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<rss xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" xmlns:podcast="https://podcastindex.org/namespace/1.0" xmlns:media="http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/" version="2.0"><channel><title>Reuben Recommends</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reuben-recommends--4789929</link><description><![CDATA[Hey, my name is Reuben Wachs and I'm a trainee counsellor. I believe that finding great resources and theories can change your life and as a result, I have a passion for sharing what I find with you! <br /><br />In Reuben Recommends, I mix it up by either taking you on a deep dive into a particular psychology, counselling or philosophy theory, or we keep it casual and I share my favourite books, podcasts and videos of the last four weeks. <br /><br />Each solo episode comes out on the 1st of each month and the guest episodes come out on the 15th. <br /><br />I hope you enjoy the podcasts!]]></description><atom:link href="https://www.spreaker.com/show/4789929/episodes/feed" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><language>en</language><category>Books</category><copyright>Copyright Reuben Wachs</copyright><image><url>https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg</url><title>Reuben Recommends</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reuben-recommends--4789929</link></image><lastBuildDate>Thu, 14 Dec 2023 05:16:14 +0000</lastBuildDate><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:owner><itunes:name>Reuben Wachs</itunes:name><itunes:email>reubenwachs@gmail.com</itunes:email></itunes:owner><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:subtitle>Hey, my name is Reuben Wachs and I'm a trainee counsellor. I believe that finding great resources and theories can change your life and as a result, I have a passion for sharing what I find with you! 

In Reuben Recommends, I mix it up by either...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Hey, my name is Reuben Wachs and I'm a trainee counsellor. I believe that finding great resources and theories can change your life and as a result, I have a passion for sharing what I find with you! <br /><br />In Reuben Recommends, I mix it up by either taking you on a deep dive into a particular psychology, counselling or philosophy theory, or we keep it casual and I share my favourite books, podcasts and videos of the last four weeks. <br /><br />Each solo episode comes out on the 1st of each month and the guest episodes come out on the 15th. <br /><br />I hope you enjoy the podcasts!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:category text="Arts"><itunes:category text="Books"/></itunes:category><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:type>episodic</itunes:type><item><title>#23: Navigating Stressful Relationships - Drama Triangle (Transactional Analysis) - Live Talk</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/23-navigating-stressful-relationships-drama-triangle-transactional-analysis-live-talk--57997459</link><description><![CDATA[This is a recording of a live talk I gave at a tech company called Kaluza. If you'd like to book me to give a talk at your company or charity you can reach me on reubenwachs@gmail.com<br /><br />Everything I talk about is linked below:<br /><br /><br /><b>RESOURCES</b><br /><br />Counselling Directory - https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/<br /><br />4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan Chatterjee<br /><br />The Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee<br /><br />Stutz - Netflix <br /><br />Yoga with Kassandra playlist - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw</a><br /><br />How to deal with anxiety - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s</a><br /><br />How to help someone else with anxiety and panic attacks - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s</a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><b>QUOTES ON SELF</b> <b></b><br />‘How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want.’ Tim Ferris from a coach he knows <br /><br />‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate’ - Carl Jung<br /><br />‘How close or far we are with ourselves is how close or far we will be in our relationships’ - Dr Nicole LePera <br /><br />‘Men are not moved by things but the views which they take of them’ - Epictetus <br /><br /><b>WORK QUOTES </b> <br />“Your lack of preparation is not my emergency” - Tim Ferriss<br /><br />‘What would this look like if it was easy.’ - Tim Ferriss<br /><br />‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/57997459</guid><pubDate>Thu, 14 Dec 2023 05:15:02 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/57997459/talk_at_kaluza_finished.mp3" length="33620585" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>This is a recording of a live talk I gave at a tech company called Kaluza. If you'd like to book me to give a talk at your company or charity you can reach me on reubenwachs@gmail.com

Everything I talk about is linked below:


RESOURCES

Counselling...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[This is a recording of a live talk I gave at a tech company called Kaluza. If you'd like to book me to give a talk at your company or charity you can reach me on reubenwachs@gmail.com<br /><br />Everything I talk about is linked below:<br /><br /><br /><b>RESOURCES</b><br /><br />Counselling Directory - https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/<br /><br />4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan Chatterjee<br /><br />The Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee<br /><br />Stutz - Netflix <br /><br />Yoga with Kassandra playlist - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw</a><br /><br />How to deal with anxiety - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s</a><br /><br />How to help someone else with anxiety and panic attacks - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s</a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><b>QUOTES ON SELF</b> <b></b><br />‘How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want.’ Tim Ferris from a coach he knows <br /><br />‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate’ - Carl Jung<br /><br />‘How close or far we are with ourselves is how close or far we will be in our relationships’ - Dr Nicole LePera <br /><br />‘Men are not moved by things but the views which they take of them’ - Epictetus <br /><br /><b>WORK QUOTES </b> <br />“Your lack of preparation is not my emergency” - Tim Ferriss<br /><br />‘What would this look like if it was easy.’ - Tim Ferriss<br /><br />‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>2102</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>analysis,anxiety,awareness,communication,counselling,counsellor,depression,helping,helpingothers,mental,mentalhealth,mentalhealthawareness,mentalillness,psychology,psychotherapy,respect,support,therapy,transactional,transactionalanalysis</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>Q&amp;A from live talk at Kaluza</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/q-a-from-live-talk-at-kaluza--57997420</link><description><![CDATA[Everything I talk about is linked below:<br /><br /><br /><b>RESOURCES</b> <br /><br />Counselling Directory - https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/<br /><br />4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan Chatterjee<br /><br />The Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee<br /><br />Stutz - Netflix <br /><br />Yoga with Kassandra playlist - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw</a><br /><br />How to deal with anxiety - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s</a><br /><br />How to help someone else with anxiety and panic attacks - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s</a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><b>QUOTES ON SELF</b> <b></b><br />‘How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want.’ Tim Ferris from a coach he knows <br /> <br />‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate’ - Carl Jung<br /> <br />‘How close or far we are with ourselves is how close or far we will be in our relationships’ - Dr Nicole LePera <br /> <br />‘Men are not moved by things but the views which they take of them’ - Epictetus <br /><br /><b>WORK QUOTES </b> <br />“Your lack of preparation is not my emergency” - Tim Ferriss<br /> <br />‘What would this look like if it was easy.’ - Tim Ferriss<br /> <br />‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham <br /><br />]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/57997420</guid><pubDate>Thu, 14 Dec 2023 05:00:03 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/57997420/q_a_from_live_talk_at_kaluza.mp3" length="9118556" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Everything I talk about is linked below:


RESOURCES 

Counselling Directory - https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/

4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan Chatterjee

The Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee

Stutz - Netflix 

Yoga with Kassandra playlist...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Everything I talk about is linked below:<br /><br /><br /><b>RESOURCES</b> <br /><br />Counselling Directory - https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/<br /><br />4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan Chatterjee<br /><br />The Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee<br /><br />Stutz - Netflix <br /><br />Yoga with Kassandra playlist - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw</a><br /><br />How to deal with anxiety - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s</a><br /><br />How to help someone else with anxiety and panic attacks - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s</a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><b>QUOTES ON SELF</b> <b></b><br />‘How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want.’ Tim Ferris from a coach he knows <br /> <br />‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate’ - Carl Jung<br /> <br />‘How close or far we are with ourselves is how close or far we will be in our relationships’ - Dr Nicole LePera <br /> <br />‘Men are not moved by things but the views which they take of them’ - Epictetus <br /><br /><b>WORK QUOTES </b> <br />“Your lack of preparation is not my emergency” - Tim Ferriss<br /> <br />‘What would this look like if it was easy.’ - Tim Ferriss<br /> <br />‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham <br /><br />]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>570</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>analysis,anxiety,awareness,communication,counselling,counsellor,depression,helping,helpingothers,mental,mentalhealth,mentalhealthawareness,mentalillness,psychology,psychotherapy,respect,support,therapy,transactional,transactionalanalysis</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#22: How To Reduce Stress and Be Happier - Live Talk at CAE</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/22-how-to-reduce-stress-and-be-happier-live-talk-at-cae--52800371</link><description><![CDATA[Hey I hope you all enjoyed the talk I gave at CAE Technology on Point. <br /><br />Here is the list with everything I mentioned in the talk:<br /><br /><b>RESOURCES:</b><br />4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan Chatterjee<br />The Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee <br />Stutz - Netflix <br />Yoga with Kassandra playlist - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw</a><br />How to deal with anxiety - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s</a><br />How to help someone else with anxiety and panic attacks - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s</a> <br /><br /><b>QUOTES ON SELF:</b><br />‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate’ - Carl Jung <br />‘How close or far we are with ourselves is how close or far we will be in our relationships’ - Dr Nicole LePera <br />‘How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want.’ Tim Ferris from a coach he knows <br />‘Men are not moved by things but the views which they take of them’ - Epictetus <br /><br /><b>WORK QUOTES:</b><br />“Your lack of preparation is not my emergency” - Tim Ferriss <br />‘What would this look like if it was easy.’ - Tim Ferriss <br />‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/52800371</guid><pubDate>Tue, 28 Feb 2023 04:00:02 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/52800371/stress_talk_finished.mp3" length="47721703" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Hey I hope you all enjoyed the talk I gave at CAE Technology on Point. 

Here is the list with everything I mentioned in the talk:

RESOURCES:
4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan Chatterjee
The Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee 
Stutz - Netflix 
Yoga with...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Hey I hope you all enjoyed the talk I gave at CAE Technology on Point. <br /><br />Here is the list with everything I mentioned in the talk:<br /><br /><b>RESOURCES:</b><br />4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan Chatterjee<br />The Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee <br />Stutz - Netflix <br />Yoga with Kassandra playlist - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw</a><br />How to deal with anxiety - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&amp;t=149s</a><br />How to help someone else with anxiety and panic attacks - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&amp;t=66s</a> <br /><br /><b>QUOTES ON SELF:</b><br />‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate’ - Carl Jung <br />‘How close or far we are with ourselves is how close or far we will be in our relationships’ - Dr Nicole LePera <br />‘How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want.’ Tim Ferris from a coach he knows <br />‘Men are not moved by things but the views which they take of them’ - Epictetus <br /><br /><b>WORK QUOTES:</b><br />“Your lack of preparation is not my emergency” - Tim Ferriss <br />‘What would this look like if it was easy.’ - Tim Ferriss <br />‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>2983</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>acceptance,anxiety,awareness,communication,compassion,counselling,counsellor,depression,freud,helping,mentalhealth,others,psychology,psychotherapy,respect,rogers,support,ta,therapy,transactionalanalysis</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#21: Why I Do Veganuary</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/21-why-i-do-veganuary--52411003</link><description><![CDATA[Happy 2023 everyone and I hope you enjoy the video!   <br />    <br />After watching, if you're interested at all and you’ve got any questions such as, why not just vegetarian instead of vegan? Or where do you get your protein from? Then please feel free to message me and ask    <br />    <br />You can find the things I mentioned below:     <br />    <br />The Game Changers - Netflix    <br />    <br />Earthling Ed’s Ted Talk - Arguments Against Veganism - Youtube    <br />    <br />A Meat Eater’s Case For Veganism - Youtube    <br />    <br />Gousto    <br />    <br />Sending you all big love!    ]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/52411003</guid><pubDate>Wed, 11 Jan 2023 12:30:41 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/52411003/veganuary_podcast.mp3" length="5649920" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Happy 2023 everyone and I hope you enjoy the video!   
    
After watching, if you're interested at all and you’ve got any questions such as, why not just vegetarian instead of vegan? Or where do you get your protein from? Then please feel free to...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Happy 2023 everyone and I hope you enjoy the video!   <br />    <br />After watching, if you're interested at all and you’ve got any questions such as, why not just vegetarian instead of vegan? Or where do you get your protein from? Then please feel free to message me and ask    <br />    <br />You can find the things I mentioned below:     <br />    <br />The Game Changers - Netflix    <br />    <br />Earthling Ed’s Ted Talk - Arguments Against Veganism - Youtube    <br />    <br />A Meat Eater’s Case For Veganism - Youtube    <br />    <br />Gousto    <br />    <br />Sending you all big love!    ]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>354</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>animalcruelty,animals,climate,climatechange,environment,happiness,health,plantbased,vegan,veganism,veganuary,wellbeing,wellness</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#20: Top Recommendations for 2023 - Books, Films, Series, Ideas, Fun Facts and Quotes</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/20-top-recommendations-for-2023-books-films-series-ideas-fun-facts-and-quotes--52245139</link><description><![CDATA[Hi and welcome to the Annual Reuben Awards where I give you my top recommendations for 2023! <br /><br />Here is everything that is mentioned in the podcast!<br /><br /><b>Best Non-Fiction</b> <br /><b>No bad parts - Richard Schwartz </b><br />Stolen focus - Johann Harri <br /><br /><br /><b>Best Fantasy</b> <br />Lord of the silver boy (Troy) - David Gammel <br /><b>The Blade Itself - Joe Abercrombie </b> <br /><br />Sci-Fi Speaker of the dead - Orsen Scott Wells <br /><br /><br /><b>Best Comedy/enjoyable Book</b> <b></b><br />And away… - Bob Mortimer <br /><b>First Person Singlular - Murakami </b> <br /><b></b><br /><b></b><br /><b>Overal best Book</b> <br /><b>First Person Singlular - Murakami </b><br />No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz<br /><br /><br /><b>Best Podcast</b> <br /><b>Sam Harris Waking Up</b><br />Hey riddle riddle <br /><br /><br /><b>Best film:</b> Letterboxd <br /><b>Everything Everywhere All At Once </b><br />Top Gun Maverick <br />The Last Duel<br />CODA <br />The King <br /><br /><b>Best documentary </b> <br />Stutz<br />Tim’s Vermeer <br />The Making of Arcane<br /><br /><b>Series: </b> <i></i><br /><b>Severance </b><br />Arcane <br />Cheer <br /><b></b><br /><b></b><br /><b>Best album</b>: <br />Low Island - If You could have it all again<br />Khruangbin - Mordechai <br /><br /><b>Best video</b>: <br />Guy knocking down dominos <br /><b></b>https://twitter.com/OnlyZans/status/1569416356839280640<br /><br /><b>Best idea or concept</b> <br /><b>Top Idea in Your Mind </b><br />Taking action Triangle of life <br /><br /><b>Best purchase </b> <b></b><br />Blackout eye mask <b></b><br /><b></b><br /><b>Most important change in my life</b> <br />Switching departments at work<br />Taking action<br />Top idea in your mind <br /><br /><b>Favourite fact</b> <b></b><br />Griezman having 3 separate kids born on the same day <br /><br />NASA mission controllers for the Apollo mission - their average age was 21 when the mission started and when they did the impossible they were an average of 28 <b></b><br /><b></b><br /><b></b><br /><b>Favourite quote</b> <br />FEEL THE FEAR...AND DO IT ANYWAY<br />Often we think, 'I'll do it when I am not so afraid.' But in reality, it works the other way round. The 'doing it' comes before the fear goes away. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it. <br /><br />The Five Truths about Fear<br /><ol><li>The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.</li><li>The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out... and do it!</li><li>The only way to feel better about myself is to go out... and do it!</li><li>Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I am on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.</li><li>Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from feeling helplessness.</li><li>I'll Handle It! ---- Susan Jeffers</li></ol><br /><br />Autobiography in Five Short Chapters Written by Portia Nelson <br /><br />‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham<br /><br />‘Animals are my friends, and I don’t eat my friends’ - George Bernard Shaw<br /><br />“I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy.” — Attributed to <a href="https://click.fourhourmail.com/r8uvr50n07boh292dp0bd/wnh2hghrnmpm7xu7/aHR0cHM6Ly9lbi53aWtpcGVkaWEub3JnL3dpa2kvUmFiaW5kcmFuYXRoX1RhZ29yZQ==" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Rabindranath Tagore</a><br /><br />‘It is perfectly human to be afraid and, while afraid, that one is still obliged to live one’s life and to undertake one’s journey.’ (Hollis, 1994 p. 90)<br /><br />Robert Hilleger says, ‘Shame started as a two-person experience, But as I got older I learned to do shame all by myself.”]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/52245139</guid><pubDate>Wed, 21 Dec 2022 12:14:40 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/52245139/finished_top_recommendations_for_2023_the_annual_reuben_awards.mp3" length="28826649" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Hi and welcome to the Annual Reuben Awards where I give you my top recommendations for 2023! 

Here is everything that is mentioned in the podcast!

Best Non-Fiction 
No bad parts - Richard Schwartz 
Stolen focus - Johann Harri 


Best Fantasy 
Lord...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Hi and welcome to the Annual Reuben Awards where I give you my top recommendations for 2023! <br /><br />Here is everything that is mentioned in the podcast!<br /><br /><b>Best Non-Fiction</b> <br /><b>No bad parts - Richard Schwartz </b><br />Stolen focus - Johann Harri <br /><br /><br /><b>Best Fantasy</b> <br />Lord of the silver boy (Troy) - David Gammel <br /><b>The Blade Itself - Joe Abercrombie </b> <br /><br />Sci-Fi Speaker of the dead - Orsen Scott Wells <br /><br /><br /><b>Best Comedy/enjoyable Book</b> <b></b><br />And away… - Bob Mortimer <br /><b>First Person Singlular - Murakami </b> <br /><b></b><br /><b></b><br /><b>Overal best Book</b> <br /><b>First Person Singlular - Murakami </b><br />No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz<br /><br /><br /><b>Best Podcast</b> <br /><b>Sam Harris Waking Up</b><br />Hey riddle riddle <br /><br /><br /><b>Best film:</b> Letterboxd <br /><b>Everything Everywhere All At Once </b><br />Top Gun Maverick <br />The Last Duel<br />CODA <br />The King <br /><br /><b>Best documentary </b> <br />Stutz<br />Tim’s Vermeer <br />The Making of Arcane<br /><br /><b>Series: </b> <i></i><br /><b>Severance </b><br />Arcane <br />Cheer <br /><b></b><br /><b></b><br /><b>Best album</b>: <br />Low Island - If You could have it all again<br />Khruangbin - Mordechai <br /><br /><b>Best video</b>: <br />Guy knocking down dominos <br /><b></b>https://twitter.com/OnlyZans/status/1569416356839280640<br /><br /><b>Best idea or concept</b> <br /><b>Top Idea in Your Mind </b><br />Taking action Triangle of life <br /><br /><b>Best purchase </b> <b></b><br />Blackout eye mask <b></b><br /><b></b><br /><b>Most important change in my life</b> <br />Switching departments at work<br />Taking action<br />Top idea in your mind <br /><br /><b>Favourite fact</b> <b></b><br />Griezman having 3 separate kids born on the same day <br /><br />NASA mission controllers for the Apollo mission - their average age was 21 when the mission started and when they did the impossible they were an average of 28 <b></b><br /><b></b><br /><b></b><br /><b>Favourite quote</b> <br />FEEL THE FEAR...AND DO IT ANYWAY<br />Often we think, 'I'll do it when I am not so afraid.' But in reality, it works the other way round. The 'doing it' comes before the fear goes away. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it. <br /><br />The Five Truths about Fear<br /><ol><li>The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.</li><li>The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out... and do it!</li><li>The only way to feel better about myself is to go out... and do it!</li><li>Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I am on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.</li><li>Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from feeling helplessness.</li><li>I'll Handle It! ---- Susan Jeffers</li></ol><br /><br />Autobiography in Five Short Chapters Written by Portia Nelson <br /><br />‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham<br /><br />‘Animals are my friends, and I don’t eat my friends’ - George Bernard Shaw<br /><br />“I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy.” — Attributed to <a href="https://click.fourhourmail.com/r8uvr50n07boh292dp0bd/wnh2hghrnmpm7xu7/aHR0cHM6Ly9lbi53aWtpcGVkaWEub3JnL3dpa2kvUmFiaW5kcmFuYXRoX1RhZ29yZQ==" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Rabindranath Tagore</a><br /><br />‘It is perfectly human to be afraid and, while afraid, that one is still obliged to live one’s life and to undertake one’s journey.’ (Hollis, 1994 p. 90)<br /><br />Robert Hilleger says, ‘Shame started as a two-person experience, But as I got older I learned to do shame all by myself.”]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>1802</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>acceptance,anxiety,awareness,communication,compassion,counselling,counsellor,depression,freud,helping,mentalhealth,others,psychology,psychotherapy,respect,rogers,support,ta,therapy,transactionalanalysis</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#19: Your Emotions, Anger, Acceptance, Receiving Compliments, Feedback, Not Judging</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/19-your-emotions-anger-acceptance-receiving-compliments-feedback-not-judging--51978251</link><description><![CDATA[Welcome to my first edition of What Have I Learned This Month?<br /><br />In this episode, I talk about:<br />Limits on your emotions<br />The importance of releasing anger<br />The power of the group<br />Acceptance<br />Receiving compliments <br />How it can only takes a couple times to become much more comfortable with something<br />Feedback<br />Not judging others<br /><br />I hope you enjoy!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51978251</guid><pubDate>Tue, 22 Nov 2022 10:54:04 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/51978251/19_things_i_ve_learned_finished.mp3" length="32720742" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Welcome to my first edition of What Have I Learned This Month?&#13;
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In this episode, I talk about:&#13;
Limits on your emotions&#13;
The importance of releasing anger&#13;
The power of the group&#13;
Acceptance&#13;
Receiving compliments &#13;
How it can only takes a couple...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Welcome to my first edition of What Have I Learned This Month?<br /><br />In this episode, I talk about:<br />Limits on your emotions<br />The importance of releasing anger<br />The power of the group<br />Acceptance<br />Receiving compliments <br />How it can only takes a couple times to become much more comfortable with something<br />Feedback<br />Not judging others<br /><br />I hope you enjoy!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>2045</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>acceptance,anxiety,awareness,communication,compassion,counselling,counsellor,depression,freud,helping,mentalhealth,others,psychology,psychotherapy,respect,rogers,support,ta,therapy,transactionalanalysis</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#18: The Top Idea In Your Mind, The Most Important Thing In Your Life, Perfectionism</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/18-the-top-idea-in-your-mind-the-most-important-thing-in-your-life-perfectionism--51317235</link><description><![CDATA[Today I discuss Paul Graham's blog post 'The Top Idea In Your Mind' and how what we naturally drift to in the shower is more important than you think<br /><br />I also spend a few minutes covering perfectionism and our journey as human's and therapy clients<br /><br />Subscribe to know when the next monthly episode comes out <br /><br />I hope you enjoy!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51317235</guid><pubDate>Mon, 03 Oct 2022 04:00:02 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/51317235/18_the_most_important_thing_in_your_life_the_top_idea_in_your_mind_perfectionism_and_your_journey.mp3" length="21714207" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Today I discuss Paul Graham's blog post 'The Top Idea In Your Mind' and how what we naturally drift to in the shower is more important than you think&#13;
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I also spend a few minutes covering perfectionism and our journey as human's and therapy clients...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today I discuss Paul Graham's blog post 'The Top Idea In Your Mind' and how what we naturally drift to in the shower is more important than you think<br /><br />I also spend a few minutes covering perfectionism and our journey as human's and therapy clients<br /><br />Subscribe to know when the next monthly episode comes out <br /><br />I hope you enjoy!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>1358</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>anxiety,creativity,depression,goals,mental,mentalhealth,psychotherapy,therapy,transactionalanalysis</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#17: Catherine Llewellyn - Building Resilience, Facilitating Growth, Accountability and Blame</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/17-catherine-llewellyn-building-resilience-facilitating-growth-accountability-and-blame--50025283</link><description><![CDATA[In today's episode with Catherin Llewellyn, we talk about:<br />Blame <br />When we hold other people accountable for our suffering<br />When we need everything to be right to feel joy?<br />How people learn from who they decide to learn from <br />How to facilitate others growth <br />And building resilience  <br /><br />I hope you enjoy!<br /><br />You can find Catherine's work and contact details at:<br />Website: Yesyounow.today<br />Podcast: Truth & Transcendence <br />E-book - What is Humanistic Coaching and Why do we Care? <br /><br /><a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Humanistic-Coaching-Why-Care-ebook/dp/B01BYNJNYK/ref" rel="noopener">https://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Humanistic-Coaching-Why-Care-ebook/dp/B01BYNJNYK/ref</a>=sr_1_3?crid=2NSJVB4PS63TW&keywords=humanistic+coaching&qid=1651498905&s=books&sprefix=humanistic+coaching,stripbooks,106&sr=1-3<br /><br />I hope you enjoy!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/50025283</guid><pubDate>Wed, 01 Jun 2022 13:24:06 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/50025283/catherine_llewellyn_finished.mp3" length="68246851" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>In today's episode with Catherin Llewellyn, we talk about:&#13;
Blame &#13;
When we hold other people accountable for our suffering&#13;
When we need everything to be right to feel joy?&#13;
How people learn from who they decide to learn from &#13;
How to facilitate...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[In today's episode with Catherin Llewellyn, we talk about:<br />Blame <br />When we hold other people accountable for our suffering<br />When we need everything to be right to feel joy?<br />How people learn from who they decide to learn from <br />How to facilitate others growth <br />And building resilience  <br /><br />I hope you enjoy!<br /><br />You can find Catherine's work and contact details at:<br />Website: Yesyounow.today<br />Podcast: Truth & Transcendence <br />E-book - What is Humanistic Coaching and Why do we Care? <br /><br /><a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Humanistic-Coaching-Why-Care-ebook/dp/B01BYNJNYK/ref" rel="noopener">https://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Humanistic-Coaching-Why-Care-ebook/dp/B01BYNJNYK/ref</a>=sr_1_3?crid=2NSJVB4PS63TW&keywords=humanistic+coaching&qid=1651498905&s=books&sprefix=humanistic+coaching,stripbooks,106&sr=1-3<br /><br />I hope you enjoy!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>4266</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>accountability,anxiety,blame,buildingresilience,catherinellewellyn,coaching,counselling,depression,facillitation,joy,learning,llewellyn,mentalhealth,psychotherapy,resilience,reubenwachs,therapy</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#16: Doing a 'Should' Detox Exercise - Live with Amy Guerrier</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/16-doing-a-should-detox-exercise-live-with-amy-guerrier--49812312</link><description><![CDATA[In this episode Amy takes us through an exercise called a Should Detox. <br /><br />Working on how we speak to ourselves and others can drastically change our lives and I think you'll all enjoy what Amy brings here. <br /><br />You can find her at <br /><br />www.wholeheartedaf.com<br /><br />or at wholehearted.af on instagram<br /><br />Enjoy!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/49812312</guid><pubDate>Mon, 16 May 2022 11:22:09 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/49812312/should_detox_2nd_finished.mp3" length="25797655" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>In this episode Amy takes us through an exercise called a Should Detox. 

Working on how we speak to ourselves and others can drastically change our lives and I think you'll all enjoy what Amy brings here. 

You can find her at...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[In this episode Amy takes us through an exercise called a Should Detox. <br /><br />Working on how we speak to ourselves and others can drastically change our lives and I think you'll all enjoy what Amy brings here. <br /><br />You can find her at <br /><br />www.wholeheartedaf.com<br /><br />or at wholehearted.af on instagram<br /><br />Enjoy!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>1613</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>amyguerrier,anxiety,berne,communication,counselling,deperession,mentalhealth,psychotherapy,reuben,reubenwachs,shoulddetox,therapy,wordplay</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#15: Amy Guerrier - The Importance of Choosing Joy and Play</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/15-amy-guerrier-the-importance-of-choosing-joy-and-play--49652082</link><description><![CDATA[Today we're talking about why you should consider choosing joy and play in your everyday decisions and in your weekly and monthly plans. <br /><br />Play is a fundamental way that we create joy in our lives and it is often one of the fastest ways into creating great relationships. I believe that this is an essential part of life that we miss out on when talking about our health and happiness and I was glad to hear Amy's thoughts on how to bring it more into our lives. <br /><br />Amy Guerrier is a play facilitator and practitioner, as well as being a renowned coach. You can find out more about her at <a href="http://www.wholeheartedaf.com" rel="noopener">www.wholeheartedaf.com</a> and at wholehearted.af on instagram, where you can reach out to her for 1-2-1 or group coaching. <br /><br />It was a joy to talk with Amy and I hope you enjoy the conversation as much as I did. <br /><br />Have a great May!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/49652082</guid><pubDate>Wed, 04 May 2022 10:15:39 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/49652082/15_the_importance_of_choosing_joy_and_play_with_amy_guerrier.mp3" length="66572506" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Today we're talking about why you should consider choosing joy and play in your everyday decisions and in your weekly and monthly plans. &#13;
&#13;
Play is a fundamental way that we create joy in our lives and it is often one of the fastest ways into...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we're talking about why you should consider choosing joy and play in your everyday decisions and in your weekly and monthly plans. <br /><br />Play is a fundamental way that we create joy in our lives and it is often one of the fastest ways into creating great relationships. I believe that this is an essential part of life that we miss out on when talking about our health and happiness and I was glad to hear Amy's thoughts on how to bring it more into our lives. <br /><br />Amy Guerrier is a play facilitator and practitioner, as well as being a renowned coach. You can find out more about her at <a href="http://www.wholeheartedaf.com" rel="noopener">www.wholeheartedaf.com</a> and at wholehearted.af on instagram, where you can reach out to her for 1-2-1 or group coaching. <br /><br />It was a joy to talk with Amy and I hope you enjoy the conversation as much as I did. <br /><br />Have a great May!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>4161</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>amyguerrier,anxiety,counselling,depression,happiness,joy,laughter,learning,love,mentalhealth,play,relationships</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#14: How Trauma Impacts Therapy, Projection, Shame, Projective Identification, Sexual Abuse</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/14-how-trauma-impacts-therapy-projection-shame-projective-identification-sexual-abuse--48773268</link><description><![CDATA[*Disclaimer* - Talk of childhood sexual abuse in this episode. Please take care of yourself if you feel that this may bring up things for you. <br /><br />This recording is from a presentation I gave on my counselling training about the impact of trauma in the therapy room. <br /><br />In it I discuss:<br /><br />Trauma<br />Shame<br />Treatment<br />Splitting<br />Dissociation<br />and Projective Identification. <br /><br />I hope that the episode is useful]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/48773268</guid><pubDate>Fri, 01 Apr 2022 01:00:02 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/48773268/trauma_in_the_therapy_room_finished.mp3" length="31545019" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>*Disclaimer* - Talk of childhood sexual abuse in this episode. Please take care of yourself if you feel that this may bring up things for you. 

This recording is from a presentation I gave on my counselling training about the impact of trauma in the...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[*Disclaimer* - Talk of childhood sexual abuse in this episode. Please take care of yourself if you feel that this may bring up things for you. <br /><br />This recording is from a presentation I gave on my counselling training about the impact of trauma in the therapy room. <br /><br />In it I discuss:<br /><br />Trauma<br />Shame<br />Treatment<br />Splitting<br />Dissociation<br />and Projective Identification. <br /><br />I hope that the episode is useful]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>1972</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>attachment,childhood,childhoodsexualabuse,counselling,freud,mental,mentalhealth,psychoanalytic,psychodynamic,psychotherapy,sexual,sexualtrauma,trauma,treatingtrauma</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#13: Nicholas Malin - The Unspoken Silence of Men’s Suffering</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/13-nicholas-malin-the-unspoken-silence-of-men-s-suffering--48772993</link><description><![CDATA[This week we discuss the unspoken silence of men's suffering. <br /><br />We cover a ton of ground and we really hope that you enjoy the episode. <br /><br />To find out more about Nick and his fantastic events, you can find him on facebook at:<br /><br />Brothership Connection: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/668263904528233/" rel="noopener">https://www.facebook.com/groups/668263904528233/</a><br /><br />and at his website: <a href="https://www.nicholasmalin.com/online-group-work/" rel="noopener">https://www.nicholasmalin.com/online-group-work/</a><br /><br />The two books I recommend are:<br /><br />Under Saturn's Shadow by James Hollis <br /><br />and The Truth by Neil Strauss <br /><br />Enjoy!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/48772993</guid><pubDate>Tue, 01 Mar 2022 02:00:02 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/48772993/nick_malin_men_s_work_finished.mp3" length="99103108" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>This week we discuss the unspoken silence of men's suffering. &#13;
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We cover a ton of ground and we really hope that you enjoy the episode. &#13;
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To find out more about Nick and his fantastic events, you can find him on facebook at:&#13;
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Brothership...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[This week we discuss the unspoken silence of men's suffering. <br /><br />We cover a ton of ground and we really hope that you enjoy the episode. <br /><br />To find out more about Nick and his fantastic events, you can find him on facebook at:<br /><br />Brothership Connection: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/668263904528233/" rel="noopener">https://www.facebook.com/groups/668263904528233/</a><br /><br />and at his website: <a href="https://www.nicholasmalin.com/online-group-work/" rel="noopener">https://www.nicholasmalin.com/online-group-work/</a><br /><br />The two books I recommend are:<br /><br />Under Saturn's Shadow by James Hollis <br /><br />and The Truth by Neil Strauss <br /><br />Enjoy!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>6194</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>abuse,carljung,counselling,jung,mensgroups,menssuffering,menswork,mental,mentalhealth,pain,psychodynamic,psychotherapy,shadow,shadowwork</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#12 - The Annual Reuben Awards - 2021</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12-the-annual-reuben-awards-2021--48388290</link><description><![CDATA[Welcome to the first Annual Reuben Awards. Here is everything that is mentioned in the episode!<br /><br />Best Non-Fiction Book:<br />Becoming Myself: A Psychiatrists Memoir by Irvin Yalom<br /><br /><br />Best Fiction Book:<br />Schopenhaur’s Cure by Irvin Yalom<br />When Nietzsche Wept Irvin Yalom<br />Monma and The Meaning of Life: Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom <br /><br /><br />Best Comedy Book:<br />Round Ireland With A Fridge by Tony Hawks<br /><br /><br />Most Useful Book:<br />A Complaint Free World by Will Bowen<br /><br /><br />Overal best Book:<br />The Schopenhauer Cure - Irvin Yalom <br /><br /><br />Best Podcast:<br />Hey Riddle Riddle <br />Dungeons and Daddies<br />Armchair Expert<br />Tim Ferriss show<br /><br /><br />Best film: <br />Bo Burnham - Inside<br />The King<br />Jojo Rabbit<br /><br /><br />Best Series: <br />Ted Lasso<br />Love on the Spectrum <br /><br /><br />Best album: <br />Kacy Hill - Is It Selfish If We Talk About Me Again<br /><br /><br />Best video: <br />Chris D’Elia reacts to Hilarious You spin me right round Jesus cover - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sky-iP-j4iI" rel="noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sky-iP-j4iI</a><br />Chris D’Elia reacts to most Italian family ever - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E4vza3UdJP4" rel="noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E4vza3UdJP4</a><br /><br /><br />Best idea or concept:<br />Free Will by Sam Harris<br />Lying by Sam Harris<br /><br />Jon Hopkins - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozWfP91RXkM" rel="noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozWfP91RXkM</a><br /><br /><br />Best Purchase over £100:<br />Subpac - <a href="https://subpac.com/what-is-the-subpac/" rel="noopener">https://subpac.com/what-is-the-subpac/</a><br /><br /><br />Best purchase under £100:<br />AirPods<br /><br /><br />Most important change in my life:<br />Yoga - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw" rel="noopener">https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw</a><br /><br /><br />Favourite Fact:<br />Valcono in 1815 caused year with no summer in 1816 which lead to the price of oats going so high that loads of horses died and indirectly lead to the invention of the bicycle<br /><br />Favourite Quote:<br />“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before beginning to improve the world.”<br />- Anne Frank<br /><br />Have a wonderful 2022]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/48388290</guid><pubDate>Tue, 01 Feb 2022 05:30:02 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/48388290/12_annual_reuben_awards_best_of_2021.mp3" length="23568269" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Welcome to the first Annual Reuben Awards. Here is everything that is mentioned in the episode!&#13;
&#13;
Best Non-Fiction Book:&#13;
Becoming Myself: A Psychiatrists Memoir by Irvin Yalom&#13;
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Best Fiction Book:&#13;
Schopenhaur’s Cure by Irvin Yalom&#13;
When...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Welcome to the first Annual Reuben Awards. Here is everything that is mentioned in the episode!<br /><br />Best Non-Fiction Book:<br />Becoming Myself: A Psychiatrists Memoir by Irvin Yalom<br /><br /><br />Best Fiction Book:<br />Schopenhaur’s Cure by Irvin Yalom<br />When Nietzsche Wept Irvin Yalom<br />Monma and The Meaning of Life: Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom <br /><br /><br />Best Comedy Book:<br />Round Ireland With A Fridge by Tony Hawks<br /><br /><br />Most Useful Book:<br />A Complaint Free World by Will Bowen<br /><br /><br />Overal best Book:<br />The Schopenhauer Cure - Irvin Yalom <br /><br /><br />Best Podcast:<br />Hey Riddle Riddle <br />Dungeons and Daddies<br />Armchair Expert<br />Tim Ferriss show<br /><br /><br />Best film: <br />Bo Burnham - Inside<br />The King<br />Jojo Rabbit<br /><br /><br />Best Series: <br />Ted Lasso<br />Love on the Spectrum <br /><br /><br />Best album: <br />Kacy Hill - Is It Selfish If We Talk About Me Again<br /><br /><br />Best video: <br />Chris D’Elia reacts to Hilarious You spin me right round Jesus cover - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sky-iP-j4iI" rel="noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sky-iP-j4iI</a><br />Chris D’Elia reacts to most Italian family ever - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E4vza3UdJP4" rel="noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E4vza3UdJP4</a><br /><br /><br />Best idea or concept:<br />Free Will by Sam Harris<br />Lying by Sam Harris<br /><br />Jon Hopkins - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozWfP91RXkM" rel="noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozWfP91RXkM</a><br /><br /><br />Best Purchase over £100:<br />Subpac - <a href="https://subpac.com/what-is-the-subpac/" rel="noopener">https://subpac.com/what-is-the-subpac/</a><br /><br /><br />Best purchase under £100:<br />AirPods<br /><br /><br />Most important change in my life:<br />Yoga - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw" rel="noopener">https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw</a><br /><br /><br />Favourite Fact:<br />Valcono in 1815 caused year with no summer in 1816 which lead to the price of oats going so high that loads of horses died and indirectly lead to the invention of the bicycle<br /><br />Favourite Quote:<br />“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before beginning to improve the world.”<br />- Anne Frank<br /><br />Have a wonderful 2022]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>1473</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>books,counselling,health,irvinyalom,jonhopkins,mental,mentalhealth,music,podcast,psychotherapy,recommendations,yalom</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#11: The Impact Of Change On Relationships, Why We Should Want To Change Others</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11-the-impact-of-change-on-relationships-why-we-should-want-to-change-others--48062214</link><description><![CDATA[Hi everyone, <br /><br />I have decided to share my live appearance on the Delightful Dissent Podcast with Matthew Bellringer. <br /><br />In this podcast we discuss the accusation of 'you've changed' and also how we should desire people to change. We also cover how we should be using the eastern view of compassion and acceptance to bring about positive change. <br /><br />I hope you enjoy the conversation!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/48062214</guid><pubDate>Sat, 01 Jan 2022 04:00:02 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/48062214/reuben_on_delightful_dissent_finished.mp3" length="57415859" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Hi everyone, 

I have decided to share my live appearance on the Delightful Dissent Podcast with Matthew Bellringer. 

In this podcast we discuss the accusation of 'you've changed' and also how we should desire people to change. We also cover how we...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Hi everyone, <br /><br />I have decided to share my live appearance on the Delightful Dissent Podcast with Matthew Bellringer. <br /><br />In this podcast we discuss the accusation of 'you've changed' and also how we should desire people to change. We also cover how we should be using the eastern view of compassion and acceptance to bring about positive change. <br /><br />I hope you enjoy the conversation!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>3589</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>acceptance,change,compassion,counselling,helping,mental,mentalhealth,philosophy,psychology,psychotherapy,therapy</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#10: How to Help Someone Who Doesn't Want Help</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10-how-to-help-someone-who-doesn-t-want-help--47258155</link><description><![CDATA[Is it possible to help someone who doesn't want help? In today's episode I am going to share with you some ways that will hopefully shed some light on this idea. <br /><br />I cover: <br />Why they may not want to get help<br />How to communicate with them through the LEAP method<br />What to do when you finally offer help<br />and How to work on yourself to improve your chances <br /><br />Thanks to Dr Xavier Amador and his book I Am Not Sick, I Don't Need Help for the amazing work. <br /><br />Enjoy!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/47258155</guid><pubDate>Mon, 01 Nov 2021 13:11:25 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/47258155/finished_10_helping_people.mp3" length="46220813" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Is it possible to help someone who doesn't want help? In today's episode I am going to share with you some ways that will hopefully shed some light on this idea. 

I cover: 
Why they may not want to get help
How to communicate with them through the...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Is it possible to help someone who doesn't want help? In today's episode I am going to share with you some ways that will hopefully shed some light on this idea. <br /><br />I cover: <br />Why they may not want to get help<br />How to communicate with them through the LEAP method<br />What to do when you finally offer help<br />and How to work on yourself to improve your chances <br /><br />Thanks to Dr Xavier Amador and his book I Am Not Sick, I Don't Need Help for the amazing work. <br /><br />Enjoy!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>2889</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>communication,help,helping,mental,mentalhealth,mentalillness,psychology,psychotherapy,therapist,therapy</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#9: Recommending Irvin Yalom, The Lazarus Heist, Ted Lasso &amp; Bo Burnham's Inside</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9-recommending-irvin-yalom-the-lazarus-heist-ted-lasso-bo-burnham-s-inside--46743174</link><description><![CDATA[In this episode I recommend: <br /><br />Becoming Myself by Irvin Yalom<br />When Nietzsche Wept by Irvin Yalom<br />The Lazarus Heist podcast<br />Ted Lasso<br />Inside by Bo Burnham <br />Funny Dreams podcast<br /><br />and then I share two fun facts and two lovely quotes. <br /><br />Have a wonderful October]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/46743174</guid><pubDate>Fri, 01 Oct 2021 03:00:03 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/46743174/finished_9_october_ep_loneliness_yalom_etc.mp3" length="25134364" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>In this episode I recommend: 

Becoming Myself by Irvin Yalom
When Nietzsche Wept by Irvin Yalom
The Lazarus Heist podcast
Ted Lasso
Inside by Bo Burnham 
Funny Dreams podcast

and then I share two fun facts and two lovely quotes. 

Have a wonderful...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[In this episode I recommend: <br /><br />Becoming Myself by Irvin Yalom<br />When Nietzsche Wept by Irvin Yalom<br />The Lazarus Heist podcast<br />Ted Lasso<br />Inside by Bo Burnham <br />Funny Dreams podcast<br /><br />and then I share two fun facts and two lovely quotes. <br /><br />Have a wonderful October]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>1571</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>boburnham,counselling,existential,existentialism,funnydreams,irvinyalom,isolation,loneliness,mental,mentalhealth,neitzsche,nietzsche,psychology,psychotherapy,recommendations,therapy,yalom</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#8: pt. 2/2 - Your Script Pattern and Drivers - (Transactional Analysis)</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/8-pt-2-2-your-script-pattern-and-drivers-transactional-analysis--46219450</link><description><![CDATA[Hey there, a reminder that this is the second half of the Life Script podcast, so if you haven't had a chance to listen to that first, I'd highly recommend you jump back to episode #7 and then you'll be able to enjoy this one even more. <br /><br />In the second half of Life Scripts, we cover the 6 script patterns of:<br /><br />Until<br />After<br />Always<br />Never<br />Almost 1 & 2<br />Open Ended<br /><br />And the 5 main drivers:<br /><br />Be Perfect<br />Please Others<br />Be Strong<br />Try Hard<br />Hurry Up<br /><br />I use the book TA Today to guide us through the understanding and exercises and I hope that through this you will understand yourself better and increase your awareness for your own patterns that you follow. <br /><br />I hope you enjoy this episode and if you do, please share it with people you think will gain from listening. <br /><br />Have a fantastic month!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/46219450</guid><pubDate>Wed, 01 Sep 2021 05:25:03 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/46219450/8_script_part_2_finished.mp3" length="37409814" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Hey there, a reminder that this is the second half of the Life Script podcast, so if you haven't had a chance to listen to that first, I'd highly recommend you jump back to episode #7 and then you'll be able to enjoy this one even more. 

In the...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Hey there, a reminder that this is the second half of the Life Script podcast, so if you haven't had a chance to listen to that first, I'd highly recommend you jump back to episode #7 and then you'll be able to enjoy this one even more. <br /><br />In the second half of Life Scripts, we cover the 6 script patterns of:<br /><br />Until<br />After<br />Always<br />Never<br />Almost 1 & 2<br />Open Ended<br /><br />And the 5 main drivers:<br /><br />Be Perfect<br />Please Others<br />Be Strong<br />Try Hard<br />Hurry Up<br /><br />I use the book TA Today to guide us through the understanding and exercises and I hope that through this you will understand yourself better and increase your awareness for your own patterns that you follow. <br /><br />I hope you enjoy this episode and if you do, please share it with people you think will gain from listening. <br /><br />Have a fantastic month!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>2339</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>awareness,counselling,depression,ego-states,ericberne,lifescript,lifescripts,mentalhealth,psychology,selfdevelopment,selfhelp,therapeutic,therapy,transactional,transactionalanalysis,trauma</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#7: pt. 1/2 - Understanding Your Life Script - (Transactional Analysis)</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/7-pt-1-2-understanding-your-life-script-transactional-analysis--46172528</link><description><![CDATA[Here it is! 2 months in the making but hopefully worth the wait! <br /><br />In this episode we go on a journey into understanding your Life Script through Transactional Analysis. I use the book TA Today to guide us through the understanding and exercises and I hope that through this you will understand yourself better and increase your awareness for your own patterns that you follow. <br /><br />In the podcast I talk through: <br />What is the Script?<br />The Script in adult life<br />Life positions<br />Injunctions & Counter-Injunctions<br />Your Script process<br />& Drivers<br /><br />I hope you enjoy this episode and if you do, please share it with people you think will gain from listening. <br /><br />Have a fantastic month!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/46172528</guid><pubDate>Wed, 01 Sep 2021 04:00:06 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/46172528/7_part_1_finished.mp3" length="70119306" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Here it is! 2 months in the making but hopefully worth the wait! 

In this episode we go on a journey into understanding your Life Script through Transactional Analysis. I use the book TA Today to guide us through the understanding and exercises and I...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Here it is! 2 months in the making but hopefully worth the wait! <br /><br />In this episode we go on a journey into understanding your Life Script through Transactional Analysis. I use the book TA Today to guide us through the understanding and exercises and I hope that through this you will understand yourself better and increase your awareness for your own patterns that you follow. <br /><br />In the podcast I talk through: <br />What is the Script?<br />The Script in adult life<br />Life positions<br />Injunctions & Counter-Injunctions<br />Your Script process<br />& Drivers<br /><br />I hope you enjoy this episode and if you do, please share it with people you think will gain from listening. <br /><br />Have a fantastic month!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>4383</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>awareness,counselling,depression,ericberne,learning,lifescript,lifescripts,mentalhealth,psychology,psychotherapy,selfdevelopment,therapy,transactional,transactionalanalysis</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#6: When you're in your Parent, Adult or Child Ego-State - (Transactional Analysis)</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/6-when-you-re-in-your-parent-adult-or-child-ego-state-transactional-analysis--45522008</link><description><![CDATA[Today we're talking about a core counselling and psychology theory: The Ego-States. <br /><br />Please note: I am using the book TA Today by Stewart & Joines to base my understanding of the theory and therefore I use examples and quotes throughout the podcast. I don't cite throughout however, otherwise it would interrupt the flow. If you would like to learn more then I highly recommend buying the book. <br /><br />In this episode we go into: <br /><br />1. The basics of Parent, Child, Adult and why it’s applicable in therapy and in life.<br /><br />2. Splitting each of the parent and child states in two. Looking at the Controlling Parent / Nurturing Parent at the top, and then Adapted (compliant) Child / (care) Free Child at the bottom.<br /><br />3. Showing how each state we are in can be positive and negative, and how that affects you and those around you. <br /><br />4. Then lastly, we’re gonna talk about the slogans and beliefs that we’ve picked up from our parents or our own childhood, which still creep into and occasionally control our lives. <br /><br />Next month will be TA Life Scripts.<br /><br />I hope you enjoy the episode!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/45522008</guid><pubDate>Thu, 01 Jul 2021 09:14:07 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/45522008/finished_3rd_bounce_6_ta_ego_states.mp3" length="59371470" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Today we're talking about a core counselling and psychology theory: The Ego-States. 

Please note: I am using the book TA Today by Stewart &amp; Joines to base my understanding of the theory and therefore I use examples and quotes throughout the podcast....</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we're talking about a core counselling and psychology theory: The Ego-States. <br /><br />Please note: I am using the book TA Today by Stewart & Joines to base my understanding of the theory and therefore I use examples and quotes throughout the podcast. I don't cite throughout however, otherwise it would interrupt the flow. If you would like to learn more then I highly recommend buying the book. <br /><br />In this episode we go into: <br /><br />1. The basics of Parent, Child, Adult and why it’s applicable in therapy and in life.<br /><br />2. Splitting each of the parent and child states in two. Looking at the Controlling Parent / Nurturing Parent at the top, and then Adapted (compliant) Child / (care) Free Child at the bottom.<br /><br />3. Showing how each state we are in can be positive and negative, and how that affects you and those around you. <br /><br />4. Then lastly, we’re gonna talk about the slogans and beliefs that we’ve picked up from our parents or our own childhood, which still creep into and occasionally control our lives. <br /><br />Next month will be TA Life Scripts.<br /><br />I hope you enjoy the episode!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>3711</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>berne,counselling,development,ego-states,ericberne,psychology,selfdevelopment,selfhelp,selfimprovement,ta,thegamesweplay,theory,therapeutic,therapy,transactional,transactionalanalysis,trauma</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#5: Nicholas Malin - An Introduction To Jungian Shadow Work</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/5-nicholas-malin-an-introduction-to-jungian-shadow-work--44644109</link><description><![CDATA[Welcome everyone to my first interview, with the wonderful Nicholas Malin. <br /><br />In this episode we talk about: <br /><br />The Basics of What Is The Shadow <br />How Does it Often Turn Up <br />Why We Need to Integrate The Shadow <br />Projection<br />How to Spot the Shadow<br />How to Work on the Shadow<br /><br />Nick also leads us through an exercise and a 6 minute meditation at the end. <br /><br />I hope you enjoy this conversation and you can find Nick at: <br /><br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/nic.malin" rel="noopener">https://www.facebook.com/nic.malin</a><br /><br /><a href="https://nicholasmalin.com/" rel="noopener">https://nicholasmalin.com/</a><br /><br /><a href="https://uk.linkedin.com/in/nicholas-malin-3324341aa" rel="noopener">https://uk.linkedin.com/in/nicholas-malin-3324341aa</a><br /><br />See you in June!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/44644109</guid><pubDate>Sat, 15 May 2021 01:00:08 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/44644109/mum_new_shadow_work_august.mp3" length="88919936" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Welcome everyone to my first interview, with the wonderful Nicholas Malin. 

In this episode we talk about: 

The Basics of What Is The Shadow 
How Does it Often Turn Up 
Why We Need to Integrate The Shadow 
Projection
How to Spot the Shadow
How to...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Welcome everyone to my first interview, with the wonderful Nicholas Malin. <br /><br />In this episode we talk about: <br /><br />The Basics of What Is The Shadow <br />How Does it Often Turn Up <br />Why We Need to Integrate The Shadow <br />Projection<br />How to Spot the Shadow<br />How to Work on the Shadow<br /><br />Nick also leads us through an exercise and a 6 minute meditation at the end. <br /><br />I hope you enjoy this conversation and you can find Nick at: <br /><br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/nic.malin" rel="noopener">https://www.facebook.com/nic.malin</a><br /><br /><a href="https://nicholasmalin.com/" rel="noopener">https://nicholasmalin.com/</a><br /><br /><a href="https://uk.linkedin.com/in/nicholas-malin-3324341aa" rel="noopener">https://uk.linkedin.com/in/nicholas-malin-3324341aa</a><br /><br />See you in June!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>5558</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>analysis,books,carljung,counselling,counsellor,ifs,internalfamilysystems,jung,jungian,jungianlife,psychoanalysis,psychology,psychotherapy,recommendation,shadow,shadowwork,therapist,therapy,trauma</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#4: The Philosophy of Creating Happiness, Finding Meaning &amp; Should We Want to Change People?</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/4-the-philosophy-of-creating-happiness-finding-meaning-should-we-want-to-change-people--44607906</link><description><![CDATA[Welcome to the big philosophical chat about knowing when you're struggling, happiness, meaning and whether we can and should want to change the people around us. <br /><br />Including 2 new jingles for you! <br /><br />Philosophy Rap: <br /><a href="https://soundcloud.com/reuben-wachs/philosophical-flow/s-5wOKLKmwgcn" rel="noopener">https://soundcloud.com/reuben-wachs/philosophical-flow/s-5wOKLKmwgcn</a><br /><br />Exercise Break: <a href="https://soundcloud.com/reuben-wachs/exercise/s-vUrwCDd5UKz" rel="noopener">https://soundcloud.com/reuben-wachs/exercise/s-vUrwCDd5UKz</a><br /><br />Here is everything mentioned in the podcast:<br /><br />Viktor Frankl - Man's Search For Meaning: <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4069.Man_s_Search_for_Meaning?ac=1&from_search=true&qid=1HF3dPZ6TF&rank=1" rel="noopener">https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4069.Man_s_Search_for_Meaning?ac=1&from_search=true&qid=1HF3dPZ6TF&rank=1</a><br /><br />Bertrand Russel - Conquest of Happiness: <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/51783.The_Conquest_of_Happiness" rel="noopener">https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/51783.The_Conquest_of_Happiness</a><br /><br />Round Ireland with a Fridge: <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23316.Round_Ireland_with_a_Fridge?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=swz9bfXEUR&rank=1" rel="noopener">https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23316.Round_Ireland_with_a_Fridge?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=swz9bfXEUR&rank=1</a><br /><br />Podcasts<br /><br />Amy poehler: <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/armchair-expert-with-dax-shepard/id1345682353?i=1000511086639" rel="noopener">https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/armchair-expert-with-dax-shepard/id1345682353?i=1000511086639</a><br /><br />Sam Harris: <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/making-sense-with-sam-harris/id733163012?i=1000516062451" rel="noopener">https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/making-sense-with-sam-harris/id733163012?i=1000516062451</a><br /><br />See you in two weeks for an interview on Shadow Work with the amazing Nick Malin!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/44607906</guid><pubDate>Mon, 03 May 2021 14:17:01 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/44607906/replace_file_philosophy.mp3" length="60069928" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Welcome to the big philosophical chat about knowing when you're struggling, happiness, meaning and whether we can and should want to change the people around us. 

Including 2 new jingles for you! 

Philosophy Rap:...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Welcome to the big philosophical chat about knowing when you're struggling, happiness, meaning and whether we can and should want to change the people around us. <br /><br />Including 2 new jingles for you! <br /><br />Philosophy Rap: <br /><a href="https://soundcloud.com/reuben-wachs/philosophical-flow/s-5wOKLKmwgcn" rel="noopener">https://soundcloud.com/reuben-wachs/philosophical-flow/s-5wOKLKmwgcn</a><br /><br />Exercise Break: <a href="https://soundcloud.com/reuben-wachs/exercise/s-vUrwCDd5UKz" rel="noopener">https://soundcloud.com/reuben-wachs/exercise/s-vUrwCDd5UKz</a><br /><br />Here is everything mentioned in the podcast:<br /><br />Viktor Frankl - Man's Search For Meaning: <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4069.Man_s_Search_for_Meaning?ac=1&from_search=true&qid=1HF3dPZ6TF&rank=1" rel="noopener">https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4069.Man_s_Search_for_Meaning?ac=1&from_search=true&qid=1HF3dPZ6TF&rank=1</a><br /><br />Bertrand Russel - Conquest of Happiness: <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/51783.The_Conquest_of_Happiness" rel="noopener">https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/51783.The_Conquest_of_Happiness</a><br /><br />Round Ireland with a Fridge: <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23316.Round_Ireland_with_a_Fridge?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=swz9bfXEUR&rank=1" rel="noopener">https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23316.Round_Ireland_with_a_Fridge?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=swz9bfXEUR&rank=1</a><br /><br />Podcasts<br /><br />Amy poehler: <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/armchair-expert-with-dax-shepard/id1345682353?i=1000511086639" rel="noopener">https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/armchair-expert-with-dax-shepard/id1345682353?i=1000511086639</a><br /><br />Sam Harris: <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/making-sense-with-sam-harris/id733163012?i=1000516062451" rel="noopener">https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/making-sense-with-sam-harris/id733163012?i=1000516062451</a><br /><br />See you in two weeks for an interview on Shadow Work with the amazing Nick Malin!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>3755</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>bertrandrussel,bookrecommendation,books,counselling,counsellor,existentialism,happiness,learning,mental,mentalhealth,mind,philosophy,psychoanalysis,psychology,psychotherapy,therapist,therapy,trauma,viktorfrankl,wellness</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#3: Are You Codependent? &amp; Why We Do The Things We Do</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/3-are-you-codependent-why-we-do-the-things-we-do--44203195</link><description><![CDATA[Resources Mentioned:<br />Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody<br />Bootcamp For The Brain by Derren Brown<br /><br />Video: https://www.redbull.com/us-en/videos/from-avoriaz-with-love-speedriding-valentin-delluc<br /><br />It took a few seconds to load, so just click it, wait &amp; full screen! <br /><br />In this episode I talk about what codependence is and how it can play a part in your relationships. I also go into Derren Brown's new audible series, which looks at how the brain works through behavioural economics. <br />Lastly, I share some lovely quotes and some fun facts! <br /><br />I hope you enjoy part 2 of episode 2!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/44203195</guid><pubDate>Mon, 19 Apr 2021 08:00:14 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/44203195/reuben_recommends_episode_2_auphonic_bounce_for_spreaker.mp3" length="17224366" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Resources Mentioned:
Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody
Bootcamp For The Brain by Derren Brown

Video: https://www.redbull.com/us-en/videos/from-avoriaz-with-love-speedriding-valentin-delluc

It took a few seconds to load, so just click it, wait &amp;amp;...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Resources Mentioned:<br />Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody<br />Bootcamp For The Brain by Derren Brown<br /><br />Video: https://www.redbull.com/us-en/videos/from-avoriaz-with-love-speedriding-valentin-delluc<br /><br />It took a few seconds to load, so just click it, wait &amp; full screen! <br /><br />In this episode I talk about what codependence is and how it can play a part in your relationships. I also go into Derren Brown's new audible series, which looks at how the brain works through behavioural economics. <br />Lastly, I share some lovely quotes and some fun facts! <br /><br />I hope you enjoy part 2 of episode 2!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>1231</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>anxiety,behaviour,behaviouraleconomics,bookclub,books,carljung,codependence,co-dependence,counselling,depression,derrenbrown,internalfamilysystems,newbooks,piamellody,podcast,recommendations,relationships,reuben,reubenrecommends,therapy</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#2: Your Internal Family System and How To Think In Parts</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/2-your-internal-family-system-and-how-to-think-in-parts--44145346</link><description><![CDATA[Hey everyone, <br /><br />In this episode I focus on Internal Family Systems Therapy and I explain how using this in your life can be incredibly beneficial for yourself and those around you. <br /><br />(Small trigger warning: I talk about concepts that may make you self reflect on past events. If you’d rather not do this, then don’t worry and it’s fine to just skip this episode) <br /><br />Books mentioned: <br />Internal Family Systems by Richard Schwartz<br />The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haigt<br /><br />-<br /><br />Part 2 will be coming out in two weeks and will be about: <br />Facing Co-dependence by Pia Mellody<br />Derren Brown's Boot Camp for the Brain <br />+ Quotes and Facts<br /><br />-<br /><br />Song: by Reuben Wachs<br /><br />If you’d like to reach out to me about recommendations or anything in the podcast then my email is <a href="mailto:reubenwachs@gmail.com">reubenwachs@gmail.com</a><br /><br />I hope you enjoy the episode!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/44145346</guid><pubDate>Thu, 01 Apr 2021 13:09:17 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/44145346/official_finished_rr_ep_2.mp3" length="89187181" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Hey everyone, 

In this episode I focus on Internal Family Systems Therapy and I explain how using this in your life can be incredibly beneficial for yourself and those around you. 

(Small trigger warning: I talk about concepts that may make you self...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Hey everyone, <br /><br />In this episode I focus on Internal Family Systems Therapy and I explain how using this in your life can be incredibly beneficial for yourself and those around you. <br /><br />(Small trigger warning: I talk about concepts that may make you self reflect on past events. If you’d rather not do this, then don’t worry and it’s fine to just skip this episode) <br /><br />Books mentioned: <br />Internal Family Systems by Richard Schwartz<br />The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haigt<br /><br />-<br /><br />Part 2 will be coming out in two weeks and will be about: <br />Facing Co-dependence by Pia Mellody<br />Derren Brown's Boot Camp for the Brain <br />+ Quotes and Facts<br /><br />-<br /><br />Song: by Reuben Wachs<br /><br />If you’d like to reach out to me about recommendations or anything in the podcast then my email is <a href="mailto:reubenwachs@gmail.com">reubenwachs@gmail.com</a><br /><br />I hope you enjoy the episode!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>2230</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>anxiety,attachment,attachmenttheory,book,bookclub,counselling,counsellor,depression,ifs,ifstherapy,internalfamilysystems,mentalhealth,psychology,psychotherapy,recommendation,reuben,reubenwachs,richardschwartz,therapy,trauma</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>#1: Recommending Yalom, Philosophy, Psychotherapy, Negotiation, Feminism and Abuse</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/1-recommending-yalom-philosophy-psychotherapy-negotiation-feminism-and-abuse--43691758</link><description><![CDATA[All links mentioned: <a href="https://reubenwachs.wixsite.com/my-site/post/1-yalom-philosophy-psychotherapy-negotiation-feminism-and-abuse-quotes-and-facts" rel="noopener">https://reubenwachs.wixsite.com/my-site/post/1-yalom-philosophy-psychotherapy-negotiation-feminism-and-abuse-quotes-and-facts</a><br /><br />Hey everyone, <br /><br />I hope you enjoy today's podcast which recommends two books, four podcasts, a hilarious video and a wicked series for you to enjoy over the next month. I also finish with a couple powerful quotes and two great new facts. <br /><br />I love sharing resources as I believe they can have a hugely positive impact on people's lives as they have done for me. <br /><br />If you have any questions, recommendations or thoughts on the things mentioned in the podcast, please reach out to me at <a href="mailto:reubenwachs@gmail.com">reubenwachs@gmail.com</a>]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/43691758</guid><pubDate>Mon, 01 Mar 2021 19:17:22 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/43691758/first_bounce_logic_reuben_recommends_march_finished_recording.mp3" length="20177223" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>All links mentioned: https://reubenwachs.wixsite.com/my-site/post/1-yalom-philosophy-psychotherapy-negotiation-feminism-and-abuse-quotes-and-facts

Hey everyone, 

I hope you enjoy today's podcast which recommends two books, four podcasts, a hilarious...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[All links mentioned: <a href="https://reubenwachs.wixsite.com/my-site/post/1-yalom-philosophy-psychotherapy-negotiation-feminism-and-abuse-quotes-and-facts" rel="noopener">https://reubenwachs.wixsite.com/my-site/post/1-yalom-philosophy-psychotherapy-negotiation-feminism-and-abuse-quotes-and-facts</a><br /><br />Hey everyone, <br /><br />I hope you enjoy today's podcast which recommends two books, four podcasts, a hilarious video and a wicked series for you to enjoy over the next month. I also finish with a couple powerful quotes and two great new facts. <br /><br />I love sharing resources as I believe they can have a hugely positive impact on people's lives as they have done for me. <br /><br />If you have any questions, recommendations or thoughts on the things mentioned in the podcast, please reach out to me at <a href="mailto:reubenwachs@gmail.com">reubenwachs@gmail.com</a>]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>1442</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>book,books,counselling,counsellor,existentialism,fact,facts,fkatwigs,freud,jung,philosophy,podcast,podcasts,psychotherapist,psychotherapy,quote,quotes,recommendation,recommendations,yalom</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title>Trailer: Reuben Recommends</title><link>https://www.spreaker.com/episode/trailer-reuben-recommends--43635592</link><description><![CDATA[Hey, my name is Reuben Wachs and I am a trainee counsellor and a lover and sharer of audio content and books. <br /><br />On Reuben Recommends, I will be sharing my favourite books, audiobooks, podcasts and videos of the last month. Plus, I’ll be sharing my favourite quotes and facts. <br /><br />For any links mentioned, please visit my blog: <a href="https://reubenwachs.wixsite.com/my-site" rel="noopener">https://reubenwachs.wixsite.com/my-site</a><br /><br />To keep track of my ongoing reading, you can follow me on Goodreads: <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/89300378-reuben-wachs" rel="noopener">https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/89300378-reuben-wachs</a><br /><br />To contact me with any questions, recommendations or whether you wanna chat about any resources I have shared, please contact me at <a href="mailto:reubenwachs@gmail.com">reubenwachs@gmail.com</a><br /><br />I hope you enjoy!]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">https://api.spreaker.com/episode/43635592</guid><pubDate>Thu, 25 Feb 2021 15:31:23 +0000</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/43635592/my_trailer_spreaker.mp3" length="985128" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:author>Reuben Wachs</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>Hey, my name is Reuben Wachs and I am a trainee counsellor and a lover and sharer of audio content and books. 

On Reuben Recommends, I will be sharing my favourite books, audiobooks, podcasts and videos of the last month. Plus, I’ll be sharing my...</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary><![CDATA[Hey, my name is Reuben Wachs and I am a trainee counsellor and a lover and sharer of audio content and books. <br /><br />On Reuben Recommends, I will be sharing my favourite books, audiobooks, podcasts and videos of the last month. Plus, I’ll be sharing my favourite quotes and facts. <br /><br />For any links mentioned, please visit my blog: <a href="https://reubenwachs.wixsite.com/my-site" rel="noopener">https://reubenwachs.wixsite.com/my-site</a><br /><br />To keep track of my ongoing reading, you can follow me on Goodreads: <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/89300378-reuben-wachs" rel="noopener">https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/89300378-reuben-wachs</a><br /><br />To contact me with any questions, recommendations or whether you wanna chat about any resources I have shared, please contact me at <a href="mailto:reubenwachs@gmail.com">reubenwachs@gmail.com</a><br /><br />I hope you enjoy!]]></itunes:summary><itunes:duration>62</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords>audiobooks,book,bookclub,books,counselling,podcast,podcasts,reading,recommendation,recommendations,reuben,reubenrecommends</itunes:keywords><itunes:explicit>clean</itunes:explicit><itunes:image href="https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d663c5ca83a2db1befd9b6447994fb77.jpg"/><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item></channel></rss>
