Out Late With David

Out Late With Davidhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.com
Reach out to me for a complimentary coaching consultation if you have challenges in your life you'd like to explore.

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David Cotton
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https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com]]>enSexualityOut Late With David: Coming Out Later in Life LGBTQ+https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/73b2a25e98075a53e3a0ad3483c224c2.jpgOut Late With Davidhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comTue, 28 Jul 2026 00:26:52 +0000David CottonDavid Cotton Coaching, LLCdavid@davidcottoncoaching.comI'm a life coach who came out later in life as gay. Join me as I talk with others who’ve made this LGBTQ+ coming out journey later in their lives to become who they really are. Reach out to me for a...
Reach out to me for a complimentary coaching consultation if you have challenges in your life you'd like to explore.

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David Cotton
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https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com]]>trueepisodicDavid Anderson | Faith, Family, and Finally Choosing Himselfhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/david-anderson-faith-family-and-finally-choosing-himself--73196390
In this deeply honest conversation, David shares the emotional cost of living behind a mask, the difficult decision to come out at 57, navigating a collaborative divorce, rebuilding relationships with his children, and discovering unexpected joy after embracing his authentic self. He also reflects on faith, family, finding love with his husband Peter, and why authenticity transformed every area of his life.

This episode is a powerful reminder that while coming out later in life is never easy, it’s never too late to live honestly—and to find happiness you never thought possible.

Takeaways
1. Authenticity is worth the risk. After decades of trying to suppress who he was through faith, counseling, and sheer determination, David discovered that the freedom of living authentically transformed every area of his life—not just his relationships, but his confidence, career, and sense of self.
2. Coming out later in life affects the whole family—but healing is possible. David speaks candidly about navigating a collaborative divorce, supporting his former wife through the transition, rebuilding relationships with his children, and recognizing that everyone’s journey toward acceptance unfolds on its own timeline.
3. Fear is often bigger than reality. For years, David believed coming out would destroy everything he loved. While the journey wasn’t easy, he ultimately found deeper relationships, unexpected support, and a level of joy he never imagined possible. As he reflects, “All the fears… were not nearly as big as you thought.”

Sound Bites
“I prayed harder to not be gay than I’ve ever prayed for anything else.”
“I spent years making myself smaller and smaller… until I became just a shadow of me.”
“The biggest thing I gained after coming out? Me.”
“All the fears were real—but they were never as big as I thought.”
“I thought I was committed to marriage. Today, I’m committed to Peter.”
“Everything got better. Everything."
“What people loved was the person I was pretending to be.” “I didn’t choose to be gay. I chose to be myself.” “I couldn’t keep that box on the shelf anymore.”
“I almost feel guilty about how happy I am.” “You’re okay. You don’t have to apologize for who you are.”
Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/loV6nfT9xYs

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

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© 2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.
]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/73196390Tue, 28 Jul 2026 00:11:38 +0000David CottonAfter spending more than three decades trying to suppress his sexuality, David Anderson reached a point where he could no longer ignore who he truly was. Raised in a conservative Southern Baptist environment, he prayed for years that being gay would...
In this deeply honest conversation, David shares the emotional cost of living behind a mask, the difficult decision to come out at 57, navigating a collaborative divorce, rebuilding relationships with his children, and discovering unexpected joy after embracing his authentic self. He also reflects on faith, family, finding love with his husband Peter, and why authenticity transformed every area of his life.

This episode is a powerful reminder that while coming out later in life is never easy, it’s never too late to live honestly—and to find happiness you never thought possible.

Takeaways
1. Authenticity is worth the risk. After decades of trying to suppress who he was through faith, counseling, and sheer determination, David discovered that the freedom of living authentically transformed every area of his life—not just his relationships, but his confidence, career, and sense of self.
2. Coming out later in life affects the whole family—but healing is possible. David speaks candidly about navigating a collaborative divorce, supporting his former wife through the transition, rebuilding relationships with his children, and recognizing that everyone’s journey toward acceptance unfolds on its own timeline.
3. Fear is often bigger than reality. For years, David believed coming out would destroy everything he loved. While the journey wasn’t easy, he ultimately found deeper relationships, unexpected support, and a level of joy he never imagined possible. As he reflects, “All the fears… were not nearly as big as you thought.”

Sound Bites
“I prayed harder to not be gay than I’ve ever prayed for anything else.”
“I spent years making myself smaller and smaller… until I became just a shadow of me.”
“The biggest thing I gained after coming out? Me.”
“All the fears were real—but they were never as big as I thought.”
“I thought I was committed to marriage. Today, I’m committed to Peter.”
“Everything got better. Everything."
“What people loved was the person I was pretending to be.” “I didn’t choose to be gay. I chose to be myself.” “I couldn’t keep that box on the shelf anymore.”
“I almost feel guilty about how happy I am.” “You’re okay. You don’t have to apologize for who you are.”
Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/loV6nfT9xYs

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
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© 2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With...]]>2499attack,authenticity,changes,coming,gay,growth,health,heart,lgbtq+,life,marriage,mental,out,personal,relationships,religious,religioustrauma,self-discoveryfalse335fullPeter Leahy | A Chance, and It Worked: The Journey to Authentic Happinesshttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comOut Late With David, David sits down with author Peter Leahy to discuss his remarkable journey of coming out at age 44 after 20 years of marriage, raising two children, and living a life that looked successful on the outside but felt deeply unfulfilled within.

Peter shares how years of self-loathing, fear, and hiding his true identity gave way to courage, community, and ultimately authentic happiness. From finding support through Gay Fathers of Atlanta, navigating family relationships, and building a new life, to meeting his husband and relocating to Palm Springs, Peter reflects on the risks and rewards of embracing his true self.

He also shares the powerful letter he wrote to his former closeted self—a moving reminder that sometimes the bravest decision is simply taking the first step toward the life you deserve.

This conversation is about far more than sexuality; it’s about hope, reinvention, self-acceptance, and the truth that it’s never too late to become the person you were meant to be.

Guest: Peter Leahy, author of Glowing Up Gay.

Sound Bites

“Peter, you took a chance and it worked. And I’m really proud that you did it. More than that, I’m grateful that you made our life a lot better.”
“I was lying every single day—to other people, to people I loved, and most importantly, to myself.”
“When I was in the closet, I wasn’t necessarily unhappy. But compared to the way I live now, I was a mile away from happiness.”
“When you’re in the closet that long, you think you’re different. You think you’re damaged goods.”
Peter to himself: “I love who you are now. I think you’ll love yourself even more when you come out.”

Peter's Book: Glowing Up Gay https://a.co/d/0a25qOu1

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/iuZLcVfFkCs

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact me:
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© 2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/72676368Wed, 24 Jun 2026 17:52:24 +0000David CottonIn this episode of Out Late With David, David sits down with author Peter Leahy to discuss his remarkable journey of coming out at age 44 after 20 years of marriage, raising two children, and living a life that looked successful on the outside but...Out Late With David, David sits down with author Peter Leahy to discuss his remarkable journey of coming out at age 44 after 20 years of marriage, raising two children, and living a life that looked successful on the outside but felt deeply unfulfilled within.

Peter shares how years of self-loathing, fear, and hiding his true identity gave way to courage, community, and ultimately authentic happiness. From finding support through Gay Fathers of Atlanta, navigating family relationships, and building a new life, to meeting his husband and relocating to Palm Springs, Peter reflects on the risks and rewards of embracing his true self.

He also shares the powerful letter he wrote to his former closeted self—a moving reminder that sometimes the bravest decision is simply taking the first step toward the life you deserve.

This conversation is about far more than sexuality; it’s about hope, reinvention, self-acceptance, and the truth that it’s never too late to become the person you were meant to be.

Guest: Peter Leahy, author of Glowing Up Gay.

Sound Bites

“Peter, you took a chance and it worked. And I’m really proud that you did it. More than that, I’m grateful that you made our life a lot better.”
“I was lying every single day—to other people, to people I loved, and most importantly, to myself.”
“When I was in the closet, I wasn’t necessarily unhappy. But compared to the way I live now, I was a mile away from happiness.”
“When you’re in the closet that long, you think you’re different. You think you’re damaged goods.”
Peter to himself: “I love who you are now. I think you’ll love yourself even more when you come out.”

Growing up in a small rural town with no LGBTQ visibility
The pressure to live up to family and religious expectations
Marriage, fatherhood, and internal conflict
Being publicly outed by his son
Navigating difficult family conversations
The life-changing role of support groups
Rediscovering identity and emotional expression
Building a new chapter of life in Palm Springs

Key Takeaway

Finding people who understand your experience can change everything. Support groups, therapy, and community can help transform fear into self-acceptance and open the door to a more authentic life.

Memorable Quote

“The self-love piece was the gift I didn’t expect when I came out.” — David Willett

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/epn-ecZd6j0

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact me:

© 2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/71250383Sat, 11 Apr 2026 04:52:55 +0000David CottonWhat happens when the life you built no longer reflects who you truly are? In this episode of Out Late With David, host David Cotton speaks with David Willett, who spent more than three decades living what appeared to be a traditional life —...
n 2009, everything changed when he was publicly outed. David shares the emotional journey that followed — from fear and uncertainty to finding support through Gay Fathers of Greater Boston, a group that helps men navigating coming out later in life.

Through therapy, community, and self-reflection, David began to rediscover himself and ultimately found love again. Today he lives openly with his husband in Palm Springs and reflects on the unexpected gift that came from his journey: learning how to love himself.

In this episode we discuss:

Growing up in a small rural town with no LGBTQ visibility
The pressure to live up to family and religious expectations
Marriage, fatherhood, and internal conflict
Being publicly outed by his son
Navigating difficult family conversations
The life-changing role of support groups
Rediscovering identity and emotional expression
Building a new chapter of life in Palm Springs

© 2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content...]]>2240comingoutlaterinlife,comingoutstories,familyacceptance,findingloveagain,gayfather,laterlifeidentity,lgbtqpodcast,livingauthentically,olwd,outlatewithdavid,personalgrowth,selfdiscovery,selflovefalse333fullDavid Cotton: It’s Never Too Late. My Coming Out Story on The Better Man Podcasthttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comOut Late With David, David shares his personal coming out story as a guest on The Better Man Podcast with Dean Pohlman, founder of ManFlow Yoga. Together, they explore what it means to choose authenticity later in life, the courage required to rewrite your story, and why it is never too late to live more honestly. If you’ve ever questioned parts of your identity, faced a major life transition, or wondered whether change is still possible, this conversation offers reflection, insight, and hope.

The Better Man Podcast: https://manflowyoga.com/podcast/

Man Flow Yoga: https://manflowyoga.com/

Takeaways

It’s never actually “too late” to come out or live authentically.
Authenticity often requires courageous change.
Many people carry questions about their identity for years before acting on them.
You don’t have to “come out” to everyone — you can simply let people into your life.
Cultural and subconscious homophobia can delay self-acceptance.
Coming out impacts more than just the person doing it.
Accepting yourself changes how you show up in the world.
Personal growth requires effort and discomfort — much like physical training.

Sound Bites

“Coming out later in life isn’t about becoming someone new — it’s about finally allowing yourself to be who you’ve always been.”
“Authenticity may disrupt your life for a while, but living a lie disrupts your life forever.”
“It’s not about coming out to the world — it’s about letting people into your real life.”

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/o96tgoKn1QU

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
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2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/70487973Fri, 06 Mar 2026 00:07:41 +0000David CottonIn this special crossover episode of https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com, David shares his personal coming out story as a guest on https://manflowyoga.com/podcast/with Dean Pohlman, founder of ManFlow Yoga. Together, they explore what it means to choose...Out Late With David, David shares his personal coming out story as a guest on The Better Man Podcast with Dean Pohlman, founder of ManFlow Yoga. Together, they explore what it means to choose authenticity later in life, the courage required to rewrite your story, and why it is never too late to live more honestly. If you’ve ever questioned parts of your identity, faced a major life transition, or wondered whether change is still possible, this conversation offers reflection, insight, and hope.

The Better Man Podcast: https://manflowyoga.com/podcast/

Man Flow Yoga: https://manflowyoga.com/

Takeaways

It’s never actually “too late” to come out or live authentically.
Authenticity often requires courageous change.
Many people carry questions about their identity for years before acting on them.
You don’t have to “come out” to everyone — you can simply let people into your life.
Cultural and subconscious homophobia can delay self-acceptance.
Coming out impacts more than just the person doing it.
Accepting yourself changes how you show up in the world.
Personal growth requires effort and discomfort — much like physical training.

Sound Bites

“Coming out later in life isn’t about becoming someone new — it’s about finally allowing yourself to be who you’ve always been.”
“Authenticity may disrupt your life for a while, but living a lie disrupts your life forever.”
“It’s not about coming out to the world — it’s about letting people into your real life.”

It’s never too late to come out.
Living in alignment feels like a weight lifted.
Family acceptance often exceeds our fears.
Reinvention doesn’t mean erasing the past.
Choosing yourself expands your world, not shrinks it.

Where to find Mark: Join me on a culinary journey inspired by the flavors of Italy. In Nonnos Kitchen, roll up your sleeves and learn to make fresh pasta with confidence right in your own kitchen. This hands-on class ends with a four-course meal—appetizer, salad, pasta, and dessert—featuring the pasta you’ve created. Young chefs are welcome, so put down the screens and enjoy a fun evening of pasta-making. Find Mark on Instagram at @nonnos_kitchen01

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/6zibRI6n1TI

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com https://linktr.ee/davidacotton

© 2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/69693877Tue, 03 Feb 2026 13:00:08 +0000David CottonA retired Army officer and father comes out at 67, choosing authenticity, love, and a fuller life — as himself. In this episode of Out Late With David, Mark D’Agostino, a retired U.S. Army officer and father of three, shares his powerful coming-out...
In this episode of Out Late With David, Mark D’Agostino, a retired U.S. Army officer and father of three, shares his powerful coming-out story at age 67. After a 43-year marriage and a military career shaped by duty and silence, Mark chose to stop surviving and start becoming. He reflects on family, love, reinvention, and the profound relief that came with finally living authentically — not starting over, but becoming fully himself.

Takeaways

It’s never too late to come out.
Living in alignment feels like a weight lifted.
Family acceptance often exceeds our fears.
Reinvention doesn’t mean erasing the past.
Choosing yourself expands your world, not shrinks it.

Where to find Mark: Join me on a culinary journey inspired by the flavors of Italy. In Nonnos Kitchen, roll up your sleeves and learn to make fresh pasta with confidence right in your own kitchen. This hands-on class ends with a four-course meal—appetizer, salad, pasta, and dessert—featuring the pasta you’ve created. Young chefs are welcome, so put down the screens and enjoy a fun evening of pasta-making. Find Mark on Instagram at @nonnos_kitchen01

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/6zibRI6n1TI

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com https://linktr.ee/davidacotton

© 2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>1910comingoutat67,comingoutlaterinlife,gayfather,gayveteran,latelifecomingout,lgbtqpodcast,livingauthentically,outlatewithdavid,reinvention,secondactoflifefalse331fullGreg R. Baird: When Your Story Saves a Lifehttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comGreg R. Baird sits down with David in Palm Springs to share his journey from growing up closeted in a small Michigan town to becoming a respected educator, storyteller, and champion for allyship. Greg opens up about coming out at 31, navigating painful family rejection, and the moments that shaped his calling—including a life-changing encounter with a student who credits his story with saving her life. Together, David and Greg explore the transformative power of storytelling, finding community after coming out, and learning to live with courage, connection, and authenticity at any age. This episode offers wisdom, warmth, and hope for anyone on their journey of self-acceptance and belonging.

Takeaways & Sound Bites

Growing up in a small, religious town made coming out feel impossible, but college provided Greg the first space where he could blossom and explore who he truly was.
Early advocacy began unintentionally, as Greg and his first boyfriend spoke to college classes about being gay—long before he saw himself as an activist.
Family responses to coming out were painful and complicated, but over time, Greg found peace through patience, education, and accepting what could not be changed.
Parents’ understanding is shaped by what they know, and sometimes by those influencing them; change, when it comes, can be slow and surprising.
You can’t change your parents—only yourself. Greg emphasizes honoring your truth, your energy, and your value, regardless of others’ acceptance.
Storytelling is a transformative tool that can change hearts, minds, and even policy by revealing the humanity behind the issues.
A life-changing moment with a suicidal student affirmed Greg’s calling to become a global lecturer—proof that sharing your story can save lives.
Coming out may not happen overnight, and each person must move at their own pace and readiness. There is no “right” timeline.
Finding community after coming out takes intention, whether through shared activities, meetups, support groups, hobbies, or interest-based circles.
Real connection requires stepping beyond apps and screens, leaning into face-to-face interactions that build genuine friendships.
Introverts, extroverts, and everyone in between can find their place—community can look like wine groups, sports leagues, sober spaces, Disney meetups, or coffee chats.
Self-acceptance is foundational; be patient with yourself and trust that your personality, confidence, and comfort in community will grow over time.
We need connection now more than ever, especially in a challenging social climate—putting yourself out there, even gently, opens emotional doors you never expected.
Letting people in, rather than “coming out,” can be a more compassionate and empowering way to frame revealing your authentic self.
You are not alone, and hearing stories like Greg’s or those on Out Late With David can provide life-saving hope, community, and belonging.

Greg R. Baird: https://linktr.ee/gregrbaird and www.GregRBaird.com.

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/eEBC-_5dYY8

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified

Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com https://linktr.ee/davidacotton

© 2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/69367035Fri, 09 Jan 2026 14:41:23 +0000David CottonIn this powerful and heartfelt conversation, LGBTQ+ civil rights advocate and global lecturer Greg R. Baird sits down with David in Palm Springs to share his journey from growing up closeted in a small Michigan town to becoming a respected educator,...Greg R. Baird sits down with David in Palm Springs to share his journey from growing up closeted in a small Michigan town to becoming a respected educator, storyteller, and champion for allyship. Greg opens up about coming out at 31, navigating painful family rejection, and the moments that shaped his calling—including a life-changing encounter with a student who credits his story with saving her life. Together, David and Greg explore the transformative power of storytelling, finding community after coming out, and learning to live with courage, connection, and authenticity at any age. This episode offers wisdom, warmth, and hope for anyone on their journey of self-acceptance and belonging.

Takeaways & Sound Bites

Growing up in a small, religious town made coming out feel impossible, but college provided Greg the first space where he could blossom and explore who he truly was.
Early advocacy began unintentionally, as Greg and his first boyfriend spoke to college classes about being gay—long before he saw himself as an activist.
Family responses to coming out were painful and complicated, but over time, Greg found peace through patience, education, and accepting what could not be changed.
Parents’ understanding is shaped by what they know, and sometimes by those influencing them; change, when it comes, can be slow and surprising.
You can’t change your parents—only yourself. Greg emphasizes honoring your truth, your energy, and your value, regardless of others’ acceptance.
Storytelling is a transformative tool that can change hearts, minds, and even policy by revealing the humanity behind the issues.
A life-changing moment with a suicidal student affirmed Greg’s calling to become a global lecturer—proof that sharing your story can save lives.
Coming out may not happen overnight, and each person must move at their own pace and readiness. There is no “right” timeline.
Finding community after coming out takes intention, whether through shared activities, meetups, support groups, hobbies, or interest-based circles.
Real connection requires stepping beyond apps and screens, leaning into face-to-face interactions that build genuine friendships.
Introverts, extroverts, and everyone in between can find their place—community can look like wine groups, sports leagues, sober spaces, Disney meetups, or coffee chats.
Self-acceptance is foundational; be patient with yourself and trust that your personality, confidence, and comfort in community will grow over time.
We need connection now more than ever, especially in a challenging social climate—putting yourself out there, even gently, opens emotional doors you never expected.
Letting people in, rather than “coming out,” can be a more compassionate and empowering way to frame revealing your authentic self.
You are not alone, and hearing stories like Greg’s or those on Out Late With David can provide life-saving hope, community, and belonging.

Greg R. Baird: https://linktr.ee/gregrbaird and www.GregRBaird.com.

Podcast website and resources: 330fullCharlie Vollmar - From Outed to Reborn: Chef Charlie’s New Chapterhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary

In this powerful follow-up conversation, David talks with Chef Charlie Vollmar on his return to Out Late With David to share how his life has transformed since his first interview 18 months ago. Speaking from Palm Springs, Charlie updates listeners on his reinvention in San Miguel de Allende—rebuilding his life after being outed, creating a new chosen family, relaunching his culinary school, and deepening his work in cultural exchange and philanthropy. With his signature radical vulnerability, he reflects on personal growth, identity, male connection, creativity, and purpose, all while offering honest guidance for others navigating late-in-life coming out journeys. This uplifting episode highlights resilience, authenticity, and the joy of discovering life on the other side of trauma.

Keywords

#ComingOutLater #GayMen #LGBTQStories #AuthenticLiving #ChosenFamily #ChefCharlieVollmar #SanMiguelDeAllende #PalmSpringsLGBTQ #CulinaryJourneys #GayExpatLife #Self-discovery #Authenticity

Takeaways

• Reinvention at any age is possible.
• Authenticity transforms everything.
• Mexico sparked Charlie’s creative and personal rebirth.
• Chosen family brings deep healing and joy.
• Radical vulnerability can save lives—your own and others’.
• Letting go is often the first step to moving forward.
• There is hope and purpose on the other side of trauma.
• Male connection—emotional, social, spiritual—can be profoundly healing.

Sound Bites

1. “I didn’t just come out—I became someone I never knew I was allowed to be.”
2. “Mexico didn’t just give me a new home. It gave me a new mind, a new heart, and a new life.”
3. “Radical vulnerability wasn’t a choice—it was the door that saved me.”
4. “At 60, I thought my story was over. It turns out it was only just beginning.”
5. “I left with two carry-ons, a red backpack, a laptop, and a cup of coffee—and rebuilt everything from nothing.”
6. “My chosen family filled a space in my heart I didn’t even know was empty.”
7. “I wake up every day now with one thought: I can’t wait to see who I become today.”
8. “Authenticity isn’t a destination—it changes every hour with the people you meet and the life you live.”
9. “There is so much life waiting for us on the other side of trauma. Hold on. There’s always another side.”
10. “Teaching isn’t my job—it’s my purpose. It’s the gift I get to give away every day.”

The Classic Cocktail Anthony Bourdain Called The 'Perfect Mixed Drink': https://www.tastingtable.com/1360085/classic-cocktail-anthony-bourdain-perfect-drink-negroni/

Boeuf Bourguignon | The French Chef Season 7 | Julia Child: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uruT8FPpeKc

Connecting with Chef Charlie

Chef Charles Vollmar
Epicurean Exchange Culinary Education
Aparicio 25, #5, Zona Centro
San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, México

WhatsApp: +1 925-369-4181
Email: charlie@epicureanexchange.com

Websites:

Education: www.epicureanexchange.com
Travel: www.epexculinarytravel.com
Blog: www.epicureanglobalexchange.com

Social media:
Facebook:

Charles Vollmar
Epicurean Exchange Culinary Travel

Threads: @charlesvollmar

Instagram: @charlesvollmar & @epexculinarytravel

Bluesky: @carlitosv.bsky.social

January Cover of GoNaked Magazine 😉 https://gonakedmagazine.com

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/BISaHg0YRQs

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
https://linktr.ee/davidacotton

© 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/68803840Sun, 30 Nov 2025 06:44:44 +0000David CottonSummary In this powerful follow-up conversation, David talks with Chef Charlie Vollmar on his return to Out Late With David to share how his life has transformed since his first interview 18 months ago. Speaking from Palm Springs, Charlie updates...Summary

In this powerful follow-up conversation, David talks with Chef Charlie Vollmar on his return to Out Late With David to share how his life has transformed since his first interview 18 months ago. Speaking from Palm Springs, Charlie updates listeners on his reinvention in San Miguel de Allende—rebuilding his life after being outed, creating a new chosen family, relaunching his culinary school, and deepening his work in cultural exchange and philanthropy. With his signature radical vulnerability, he reflects on personal growth, identity, male connection, creativity, and purpose, all while offering honest guidance for others navigating late-in-life coming out journeys. This uplifting episode highlights resilience, authenticity, and the joy of discovering life on the other side of trauma.

Keywords

#ComingOutLater #GayMen #LGBTQStories #AuthenticLiving #ChosenFamily #ChefCharlieVollmar #SanMiguelDeAllende #PalmSpringsLGBTQ #CulinaryJourneys #GayExpatLife #Self-discovery #Authenticity

Takeaways

• Reinvention at any age is possible.
• Authenticity transforms everything.
• Mexico sparked Charlie’s creative and personal rebirth.
• Chosen family brings deep healing and joy.
• Radical vulnerability can save lives—your own and others’.
• Letting go is often the first step to moving forward.
• There is hope and purpose on the other side of trauma.
• Male connection—emotional, social, spiritual—can be profoundly healing.

Sound Bites

1. “I didn’t just come out—I became someone I never knew I was allowed to be.”
2. “Mexico didn’t just give me a new home. It gave me a new mind, a new heart, and a new life.”
3. “Radical vulnerability wasn’t a choice—it was the door that saved me.”
4. “At 60, I thought my story was over. It turns out it was only just beginning.”
5. “I left with two carry-ons, a red backpack, a laptop, and a cup of coffee—and rebuilt everything from nothing.”
6. “My chosen family filled a space in my heart I didn’t even know was empty.”
7. “I wake up every day now with one thought: I can’t wait to see who I become today.”
8. “Authenticity isn’t a destination—it changes every hour with the people you meet and the life you live.”
9. “There is so much life waiting for us on the other side of trauma. Hold on. There’s always another side.”
10. “Teaching isn’t my job—it’s my purpose. It’s the gift I get to give away every day.”

The Classic Cocktail Anthony Bourdain Called The 'Perfect Mixed Drink': https://www.tastingtable.com/1360085/classic-cocktail-anthony-bourdain-perfect-drink-negroni/

Boeuf Bourguignon | The French Chef Season 7 | Julia Child: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uruT8FPpeKc

Connecting with Chef Charlie

Chef Charles Vollmar
Epicurean Exchange Culinary Education
Aparicio 25, #5, Zona Centro
San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, México

WhatsApp: +1 925-369-4181
Email: charlie@epicureanexchange.com

Websites:

Education: www.epicureanexchange.com
Travel: www.epexculinarytravel.com
Blog: www.epicureanglobalexchange.com

Social media:
Facebook:

Charles Vollmar
Epicurean Exchange Culinary Travel

Threads: @charlesvollmar
2470authenticity,authenticliving,chefcharlievollmar,chosenfamily,comingoutlater,culinaryjourneys,gayexpatlife,gaymen,lgbtqstories,palmspringslgbtq,sanmigueldeallende,self-discoveryfalse329fullKevin O'Connor - out at 55 after two marriageshttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary

Kevin O'Connor shares his profound journey of self-discovery, coming out at 55 after two marriages and raising children. He reflects on his childhood experiences, the struggles of acceptance, and the complexities of navigating relationships. Through candid discussions, he reveals the challenges of living authentically and the joy of finding love with his husband after years of hiding his true self. Kevin emphasizes the importance of embracing one's identity and the lessons learned throughout his life.

Keywords

coming out, LGBTQ, self-acceptance, relationships, marriage, personal journey, authenticity, love, family, memoir

Takeaways

Kevin came out at 55 after two marriages.
He struggled with acceptance from a young age.
His childhood experiences shaped his understanding of identity.
Navigating relationships was complex due to his hidden sexuality.
He found love with his husband after years of self-discovery.
Kevin emphasizes the importance of authenticity in life.
He reflects on the challenges of being a gay educator.
His journey highlights the significance of family support.
Kevin's story serves as an inspiration for others in similar situations.
He believes in the power of sharing one's story to help others.

Chapters

00:00 Kevin O'Connor's Journey of Self-Discovery
02:56 Navigating Early Life and Identity
05:34 College Experiences and Hidden Truths
08:02 Marriage and the Struggle with Identity
10:19 The Complexity of Relationships
11:29 Fatherhood and Compartmentalization
14:11 The Breaking Point of Authenticity
20:41 Embracing Authenticity: The Journey of Coming Out
24:11 Finding Love: The Role of Timing and Connection
29:40 Family Dynamics: Coming Out to Loved Ones
32:46 Reflections on Life: Lessons Learned and Moving Forward
37:05 Closing

Book Recommendation:

Journey Out: Memoirs of men coming to grips with their orientation, by Gene Probasco

https://a.co/d/b2y78Bt

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/IYLGA_lLYGs

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
https://linktr.ee/davidacotton

© 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/67978569Wed, 01 Oct 2025 22:46:50 +0000David CottonSummary Kevin O'Connor shares his profound journey of self-discovery, coming out at 55 after two marriages and raising children. He reflects on his childhood experiences, the struggles of acceptance, and the complexities of navigating...Summary

Kevin O'Connor shares his profound journey of self-discovery, coming out at 55 after two marriages and raising children. He reflects on his childhood experiences, the struggles of acceptance, and the complexities of navigating relationships. Through candid discussions, he reveals the challenges of living authentically and the joy of finding love with his husband after years of hiding his true self. Kevin emphasizes the importance of embracing one's identity and the lessons learned throughout his life.

Keywords

coming out, LGBTQ, self-acceptance, relationships, marriage, personal journey, authenticity, love, family, memoir

Takeaways

Kevin came out at 55 after two marriages.
He struggled with acceptance from a young age.
His childhood experiences shaped his understanding of identity.
Navigating relationships was complex due to his hidden sexuality.
He found love with his husband after years of self-discovery.
Kevin emphasizes the importance of authenticity in life.
He reflects on the challenges of being a gay educator.
His journey highlights the significance of family support.
Kevin's story serves as an inspiration for others in similar situations.
He believes in the power of sharing one's story to help others.

https://a.co/d/b2y78Bt

Turning 60 was a pivotal moment for Bill.
He felt his life was fake before coming out.
Fear of losing family and friends kept him in the closet.
Bill's camping trip was a time for deep reflection.
His ex-wife's support was crucial for his journey.
Family reactions varied, with his daughter initially upset.
Bill's son took time to accept his father's new identity.
He found a sense of belonging in the LGBTQ community.
Authenticity has brought him peace and happiness.
Bill encourages others to take baby steps in their journey.

Sound Bites

"I wanted to feel more authentic."
"I could have done this 10 years ago."
"Fear kept me in the closet for years."

Chapters
00:00 A Turning Point at 60
12:40 The Journey of Coming Out
19:55 Authenticity and Self-Discovery
22:09 Advice for Others in the Closet

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/9TEPfX13JB8

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com https://linktr.ee/davidacotton

© 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/67250929Mon, 04 Aug 2025 22:43:58 +0000David CottonSummary In this episode of Out Late with David, Bill Schroeder shares his transformative journey of coming out as a gay man at the age of 60 after 37 years of marriage. He reflects on the feelings of fear and authenticity that led him to finally...Summary

In this episode of Out Late with David, Bill Schroeder shares his transformative journey of coming out as a gay man at the age of 60 after 37 years of marriage. He reflects on the feelings of fear and authenticity that led him to finally embrace his true self. Bill discusses the emotional challenges he faced, the reactions of his family, and the importance of self-discovery. He emphasizes that it's never too late to live authentically and offers advice for others who may be struggling with their identity. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ, authenticity, self-discovery, family dynamics, life coaching, personal growth, emotional journey, gay men, late life coming out

Takeaways

Turning 60 was a pivotal moment for Bill.
He felt his life was fake before coming out.
Fear of losing family and friends kept him in the closet.
Bill's camping trip was a time for deep reflection.
His ex-wife's support was crucial for his journey.
Family reactions varied, with his daughter initially upset.
Bill's son took time to accept his father's new identity.
He found a sense of belonging in the LGBTQ community.
Authenticity has brought him peace and happiness.
Bill encourages others to take baby steps in their journey.

Sound Bites

"I wanted to feel more authentic."
"I could have done this 10 years ago."
"Fear kept me in the closet for years."

Chapters
00:00 A Turning Point at 60
12:40 The Journey of Coming Out
19:55 Authenticity and Self-Discovery
22:09 Advice for Others in the Closet

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/9TEPfX13JB8

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com https://linktr.ee/davidacotton

© 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized...]]>1598authenticity,coaching,comingout,dynamics,emotional,family,gay,growth,journey,late,late-in-life-coming-out,lgbtq,life,men,personal,self-discoveryfalse327fullKami Hunley-Jackson - Faith, Family & Findings: The Complex Journey of Coming Outhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary

In this conversation with David, LGBTQ+ ally and researcher Kami Hunley-Jackson, who shares her personal journey and research on the coming out process, particularly focusing on the experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals and their families. The former Latter Day Saint is the mother of two LGBTQ+ children and sister to her gay brother. She discusses the challenges faced by families, the impact of religion, and the importance of communication and support systems. Kami emphasizes the need for understanding and acceptance, both for those coming out and their loved ones, and highlights the mental health implications of the coming out journey. The conversation also touches on the evolving nature of religious acceptance and the importance of creating safe spaces for dialogue. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ+, acceptance, mental health, family support, religion, communication, research, personal stories, allyship

Takeaways

Kami's personal experiences with her children and brother shaped her understanding of the coming out process.
The decision between religious beliefs and family acceptance can be a painful conflict for parents.
Supportive communities, like Mama Dragons, provide essential resources for families of LGBTQ+ individuals.
The theater community often offers a more accepting environment for LGBTQ+ individuals.
Kami's research revealed that non-religious individuals tend to communicate better during the coming out process.
Mental health issues, including suicidal ideation, were prevalent among the study participants.
Self-acceptance is a crucial step in the coming out journey, often requiring individuals to confront their identity.
The coming out process is deeply personal and should be respected as such by family members.
Creating a safe space for communication is vital for both the individual coming out and their loved ones.
Religious institutions are evolving, with some becoming more inclusive of LGBTQ+ individuals.

Sound Bites

"I realized that I needed to search my own heart."
"The love of a mother over the situation."
"I acted differently this time around."

Audio Chapters

00:00 Understanding the Importance of Coming Out
02:36 Personal Journeys: Family and Acceptance 05:25 The Role of Religion in Coming Out
08:35 Research Insights: Communication and Relationships
11:13 Mental Health and the Coming Out Process
14:05 Support Systems and Resources
16:48 Advice for Families and Individuals
19:51 Looking Ahead: Future Research Directions

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/jCsPAB9C2aM

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact David:

© 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/66862780Sat, 05 Jul 2025 02:54:53 +0000David CottonSummary In this conversation with David, LGBTQ+ ally and researcher Kami Hunley-Jackson, who shares her personal journey and research on the coming out process, particularly focusing on the experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals and their families. The...Summary

In this conversation with David, LGBTQ+ ally and researcher Kami Hunley-Jackson, who shares her personal journey and research on the coming out process, particularly focusing on the experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals and their families. The former Latter Day Saint is the mother of two LGBTQ+ children and sister to her gay brother. She discusses the challenges faced by families, the impact of religion, and the importance of communication and support systems. Kami emphasizes the need for understanding and acceptance, both for those coming out and their loved ones, and highlights the mental health implications of the coming out journey. The conversation also touches on the evolving nature of religious acceptance and the importance of creating safe spaces for dialogue. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ+, acceptance, mental health, family support, religion, communication, research, personal stories, allyship

Takeaways

Kami's personal experiences with her children and brother shaped her understanding of the coming out process.
The decision between religious beliefs and family acceptance can be a painful conflict for parents.
Supportive communities, like Mama Dragons, provide essential resources for families of LGBTQ+ individuals.
The theater community often offers a more accepting environment for LGBTQ+ individuals.
Kami's research revealed that non-religious individuals tend to communicate better during the coming out process.
Mental health issues, including suicidal ideation, were prevalent among the study participants.
Self-acceptance is a crucial step in the coming out journey, often requiring individuals to confront their identity.
The coming out process is deeply personal and should be respected as such by family members.
Creating a safe space for communication is vital for both the individual coming out and their loved ones.
Religious institutions are evolving, with some becoming more inclusive of LGBTQ+ individuals.

Sound Bites

"I realized that I needed to search my own heart."
"The love of a mother over the situation."
"I acted differently this time around."

mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
226full
Wendy Cole - "Gender is Between the Ears, and Not the Legs"https://www.outlatewithdavid.com
Summary

At age 67, Wendy Cole transitioned from male to female after a lifetime of hiding her true identity. In this candid conversation, Wendy shares the emotional cost of repression, her turning point in 2014, and how she found joy, health, and purpose by finally embracing who she is. Now a mentor and advocate, Wendy is helping others navigate their own gender journeys and working to humanize what it means to be transgender.

Keywords

transgender, coming out, identity, support, mental health, community, authenticity, transition, LGBTQ+, personal growth

Takeaways
- Wendy transitioned male to female at age 67.
- She felt a lifelong sense of not belonging.
- Gender identity is formed in the brain during the second trimester.
- Wendy faced significant societal and familial pressure to conform.
- She repressed her identity for decades due to fear and shame.
- The DSM's classification of LGBTQ+ identities has evolved over time.
- Wendy found support and community later in life.
- She emphasizes the importance of living authentically.
- Wendy's mission is to educate others about transgender experiences.
- It's never too late to pursue one's true identity.
Sound Bites
- "I was punished for breaking my glasses."
- "I was taken to a psychiatrist."
- "I was threatened with being committed."
- "I couldn't take it anymore."
- "I was doing this out of survival."
- "I was pretty much on my own."
- "I was going to do this for me."
- "It's never too late to take charge."
Audio Chapters

00:00 Wendy's Journey of Self-Discovery
11:58 The Struggles of Repression and Acceptance
22:15 Transitioning and Finding Community
32:29 Living Authentically and Educating Others

More About Wendy Cole:
- http://meetwendycole.com/
- https://wendycolegtm.net/category/podcasts/
- Demystifying the Transgender Journey Podcast: https://wendycolegtm.net/episode-001-demystifying-this-podcast/
Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/eU5v97dHNIs

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact David:
- mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
- https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
- https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
- https://linktr.ee/davidacotton
© 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/66566709Sun, 15 Jun 2025 18:58:40 +0000
David CottonSummary At age 67, Wendy Cole transitioned from male to female after a lifetime of hiding her true identity. In this candid conversation, Wendy shares the emotional cost of repression, her turning point in 2014, and how she found joy, health, and...
Summary

At age 67, Wendy Cole transitioned from male to female after a lifetime of hiding her true identity. In this candid conversation, Wendy shares the emotional cost of repression, her turning point in 2014, and how she found joy, health, and purpose by finally embracing who she is. Now a mentor and advocate, Wendy is helping others navigate their own gender journeys and working to humanize what it means to be transgender.

Keywords

transgender, coming out, identity, support, mental health, community, authenticity, transition, LGBTQ+, personal growth

Takeaways
- Wendy transitioned male to female at age 67.
- She felt a lifelong sense of not belonging.
- Gender identity is formed in the brain during the second trimester.
- Wendy faced significant societal and familial pressure to conform.
- She repressed her identity for decades due to fear and shame.
- The DSM's classification of LGBTQ+ identities has evolved over time.
- Wendy found support and community later in life.
- She emphasizes the importance of living authentically.
- Wendy's mission is to educate others about transgender experiences.
- It's never too late to pursue one's true identity.
Sound Bites
- "I was punished for breaking my glasses."
- "I was taken to a psychiatrist."
- "I was threatened with being committed."
- "I couldn't take it anymore."
- "I was doing this out of survival."
- "I was pretty much on my own."
- "I was going to do this for me."
- "It's never too late to take charge."
Audio Chapters

00:00 Wendy's Journey of Self-Discovery
11:58 The Struggles of Repression and Acceptance
22:15 Transitioning and Finding Community
32:29 Living Authentically and Educating Others

More About Wendy Cole:
- http://meetwendycole.com/
- https://wendycolegtm.net/category/podcasts/
- Demystifying the Transgender Journey Podcast: https://wendycolegtm.net/episode-001-demystifying-this-podcast/
Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com

YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/eU5v97dHNIs

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com

Contact David:
- mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
- https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
- 2593authenticity,coming,comingout,community,growth,health,identity,lgbtq+,mental,out,personal,support,trans,transgender,transitionfalse225fullBONUS - Navigating the Journey of Coming Out with hosts of the Out Loud podcast, Jon and Brianhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.com
  Out Loud Podcast with Jon and Brian:
  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/out-loud/id1560962922
  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHLEcaJ0RewmS9XyfVa-fww
  
  Summary
  
  In this episode of Out Late With David, David Cotton is a guest on the podcast, Out Loud, while visiting Key West FL. Along with the hosts of Out Loud, Jon and Brian, they discuss the complexities of coming out later in life, the importance of community support, and the dynamics of relationships, especially for older gay men. He shares insights from his experiences and those of his guests, emphasizing the need for authenticity, compassion, and understanding in navigating personal journeys and family dynamics. The conversation also touches on the challenges faced by older men in the dating world and offers advice on how to approach relationships with clarity and openness.
  
  Keywords
  
  coming out, LGBTQ, age gap relationships, gay community, life coaching, support, authenticity, family dynamics, relationships, self-discovery
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a complex journey.
  Community support is crucial for those coming out.
  Navigating family dynamics requires patience and understanding.
  Authenticity is key to living a fulfilling life.
  Older men face unique challenges in dating.
  It's important to communicate clearly in relationships.
  Self-acceptance is a vital part of the coming out process.
  Compartmentalization can hinder personal growth.
  You can maintain relationships even after coming out.
  Love can be found unexpectedly, regardless of age.
  
  Sound Bites
  "Don't rush into coming out."
  "I couldn't continue living a lie."
  "You have to accept who you are."
  "I feel transparent many times."
  
  Audio Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction to Out Late with David
  01:06 Coming Out Later in Life
  04:05 The Role of Community and Support
  07:54 Navigating Relationships and Family Dynamics
  12:09 The Impact of Age and Experience
  15:54 Living Authentically and Finding Peace
  18:45 Advice for Older Men in Dating
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/YOGFb9CWCjw
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  https://linktr.ee/davidacotton
  
  © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/66426884Sat, 07 Jun 2025 00:59:35 +0000David CottonThank you to Jon & Brian of Out Loud for allowing me to publish this episode from their podcast. You guys are fantastic! I've been a fan since I first discovered you on YouTube! Keep living your life, OUT LOUD!! Out Loud Podcast with Jon and...
  Out Loud Podcast with Jon and Brian:
  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/out-loud/id1560962922
  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHLEcaJ0RewmS9XyfVa-fww
  
  Summary
  
  In this episode of Out Late With David, David Cotton is a guest on the podcast, Out Loud, while visiting Key West FL. Along with the hosts of Out Loud, Jon and Brian, they discuss the complexities of coming out later in life, the importance of community support, and the dynamics of relationships, especially for older gay men. He shares insights from his experiences and those of his guests, emphasizing the need for authenticity, compassion, and understanding in navigating personal journeys and family dynamics. The conversation also touches on the challenges faced by older men in the dating world and offers advice on how to approach relationships with clarity and openness.
  
  Keywords
  
  coming out, LGBTQ, age gap relationships, gay community, life coaching, support, authenticity, family dynamics, relationships, self-discovery
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a complex journey.
  Community support is crucial for those coming out.
  Navigating family dynamics requires patience and understanding.
  Authenticity is key to living a fulfilling life.
  Older men face unique challenges in dating.
  It's important to communicate clearly in relationships.
  Self-acceptance is a vital part of the coming out process.
  Compartmentalization can hinder personal growth.
  You can maintain relationships even after coming out.
  Love can be found unexpectedly, regardless of age.
  
  Sound Bites
  "Don't rush into coming out."
  "I couldn't continue living a lie."
  "You have to accept who you are."
  "I feel transparent many times."
  
  Audio Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction to Out Late with David
  01:06 Coming Out Later in Life
  04:05 The Role of Community and Support
  07:54 Navigating Relationships and Family Dynamics
  12:09 The Impact of Age and Experience
  15:54 Living Authentically and Finding Peace
  18:45 Advice for Older Men in Dating
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/YOGFb9CWCjw
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  1341age,agegap,age-gap,authenticity,coaching,coming,comingout,community,dynamics,family,gap,gay,gaycommunity,gay-community,lgbtq,lifecoach,out,relationships,self-discovery,supportfalse224fullWayne Scott - Redefining Marriage: A Journey Through Non-Monogamyhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary
  
  In this conversation, Wayne Scott shares his journey through a mixed orientation marriage, detailing the challenges and transformations he and his wife faced. They navigated the complexities of identity, love, and commitment, ultimately redefining their relationship through non-monogamy. Wayne emphasizes the importance of communication, patience, and the willingness to adapt as individuals grow over time. His story serves as a testament to the possibility of creating a fulfilling partnership that honors both personal and shared desires.
  
  Keywords
  
  mixed orientation marriage, non-monogamy, relationships, LGBTQ+, marriage advice, communication, love story, personal growth, therapy, bisexuality, coming out, LGBTQ+
  
  Takeaways
  Mixed orientation marriages can thrive without ending in divorce.
  Communication is key in navigating relationship challenges.
  Non-monogamy can be a viable option for some couples.
  Patience is essential when exploring new relationship dynamics.
  It's important to redefine what marriage means to you.
  Love can persist through difficult transitions in a relationship.
  Couples can create their own rules for their relationship.
  Support from a therapist can facilitate difficult conversations.
  Children can adapt to their parents' non-traditional relationships.
  Personal growth is a continuous journey within a marriage.
  Sound Bites
  "It doesn't always end in divorce."
  "A new idea turned his marriage into a love story."
  "Your marriage can be whatever you want it to be."
  "It's okay to take a couple years to figure it out."
  "It can be whatever you want it to be."
  "They chose to break the rules and norms of society."
  Audio Chapters
  
  00:00 Navigating Mixed Orientation Marriages
  09:50 The Shift to Non-Monogamy
  20:01 Lessons Learned from Non-Traditional Relationships
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/wHFdiTkYoYk
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. ]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/65237874Sun, 30 Mar 2025 18:53:42 +0000David CottonSummary In this conversation, Wayne Scott shares his journey through a mixed orientation marriage, detailing the challenges and transformations he and his wife faced. They navigated the complexities of identity, love, and commitment, ultimately...Summary
  
  In this conversation, Wayne Scott shares his journey through a mixed orientation marriage, detailing the challenges and transformations he and his wife faced. They navigated the complexities of identity, love, and commitment, ultimately redefining their relationship through non-monogamy. Wayne emphasizes the importance of communication, patience, and the willingness to adapt as individuals grow over time. His story serves as a testament to the possibility of creating a fulfilling partnership that honors both personal and shared desires.
  
  Keywords
  
  mixed orientation marriage, non-monogamy, relationships, LGBTQ+, marriage advice, communication, love story, personal growth, therapy, bisexuality, coming out, LGBTQ+
  
  Takeaways
  Mixed orientation marriages can thrive without ending in divorce.
  Communication is key in navigating relationship challenges.
  Non-monogamy can be a viable option for some couples.
  Patience is essential when exploring new relationship dynamics.
  It's important to redefine what marriage means to you.
  Love can persist through difficult transitions in a relationship.
  Couples can create their own rules for their relationship.
  Support from a therapist can facilitate difficult conversations.
  Children can adapt to their parents' non-traditional relationships.
  Personal growth is a continuous journey within a marriage.
  Sound Bites
  "It doesn't always end in divorce."
  "A new idea turned his marriage into a love story."
  "Your marriage can be whatever you want it to be."
  "It's okay to take a couple years to figure it out."
  "It can be whatever you want it to be."
  "They chose to break the rules and norms of society."
  Audio Chapters
  
  00:00 Navigating Mixed Orientation Marriages
  09:50 The Shift to Non-Monogamy
  20:01 Lessons Learned from Non-Traditional Relationships
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/wHFdiTkYoYk
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. ]]>1911advice,bisexuality,comingout,coming-out,communication,growth,lgbtq+,lovestory,love-story,mixedorientationmarriage,mixed-orientation-marriage,mom,non-monogamy,personal,relationships,therapyfalse223fullStefan Schneider - building the modern familyhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.com
  Takeaways
  Coming out is a complex process that varies for everyone.
  The societal context during the early 90s made coming out challenging.
  Authenticity in relationships can create both closeness and tension.
  Divorce can be a painful but necessary step towards self-acceptance.
  Rebuilding relationships with children requires patience and love.
  Self-discovery often involves confronting difficult truths about oneself.
  Having a clear vision of what you want in a partner can guide your choices.
  The journey to happiness is not linear and requires effort.
  Childhood experiences can shape one's understanding of identity.
  Creating a supportive environment for children is crucial during transitions.
  Sound Bites
  "I just wanted to fit in and be normal."
  "The only way out is through sometimes."
  "I always wanted to be a dad."
  "I had to sacrifice something of myself."
  "I felt like I had split up my family."
  "We met on Christian Mingle."
  
  Chapters
  
  00:00 Navigating Identity and Relationships
  15:00 The Journey of Self-Discovery
  30:00 Building a Blended Family
  33:48 Reflections on Happiness and Authenticity
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/YGWJGVhw2s8
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/64723017Thu, 06 Mar 2025 05:44:28 +0000David CottonIn this episode of Out Late with David, Stefan Schneider shares his journey of coming out as gay, navigating relationships, and building a modern family. He reflects on the challenges of coming out in the early 90s, the impact of his sexuality on his...
  Takeaways
  Coming out is a complex process that varies for everyone.
  The societal context during the early 90s made coming out challenging.
  Authenticity in relationships can create both closeness and tension.
  Divorce can be a painful but necessary step towards self-acceptance.
  Rebuilding relationships with children requires patience and love.
  Self-discovery often involves confronting difficult truths about oneself.
  Having a clear vision of what you want in a partner can guide your choices.
  The journey to happiness is not linear and requires effort.
  Childhood experiences can shape one's understanding of identity.
  Creating a supportive environment for children is crucial during transitions.
  Sound Bites
  "I just wanted to fit in and be normal."
  "The only way out is through sometimes."
  "I always wanted to be a dad."
  "I had to sacrifice something of myself."
  "I felt like I had split up my family."
  "We met on Christian Mingle."
  
  Chapters
  
  00:00 Navigating Identity and Relationships
  15:00 The Journey of Self-Discovery
  30:00 Building a Blended Family
  33:48 Reflections on Happiness and Authenticity
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/YGWJGVhw2s8
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>2093acceptance,comingout,divorce,dynamics,family,happiness,identity,lgbtq+,modern,relationships,self-discoveryfalse122fullMark Dembo - the weight of truth…a journey of self-discoveryhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary
  
  Mark Dembo shares his journey of coming out at the age of 59, reflecting on the challenges and transformations he faced in his relationships, particularly with his wife and children. He discusses the emotional weight of living a life that felt inauthentic and the liberation he felt upon embracing his true self. Mark emphasizes the importance of support from family and community, and the complexities of navigating a mixed-orientation marriage. His story highlights the potential for love and acceptance even in the face of significant life changes. Mark emphasizes the significance of love and understanding in navigating the challenges of coming out later in life, offering insights and advice for others on similar journeys. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ, self-discovery, relationships, family dynamics, support groups, acceptance, personal growth, authenticity, mental health
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a complex journey.
  Self-acceptance often comes with emotional weight.
  Support from family is crucial during the coming out process.
  Navigating relationships requires patience and understanding.
  Community support can provide a sense of belonging.
  Publicly embracing one's identity can be liberating.
  It's important to allow space for emotions in relationships.
  Guilt is a common feeling for those coming out later in life.
  Maintaining friendships post-separation is possible.
  Every individual's journey is unique, but shared experiences can help.
  Sound Bites
  "I was living somebody else's life."
  "I consider myself so very lucky in who she is."
  "I want to do whatever I can to help."
  "You have nothing to feel guilty for."
  "I recognize that I didn't choose this."
  "I can't fight that; it's who I am."
  Audio Chapters
  
  00:00 Mark's Journey of Self-Discovery
  07:51 The Impact of Coming Out on Relationships
  15:45 Navigating Family Dynamics
  20:57 Finding Community and Support
  26:05 Publicly Embracing Authenticity
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/8RrNuddNU-c
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/63759195Mon, 20 Jan 2025 08:46:39 +0000David CottonSummary Mark Dembo shares his journey of coming out at the age of 59, reflecting on the challenges and transformations he faced in his relationships, particularly with his wife and children. He discusses the emotional weight of living a life that...Summary
  
  Mark Dembo shares his journey of coming out at the age of 59, reflecting on the challenges and transformations he faced in his relationships, particularly with his wife and children. He discusses the emotional weight of living a life that felt inauthentic and the liberation he felt upon embracing his true self. Mark emphasizes the importance of support from family and community, and the complexities of navigating a mixed-orientation marriage. His story highlights the potential for love and acceptance even in the face of significant life changes. Mark emphasizes the significance of love and understanding in navigating the challenges of coming out later in life, offering insights and advice for others on similar journeys. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ, self-discovery, relationships, family dynamics, support groups, acceptance, personal growth, authenticity, mental health
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a complex journey.
  Self-acceptance often comes with emotional weight.
  Support from family is crucial during the coming out process.
  Navigating relationships requires patience and understanding.
  Community support can provide a sense of belonging.
  Publicly embracing one's identity can be liberating.
  It's important to allow space for emotions in relationships.
  Guilt is a common feeling for those coming out later in life.
  Maintaining friendships post-separation is possible.
  Every individual's journey is unique, but shared experiences can help.
  Sound Bites
  "I was living somebody else's life."
  "I consider myself so very lucky in who she is."
  "I want to do whatever I can to help."
  "You have nothing to feel guilty for."
  "I recognize that I didn't choose this."
  "I can't fight that; it's who I am."
  Audio Chapters
  
  00:00 Mark's Journey of Self-Discovery
  07:51 The Impact of Coming Out on Relationships
  15:45 Navigating Family Dynamics
  20:57 Finding Community and Support
  26:05 Publicly Embracing Authenticity
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/8RrNuddNU-c
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>2096acceptance,authenticity,comingout,dynamics,family,familydynamics,groups,growth,health,lgbtq,mental,mentalhealth,personal,personalgrowth,relationships,self-discovery,supportfalse221fullJohn Duerler - navigating complexities of coming out while creating community for gay fathershttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary
  
  In this interview David Cotton speaks with John Duerler who shares his journey of self-discovery as a gay man, navigating the complexities of coming out to his family and the challenges of maintaining relationships. He discusses the importance of being true to oneself, the supportive reactions from his family, and the creation of a community for gay fathers. John emphasizes the significance of open communication and offers advice for others in similar situations, highlighting that they are not alone in their struggles. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ, family dynamics, self-discovery, relationships, gay fathers, acceptance, mental health, personal growth, community support Takeaways
  John's journey of self-discovery began in childhood.
  He dated women for many years before coming out.
  Family support played a crucial role in his coming out process.
  John's children reacted positively to his coming out.
  He emphasizes the importance of therapy in understanding one's identity.
  John's relationship with his wife remains amicable despite their separation.
  He created a community for gay fathers to share experiences.
  John's podcast aims to help others navigate similar journeys.
  He believes in the power of open communication within families.
  John encourages others to seek help and support during their journey.
  Sound Bites
  
  "I had to be true to myself."
  "I want to come work for you."
  "It gets better."
  "You're not alone."
  "Be true to yourself. Get help."
  
  Audio Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction to Coming Out Journeys
  03:00 Early Experiences and Realizations
  05:55 Navigating Relationships and Family Dynamics
  08:49 The Impact of Family and Support Systems
  12:13 Coming Out to Family and Friends
  15:10 Creating a Supportive Community
  18:02 Reflections on Dating and Relationships
  20:46 Advice for Others on Their Journey
  24:07 Conclusion and Resources
  
  Book Recommendation: Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life, edited by Vinnie Kinsella.   https://a.co/d/dh3N2yM
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/0Dx2jCfpzlQ
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/62697714Tue, 12 Nov 2024 00:05:21 +0000David CottonSummary In this interview David Cotton speaks with John Duerler who shares his journey of self-discovery as a gay man, navigating the complexities of coming out to his family and the challenges of maintaining relationships. He discusses the...Summary
  
  In this interview David Cotton speaks with John Duerler who shares his journey of self-discovery as a gay man, navigating the complexities of coming out to his family and the challenges of maintaining relationships. He discusses the importance of being true to oneself, the supportive reactions from his family, and the creation of a community for gay fathers. John emphasizes the significance of open communication and offers advice for others in similar situations, highlighting that they are not alone in their struggles. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ, family dynamics, self-discovery, relationships, gay fathers, acceptance, mental health, personal growth, community support Takeaways
  John's journey of self-discovery began in childhood.
  He dated women for many years before coming out.
  Family support played a crucial role in his coming out process.
  John's children reacted positively to his coming out.
  He emphasizes the importance of therapy in understanding one's identity.
  John's relationship with his wife remains amicable despite their separation.
  He created a community for gay fathers to share experiences.
  John's podcast aims to help others navigate similar journeys.
  He believes in the power of open communication within families.
  John encourages others to seek help and support during their journey.
  Sound Bites
  
  "I had to be true to myself."
  "I want to come work for you."
  "It gets better."
  "You're not alone."
  "Be true to yourself. Get help."
  
  Audio Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction to Coming Out Journeys
  03:00 Early Experiences and Realizations
  05:55 Navigating Relationships and Family Dynamics
  08:49 The Impact of Family and Support Systems
  12:13 Coming Out to Family and Friends
  15:10 Creating a Supportive Community
  18:02 Reflections on Dating and Relationships
  20:46 Advice for Others on Their Journey
  24:07 Conclusion and Resources
  
  Book Recommendation: Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life, edited by Vinnie Kinsella.   https://a.co/d/dh3N2yM
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/0Dx2jCfpzlQ
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>1726acceptance,coming,community,dynamics,family,fathers,gay,growth,health,lgbtq,mental,out,personal,relationships,self-discovery,supporttrue220fullDavid Nygaard - divorce, heart attack, bankruptcy…a journey of resiliencehttps://www.outlatewithdavid.com
  Keywords coming out, LGBTQ+, self-discovery, relationships, authenticity, heart attack, personal growth, life changes, gay marriage, mental health
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a complex journey.
  David Nygaard's story reflects the complexities of self-discovery.
  Growing up, he felt an early attraction to men but lacked the language to express it.
  He wore a metaphorical mask to hide his true self.
  His involvement in evangelical Christianity was a way to escape depression.
  David's marriage was filled with happiness despite his hidden sexuality.
  The divorce allowed him to explore his identity more freely.
  He experienced a life-changing heart attack that prompted a reevaluation of his life.
  Authenticity became a priority after his health crisis.
  Political activism can be a way to impact the community positively.
  It's important to seek therapy to navigate mixed orientation marriages.
  David Cotton emphasizes the importance of dating oneself before seeking a partner.
  He encourages others to seek therapy to navigate their feelings.
  Sound Bites
  "My story reads like a soap opera."
  "I always had an affinity or an attraction to guys."
  "We grew up in an age where it was illegal to be gay."
  "I put on what I'd say is a three foot mask."
  Audio Chapters
  
  00:00 Awakening to Identity
  05:40 Navigating Relationships and Marriage
  10:02 Embracing Authenticity Post-Divorce
  18:16 Health Crisis and Life Changes
  24:32 Political Aspirations and Community Impact
  27:55 Building a New Relationship
  30:47 Advice for Those in Mixed Orientation Marriages
  
  Book Recommendation: “Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi?” by Joe Kort. https://a.co/d/0J2egb1
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/4ius0O4Y_8U
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/62314824Thu, 10 Oct 2024 16:52:48 +0000David CottonIn this conversation, David Cotton speaks with David Nygaard about his journey of coming out as gay later in life. They discuss the challenges of recognizing one's identity in a society that often stigmatizes homosexuality, the complexities of...
  Keywords coming out, LGBTQ+, self-discovery, relationships, authenticity, heart attack, personal growth, life changes, gay marriage, mental health
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a complex journey.
  David Nygaard's story reflects the complexities of self-discovery.
  Growing up, he felt an early attraction to men but lacked the language to express it.
  He wore a metaphorical mask to hide his true self.
  His involvement in evangelical Christianity was a way to escape depression.
  David's marriage was filled with happiness despite his hidden sexuality.
  The divorce allowed him to explore his identity more freely.
  He experienced a life-changing heart attack that prompted a reevaluation of his life.
  Authenticity became a priority after his health crisis.
  Political activism can be a way to impact the community positively.
  It's important to seek therapy to navigate mixed orientation marriages.
  David Cotton emphasizes the importance of dating oneself before seeking a partner.
  He encourages others to seek therapy to navigate their feelings.
  Sound Bites
  "My story reads like a soap opera."
  "I always had an affinity or an attraction to guys."
  "We grew up in an age where it was illegal to be gay."
  "I put on what I'd say is a three foot mask."
  Audio Chapters
  
  00:00 Awakening to Identity
  05:40 Navigating Relationships and Marriage
  10:02 Embracing Authenticity Post-Divorce
  18:16 Health Crisis and Life Changes
  24:32 Political Aspirations and Community Impact
  27:55 Building a New Relationship
  30:47 Advice for Those in Mixed Orientation Marriages
  
  Book Recommendation: “Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi?” by Joe Kort. https://a.co/d/0J2egb1
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/4ius0O4Y_8U
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used,...]]>1973attack,authenticity,coming,comingout,gay,growth,health,heart,heartattack,lgbtq+,lifechanges,marriage,mental,out,personal,relationships,self-discoveryfalse219fullBrian Janes - came out after 26 years of marriage, now finding his place in his new communityhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary
  
  Brian Janes, a successful real estate broker, came out as gay at age 49 after 26 years of marriage. He loved being married and had a strong connection with his wife, but deep down, he had a sexual desire that didn't match up with her. After years of therapy and self-help, his wife eventually told him she wanted a divorce. Brian knew he was gay from a young age but didn't know how to embrace it. He suppressed his true self and lived in fear of being found out. After his divorce, he made the decision to come out and started a podcast for men coming out later in life.
  
  Keywords: comingout, marriage, divorce, self-discovery, suppression, fear, loneliness, podcast, outlate, gay, alwaysgay
  
  Takeaways
  
  Suppressing your true self can lead to frustration and strain in relationships.
  Coming out later in life can be a difficult and lonely process.
  Embracing your true self can lead to personal growth and a more fulfilling life.
  Sharing your story and being vulnerable can help others going through similar experiences.
  
  Titles
  
  The Journey of Coming Out Later in Life
  Embracing Your True Self and Finding Personal Growth
  
  Sound Bites
  "Don't Let Your Wonder Turn Into Closure"
  "Here I Am, a Proud Gay Man"
  "You're Not Alone, We're All Out Here"
  
  Chapters (audio)
  
  00:00 Introduction: Brian James' Journey
  01:15 The Love and Connection of Marriage
  03:11 The Strain and Separation in Divorce
  04:09 Suppressing Identity and Fear of Coming Out
  08:27 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Discovery
  14:13 Coming Out to Ex-Wife and Children
  18:12 Starting the Podcast: Coming Inside Out
  23:09 Loneliness and Struggles After Coming Out
  28:14 Advice for Married Men Struggling with Acceptance
  30:31 Conclusion: Forgiving and Loving Yourself
  
  Chapters (video)
  
  00:00 Introduction and Background
  03:04 Suppressing True Self in a Marriage
  07:50 The Decision to Come Out
  10:43 The Power of Wonder and Curiosity
  13:36 Coming Out to Ex-Wife and Children
  17:23 Exploring the New World
  19:17 Regrets and Self-Kindness
  21:2 0Loneliness and Self-Discovery
  24:19 Starting the Podcast
  27:37 Advice for Married Men Struggling with Acceptance
  29:54 Summary and Closing
  
  Song Lyric Reflection: Ben Platt's "Older."
  Older lyrics: https://www.google.com/search?q=ben+platt+older+lyrics&oq=ben+platt+older+lyrics&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIKCAEQABiABBiiBDIKCAIQABiABBiiBNIBCDQ2NzdqMGo3qAIIsAIB&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8
  Older on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_sADbvPmzE
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/n3Iuqhu2K5M
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified
  
  Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/61190219Wed, 28 Aug 2024 19:37:32 +0000David CottonSummary Brian Janes, a successful real estate broker, came out as gay at age 49 after 26 years of marriage. He loved being married and had a strong connection with his wife, but deep down, he had a sexual desire that didn't match up with her. After...Summary
  
  Brian Janes, a successful real estate broker, came out as gay at age 49 after 26 years of marriage. He loved being married and had a strong connection with his wife, but deep down, he had a sexual desire that didn't match up with her. After years of therapy and self-help, his wife eventually told him she wanted a divorce. Brian knew he was gay from a young age but didn't know how to embrace it. He suppressed his true self and lived in fear of being found out. After his divorce, he made the decision to come out and started a podcast for men coming out later in life.
  
  Keywords: comingout, marriage, divorce, self-discovery, suppression, fear, loneliness, podcast, outlate, gay, alwaysgay
  
  Takeaways
  
  Suppressing your true self can lead to frustration and strain in relationships.
  Coming out later in life can be a difficult and lonely process.
  Embracing your true self can lead to personal growth and a more fulfilling life.
  Sharing your story and being vulnerable can help others going through similar experiences.
  
  Titles
  
  The Journey of Coming Out Later in Life
  Embracing Your True Self and Finding Personal Growth
  
  Sound Bites
  "Don't Let Your Wonder Turn Into Closure"
  "Here I Am, a Proud Gay Man"
  "You're Not Alone, We're All Out Here"
  
  Chapters (audio)
  
  00:00 Introduction: Brian James' Journey
  01:15 The Love and Connection of Marriage
  03:11 The Strain and Separation in Divorce
  04:09 Suppressing Identity and Fear of Coming Out
  08:27 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Discovery
  14:13 Coming Out to Ex-Wife and Children
  18:12 Starting the Podcast: Coming Inside Out
  23:09 Loneliness and Struggles After Coming Out
  28:14 Advice for Married Men Struggling with Acceptance
  30:31 Conclusion: Forgiving and Loving Yourself
  
  Chapters (video)
  
  00:00 Introduction and Background
  03:04 Suppressing True Self in a Marriage
  07:50 The Decision to Come Out
  10:43 The Power of Wonder and Curiosity
  13:36 Coming Out to Ex-Wife and Children
  17:23 Exploring the New World
  19:17 Regrets and Self-Kindness
  21:2 0Loneliness and Self-Discovery
  24:19 Starting the Podcast
  27:37 Advice for Married Men Struggling with Acceptance
  29:54 Summary and Closing
  
  Song Lyric Reflection: Ben Platt's "Older."
  Older lyrics: https://www.google.com/search?q=ben+platt+older+lyrics&oq=ben+platt+older+lyrics&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIKCAEQABiABBiiBDIKCAIQABiABBiiBNIBCDQ2NzdqMGo3qAIIsAIB&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8
  Older on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_sADbvPmzE
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/n3Iuqhu2K5M
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified
  
  Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: 1893alwaysgay,comingout,depression,divorce,fear,gay,loneliness,marriage,outlate,podcast,self-discovery,suppressionfalse218fullRon Bunnell - 39 years into his marriage before he came out to his wife; now living a full lifehttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary
  
  Ron Bunnell shares his journey of coming out as gay later in life and the impact it had on his marriage. Despite initial fears, Ron's wife, Barb, showed love and support, and they were able to rebuild their relationship. Ron emphasizes the importance of being authentic and true to oneself, even if it means facing challenges. He also highlights the significance of finding support from others in similar situations. Ron's story serves as an inspiration for those navigating mixed orientation marriages and coming out later in life.
  
  Keywords coming out, late in life, marriage, support, authenticity
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a challenging journey, but it is worth pursuing authenticity and being true to oneself.
  Support from loved ones, like Ron's wife Barb, can make a significant difference in navigating the complexities of a mixed orientation marriage.
  Finding a support group or community of individuals in similar situations can provide valuable guidance and understanding.
  Ron's story highlights the importance of love, acceptance, and open-mindedness in relationships and families.
  Sound Bites
  "I literally thought my life would end as I knew it"
  "She wanted me to text her updates on what's going on"
  "I have young friends who don't even have a coming out story, I'm just myself"
  Chapters
  00:00 - Introduction: David Cotton's Out Late Podcast
  01:13- Ron's Decision to Come Out to His Wife
  03:11- Barb's Surprising Reaction and the Rebuilding of Their Relationship
  08:27- Challenges and Complications in Ron's Journey 13:43- Ron's Childhood and Early Signs of His Sexual Orientation
  17:53- The Social and Cultural Context of Ron's Coming Out Journey
  19:19- The Impact of Ron's Sexual Orientation on His Marriage
  22:00- Finding Support and Meeting Scott
  25:14- The Kidney Donation and Its Impact on Ron and Barb's Relationship
  28:36- Barb's Lasting Support and Ron's Advice for Others
  33:02- Closing Remarks: Ron's Inspiring Journey
  
  Book Recommendation: Over the Cliff: Gay Husbands in Straight Marriages – Bonnie Kaye and Doug Dittmer - https://a.co/d/cMEgHNO
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/ep8EEuvEn1U
  
  YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/60752982Sat, 20 Jul 2024 21:51:48 +0000David CottonSummary Ron Bunnell shares his journey of coming out as gay later in life and the impact it had on his marriage. Despite initial fears, Ron's wife, Barb, showed love and support, and they were able to rebuild their relationship. Ron emphasizes the...Summary
  
  Ron Bunnell shares his journey of coming out as gay later in life and the impact it had on his marriage. Despite initial fears, Ron's wife, Barb, showed love and support, and they were able to rebuild their relationship. Ron emphasizes the importance of being authentic and true to oneself, even if it means facing challenges. He also highlights the significance of finding support from others in similar situations. Ron's story serves as an inspiration for those navigating mixed orientation marriages and coming out later in life.
  
  Keywords coming out, late in life, marriage, support, authenticity
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a challenging journey, but it is worth pursuing authenticity and being true to oneself.
  Support from loved ones, like Ron's wife Barb, can make a significant difference in navigating the complexities of a mixed orientation marriage.
  Finding a support group or community of individuals in similar situations can provide valuable guidance and understanding.
  Ron's story highlights the importance of love, acceptance, and open-mindedness in relationships and families.
  Sound Bites
  "I literally thought my life would end as I knew it"
  "She wanted me to text her updates on what's going on"
  "I have young friends who don't even have a coming out story, I'm just myself"
  Chapters
  00:00 - Introduction: David Cotton's Out Late Podcast
  01:13- Ron's Decision to Come Out to His Wife
  03:11- Barb's Surprising Reaction and the Rebuilding of Their Relationship
  08:27- Challenges and Complications in Ron's Journey 13:43- Ron's Childhood and Early Signs of His Sexual Orientation
  17:53- The Social and Cultural Context of Ron's Coming Out Journey
  19:19- The Impact of Ron's Sexual Orientation on His Marriage
  22:00- Finding Support and Meeting Scott
  25:14- The Kidney Donation and Its Impact on Ron and Barb's Relationship
  28:36- Barb's Lasting Support and Ron's Advice for Others
  33:02- Closing Remarks: Ron's Inspiring Journey
  
  Book Recommendation: Over the Cliff: Gay Husbands in Straight Marriages – Bonnie Kaye and Doug Dittmer - https://a.co/d/cMEgHNO
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/ep8EEuvEn1U
  
  YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>2054authenticity,comingout,cominoutlate,gaymarriage,how,husbandsouttowives,kidneydonation,mixedorientationmarriagefalse117fullBrian Beaudette - after being married for 20 years he struggled with the impact on his familyhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary
  
  David's guest, Brian, first came out to his wife over 20 years ago but chose to stay married for the sake of his family.   It took ten years for him to decide it was time to live a different kind of life. Today, at age 59 he can finally say he’s “found his tribe.”
  
  Takeaways
  The struggle of coming out after being married for 20 years
  The impact of coming out on family, work, and community
  Finding a supportive LGBTQ+ community and a sense of belonging
  The relief of embracing authenticity and self-discovery
  Chapters
  
  00:00 The Struggle of Coming Out After 20 Years of Marriage
  05:57 Finding Support and Belonging in the LGBTQ+ Community
  11:41 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Discovery After Coming Out
  
  Book Recommendation: Gay Men and The New Way Forward, by Raymond L. Rigoglioso - https://a.co/d/7uByFA9
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/X5L6lz_TX64
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/60269872Wed, 05 Jun 2024 05:00:05 +0000David CottonSummary David's guest, Brian, first came out to his wife over 20 years ago but chose to stay married for the sake of his family.   It took ten years for him to decide it was time to live a different kind of life. Today, at age 59 he can finally say...Summary
  
  David's guest, Brian, first came out to his wife over 20 years ago but chose to stay married for the sake of his family.   It took ten years for him to decide it was time to live a different kind of life. Today, at age 59 he can finally say he’s “found his tribe.”
  
  Takeaways
  The struggle of coming out after being married for 20 years
  The impact of coming out on family, work, and community
  Finding a supportive LGBTQ+ community and a sense of belonging
  The relief of embracing authenticity and self-discovery
  Chapters
  
  00:00 The Struggle of Coming Out After 20 Years of Marriage
  05:57 Finding Support and Belonging in the LGBTQ+ Community
  11:41 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Discovery After Coming Out
  
  Book Recommendation: Gay Men and The New Way Forward, by Raymond L. Rigoglioso - https://a.co/d/7uByFA9
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/X5L6lz_TX64
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>1606comingout,comingoutlate,gay,lgbt,lgbtqfalse116fullKristin Kalbli - The Impact of Coming Out on Straight Spouseshttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary
  
  In this episode, David Cotton interviews Kristin Kalbli, the host of Our Voices podcast and an LGBT ally. Kristin shares her experience as a straight spouse and her mission to help others in similar situations. They discuss the signs that Kristin missed in her marriage, the impact of her husband's coming out on their relationship, and the importance of honesty and communication in the coming out process. Kristin asks David about his own coming out to his spouse. They also talk about the creation of a guide for coming out to straight partners and spouses, and the need for support and understanding for both parties involved.
  
  Takeaways
  The coming out process can have a significant impact on straight spouses, who may feel betrayed, confused, and humiliated.
  Honesty and open communication are crucial in the coming out process, both for the LGBT spouse and the straight spouse.
  Straight spouses may have questions and need time to process the news, and it's important for the LGBT spouse to be patient and understanding.
  Creating a guide for coming out to straight partners and spouses can help avoid unnecessary pain and damage in the relationship.
  Support and empathy are essential for both parties involved in a mixed orientation marriage.
  Sound Bites
  "The hardest thing that took me the longest to forgive was not that he was gay, not that he was in the closet, but that he didn't let me go so that I could find a loving relationship with a man who was interested in me, loved me, desired me, wanted to have a robust sexual relationship with me."
  "If you're in a position to honor what your spouse would like, whether that's answering their questions or giving them no contact for a while, I think following their lead on that is wise."
  "Pride month can be really difficult for straight spouses. And that's not an indication of bigotry. Many straight spouses have LGBT kids and are fierce allies and defenders of their kids, right? But pride month can be really painful because then you ask yourself the question, well, if he's living his true self now, then I was a part of a lie."
  Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction and Background
  01:09 Kristin's Experience as a Straight Spouse
  09:49 Resources for Straight Spouses
  14:11 The Coming Out Process and Its Impact
  28:46 Preparing to Come Out to a Straight Spouse
  31:31 Supporting the Straight Spouse
  35:42 Honesty and Accountability
  39:34 Conclusion
  
  Information About Kristin Kalbli and OurPath
  Out Path Out Voice: https://ourpath.org/our-voices/
  Guide to coming out as lesbian, gay or bisexual to your straight partner or spouse - by OurPath: https://emfjjpdexyu.exactdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/OP-GuideToComingOutLGB-r1.pdf
  Book Recommendation
  The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families, by Amity Pierce Buxton - https://a.co/d/129LQiC
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/vv20ZumingY
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact David: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/59832980Sun, 05 May 2024 03:34:57 +0000David CottonSummary In this episode, David Cotton interviews Kristin Kalbli, the host of Our Voices podcast and an LGBT ally. Kristin shares her experience as a straight spouse and her mission to help others in similar situations. They discuss the signs that...Summary
  
  In this episode, David Cotton interviews Kristin Kalbli, the host of Our Voices podcast and an LGBT ally. Kristin shares her experience as a straight spouse and her mission to help others in similar situations. They discuss the signs that Kristin missed in her marriage, the impact of her husband's coming out on their relationship, and the importance of honesty and communication in the coming out process. Kristin asks David about his own coming out to his spouse. They also talk about the creation of a guide for coming out to straight partners and spouses, and the need for support and understanding for both parties involved.
  
  Takeaways
  The coming out process can have a significant impact on straight spouses, who may feel betrayed, confused, and humiliated.
  Honesty and open communication are crucial in the coming out process, both for the LGBT spouse and the straight spouse.
  Straight spouses may have questions and need time to process the news, and it's important for the LGBT spouse to be patient and understanding.
  Creating a guide for coming out to straight partners and spouses can help avoid unnecessary pain and damage in the relationship.
  Support and empathy are essential for both parties involved in a mixed orientation marriage.
  Sound Bites
  "The hardest thing that took me the longest to forgive was not that he was gay, not that he was in the closet, but that he didn't let me go so that I could find a loving relationship with a man who was interested in me, loved me, desired me, wanted to have a robust sexual relationship with me."
  "If you're in a position to honor what your spouse would like, whether that's answering their questions or giving them no contact for a while, I think following their lead on that is wise."
  "Pride month can be really difficult for straight spouses. And that's not an indication of bigotry. Many straight spouses have LGBT kids and are fierce allies and defenders of their kids, right? But pride month can be really painful because then you ask yourself the question, well, if he's living his true self now, then I was a part of a lie."
  Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction and Background
  01:09 Kristin's Experience as a Straight Spouse
  09:49 Resources for Straight Spouses
  14:11 The Coming Out Process and Its Impact
  28:46 Preparing to Come Out to a Straight Spouse
  31:31 Supporting the Straight Spouse
  35:42 Honesty and Accountability
  39:34 Conclusion
  
  Information About Kristin Kalbli and OurPath
  Out Path Out Voice: https://ourpath.org/our-voices/
  Guide to coming out as lesbian, gay or bisexual to your straight partner or spouse - by OurPath: https://emfjjpdexyu.exactdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/OP-GuideToComingOutLGB-r1.pdf
  Book Recommendation
  The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families, by Amity Pierce Buxton - https://a.co/d/129LQiC
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/vv20ZumingY
  
  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified...]]>2425comingout,communication,gay,honesty,lgbt,marriage,out,spouse,straight,straightspouse,supportfalse115fullCharles Vollmar - successful chef…married with 2 kids; wife discovers he's gay and outed him to everyonehttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary
  
  Charles Vollmer, a successful California chef, shares his journey of coming out later in life and the challenges he faced. After being outed by his wife, he left his possessions behind and started a new life in San Miguel, Mexico. He is rebuilding his career as a culinary teacher and started sharing his story on social media. Charles discusses the unique challenges faced by men who come out later in life, the impact on their families, and the need for support and understanding. He emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself and finding a community of like-minded individuals.
  
  Keywords: coming out, late in life, challenges, rebuilding, support, community
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a challenging and traumatic experience, but it can also lead to personal growth and happiness.
  The impact on family and relationships can be significant, and rebuilding trust and understanding takes time.
  Finding a supportive community and seeking professional help can be crucial in navigating the complexities of coming out later in life.
  Being true to oneself and embracing authenticity is essential for personal fulfillment and living a fulfilling life.
  Titles
  The Importance of Support and Understanding
  Rebuilding After Coming Out: Finding a New Path
  Sound Bites
  "Divorcing, giving up my San Francisco Bay home of 30 years and everything in it, donating 99% of my clothing and personal belongings and selling my car. I left for Europe to begin my life over at 61."
  Chapters
  00:00 Introduction: Charles Vollmer's Journey
  10:38 Starting Over: Rebuilding After Coming Out
  25:00 Reflections and Regrets: Lessons Learned
  30:59 Advice for Others: Taking Your Time and Finding Support
  About Charles Vollmar
  Epicurean Exchange Culinary Travel:   www.epexculinarytravel.com
  Blog: www.epicureanglobalexchange.com
  Facebook, Threads, Instagram: All @ CharlesVollmar
  Book Recommendation: Gay Men and The New Way Forward, by Raymond L. Rigoglioso - https://a.co/d/1AROMMu
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/SLJXxU-wUaw
  
  YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/59413089Fri, 12 Apr 2024 01:45:36 +0000David CottonSummary Charles Vollmer, a successful California chef, shares his journey of coming out later in life and the challenges he faced. After being outed by his wife, he left his possessions behind and started a new life in San Miguel, Mexico. He is...Summary
  
  Charles Vollmer, a successful California chef, shares his journey of coming out later in life and the challenges he faced. After being outed by his wife, he left his possessions behind and started a new life in San Miguel, Mexico. He is rebuilding his career as a culinary teacher and started sharing his story on social media. Charles discusses the unique challenges faced by men who come out later in life, the impact on their families, and the need for support and understanding. He emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself and finding a community of like-minded individuals.
  
  Keywords: coming out, late in life, challenges, rebuilding, support, community
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a challenging and traumatic experience, but it can also lead to personal growth and happiness.
  The impact on family and relationships can be significant, and rebuilding trust and understanding takes time.
  Finding a supportive community and seeking professional help can be crucial in navigating the complexities of coming out later in life.
  Being true to oneself and embracing authenticity is essential for personal fulfillment and living a fulfilling life.
  Titles
  The Importance of Support and Understanding
  Rebuilding After Coming Out: Finding a New Path
  Sound Bites
  "Divorcing, giving up my San Francisco Bay home of 30 years and everything in it, donating 99% of my clothing and personal belongings and selling my car. I left for Europe to begin my life over at 61."
  Chapters
  00:00 Introduction: Charles Vollmer's Journey
  10:38 Starting Over: Rebuilding After Coming Out
  25:00 Reflections and Regrets: Lessons Learned
  30:59 Advice for Others: Taking Your Time and Finding Support
  About Charles Vollmar
  Epicurean Exchange Culinary Travel:   www.epexculinarytravel.com
  Blog: www.epicureanglobalexchange.com
  Facebook, Threads, Instagram: All @ CharlesVollmar
  Book Recommendation: Gay Men and The New Way Forward, by Raymond L. Rigoglioso - https://a.co/d/1AROMMu
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/SLJXxU-wUaw
  
  YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>2047challenges,comingout,comingoutlate,gay,lateinlife,laterinlife,lgbt,rebuildingfalse114fullDan Bolen - at age 70 came out as gay, kicked out of his church and ended his 2nd marriage https://www.outlatewithdavid.com
  Summary
  
  Dan Bolen shares his journey of self-discovery and acceptance as a gay man after living a life of denial and fear. He discusses the challenges he faced in a restrictive religious community and the fear of losing his family and friends. Dan's story highlights the importance of being honest with oneself and embracing authenticity. He emphasizes the power of finding a supportive community and having a voice. Dan's memoir and podcast serve as a source of inspiration and empowerment for others on a similar journey.
  
  Takeaways
  Be honest with yourself and define who you are.
  Don't look for someone outside of you to define who you are.
  Finding a supportive community is crucial for self-acceptance.
  Having a voice and embracing authenticity are empowering.
  Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction and Background
  01:02 Realizing Difference and Fear of Rejection
  03:17 Burying and Denying One's True Self
  04:13 Marriage and Denial of Sexuality
  05:38 Disfellowshiped and Shunned by the Church
  07:30 Accepting Bisexuality as a Coping Mechanism
  08:55 Accepting and Embracing Authentic Self 1
  0:07 Coming Out and the Lowest Point
  11:02 First Experience with a Man and Validation
  12:29 Divorce and Finding a New Community
  15:17 Defining Self and Having a Voice
  24:21 Being Honest with Yourself
  27:32 Advice for Those Questioning Their Sexuality
  29:06 Reflection and Impact
  
  Dan Bolen's Memoir: The Courage to be Courageous: https://a.co/d/6x7yl0r
  
  Dan Bolen's Website: https://danbolen.com/
  
  Book Recommendation: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown. https://a.co/d/ah7pXuT
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/Axp2j_lgVMM
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/58958701Fri, 08 Mar 2024 00:48:54 +0000David CottonDan Bolen - at age 70 he came out as gay, was kicked out of his church and ended his second marriage Summary Dan Bolen shares his journey of self-discovery and acceptance as a gay man after living a life of denial and fear. He discusses the...
  Summary
  
  Dan Bolen shares his journey of self-discovery and acceptance as a gay man after living a life of denial and fear. He discusses the challenges he faced in a restrictive religious community and the fear of losing his family and friends. Dan's story highlights the importance of being honest with oneself and embracing authenticity. He emphasizes the power of finding a supportive community and having a voice. Dan's memoir and podcast serve as a source of inspiration and empowerment for others on a similar journey.
  
  Takeaways
  Be honest with yourself and define who you are.
  Don't look for someone outside of you to define who you are.
  Finding a supportive community is crucial for self-acceptance.
  Having a voice and embracing authenticity are empowering.
  Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction and Background
  01:02 Realizing Difference and Fear of Rejection
  03:17 Burying and Denying One's True Self
  04:13 Marriage and Denial of Sexuality
  05:38 Disfellowshiped and Shunned by the Church
  07:30 Accepting Bisexuality as a Coping Mechanism
  08:55 Accepting and Embracing Authentic Self 1
  0:07 Coming Out and the Lowest Point
  11:02 First Experience with a Man and Validation
  12:29 Divorce and Finding a New Community
  15:17 Defining Self and Having a Voice
  24:21 Being Honest with Yourself
  27:32 Advice for Those Questioning Their Sexuality
  29:06 Reflection and Impact
  
  Dan Bolen's Memoir: The Courage to be Courageous: https://a.co/d/6x7yl0r
  
  Dan Bolen's Website: https://danbolen.com/
  
  Book Recommendation: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown. https://a.co/d/ah7pXuT
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/Axp2j_lgVMM
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>1852bi,comingout,comingoutgay,comingoutlate,comingoutlgbt,davidcotton,davidcottoncoaching,gay,lgbt,lgbtq,outlatewithdavid,queerfalse113fullLarry Best - retired trial lawyer, came out 20 years into his marriage; now living a full life with partner and husband of 20 yearshttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary
  
  In this episode David interviews Larry Best, a retired trial lawyer who came out 20 years into his marriage, now living a full life with his partner and husband of 20 years. Their conversation explores the coming out journey of Larry, who shares his unique story of coming out to his business partner and wife. Larry's decision to come out was driven by a combination of personal factors, including the need to be true to himself and the impact it was having on his mental health. The reactions from his business partner and wife varied, with his business partner making a joke and his wife experiencing a range of emotions. Larry's decision to get married was influenced by societal expectations and the belief that he could suppress his attraction to men. However, he eventually realized that he had been living a lie and needed to come out. The process of telling his wife and children was challenging, with mixed reactions from each family member. Larry and his wife initially tried to maintain a co-parenting relationship, but over time, their relationship deteriorated. Larry also faced challenges in his professional life, with some clients distancing themselves after learning about his sexual orientation. However, he eventually transitioned to a successful career as a plaintiff lawyer. Overall, Larry's story highlights the complexities and emotional impact of coming out and navigating relationships and careers. In this conversation, Larry shares his experience of coming out and how it changed his perception of the world. He discusses the importance of joining LGBTQ political and social organizations to connect with the community. Larry also talks about how he found his partner and offers advice for men who are at the beginning of the coming out process. He emphasizes the need for support and understanding for spouses and family members during this time.
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out is a deeply personal and complex journey, with each individual facing unique challenges and reactions from loved ones.
  The decision to get married while suppressing one's true sexual orientation can lead to internal conflict and a sense of living a lie.
  The process of coming out can have a significant emotional impact on spouses and children, with reactions ranging from relief to anger and despair.
  Supporting loved ones through the coming out process requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to be present and listen.
  Coming out can have professional implications, with potential challenges in maintaining client relationships and navigating workplace dynamics. Coming out can change one's perception of the world and the people in it.
  Joining LGBTQ political and social organizations can provide a social network and help in meeting like-minded individuals.
  Finding a partner after coming out can take time and patience.
  Support and understanding for spouses and family members are crucial during the coming out process.
  Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
  00:20 Unusual Coming Out Story
  02:27 Reactions from Business Partner and Wife
  03:31 Emotional Impact on Wife
  05:45 Supporting Wife Emotionally
  06:12 The Decision to Get Married
  08:04 Realization of Being Gay
  11:22 Fear of Coming Out
  18:26 Divorce and Financial Settlement
  24:45 Telling the Children
  29:44 Reflections on the Coming Out Process
  33:34 Impact on Business and Career
  41:15 Changing Perception
  44:10 Connecting with the LGBTQ Community
  45:53 Finding a Partner
  51:06 Advice for Men Coming Out
  57:09 Supporting Spouses and Family
  58:35 Understanding the Wife's Perspective
  59:04 Closing Remarks
  
  Larry Best's online memoir: https://medium.com/@laurencebest
  
  Book Recommendation: Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life, edited by Vinnie Kinsella. https://a.co/d/dh3N2yM
  
  Gay Fathers Worldwide: https://gayfathersworldwide.wordpress.com/
  
  Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/uLCzcLsxCUo
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/58709481Fri, 16 Feb 2024 20:30:48 +0000David CottonSummary In this episode David interviews Larry Best, a retired trial lawyer who came out 20 years into his marriage, now living a full life with his partner and husband of 20 years. Their conversation explores the coming out journey of Larry, who...Summary
  
  In this episode David interviews Larry Best, a retired trial lawyer who came out 20 years into his marriage, now living a full life with his partner and husband of 20 years. Their conversation explores the coming out journey of Larry, who shares his unique story of coming out to his business partner and wife. Larry's decision to come out was driven by a combination of personal factors, including the need to be true to himself and the impact it was having on his mental health. The reactions from his business partner and wife varied, with his business partner making a joke and his wife experiencing a range of emotions. Larry's decision to get married was influenced by societal expectations and the belief that he could suppress his attraction to men. However, he eventually realized that he had been living a lie and needed to come out. The process of telling his wife and children was challenging, with mixed reactions from each family member. Larry and his wife initially tried to maintain a co-parenting relationship, but over time, their relationship deteriorated. Larry also faced challenges in his professional life, with some clients distancing themselves after learning about his sexual orientation. However, he eventually transitioned to a successful career as a plaintiff lawyer. Overall, Larry's story highlights the complexities and emotional impact of coming out and navigating relationships and careers. In this conversation, Larry shares his experience of coming out and how it changed his perception of the world. He discusses the importance of joining LGBTQ political and social organizations to connect with the community. Larry also talks about how he found his partner and offers advice for men who are at the beginning of the coming out process. He emphasizes the need for support and understanding for spouses and family members during this time.
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out is a deeply personal and complex journey, with each individual facing unique challenges and reactions from loved ones.
  The decision to get married while suppressing one's true sexual orientation can lead to internal conflict and a sense of living a lie.
  The process of coming out can have a significant emotional impact on spouses and children, with reactions ranging from relief to anger and despair.
  Supporting loved ones through the coming out process requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to be present and listen.
  Coming out can have professional implications, with potential challenges in maintaining client relationships and navigating workplace dynamics. Coming out can change one's perception of the world and the people in it.
  Joining LGBTQ political and social organizations can provide a social network and help in meeting like-minded individuals.
  Finding a partner after coming out can take time and patience.
  Support and understanding for spouses and family members are crucial during the coming out process.
  Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
  00:20 Unusual Coming Out Story
  02:27 Reactions from Business Partner and Wife
  03:31 Emotional Impact on Wife
  05:45 Supporting Wife Emotionally
  06:12 The Decision to Get Married
  08:04 Realization of Being Gay
  11:22 Fear of Coming Out
  18:26 Divorce and Financial Settlement
  24:45 Telling the Children
  29:44 Reflections on the Coming Out Process
  33:34 Impact on Business and Career
  41:15 Changing Perception
  44:10 Connecting with the LGBTQ Community
  45:53 Finding a Partner
  51:06 Advice for Men Coming Out
  57:09 Supporting Spouses and Family
  58:35 Understanding the Wife's Perspective
  59:04 Closing Remarks
  
  Larry Best's online memoir: https://medium.com/@laurencebest
  1927comingout,comingoutlate,lgbtfalse112fullRick Clemons - author, life coach, and host of LIFE (UN)CLOSETED & 40 PLUS…GAY MEN, GAY TALKhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.comSummary
  
  In this episode David interviews Rick Clemons, well-known as the host of the popular podcast “Life (UN)Closeted” as well as “40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk.” He is a sought-after public speaker and a successful life coach. He is also the author of the book “Frankly My Dear I’m Gay: the late bloomers guide to coming out." Rick shares his journey of coming out and helping men come out of the closet. He discusses the challenges of living a dual life and the fear of disappointing loved ones. Rick emphasizes the importance of authenticity and unapologetically being oneself. He also addresses common threads among closeted men and the need to overcome limiting fears. Rick shares his plans for a new book and podcast, focusing on living an unapologetic life. The key takeaway is the power of embracing one's true identity and living authentically.
  
  Takeaways
  Embrace your true identity and live authentically.
  Overcome limiting fears and show the world who you really are.
  Living an unapologetic life is empowering and liberating.
  Common threads among closeted men include lack of sexual interest, depletion of intimacy in relationships, and co-dependency.
  Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction
  00:40 Rick's Life's Work
  01:34 Rick's Story: Coming Out
  03:00 The Influence of Religious Upbringing
  04:27 Living a Dual Life
  05:54 The Shift to Authenticity
  07:22 The Moment of Falling in Love
  09:14 Transactional Sex vs. Intimacy
  09:43 Coming Out to Spouse
  11:40 Co-Parenting and Balancing Relationships
  15:38 Common Threads in Closeted Men
  18:57 The Biggest Lie Closeted Men Tell Themselves
  20:22 Honesty and Authenticity in Conversations
  21:09 Living an Unapologetic Life 23:53 Future Plans: New Book and Podcast
  25:48 Message for Men Coming Out Later in Life
  27:18 Conclusion
  
  Rick Clemons: https://rickclemons.com/
  
  Book Recommendation: Frankly My Dear, I’m Gay: A Late Bloomers Guide to Coming Out - https://a.co/d/aD2vgKD
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/yL6RVDjZugs
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/58448257Thu, 01 Feb 2024 06:00:02 +0000David CottonSummary In this episode David interviews Rick Clemons, well-known as the host of the popular podcast “Life (UN)Closeted” as well as “40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk.” He is a sought-after public speaker and a successful life coach. He is also the author...Summary
  
  In this episode David interviews Rick Clemons, well-known as the host of the popular podcast “Life (UN)Closeted” as well as “40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk.” He is a sought-after public speaker and a successful life coach. He is also the author of the book “Frankly My Dear I’m Gay: the late bloomers guide to coming out." Rick shares his journey of coming out and helping men come out of the closet. He discusses the challenges of living a dual life and the fear of disappointing loved ones. Rick emphasizes the importance of authenticity and unapologetically being oneself. He also addresses common threads among closeted men and the need to overcome limiting fears. Rick shares his plans for a new book and podcast, focusing on living an unapologetic life. The key takeaway is the power of embracing one's true identity and living authentically.
  
  Takeaways
  Embrace your true identity and live authentically.
  Overcome limiting fears and show the world who you really are.
  Living an unapologetic life is empowering and liberating.
  Common threads among closeted men include lack of sexual interest, depletion of intimacy in relationships, and co-dependency.
  Chapters
  
  00:00 Introduction
  00:40 Rick's Life's Work
  01:34 Rick's Story: Coming Out
  03:00 The Influence of Religious Upbringing
  04:27 Living a Dual Life
  05:54 The Shift to Authenticity
  07:22 The Moment of Falling in Love
  09:14 Transactional Sex vs. Intimacy
  09:43 Coming Out to Spouse
  11:40 Co-Parenting and Balancing Relationships
  15:38 Common Threads in Closeted Men
  18:57 The Biggest Lie Closeted Men Tell Themselves
  20:22 Honesty and Authenticity in Conversations
  21:09 Living an Unapologetic Life 23:53 Future Plans: New Book and Podcast
  25:48 Message for Men Coming Out Later in Life
  27:18 Conclusion
  
  Rick Clemons: https://rickclemons.com/
  
  Book Recommendation: Frankly My Dear, I’m Gay: A Late Bloomers Guide to Coming Out - https://a.co/d/aD2vgKD
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/yL6RVDjZugs
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>1759comingout,comingoutlate,gay,lgbtq,lifecoachfalse111fullShaun Williams - founder of Gay Fathers Worldwide and Bent Couch Counsellinghttps://www.outlatewithdavid.com
  Summary
  In this episode, David Cotton interviews licensed counselor Shaun Williams; he previously had successful career in construction when he came out as gay after 25 years of marriage. After coming out he changed his career to help others finding their true selves. Shaun shares his experiences growing up in the 80s, discovering his sexuality at a young age, and the weight of keeping his secret. He discusses the impact on his family and the challenges he faced in coming out. Shaun also talks about the creation of Gay Fathers Worldwide, a support group he formed for men who have come out later in life. He emphasizes the importance of finding a safe space and community for support and understanding.
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a lonely and isolating experience, but finding a safe space and community of others who have had similar experiences can provide support and reassurance.
  The weight of keeping a secret about one's sexuality can have a significant impact on mental health and well-being.
  The process of coming out can be challenging and may involve difficult conversations with family members and loved ones.
  Creating a support group or community for individuals who have come out later in life can provide a valuable resource for connection, understanding, and shared experiences.
  Chapters
  00:00 Introduction
  00:48 Growing Up in the 80s
  02:16 Discovering His Sexuality
  03:16 Getting Married
  04:15 The Weight of the Secret
  05:12 Dealing with Guilt and Shame
  06:11 Living a Lie
  07:11 Finding Purpose in Helping Others
  09:06 Impact on Family
  11:30 Inspiration from Daughters
  12:56 Coming Out and Seeking Help
  13:53 The Process of Coming Out
  15:19 Creating Gay Fathers Worldwide
  19:11 Regrets and Lessons Learned
  23:20 Acceptance in the Gay Community
  26:27 Late-Life Coming Out Experience
  28:25 Creation of Gay Fathers Worldwide
  29:21 Common Experiences of Children
  31:48 New Life and Career
  36:41 Importance of Community
  37:37 Conclusion
  
  Bent Couch Counselling: https://www.bentcouch.com.au/
  
  Gay Fathers Worldwide: https://gayfathersworldwide.wordpress.com/
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/C7PJTAcmGT8
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/58201555Thu, 04 Jan 2024 23:09:20 +0000David CottonShaun Williams - founder of Gay Fathers Worldwide and Bent Couch Counselling Summary In this episode, David Cotton interviews licensed counselor Shaun Williams; he previously had successful career in construction when he came out as gay after 25...
  Summary
  In this episode, David Cotton interviews licensed counselor Shaun Williams; he previously had successful career in construction when he came out as gay after 25 years of marriage. After coming out he changed his career to help others finding their true selves. Shaun shares his experiences growing up in the 80s, discovering his sexuality at a young age, and the weight of keeping his secret. He discusses the impact on his family and the challenges he faced in coming out. Shaun also talks about the creation of Gay Fathers Worldwide, a support group he formed for men who have come out later in life. He emphasizes the importance of finding a safe space and community for support and understanding.
  
  Takeaways
  Coming out later in life can be a lonely and isolating experience, but finding a safe space and community of others who have had similar experiences can provide support and reassurance.
  The weight of keeping a secret about one's sexuality can have a significant impact on mental health and well-being.
  The process of coming out can be challenging and may involve difficult conversations with family members and loved ones.
  Creating a support group or community for individuals who have come out later in life can provide a valuable resource for connection, understanding, and shared experiences.
  Chapters
  00:00 Introduction
  00:48 Growing Up in the 80s
  02:16 Discovering His Sexuality
  03:16 Getting Married
  04:15 The Weight of the Secret
  05:12 Dealing with Guilt and Shame
  06:11 Living a Lie
  07:11 Finding Purpose in Helping Others
  09:06 Impact on Family
  11:30 Inspiration from Daughters
  12:56 Coming Out and Seeking Help
  13:53 The Process of Coming Out
  15:19 Creating Gay Fathers Worldwide
  19:11 Regrets and Lessons Learned
  23:20 Acceptance in the Gay Community
  26:27 Late-Life Coming Out Experience
  28:25 Creation of Gay Fathers Worldwide
  29:21 Common Experiences of Children
  31:48 New Life and Career
  36:41 Importance of Community
  37:37 Conclusion
  
  Bent Couch Counselling: https://www.bentcouch.com.au/
  
  Gay Fathers Worldwide: https://gayfathersworldwide.wordpress.com/
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/C7PJTAcmGT8
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>2263bi,comingout,coming-out,comingoutlate,comingoutlaterinlife,gay,lgbt,lgbtq,lifecoach,outfalse110fullWilliam Brown - a counselor and author of 'Coming True' came out late & now helping othershttps://www.outlatewithdavid.com
  Book Recommendation: Coming True: Seeking Truth in Self, Later In Life, by today's guest, William Brown. https://a.co/d/6cEM5Jj
  
  Video version of this episode: https://youtu.be/5y_GJsqzcXg
  
  Podcast website and for more resources about coming out LGBTQ+: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/57897862Mon, 04 Dec 2023 01:15:25 +0000David CottonWilliam Brown is an author, a licensed professional counselor, and a man who knows firsthand what it’s like to come out later in life. At age forty he told his wife of 18 years, and his children… that he is gay. What he’s learned since—helped him...
  Book Recommendation: Coming True: Seeking Truth in Self, Later In Life, by today's guest, William Brown. https://a.co/d/6cEM5Jj
  
  Video version of this episode: https://youtu.be/5y_GJsqzcXg
  
  Podcast website and for more resources about coming out LGBTQ+: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>2248comingout,comingoutlate,gay,lgbt,lgtbq,lifecoachingfalse19fullSara Abrams - came out as a trans woman at age 57…now living the life she always wantedhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.com
  Sara Abrams spent most of her life identifying as a man. While she never considered herself a member of the LGBTQ+ community, at age 57, she came out and transitioned from male to female, while remaining in a relationship with her female partner of 28 years.
  
  Book Recommendation: Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource by and for Transgender Communities https://a.co/d/98A3Ocy
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  Sara Abrams spent most of her life identifying as a man. While she never considered herself a member of the LGBTQ+ community, at age 57, she came out and transitioned from male to female, while remaining in a relationship with her female partner of 28 years.
  
  Book Recommendation: Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource by and for Transgender Communities https://a.co/d/98A3Ocy
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  He is highly respected in his field, having presented extensive research on mature gay men to the World Congress in Psychiatry.
  
  An award-winning author… he’s most well-known for his book, “Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight.”
  
  Book Recommendation: Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight by Dr. Loren Olson https://a.co/d/hDUZ4FO
  
  Other Writings By Dr. Olson:
  No More Neckties: A Memoir in Essays https://a.co/d/96eUu8W
  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/finally-out/202307/to-be-happy-think-like-an-old-person
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  He is highly respected in his field, having presented extensive research on mature gay men to the World Congress in Psychiatry.
  
  An award-winning author… he’s most well-known for his book, “Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight.”
  
  Book Recommendation: Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight by Dr. Loren Olson https://a.co/d/hDUZ4FO
  
  Other Writings By Dr. Olson:
  No More Neckties: A Memoir in Essays https://a.co/d/96eUu8W
  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/finally-out/202307/to-be-happy-think-like-an-old-person
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  Book Recommendation: Our Family Outing: A Memoir of Coming Out and Coming Through - https://a.co/d/09DOavT
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  Book Recommendation: Our Family Outing: A Memoir of Coming Out and Coming Through - https://a.co/d/09DOavT
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  Book Recommendation: Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life - Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life
  
  Rand Bishop’s One Man Show: "Songs, Observations, and Confessions" - https://tinyurl.com/m9vmbt7
  
  Rand Bishop’s book: TREK: My Peace Pilgrimage in Search of a Kinder America - https://a.co/d/6XcfV7i
  amBI, a community for bi people, our partners, and allies: https://www.ambi.org/
  
  Amid ‘unicorn hunters’ and sterotypes, here’s how bisexual people are finding support - USA Today via amBi - https://www.ambi.org/pressblog/bisexual-community-helps-break-stereotypes
  
  Gallup Poll: U.S. LGBT Identification Steady at 7.2%; over 58% of LGBT adults identify as bisexual - https://news.gallup.com/poll/470708/lgbt-identification-steady.aspx
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  Book Recommendation: Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life - Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life
  
  Rand Bishop’s One Man Show: "Songs, Observations, and Confessions" - https://tinyurl.com/m9vmbt7
  
  Rand Bishop’s book: TREK: My Peace Pilgrimage in Search of a Kinder America - https://a.co/d/6XcfV7i
  amBI, a community for bi people, our partners, and allies: https://www.ambi.org/
  
  Amid ‘unicorn hunters’ and sterotypes, here’s how bisexual people are finding support - USA Today via amBi - https://www.ambi.org/pressblog/bisexual-community-helps-break-stereotypes
  
  Gallup Poll: U.S. LGBT Identification Steady at 7.2%; over 58% of LGBT adults identify as bisexual - https://news.gallup.com/poll/470708/lgbt-identification-steady.aspx
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
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  Book Recommendation: David Christel’s book, “Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be.”
  
  Matthew Shepard: https://www.matthewshepard.org
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  Book Recommendation: David Christel’s book, “Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be.”
  
  Matthew Shepard: https://www.matthewshepard.org
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>1676comingout,coming-out,comingoutlateinlife,comingoutlaterinlife,gay,lgbt,lgbtq,lifecoach,outfalse14fullDr. Ginger Campbell - host of podcast Graying Rainbows shares her story and insights from her guestshttps://www.outlatewithdavid.com
  Book Recommendation: Frankly My Dear I'm Gay: A Late Bloomers Guide To Coming Out - https://a.co/d/eTryXNj
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  Book Recommendation: Frankly My Dear I'm Gay: A Late Bloomers Guide To Coming Out - https://a.co/d/eTryXNj
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  Book Recommendation: David Christel’s book, Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be - https://a.co/d/6F6jabV
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  Book Recommendation: David Christel’s book, Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be - https://a.co/d/6F6jabV
  
  Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
  © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.]]>1752comingout,coming-out,comingoutlaterinlife,gay,lgbt,lgbtq,lifecoach,outfalse12fullJonathan Wilson - comes out on live TV, a respected attorney and school board memberhttps://www.outlatewithdavid.com
  Book Recommendation: Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straigh by Dr. Loren Olson - https://a.co/d/4GOJxUv
  
  FIrst Friday Breakfast Club: https://www.ffbciowa.org
  
  The Saggy Baggy Elephant: https://a.co/d/dciIDD5
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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  Book Recommendation: Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straigh by Dr. Loren Olson - https://a.co/d/4GOJxUv
  
  FIrst Friday Breakfast Club: https://www.ffbciowa.org
  
  The Saggy Baggy Elephant: https://a.co/d/dciIDD5
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com
  
  Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com
  
  Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com
  
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