https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/let-s-have-the-talk--4988328enSexualityCopyright Judy & Alanahttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/9e2aad3e190c8936de4984cb26fcddbf.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/podcast/let-s-have-the-talk--4988328Mon, 18 Apr 2022 12:25:03 +0000Judy & AlanaJudy & Alanaalana@sextherapyportland.comWhy is it so awkward to talk about sex and pleasure with the people closest to us? Why is it especially complicated with our parents? Does it have to be? Alana and Judy don’t think so! Judy Oliver, LMHC and Alana Ogilvie, LMFT, CST are a...trueepisodichttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-big-v-day--48593472https://api.spreaker.com/episode/48593472Sat, 05 Feb 2022 01:00:03 +0000Judy & AlanaWe're heading into the season of romance and Valentine's Day is right around the corner. For some of us, the day is exciting and fun and holds the promise of a steamy time. But for others, there are unspoken expectations and pressure which can set us...1348lgbtq,love,partners,relationships,sex,sextherapy,valentinesdayfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-wheel-of-consent--48385246
In this episode, we're deep-diving into the sexual archetypes we fall into and how we can expand in the ways we exchange with our partner(s). We're talking about serving, taking, allowing, and accepting - without falling off the wheel. Let's have #thetalk.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/48385246Fri, 21 Jan 2022 11:00:04 +0000Judy & AlanaAlana and Judy are back and this time they're talking about.... the WHEEL of consent. Yes, there's a wheel. In this episode, we're deep-diving into the sexual archetypes we fall into and how we can expand in the ways we exchange with our...
In this episode, we're deep-diving into the sexual archetypes we fall into and how we can expand in the ways we exchange with our partner(s). We're talking about serving, taking, allowing, and accepting - without falling off the wheel. Let's have #thetalk.]]>1712falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/consent-with-a-side-of-f-r-i-e-s--48185503https://api.spreaker.com/episode/48185503Fri, 07 Jan 2022 13:10:02 +0000Judy & AlanaHappy New Year, y'all! Today Alana and Judy are coming at you with a talk about consent (but only if you consent to listen). In this episode we'll specifically be covering the acronym FRIES which stands for: freely given, reversible, informed,...1749consent,education,sexed,sexualityfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/summertime-sadness--46277492
*Alana and Judy would like to share that this episode was recorded before state and federal agencies reinstated mask mandates and more stringent social distancing measures in response to the COVID-19 delta variant. They strongly recommend following current guidelines to keep you, your loved ones, and your community safe.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/46277492Fri, 01 Oct 2021 12:05:12 +0000Judy & AlanaJust in time for summer to be over (lol); Alana and Judy break down why this summer may have been difficult for some and the impact it may have had on people's ability to feel sexual. Why did this summer feel particularly hard for many? How can we...
*Alana and Judy would like to share that this episode was recorded before state and federal agencies reinstated mask mandates and more stringent social distancing measures in response to the COVID-19 delta variant. They strongly recommend following current guidelines to keep you, your loved ones, and your community safe.]]>1837falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/desire-debacles-part-ii-lower-desire-partners--46007878https://api.spreaker.com/episode/46007878Fri, 17 Sep 2021 12:05:11 +0000Judy & AlanaThe second part of our Desire Debacles discussion focuses on the experience and pitfalls of being a lower desire partner. Navigating pressure, anxiety, expectations and "wanting to want" can be daunting. So how do folx who identify as being lower than...2487falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/desire-debacles-part-i-higher-desire-partners--46045702https://api.spreaker.com/episode/46045702Fri, 03 Sep 2021 12:05:13 +0000Judy & AlanaIn the first part of this two part series, Judy and Alana address the (rather common) issue of mismatched sexual desire and what you can do to identify and address it as the higher desire partner. Dealing with the hurt and resentment that gets built...2399truefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/sex-goals-2021--45589348P.S - if goals are not your jam, that's OK! There's still a little something relevant in this episode for you.
Citations for this episode:
Clear is Kind. Unclear is Unkind. ~Brené Brown
https://brenebrown.com/blog/2018/10/15/clear-is-kind-unclear-is-unkind/
The Gottman Institute
https//www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/]]>dbe03860-8786-480e-ad8f-f305dc6e093cTue, 02 Feb 2021 13:00:00 +0000Judy & AlanaIn this episode, Alana and Judy discuss 2021 sex goals, and why authenticity counts for so much. P.S - if goals are not your jam, that's OK! There's still a little something relevant in this episode for you. Citations for this episode: Clear is Kind....P.S - if goals are not your jam, that's OK! There's still a little something relevant in this episode for you.
Citations for this episode:
Clear is Kind. Unclear is Unkind. ~Brené Brown
https://brenebrown.com/blog/2018/10/15/clear-is-kind-unclear-is-unkind/
The Gottman Institute
https//www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/]]>1559truefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/we-re-back-f-ck-you-2020--45589351Citations for this episode:
Who's Having More Sex During the Pandemic? It Depends on Your Politics. ~Dr. Justin Lehmiller
https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2020/7/20/whos-having-more-sex-during-the-pandemic-it-depends-on-your-politics#commenting
Why is Modern Love So Damn Hard? ~Esther Perel
https://estherperel.com/blog/why-modern-love-is-so-damn-hard]]>fc390d61-81c0-4c99-9f4c-51be0fc793bcTue, 19 Jan 2021 13:00:00 +0000Judy & AlanaIn this episode, Judy and Alana discuss the impacts of 2020 on the collective sexual psyche and on relationships to self and others. Citations for this episode: Who's Having More Sex During the Pandemic? It Depends on Your Politics. ~Dr. Justin...Citations for this episode:
Who's Having More Sex During the Pandemic? It Depends on Your Politics. ~Dr. Justin Lehmiller
https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2020/7/20/whos-having-more-sex-during-the-pandemic-it-depends-on-your-politics#commenting
Why is Modern Love So Damn Hard? ~Esther Perel
https://estherperel.com/blog/why-modern-love-is-so-damn-hard]]>1757truefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-kingdom-of-virginity--45589353
Citations for this Episode:
"Sex Education" on Netflix
The Hymen: A Membrane Widely Misunderstood by Michael Castleman, M.A.
Patriarchy, Pop Culture and The Taboo of Adult Male Virginity by Sarah Sahagian
Averett, P., Moore, A., & Price, L. (2014). Virginity Definitions and Meaning Among the LGBT Community [Abstract]. Journal of Gay & Lesbian Social Services, 26(3), 259-278. doi:10.1080/10538720.2014.924802]]>1e0dd94f-8084-4b11-bf69-9f2dd3e025b9Tue, 20 Oct 2020 12:00:52 +0000Judy & AlanaHint: It's make believe. In this episode Judy and Alana talk about the concept of virginity, where it comes from and why it can be toxic to healthy relationships. Citations for this Episode: "Sex Education" on Netflix The Hymen: A Membrane Widely...
Citations for this Episode:
"Sex Education" on Netflix
The Hymen: A Membrane Widely Misunderstood by Michael Castleman, M.A.
Patriarchy, Pop Culture and The Taboo of Adult Male Virginity by Sarah Sahagian
Averett, P., Moore, A., & Price, L. (2014). Virginity Definitions and Meaning Among the LGBT Community [Abstract]. Journal of Gay & Lesbian Social Services, 26(3), 259-278. doi:10.1080/10538720.2014.924802]]>2647truefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/building-sexual-anticipation--45589354Citations for this episode:
John and Julie Gottman
https://www.gottman.com/about/john-julie-gottman/]]>00227064-279d-4025-9d6e-20b3b2d36bbaWed, 07 Oct 2020 12:00:00 +0000Judy & AlanaIn this episode, Judy and Alana answer a question from a listener, addressing the various difficulties of building anticipation (in and out of a global pandemic). Citations for this episode: John and Julie Gottman...Citations for this episode:
John and Julie Gottman
https://www.gottman.com/about/john-julie-gottman/]]>3155truefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/am-i-normal--45589349
Citations for this Episode:
Nagoski, D. A., & Nagoski, P. E. (2019). Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. Ballantine Books.
American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: Author.]]>5a2f9881-d4f8-43e3-8176-1827a129933dTue, 15 Sep 2020 12:00:00 +0000Judy & AlanaIn this episode, Judy and Alana discuss what's "normal" in the realm of sex, sexuality, bodies, and bodily functions. Let's be real though, there's no such thing as normal, especially when it comes to sex and sexuality. Citations for this Episode:...
Citations for this Episode:
Nagoski, D. A., & Nagoski, P. E. (2019). Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. Ballantine Books.
American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: Author.]]>2321truefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/welcome-to-our-podcast-who-are-judy-and-alana--45589350281eac2e-829d-484b-8077-5b970d9de89fTue, 01 Sep 2020 12:00:00 +0000Judy & AlanaThis is the first episode of Let's Have the Talk- a mother/daughter podcast about sex, sexuality and sexual health. In this episode Alana and Judy talk about their respective journeys to becoming sexual health counselors and reminisce about what it...2468truefull