kids, and long-term life stages are a serious problem. Think clearly about whether older women are truly what you want or just easier than younger women.
                  10. Getting an erection while holding hands is normal, but do not pretend you are not sexual. If a woman turns you on, your body may react, especially when you are young or inexperienced. Do not panic if she notices, and do not hide behind “I just want to get to know her” when you clearly want her sexually.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/66636331Sat, 02 Aug 2025 14:00:07 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who spent 10 hours with a girl but wouldn't even kiss her because he thinks he'd be an asshole if he did.  - Another guy in his 30s who is fed up with dating apps, but at...- A guy who spent 10 hours with a girl but wouldn't even kiss her because he thinks he'd be an asshole if he did. 
                  - Another guy in his 30s who is fed up with dating apps, but at least he's in therapy.
                  - A guy whose girlfriend makes delicious food but he's afraid of being called a misogynist by asking for more.
                  - A 23-year-old guy who wants to know if it's okay to date a senior citizen.
                  - A guy freaking out because he liked his co-worker's Tinder profile.
                  - A guy who gets an erection whenever he holds hands, but also doesn't wanna have sex.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you suck at flirting, the real issue may be that you are not making moves. Compliments, jokes, and teasing are useful, but they are not the same as breaking the touch barrier, going for the kiss, or escalating physically. If women are telling you they had a great time but only felt friendly vibes, you need to start leading.
                  2. Being too respectful can hurt your dating life if it stops you from acting. Trying not to be an asshole is fine, but using respect as an excuse to avoid rejection will make women lose interest. Making a move is not wrong if you act decently and stop when she is not into it.
                  3. Most of the time, the man has to make the first move. It is easy when a woman gives you an obvious green light, but you cannot depend on that. If you want the kiss, the sex, or the relationship to progress, you need to take the risk and lead.
                  4. Do not ask “is this okay?” every time you touch or kiss a woman. Asking can kill the moment and make the interaction feel awkward. Read the situation, make the move, and let her tell you if she does not want it.
                  5. Dating apps are frustrating for most men, even when they put in effort. Thoughtful messages, witty openers, and good profiles still often lead to one-word replies, ghosting, or silence. This is normal on dating apps, so do not assume every bad interaction means something is wrong with you.
                  6. Do not build emotional connections over dating apps before meeting. Apps should be used to create a basic conversation and set up a date, not to develop deep attachment through texting. Ask her out sooner so you can find out whether she is actually willing to meet.
                  7. If dating apps feel exhausting, approach women in real life. Cold approach gives you face-to-face interaction and breaks the repetitive cycle of swiping, matching, texting, and getting ghosted. Even one real conversation can feel more useful than another week of app messages.
                  8. Wanting your girlfriend to cook for you is not misogynistic. If she makes great food and you want more, just ask. A girlfriend who likes you may enjoy doing something that makes you happy, especially if you help by buying the ingredients.
                  9. Dating a woman more than twice your age can be fun, but do not pretend it is a normal long-term plan. If you are 23 and she is 50, short-term sex or companionship may be fine, but marriage, kids, and long-term life stages are a serious problem. Think clearly about whether older women are truly what you want or just easier than younger women.
                  10. Getting an erection while holding hands is normal, but do not pretend you are not sexual. If a woman turns you on, your body may react, especially when you are young or inexperienced. Do not panic if she notices, and do not hide behind “I just want to get to know her” when you clearly want her sexually.
                  ]]>1568advice,dating,datingadvice,datinghelp,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationshipstrue7fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-need-to-pay-a-girl-to-cuddle-me-will-my-future-girlfriend-find-out-i-m-a-loser--66053594-A guy wondering if it's okay to dump a girl if she won't meet up with him.
                  -A desperate, nearly-hopeless guy who wants to pay for a girl to cuddle him instead of finding one that actually likes him.
                  -A guy who was paying for prostitution but was too dumb to realize it.
                  -A 20-year-old dude who doesn't wanna get roped into marriage.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If a woman is too busy to see you, do not send a dramatic breakup message. If she has only hung out once in six weeks and barely texts, she has already shown where you stand. You do not need to announce that it is not working; just stop investing and let it fade.
                  2. Do not put your dating life on hold for one unavailable woman. If she is busy, distant, or only half-interested, keep meeting other women. You can keep her lightly on your radar, but you should not wait around hoping her schedule or interest suddenly changes.
                  3. A woman who really likes you will usually make time to see you. School, work, and life can be busy, but one meetup in six weeks is not a good sign. If she wanted to prioritize you, she would probably find a way.
                  4. Using a cuddling service is a major dating red flag. Wanting affection is normal, but paying a woman to cuddle you is not the answer. Do not go down the path of paying for women’s time when what you really need is a better dating life.
                  5. Do not pay women for emotional comfort or physical affection. Hugging, cuddling, sex, and companionship should come from real dating, not a paid service. Have enough self-respect to go meet women instead of buying fake intimacy.
                  6. If a woman asks for money early in dating, you are creating the wrong relationship dynamic. Giving money to show you care teaches her that your role is financial support. If the relationship starts with you paying for skincare, merch, trips, dates, and requests, do not be surprised when she expects more.
                  7. A woman who requires financial support while dating is treating the relationship like a transaction. If she says it is her standard for men to financially support her, that is not normal dating. That is a girlfriend-experience arrangement, and you should not confuse it with genuine interest.
                  8. Do not lead with money if you want a woman to like you for you. Paying for everything and handing out cash can attract women who care more about what you provide than who you are. Keep early dates cheap, split costs, and avoid setting the expectation that access to you comes with payments.
                  9. If you do not see yourself marrying your girlfriend, stop wasting her time. If she wants marriage and kids and you already know you do not want that future with her, you need to be honest. Staying because you care about her only delays the pain and makes the eventual breakup worse.
                  10. At 20 years old, you should not force yourself into marriage plans you do not want. If you feel too young or cannot picture proposing, listen to that instinct. End it now or clearly tell her where you stand so she can decide whether she wants to keep dating you.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/66053594Sat, 19 Jul 2025 14:00:08 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: -A guy wondering if it's okay to dump a girl if she won't meet up with him. -A desperate, nearly-hopeless guy who wants to pay for a girl to cuddle him instead of finding one that...-A guy wondering if it's okay to dump a girl if she won't meet up with him.
                  -A desperate, nearly-hopeless guy who wants to pay for a girl to cuddle him instead of finding one that actually likes him.
                  -A guy who was paying for prostitution but was too dumb to realize it.
                  -A 20-year-old dude who doesn't wanna get roped into marriage.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If a woman is too busy to see you, do not send a dramatic breakup message. If she has only hung out once in six weeks and barely texts, she has already shown where you stand. You do not need to announce that it is not working; just stop investing and let it fade.
                  2. Do not put your dating life on hold for one unavailable woman. If she is busy, distant, or only half-interested, keep meeting other women. You can keep her lightly on your radar, but you should not wait around hoping her schedule or interest suddenly changes.
                  3. A woman who really likes you will usually make time to see you. School, work, and life can be busy, but one meetup in six weeks is not a good sign. If she wanted to prioritize you, she would probably find a way.
                  4. Using a cuddling service is a major dating red flag. Wanting affection is normal, but paying a woman to cuddle you is not the answer. Do not go down the path of paying for women’s time when what you really need is a better dating life.
                  5. Do not pay women for emotional comfort or physical affection. Hugging, cuddling, sex, and companionship should come from real dating, not a paid service. Have enough self-respect to go meet women instead of buying fake intimacy.
                  6. If a woman asks for money early in dating, you are creating the wrong relationship dynamic. Giving money to show you care teaches her that your role is financial support. If the relationship starts with you paying for skincare, merch, trips, dates, and requests, do not be surprised when she expects more.
                  7. A woman who requires financial support while dating is treating the relationship like a transaction. If she says it is her standard for men to financially support her, that is not normal dating. That is a girlfriend-experience arrangement, and you should not confuse it with genuine interest.
                  8. Do not lead with money if you want a woman to like you for you. Paying for everything and handing out cash can attract women who care more about what you provide than who you are. Keep early dates cheap, split costs, and avoid setting the expectation that access to you comes with payments.
                  9. If you do not see yourself marrying your girlfriend, stop wasting her time. If she wants marriage and kids and you already know you do not want that future with her, you need to be honest. Staying because you care about her only delays the pain and makes the eventual breakup worse.
                  10. At 20 years old, you should not force yourself into marriage plans you do not want. If you feel too young or cannot picture proposing, listen to that instinct. End it now or clearly tell her where you stand so she can decide whether she wants to keep dating you.
                  ]]>785advice,dating,datingadvice,datinghelp,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationshipstrue6fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-buy-her-flowers-every-time-i-see-her-why-doesn-t-she-love-me--66051116- A guy with the phone number of a girl he met at a party but doesn't know if it's okay to text her.
                  - A guy who wants to kick his useless girlfriend out of his mom's house.
                  - A college student feeling underappreciated because he takes his girlfriend to restaurants he can't afford and pays the bill.
                  - A feminine guy who can't get girls out on second dates.
                  - A guy who got broken up with because he's "too nice" and has now wasted his money on a trip.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you meet a girl at a party and have her number from a group chat, send the message. You do not need to overthink whether she gave you the number directly if everyone agreed to be in the same WhatsApp group. Keep the message simple, respectful, and something you would not be embarrassed for other people to see.
                  2. Whether a message feels creepy depends mostly on whether the girl likes you. If she is interested, she will probably be happy you reached out. If she is not interested, she may call it creepy, but that does not mean you did anything wrong.
                  3. If you want to get your girlfriend out of your mom’s house, you need to break up with her. A relationship that moves backward from living together to not living together is usually already over. If she refuses to leave, cries, begs, and manipulates you into keeping her there, the problem is bigger than housing.
                  4. Do not spend your early twenties trapped in a dysfunctional relationship. If you have spent your entire adult life with a lazy, unstable girlfriend who cannot keep a job or take care of herself, leave. You need to find new women instead of dragging out an on-and-off relationship that is clearly not working.
                  5. If your girlfriend does nothing for you, stop blaming her for a dynamic you created. If you pay for every date, buy flowers constantly, bring food for her family, and never ask for anything back, she may assume you are fine with it. Talk to her directly and stop giving more than you can afford.
                  6. Ask your girlfriend to do specific things for you instead of silently resenting her. If you want effort, affection, or reciprocity, make a clear request. Ask her to cook for you, plan something, or contribute in a way that shows whether she actually cares.
                  7. If you never get a second date, the first date probably is not creating enough attraction. Talking about work, family, and safe topics can feel pleasant but still fail to build sexual interest. A date can seem friendly and comfortable while the woman feels nothing romantic.
                  8. Do not text “I had a great time” right after every first date. Sending a needy check-in message can remove mystery and make you look too eager. Let her wonder a little, and if she messages first, then reply.
                  9. If your dates feel boring, ask more interesting questions. Instead of only talking about work, family, and surface-level topics, bring up more revealing subjects like past relationships, breakups, and what she is actually like. Better questions create more memorable dates.
                  10. Do not book trips far in advance with a woman you have only dated for a few months. A new relationship can change quickly, and booking a weekend away four weeks out can leave you wasting money if she ends things. If you want to travel early, plan something close in time and make sure she pays her share.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/66051116Sat, 05 Jul 2025 14:00:08 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy with the phone number of a girl he met at a party but doesn't know if it's okay to text her. - A guy who wants to kick his useless girlfriend out of his mom's house. - A...- A guy with the phone number of a girl he met at a party but doesn't know if it's okay to text her.
                  - A guy who wants to kick his useless girlfriend out of his mom's house.
                  - A college student feeling underappreciated because he takes his girlfriend to restaurants he can't afford and pays the bill.
                  - A feminine guy who can't get girls out on second dates.
                  - A guy who got broken up with because he's "too nice" and has now wasted his money on a trip.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you meet a girl at a party and have her number from a group chat, send the message. You do not need to overthink whether she gave you the number directly if everyone agreed to be in the same WhatsApp group. Keep the message simple, respectful, and something you would not be embarrassed for other people to see.
                  2. Whether a message feels creepy depends mostly on whether the girl likes you. If she is interested, she will probably be happy you reached out. If she is not interested, she may call it creepy, but that does not mean you did anything wrong.
                  3. If you want to get your girlfriend out of your mom’s house, you need to break up with her. A relationship that moves backward from living together to not living together is usually already over. If she refuses to leave, cries, begs, and manipulates you into keeping her there, the problem is bigger than housing.
                  4. Do not spend your early twenties trapped in a dysfunctional relationship. If you have spent your entire adult life with a lazy, unstable girlfriend who cannot keep a job or take care of herself, leave. You need to find new women instead of dragging out an on-and-off relationship that is clearly not working.
                  5. If your girlfriend does nothing for you, stop blaming her for a dynamic you created. If you pay for every date, buy flowers constantly, bring food for her family, and never ask for anything back, she may assume you are fine with it. Talk to her directly and stop giving more than you can afford.
                  6. Ask your girlfriend to do specific things for you instead of silently resenting her. If you want effort, affection, or reciprocity, make a clear request. Ask her to cook for you, plan something, or contribute in a way that shows whether she actually cares.
                  7. If you never get a second date, the first date probably is not creating enough attraction. Talking about work, family, and safe topics can feel pleasant but still fail to build sexual interest. A date can seem friendly and comfortable while the woman feels nothing romantic.
                  8. Do not text “I had a great time” right after every first date. Sending a needy check-in message can remove mystery and make you look too eager. Let her wonder a little, and if she messages first, then reply.
                  9. If your dates feel boring, ask more interesting questions. Instead of only talking about work, family, and surface-level topics, bring up more revealing subjects like past relationships, breakups, and what she is actually like. Better questions create more memorable dates.
                  10. Do not book trips far in advance with a woman you have only dated for a few months. A new relationship can change quickly, and booking a weekend away four weeks out can leave you wasting money if she ends things. If you want to travel early, plan something close in time and make sure she pays her share.
                  ]]>1036advice,dating,datingadvice,datinghelp,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationshipstrue5fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-did-her-laundry-and-cleaned-her-room-how-could-she-break-up-with-me--65909230- A guy who feels it's important that girls reach to pay the bill on the first date.
                  - A guy who can't believe girls still don't like him after he took dancing classes and speech lessons.
                  - A guy who thought doing his girlfriend's chores would build a healthy relationship.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you always pay on dates, women can start treating you like a wallet. Paying for everything from the beginning can train a woman to expect your money instead of appreciating it. If you do not want that dynamic, establish early that she should contribute.
                  2. Split the bill on the first date to set the right relationship dynamic. The first date is where you teach a woman what to expect from you. If you pay automatically, you may create entitlement; if you ask her to split, you set a healthier standard from the beginning.
                  3. Do not join hobbies or classes just to meet women. Dancing classes, speech lessons, social clubs, and hobby groups are not magic dating solutions. If you genuinely want to do them, fine, but do not pretend they are the best way to get girls.
                  4. Focusing on yourself will not make women fall into your lap. Self-improvement is useful for life, money, health, and confidence, but it does not replace action. If you want women, you need to go talk to them instead of waiting for someone nice to appear.
                  5. Dating apps can stay in the background, but real-life approaching should be the main strategy. Apps may occasionally produce dates, but they should not be your only pipeline. Walk around, go to malls, talk to cute women, and create opportunities directly.
                  6. You do not need a socially approved setting to approach a woman. If you see a woman you find attractive in public, you can talk to her. You do not need a class, singles event, or blind date setup to make the interaction acceptable.
                  7. Most dating advice about joining social events wastes men’s time. Many men spend years trying the standard advice and still get nowhere. Skip the overcomplicated route and focus on the direct one: approach women you actually want.
                  8. Doing your girlfriend’s laundry and cleaning her room does not build attraction. Acting like her servant will not make her love or respect you more. If anything, it weakens the relationship dynamic and makes you look less like the man in the relationship.
                  9. Do not worship your girlfriend and then complain that she expects worship. If you drive hours, buy everything, clean for her, massage her, reassure her constantly, and cut off friends for her, you are creating the exact entitlement you resent. Stop overgiving and start having self-respect.
                  10. If your girlfriend vents about problems only a therapist could handle, do not make that your role. Being supportive is one thing, but becoming her emotional dumping ground while also doing everything for her is a bad relationship dynamic. Do not date mental chaos and then wonder why the relationship feels impossible.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/65909230Sat, 21 Jun 2025 14:00:07 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who feels it's important that girls reach to pay the bill on the first date. - A guy who can't believe girls still don't like him after he took dancing classes and speech...- A guy who feels it's important that girls reach to pay the bill on the first date.
                  - A guy who can't believe girls still don't like him after he took dancing classes and speech lessons.
                  - A guy who thought doing his girlfriend's chores would build a healthy relationship.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you always pay on dates, women can start treating you like a wallet. Paying for everything from the beginning can train a woman to expect your money instead of appreciating it. If you do not want that dynamic, establish early that she should contribute.
                  2. Split the bill on the first date to set the right relationship dynamic. The first date is where you teach a woman what to expect from you. If you pay automatically, you may create entitlement; if you ask her to split, you set a healthier standard from the beginning.
                  3. Do not join hobbies or classes just to meet women. Dancing classes, speech lessons, social clubs, and hobby groups are not magic dating solutions. If you genuinely want to do them, fine, but do not pretend they are the best way to get girls.
                  4. Focusing on yourself will not make women fall into your lap. Self-improvement is useful for life, money, health, and confidence, but it does not replace action. If you want women, you need to go talk to them instead of waiting for someone nice to appear.
                  5. Dating apps can stay in the background, but real-life approaching should be the main strategy. Apps may occasionally produce dates, but they should not be your only pipeline. Walk around, go to malls, talk to cute women, and create opportunities directly.
                  6. You do not need a socially approved setting to approach a woman. If you see a woman you find attractive in public, you can talk to her. You do not need a class, singles event, or blind date setup to make the interaction acceptable.
                  7. Most dating advice about joining social events wastes men’s time. Many men spend years trying the standard advice and still get nowhere. Skip the overcomplicated route and focus on the direct one: approach women you actually want.
                  8. Doing your girlfriend’s laundry and cleaning her room does not build attraction. Acting like her servant will not make her love or respect you more. If anything, it weakens the relationship dynamic and makes you look less like the man in the relationship.
                  9. Do not worship your girlfriend and then complain that she expects worship. If you drive hours, buy everything, clean for her, massage her, reassure her constantly, and cut off friends for her, you are creating the exact entitlement you resent. Stop overgiving and start having self-respect.
                  10. If your girlfriend vents about problems only a therapist could handle, do not make that your role. Being supportive is one thing, but becoming her emotional dumping ground while also doing everything for her is a bad relationship dynamic. Do not date mental chaos and then wonder why the relationship feels impossible.
                  ]]>791advice,dating,datingadvice,datinghelp,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationshipstrue4fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/she-s-incredible-but-i-need-to-dump-her-my-advice-keep-dating-her-while-looking-for-a-new-girl--65908242- A guy wondering if it's a good idea to hand a girl a love letter like he's in grade 5.
                  - A guy who wants to break up with an incredible girl because he's not into her "romantically."
                  - A guy beating himself up because a girl at work told him she has a boyfriend.
                  - A guy who doesn't want to be treated like a walking ATM despite acting like one with the girl he's dating.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Do not give a girl a note if you can just talk to her. If you see the same girl every week and want to meet her, go up and start a real conversation. A face-to-face approach is stronger, less strange, and more effective than handing her a written message as she walks by.
                  2. Compliment her style in person instead of hiding behind a note. If her outfits are what caught your attention, use that as the opener. Tell her you like her style, have a short conversation, get her name, and then ask for her number.
                  3. If you want to dump a girl who did nothing wrong, just do it cleanly. Breakups hurt, even when the other person is sweet and caring. There is no perfect way to end things without pain, so do not overcomplicate it if you truly do not want her in your life.
                  4. Do not break up with a good girl before you have another one lined up. If she treats you well, likes you, and is having sex with you, do not throw that away too quickly. Keep her around while you look for someone you actually feel more strongly about.
                  5. Girls are like jobs: do not quit one before you have another lined up. Being single and sexless for months can happen if you dump a decent girl too early. If the relationship is not terrible, stay practical and avoid creating a dry spell for yourself.
                  6. Asking out a coworker is not a disaster if she says no. If you ask her to lunch and she says she has a boyfriend, accept it and move on. The situation only becomes awkward if you act awkward afterward.
                  7. Own the fact that asking her to lunch was asking her on a date. Do not hide behind “it was just lunch” when you were interested in her romantically. You took a shot, she rejected it, and that is still better than never trying.
                  8. If a woman keeps forgetting her wallet, asking for money, and getting cold when you stop paying, she wants your money. The pattern is obvious: dinners, coffee, trips, rent, car bills, and phone bills all becoming your responsibility means she sees you as a provider, not a boyfriend.
                  9. Do not train a woman to expect your money from the beginning. If you pay for everything early, give her cash, and cover every “emergency,” you create the dynamic that later makes you feel used. Split early dates and make sure she contributes before the habit forms.
                  10. If splitting the bill turns her off, that is a good filter. A woman who disappears because she had to pay her share was never worth keeping. Most decent women will be fine contributing, and the ones who are not should remove themselves quickly.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/65908242Sat, 07 Jun 2025 14:00:08 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy wondering if it's a good idea to hand a girl a love letter like he's in grade 5. - A guy who wants to break up with an incredible girl because he's not into her...- A guy wondering if it's a good idea to hand a girl a love letter like he's in grade 5.
                  - A guy who wants to break up with an incredible girl because he's not into her "romantically."
                  - A guy beating himself up because a girl at work told him she has a boyfriend.
                  - A guy who doesn't want to be treated like a walking ATM despite acting like one with the girl he's dating.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Do not give a girl a note if you can just talk to her. If you see the same girl every week and want to meet her, go up and start a real conversation. A face-to-face approach is stronger, less strange, and more effective than handing her a written message as she walks by.
                  2. Compliment her style in person instead of hiding behind a note. If her outfits are what caught your attention, use that as the opener. Tell her you like her style, have a short conversation, get her name, and then ask for her number.
                  3. If you want to dump a girl who did nothing wrong, just do it cleanly. Breakups hurt, even when the other person is sweet and caring. There is no perfect way to end things without pain, so do not overcomplicate it if you truly do not want her in your life.
                  4. Do not break up with a good girl before you have another one lined up. If she treats you well, likes you, and is having sex with you, do not throw that away too quickly. Keep her around while you look for someone you actually feel more strongly about.
                  5. Girls are like jobs: do not quit one before you have another lined up. Being single and sexless for months can happen if you dump a decent girl too early. If the relationship is not terrible, stay practical and avoid creating a dry spell for yourself.
                  6. Asking out a coworker is not a disaster if she says no. If you ask her to lunch and she says she has a boyfriend, accept it and move on. The situation only becomes awkward if you act awkward afterward.
                  7. Own the fact that asking her to lunch was asking her on a date. Do not hide behind “it was just lunch” when you were interested in her romantically. You took a shot, she rejected it, and that is still better than never trying.
                  8. If a woman keeps forgetting her wallet, asking for money, and getting cold when you stop paying, she wants your money. The pattern is obvious: dinners, coffee, trips, rent, car bills, and phone bills all becoming your responsibility means she sees you as a provider, not a boyfriend.
                  9. Do not train a woman to expect your money from the beginning. If you pay for everything early, give her cash, and cover every “emergency,” you create the dynamic that later makes you feel used. Split early dates and make sure she contributes before the habit forms.
                  10. If splitting the bill turns her off, that is a good filter. A woman who disappears because she had to pay her share was never worth keeping. Most decent women will be fine contributing, and the ones who are not should remove themselves quickly.
                  ]]>619advice,dating,datingadvice,datinghelp,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,relationshipstrue3fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-m-a-26-year-old-virgin-soon-i-ll-be-forced-to-date-single-mothers--65905710- A guy who thinks it's impossible to meet girls in real life.
                  - A guy who wants to cancel a date because he told the girl he's excited about it.
                  - A 26-year-old guy who gets naked women in his bed, doesn't have sex with them, and thinks he has to date single mothers soon.
                  - An overly feminine guy who got told the woman he's dating is sleeping with two other guys.
                  - A guy who recently moved to the US and can't get laid.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Meeting women in real life still works if you stop waiting for perfect social settings. Bars, clubs, running groups, and speed dating events are not the only places to meet women. If you see a cute girl at the bank, on the street, at the mall, or anywhere else, go talk to her.
                  2. Do not use empty social events as proof that real-life dating is dead. The problem is not that meeting women in person no longer works; the problem is relying on the wrong places. You do not need a formal event to approach a woman.
                  3. Dating apps can stay in your life, but they should not replace approaching women. Apps can be frustrating, but you can still use them passively while also creating real-life opportunities. Go outside, walk around, and talk to women when you see them.
                  4. If the date is still on, stop panicking about one awkward text. Saying something slightly too eager does not mean you need to go quiet, cancel, or start overthinking. If she is still willing to meet you, just go on the date.
                  5. Do not turn a small texting mistake into a reason to sabotage the date. Most messages are not as serious as they feel in your head. If you said something imperfect but the plan is still alive, relax and follow through.
                  6. If you are inexperienced in bed, learn the basic progression before the moment happens. If multiple women have left once things got sexual, something is seriously wrong with how you are handling escalation. You need to understand foreplay, confidence, and the normal flow of sex before you keep repeating the same failure.
                  7. Being 26 does not mean you need to start dating single mothers. There is no age in your twenties where single mothers become your required dating pool. If you are not into single moms, do not talk yourself into dating them because of low confidence.
                  8. Do not ask women about exclusivity after six dates. Bringing up exclusivity, monogamy, and “where this is going” too early makes you look weak and overinvested. Keep things vague, keep dating, and let the situation develop without forcing a serious conversation.
                  9. If a woman tells you she has multiple active sex partners, end it if that turns you off. You do not need to judge her, argue, or process it for days. If knowing she is sleeping with other men ruins your interest, walk away.
                  10. If you like a girl at work and you are leaving the job soon, ask her out. Do not avoid the move just because she might feel uncomfortable. You are leaving anyway, so take the shot and accept the answer.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/65905710Sat, 24 May 2025 14:00:07 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who thinks it's impossible to meet girls in real life. - A guy who wants to cancel a date because he told the girl he's excited about it. - A 26-year-old guy who gets naked...- A guy who thinks it's impossible to meet girls in real life.
                  - A guy who wants to cancel a date because he told the girl he's excited about it.
                  - A 26-year-old guy who gets naked women in his bed, doesn't have sex with them, and thinks he has to date single mothers soon.
                  - An overly feminine guy who got told the woman he's dating is sleeping with two other guys.
                  - A guy who recently moved to the US and can't get laid.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. Meeting women in real life still works if you stop waiting for perfect social settings. Bars, clubs, running groups, and speed dating events are not the only places to meet women. If you see a cute girl at the bank, on the street, at the mall, or anywhere else, go talk to her.
                  2. Do not use empty social events as proof that real-life dating is dead. The problem is not that meeting women in person no longer works; the problem is relying on the wrong places. You do not need a formal event to approach a woman.
                  3. Dating apps can stay in your life, but they should not replace approaching women. Apps can be frustrating, but you can still use them passively while also creating real-life opportunities. Go outside, walk around, and talk to women when you see them.
                  4. If the date is still on, stop panicking about one awkward text. Saying something slightly too eager does not mean you need to go quiet, cancel, or start overthinking. If she is still willing to meet you, just go on the date.
                  5. Do not turn a small texting mistake into a reason to sabotage the date. Most messages are not as serious as they feel in your head. If you said something imperfect but the plan is still alive, relax and follow through.
                  6. If you are inexperienced in bed, learn the basic progression before the moment happens. If multiple women have left once things got sexual, something is seriously wrong with how you are handling escalation. You need to understand foreplay, confidence, and the normal flow of sex before you keep repeating the same failure.
                  7. Being 26 does not mean you need to start dating single mothers. There is no age in your twenties where single mothers become your required dating pool. If you are not into single moms, do not talk yourself into dating them because of low confidence.
                  8. Do not ask women about exclusivity after six dates. Bringing up exclusivity, monogamy, and “where this is going” too early makes you look weak and overinvested. Keep things vague, keep dating, and let the situation develop without forcing a serious conversation.
                  9. If a woman tells you she has multiple active sex partners, end it if that turns you off. You do not need to judge her, argue, or process it for days. If knowing she is sleeping with other men ruins your interest, walk away.
                  10. If you like a girl at work and you are leaving the job soon, ask her out. Do not avoid the move just because she might feel uncomfortable. You are leaving anyway, so take the shot and accept the answer.
                  ]]>1035advice,dating,datingadvice,datinghelp,mensadvice,menshelp,reddit,reltionshipstrue2fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/she-rejected-me-because-i-m-a-virgin-more-therapy-for-me--65792776- A guy who thinks he needs therapy after getting rejected because he's a virgin.
                  - A 24-year-old guy who doesn't like that younger girls are interested in him.
                  - A guy who wants to give up on dating because he's getting no results.
                  - A clueless guy wasting his time going on dates with sexless women in their 40s.
                  - A guy who actually might be okay with his girlfriend staying the night at another guy's house.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you are an older virgin, do not tell women that you are a virgin. Once you are past the age where virginity is normal, admitting it can make women uncomfortable and hurt your chances. If a woman asks directly, say no and keep the conversation moving.
                  2. Do not use therapy and mental health as excuses for why you have no dating experience. Focusing on education, career, and mental health does not explain why you never pursued sex or dating. If you want women, you need to stop sounding defeated and start acting.
                  3. Dating younger women in your twenties is normal. If you are 24 or 25 and getting attention from 19- to 22-year-old women, that is not a serious age gap. Stop feeling guilty and date the women who are actually interested in you.
                  4. Do not reject younger women just because women your own age are not matching with you. If younger girls like you and women your age do not, use the opportunities you have. A five-year age gap in your twenties is not a problem.
                  5. Do not give up on dating just because apps and approaches are frustrating. Getting catfished, ghosted, stood up, or ignored happens to many men. Dating is difficult, but quitting at 30 guarantees you get nothing.
                  6. If women keep ghosting you, look at what you are doing wrong on dates. If almost every woman disappears after meeting or talking to you, something in your presentation, conversation, or behavior may be turning them off. Change the way you date instead of assuming the right woman does not exist.
                  7. Approaching women in real life requires accepting rejection. Some women will look annoyed, ignore you, or make you feel unwanted. That is part of the process, and it gets easier once you keep approaching and start getting positive reactions too.
                  8. If women keep saying there is no spark, stop going slow. “No romantic spark” usually means she does not feel attraction. If you are dating adult women, especially women in their forties, do not waste time taking things slowly when you should be escalating.
                  9. A woman staying at a male friend’s house for the weekend is not acceptable in a relationship. It does not matter how long they have been friends. If she wants to spend the night at another man’s place, tell her no or end the relationship.
                  10. Setting boundaries is not controlling if you are willing to walk away. You are not forcing her to do anything by saying you will not stay in the relationship if she visits another man overnight. She can make her choice, and you can make yours.
                  ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/65792776Sat, 10 May 2025 14:00:09 +0000Roy Calvin | Dating AdviceHere's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A guy who thinks he needs therapy after getting rejected because he's a virgin. - A 24-year-old guy who doesn't like that younger girls are interested in him. - A guy who wants to...- A guy who thinks he needs therapy after getting rejected because he's a virgin.
                  - A 24-year-old guy who doesn't like that younger girls are interested in him.
                  - A guy who wants to give up on dating because he's getting no results.
                  - A clueless guy wasting his time going on dates with sexless women in their 40s.
                  - A guy who actually might be okay with his girlfriend staying the night at another guy's house.
                  
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                  Dating lessons from this episode:
                  
                  1. If you are an older virgin, do not tell women that you are a virgin. Once you are past the age where virginity is normal, admitting it can make women uncomfortable and hurt your chances. If a woman asks directly, say no and keep the conversation moving.
                  2. Do not use therapy and mental health as excuses for why you have no dating experience. Focusing on education, career, and mental health does not explain why you never pursued sex or dating. If you want women, you need to stop sounding defeated and start acting.
                  3. Dating younger women in your twenties is normal. If you are 24 or 25 and getting attention from 19- to 22-year-old women, that is not a serious age gap. Stop feeling guilty and date the women who are actually interested in you.
                  4. Do not reject younger women just because women your own age are not matching with you. If younger girls like you and women your age do not, use the opportunities you have. A five-year age gap in your twenties is not a problem.
                  5. Do not give up on dating just because apps and approaches are frustrating. Getting catfished, ghosted, stood up, or ignored happens to many men. Dating is difficult, but quitting at 30 guarantees you get nothing.
                  6. If women keep ghosting you, look at what you are doing wrong on dates. If almost every woman disappears after meeting or talking to you, something in your presentation, conversation, or behavior may be turning them off. Change the way you date instead of assuming the right woman does not exist.
                  7. Approaching women in real life requires accepting rejection. Some women will look annoyed, ignore you, or make you feel unwanted. That is part of the process, and it gets easier once you keep approaching and start getting positive reactions too.
                  8. If women keep saying there is no spark, stop going slow. “No romantic spark” usually means she does not feel attraction. If you are dating adult women, especially women in their forties, do not waste time taking things slowly when you should be escalating.
                  9. A woman staying at a male friend’s house for the weekend is not acceptable in a relationship. It does not matter how long they have been friends. If she wants to spend the night at another man’s place, tell her no or end the relationship.
                  10. Setting boundaries is not controlling if you are willing to walk away. You are not forcing her to do anything by saying you will not stay in the relationship if she visits another man overnight. She can make her choice, and you can make yours.
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