https://www.spreaker.com/show/promise-okories-podcastenRelationshipsCopyright Promise Okoriehttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/images.spreaker.com/nuvolari-assets/black_square_mic.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/show/promise-okories-podcastWed, 12 Aug 2026 10:20:06 +0000Promise OkoriePromise Okoriefeeds@spreaker.comtrue32e1dc2f-c3f7-5c61-a6b6-176e94f7b7eeepisodichttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/what-shame-is-really-trying-to-tell-you-the-surprising-key-to-healing-trauma-and-finding-yourself-again--738400586d4128ae-cc38-4ae5-9887-7c7b59172bacWed, 12 Aug 2026 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieShame is one of the most powerful human emotions. It can quietly influence the choices we make, the relationships we create, the risks we take, and even the way we talk to ourselves when no one else is listening. Unlike guilt, which says "I did...2192false176fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/why-you-keep-having-the-same-fight-break-the-relationship-patterns-that-keep-you-stuck--7323102912260645-d90e-4a27-b5f4-d477f2b9efceWed, 29 Jul 2026 09:05:00 +0000Promise OkorieHave you ever found yourself thinking, "Here we go again," as you and your partner repeat the very same argument, hurt feelings, or misunderstandings? Most couples don't struggle because they don't love each other—they struggle because they're caught...3432false175fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/falling-in-love-with-ai-the-future-of-love-connection-human-relationships--7298697720025810-d508-409a-9bde-457d0e1a2240Wed, 15 Jul 2026 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieWhat if the biggest threat to your relationship isn't another person—but a machine that's designed to understand you perfectly? In 2025, more than 300 AI companion apps were available, and the rise of AI relationships is accelerating far faster than...2703false174fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/unlocking-empathy-one-path-to-richer-relationships--72768993b0e7f1b4-db66-40a9-8bdf-9cbefe30c6d8Wed, 01 Jul 2026 09:06:00 +0000Promise OkorieEmpathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others, acting as a cornerstone for meaningful relationships. It allows individuals to connect on a deeper emotional level, facilitating better communication and mutual respect. By...3368false173fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-thrive-in-relationships-when-chronic-illness-changes-everything--72560859c7442761-ff63-488f-a974-8fd6ecee831aWed, 17 Jun 2026 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieIf you or someone you love is navigating chronic illness inside a relationship, this episode is for you. And even if you're not personally facing a health challenge right now, this conversation matters because at some point, almost every relationship...3702false172fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/why-your-relationship-isn-t-working-the-hidden-trap-of-expectations-neediness-fantasy--72316534c425e1c2-e5a6-48dc-9892-c89e94166c76Wed, 03 Jun 2026 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieMost people don't enter relationships intending to sabotage them. They come in hopeful, open, and often deeply ready for connection. But beneath that readiness is a quiet architecture—unspoken expectations, emotional needs we may not fully understand,...2841false171fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/unlocking-understanding-thriving-in-difficult-relationships-with-personality-disorders--7208099407dd2067-401e-47cc-8a86-4a9b1b1fee19Wed, 20 May 2026 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkoriePersonality disorders represent a complex and often misunderstood realm of mental health. Characterized by repeating patterns of behavior, cognition, and inner experience, these disorders can significantly influence how an individual perceives...2153false170fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/unlock-lasting-desire-secrets-revealed-to-keep-desire-burning--718871667814bfb3-ea86-47d5-ba4a-25badfac7cfaWed, 06 May 2026 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieDesire doesn't disappear because love is gone—it often gets buried under mental load, weariness or unspoken resentments.Sex is one of the most common areas where couples quietly struggle—and one of the least openly discussed. Improving your sex life...2812true169fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationship-game-changer-master-negotiation-skills-with-an-fbi-expert--7154909453f8f697-e596-44e1-a10b-ed4937466690Wed, 22 Apr 2026 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieIn this episode, we dive deep into essential relationship advice by exploring how improving your persuasion and negotiation skills can lead to healthier relationships. Many people misunderstand these skills as manipulative tactics, but in reality,...3436false168fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/healing-hearts-relationship-advice-on-love-and-communication--71177460b8a0f3ad-d7f3-4bfd-89e8-ddda3381f59fWed, 08 Apr 2026 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieNavigating relationships can be both incredibly rewarding and deeply challenging. In this episode, we dive into essential relationship advice to help you build and maintain healthy relationships. We'll explore the complex issues of infidelity,...2270false167fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/feeling-stuck-how-to-break-free-reclaim-your-momentum--70867964bb9be611-a293-4912-8fdc-ba2b817e9598Wed, 25 Mar 2026 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieEver felt like you're running in place? Like no matter how hard you push, life just… won't budge? Maybe you're doing all the "right" things—showing up & working hard, but deep down, there's this nagging feeling that you're stuck. There are a...2346false166fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotional-vulnerability-in-relationships-how-sharing-your-inner-world-deepens-trust-connection--705882463533b9fd-644d-4591-afc6-98394e895f92Wed, 11 Mar 2026 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieEmotional vulnerability is a cornerstone of healthy relationships, yet many people struggle with opening up due to fear and past hurt. In this episode, we dive deep into why sharing your inner world is vital for building trust, respect, and meaningful...2509false165fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-power-of-your-brain-how-neuroscience-can-improve-well-being-and-relationships--70264136e58de337-005b-4310-9140-49a8e5409a12Wed, 25 Feb 2026 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieUnderstanding the power of your brain is essential for fostering healthy relationships and overall mental health. Most of us move through our days reacting—reacting to stress, to others, to our own emotions—without ever stopping to consider the organ...2891false164fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/men-anger-insights-into-emotions-and-healthy-relationships--699697076c03c956-2de4-4d0d-ba3b-08422d80e36eWed, 11 Feb 2026 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieAnger is a complicated emotion for all of us. Many of us have seen how anger can become the default emotion for frustration, fear, shame, or helplessness. Anger is probably most often used to hide vulnerability which is crucial to making relationships...1699false163fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/weaponizing-psychological-terms-distorts-our-relationships--69641497bc18dd1f-8d1f-4980-9f03-4104f6d6f701Wed, 28 Jan 2026 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieHave we begun to be so overly sensitive that we protect ourselves with Therapy Speak and love to wrap ourselves up in self-righteous accusations that point the finger…You are a narcissist, You are gaslighting me or You are love bombing me. It's...1746false162fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/empowering-partners-to-influence-change-in-addiction-denial--69434732b528ecce-19b8-4403-98b0-030915e33cc5Wed, 14 Jan 2026 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieRecovery can be very difficult because of shame. Shame is an obstacle to healing for everybody. How can you face hard truths about your own dark side without drowning in the shame? Partners can learn how to not add to the stranglehold of shame that...2436false161fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-power-of-self-awareness-why-understanding-yourself-changes-everything--6926668950c562a9-0aa8-477a-b72f-14374456db3aThu, 01 Jan 2026 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieSelf-awareness is both a blessing and a curse. It is a blessing because it improves who you are down to your very core. It is a curse because it is so hard to do the work of facing up to your own dark side. All of us are so good at pretending we are...1805false160fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/joy-on-purpose-real-life-strategies-to-reclaim-your-spark--69073056b8b65c48-d491-4cd4-9fc9-ace2e4fcb8f8Tue, 16 Dec 2025 10:15:00 +0000Promise OkorieJoy is more than fleeting happiness; it's a deeper,sustaining energy that gives our lives vitality and meaning.While happiness often depends on circumstances, joy is something we can cultivate, even amid stress, uncertainty, or conflict. It's the...2646false159fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/regulate-your-emotions-for-healthy-communication--687537263b16fa04-1357-4eee-ae62-6591fc8fa8b7Wed, 26 Nov 2025 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieToday we're talking about emotional regulation and understanding emotional triggers, and how those two pieces can completely change the way we connect with each other. Communication is the backbone of any healthy relationship—but it's not just what we...1826false158fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-rebuild-love-when-negativity-has-taken-center-stage--68534273a1664681-9e91-456b-a14c-8f0b58967ad9Wed, 12 Nov 2025 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieThere is an emotional toll to chronic negativity. Constant criticism or defensiveness doesn't just chip away at trust—it creates emotional distance. Partners start protecting themselves rather than reaching for each other, and intimacy suffers. Every...2384false157fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/hope-as-healing-building-emotional-resilience-in-you-your-relationships--68337534f12b5cfb-3d72-48c2-bc89-11f502be49faWed, 29 Oct 2025 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieWhen life feels heavy, uncertain, or overwhelming, hope can feel like a lifeline. Hope isn't just wishful thinking — it's an emotional force that adds meaning to our life!  It's the quiet but powerful belief that things can improve, challenges can be...3342false156fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/keeping-passion-alive-proven-ways-to-reignite-your-sex-life--681467484097e0fc-c143-46f2-83ff-717eab68a1ecWed, 15 Oct 2025 09:00:00 +0000Promise Okorie Don’t ignore your sex life, it’s too easy for sex to slide to the bottom of the priority list. Relationship health improves when there is an active sex life. Whether you’re struggling to get back in sync with your partner or simply curious about how...3241couples,goals,intimacy,marriage,pleasure,reconnect,sex,sexuality,wellnessfalse155fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/trust-as-a-superpower-strengthening-couples-and-families--679716282ca51af6-0e62-419f-be63-b77123285110Wed, 01 Oct 2025 12:49:06 +0000Promise OkorieTrust is the foundation a healthy relationship builds on because it creates a sense of safety between partners. Trust is when both people can be open and vulnerable especially in uncertainty. Trust is a big deal that requires some skills that we will...3600believe,honesty,integrity,life,love,marriage,motivation,relationships,trust,trustworthy,truthfalse154fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/silencing-your-own-inner-critic-your-child-s--6787526911968853-b4c6-46e0-9246-bc0204d41e77Wed, 24 Sep 2025 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieToday we are going to deal with that voice in all of our heads- the one that judges, doubts, second-guesses, and compares. It tells us we’re not doing enough, we’re not good enough, or we’re not parenting the right way. That voice, often called the...2310confidence,growthmindset,innercritic,innervoice,selfdoubt,selflove,selfworth,wellnessfalse152fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/team-us-relationship-tips-to-stay-aligned-fair-and-connected--676878523a0e5958-e725-441b-84b2-e044f19c3361Tue, 09 Sep 2025 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieIf you’ve been feeling a bit disconnected, imbalanced, or just unsure of how to get back in sync with your partner—this episode is for you. Let’s explore how to make “Team Us” not just a nice idea, but a reality you live in your relationship. Whether...3351couples,life,love,marriage,married,relationship,relationships,together,wellnessfalse152fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/estrangement-from-parents-siblings-or-children-each-story-is-different--67465959271ff9cb-5e82-47ec-9914-ed24f07d9733Thu, 21 Aug 2025 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieToday we’re talking about the family stories that don’t always get told—Family estrangement is one of those deeply personal experiences that often lives in the shadows—unspoken, misunderstood, and emotionally charged. While we may see stories of...3273acceptance,boundaries,estrangement,families,familycutoff,familydynamics,healing,nocontact,reconciliation,repair,selfcare,toxicfalse151fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-be-more-open-and-connected-right-now-in-your-relationship--67256057e138e5ff-f21c-4a77-996b-b8c00e6c2125Tue, 05 Aug 2025 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieReal connecting with another person requires attention. In a world with so much going on, we often end up easily distracted by our fears & negative thoughts. We too quickly rise to defensiveness which builds a wall, instead of being open to...3293communication,marriage,married,openness,relationship,relationships,together,understandingfalse150fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/navigating-divorce-with-mediation-save-time-money-and-heartache--6708471146a3c164-1402-4170-b79c-3aed08102611Wed, 23 Jul 2025 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieDivorce doesn't have to be a battlefield. In this episode, we explore the growing popularity of divorce mediation: why so many couples are turning to it, what it can save you emotionally and financially, and when it might backfire. From power...2991collaborativedivorce,divorce,divorcedecisions,divorcemediation,divorcewithoutcourt,mediation,peacefuldivorce,savemoneyondivorcefalse149fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/who-are-we-now-after-decades-together-redefine-your-relationship--669115248064374e-c875-47ea-89cf-1f2913026ea8Wed, 09 Jul 2025 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieSo it’s been decades of doing life together—raising kids, building careers, caring for aging parents—it’s no wonder your relationship might feel like it’s been on autopilot. Beneath the surface of routine and responsibility, there's still something...2018communication,emptynestmarriagestruggles,howtoreconnect,marriagerenewal,rediscoveryourpartner,rekindlingromance,restoringlovefalse148fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/invest-in-your-own-love-story--666002272867e2c3-cbe5-44e5-833a-4a766c9aaac8Wed, 18 Jun 2025 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieInvesting in your own love story is one of the most empowering decisions you can make. It means choosing to be intentional about how you love and how you show up in that love. When you prioritize your own relationship, you’re not just hoping for a...3198communication,couples,expectations,goals,love,marriage,married,relationship,relationshipsfalse147fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-resentment-trap-holding-grudges-in-relationships--66366212 Resentments are part of all long-term relationships because there are two imperfect people rubbing shoulders day in and day out. Inevitably feelings get hurt & needs are not going to be met. We’re not trained on how to handle that well, so we do it poorly. We either stuff it or are passive aggressive, then we wall ourselves & nothing else goes well.]]>fba6161e-e37a-455b-8188-1cabc232c1cbMon, 02 Jun 2025 09:30:00 +0000Promise Okorie Resentments are part of all long-term relationships because there are two imperfect people rubbing shoulders day in and day out. Inevitably feelings get hurt & needs are not going to be met. We’re not trained on how to handle that well, so we do... Resentments are part of all long-term relationships because there are two imperfect people rubbing shoulders day in and day out. Inevitably feelings get hurt & needs are not going to be met. We’re not trained on how to handle that well, so we do it poorly. We either stuff it or are passive aggressive, then we wall ourselves & nothing else goes well.]]>1624angrer,learning,lettinggo,life,marriage,married,relationship,relationships,resent,resentment,wisdomfalse146fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/my-decade-behind-the-mic-on-relationships-and-40-years-as-a-therapist--66069820e3e9d9d9-1ac0-46ae-9fa8-97a170e4f81eTue, 13 May 2025 09:30:00 +0000Promise Okorie There have been a lot of experiments on my path to becoming a therapist over the last 40 years. And I am celebrating a decade of podcasting in April of 2025. Making uncertainty bearable in order to take risks, experimenting with choices and exploring...1113growth,learning,podcast,podcaster,therapy,understanding,wisdomfalse145fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/survive-cheating-transform-pain-into-growth--658040551f35e687-147f-4fb5-b833-15ef194e9bb0Wed, 30 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieToday we tackle one of the most painful and challenging experiences anyone can face in a relationship—infidelity. If you've found yourself navigating the emotional turmoil that comes with betrayal, you're not alone. Infidelity shakes up the very...3135affair,cheating,couples,infidelity,marriage,married,relationship,relationshipsfalse144fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/money-matters-in-love-how-to-overcome-financial-struggles-together--655916038f477c4d-2512-4198-b0bf-2e71c013af2cWed, 16 Apr 2025 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieWe're diving into one of the most challenging yet crucial aspects of any relationship, managing money. If you are sharing finances with someone, financial struggles are bound to come up at some point. Money touches almost every part of our lives. And...2818couples,finance,goals,marriage,money,relationship,relationships,wealthfalse143fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/stop-the-cycle-how-to-handle-conflict-and-reduce-resentments--653145746aa3a2fd-d0e9-491e-a58a-82de4a903573Wed, 02 Apr 2025 13:00:39 +0000Promise OkorieCouples never fighting, means at least one person is catering too much by swallowing their disagreement, which makes things so not interesting. So it may have the appearance of constant joy, but underneath, unspoken resentments are piling up because...2162conflict,couples,fighting,marriage,married,relationship,relationshipsfalse142fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/elevating-love-how-growth-responsibility-purpose-strengthen-bonds--64970018de2cdfa3-9e4c-4285-9893-ff011596356fWed, 19 Mar 2025 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieGrowth in love requires openness to change, the willingness to challenge old patterns, and the courage to embrace transformation in the pursuit of something greater. It is the conscious effort to evolve together that truly sustains a relationship....2608couples,growth,love,marriage,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse141fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/trust-in-love-life-how-to-build-keep-repair-it--64709015d6a3799a-2c58-4b37-9d3b-496e76905316Wed, 05 Mar 2025 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieTrust is basic to the infrastructure of every relationship. Trust goes beyond simple honesty. Trust opens the doors to vulnerability & deeper intimacy. Trust means we are able to share our deepest fears, dreams & our true selves which leads to...2917believe,goals,love,marriage,relationship,relationships,trust,truthfalse140fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/women-finding-love-the-ultimate-guide-to-successful-dating--64448065c098bf07-e4b5-4ce3-abdc-6668adc724daWed, 19 Feb 2025 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieDating can be exhausting. Meeting people & dating is a messy business. We humans desire connection so let’s improve your odds for success with online dating. Dating can be confusing with so many choices, the search for a partner can feel like an...2373date,dating,love,onlinedating,relationship,relationships,romance,single,singlesfalse139fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/attachment-anxiety-how-insecurities-affect-your-relationship--642036015d5b45e1-bf0d-47ee-b1f2-51d9a8b82a29Wed, 05 Feb 2025 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieOnly  38% of Americans say they have a secure attachment style. This episode will explore all the ways our insecurities contribute to our struggles with having healthy relationships. Our insecurities contaminate our relationships and any ability to...2821anxiety,attachment,insecure,insecurities,love,relationships,wellnessfalse138fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/get-connected-to-live-your-best-life--63804071aef66eee-9f26-4eb7-8ed5-98c8a85b0ac7Wed, 22 Jan 2025 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieLearning how to be better connected to yourself and others is the key to everything you want. There is nothing more important than relationships and they can be very bewildering. We are often mystified and confused trying to understand ourselves. We...2524connect,connection,energy,growth,health,joy,love,mentalhealthfalse137fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/codependency-losing-track-of-you-in-relationships-how-to-find-yourself-again--63544328ddc0f2bb-c7ee-4d86-8b4c-f5b6bbca2b4bThu, 02 Jan 2025 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieListen if you are wondering how to determine how much is too much codependency or suspect you are codependent then you may have neglected too many important parts of your own life. Like a juggler in the circus you need to be aware of your own needs...1461boundaries,codependency,codependent,peoplepleaser,peoplepleasing,selfcare,selflovefalse136fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/navigating-common-lgbtq-challenges-solutions-for-a-better-future--63141032da10da11-7854-4322-b4f2-0e1942e559c5Wed, 04 Dec 2024 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieWe delve into the experiences of the LGBTQ+ community, focusing on the common challenges faced and the innovative solutions that are paving the way for a brighter future. Whether you’re a member of the LGBTQ+ community, an ally, or someone looking to...2621empowerment,gay,lbgtq,lesbian,lgbtqplus,life,love,queerfalse135fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/compulsive-behaviors-including-sex-addiction-pornography-how-to-make-progress-in-recovery--628114962ede59e2-d21f-4811-8ff2-1722ccfb357cTue, 19 Nov 2024 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieBoth pornography & sexual addiction are very challenging issues for couples. There can be real communication challenges because porn use & sex addiction can make communication about intimacy and sexual preferences impossible. Individuals may...3284addiction,compulsive,ocd,porn,recovery,sexaddict,shamefalse134fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/key-couples-skills-for-lasting-love--625537416b15dc25-8842-4afd-88a4-1e749d86189eWed, 30 Oct 2024 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieRelationships take work, like anything worthwhile. This episode is going to help you develop skills as a couple. Just like the work of flossing your teeth is better than just brushing, there are skills one or both of you can learn to improve your...3481couples,growth,love,marriage,married,relationship,relationshipsfalse133fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/stress-less-strategies-to-soothe-your-brain-and-find-balance--6238301027448d44-073b-47b2-91ff-e92e474c93c3Wed, 16 Oct 2024 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieStress, is the ever-present companion for most of us in our daily lives. Chronic or excessive stress can take a toll on our physical and mental well-being. Your Brain can be an extremely useful tool in reducing stress. Relieve stress and you will...2797anxiety,health,mentalhealth,mindfulness,selfcare,stress,wellnessfalse132fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/low-sexual-desire-what-to-do-about-it--6217748100aceba7-a1ab-4311-b87d-16079196ff17Tue, 01 Oct 2024 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieSexual well being can relieve stress & contributes to bonding with your partner. Yet it’s so easy to give up and not even try to begin talking about it. It’s the lack of communication about sex that is the real problem. Pleasure is the measure...3639adultfun,sex,sexed,sexpositive,sexualhealth,sexualityfalse131fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/unlocking-emotional-intelligence-improving-you-your-relationships--613092386cef55f1-078c-40bd-9053-be3470ace940Mon, 09 Sep 2024 09:30:00 +0000Promise Okorie Understanding our own emotions is a whole lot of work, much less understanding someone else’s.  Understanding our own emotions is a whole lot of work, much less understanding someone else’s. The process of successful communication and negotiation are...3491emotions,empowerment,eq,growth,mindset,motivation,selflovefalse130fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/navigating-relationships-understanding-expectations-and-projections--6109020252696be5-2817-499c-81ec-8c513b3099fcTue, 20 Aug 2024 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieListen to understand projections & expectations which impact all of our relationships. We all have selfish expectations that cloud our perceptions. If we lack self-awareness then there is even more at stake. We all project aspects of ourselves...2864couple,expectations,goals,marriage,projection,relationship,relationshipsfalse129fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/thriving-together-relationship-fun-essentials--60872527cabe7659-802d-4aca-8c1e-8f5dfcf05a5fWed, 31 Jul 2024 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieFun is something that is all too often missing in relationships.Over several decades when I've asked couples, what do you want to do for fun as a couple, not as a family? The response is often blank looks or a downcast glance at feet. It was Plato who...2777couples,fun,intimacy,marriage,podcast,relationship,relationshipsfalse128fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/attachment-anxiety-tackling-insecurities-for-healthy-relationships--60650283ed3b80d7-f03a-4a3b-9d86-cc93cf2b0da5Wed, 10 Jul 2024 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieAttachment anxiety. Tackling insecurities for healthy relationships. Insecurities can rob us as individuals and in relationships. Insecurities feed everything from a shopping addiction so you look good on the outside or a secret life of porn because...3263anxiety,attachment,insecurities,relationships,selfawareness,selfhelp,wellnessfalse127fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/more-forgiving-love--60434754f13350cb-24f3-4b80-b935-7a648c1800d2Wed, 19 Jun 2024 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieLearn how to be more forgiving in love. Whether you are discouraged about dating or questioning whether your relationship is good enough, we've got some great answers in our interview today. Love sets up a lot of expectations beginning with our own...2081love,marriage,married,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse126fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/building-stronger-connections-when-your-partner-wants-more--602724548bfc89a1-913f-4979-97a6-a76d95864512Tue, 04 Jun 2024 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieConnection is a tricky business. Creating and maintaining genuine connections within relationships is a multifaceted challenge that holds profound importance in our lives. The intricate dance of understanding, empathy, and communication often proves...3021connect,connections,love,marriage,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse125fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/healing-from-within-understanding-self-forgiveness--6009551289d6cd14-a253-4162-bb9f-4ac2d3cfa535Mon, 20 May 2024 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieSelf-Forgiveness is an essential aspect of personal growth and well-being, as it enables individuals to move forward, heal, and cultivate a positive relationship with themselves. Forgiving oneself is important because it allows individuals to break...3084blame,compassion,failure,forgiveness,growth,mistakes,relationships,selfcompassion,wellnessfalse124fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/breaking-down-barriers-overcoming-challenges-in-sexual-intimacy--59748362d886bfbe-af00-4979-bc55-64965397b6e6Wed, 01 May 2024 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieOur sex lives are too easy to leave behind. It’s so easy to make excuses & dismiss opportunity with “I’m too tired.” Going without sex for long periods of time creates feelings of hurt & rejection that pile up to destroy connectedness. If a...3382couple,love,marriage,relationship,relationships,sex,sexeducation,sexualityfalse124fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/communication-breakdown-overcoming-challenges-in-high-conflict-relationships--59485292d4a86680-f0f0-4a3f-9231-861130e6a65eTue, 16 Apr 2024 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieEverybody can get stuck in repeating patterns of ugly disagreement. Frustrations run high & solutions seem impossible. Communication can so easily break down for so many reasons. The intensity of the unhappiness that never gets resolved leads to a...2945argue,arguing,battle,communication,conflict,fighting,marriagefalse122fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/feelings-unleashed-understanding-harnessing-emotions--59177913861984ad-4090-4024-add6-e07f050d7f7aTue, 26 Mar 2024 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieEmotions are messy and confusing - they can so easily take us for a ride. Loneliness can carry us into bad relationships. Our fears can keep us isolated. Our shame can ruthlessly feed self-doubt & self-torture. Our resentments & anger can keep...1648emotional,emotions,empathy,feelings,growth,selfawareness,wellnessfalse121fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/shame-s-stranglehold-on-you-your-relationships--5892997451f6a3c9-cf69-4482-8969-589d3a06877aTue, 05 Mar 2024 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieShame strikes at the core of an individual's self-worth. When individuals feel ashamed, they believe that they, themselves, are bad, rather than simply acknowledging that they have done something wrong, which is why shame can be a massive roadblock to...3053ashamed,embarrassed,growth,relationships,shame,wellnessfalse120fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/denial-self-deception-damage-relationships--5867329839487166-0118-44a1-aca2-e03a8806d1ffThu, 08 Feb 2024 00:15:16 +0000Promise OkorieAccepting reality and acknowledging one's strengths and weaknesses is essential for personal development. By denying or distorting reality, individuals may miss opportunities for growth, self-improvement, and reaching their full potential. So lying to...3242authenticity,denial,growth,lying,selfdeception,truth,wellbeing,wellnessfalse119fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-couples-can-win-with-finances--58317707f9b1fbec-53e1-4e78-ba47-2a0c50e41771Tue, 16 Jan 2024 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieMoney & how to manage this difficult subject as a team instead of ignoring the problems or constantly fighting. Money is a powerful force that touches every aspect of our lives, and when it comes to romantic partnerships, it can be a source of...2855couples,finances,goals,marriage,money,moneyadvice,relationshipsfalse117fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/in-pursuit-of-wellness-finding-your-best-therapist-match--5817023617f9b16b-431c-41c9-94e6-98dfe934c3b4Tue, 02 Jan 2024 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieTherapy is a process that has to be honest…it is both an art & a science in my mind. It is impossible to grow if both of your feet are in comfort & support. You need to straddle the line between support, safety & being challenged or...1087counseling,health,mentalhealth,selflove,therapist,therapy,wellnessfalse117fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/from-clashes-to-connection-using-disagreement-to-deepen-relationships--579164742850a47d-fb9d-4472-96e2-c254d71be295Tue, 05 Dec 2023 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieAgreement and harmony are too often celebrated as the cornerstones of strong relationships, it is only in the presence of healthy disagreement that truly adds depth, resilience, and growth to these bonds. Disagreement, when approached constructively...2995argument,collaboration,conflict,couples,disagree,dispute,love,marriage,negotiation,relationshipsfalse116fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/sleep-separating-fact-from-fiction-for-better-sleep-and-stronger-relationships--57665610f916cd44-9c42-4b38-9af6-611795f2d69aThu, 16 Nov 2023 14:08:38 +0000Promise OkorieSleep is a universal experience that affects everyone. Sleep is particularly relevant to relationships, as poor sleep habits can impact both partners and cause relationship stress. Sleep disorders can also affect sexual intimacy, emotional regulation,...2466couples,insomnia,love,married,relationship,relationships,sleep,tired,wellnessfalse115fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/building-trust-the-foundation-of-strong-relationships--5735253217869321-114d-4d40-a884-5be368e8fc35Mon, 23 Oct 2023 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieTrust is one of the most important elements in a relationship. It gives it its foundation, making sure everything else can fall into place and stay there. Without trust, relationships don't stand much chance for success - infidelity or poor...2593couplesgoals,life,love,lovelife,relationship,relationshipgoals,relationships,trust,trustworthyfalse114fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/unlocking-the-secret-to-no-more-arguing--57026163851888b8-9d41-45f8-8b97-c461e05fe4edMon, 02 Oct 2023 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieCouples need guidance for navigating conflict wisely and skillfully. Hearing what someone has to say is integral in communication, particularly when working through a conflict. Being able to really listen and take in another person's perspective can...2926arguing,argument,arguments,conflict,fighting,marriage,relationship,relationshipsfalse113fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/my-very-first-episode-with-spreaker-studio--56778074https://api.spreaker.com/episode/56778074Tue, 12 Sep 2023 16:29:37 +0000Promise Okorie114falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationships-with-yourself-others-while-in-recovery--56778184b6590c0b-1ef9-4031-9908-9f51c6149829Tue, 12 Sep 2023 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieRecovery can be very difficult because of shame. Shame is an obstacle to healing for everybody. How do you face hard truths about your own dark side without drowning in the shame? Learn how to balance the footprint of shame that stomps on your soul....1236false112fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/improve-parenting-teens-reduce-stress-on-couples--5677818921495205-77e6-47e9-bd9a-79c8776d6ad8Mon, 21 Aug 2023 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieParenting teens can be a struggle and an additional stress on relationships. Your sweet easy to maneuver children turn into road blocks & obstacles. Parents wonder what happened & where did they go wrong. It’s really not about what went wrong...2597kids,parenthood,parenting,parentingtips,teenager,teenagers,teensfalse111fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationship-goals-prioritizing-personal-fulfillment-for-lasting-love--56778187cbcb0395-eda7-441d-9cb1-23f734d7542aMon, 31 Jul 2023 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieWe'll explore how prioritizing our own personal growth and self-care can translate into stronger and more fulfilling relationships with our partners. We'll also be sharing tips and strategies for cultivating a sense of inner fulfillment and...2769fulfillment,growth,love,married,personaldevelopment,relationship,relationshipsfalse110fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/unpacking-the-benefits-of-a-healthy-sex-life--56778193b1ccdb7d-7a67-4060-aae5-d937250ff8eeTue, 11 Jul 2023 09:30:00 +0000Promise Okorie Insights from a Sex Therapist Expert. Why not prioritize your sex life and wellness? Listen if you are curious about how your sex life stacks up against the rest of America.  Did you know that men feel greater distress when they're not content with...3338love,pleasure,sex,sexeducation,sexpositive,sextalk,sexualhealthfalse109fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/creating-a-more-satisfying-relationship--56778196975c2c9b-25b2-4b23-86bc-b5a970890071Wed, 21 Jun 2023 09:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieRelationships can be very confusing. We are taught reading, science, history & if we are lucky sex ed but not anything about what creates trust, why repair is important or how to communicate especially when we are vulnerable. Learning about...1963communication,love,marriage,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse108fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-make-conflict-work-for-real-intimacy--567781929d93caba-4719-4fb2-8f2d-8db1e35ca1d8Tue, 30 May 2023 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieWe all believe it is ideal not to fight, this is complete fantasy. The only way to have real intimacy is to be authentic about our differences instead of swallowing our secret truths. We all want to avoid the messiness of conflict and being...1961conflict,couples,love,marriage,relationships,togetherfalse107fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/embracing-conflict-to-improve-your-relationships--56778188107e360e-6b77-42b7-93b8-aa22bef0c86eMon, 08 May 2023 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkoriePeople love to avoid conflict because it is messy. Conflict makes people uncomfortable and they don’t like not knowing what will happen. Conflict is really important to growing up. My definition of growing up is honestly facing painful situations....23conflict,couples,life,love,marriage,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse106fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/culture-as-a-connection-couples-can-share--567781855be40ab5-f5f0-41e0-a884-5d78e2698323Wed, 19 Apr 2023 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieThere are different ways for couples to be connected; mutual religion as a shared values system, all the many physical activities of tennis, rock climbing, dancing or kayaking. Having shared connections of the ways you enjoy life together really...3990false105fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ingredients-for-relationship-longevity-imagination-attention-gumption--56778186dcb83794-4e94-4ca1-b469-477132d5bf98Mon, 27 Mar 2023 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieLongevity in relationships slips so easily through our fingers, it’s not a simple or small achievement, unless one partner is almost always submissive & not resentful about their wants being ignored. Two adults who are equal in sharing power over...1363couple,couples,life,love,marriage,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse104fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/empowering-men-to-understand-problems-in-relationships--56778199f580e77f-d709-4388-9b07-918ccb720962Wed, 01 Mar 2023 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieThis episode is for men who want to do better but don’t begin or to know how & their partners who love them.  Women often feel misunderstood & men feel like “What more can I do?” and giving up becomes the path with the least pain attached....2130love,marriage,problems,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse103fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/exhausted-women-what-to-do-about-it--56778194b01f4c08-a893-4605-b4b7-e1aab05e6bf2Wed, 01 Feb 2023 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieTiredness is often a triangle of trouble that includes guilt & fears. Wading through those feelings is no small task. They stick to your soul like gum on the bottom of your shoe & contaminate your belief in yourself. It helps to remember that...2227boundaries,exhausted,relationship,selfcare,womenfalse102fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/motivation-for-the-work-of-love--567781905c5e814f-2bf7-4db1-9cf5-2b8d0c09e41fMon, 02 Jan 2023 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieWhat motivates you to have a better relationship or even a better life? Because it will take work. Do you do the work of loving someone? It’s work to accept the parts you find annoying or tedious - it’s work to make yourself understood - it’s work to...1396love,marriage,motivation,motivational,relationship,relationshipsfalse101fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/let-s-talk-about-online-dating-the-data--5677820112968bb2-d3e4-4be4-a28d-22b5625a78a0Thu, 01 Dec 2022 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieDating is really hard work because there is so much uncertainty. Dating is a dance of two people not knowing each other & trying to figure out is it worth spending more of your precious time with this person. It takes time to really know someone....2175boyfriend,date,dating,datingadvice,girlfriend,heart,relationshipfalse100fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/male-depression-emotional-inexpressiveness--56778211755b17fc-2ed5-4380-9df5-9200fed129b3Tue, 01 Nov 2022 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieOften men keep from being vulnerable by being vague, especially about feelings. Feelings are avoided because they are confusing or hard to identify. Men often aren't encouraged to talk about their feelings. In fact, they're sometimes discouraged from...2866couples,depression,depressionhelp,emotions,maledepression,relationship,relationshipsfalse99fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/understanding-the-relationships-between-top-dogs-people-pleasers--5677820605511735-3a07-4333-a06b-dbdcb4243a1dMon, 03 Oct 2022 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieThis is an ordinary relationship pattern and it offers a real opportunity for both people to grow & improve who they are. People-pleasers of course go along to get along, they are helpful & kind & often neglect their own needs. A Top Dog...1130couples,life,love,married,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse98fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/people-pleasing-in-relationships-what-to-do-about-it--5677821285c36572-92e2-4f16-8f05-68d4fd617d91Thu, 01 Sep 2022 18:53:00 +0000Promise OkoriePeople-pleasing is all about being heavily lopsided in pleasing others as a way of gaining their approval & maintaining relationships. People-pleasing is of course on a continuum, at work in a subordinate role & to fit in socially it is very...2960couples,love,marriage,peoplepleaser,peoplepleasing,relationship,relationshipsfalse97fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/sex-sexual-desire-in-long-term-relationships--56778217141e4e76-a760-428b-9a43-685de7b7d16dMon, 01 Aug 2022 23:36:00 +0000Promise OkorieSexuality is a complex, crucial activity. Only on television where couples reach maximum orgasm easily. Our interest in sex naturally ebbs and flows over the course of a long- term relationship as we age or deal with life changes— It’s important to...3105couples,femalesexuality,life,married,pleasure,relationship,relationships,sexualityfalse96fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/manipulation-in-all-it-s-complexity--56778222e300f7ee-0559-4b54-b25d-47b44c827f17Tue, 05 Jul 2022 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieEverybody manipulates to get what they want, even 3 year olds. Manipulation is part of our defense system. Manipulation are ways to win, to have power & control. There are caring & acceptable ways in trying to win games or a politician trying...3123manipulated,manipulating,manipulation,relationship,relationshipsfalse95fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/individualism-hurts-the-us-in-relationships--56778227baefea00-255a-47d2-b637-29422d4f2168Mon, 06 Jun 2022 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieGreat relationships start with your relationship to yourself. You will be harsh with others if you are harsh with yourself. There are three parts to every relationship. There is you, your partner & the US. Learning to sacrifice in order to take...2653couples,love,marriage,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse94fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/in-law-problems-what-to-do-about-them--56778204595de7f5-cbe6-4263-b551-5b2875266240Mon, 09 May 2022 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieThree out of four couples experience significant conflict with their in-laws. In-laws can help young couples or derail them on the path to relationship success. The biggest reasons for tension include in-laws giving unwanted opinions, partners taking...1516couples,inlaws,marriage,married,relationship,relationshipsfalse93fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/dating-advice-to-find-success-in-love--5677822306c5fe03-96f3-4614-b2df-7b294a1be0c3Mon, 18 Apr 2022 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieDating is a lot of work! It is all too easy to end up discouraged & want to give up because someone else has once again not followed through & just disappeared. Family & friends often don’t appreciate how painful & difficult the...1902date,dating,love,relationships,romance,single,singlelifefalse92fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/angry-men-what-to-do-about-it--56778224cb154a19-5ed0-4714-8ebb-d615f99f2e40Tue, 22 Mar 2022 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieWhat we want to focus on is, do I have too much anger? Do I get angry too easily? When I get angry, do I stay angry too long? Do I do destructive things when I get angry? So, rather than the anger itself, what we tend to focus on, is my anger making...1687angerissues,angers,angry,relationship,relationshipsfalse91fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-art-work-of-relationships--56778237bdefd9e0-2b9c-4307-9564-7fa782bdd919Thu, 03 Feb 2022 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieA collection of wisdom on making relationships work over the decades. You’ve heard me say often “Love is wanting to be a better person for your partner.” So partnerships grow us into better versions of ourselves. There is purpose to being in...1143couple,couples,love,marriage,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse89fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/insecure-attachment-what-to-do-about-it--567782075eb82ca1-fecf-4df0-ab8e-e1cba5c4f262Mon, 03 Jan 2022 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieEverybody deals with insecurity & it has a huge negative impact on relationships. The focus for those who are insecure is what’s wrong with my partner? Secure attachment, is not about playing games, you’re not trying to win or have power over the...1734attachment,couples,insecure,insecurities,relationship,relationshipsfalse88fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/intercultural-relationships-understanding-the-complexity--56778213041e53ff-7ff2-41f2-8b92-2d5e13001e00Wed, 01 Dec 2021 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieIn intercultural & in interracial relationships as well, you don't always know what you're getting yourself into. Often, it takes several years, several challenges, a lot of conflict within couples to really figure out what it is that seems to be...1259couples,intercultural,interracial,marriage,relationship,relationshipsfalse87fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/divorce-the-final-option--5677823984e012da-ee7c-4d49-bdf7-c0b7ca4eabbcMon, 01 Nov 2021 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieDivorce often happens in year 6 to 10. research finds year 8 to be ordinary. In the 50s, it was called “The Seven Year Itch’. If your relationship is struggling in these years, it is an ordinary development. The essence of real love is wanting to be a...1457divorce,divorced,grief,heartbroken,relationships,unmarriedfalse86fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/choices-their-impact-on-relationships-part-2--56778208606f3a94-37b0-4ee9-81ab-660ec6377f6eMon, 04 Oct 2021 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieLife is chock full of choices. There are choices that are self defeating or even self destructive. Then there are choices that are life generating. It’s our choices that make up our life. It’s our choices that make the difference in having success in...1213couple,forever,goals,heart,love,relationshipokfiancpositivevibfalse85fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/healthy-self-esteem-is-critical-for-healthy-relationships--5677823843ae0a14-cbad-4c6c-992d-ddd028ee09fbWed, 01 Sep 2021 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieMany relationships begin because one person is grabbing onto someone else to feel ok. Everybody wants to be loved, but the solution to this, is the age old wisdom that you have to love yourself first. Taking responsibility for our own choices &...1076couples,love,relationship,relationships,selfesteem,selflovefalse84fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/what-can-you-do-to-make-your-relationship-better--5677822510d9b430-a9e0-44a0-a502-e248ece62c83Wed, 04 Aug 2021 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieSo often in relationships we are quick to focus our unhappiness on our partner. It’s their fault things don’t get better, right? It’s way too easy to blame others & not look at ourselves. This episode takes a look at what YOU can do, whether or...2973couple,couples,forever,love,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse83fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/silent-resentments-unasked-questions-are-engines-of-unhappiness--56778202f034c013-626e-4d15-9fe5-e247fdf37ef6Mon, 05 Jul 2021 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieDig down underneath the resentments to communicate or begin the dead-end path to bitterness. Everybody has a choice about which direction to go in. We avoid the “risk” of asking real questions, so we can stay in the safe zone of not dealing with...1281couple,couples,love,relationship,relationships,resentment,togetheriamhowareyoucatfalse82fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/trauma-affects-relationships--5677819547a04a23-d997-4816-ad66-4a2da30de125Wed, 02 Jun 2021 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieTrauma deeply challenges our sense of safety and security in the world, which often has an impact on relationships. It’s natural for those who have suffered trauma to feel that building close relationships is frightening because they don’t want to...2427couple,couples,marriage,relationship,relationships,trauma,traumarecoveryfalse81fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/responding-instead-of-reacting-when-communicating--56778242293d88f0-289a-43be-be04-fb5e269bb06fMon, 03 May 2021 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieResponding is harder to do because it is more complicated than just defensively reacting. Respecting your partner is all about responding & reacting is only all about you. This episode will help you think about how to  improve responding to your...1173communication,communications,couple,couples,love,relationship,relationshipsfalse80fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/erectile-dysfunction-male-sexual-avoidance--56778244dc7f1d44-ded1-4f99-9319-6a671a0a2bcaThu, 01 Apr 2021 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieErectile Dysfunction impacts relationships & couples don’t know how to talk about it & don’t have enough information about it, so this episode is all about correcting this problem. The Cleveland Clinic reports 1 in 10 men will experience ED in...2360ed,erectiledysfunction,erection,love,marriage,relationship,relationshipsfalse79fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/money-harmony-in-relationships--56778233f568a150-d9d4-45e7-8409-f9462fa2efd4Wed, 03 Mar 2021 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieMoney & sex are the two things couples argue most about. Most couples don't want to talk about it because they fight. Budgets are like diets, they don't work. Learn here how to think about a spending plan. Instead of beating yourselves up for your...1696couple,couplegoals,money,moneymoves,relationship,relationshipsfalse78fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/poison-messages-from-your-brain-that-damage-your-relationships--56778241f7c4f707-f7bc-4ed6-943d-728d6708a036Tue, 02 Feb 2021 11:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieEverybody buries themselves in piles of doubt & insecurities that clutter up our lives & our relationships. Some of us cover things up better than others, but no one escapes obsessing about their fears & doubts. Facing your anxieties &...1958marriage,married,partners,poisonbrain,relationship,relationshipsfalse77fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationship-wisdom--56778203f165f080-51dd-45f9-bd54-7084a21acf0bMon, 04 Jan 2021 11:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieRelationships thrive when the 4 pillars of successful relationships are nurtured. The 4 pillars are Honesty, Respect, Generosity & Negotiating. Relationships are one of the most important parts of life & there are no classes in high school to...1258couplesgoals,marriage,marriagegoals,married,relationship,relationshipgoals,relationshipsfalse76fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationship-wisdom--683016705199e6e1-70ed-4b9b-afff-92031aa126eaSun, 03 Jan 2021 17:28:59 +0000Promise OkorieRelationships thrive when the 4 pillars of successful relationships are nurtured. The 4 pillars are Honesty, Respect, Generosity & Negotiating. Relationships are one of the most important parts of life & there are no classes in high school to...1258false76fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/avoiding-the-self-sacrifice-trap-in-relationships--56778247c158420d-e188-47f3-bd5f-e2702ce7c1faWed, 02 Dec 2020 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieSelf-sacrifice has been misinterpreted by too many, as the way to be the "best" partner you can be. For this episode I have Alicia Munoz joining me to discuss how  you can use your own experience of pleasure and joy as a compass to guide you to being...1652relationships,self,selfcare,selfcaretips,selfcompassion,selfdevelopment,selflove,selflovejourney,selfrespect,selfworthfalse75fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotionally-unavailable-men-people-in-relationships--56778257c6d1de5a-97c9-439c-b9cf-f3460ed22473Mon, 02 Nov 2020 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieEmotionally unavailable men are something many partners experience. I think the greatest pain about this problem is that it leaves both people in a relationship feeling even lonelier. Today’s episode is to help us understand this dynamic & move...2374emotionallyunavailable,marriage,married,relationship,relationshipsfalse74fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/self-confrontation-will-improve-all-your-relationships--5677824694e8e42c-d3da-47ae-8b3d-7a377a866455Mon, 05 Oct 2020 10:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieSelf-confrontation is a rare commodity in human beings. It’s really hard to look honestly at yourself. Digesting hard truths about yourself is no easy task. We are all so good at telling ourselves it’s ok when it’s not. We justify why we did...1054marriage,married,partnership,relationship,relationships,selfconfrontationfalse73fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/what-gay-couples-have-to-teach-us-about-monogamy-open-relationships--56778216bb69eddb-801b-40cb-8db0-93b249553584Wed, 02 Sep 2020 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieGay couples have insights to offer all couples. Interview with Michael Dale Kimmel author of The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage. He offers important ideas like what is the intention of your marriage? to have fun, share great sex or...2485gaymalecouples,gayrelationships,openmarriage,partnerships,polyamoryfalse72fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/manipulators-being-manipulated-in-relationships--5677822151b98b89-92ee-4b40-82f0-3e684e56b2c3Mon, 03 Aug 2020 12:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieWhen you've been in a relationship with a disturbed manipulative person, regardless of where they are on the spectrum, you get into a real habit of looking outward far too much. All of your attention and energy is focused on what are they going to do...2050manipulation,manipulative,manipulators,relationship,relationshipsfalse71fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/divorce-prevention-101--56778232a44e0df0-72df-46c1-bd54-9d1edb43a1feMon, 06 Jul 2020 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieDivorce is letting the obstacles pile up to create a grand canyon of distance. Nobody lives in a paradise of love & agreement. If they do it’s still the beginnings or it’s a false reality where one person is swallowing too much or withholding who...962divorce,divorced,marriage,marriageadvice,married,relationshipfalse70fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/attachment-theory-relationships--5677825422b7107e-0194-4cad-9fd8-454d1fe113dfTue, 02 Jun 2020 11:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieAttachment theory is important because it's going to help you to understand your own relationships. Information is power and recognizing yourself in one of these attachment styles could really improve your future. If your parenting was unpredictable...1819anxious,attachment,avoider,childhood,marriage,relationshipfalse69fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/codependency-let-s-think-about-it-as-self-love-deficiency--5677821491425009-5465-4329-9cd7-ba66317fa3e2Wed, 06 May 2020 18:57:34 +0000Promise OkorieRoss Rosenberg is important because he gave us a new way to think about codependency as self love deficient. He also explains why so many codependent people are addicted to being with the wrong partner, are afraid to be alone & often hook up with...2142codependency,codependent,couples,narcissists,relationship,relationshipsfalse68fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/quarantine-life-solving-relationship-struggles--5677820546232548-9357-4b2a-bf8e-eca9832b270bTue, 07 Apr 2020 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieWhen you are trapped together it can be easy to get stuck in obsessing about all the negatives that annoy you. Our brains love to hang onto negativity. Sometimes people miss that heady excitement of being in love which is different from actually...772quarantine,quarantinelife,relationship,relationshipsfalse67fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationships-require-the-benefit-of-the-doubt--56778210ccf3aff1-3d34-4135-9e44-e2a3c56aaa12Wed, 04 Mar 2020 10:30:00 +0000Promise Okorie  Relationships so easily end up in feeling critical of your partner or annoyed, that’s because living together exposes us to the other person’s dark side. Our brains encourage us to indulge our negativity. Add to that any resentments that have...672marriage,married,partners,partnership,relationship,relationshipsfalse66fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/partners-who-take-up-too-much-space-in-a-relationship-a-marriage-story-the-movie--567782363d4c18c0-f80e-4b2e-bd32-6fa777cf2004Mon, 03 Feb 2020 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieMarriage is work because it’s a very tricky business for a marriage to get things right for BOTH people. That’s why marriage is hard work. The movie A Marriage Story gets a lot of things right. You watch how both Charlie & Nicole have...885couples,divorce,marriage,married,partner,partners,relationship,relationshipsfalse65fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/safety-has-exaggerated-importance-in-relationships--567782458a263bce-357f-48c3-9ee5-12f3aba983a2Mon, 06 Jan 2020 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieSafety is a way we lie to ourselves about what will work to have a better life & better relationships. We clutch at believing it is safer to avoid talking about problems with our partners. Choices made for safety are always choices made out of...904marriage,married,partners,partnerships,relationship,relationships,safetyfalse64fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/babies-their-impact-on-relationships--567782605a8acd84-3222-4301-a826-c0a125273df0Mon, 02 Dec 2019 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieBabies arriving home, don’t have to erase relationships. We all love babies, they are so great and they're so wonderful. They're also tiny bloodsuckers that demand enormous time and energy from parents. My guest today is Joni Parthemer who is going to...1630babi,babies,babiesbabiesbabies,babylife,babyproblems,babys,newparent,newparents,relationship,relationshipsfalse63fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/choices-their-impact-on-relationships--56778231c76ef199d0714acf91ed91e67ad0cb73Tue, 05 Nov 2019 10:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieChoices define our lives & our relationships. Many of the choices we make are done without thinking or awareness because they are habits. What makes you more mentally healthy is being aware of having choices and making them. Listen & learn...871choice,choices,couples,healthy,lifeisfullofchoices,relationship,relationshipsfalse62fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/addiction-recovery-relationships--5677826670f3b7d956d545b3ab3b7e1e4f41e78bTue, 01 Oct 2019 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieAddiction recovery is too often only focused on the individual. There is an 8 year study that confirms greater recovery success when the relationship is intact & strong. The relationship needs to grow & do the opposite of Claudia Black's...2152addiction,addictions,codependence,problems,recovery,relationship,relationshipsfalse61fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/sex-life-boost-needed-for-your-relationship-low-desire-problem--567782187df8ce99789d4709aa1549586e93339fWed, 04 Sep 2019 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieSex life Boost is something everybody can benefit from. It's too easy to let desire fade away. Listen to learn how to restore vitality. Novelty doesn't work. This interview with Stephen Snyder is really important to finding the energy to make your sex...1965better,desire,life,low,sex,sexual,sexuality,womensfalse60fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/disappointment-exaggerated-feelings-can-destroy-relationships--5677825329532a3908084c9dbec1e27d79289694Mon, 05 Aug 2019 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieDisappointment can be dangerous to relationships. We, as human beings can be very irrational when it comes to disappointment. We nurse our disappointments & they grow to take up too much real estate inside of us. Feelings are important to know who...1094disappointed,disappointment,disappointments,feelings,partnership,relationship,relationshipsfalse59fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/communicate-better-by-understanding-the-stories-we-tell-ourselves--56778251245f9c431d664a3c9d3016e05e42aa64Tue, 02 Jul 2019 09:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieCommunication can be almost impossible with a partner if we only want to steer the story in our favor. Communication requires an openness to the validity of someone else’s story even if you don’t like it. Communication gets unstuck & we can...739communicate,communicatebetter,communication,dialog,dialoguesfalse58fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/anger-management-relationships--56778265b6e4de9f6a7c46e8a60f2f1519661807Tue, 04 Jun 2019 13:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieAnger can be a huge problem in relationships. This episode asks what's important about anger management for relationships? Anger can be incredibly self absorbed & ugly. It's easy to fall down the rabbit hole of "I'm right" & needing to win. We...1444anger,angry,arguing,arguments,control,management,relationshipfalse57fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/infidelity-forgiveness-interview-with-dr-janis-spring--567782585847f6c5ddf64b95b9bc7fb22c12e58cMon, 06 May 2019 15:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieInfidelity is complicated & difficult to heal from. Dr Spring wrote the first book that defines infidelity as a loss of trust & a shattering of the self. The person who has been betrayed struggles to recapture their sense of themselves. The...1716affair,affairs,cheating,extramarital,forgiveness,infidelityfalse56fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/date-love-bravely-interview-with-dr-solomon--56778219c5fe9644e9fa4fe7a1ba4499c59d2fd0Tue, 02 Apr 2019 15:47:52 +0000Promise OkorieDate to learn more about yourself. Don't stay in the safety of passivity, watching who they are. Dates can be practice to grow. Think of "every intimate partnership as a classroom in which I can learn again and again about myself, about commitment,...1729advice,date,dating,tips,togetherfalse55fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/misery-in-your-relationship-10-ways-to-fix-it--56778226fbf56a52208e4dbca210ea8a1eb91b46Tue, 05 Mar 2019 17:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieMisery can so easily build in any relationship. Misery zaps your energy to think & it's easy to indulge your sad feelings. The two of you as a couple can fall to the bottom of your priority list. The misery usually spills over into bickering &...1032couples,marriage,married,miserable,misery,partners,relationship,relationshipsfalse54fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/fighting-can-improve-your-relationship--56778259c83745d56fbe444a9b4fb84bd6e31f4fTue, 05 Feb 2019 16:49:10 +0000Promise OkorieLearn how fights can be turned into recovery and intimate conversations. In your fighting there are clues to what you are really suffering from that you have not been able to confide in your partner. Interview with Dan Wile who says "The heart of a...1698argue,arguing,conflict,couples,fight,fighting,problems,relationshipfalse53fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/manipulated-overly-generous-in-relationships--567782280f60c0cf628c4b0f8adea4c69934ae84Mon, 07 Jan 2019 21:42:38 +0000Promise OkorieThere are many lopsided relationships where one person is catered to & the other partner is what I call overly generous. Partners like to be the nice one but getting stuck in the niceness can evolve into a giant hidden pile of resentments. There...969couples,manipulated,nice,relationship,relationshipsfalse52fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/sexuality-for-women-can-be-improved-interview-with-emily-nagoski--56778256dfb5df1a430e4b80babf8cfb9a1624d0Wed, 07 Nov 2018 15:11:27 +0000Promise OkorieSexuality can be a complicated business, very different from how easy it is on television. Interview with Emily Nagoski the author of Come As You Are. Find out what to do about low desire. Most problems with orgasm occur because frustration does not...2018desire,dysfunction,nagoski,orgasam,orgasm,sex,sexual,sexualityfalse50fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/love-emotionally-focused-therapy-for-couples--5677823077bf6f4e3a2846459423529009529545Fri, 02 Nov 2018 20:13:49 +0000Promise OkorieLove matters so much to people, how it goes wrong & how to put it right. Emotionally Focused Therapy  is based on thousands of studies on human attachment, it basically gives us a way of understanding love. It's scary to reach for your partner and...1586authentic,communication,couples,eft,love,relationship,relationshipsfalse51fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/codependency-means-someone-gets-lost-the-relationship-is-lopsided--567782616890e6c28b3743a7a4c4d2c0d0fda285Mon, 10 Sep 2018 14:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieCodependency is a murky business. Codependency is always a part of the beginnings of every love affair. The beginnings are so enchanting for all of us. Your partner can do no wrong, they are absolutely brilliant. Codependency is a part of love &...908codependency,codependent,marriage,married,partners,partnership,relationship,togetherfalse48fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/partnership-marriage-are-fragile-craft--567782686414278fd19840ec8074bf43a677249bThu, 09 Aug 2018 16:00:00 +0000Promise OkoriePartnerships & Marriage really require a lot from both people. Partnership demands that both people share their points of view & that we must reshape our own personal reality to be more accurate. This is truly very hard work because part of...1054couple,couples,marriage,married,partners,partnership,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse47fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/are-you-a-top-dog-or-do-you-cooperate-in-a-top-dog-relationship--5677826701a4584943f34d398fc712cc730cff53Mon, 09 Jul 2018 16:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieA Top Dog relationship means you participate in a hierarchy of power by either swallowing & ignoring your more authentic self or by enjoying the role of being manipulatively in charge with your demands being met. The narrative of every couple must...763couples,healthy,power,problems,relationship,relationships,strugglesfalse46fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/love-means-paying-attention-accepting-disappointment--56778235  ]]>f5f06f4df3648fc9ad856b65fd1054f9Wed, 06 Jun 2018 15:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieIt’s so easy to start taking each other for granted. We develop habits of how we see each other & we make assumptions instead of being curious. When we don’t feel seen it’s really a big deal & we end up hungry. This definitely happens as the...  ]]>960attention,disappointed,disappointment,love,luv,marriage,married,partners,relationship,relationshipsfalse45fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ambivalent-marriages-relationships-what-to-do--56778276fee2d927801e2143b3a52c4827f3325aMon, 07 May 2018 20:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieCouples stuck in ambivalence are secretly in love with maintaining the status quo. Not being wholehearted about either improvement or leaving, erases so many missed opportunities. Living with a constant level of unhappiness and resentments is like...812ambivalent,communication,couples,marriages,quo,relationship,relationships,statusfalse44fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationship-problems-are-often-power-struggles--56778270711e06cf9b891f16be600aa84ebb66e6Mon, 09 Apr 2018 16:00:00 +0000Promise OkoriePower struggles in relationships are totally ordinary & daily. Things can work in a couple where power is somewhat lopsided, but it will be boring & predictable if one person has all the power to make decisions most of the time. Sharing power...836arguments,fighting,power,powerful,problems,relationship,relationshipsfalse43fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/together-how-to-make-it-last-over-the-years--567782773d5c9ff948f273e89d2c14ec6df614f9Tue, 06 Mar 2018 01:16:44 +0000Promise OkorieToo many relationships have an over developed sense of the critic, was pointed out in this interview with Dr. Joseph Melnick. It’s easy to blame & tell people what they’re doing wrong. Instead of telling each other about what’s wrong, we need to...2166couples,criticism,curiosity,dialogue,intimacy,relationship,relationships,together,trust,trustedfalse42fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/insecure-how-it-contaminates-relationships-episode-41--567782845ef3fa589f6a86f41a60f185bf0fae05Thu, 08 Feb 2018 16:37:15 +0000Promise OkorieBeing insecure is something everybody struggles with. Insecurities are easily fed by fears when we believe we are misunderstood. Being insecure tests even the best of us. Insecurities can keep people trapped in emotionally masochistic relationships....761couples,insecure,insecurities,insecurity,relationship,relationships,togetherfalse41fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/what-everybody-ought-to-know-for-relationship-survival-episode-40--567782795745e272ccd814caf7832cccba867838Mon, 08 Jan 2018 17:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieWe arrive in this world with very few skills to help us navigate relationships. It takes a few decades just to understand ourselves much less anybody else. I think long term loving requires that we give each other the benefit of the doubt. We all...743commitment,communicate,couplesgoals,liveauthentic,marriedgoals,relationshipgoals,relationships,understandfalse40fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/grief-loss-survival-in-relationships-episode-39--56778287 As we live our lives, we all experience loss, change and transition. While we all know the grief associated with change, each grief looks and feels a little different. And, everyone grieves differently. As you work through the losses, changes and transitions in your life you’ll find it’s helpful to be patient and gentle with yourself, because it’s not easy and it takes time. The face of hope may change as you grieve. Hold it in your heart; keep it alive because you won’t always feel as bad as you do when your grief is fresh.]]>661314e844de26780f5f026bacb05836Fri, 17 Nov 2017 22:20:09 +0000Promise Okorie As we live our lives, we all experience loss, change and transition. While we all know the grief associated with change, each grief looks and feels a little different. And, everyone grieves differently. As you work through the losses, changes and... As we live our lives, we all experience loss, change and transition. While we all know the grief associated with change, each grief looks and feels a little different. And, everyone grieves differently. As you work through the losses, changes and transitions in your life you’ll find it’s helpful to be patient and gentle with yourself, because it’s not easy and it takes time. The face of hope may change as you grieve. Hold it in your heart; keep it alive because you won’t always feel as bad as you do when your grief is fresh.]]>2151death,grief,griefsupport,grieves,grieving,loss,widow,widowed,widowerfalse39fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/blended-families-stepfamilies-a-map-for-greater-understanding--567782814417fba15c98417fe240be7fa579ac97Tue, 07 Nov 2017 17:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieInterview with Dr. Patricia Papernow, in her fourth decade working with blended families. Blended families are complicated, where adults may be thrilled to find a new love, children may experience that as a turning away from them. Loyalty Binds can...2569blendedfamilies,blendedfamily,stepdad,stepdaddy,stepfamily,stepfather,stepmom,stepmomlife,stepmommy,stepmomproblemsfalse38fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/pornography-addiction-why-it-should-worry-you-in-relationships--567782899004fa21a6af57199d4019f777d597bbTue, 17 Oct 2017 16:00:00 +0000Promise OkoriePornography Addiction has become a problem for many couples. It sets up unrealistic expectations that real life can't compete with. Porn addiction often becomes a powerful problem because it's easier than dealing with the messiness of human beings....1457addict,addiction,couples,porn,pornography,relationship,relationshipsfalse37fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/connection-disconnection-learn-how-it-works--5677826367551ea9f6a7dc4ec91eb42387413693Tue, 19 Sep 2017 16:00:00 +0000Promise Okorie In relationships we take the easy way out a lot. We lie & tell people what they want to hear instead of truth. We silently stash resentments & get divorced. We decide sex is a chore we don’t want to be bothered with. We dump our insecurities...812connected,connecting,connection,couples,disconnection,relationshipfalse236fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationships-with-personality-disorders--56778264de2cd9ff71b5610541df9dbe81e83602Wed, 16 Aug 2017 22:00:00 +0000Promise OkoriePersonality Disorders are difficult in relationships because they have massive power through manipulation. So if you are in a relationship with a personality disorder, You must figure out how you give up your own power. You must learn how you...758disorders,drama,love,manipulation,personality,relationship,trianglefalse35fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/boring-relationship-how-to-get-out-of-the-rut--56778269df5a5d5c690db0c5809d0b462f04f53eMon, 17 Jul 2017 23:13:10 +0000Promise OkorieBoring relationships sneak upon us. It’s easy to make excuses, we’re too tired after work or busy with the kids. Relationships require work to keep them fresh. You have to be committed to trying new things out. The opposite of boring is being...767bored,boredom,boring,couples,married,relationship,relationshipsfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/trust-demands-a-softening-in-attitude--5677823428e8364b0856f3f5d72d8607737ce394Wed, 21 Jun 2017 01:31:37 +0000Promise OkorieTrust means we give up our inclination to exaggerate our wounds out of self interest. We can be very self righteous which creates a distorted picture of what happened. We harden ourselves & adore our own expectations of how things should be in a...827broken,help,marriage,rebuilding,relationship,trustfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationships-demand-personal-responsibility--5677824048f1df2e187d6843101a66894dfc4505Thu, 18 May 2017 17:30:00 +0000Promise OkorieInterview with Marcia Turbiner Ph.D who describes the need to have a relationship with yourself in order to make relationships work. She offers a way to think about what is NOT ME and what is ME. You have to begin to understand how to take care of...1843communication,love,relationship,relationships,responsibilityfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/15-ways-to-encourage-relationship-survival--56778283df52f91495fcb06b2c5164d67b7ec8caSat, 22 Apr 2017 21:25:08 +0000Promise OkorieLearn how to think about your relationship in 3 parts, why blame is immature and why being a separate individual keeps a partnership more solid. Consider how sacrifice, respect, going to bed angry and not playing games is crucial for relationship...929communication,couples,drama,relationship,relationships,trust,truthfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/contempt-takes-2-in-relationships--56778271 Too many people live with contempt in their relationships. Contempt is a power play that leads to loneliness. When ugliness layers & layers over time it becomes ordinary. When contempt is an ordinary activity instead of an unusual one, that’s a BIG problem. Contempt is a tango for two.]]>89766e57251168410b71280548a2b849Sat, 18 Mar 2017 23:35:37 +0000Promise Okorie Too many people live with contempt in their relationships. Contempt is a power play that leads to loneliness. When ugliness layers & layers over time it becomes ordinary. When contempt is an ordinary activity instead of an unusual one, that’s a... Too many people live with contempt in their relationships. Contempt is a power play that leads to loneliness. When ugliness layers & layers over time it becomes ordinary. When contempt is an ordinary activity instead of an unusual one, that’s a BIG problem. Contempt is a tango for two.]]>693contempt,contemptuous,couple,couples,power,relationship,relationshipsfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/people-pleasing-is-a-danger-in-relationships--56778290492585e0aafc923d4f683d24c72f6d98Tue, 14 Feb 2017 00:52:07 +0000Promise OkorieIf you are too lopsided in people-pleasing it will lead you to erase too much of who you are and what you want, this will begin the silent path of stock piling resentments. It's important to the health of the relationship to tell the truth to each other.810communication,peoplepleaser,pleaser,relationship,relationships,trustfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/what-destroys-contentment-in-relationships--56778275ca2e30388e8aadf726b30d72386c4abeWed, 11 Jan 2017 17:24:25 +0000Promise OkorieRelationships all begin with fantasy & illusions. We have absolutely no idea who somebody else really is but we make it up because we are in love. Fantasy is a flimsy beginning & contentment can be hard to achieve.818contentedly,contentment,couples,marriage,relationship,relationshipsfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/anger-management-to-grow-relationships--567782728d3a640e9fd3adc3f8087d2fce4fd363Sat, 03 Dec 2016 23:07:30 +0000Promise OkorieAnger soaked in alcohol or contempt can easily destroy relationships. Anger management is a tough skill to learn instead of the ease of blame. Learn here how to interrupt anger to have a healthy relationship.805anger,control,how,management,relationship,relationships,tofalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationships-keeping-it-real-with-rhoda--56778282 Relationships require a lot of growing up, a lot of facing your own dark side. Facing hard realities helps relationships. I believe real love is about deciding to do the work of being a better person, to risk change. It is not possible to grow & be comfortable at the same time. If you embrace change you have to be willing to be uncomfortable. ]]>d158e9f59a936453c703cf47bb85b7d0Sat, 22 Oct 2016 18:36:48 +0000Promise Okorie Relationships require a lot of growing up, a lot of facing your own dark side. Facing hard realities helps relationships. I believe real love is about deciding to do the work of being a better person, to risk change. It is not possible to grow &... Relationships require a lot of growing up, a lot of facing your own dark side. Facing hard realities helps relationships. I believe real love is about deciding to do the work of being a better person, to risk change. It is not possible to grow & be comfortable at the same time. If you embrace change you have to be willing to be uncomfortable. ]]>981communication,connection,couples,marriage,relationship,relationshipsfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/what-is-the-biggest-obstacle-to-relationship-success--5677824319236f806434cbe1af003971b21641b1Mon, 26 Sep 2016 20:22:14 +0000Promise Okorie0000007F 0000007E 00001AEB 00001B10 000011A7 000011A7 00007DAE 00007E62 00003697 00003697 Everyone arrives at couples therapy talking about Communication Problems?? What lies beneath communication problems in relationships? Listen here to learn more.791communication,couples,goals,marriage,power,relationship,relationships,strugglefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/dating-advice-what-everybody-needs-to-know--567782862ec83ff4285bd78de6344ecde04d969bTue, 23 Aug 2016 00:31:54 +0000Promise OkorieDating is often painful because the person who loves the least has the most power. Are you overly generous? Listen to learn about relationships that are too lopsided.816advice,best,dating,for,good,men,relationship,singles,tips,womenfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationship-success-what-is-the-1-secret--567782851373e844ad3758d0e3778e742912efc5Tue, 19 Jul 2016 01:04:14 +0000Promise OkorieRelationship survival is something people should be able to learn more about in College. It’s one of the best parts of life, yet it is a mystery to most people. Listen to learn the primary secret to success!605advice,couple,couples,goals,relationship,relationships,trust,truthfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-be-a-team-in-a-relationship--56778278a575047b44cb2b711e9a96b49d2af618Mon, 13 Jun 2016 21:46:46 +0000Promise OkorieCouples have to evolve over time. Evolving as a Team means that the two of you together solve the puzzle of your strengths & weaknesses & how they can work together. Of all the Couples you know, how many are actually a team? 791communication,couple,couples,healthy,relationship,relationshipsfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationships-are-a-dance-in-the-messiness-of-life--56778273MjAtbWVzc3lkaWZmLm1wMw==Mon, 11 Apr 2016 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieWhat can help with the annoyances over differences when love & idealization wear off? You have to learn to respect the differences which is work, instead of pretending things aren’t that bad. Read more at: therapy ideas.net620communicationinmarriage,coupleproblems,couplescommunication,loveproblems,relationshipdifficulties,relationships,unhappymarriagefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/o-j-drama-in-relationships--56778248MjAtb2oubXAzTue, 22 Mar 2016 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieDrama is about manipulation. Manipulation is about winning, not truth. The brilliance of O.J’s lawyers was all about flipping him from the persecutor into the blameless victim & asking the jury to rescue him which is illustrated in the fine FX show.566drama,manipulation,oj,ojsimpson,peoplevojsimpson,relationships,victimfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationships-require-vulnerability--56778280MTgubXAzTue, 01 Mar 2016 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieManipulation is the core of the Drama Triangle. This game creates confusion & upset, not solutions or a path to truth. Denial is a huge part in the role of Rescuer.Drama is all about power & winning.582manipulation,oj,ojsimpson,relationships,relationships101,thepeoplevojsimpson,victimfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationships-require-we-recongnize-our-own-dark-side--56778250MTctZGFyay1zaWRlLm1wMw==Mon, 01 Feb 2016 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieIf you recognize your own dark side you will be a better candidate for love & relationships. It’s important to recognize our part in problems instead of taking comfort in blame.530darkside,love,relationship,relationships,selfesteem,unfinishedbusinessfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/we-all-want-a-relationship-with-a-clone--56778252MTYtY2xvbmVzLm1wMw==Sun, 10 Jan 2016 01:03:27 +0000Promise OkorieDeep down we all want people to be like ourselves, then it would be oh, so much easier. Love can easily disintegrate into this unspoken demand that you should be more like me.454communication,connection,relationship,relationshipsfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/15-how-to-approach-problems-in-a-relationship--56778255MTUtYXBwcm9hY2gubXAzTue, 29 Dec 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieHow do you approach hard topics in a relationship? You will learn 4 specific ways to communicate about problems. It’s important to dialogue not have parallel monologues.914communication,couples,healthyrelationships,problems,relationship,relationshipsfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/obsessive-partners-can-be-annoying-in-relationships--56778249b2JzZXNzaXZlLTE0Lm1wMw==Mon, 30 Nov 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieObsessiveness can crowd & suffocate the other partner. Obsessiveness is because of anxiety. Obsessive people can be full of “shoulds” & being correct which can lead to self-righteousness.609annoying,anxiety,obsessive,obsessivebehavior,relationship,relationshipsfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotional-truths-revealed-in-the-affair-on-showtime--56778288c2hvd3RpbWVzLXRoZS1hZmZhaXIubXAzThu, 05 Nov 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieSeason 2 of The Affair on Showtime is rich with the emotional truths about the delicate & complicated dance of connections & disconnections in relationships.804affair,divorce,marriage,relationshops,showtime,theaffairfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/relationships-after-addictions-recovery--56778274cmVsYXRpb25zaGlwcy1hZnRlci1yZWNvdmVyeS0xMi5tcDM=Mon, 19 Oct 2015 22:05:11 +0000Promise OkorieRelationships disintegrate too often after recovery from addictions. Learn how to avoid triggering shame in the partner in recovery to have greater success.591marriage,relationships,relationshipsafterrecoveryfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/manipulation-the-drama-triangle-part-2--68655255bWFuaXB1bGF0aW9uLXRoZS1kcmFtYS10cmlhbmdsZS1wYXJ0LTIubXAzFri, 02 Oct 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieDrama triangles are often a source of manipulation in relationships. If you want to be loved no matter what or prevent disagreement then you are manipulating.542falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/manipulation-relationships-part-1--68655270MTEtbWFuaXB1bGF0aW9uLXBhcnQtMS5tcDM=Tue, 15 Sep 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieManipulation requires both the manipulated & the manipulator. Both play their part. Listen to understand the dynamics of emotional manipulation since everybody manipulates to get what they want.500falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/communication-connection-part-2--68655261Y29tbXVuaWNhdGlvbi1wYXJ0LTIubXAzSun, 30 Aug 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieCommunication builds on trust. Avoiding important conversations evaporates trust. Trust builds on Truth.534falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/communication-want-to-fix-it--68655256OS1jb21tdW5pY2F0aW9uLTIubXAzTue, 11 Aug 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieWhat lies underneath communication problems are power struggles. Someone has to win, someone has to lose.454falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-argue-better--68655263OC1hcmd1ZS1iZXR0ZXIubXAzMon, 27 Jul 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieTo fight better learn to acknowledge two points of view, how to be vulnerable & more respectful.597falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/missing-out-on-sex--68655260ZTdzZXgubXAzTue, 14 Jul 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkoriePartners stop having sex & don’t even talk about it. This episode explores why sex is missing in relationships.410falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/codependence-is-not-love--68655254Ni1jMS5tcDM=Mon, 22 Jun 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieCodependence means one partner has lost track of who they are which creates lopsided relationships.508falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/never-fighting-in-relationships-is-bad--68655265ZmluYWwtNS1ub3QtZmlnaHQubXAzTue, 26 May 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieYou will find out why never fighting is a problem & how to have an argument that gets somewhere.511falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/when-trust-is-broken--68655276dHJ1c3QtNC1maW5hbC5tcDM=Mon, 11 May 2015 00:00:00 +0000Promise OkorieCan a relationship survive broken trust? Listen to learn about remorse, dishonesty & respect. Contempt destroys relationships.415falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/even-superman-can-t-guess-what-lois-lane-really-wants--68655262cG9kY2FzdC0xLm1wMw==Wed, 22 Apr 2015 13:41:29 +0000Promise OkorieRomantic love creates unreasonable expectations. In this episode I'll show you how to fix that & stop making yourself miserable.499falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/s-m-is-all-too-common-in-relationships--68655277c20tMi5tcDM=Wed, 22 Apr 2015 13:40:27 +0000Promise OkorieDoes your relationship involve S & M? Too often couples hold each other hostage in unhealthy patterns. Learn what to do instead.409falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/affairs-blame-is-only-part-of-the-answer--68655266My1hZmZhaXJzLm1wMw==Wed, 22 Apr 2015 13:40:27 +0000Promise OkorieThere is more to dealing with affairs than just blame. In this episode I will show you how affairs are a window into problems in the relationship.433falsefull