https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/modern-love--4770331Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast. Now, we are excited to announce a relaunch of the podcast at The Times, hosted by Daniel Jones, the editor and creator of Modern Love, and Miya Lee, editor of Tiny Love Stories and Modern Love projects.
Each week, we’ll bring you their favorite stories from the column’s vast archive, conversations with the authors, and a few surprises. New episodes every Wednesday.]]>enSociety & CultureCopyright Selemanhttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/8d6aa672a8d37ac5ea66d1c81a691864.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/podcast/modern-love--4770331Wed, 22 Jul 2026 09:21:04 +0000SelemanSelemanfeeds@spreaker.comFor 16 years, the Modern Love column has given New York Times readers a glimpse into the complicated love lives of real people. Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast. Now, we are excited to announce a...Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast. Now, we are excited to announce a relaunch of the podcast at The Times, hosted by Daniel Jones, the editor and creator of Modern Love, and Miya Lee, editor of Tiny Love Stories and Modern Love projects.
Each week, we’ll bring you their favorite stories from the column’s vast archive, conversations with the authors, and a few surprises. New episodes every Wednesday.]]>trueepisodichttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/my-disability-makes-my-sex-life-even-hotter--73103544How to submit a Modern Love Essay
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How to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.
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How to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.
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Check out our submission page to learn more.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>3462false429fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/14modernlove-podcast-belle-burden--69434693How to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story  Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. 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For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>3395false428fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/want-to-have-better-sex-this-year-here-s-how--69338381 submission page to learn more.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>23e5355e-2075-4fd1-84de-d9b9ce4a425aWed, 07 Jan 2026 10:00:00 +0000SelemanDo you think you could be having better sex? Are you confident you know what really turns you on? What makes your body feel good? How do you communicate about it? Nicole McNichols wants everyone to be asking these questions.Dr. McNichols is a... submission page to learn more.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2473false427fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/andrew-garfield-wants-to-crack-open-your-heart-encore--69193283Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss.”"Modern Love" will return on Jan. 7 with all new episodes. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>1e8d20d1-88c6-4820-9f9a-d866cab71d98Wed, 24 Dec 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanThis emotional interview with the actor Andrew Garfield is a listener favorite. In it, Garfield talks about his 2024 film “We Live in Time,” in which he plays a newly divorced man named Tobias who falls in love with a chef named Almut, played by...Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss.”"Modern Love" will return on Jan. 7 with all new episodes. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>3014false426fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-cashed-out-my-401-k-to-build-a-women-s-only-retirement-community--69093156nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>e87c7f6c-7fb2-4450-b199-8aed4adff495Wed, 17 Dec 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen it came time to retire, Robyn Yerian didn’t feel like she had enough money saved. She didn’t want to depend on her children or end up in a nursing home, so she cashed out what she had in her 401(k) and bought a plot of land in East Texas. She...nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>1769false425fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/jessie-buckley-became-a-mother-for-hamnet-then-she-became-one-for-real--68972793“The Wrong Kind of Inheritance” by Victoria Dougherty.

How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times.How to submit a Tiny Love Story. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>5cbaaa80-7bf1-4386-81fe-6526d09a048cWed, 10 Dec 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanThe actor Jessie Buckley says she wasn’t surprised that she got pregnant right after she finished shooting “Hamnet.” The film — starring Paul Mescal as William Shakespeare and Buckley as his wife, Agnes — tells the story of a couple grieving the loss...“The Wrong Kind of Inheritance” by Victoria Dougherty.

How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times.How to submit a Tiny Love Story. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2263false424fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/finding-the-magic-just-in-time-encore--68846107Finally Finding “The Magic.” Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>cccfca65-a570-4f17-9715-6e856c20f9c8Wed, 03 Dec 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Clare Cory was a young girl, she dreamed of love. But by the time she turned 50, she hadn’t found it. Still, she took a look around and found she was happy and looking forward to the future. Clare fell in love with life. She saw flowers bloom,...Finally Finding “The Magic.” Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2555false423fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-therapist-s-emotional-tool-kit-for-a-better-holiday-season--68753684How to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>64050063-092f-4c73-a82b-7ef2c1183824Wed, 26 Nov 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanThe holiday season is upon us. It’s a wonderful time, but if we’re being honest, it’s also a little stressful. Whether you’re worried about hosting a big family gathering, talking with cousins who have very different perspectives on politics or...How to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2777false422fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/there-s-a-better-way-for-couples-to-talk-about-money--68637424here. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>872d3946-ecd6-4e8d-9748-e1dd36a19dfcWed, 19 Nov 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanAccording to Ramit Sethi, a personal finance author and coach, a lot of couples get stuck bickering about everyday purchases. If you’re hung up on what’s in the cart at Target, or who’s buying too many iced teas on the way to work, Sethi says you’re...here. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2599false421fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/on-our-third-date-i-asked-for-a-joint-bank-account--68534225The Woman Who Always Paid for Dinner.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story.Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>8312b121-7cfa-4b7b-be4e-cf18d95550fdWed, 12 Nov 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanJanene Lin loathed the moment when the dinner bill would hit the table. When her date would pay, she felt like her love was for sale. Splitting the bill felt like no one had anything at stake. Most of the time, she would pay the bill herself, but that...The Woman Who Always Paid for Dinner.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story.Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2847false420fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-love-poem-andrea-gibson-wrote-for-their-widow-and-for-you--68429388Hold Down The Fort.”Megan Falley’s newsletter is called “Things That Don’t Suck.”Here’s how to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story.Listener call-out: Thanksgiving with family can be tough. We want to help. The Modern Love team wants to hear your questions about navigating tricky family situations over the holiday, and we’ll try to find answers for you. Find out how to submit your voice memo here Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>b4acdf3e-e181-4df5-9bcb-e5ab6b9fe8c6Wed, 05 Nov 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanAndrea Gibson was the poet laureate of Colorado and a giant of the spoken word poetry scene. This past July, Gibson died of ovarian cancer, leaving behind their devoted fans, friends, family and longtime partner, the poet Megan Falley.For the last...Hold Down The Fort.”Megan Falley’s newsletter is called “Things That Don’t Suck.”Here’s how to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story.Listener call-out: Thanksgiving with family can be tough. We want to help. The Modern Love team wants to hear your questions about navigating tricky family situations over the holiday, and we’ll try to find answers for you. Find out how to submit your voice memo here Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>3434false419fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/w-n-b-a-star-natasha-cloud-doesn-t-play-when-it-comes-to-love--68329454
Listener call out: The Modern Love team wants to know how differences over money are straining your relationship. Tell us what’s going on, and we may get you some expert advice on an upcoming episode. Find out how to submit your voice memo here.Also: The Modern Love team wants to hear your questions about dealing with family during the holidays. Read our submission guidelines hereHow to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2229d46d-1858-4d22-8358-41d01a8b2f9bWed, 29 Oct 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanNatasha Cloud is a powerhouse. The New York Liberty point guard seems to have it all: a successful W.N.B.A. career, fierce confidence and a loving relationship with her girlfriend and teammate, Isabelle Harrison. On and off the court, Cloud radiates...
Listener call out: The Modern Love team wants to know how differences over money are straining your relationship. Tell us what’s going on, and we may get you some expert advice on an upcoming episode. Find out how to submit your voice memo here.Also: The Modern Love team wants to hear your questions about dealing with family during the holidays. Read our submission guidelines hereHow to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2402false418fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-woman-who-can-make-affairs-disappear--68237253here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story.Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>134bb316-ed5f-4d0f-8c65-5999cd1c8f25Wed, 22 Oct 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanIn cities across China, there’s a special kind of consultant you can hire if you find out your spouse is cheating. They’re called “mistress dispellers,” and their job is to work their way into your spouse’s life, get close to their lover and convince...here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story.Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2038false417fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/malala-thought-she-d-never-fall-in-love--68146705here. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2e3fa2ab-02c3-47ba-a4ab-534b3f7ccd37Wed, 15 Oct 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen she was 15 years old, Malala Yousafzai was shot by the Taliban, targeted for saying that young women should have the right to an education. By the time she woke from the ensuing coma, the world had already cast her in the role of fearless...here. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>3443false416fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/tessa-thompson-on-finding-what-you-want-what-you-really-really-want--68060147essay about an unhappy marriage that helped the author find herself.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>01c8e218-85cb-4ad3-83cb-e75826cd8f14Wed, 08 Oct 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanTessa Thompson’s latest role is an infamously chaotic one: Hedda Gabler. Adapted from the classic play by Henrik Ibsen, “Hedda,” in select theaters Oct. 22, casts Thompson as a 1950s housewife who feels snubbed by an old lover and stifled in a new...essay about an unhappy marriage that helped the author find herself.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2391false415fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/for-her-70th-birthday-she-hired-an-escort--67965388newsletter “Oldster.”Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story.The Modern Love column is looking for “breakup lines.” If you have a memorable story about what you said when you were breaking up with someone, or what someone said to you, you can share it here. The deadline is Sunday, Oct. 5. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>c9db2f14-abd1-43a5-b394-f86d5b1550fdWed, 01 Oct 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanGail Rice, a writer and a therapist, was approaching her 70th birthday. She had given up on dating apps and hadn’t had a romantic connection with anyone in years. But for her 70th, she wanted a very specific birthday present: an orgasm.So Rice decided...newsletter “Oldster.”Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story.The Modern Love column is looking for “breakup lines.” If you have a memorable story about what you said when you were breaking up with someone, or what someone said to you, you can share it here. The deadline is Sunday, Oct. 5. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.]]>2322false412fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-an-off-script-moment-changed-jay-duplass-s-life--67875217The Dentist Who Treated My Divorce,” by Hillery Stone, and reflects on how the power of dropping our assumed roles can make way for deep interpersonal connection.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2ed0d442-377b-45df-b935-e1cf5fe54778Wed, 24 Sep 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanJay Duplass knows the power of improvisation. Many years ago, an unscripted, cliffside interaction changed his life, helping to set in motion the events that would lead to his new movie, “The Baltimorons.” The film features a newly sober comedian and...The Dentist Who Treated My Divorce,” by Hillery Stone, and reflects on how the power of dropping our assumed roles can make way for deep interpersonal connection.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2764false413fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/you-think-you-know-elizabeth-gilbert-you-don-t--67790539how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>ceadfe59-2318-46a9-89b0-31289dcbdee2Wed, 17 Sep 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen her wildly popular memoir “Eat Pray Love” came out in 2006, Elizabeth Gilbert suddenly found herself touted as an expert on self fulfillment, spirituality and love. Readers might assume that Gilbert had vanquished her demons as she settled into a...how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>3399false412fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/why-i-always-dreamed-of-being-a-sister-wife--67699316how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>18c9a103-ec76-456e-b806-33cf1cabb0b2Wed, 10 Sep 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanChristine Woolley always knew she wanted to be in a plural marriage. She grew up in a fundamentalist Mormon community, loved having two moms and several grandmothers, and wanted to raise her own children in that environment. As an adult, and after...how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>3040false409fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/e-jean-carroll-s-vibrant-sex-life-ended-30-years-ago-she-wants-it-back--67612284how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>ddfc458e-3049-4833-9a77-15c99d94d894Wed, 03 Sep 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen the writer E. Jean Carroll accused President Trump of sexual assault in 2019, she unearthed a memory she had pushed away for decades. She also admitted, for the first time, something she hadn’t fully reckoned with: She hadn’t had sex since.In...how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2003false411fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/nic-and-olandria-on-what-the-love-island-cameras-missed--67528210how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>14210da6-4c25-46fe-afce-6c5b1a083361Wed, 27 Aug 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanOlandria Carthen and Nic Vansteenberghe spent a lot of this past season on “Love Island USA” coupled up with other people, but in a last-minute twist they wound up together.Fans were divided. They read into body language, smirks, eye contact and...how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2634false410fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/bridget-everett-says-a-best-friend-can-be-your-greatest-love-encore--67451892When Your Greatest Romance Is a Friendship,” by Victor Lodato. Lodato was in his 40s when he fell into a platonic life partnership with an artist in her 80s, who lived across the street.In April 2024, Lodato published “Honey,” a novel inspired by Austin Brayfield, the friend he wrote about in his essay.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>4b80ae8a-1233-4a8d-ba85-8aeccc8422abWed, 20 Aug 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanStories of romantic love are everywhere, but the actor, singer and comedian Bridget Everett says that friendships deserve our attention, too. Onscreen and in everyday life.Last Fall, Everett appeared on Modern Love to talk about her HBO Original...When Your Greatest Romance Is a Friendship,” by Victor Lodato. Lodato was in his 40s when he fell into a platonic life partnership with an artist in her 80s, who lived across the street.In April 2024, Lodato published “Honey,” a novel inspired by Austin Brayfield, the friend he wrote about in his essay.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2383false408fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/where-did-all-my-male-friendships-go--67354227“Where Have All My Deep Male Friendships Gone?” in The New York Times Magazine.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>ee964727-b3c7-45d9-9fe8-c27d1a3e330bWed, 13 Aug 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanSam Graham-Felsen never imagined being lonely. Throughout his childhood and as a young man his life revolved around his friends. But when Sam got married and then had kids, going out with his friends almost felt like a luxury. After years of focusing...“Where Have All My Deep Male Friendships Gone?” in The New York Times Magazine.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>3795false407fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-kind-of-pain-she-wanted--67267974The Kind of Pain I Wanted.” Hussar shares the story of how she discovered that rope play and kink were the keys to newfound presence and pleasure in her life.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>4b0d669f-b16e-4129-868c-4010a1863f9dWed, 06 Aug 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanFor her entire life, Grace Hussar has been an overthinker. No matter how much she wanted to be in the moment, she always felt as if she was just outside it. But when she took up endurance running, she realized something: Extreme pain turned her...The Kind of Pain I Wanted.” Hussar shares the story of how she discovered that rope play and kink were the keys to newfound presence and pleasure in her life.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2826false406fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-stop-asking-are-you-mad-at-me--67186895My Three Years as a Beloved Daughter” by Erin Brown, about a woman who found a type of love in her best friend’s parents that she had never experienced before, and what that taught her about her own parents.Josephson’s book, “Are You Mad At Me?,” is available Aug. 5, 2025.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>0d60a1c9-e740-42ab-a47f-6404064a4b9dWed, 30 Jul 2025 09:00:00 +0000Seleman“Am I in trouble?” “Am I secretly bad?” These are questions Meg Josephson, a therapist and author, grew up asking herself. She was constantly trying to anticipate other people’s needs, worried that she was letting other people down. And it wasn’t...My Three Years as a Beloved Daughter” by Erin Brown, about a woman who found a type of love in her best friend’s parents that she had never experienced before, and what that taught her about her own parents.Josephson’s book, “Are You Mad At Me?,” is available Aug. 5, 2025.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2706false405fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/renee-rapp-on-blurring-the-line-between-bestie-and-lover--67083970This is What Happens When Friends Fall in Love” by Sammy Sass. The piece resonates with her own experiences of sustaining love within queer friendships. While Rapp says she doesn’t have a blueprint, she has learned to navigate misunderstandings and express genuine love to those closest to her.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>f46554f4-cfad-4052-8baf-0fc1bfad46c6Wed, 23 Jul 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanThe pop singer and actress Reneé Rapp has a deep love for her friends. She maintains a nonstop group chat with more than 15 close friends every day. Their lives are so intertwined that the line between platonic and romantic can sometimes get blurry,...This is What Happens When Friends Fall in Love” by Sammy Sass. The piece resonates with her own experiences of sustaining love within queer friendships. While Rapp says she doesn’t have a blueprint, she has learned to navigate misunderstandings and express genuine love to those closest to her.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2293false404fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-keep-love-alive-with-rob-delaney-of-dying-for-sex--66994446a Modern Love essay about a couple who decides to try some role play to avoid getting too comfortable with each other.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>6c6beae2-ec7d-4c66-9396-71478de68b02Wed, 16 Jul 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen we meet Rob Delaney’s character, “Neighbor Guy,” in FX’s limited series “Dying for Sex,” he’s scarfing down a burrito in an elevator, dripping food on his face and the floor. But Delaney’s performance reveals that under Neighbor Guy’s messy...a Modern Love essay about a couple who decides to try some role play to avoid getting too comfortable with each other.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2306false403fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/let-mel-robbins-share-her-5-tips-for-a-healthy-relationship--66910960The Let Them Theory,” has given her readers a fresh perspective for navigating disappointment, rejection and uncertainty in life.Today, Robbins shares fives tips for letting go of control, and explains how these transformed her marriage and her relationship with her kids. She also reads a Modern Love essay, "You Have to Let Go to Move On,” about a woman who finally learns that real love doesn’t come from holding on tighter. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>42a4cefb-11f1-4782-be62-1ee853dc943aWed, 09 Jul 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanThe best-selling author and motivational podcast host Mel Robbins is known for her blunt advice and viral wisdom, from The 5-Second Rule to countless proverbs on relationships, confidence and everyday stuck-ness. Her most recent book,...The Let Them Theory,” has given her readers a fresh perspective for navigating disappointment, rejection and uncertainty in life.Today, Robbins shares fives tips for letting go of control, and explains how these transformed her marriage and her relationship with her kids. She also reads a Modern Love essay, "You Have to Let Go to Move On,” about a woman who finally learns that real love doesn’t come from holding on tighter. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>3115false402fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-interview-ocean-vuong-was-ready-to-kill-then-a-moment-of-grace-changed-his-life--66830454nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>88af057c-dd88-415f-950d-4924eed35d11Wed, 02 Jul 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanThis week on Modern Love, we’re bringing you a conversation we liked so much that we’re envious we didn’t get to have ourselves. In a raw but deeply heartfelt and compassionate conversation with “The Interview" host David Marchese, author and poet...nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>3053false401fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/to-share-or-not-to-share-how-location-sharing-is-changing-our-relationships--66737015how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>3f5ceb2b-e58c-488a-ae82-2baa8f141638Wed, 25 Jun 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen we asked Modern Love listeners how location sharing is affecting their relationships, the responses we got were all over the map. Some people love this technology. Some hate it. But either way, it has changed something fundamental about how we...how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2061false400fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/materialists-director-celine-song-believes-in-love-at-first-conversation--66600192My View From the Margins,” about a relationship columnist who can’t figure out love in her own life. And Song tells us how neither falling in love at age 24 nor making a career of writing about love has brought her any closer to understanding it. “It’s the one thing that makes me feel like a fool,” Song says.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>f4f2fdc2-17db-496c-822b-fe079207b4a1Wed, 18 Jun 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanThe director Celine Song won over audiences and critics alike with her first feature film, “Past Lives,” the semi-autobiographical tale of a married Korean American woman meeting up with her former childhood sweetheart. Now Song is back with another...My View From the Margins,” about a relationship columnist who can’t figure out love in her own life. And Song tells us how neither falling in love at age 24 nor making a career of writing about love has brought her any closer to understanding it. “It’s the one thing that makes me feel like a fool,” Song says.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2037false399fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/open-your-heart-and-loosen-up-therapist-terry-real-s-advice-for-fathers--66504896how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>76194beb-4d56-49bb-9a71-90ee698e40f5Wed, 11 Jun 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanFor Father’s Day, the Modern Love team asked for your stories about fatherhood and emotional vulnerability. We heard from listeners who told us that their dads rarely expressed their emotions, from listeners whose fathers wore their hearts on their...how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>3597false398fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/first-love-mixtape-side-b-encore--66393081episode, the Modern Love team shared the songs that taught us about love when we were young. But in this week’s episode, we hear from you, our listeners, about the songs that helped shape your ideas about love.We heard from present-day teens streaming their anthems on repeat, and we heard from listeners who have been with their partners for over 50 years. There were stories of jazz and rap; adrenaline rushes and loneliness; and many hard-won lessons in matters of the heart. (“Don’t let your friends choose your boyfriends,” Amy from St. Louis said.) We share a compilation of some of your songs and stories in the first half of our episode.And we finish our episode with an essay about the end of love. After more than 50 years of marriage, Tina Welling decided that she wanted a divorce — a decision that turned out to be liberating.Thank you to all of the listeners who sent us their teenage anthems. We’ve compiled them into one glorious Spotify playlist.[You can listen to this episode above, or on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music or wherever you get your podcasts.]Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>63b9366f-9a19-40da-9c6c-99bc88965723Wed, 04 Jun 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanIn last week’s https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/28/podcasts/love-soundtrack-music.html, the Modern Love team shared the songs that taught us about love when we were young. But in this week’s episode, we hear from you, our listeners, about the songs...episode, the Modern Love team shared the songs that taught us about love when we were young. But in this week’s episode, we hear from you, our listeners, about the songs that helped shape your ideas about love.We heard from present-day teens streaming their anthems on repeat, and we heard from listeners who have been with their partners for over 50 years. There were stories of jazz and rap; adrenaline rushes and loneliness; and many hard-won lessons in matters of the heart. (“Don’t let your friends choose your boyfriends,” Amy from St. Louis said.) We share a compilation of some of your songs and stories in the first half of our episode.And we finish our episode with an essay about the end of love. After more than 50 years of marriage, Tina Welling decided that she wanted a divorce — a decision that turned out to be liberating.Thank you to all of the listeners who sent us their teenage anthems. We’ve compiled them into one glorious Spotify playlist.[You can listen to this episode above, or on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music or wherever you get your podcasts.]Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>1410false397fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/first-love-mixtape-side-a-encore--66309426What Lou Reed Taught Me About Love.” She writes about how the song “I’ll Be Your Mirror” became the soundtrack to her summer romance with a floppy-haired “rocker kid” who inadvertently helped her find healing. Then, we hear from some members of the “Modern Love” team about the songs that influenced them as teenagers and about the memories — funny, empowering, nostalgic — that they carry with them.Stay tuned for next week’s episode, where we’ll hear from our listeners about the songs that taught them about love.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>587834bc-5952-42c0-bed2-5907bc25f6b2Wed, 28 May 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanThis episode of “Modern Love” features Lisa Selin Davis’s essay “https://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/09/fashion/What-Lou-Reed-Taught-Me-About-Love-modern-love.html.” She writes about how the song...What Lou Reed Taught Me About Love.” She writes about how the song “I’ll Be Your Mirror” became the soundtrack to her summer romance with a floppy-haired “rocker kid” who inadvertently helped her find healing. Then, we hear from some members of the “Modern Love” team about the songs that influenced them as teenagers and about the memories — funny, empowering, nostalgic — that they carry with them.Stay tuned for next week’s episode, where we’ll hear from our listeners about the songs that taught them about love.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>1358false395fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/friends-for-16-years-lovers-for-one-night--66181455Friends for 16 Years. Lovers for One Night.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>bc59f4e8-d0d3-4f9c-b3da-dc4824ef984cWed, 21 May 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanElizabeth and Jeff were best friends. They did everything together, from early-morning runs to late-night karaoke sessions. They came up with secret code names for each other and went on undercover missions in their neighborhood. They fought, and made...Friends for 16 Years. Lovers for One Night.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2471false394fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/why-boys-and-men-are-floundering-according-to-relationship-therapist-terry-real--66082485How I Learned That the Problem in My Marriage Was Me” by Daniel Oppenheimer.The “Modern Love” podcast team is planning a second episode with Real, focused on fatherhood. He has agreed to give our listeners advice on fatherhood, whether you’re an experienced dad, an expecting dad or otherwise dad-adjacent. For example, maybe you want advice on how to parent in a world filled with so many mixed messages about how men should be or on how to repair a mistake you made as a dad. Maybe there are elements of fatherhood you’re still figuring out or are unsure of. Record your questions as a voice memo and email them to modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com.Tips for recording: Please avoid recording where there is a lot of background noise. If you are using your smartphone to record your voice memo, please speak into your phone’s built-in microphone from a few inches away. Your recording may not be usable if you use Bluetooth earbuds or if you are too close or too far from the phone. It works best when you tell us your story as if you are speaking to a friend rather than reading it from a written statement. Be as concise as you can, and please listen back to it to make sure the recording is complete. You can find further tips for recording here, and find our submission terms here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>8935ffff-3aed-4939-9da9-a3b3ebcf3202Wed, 14 May 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanA session with Terry Real, a marriage and family therapist, can get uncomfortable. He’s known to mirror and amplify the emotions of his clients, sometimes cursing and nearly yelling, often in an attempt to get men in touch with the emotions they’re...How I Learned That the Problem in My Marriage Was Me” by Daniel Oppenheimer.The “Modern Love” podcast team is planning a second episode with Real, focused on fatherhood. He has agreed to give our listeners advice on fatherhood, whether you’re an experienced dad, an expecting dad or otherwise dad-adjacent. For example, maybe you want advice on how to parent in a world filled with so many mixed messages about how men should be or on how to repair a mistake you made as a dad. Maybe there are elements of fatherhood you’re still figuring out or are unsure of. Record your questions as a voice memo and email them to modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com.Tips for recording: Please avoid recording where there is a lot of background noise. If you are using your smartphone to record your voice memo, please speak into your phone’s built-in microphone from a few inches away. Your recording may not be usable if you use Bluetooth earbuds or if you are too close or too far from the phone. It works best when you tell us your story as if you are speaking to a friend rather than reading it from a written statement. Be as concise as you can, and please listen back to it to make sure the recording is complete. You can find further tips for recording here, and find our submission terms here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2320false393fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-mother-s-fierce-extravagant-love-encore--65967596Kingston’s essay about the discoveries the box held for her, from her first birthday without her mom at age 12, into her 30s.  We also hear a mother’s "Tiny Love Story" (a Modern Love essay in miniature) about trying to connect with her teenage son, and get his surprisingly thoughtful reaction.Listener Callout:How did your dad express his feelings? Tell us your story in a voice memo, and you might hear yourself in a future episode. For Father’s Day, the Modern Love team is looking at different ways dads show their feelings, and we want to know about a moment when your dad opened up to you. Where were you? What did he do or say? How did you react? Did it have a lasting impact on you? And if you’re a dad, how do you think about showing emotion or vulnerability when you’re with your kids? Is it something you do intentionally? Does it feel easy? Hard? The deadline is May 15. Submission instructions are hereHow to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>35ca7cb6-9d4e-4fdb-a1a0-9a4126b3fb63Wed, 07 May 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanIn honor of Mother’s Day this week, we revisit the story of one mom who went to extraordinary lengths to make sure her daughter always felt her love, even after she was gone. Each time Genevieve Kingston reached a milestone — a birthday, her first...Kingston’s essay about the discoveries the box held for her, from her first birthday without her mom at age 12, into her 30s.  We also hear a mother’s "Tiny Love Story" (a Modern Love essay in miniature) about trying to connect with her teenage son, and get his surprisingly thoughtful reaction.Listener Callout:How did your dad express his feelings? Tell us your story in a voice memo, and you might hear yourself in a future episode. For Father’s Day, the Modern Love team is looking at different ways dads show their feelings, and we want to know about a moment when your dad opened up to you. Where were you? What did he do or say? How did you react? Did it have a lasting impact on you? And if you’re a dad, how do you think about showing emotion or vulnerability when you’re with your kids? Is it something you do intentionally? Does it feel easy? Hard? The deadline is May 15. Submission instructions are hereHow to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>1339false392fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/miranda-july-knew-exactly-what-she-was-doing--65804000Substack to keep those conversations going. People organized discussion groups all over the world called All Fours Group Chats. Hats were made. “All Fours” was shortlisted for the National Book Award, and it’s currently being adapted into a limited TV series. The paperback version of the novel will be released May 13.In this week’s episode of Modern Love, July talks about the anger and desire that shaped the writing of “All Fours.” And she reflects on why this novel is inspiring to some, and threatening to others, in this cultural moment. Listener Callout:How did your dad express his feelings? Tell us your story in a voice memo, and you might hear yourself in a future episode. For Father’s Day, the Modern Love team is looking at different ways dads show their feelings, and we want to know about a moment when your dad opened up to you. Where were you? What did he do or say? How did you react? Did it have a lasting impact on you? And if you’re a dad, how do you think about showing emotion or vulnerability when you’re with your kids? Is it something you do intentionally? Does it feel easy? Hard? The deadline is May 15. Submission instructions are here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>f84ace6a-141f-4157-a1dd-6eea20759bbeWed, 30 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanIt’s been almost a year since Miranda July released her hit novel, “All Fours.” The novel features a woman in her mid-40s who heads out on a solo road trip across the country, only to stop at a roadside motel 30 minutes from her home. She winds up...Substack to keep those conversations going. People organized discussion groups all over the world called All Fours Group Chats. Hats were made. “All Fours” was shortlisted for the National Book Award, and it’s currently being adapted into a limited TV series. The paperback version of the novel will be released May 13.In this week’s episode of Modern Love, July talks about the anger and desire that shaped the writing of “All Fours.” And she reflects on why this novel is inspiring to some, and threatening to others, in this cultural moment. Listener Callout:How did your dad express his feelings? Tell us your story in a voice memo, and you might hear yourself in a future episode. For Father’s Day, the Modern Love team is looking at different ways dads show their feelings, and we want to know about a moment when your dad opened up to you. Where were you? What did he do or say? How did you react? Did it have a lasting impact on you? And if you’re a dad, how do you think about showing emotion or vulnerability when you’re with your kids? Is it something you do intentionally? Does it feel easy? Hard? The deadline is May 15. Submission instructions are here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2178false391fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/you-re-probably-thinking-about-boundaries-all-wrong--65677000,” Davis tries to disentangle the popular understanding of boundaries, saying the concept is widely misunderstood. She offers a guide to forming and keeping boundaries that help readers better navigate their conflicts with other people.On this episode of “Modern Love," Davis tells us what she thinks we get wrong about boundaries and how we should be thinking about them instead. She reads the Modern Love essay “Is My Husband a Doormat?” about a sudden argument between a couple 20 years into their relationship and talks about how boundaries can help defuse such situations. Davis also tells us how boundaries helped heal her own relationship with her father.The author of today’s featured essay, Lidija Hilje, has a new novel coming out in July called “Slanting Towards the Sea.“For an upcoming episode about location sharing, the Modern Love team wants to hear your location-sharing story. Did something happen that made you regret sharing your location with someone? Was there a moment when you were thankful that you had? Where were you? What happened? How did your relationship change as a result? The deadline is May 1. Submission instructions are here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHere’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>cb14098b-fd3b-45a5-b420-e52658293fcaWed, 23 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanKC Davis is a therapist and author known for her practical, empathetic advice on dealing with clutter, even when you are feeling like too much of a mess yourself to take care of the mess in your home. Her TikTok videos on the subject have been viewed...,” Davis tries to disentangle the popular understanding of boundaries, saying the concept is widely misunderstood. She offers a guide to forming and keeping boundaries that help readers better navigate their conflicts with other people.On this episode of “Modern Love," Davis tells us what she thinks we get wrong about boundaries and how we should be thinking about them instead. She reads the Modern Love essay “Is My Husband a Doormat?” about a sudden argument between a couple 20 years into their relationship and talks about how boundaries can help defuse such situations. Davis also tells us how boundaries helped heal her own relationship with her father.The author of today’s featured essay, Lidija Hilje, has a new novel coming out in July called “Slanting Towards the Sea.“For an upcoming episode about location sharing, the Modern Love team wants to hear your location-sharing story. Did something happen that made you regret sharing your location with someone? Was there a moment when you were thankful that you had? Where were you? What happened? How did your relationship change as a result? The deadline is May 1. Submission instructions are here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHere’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2461false390fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/gen-x-more-like-gen-sex--65591122Why Gen X Women Are Having the Best Sex.” At a time of life when many women describe feeling less visible and less desirable, Silcoff said, her life instead “exploded in a detonation of sex confetti.”On today’s episode, Silcoff shares the juicy back story to her popular article, from her coming of age in Montreal to the surprising sexual resurgence she experienced after her divorce. Silcoff reflects on what it feels like to be a highly sexual person in her early 50s and tells us how being part of Gen X is central to her newfound freedom.For an upcoming episode about location sharing, the Modern Love team wants to hear your location-sharing story. Did something happen that made you regret sharing your location with someone? Was there a moment when you were thankful that you had? Where were you? What happened? How did your relationship change as a result? The deadline is May 1. Submission instructions are here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>75c0d9b2-a246-4db0-8f40-e75e642e41c2Wed, 16 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanMireille Silcoff recently wrote an article for The New York Times Magazine titled “https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/05/magazine/sex-gen-x-women.html.” At a time of life when many women describe feeling less visible and less desirable, Silcoff said, her...Why Gen X Women Are Having the Best Sex.” At a time of life when many women describe feeling less visible and less desirable, Silcoff said, her life instead “exploded in a detonation of sex confetti.”On today’s episode, Silcoff shares the juicy back story to her popular article, from her coming of age in Montreal to the surprising sexual resurgence she experienced after her divorce. Silcoff reflects on what it feels like to be a highly sexual person in her early 50s and tells us how being part of Gen X is central to her newfound freedom.For an upcoming episode about location sharing, the Modern Love team wants to hear your location-sharing story. Did something happen that made you regret sharing your location with someone? Was there a moment when you were thankful that you had? Where were you? What happened? How did your relationship change as a result? The deadline is May 1. Submission instructions are here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2338false388fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/let-yourself-rage-with-poet-laureate-ada-limon--65453216here.Lily King’s Modern Love essay, “An Empty Heart Is One That Can Be Filled” can be found here. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>4df5585b-dc0c-4a6d-b1be-8d2121f676fbWed, 09 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanAs U.S. poet laureate, Ada Limón has had a far-reaching impact. She has visited readers and writers across the country, installed poems at majestic sites in national parks, and she even wrote a poem that’s engraved inside a NASA spacecraft on its way...here.Lily King’s Modern Love essay, “An Empty Heart Is One That Can Be Filled” can be found here. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2165false386fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/my-brother-has-schizophrenia-this-is-how-i-love-him--65305120My Brother Has Schizophrenia. This Is How I Love Him.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHere’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>699658b1-60b3-4b84-8112-4458100e5ee4Wed, 02 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanGrowing up, Jamie Shandro was interested in science, while her younger brother, Tim, liked art. When they were in their twenties, they both landed in Seattle: Jamie for medical school and Tim for art school. They were closer than ever. But as Jamie...My Brother Has Schizophrenia. This Is How I Love Him.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHere’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2244false385fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-i-got-addicted-to-love-and-came-out-the-other-side--65129380Strung Out on Love and Checked In for Treatment” by Rachel Yoder, about love addiction, and discusses what it takes to pull yourself from its distressing grip.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHere’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>78e3bf38-22b7-438c-a10f-c1880c1e5f92Wed, 26 Mar 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanIf you know one thing about the country musician Orville Peck, it’s probably that he wears a mask. Peck has long kept himself shrouded in mystery, shielding his face from the public and revealing few details about his past. His music, however, is full...Strung Out on Love and Checked In for Treatment” by Rachel Yoder, about love addiction, and discusses what it takes to pull yourself from its distressing grip.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHere’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2083false384fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-i-decentered-men-and-learned-to-center-myself--64969924“I Decentered Men. Decentering Desire for Men Is Harder,” about the challenges and joys of putting your own needs first. And Rothwell tells Anna Martin how vision boarding has helped her center herself.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>84926fff-480c-45dc-b353-d05f1c682fd7Wed, 19 Mar 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanNatasha Rothwell plays characters who are constantly trying to improve and to better understand their desires. This season on “The White Lotus,” Rothwell, an Emmy-nominated actress, is back playing Belinda, a striving spa manager with dreams of...“I Decentered Men. Decentering Desire for Men Is Harder,” about the challenges and joys of putting your own needs first. And Rothwell tells Anna Martin how vision boarding has helped her center herself.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2007false383fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/lucy-dacus-might-not-text-you-back--64832829How the ‘Dining Dead’ Got Talking Again,” about a couple who sets out to bring conversation back into their marriage. And Dacus tells Anna Martin why she’s not afraid to put in the work for long-term love.Lucy Dacus’ fourth solo album, “Forever Is a Feeling,” is out March 28.Molly Pascal’s essay can be found here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>51175df1-2443-41d0-beb3-1d630a24f6f2Wed, 12 Mar 2025 09:00:00 +0000SelemanOn her fourth solo album, “Forever Is a Feeling” (out March 28), Lucy Dacus contemplates the fears and delights that go along with falling hard for someone. The song “Best Guess” celebrates the leap of faith involved in committing to a partner with...How the ‘Dining Dead’ Got Talking Again,” about a couple who sets out to bring conversation back into their marriage. And Dacus tells Anna Martin why she’s not afraid to put in the work for long-term love.Lucy Dacus’ fourth solo album, “Forever Is a Feeling,” is out March 28.Molly Pascal’s essay can be found here.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2251false382fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/if-you-want-this-kind-of-love-don-t-expect-it-to-be-easy--64708984Must We Feel Shame Over Divorce?”Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHere’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>752862e3-8f24-4aa7-a8d5-5cc5c750a3e6Wed, 05 Mar 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Samaiya Mushtaq was growing up, she imagined marrying a kind Muslim man, and at 21, she did. But while studying to become a psychiatrist in medical school, she realized her husband couldn’t meet her emotional needs — something she deeply craved....Must We Feel Shame Over Divorce?”Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHere’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2548false381fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/carrie-coon-on-what-being-worthy-of-love-really-means--64581455A Family Label, Ungarbled” by Harriet Brown. Growing up, the author was never sure she could feel real love. It took breaking out of her mother’s ideas of her, and the birth of her daughter, to learn what love meant. Coon relates the essay to her own experience, describing her early dating life as tumultuous and recalling relationships she continued out of pity rather than love. Until one day, Coon got a letter from her grandmother that changed everything.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHere’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>6aef37e7-6be9-4a3b-8acb-23fabdd1cc03Wed, 26 Feb 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanIn the movie “His Three Daughters,” Carrie Coon’s character, Katie, has rigid ideas about who her sisters are and what they’re capable of. When the women reunite to care for their dying father, those ideas become a barrier to true connection and care...A Family Label, Ungarbled” by Harriet Brown. Growing up, the author was never sure she could feel real love. It took breaking out of her mother’s ideas of her, and the birth of her daughter, to learn what love meant. Coon relates the essay to her own experience, describing her early dating life as tumultuous and recalling relationships she continued out of pity rather than love. Until one day, Coon got a letter from her grandmother that changed everything.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHere’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2254false380fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/why-gossiping-could-help-your-love-life--64447286the author of the new book, “You Didn’t Hear This From Me: (Mostly) True Notes on Gossip,” spreading a good story occupied a morally gray zone throughout her childhood.McKinney, who is also the former host of the podcast, “Normal Gossip,” talks with Modern Love’s Anna Martin about navigating the ups and downs of gossiping in her own life.McKinney also reads the Modern Love essay “We Were a Party of Two, but Never Quite Alone” by Linda Button, who tells the story of how gossiping with her rich suitor’s exes brought the euphoria of her relationship back down to earth. While reading Button’s essay, McKinney fields questions from Martin so they can do some gossiping of their own.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times.How to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>5bf104ad-cecf-4d78-8ad8-ddcd54ec8f5dWed, 19 Feb 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanFor Kelsey McKinney, https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/11/style/kelsey-mckinney-normal-gossip-book.html, “You Didn’t Hear This From Me: (Mostly) True Notes on Gossip,” spreading a good story occupied a morally gray zone throughout her...the author of the new book, “You Didn’t Hear This From Me: (Mostly) True Notes on Gossip,” spreading a good story occupied a morally gray zone throughout her childhood.McKinney, who is also the former host of the podcast, “Normal Gossip,” talks with Modern Love’s Anna Martin about navigating the ups and downs of gossiping in her own life.McKinney also reads the Modern Love essay “We Were a Party of Two, but Never Quite Alone” by Linda Button, who tells the story of how gossiping with her rich suitor’s exes brought the euphoria of her relationship back down to earth. While reading Button’s essay, McKinney fields questions from Martin so they can do some gossiping of their own.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times.How to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>1895false379fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-fall-and-stay-in-love--6433735236 Questions That Lead to Love” and what they reveal about how we fall in love. And Mandy Len Catron, the writer who popularized the 36 questions in her Modern Love essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” reads her essay and tells us whether she’s still in love with the same man 10 years later.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>be142fb6-7618-4e41-be8a-503f0140afc0Wed, 12 Feb 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanThe Modern Love team asked you to share with us the moment you knew you were falling in love, and you delivered. Your stories took us to so many places — dinner dates, subway rides, sunsets, concerts — and showed us the many shapes of love. There were...36 Questions That Lead to Love” and what they reveal about how we fall in love. And Mandy Len Catron, the writer who popularized the 36 questions in her Modern Love essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” reads her essay and tells us whether she’s still in love with the same man 10 years later.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>3155false378fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/he-s-gay-she-s-straight-they-re-newlyweds--64202551You can read Jacob and Samantha’s Mini-Vows profile in the Styles section.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>627b84d6-f307-45b8-adb7-f7e93badfc0bWed, 05 Feb 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Jacob Hoff and Samantha Greenstone met, they became instant best friends. Then, even though Jacob was gay, they realized that their feelings for each other were evolving beyond the platonic, and they decided to give romance a try.On this episode,...You can read Jacob and Samantha’s Mini-Vows profile in the Styles section.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2369false377fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/that-time-i-bought-my-husband-s-girlfriend-a-burial-plot--63991316here.Listener alert: For our upcoming Valentine’s Day episode, the “Modern Love” team wants to know about a moment when you knew you were falling for someone. Whether it happened all at once or it was a gradual process, we want to know how it happened for you. Where were you? What did it feel like? What did you do next? (You can tell us about a relationship you’re currently in, a past love or something happening to you right now.) The deadline is Feb. 5. Submission instructions are here.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>defcb99f-fa56-42e7-bd01-2e1475b42973Wed, 29 Jan 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Robin Aileen Bernstein’s almost-ex-husband, Mark, died of a heart attack, she suddenly found herself comforting her husband’s grieving girlfriend. Robin and Mark had been living apart for two years, but legally she was still the wife, so it was...here.Listener alert: For our upcoming Valentine’s Day episode, the “Modern Love” team wants to know about a moment when you knew you were falling for someone. Whether it happened all at once or it was a gradual process, we want to know how it happened for you. Where were you? What did it feel like? What did you do next? (You can tell us about a relationship you’re currently in, a past love or something happening to you right now.) The deadline is Feb. 5. Submission instructions are here.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2110false376fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/neko-case-if-i-didn-t-yell-the-truth-what-good-was-i--63801324The Harder I Fight the More I Love You,” comes out Jan. 28.Caitlin McCormick’s Modern Love essay, “My Mother, the Stranger,” can be found here. McCormick, who recently published a short fiction piece in The Sewanee Review, is working on a novel.Listener callout alert: For our upcoming Valentine’s Day episode, the Modern Love team wants to hear about a moment when you knew you were falling for someone. Whether it happened all at once or as a gradual process, we want to learn about how it happened. Where were you? What did it feel like? What did you do next? (You can tell us about a current relationship, a past love or something happening to you right now.)The deadline is Feb. 5, 2025. The submission instructions are here.How to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>ddb1260a-1615-433c-9d40-70836aa4a61aWed, 22 Jan 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanIn a new memoir out next week, the singer-songwriter Neko Case shares some painful childhood memories. In the studio with Anna Martin, Case is open and unapologetically angry as she describes being treated like “an unwanted child.” Both parents, she...The Harder I Fight the More I Love You,” comes out Jan. 28.Caitlin McCormick’s Modern Love essay, “My Mother, the Stranger,” can be found here. McCormick, who recently published a short fiction piece in The Sewanee Review, is working on a novel.Listener callout alert: For our upcoming Valentine’s Day episode, the Modern Love team wants to hear about a moment when you knew you were falling for someone. Whether it happened all at once or as a gradual process, we want to learn about how it happened. Where were you? What did it feel like? What did you do next? (You can tell us about a current relationship, a past love or something happening to you right now.)The deadline is Feb. 5, 2025. The submission instructions are here.How to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2527false375fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/hank-azaria-s-advice-for-overcoming-codependency--63698216In Defense of My Emu Tattoo,” about an author who masks his true self by using humor but eventually finds love by learning to be himself.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>37079ef8-fd2c-4c87-8216-66e42ee0662aWed, 15 Jan 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanHank Azaria is used to putting on other personalities. You probably know him best from his work as a voice actor on “The Simpsons,” where he plays Moe the bartender, Professor Frink, Chief Wiggum and Snake Jailbird, among many others. His list of...In Defense of My Emu Tattoo,” about an author who masks his true self by using humor but eventually finds love by learning to be himself.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2351false374fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/finding-the-magic-just-in-time--63610790Finally Finding ‘The Magic.'"

• How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times
• How to submit a Tiny Love Story

Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>f3ee9b3d-a6df-4b2f-82c7-4918ba97e8a9Wed, 08 Jan 2025 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Clare Cory was a young girl, she dreamed of love. But by the time she turned 50, Clare hadn’t found it. Still, she took a look around and found she was happy and was looking forward to the future. Clare fell in love with life. She saw a flower...Finally Finding ‘The Magic.'"

• How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times
• How to submit a Tiny Love Story

Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2454false373fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-appeal-of-the-smaller-breasts-from-the-daily--63468592an episode from another New York Times podcast: “The Daily.”For decades, breast augmentations have been one of the most popular cosmetic surgeries in the United States. But in recent years, a new trend has emerged: the breast reduction. Lisa Miller, who reported the story for The Times, explores why this procedure has become so common with Rachel Abrams, the episode’s host.This episode originally aired Nov. 20, 2024. You can find “The Daily” wherever you listen to “Modern Love.”How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>c1ae1e29-4aeb-414b-a063-b0c783fce27fWed, 25 Dec 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanThis week on the “Modern Love” podcast, we’re sharing https://www.nytimes.com/2024/09/20/well/breast-reduction-trend.html from another New York Times podcast: “The Daily.”For decades, breast augmentations have been one of the most popular cosmetic...an episode from another New York Times podcast: “The Daily.”For decades, breast augmentations have been one of the most popular cosmetic surgeries in the United States. But in recent years, a new trend has emerged: the breast reduction. Lisa Miller, who reported the story for The Times, explores why this procedure has become so common with Rachel Abrams, the episode’s host.This episode originally aired Nov. 20, 2024. You can find “The Daily” wherever you listen to “Modern Love.”How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>1881false372fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/your-worst-dates-ever-with-joel-kim-booster--63371579Is Dating a Total Nightmare for You Right Now?” and “Why the Young and the Single Can’t Commit to Dating Apps” appearing frequently, it became clear that there was a lot of pent up frustration.We gave you all the opportunity to let it out, and asked you to send in voice memos about your worst dates. We enlisted the help of the actor Joel Kim Booster, who hosts the podcast Bad Dates, to turn your worst dates into tidbits of wisdom for a brand-new year of dating in 2025.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>ce1ca3c4-717e-476d-9728-47a4ef56a23dWed, 18 Dec 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanIt felt as if the dating world hit a breaking point this year. With news headlines like “https://www.thecut.com/article/tiktok-videos-single-women-crying.html” and “https://www.nytimes.com/2024/03/14/style/gen-z-dating-apps.html” appearing frequently,...Is Dating a Total Nightmare for You Right Now?” and “Why the Young and the Single Can’t Commit to Dating Apps” appearing frequently, it became clear that there was a lot of pent up frustration.We gave you all the opportunity to let it out, and asked you to send in voice memos about your worst dates. We enlisted the help of the actor Joel Kim Booster, who hosts the podcast Bad Dates, to turn your worst dates into tidbits of wisdom for a brand-new year of dating in 2025.Here’s how to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times.Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2067false371fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/dating-apps-suck-a-i-clones-are-making-them-even-weirder--63264948explored that hypothesis.Eli joined several new dating apps that seek to duplicate a user’s personality via chatbot and let the A.I. clone do the dating. He also received flirting advice from a squadron of A.I. dating coaches. He used that advice on real dates, actually trying to find a connection, to see how the A.I.’s guidance held up.On this episode of Modern Love, Eli tells us what happened when he revealed his use of A.I. to his dates, and whether the technology may actually push us toward more authentic interactions on the apps.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>f78a28d9-e8c6-4dc1-b944-c126f5412ce3Wed, 11 Dec 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanFake profiles. Unresponsive texters. Boring conversations. An endless stream of dudes on boats holding the fish they’ve caught. Talk to single people using dating apps, and they are likely to tell you that the experience is awful, but that they have...explored that hypothesis.Eli joined several new dating apps that seek to duplicate a user’s personality via chatbot and let the A.I. clone do the dating. He also received flirting advice from a squadron of A.I. dating coaches. He used that advice on real dates, actually trying to find a connection, to see how the A.I.’s guidance held up.On this episode of Modern Love, Eli tells us what happened when he revealed his use of A.I. to his dates, and whether the technology may actually push us toward more authentic interactions on the apps.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2011false370fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/three-powerful-lessons-about-love-encore--63140372One Bouquet of Fleeting Beauty, PleaseNursing a Wound in an Appropriate SettingMy First Lesson in MotherhoodModern Love is looking for your stories! We’re working on an episode about the dating memories you want to forget. We want to know: What was the worst date you ever went on? What happened? And what are you trying to do differently when it comes to love in the new year? Whether you’re single or partnered, tell us about your bad dates. Send us your story by recording a voice memo and emailing it to modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com. Please include your name and where you’re based. You might hear your voice on a future episode of Modern Love.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>146e3693-7824-4c15-af55-36d9fd6bfc79Wed, 04 Dec 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Daniel Jones started the Modern Love column in 2004, he called for submissions and hoped the idea would catch on. Twenty years and over a thousand published essays later, Modern Love is a trove of real-life love stories.Jones has put so much of...One Bouquet of Fleeting Beauty, PleaseNursing a Wound in an Appropriate SettingMy First Lesson in MotherhoodModern Love is looking for your stories! We’re working on an episode about the dating memories you want to forget. We want to know: What was the worst date you ever went on? What happened? And what are you trying to do differently when it comes to love in the new year? Whether you’re single or partnered, tell us about your bad dates. Send us your story by recording a voice memo and emailing it to modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com. Please include your name and where you’re based. You might hear your voice on a future episode of Modern Love.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2238false369fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/thanksgiving-with-my-wife-and-girlfriend--62856800A Family Dinner With My Wife and Girlfriend."Modern Love is looking for your stories! We’re working on an episode about the dating memories you want to forget. We want to know: What was the worst date you went on this year? What happened? And what are you trying to do differently when it comes to love in the new year? Whether you’re singled or partnered, tell us about your bad dates. Send us your story by recording a voice memo and emailing it to modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com. Please include your name and where you’re based. You might hear your voice on a future episode of Modern Love.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>9b8b93c3-5638-4205-ba0e-e4b609e72386Wed, 20 Nov 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanTownsend Davis had been married for more than a decade when his wife, Brigid, was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s disease. Their lives changed immediately. Townsend became Brigid’s caregiver, sorting her medication day after day, making their...A Family Dinner With My Wife and Girlfriend."Modern Love is looking for your stories! We’re working on an episode about the dating memories you want to forget. We want to know: What was the worst date you went on this year? What happened? And what are you trying to do differently when it comes to love in the new year? Whether you’re singled or partnered, tell us about your bad dates. Send us your story by recording a voice memo and emailing it to modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com. Please include your name and where you’re based. You might hear your voice on a future episode of Modern Love.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>3221false368fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/he-saved-me-now-it-was-my-turn-to-save-him--62716411Marriage Made an Actor Out of Me.” Her memoir, “Stash: My Life in Hiding” is available now, and she hosts a podcast called “The Only One in the Room.”What were your worst dates of 2024? We’re working on an episode about the dating memories you want to forget. We want to know: What was the worst date you went on this year? What happened? And what do you want to do differently when it comes to love in the new year? You don’t have to be single to share your story. If you’re partnered and went on an awful date, we want to hear from you, too. Send us your story by recording a voice memo (just a few minutes long) and emailing it to modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com. Please include your name and where you’re from. You might hear your voice on a future episode of Modern Love.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>4c2f6b92-275e-42b3-84a4-d4ba67e603eeWed, 13 Nov 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Laura Cathcart Robbins checked into rehab for a severe Ambien addiction, all she could think about was getting out and going home to her two young sons. Laura was also in the middle of a divorce and facing a possible custody battle so she wasn’t...Marriage Made an Actor Out of Me.” Her memoir, “Stash: My Life in Hiding” is available now, and she hosts a podcast called “The Only One in the Room.”What were your worst dates of 2024? We’re working on an episode about the dating memories you want to forget. We want to know: What was the worst date you went on this year? What happened? And what do you want to do differently when it comes to love in the new year? You don’t have to be single to share your story. If you’re partnered and went on an awful date, we want to hear from you, too. Send us your story by recording a voice memo (just a few minutes long) and emailing it to modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com. Please include your name and where you’re from. You might hear your voice on a future episode of Modern Love.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2401false367fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/bridget-everett-says-a-best-friend-can-be-your-greatest-love--62637437When Your Greatest Romance Is a Friendship,” by the novelist Victor Lodato. Lodato was in his 40s when he accidentally found his “person,” and became the platonic life partner of an artist in her 80s who lived across the street.“Somebody Somewhere” is now streaming on Max.In April 2024, Lodato published “Honey,” a novel inspired by Austin Brayfield, the friend he wrote about in his essay.Want to leave us a voice mail message on the Modern Love hotline? Call (212) 589-8962‬, and please include your name, hometown and a callback number.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>720f3420-71d5-4307-9882-6e9dadbd128dWed, 06 Nov 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanStories of romantic love are everywhere, but the actor, singer and comedian Bridget Everett says great friendships deserve our time and attention, too. Not just onscreen, but in reality.On the HBO Original series “Somebody Somewhere” (now in its third...When Your Greatest Romance Is a Friendship,” by the novelist Victor Lodato. Lodato was in his 40s when he accidentally found his “person,” and became the platonic life partner of an artist in her 80s who lived across the street.“Somebody Somewhere” is now streaming on Max.In April 2024, Lodato published “Honey,” a novel inspired by Austin Brayfield, the friend he wrote about in his essay.Want to leave us a voice mail message on the Modern Love hotline? Call (212) 589-8962‬, and please include your name, hometown and a callback number.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2251false366fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/my-dad-is-george-lopez-we-healed-our-relationship-with-a-sitcom--62553680their relationship. It’s all very meta. The show is called “Lopez vs. Lopez.”Mayan reads a Modern Love essay about a daughter who also watched her parents’ marriage fall apart, but then as an adult sees them repair their relationship. The essay, “The Original Conscious Uncouplers,” by Cole Kazdin, explores what it means to redefine what a family means after divorce.Want to leave us a voice mail message on the Modern Love hotline? Call (212) 589-8962‬, and please include your name, hometown and a callback number.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>c5466b33-ef4a-4bf2-a1ed-1d2221132dbcWed, 30 Oct 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanThe actress and producer Mayan Lopez has seen a majority of her life play out on television.Her father, the comedian George Lopez, produced and starred in a hit ’90s sitcom based on his real-life relationship with Ann Serrano, Mayan’s mother. But...their relationship. It’s all very meta. The show is called “Lopez vs. Lopez.”Mayan reads a Modern Love essay about a daughter who also watched her parents’ marriage fall apart, but then as an adult sees them repair their relationship. The essay, “The Original Conscious Uncouplers,” by Cole Kazdin, explores what it means to redefine what a family means after divorce.Want to leave us a voice mail message on the Modern Love hotline? Call (212) 589-8962‬, and please include your name, hometown and a callback number.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>1737false365fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/one-last-conversation-with-the-help-of-a-i--62472047Our Last, Impossible Conversation.”We want to hear from you! We’re looking for stories, thoughts and feelings about egg freezing. Are you planning to freeze your eggs? What are you considering? Have you frozen your eggs? What happened, and how do you feel about it now? Leave us a voice mail message on the Modern Love hotline at (212) 589-8962‬. Please include your name, hometown and a callback number.Want to submit your own Modern Love essay to The New York Times? Read how, or consider submitting a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>956e3737-62f9-40d5-858c-e4785c9c69a2Wed, 23 Oct 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanMadeline de Figueiredo lost her husband, Eli, just a year after they married. After his death, she tried everything she could to reconnect with him: cooking from his recipe book, dancing to playlists he made, watching videos of him and listening to...Our Last, Impossible Conversation.”We want to hear from you! We’re looking for stories, thoughts and feelings about egg freezing. Are you planning to freeze your eggs? What are you considering? Have you frozen your eggs? What happened, and how do you feel about it now? Leave us a voice mail message on the Modern Love hotline at (212) 589-8962‬. Please include your name, hometown and a callback number.Want to submit your own Modern Love essay to The New York Times? Read how, or consider submitting a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>2087false364fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/amelia-dimoldenberg-can-teach-you-how-to-flirt--62382960Modern Love essay from Rachel Fields, who is not sure how her last date has gone. After sending a risky text message, Rachel’s insecurities cloud her morning routine as she waits for a response. Amelia offers tips on how to soothe the anxieties that creep up in the early phases of dating, and how to feel confident throughout the process.Her show, “Chicken Shop Date” is celebrating its 10th anniversary this month.Want to leave us a voice mail message on the Modern Love hotline? Call (212) 589-8962‬ and please include your name, hometown, and a callback number in your message.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>fa10f311-f735-4f1e-ae2d-c295a20b0a59Wed, 16 Oct 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanWhether it’s Cher or Paul Mescal, Amelia Dimoldenberg can turn her “dates” at a fast-food restaurant into chemistry-fueled, revealing interviews. The dates may be fake, but viewers are always left with the impression that the celebrity guest would...Modern Love essay from Rachel Fields, who is not sure how her last date has gone. After sending a risky text message, Rachel’s insecurities cloud her morning routine as she waits for a response. Amelia offers tips on how to soothe the anxieties that creep up in the early phases of dating, and how to feel confident throughout the process.Her show, “Chicken Shop Date” is celebrating its 10th anniversary this month.Want to leave us a voice mail message on the Modern Love hotline? Call (212) 589-8962‬ and please include your name, hometown, and a callback number in your message.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.]]>6363false363fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/andrew-garfield-wants-to-crack-open-your-heart--62296658“Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss,” by Chris Huntington. His reading was unlike any other in the history of this show. Mr. Garfield was so moved by Mr. Huntington’s essay that he spoke in a surprisingly raw way with the host Anna Martin about the need for art to crack us all open, including himself.We want to hear from you! This year is the 20th anniversary of the Modern Love column, and we want to know what impact reading the column has had on you. Has reading Modern Love made a difference in how you think about your own relationships? How? Tell us by leaving a voice mail message at (212) 589-8962‬. Please include your name, hometown and a callback number, and you might hear yourself on a future episode. Soon, you’ll need a subscription to keep full access to this show, and to other New York Times podcasts, on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t miss out on exploring all of our shows, featuring everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts.]]>7244b0b6-b598-4046-88d2-ab509be4f644Wed, 09 Oct 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanIn the new movie “We Live in Time,” the actor Andrew Garfield plays a newly divorced man named Tobias who falls in love with a chef named Almut, played by Florence Pugh. Their story feels epic and expansive, but still intimate. It focuses on the...“Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss,” by Chris Huntington. His reading was unlike any other in the history of this show. Mr. Garfield was so moved by Mr. Huntington’s essay that he spoke in a surprisingly raw way with the host Anna Martin about the need for art to crack us all open, including himself.We want to hear from you! This year is the 20th anniversary of the Modern Love column, and we want to know what impact reading the column has had on you. Has reading Modern Love made a difference in how you think about your own relationships? How? Tell us by leaving a voice mail message at (212) 589-8962‬. Please include your name, hometown and a callback number, and you might hear yourself on a future episode. Soon, you’ll need a subscription to keep full access to this show, and to other New York Times podcasts, on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t miss out on exploring all of our shows, featuring everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts.]]>3012false362fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/were-we-the-fat-couple--62192337Were We the ‘Fat Couple’?”Leave a message on the Modern Love hotline! This year (2024) is the 20th anniversary of the Modern Love column, and we want to know what impact it has had on you. Has reading Modern Love made a difference in how you think about your own relationships? How? Tell us in a voice mail message at (212) 589-8962‬. Please include your name, location and callback number, and you might hear yourself on a future episode.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Soon, you’ll need a subscription to keep full access to this show, and to other New York Times podcasts, on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t miss out on exploring all of our shows, featuring everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts.]]>6d75899c-eea0-468d-90c9-b2bae571d904Wed, 02 Oct 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanCourtenay Hameister worked hard to stop feeling shame about her body size, but she also had a cruel inner monologue that just wouldn’t leave her alone. At times, her internalized fatphobia was so powerful, she couldn’t think about romance at all. But...Were We the ‘Fat Couple’?”Leave a message on the Modern Love hotline! This year (2024) is the 20th anniversary of the Modern Love column, and we want to know what impact it has had on you. Has reading Modern Love made a difference in how you think about your own relationships? How? Tell us in a voice mail message at (212) 589-8962‬. Please include your name, location and callback number, and you might hear yourself on a future episode.How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Soon, you’ll need a subscription to keep full access to this show, and to other New York Times podcasts, on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t miss out on exploring all of our shows, featuring everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts.]]>2083false361fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/myha-la-s-relationship-advice-get-in-a-fight--62100821Modern Love essay by a woman with the opposite problem: Laura Pritchett and her husband have avoided conflict for so long, she writes, that the fights they’re not having are tearing them apart. Myha’la also tells the host, Anna Martin, about the kind of communication style she strives to maintain, and what it’s like when she and her fiancé, Armando Rivera, find themselves in a fight.The Season 3 finale of “Industry” drops Sunday night on HBO.Laura Pritchett has written seven novels, including her latest, “Three Keys.”Want to leave us a voice mail message on the Modern Love hotline? If so, please include your name, your hometown and a callback number in your message: (212) 589-8962‬How to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story]]>ebaedb20-6f5d-4b85-859c-7bf435b71043Wed, 25 Sep 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanOn the HBO high finance drama “Industry,” basically everyone serves cruel insults. It’s part of the culture at their bank, Pierpoint. But Myha’la’s character, Harper Stern, goes after friends and enemies with deep, cutting verbal attacks.Myha’la reads...Modern Love essay by a woman with the opposite problem: Laura Pritchett and her husband have avoided conflict for so long, she writes, that the fights they’re not having are tearing them apart. Myha’la also tells the host, Anna Martin, about the kind of communication style she strives to maintain, and what it’s like when she and her fiancé, Armando Rivera, find themselves in a fight.The Season 3 finale of “Industry” drops Sunday night on HBO.Laura Pritchett has written seven novels, including her latest, “Three Keys.”Want to leave us a voice mail message on the Modern Love hotline? If so, please include your name, your hometown and a callback number in your message: (212) 589-8962‬How to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story]]>1923false362fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/gillian-anderson-wants-to-hear-your-sexiest-fantasies--62009356Want: Sexual Fantasies by Anonymous,” which showcases the secret fantasies of anonymous women, curated by Ms. Anderson herself.Today, Ms. Anderson reads and discusses the Modern Love essay “On Tinder, Off Sex,” which follows a woman who becomes unintentionally celibate after a painful breakup. The author fantasizes about past and potential loves but can’t seem to break out of what her doctor has called “secondary abstinence.” Ms. Anderson tells us about a time she felt similarly, and how a good yoga practice snapped her out of it.We want to hear from you. Tell us how love is showing up in your own life. Call in at (212) 589-8962‬ with your name, location and story.]]>6c7e7530-cb47-43a5-8271-92774ab0b861Wed, 18 Sep 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanThe actor Gillian Anderson (“The X-Files,” “The Fall,” “Sex Education”) has become an advocate for sexual openness, whether through her on-screen personas, launching a libido-boosting soda brand, attending the Golden Globes in a vulva-embroidered...Want: Sexual Fantasies by Anonymous,” which showcases the secret fantasies of anonymous women, curated by Ms. Anderson herself.Today, Ms. Anderson reads and discusses the Modern Love essay “On Tinder, Off Sex,” which follows a woman who becomes unintentionally celibate after a painful breakup. The author fantasizes about past and potential loves but can’t seem to break out of what her doctor has called “secondary abstinence.” Ms. Anderson tells us about a time she felt similarly, and how a good yoga practice snapped her out of it.We want to hear from you. Tell us how love is showing up in your own life. Call in at (212) 589-8962‬ with your name, location and story.]]>2073false359fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/peter-gallagher-s-marriage-advice-don-t-get-divorced--60130072Sex, Lies, & Videotape and The O.C.) met his wife, Paula Harwood, over forty years ago in college in a stairwell meet-cute. Since then, they’ve maintained a loving marriage and managed to raise a family while navigating the world of show business.We talked to Peter on his 41st wedding anniversary, and he read us the Modern Love essay “Failing in Marriage Does Not Mean Failing at Marriage” by Joe Blair. Despite the essayist being kicked out of the house by his wife five times, the couple managed to remain married and learn that a relationship can mean trying together and failing together. Reflecting on the essay, Peter gave us his advice for staying the course.Peter Gallagher will be performing on Broadway this fall in Delia Ephron’s play ‘Left on Tenth.’]]>8f302138-0b59-4a27-ac13-2134e989dfaaWed, 22 May 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanActor Peter Gallagher (Sex, Lies, & Videotape and The O.C.) met his wife, Paula Harwood, over forty years ago in college in a stairwell meet-cute. Since then, they’ve maintained a loving marriage and managed to raise a family while navigating the...Sex, Lies, & Videotape and The O.C.) met his wife, Paula Harwood, over forty years ago in college in a stairwell meet-cute. Since then, they’ve maintained a loving marriage and managed to raise a family while navigating the world of show business.We talked to Peter on his 41st wedding anniversary, and he read us the Modern Love essay “Failing in Marriage Does Not Mean Failing at Marriage” by Joe Blair. Despite the essayist being kicked out of the house by his wife five times, the couple managed to remain married and learn that a relationship can mean trying together and failing together. Reflecting on the essay, Peter gave us his advice for staying the course.Peter Gallagher will be performing on Broadway this fall in Delia Ephron’s play ‘Left on Tenth.’]]>1797false358fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/liza-colon-zayas-of-the-bear-on-loving-someone-who-s-in-the-fight-of-their-life--60043786A Web Between Her Body and Mine,” by Karen Paul. It’s a Modern Love essay about two friends who also met at work, but have a different kind of bond: Karen has no problem showing affection to her best friend, Miriam. But after Miriam has a terrible accident, Karen finds herself in uncharted territory, not certain when, or how, to support her. It’s a story Colón-Zayas says she relates to personally, and her reaction to it takes her by surprise.]]>8bcc35e1-8557-47e9-892f-467b44e1cb9fWed, 15 May 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanOn the Emmy- and Peabody-winning series “The Bear,” Liza Colón-Zayas plays Tina Marrero, a cook at the Chicago restaurant at the center of the story. Tina and her fellow workers are in a constant struggle for the survival of their restaurant, and they...A Web Between Her Body and Mine,” by Karen Paul. It’s a Modern Love essay about two friends who also met at work, but have a different kind of bond: Karen has no problem showing affection to her best friend, Miriam. But after Miriam has a terrible accident, Karen finds herself in uncharted territory, not certain when, or how, to support her. It’s a story Colón-Zayas says she relates to personally, and her reaction to it takes her by surprise.]]>1948false357fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/hola-papi-does-my-grandmother-need-to-know-i-m-gay--59917717“Why am I dreaming about sex with a man when I’m a lesbian?” Or, “What if my partner judges me for writing smut?” This candor has given John Paul an intimate connection with his readers. However, as today’s episode reveals, he doesn’t think we necessarily need that level of openness with all of our loved ones.Ahead of Mother’s Day, Brammer reads an essay about a recent college graduate who sets out to spend the summer exploring his sexuality, but whose plans are derailed by his duty to his grandmother. It’s called “Young, Gay and Single Among the Nuns and Widows” by Kevin Hershey. Brammer says it’s “bizarre” how much this essay resonates with his own life.]]>91dfd32d-cfcf-4edc-81ae-414d339343c4Wed, 08 May 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanJohn Paul Brammer writes the “¡Hola Papi!” advice column for The Cut at New York magazine, answering questions like, “Why am I dreaming about sex with a man when I’m a lesbian?” Or, “What if my partner judges me for writing smut?” This candor has...“Why am I dreaming about sex with a man when I’m a lesbian?” Or, “What if my partner judges me for writing smut?” This candor has given John Paul an intimate connection with his readers. However, as today’s episode reveals, he doesn’t think we necessarily need that level of openness with all of our loved ones.Ahead of Mother’s Day, Brammer reads an essay about a recent college graduate who sets out to spend the summer exploring his sexuality, but whose plans are derailed by his duty to his grandmother. It’s called “Young, Gay and Single Among the Nuns and Widows” by Kevin Hershey. Brammer says it’s “bizarre” how much this essay resonates with his own life.]]>1643false356fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emily-ratajkowski-can-take-care-of-herself-but-a-little-help-would-be-nice--59748313Why I Fell for an ‘I’m the Man’ Man,” by Susan Forray. Forray is also a successful, self-sufficient woman, dating after divorce. She’s surprised to find herself falling for a man with old-fashioned ideas about who does what in a relationship. (He pays for dinner, handles the finances and initiates sex). As a single mom who handles everything, Ratajkowski says, she can relate to the desire to be cared for once in a while. And that doesn’t have to mean playing into a sexist stereotype.]]>32b3d0e2-f5f4-42f3-9688-2982da3fcd69Wed, 01 May 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanEmily Ratajkowski is doing a balancing act many famously beautiful women have to perform. In her 2021 book “My Body,” she reflects on what it’s been like to build a career based on her public image, and her struggle to control that image in an...Why I Fell for an ‘I’m the Man’ Man,” by Susan Forray. Forray is also a successful, self-sufficient woman, dating after divorce. She’s surprised to find herself falling for a man with old-fashioned ideas about who does what in a relationship. (He pays for dinner, handles the finances and initiates sex). As a single mom who handles everything, Ratajkowski says, she can relate to the desire to be cared for once in a while. And that doesn’t have to mean playing into a sexist stereotype.]]>1912false355fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/laufey-gen-z-s-pop-jazz-icon-sings-for-the-anxious-generation--59626786An Anxious Person Tries to Be Chill,” which is about a woman trying to work through her deep-seated relationship anxieties and attachment issues in an on-again, off-again situationship. Laufey says she, too, has been an anxious partner. While she thinks a toxic relationship, like the one in the essay, can make for a great love song, she now knows secure relationships can make beautiful music, too.]]>00bf47cc-0cb0-4792-8569-c48187510781Wed, 24 Apr 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanLaufey, the 25-year-old singer-songwriter, has risen to prominence by taking the trials of today’s dating world — casual relationships, no labels and seemingly endless swiping on apps — and turning them into timeless love songs.Today, Laufey reads...An Anxious Person Tries to Be Chill,” which is about a woman trying to work through her deep-seated relationship anxieties and attachment issues in an on-again, off-again situationship. Laufey says she, too, has been an anxious partner. While she thinks a toxic relationship, like the one in the essay, can make for a great love song, she now knows secure relationships can make beautiful music, too.]]>1691false353fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/why-john-magaro-of-past-lives-could-never-love-a-picky-eater--59498645My Dinners With Andrew,” by Sara Pepitone, a Modern Love essay about food as a love language, and a series of dinners that make, and break, two relationships.]]>dcea0aa5-7789-4b8c-bd3b-290f787b7380Wed, 17 Apr 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanThe actor John Magaro is picky about whom he goes to dinner with. Magaro is an adventurous eater. So whether he’s buying offal from the butcher, making stews from the 1800s or falling in love over a plate of rabbit, he says it’s important to him that...My Dinners With Andrew,” by Sara Pepitone, a Modern Love essay about food as a love language, and a series of dinners that make, and break, two relationships.]]>2094false352fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/esther-perel-on-what-the-other-woman-knows--59388208“What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity,” by Karin Jones.In her 2018 essay, Jones wrote about her experience seeking out no-strings-attached flings with married men after her divorce. What she found, to her surprise, was how much the men missed having sex with their own wives, and how afraid they were to tell them.Jones faced a heavy backlash after the essay was published. Perel reflects on why conversations around infidelity are still so difficult and why she thinks Jones deserves more credit.Esther Perel is on tour in the U.S. Her show is called “An Evening With Esther Perel: The Future of Relationships, Love & Desire.” Check her website for more details.]]>0146524d-0bef-4734-9e44-e6a7919b5f1eWed, 10 Apr 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanOver the last two decades, Esther Perel has become a world-famous couples therapist by persistently advocating frank conversations about infidelity, sex and intimacy. Today, Perel reads one of the most provocative Modern Love essays ever published:...“What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity,” by Karin Jones.In her 2018 essay, Jones wrote about her experience seeking out no-strings-attached flings with married men after her divorce. What she found, to her surprise, was how much the men missed having sex with their own wives, and how afraid they were to tell them.Jones faced a heavy backlash after the essay was published. Perel reflects on why conversations around infidelity are still so difficult and why she thinks Jones deserves more credit.Esther Perel is on tour in the U.S. Her show is called “An Evening With Esther Perel: The Future of Relationships, Love & Desire.” Check her website for more details.]]>1682false351fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-second-best-way-to-get-divorced-according-to-maya-hawke--59274128Our Kinder, Gentler, Nobody-Moves-Out Divorce,” by Jordana Jacobs.By staying under one roof, Jacobs and her ex-husband spared their young son the distress of having to go back and forth. But this “dad upstairs, mom downstairs” arrangement also meant that Jacobs had to overhear her ex falling in love with his new partner.Today, Hawke reflects on the bittersweet family portrait in Jacobs’s essay, and on divorce’s role in Hawke’s own upbringing.Maya’s latest album, “Chaos Angel,” drops May 31.]]>fda8bc4f-0ec0-4e64-b125-ab5f9acc2152Wed, 03 Apr 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Maya Hawke’s famous parents got divorced, she was just a little kid trying to navigate their newly separate worlds. Paparazzi aside, Maya’s experience of shuttling between two homes was still more common than the arrangement described in the...Our Kinder, Gentler, Nobody-Moves-Out Divorce,” by Jordana Jacobs.By staying under one roof, Jacobs and her ex-husband spared their young son the distress of having to go back and forth. But this “dad upstairs, mom downstairs” arrangement also meant that Jacobs had to overhear her ex falling in love with his new partner.Today, Hawke reflects on the bittersweet family portrait in Jacobs’s essay, and on divorce’s role in Hawke’s own upbringing.Maya’s latest album, “Chaos Angel,” drops May 31.]]>1542false350fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-be-real-with-your-kids--59193158,” Badgley has shown many times over how obsession and delusion can destroy love.In his personal life, though, Badgley says he’s not doing too much brooding. He’s a father and a stepfather, and he opens up about the importance of being vulnerable with his kids. Badgley reads “Watching Them Watching Me” by Dean E. Murphy, an essay about a father who can no longer hide his emotions from his sons after they all experience a devastating loss.]]>9be85dde-3f03-4806-8e5b-6c6c49e830aaWed, 27 Mar 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanPenn Badgley has made a career out of playing deeply troubled characters. From his role as Joe Goldberg on the Netflix series “You” to Dan Humphrey on “Gossip Girl,” Badgley has shown many times over how obsession and delusion can destroy love.In his...,” Badgley has shown many times over how obsession and delusion can destroy love.In his personal life, though, Badgley says he’s not doing too much brooding. He’s a father and a stepfather, and he opens up about the importance of being vulnerable with his kids. Badgley reads “Watching Them Watching Me” by Dean E. Murphy, an essay about a father who can no longer hide his emotions from his sons after they all experience a devastating loss.]]>1891false349fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/why-samin-nosrat-is-now-fully-yolo--59110258Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat,” and the James Beard Award-winning cookbook that inspired it, were about using food to build community and forge connections. Since then, all of her creative projects and collaborations have focused on inspiring people to cook, and eat, with their friends and loved ones.After the recent loss of her father, Samin has gained an even deeper understanding of what it means to savor a meal — or even an hour — with loved ones. This week, she reads an essay about exactly that: “You May Want to Marry My Husband” by Amy Krause Rosenthal. It’s one of the most-read Modern Love essays ever.]]>340e3b48-5fc0-4165-a954-6fcfd814c291Wed, 20 Mar 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanThe chef Samin Nosrat lives by the idea that food is love. Her Netflix series, “https://www.saltfatacidheat.com/” and the James Beard Award-winning cookbook that inspired it, were about using food to build community and forge connections. Since then,...Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat,” and the James Beard Award-winning cookbook that inspired it, were about using food to build community and forge connections. Since then, all of her creative projects and collaborations have focused on inspiring people to cook, and eat, with their friends and loved ones.After the recent loss of her father, Samin has gained an even deeper understanding of what it means to savor a meal — or even an hour — with loved ones. This week, she reads an essay about exactly that: “You May Want to Marry My Husband” by Amy Krause Rosenthal. It’s one of the most-read Modern Love essays ever.]]>1867false348fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/brittany-howard-sings-through-the-pangs-of-new-love--59030002Jaime,” an album named after and dedicated to her older sister, who died at 13, Howard revealed new dimensions of her songwriting and herself.Her latest album, “What Now,” captures the intensity of processing the past and starting anew. Today, Howard reads a Modern Love essay about the courage it takes to fall back in love: “Was She Just Another Nicely Packaged Pain Delivery System?” by Judith Fetterley.]]>4dcd35f0-d3a3-47fb-b54a-f81a75458a64Wed, 13 Mar 2024 09:00:00 +0000SelemanBrittany Howard, the five-time Grammy Award-winning singer, makes vibrant, dynamic music about love.As the frontwoman of the band Alabama Shakes, she was celebrated for the power and emotionality of her voice. When she began her solo career in 2019...Jaime,” an album named after and dedicated to her older sister, who died at 13, Howard revealed new dimensions of her songwriting and herself.Her latest album, “What Now,” captures the intensity of processing the past and starting anew. Today, Howard reads a Modern Love essay about the courage it takes to fall back in love: “Was She Just Another Nicely Packaged Pain Delivery System?” by Judith Fetterley.]]>1824false347fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/novelist-celeste-ng-on-the-big-power-of-little-things--58942754Little Fires Everywhere,” “Everything I Never Told You,” and, most recently, “Our Missing Hearts,” Celeste still makes tiny things — now, as a hobby. She’s come to realize the parallels between making small things and writing: Both give her a chance to look closely at the world.Today, Celeste kicks off our special podcast series, which celebrates 20 years of the Modern Love column, by reading Betsey MacWhinney’s essay “Bringing a Daughter Back From the Brink With Poems.” She discusses her own deep-rooted relationship to poetry — and the lessons, large and small, that poems can offer parents and children in uncertain times. ]]>1a3d7bb2-d7b7-4cde-b5a4-99d283b89aecWed, 06 Mar 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanBefore Celeste Ng became a best-selling author, she had a side hustle selling miniatures on eBay — dollhouse-size recreations of food were her specialty. Even after the publication of...Little Fires Everywhere,” “Everything I Never Told You,” and, most recently, “Our Missing Hearts,” Celeste still makes tiny things — now, as a hobby. She’s come to realize the parallels between making small things and writing: Both give her a chance to look closely at the world.Today, Celeste kicks off our special podcast series, which celebrates 20 years of the Modern Love column, by reading Betsey MacWhinney’s essay “Bringing a Daughter Back From the Brink With Poems.” She discusses her own deep-rooted relationship to poetry — and the lessons, large and small, that poems can offer parents and children in uncertain times. ]]>1907false346fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/three-powerful-lessons-about-love--58861612f6818ff2-e4d5-449e-9466-c25fbd3059f6Wed, 28 Feb 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Daniel Jones started the Modern Love column in 2004, he opened the call for submissions and hoped the idea would catch on. Twenty years later, over a thousand Modern Love essays have been published in The New York Times, and the column is a trove...2137false345fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/modern-love-at-the-movies-our-favorite-oscar-worthy-love-stories--5880315439c92c01-ea36-46fc-902b-86c8399c133fFri, 23 Feb 2024 22:00:00 +0000SelemanThe New York Times’s film critic Alissa Wilkinson has a theory about movies: They’re all about relationships. No matter how big the action, the suspense and tension we experience when watching a film is often really about the feelings between the...1896false344fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-politics-reporter-walks-into-a-singles-mixer--58762231The Run-Up" about the not-so-distant worlds of politics and dating.]]>6e364dbd-5b81-4ae8-b91d-fbb6fc97987aWed, 21 Feb 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanThe New York Times political reporter Astead Herndon went speed dating in a swing state to ask daters fun questions like: How early do you tell a prospective date whether you lean red or blue? When do you talk about your stances on issues like...The Run-Up" about the not-so-distant worlds of politics and dating.]]>1418false343fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/author-read-un-marry-me--58704671f3d29b67-6698-420c-a92b-70351f4feb5dFri, 16 Feb 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanDave Finch reads his Modern Love essay, “On the Path to Empathy, Some Forks in the Road."To hear our conversation with Dave, listen to the episode: “Un-Marry Me!”536false342fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/un-marry-me--58681906The Run-Up,” a weekly politics show from The New York Times. You can search for “The Run-Up” wherever you get your podcasts.]]>ca6e1e34-19c2-4600-a0ac-c9f0887cbbffWed, 14 Feb 2024 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWe’re kicking off our new season this Valentine’s Day with a story from a Modern Love veteran.David Finch has written three Modern Love essays about how hard he has worked to be a good husband to his beloved wife, Kristen. As a man with autism who...The Run-Up,” a weekly politics show from The New York Times. You can search for “The Run-Up” wherever you get your podcasts.]]>1626false341fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-married-my-subway-crush--57926340The Fun Widow’s Book Tour.” ]]>50df787c-c815-4748-9652-e6473017087eWed, 06 Dec 2023 10:00:00 +0000SelemanZoe Fishman couldn’t stop thinking about the man she called her “subway crush.” For years, she saw Ronen on the train and admired him from afar.When they finally connected, it turned out Ronen felt the same, and they began a blissful life together....The Fun Widow’s Book Tour.” ]]>1693false340fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/author-read-i-married-my-subway-crush--57926339The Fun Widow’s Book Tour.” ]]>0dbbaf0c-c7f1-4d84-9065-4a5dd8e75e94Wed, 06 Dec 2023 09:55:00 +0000SelemanZoe Fishman reads her Modern Love essay, “The Subway Crush Who Crushed Me."To hear our conversation with Zoe, listen to the episode: “I Married My Subway Crush.”Zoe Fishman is the author of several novels, most recently...The Fun Widow’s Book Tour.” ]]>760false339fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/author-read-our-34-year-age-gap-didn-t-matter-until-it-did--5787480976bcfdc7-13ec-4234-86fa-98274fffd82fFri, 01 Dec 2023 10:00:00 +0000SelemanSonja Falck reads her Modern Love essay, “Our 34-Year Age Gap Was Showing."To hear our conversation with Sonja, listen to the episode: “Our 34-Year Age Gap Didn’t Matter, Until It Did.”794false338fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/our-34-year-age-gap-didn-t-matter-until-it-did--5784276809977d84-f137-4975-9cac-dc71c44fcb4dWed, 29 Nov 2023 10:00:00 +0000SelemanSonja Falck was immediately attracted to Colin, the professor who was renting her a room. He was intellectual and lively, with bright eyes that drew her in. It was only after they were already dating that Sonja found out Colin’s age: He was 34 years...1971false337fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/author-read-two-boys-on-bikes-falling-in-love--57794436618da152-2685-4a69-b8da-0e0166c90df3Fri, 24 Nov 2023 10:00:00 +0000SelemanEric Darnell Pritchard reads their Modern Love essay, “Two Boys on Bicycles, Falling in Love."To hear our conversation with Eric, listen to the episode: “Two Boys on Bicycles, Falling in Love.”690false336fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/two-boys-on-bicycles-falling-in-love--577618637773b019-b114-46e8-bf3d-e59ede570659Wed, 22 Nov 2023 10:00:00 +0000Seleman1412false335fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/author-read-he-cared-about-me-so-i-broke-up-with-him--57676963142d0754-10fb-44b6-b595-41e87306fc8bFri, 17 Nov 2023 10:00:00 +0000SelemanJessica Slice reads her Modern Love essay, “He Cared About Me, So I Broke Up With Him."To hear our conversation with Jessica, listen to the episode: “He Cared About Me, So I Broke Up With Him.”724false334fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/he-cared-about-me-so-i-broke-up-with-him--57642341522e3c3b-5568-4369-8589-cf4aefb51960Wed, 15 Nov 2023 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Jessica Slice started dating a man named David, there was a lot to like about him. They could nerd out about books and board games, he was thoughtful and kind. But Jessica had a problem. The more caring David was, the more she recoiled. "He’s the...1792false333fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/did-i-fail-as-a-parent--57557952 of his son. Rick and his wife felt as if they had to do something drastic. So they made the decision to send Gabe to a wilderness therapy program.Nearly 18 years later, father and son talk about the decision that changed both of their lives and how their relationship has grown now that Gabe is an adult.]]>05c7eae4-338f-4fec-b52a-3c3989766d0aWed, 08 Nov 2023 10:00:00 +0000SelemanRick Reiss was scared for his teenage son, Gabriel. Gabe was struggling with depression and mood swings, and no amount of therapy or medication seemed to work.But when Gabe became violent, Rick wasn’t just scared for his son; he was scared of his son.... of his son. Rick and his wife felt as if they had to do something drastic. So they made the decision to send Gabe to a wilderness therapy program.Nearly 18 years later, father and son talk about the decision that changed both of their lives and how their relationship has grown now that Gabe is an adult.]]>1753false332fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/author-read-my-sweaty-revenge--57496608049b925f-22ec-4392-a0e8-c415ffc1bfbdFri, 03 Nov 2023 09:00:00 +0000SelemanChristi Clancy reads her Modern Love essay, “Revenge of the Friend."To hear our conversation with Christi, listen to the episode: “My Sweaty Revenge.”691false331fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/my-sweaty-revenge--574674759bd9208f-0e3b-4735-bb5b-0131e85a562eWed, 01 Nov 2023 09:00:00 +0000SelemanChristi Clancy had been avoiding her best friend’s ex-husband. He’d unexpectedly left her friend for another woman. After supporting her friend through the pain and heartbreak, Christi couldn’t help but resent the ex-husband for all the damage he’d...1128false330fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-wrote-this-essay-but-then-changed-my-mind--57378384ba8999c8-b2e9-4436-9205-29ab45578036Wed, 25 Oct 2023 09:00:00 +0000SelemanHeather Sellers wrote her Modern Love essay in 2013, about reconnecting with her elderly, estranged father. Although their relationship was painful, Heather made sure that her last words to her father were “I love you.” And at the time, that felt like...1567false329fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/author-read-what-does-it-mean-to-be-a-kept-woman--573176902722f406-c3f0-4178-8aea-bc4bbd2463e3Fri, 20 Oct 2023 09:00:00 +0000SelemanDeanna Fei reads her Modern Love essay, “To Keep but Not Be Kept."To hear our conversation with Deanna, listen to the episode: “What Does It Mean to Be a Kept Woman?”790false328fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/what-does-it-mean-to-be-a-kept-woman--5728640563b89c77-6770-485a-97ea-41753d758abfWed, 18 Oct 2023 09:00:00 +0000SelemanDeanna Fei did not need a man. She was in her 20s, living in Shanghai on a Fulbright scholarship, writing her first novel: a book about fiercely independent Chinese women, very much like Deanna herself.Growing up as a first-generation Chinese...1625false328fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/author-read-don-t-hide-in-the-bathroom-stall--5722151797362f65-7316-4b1b-b866-c831cba9fc77Fri, 13 Oct 2023 09:00:00 +0000SelemanSusan Gelles reads her Modern Love essay, “Single, and Surrounded by a Wall of Men."To hear our conversation with Susan, listen to the episode: “Don't Hide in the Bathroom Stall.”836false327fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/don-t-hide-in-the-bathroom-stall--571927984ca83cea-75a7-4b47-b1b2-cb29d6af695fWed, 11 Oct 2023 09:00:00 +0000SelemanSusan Gelles was a lawyer in her 30s who was too busy to find love. But after finally admitting that she was lonely, Susan did something that went against all her best instincts. She started attending singles mixers.On this episode, Susan shares her...1617false326fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/author-read-have-you-ever-kept-a-secret-from-your-wife--5711231228686551-959b-413c-8360-b7eb09ff4fb1Fri, 06 Oct 2023 09:00:00 +0000SelemanKhalid Abdulqaadir reads his Modern Love essay, “The Polygraph Test That Saved My Marriage." To hear our conversation with Khalid, listen to the episode: “Have You Ever Kept a Secret From Your Wife?”     740false325fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/have-you-ever-kept-a-secret-from-your-wife--57055807This is the first episode of our new season! We’ll be back every Wednesday with a new story.]]>6fe1397e-c26c-423c-983a-bd80fc570e65Wed, 04 Oct 2023 09:00:00 +0000SelemanKhalid Abdulqaadir’s life was full of secrets. He started keeping them when he was a teenager, after his father was accused of an unimaginable crime. He didn’t want to explain his family history every time he started a new relationship. So his secrets...This is the first episode of our new season! We’ll be back every Wednesday with a new story.]]>1829false324fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-needed-david-schwimmer-s-help--56349551

“I Had to Stop Asking Why” by Samantha Joseph

]]>f5da2a82-ce17-4956-a03c-a52a8dbf4c7aWed, 02 Aug 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanSamantha Joseph’s childhood was scattered with golden trips to California to visit her Aunt Gail. Aunt Gail was the cool aunt. She worked in Hollywood and befriended actors like Robin Williams, Mayim Bialik and the cast of “Friends.” And yet she was...

“I Had to Stop Asking Why” by Samantha Joseph

]]>1504false323fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/essay-read-i-had-to-stop-asking-why--56349550here.]]>7ef69536-dd6d-488c-b4ee-a715dfd997c0Wed, 02 Aug 2023 19:50:00 +0000SelemanSamantha Joseph reads her Modern Love essay, “I Had to Stop Asking Why.” You can listen to Anna’s interview with Samantha in the “Modern Love” podcast feed - the episode is called “I Needed David Schwimmer’s Help:. You can also read Samantha’s essay...here.]]>745false322fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/essay-read-how-i-lost-the-fiance-but-won-the-honeymoon--56252702here.]]>5342de6f-308f-4a44-8711-921ac4fbfa76Thu, 27 Jul 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanNell Stephens reads her Modern Love essay, “How I Lost the Financé but Won the Honeymoon.” You can listen to Anna’s interview with Nell in the “Modern Love” podcast feed. You can also read Nell’s  essay on the New York Times website...here.]]>727false321fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-i-lost-the-fiance-but-won-the-honeymoon--56234725

“How I Lost the Fiancé but Won the Honeymoon ,” By Nell Stevens

]]>d19610db-f62b-4cd7-996b-7aa98abb1db9Wed, 26 Jul 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanBored and in love, Nell Stevens found a hobby combing the internet and entering her name into online contests. But, when she actually wins a prize — a luxury honeymoon in India — her world falls apart: The man she thought she was going to marry breaks...

“How I Lost the Fiancé but Won the Honeymoon ,” By Nell Stevens

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“The House Where My Husband Doesn’t Exist,” By David Khalaf

]]>a8c56fea-6157-4987-b38f-eb52544df7d2Wed, 19 Jul 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanThe last time David visited his ailing grandmother, he hid his wedding ring in his pocket. He’d never told her about his identity as a gay, married man. Fearful David’s grandmother would disown him, his family never told her about David’s loving...

“The House Where My Husband Doesn’t Exist,” By David Khalaf

]]>883false319fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-day-my-family-changed-forever--56075622 divorcing and how that feeling has lingered throughout their lives.Today's Story:

• "My Two-House, Duffel-Bag Life," by Natalie Muñoz

]]>91d72841-518a-4cc7-955c-ed92a26b07c8Wed, 12 Jul 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanImagine you are on vacation. Your favorite shirt is waiting for you in your suitcase. You go to put it on, only to realize it’s not there. You forgot it, and there’s nothing you can do now.That’s an experience that played out time and again for... divorcing and how that feeling has lingered throughout their lives.Today's Story:

• "My Two-House, Duffel-Bag Life," by Natalie Muñoz

]]>1394false318fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-gift-of-holiday-men--56006745

“The Gift of Missing Men,” by Kema Christian-Coates

]]>b6d4e6a9-9497-4375-bf26-907f3a00c0d1Wed, 05 Jul 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanKema Christian-Coates’s childhood was filled with “holiday men,” absentee fathers — including her own — who returned each year around Christmas only to disappear again. Her father’s absence left a hole in her life and the fear that she, like her...

“The Gift of Missing Men,” by Kema Christian-Coates

]]>654false317fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/sex-on-the-run-no-we-parked--55428911

“Sex on the Run? No, We Parked,” by Susan Silas.

]]>021cb21d-d69b-4a8a-86e5-05f272d8321aWed, 28 Jun 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanHaving sex in a car is usually a last resort, born from the trappings of youth. For Susan Silas, it was a midlife necessity.While working as a production accountant on a sitcom, Susan met a teamster. Despite having little in common — he was former...

“Sex on the Run? No, We Parked,” by Susan Silas.

]]>1116false316fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/what-i-got-wrong-about-my-parents-marriage--546523467beaa587-a2b6-4282-b3cb-c0716110458fWed, 21 Jun 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanAs one of the only Indian girls in her tiny Canadian mountain town, Natasha Singh stood out — and she was unafraid of being different. At 13, she shaved her head. By 17, she had run away for good. A few years later she came out to her mother.Natasha’s...1515false315fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/for-a-30-year-old-virgin-it-s-now-or-never--5440963132c15802-bf99-48c2-8985-4aa1f85657f0Wed, 14 Jun 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanClare Almand was born with congenital heart disease, so her life was never what she would call “normal.” By the time she was 30, she’d had 10 open-heart surgeries and her health was rapidly declining. Clare thought she was dying.With death looming,...1092false314fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-marriage-proposal-that-wasn-t--541322644c2df383-947b-4655-bf0f-c707fcd81aa1Wed, 07 Jun 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanBob Morris could tell that something was changing with his elderly father: His car was clean, his manners had improved and he had a shine in his eyes. He had a new “lady friend.” Her name was Arlene.Arlene loved Bob’s father, but she also set clear...1755false313fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/we-dated-for-three-years-he-forgot-it-all--54054150Tyler Wetherhall.]]>3aea35ff-fe71-453e-9078-5e1645af153eWed, 31 May 2023 14:55:00 +0000SelemanSam and Tyler’s relationship was built on a philosophy of joy. Together, they climbed trees, ate cream puffs in bed, and danced in a field with their friends. But, after three years together, Sam was no longer in love, and they broke up.A few months...Tyler Wetherhall.]]>1633false312fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/he-ghosted-i-m-grateful--53517485Plus, a call out to listeners: When did you realize your parents were really divorced? Tell us your story here: nytimes.com/divorcedparents.]]>8519c33e-7b5e-4492-8446-898623e8d8cbWed, 12 Apr 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanDenny Agassi moved to New York City with a mission: She was looking to have great sex.Her first summer in the city, Denny downloaded the dating app Grindr. She filtered for trans friendly men looking for sex or short flings — and it worked.Then, one...Plus, a call out to listeners: When did you realize your parents were really divorced? Tell us your story here: nytimes.com/divorcedparents.]]>1327false311fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/dating-advice-from-jay-shetty--534558172c384f5c-475a-4054-ab7c-6d471ef82bd1Wed, 05 Apr 2023 19:50:00 +0000SelemanWhen Jay Shetty graduated from college, he was prepared for two different paths in life: to work in finance, or become a Hindu monk.After three years at an ashram, Shetty returned home to London hoping to share his learning with the world. He had to...1280false310fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-healing-power-of-love-island--53383141Modern Love listeners, we want to hear from you! We’re conducting a brief survey of the podcast, and we would love your feedback. Visit nytimes.com/modernlovesurvey to share your views.]]>dce12be0-bfed-4a99-a15b-85340d918501Wed, 29 Mar 2023 20:00:00 +0000Seleman12 hopeful singles, thrown into a villa in Spain, hooking up, breaking up and making up. When Sophie Mackintosh was experiencing one of the darkest periods of her life, the reality TV show became her obsession. There was something about it that was...Modern Love listeners, we want to hear from you! We’re conducting a brief survey of the podcast, and we would love your feedback. Visit nytimes.com/modernlovesurvey to share your views.]]>1312false309fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-a-100-bet-saved-our-relationship--53302226Modern Love listeners, we want to hear from you! We’re conducting a brief survey of the podcast, and we would love your feedback. Visit nytimes.com/modernlovesurvey to access the survey.]]>48f27d43-d260-4d5b-a607-1cfdc95f5f55Wed, 22 Mar 2023 20:00:00 +0000SelemanMark Jason Williams and his mom often butted heads on two issues: She was uncomfortable when he brought up anything about being gay, and he was tired of her incessantly talking about how he survived childhood cancer.By the age of 40, Mark had reached...Modern Love listeners, we want to hear from you! We’re conducting a brief survey of the podcast, and we would love your feedback. Visit nytimes.com/modernlovesurvey to access the survey.]]>1375false308fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/stop-looking-for-the-perfect-partner--5321606069ba93a5-f4d6-4e64-9fcd-471ba6b563dfWed, 15 Mar 2023 20:00:00 +0000Seleman“The only three men I had ever imagined a future with all told me that something was missing,” Oz Johnson wrote in her Modern Love essay. When Oz was 23, her boyfriend said she met 99 percent of his criteria, but she was missing 1 percent. Over a...1355false307fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-imagine-him-here--53141059f7997fa4-d399-4bae-966e-fd100a2ca16bWed, 08 Mar 2023 21:00:00 +0000SelemanFelice Neal was in the checkout line at Whole Foods when she dropped her sweet potato. A handsome customer behind her said, “I think this is yours.” Felice was smitten.Felice believes this meet-cute was fate — and it opened her up to new ways of...1367false306fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/dominate-me-but-not-like-that--530643407b303104-57fb-4ed4-890e-c052578e5e97Wed, 01 Mar 2023 21:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen it came to dating, Aly Tadros was used to hiding the messy parts of her life. “Why even bother? As soon as a guy finds out about my baggage, he bolts,” she wrote in her Modern Love essay.That is, until Dan from OkCupid came along. His dating...1355false305fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/questions-i-can-t-ask-my-father--529944324ff17982-44f8-4f80-a121-93a9c6ec3a0dWed, 22 Feb 2023 21:00:00 +0000SelemanIn her early 20s, Annabelle Allen longed to know what her dad had been like when he was her age. How did he spend his Saturdays? What was his first impression of her mom? When did he feel lonely? But Annabelle’s dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s...1166false304fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-tricky-geometry-of-a-throuple--529937542865385e-5956-4e78-84d2-255d62bc8b72Wed, 15 Feb 2023 21:00:00 +0000SelemanFor years, Evan Sterrett’s relationship with his boyfriend had become “reruns of the same drama.” Evan wanted space; his boyfriend wanted commitment. But one summer, their relationship received a guest star — a third partner who resuscitated their...1403false301fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/i-promised-god-it-was-the-last-time--52993732Click here for Sara's Modern Love essay and more info about this episode.   Modern Love is back for the new year! Look out for new episodes on Wednesday afternoons.]]>3d07fcea-a950-44c0-bfc6-f30308566f25Wed, 08 Feb 2023 21:00:00 +0000SelemanGrowing up in an ultra-Orthodox Hasidic community, Sara Glass was used to following strict rules — including what to wear, when to get married and whom to love. “I had strong feelings that I really should be with a woman and not with a man,” she told...Click here for Sara's Modern Love essay and more info about this episode.   Modern Love is back for the new year! Look out for new episodes on Wednesday afternoons.]]>1459false300fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/your-weirdest-dates--52994741This is our last episode before the holidays. We’ll see you in 2023!]]>b1394410-e0b7-4c23-8805-e7aaa38ef786Wed, 14 Dec 2022 21:00:00 +0000SelemanWhat’s the most unusual place you’ve ever been on a date? We asked Modern Love listeners and the responses did not disappoint. Rummaging through landfills, listening to cases in night court … the stories get weird. Plus, there’s one that our host,...This is our last episode before the holidays. We’ll see you in 2023!]]>1375false296fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-bond-thicker-than-blood--52994718f9a4ec07-5de4-4804-b8a1-3ea8e9ef93b4Wed, 07 Dec 2022 21:00:00 +0000SelemanBrandon Kyle Goodman never knew his father, but he did know his Uncle Ronnie. Uncle Ronnie was Brandon’s godfather, originally his mom’s college bestie — and essentially, her sibling. Uncle Ronnie owned a hair salon, used words like “fabulous” and...1180false295fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/no-more-hiding--52993731

“Take Me as I Am, Whoever I Am,” Terri Cheney

“He Had a ‘Hunch’ They’d Get Hitched,” Judy Mandell

]]>622553ba-36d9-4aee-aefc-2da6ad69d4fdWed, 30 Nov 2022 21:00:00 +0000SelemanAn A-student, a striving employee and a loyal friend, Terri Cheney is the sort of person who seems to have it all together. But, beneath her glowing facade, she faced the highs and lows of bipolar disorder. She kept her mental illness separated from...

“Take Me as I Am, Whoever I Am,” Terri Cheney

“He Had a ‘Hunch’ They’d Get Hitched,” Judy Mandell

]]>1226false299fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/encore-when-two-open-marriages-collide--529941320d19d474-282d-4bbb-bcb0-4e5776b9a1d2Wed, 23 Nov 2022 21:00:00 +0000SelemanWhat are the boundaries of an open marriage? What happens to them when your wife’s boyfriend has an accident that puts him in a coma? And what do you tell the kids?Today, we’re revisiting Wayne Scott’s story about his open marriage — and a motorcycle...1311false298fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/falling-for-your-sperm-donor--52993596

“Seeking a Father for My Child (Relationship Optional),” Katharine Dion

]]>930bf6d1-c9f6-459f-9fb5-439c4a156e6fWed, 16 Nov 2022 21:00:00 +0000SelemanRex and Katharine met on a trip in South Dakota. She wanted a baby; he did not. Could he be a sperm donor? No problem. The agreement was simple. They would both get what they wanted: Katharine would raise her baby in California, and Rex would continue...

“Seeking a Father for My Child (Relationship Optional),” Katharine Dion

]]>966false297fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/what-to-do-with-the-time-we-get--52994716

“She Was My World, but We Couldn’t Marry,” Ari Diaconis

This website memorializing Ari Diaconis was made by his sister, Alix Diaconis

]]>74c24286-69fe-4df2-b029-878f77d1fa7aWed, 09 Nov 2022 21:00:00 +0000SelemanAri Diaconis knew a bright future lay ahead of him. He was a gifted athlete with a well-paying job at a Wall Street law firm, and a partner, Dunia, with whom he shared a deep connection. But a neurological illness shifted his vision for the path ahead...

“She Was My World, but We Couldn’t Marry,” Ari Diaconis

This website memorializing Ari Diaconis was made by his sister, Alix Diaconis

]]>1185false294fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-internet-still-thinks-i-m-pregnant--529945711e567c3e-f649-4e0e-aeb0-5710f45f0806Wed, 02 Nov 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanAmy Pittman was thrilled about her first pregnancy. She immediately downloaded a pregnancy app, and she was charmed when it showed her baby had grown from the size of a lavender bud to the size of a chocolate chip. When she miscarried, she deleted the...1020false303fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/not-the-daughter-she-wanted--52994520Ma and Me.”]]>79f9efad-84d3-4e43-ab0d-d0af75b2cfc7Wed, 26 Oct 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanHer whole life, Putsata Reang (Put, for short) was accustomed to exceeding her parents expectations. She excelled in her career, paid for her parents to go on trips together and maintained a tight connection to her siblings and community.Yet a...Ma and Me.”]]>1229false302fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/encore-a-lifetime-of-good-loving--52993779a88b200f-5108-41d2-b3a5-8b139f873da3Wed, 19 Oct 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanToday, we’re revisiting the story of Bette Ann Moskowitz, who lost her husband of 56 years on the eve of the coronavirus pandemic. When Bette first met her husband, she was taken by his “smoldering looks and banked fires.” He was from Brooklyn; she...1398false293fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/when-the-music-stopped--52994527726f266b-0c50-47ae-9aee-20246a17e298Wed, 12 Oct 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanGrowing up in Brooklyn, Sonia Pérez recalled how her father would drink beer, sit on the sofa and lose himself in records from Puerto Rico, where he grew up. One day, he stopped listening. Sonia and her siblings wondered why.  On the other side of the...1115false292fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-learn-my-love-language--52993733click here. ]]>8da02135-4904-4934-8d73-b982103635c2Wed, 05 Oct 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Ross Showalter turned 18 and began dating hearing men, he found himself communicating with them on their terms: using spoken language. Years of speech lessons and lip-reading practice forced Ross, who is Deaf, to conform to a society that favors...click here. ]]>1131false291fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/one-last-haircut--52994138d280c489-2576-4641-8658-ad6eeab60a66Wed, 28 Sep 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanThey were standing in a Walmart parking lot when William’s wife turned to him and asked, “Are you gay?” Those three words catalyzed the end of their marriage, and the end of a 22-year partnership filled with many joys and rituals, including the...1112false290fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-feel-yourself--52993750Modern Love is back for a new season! New episodes drop on Wednesdays. Follow the show on Apple, Spotify, Stitcher, Amazon Music or wherever you get your podcasts.]]>4bbf31f9-3954-4916-983a-6315e8d8d014Wed, 21 Sep 2022 20:00:00 +0000Seleman“Everyone deserves an orgasm” is a fair way to express Diana de Vegh’s attitude toward life. Diana is a firm believer in the pursuit of pleasure — of all sorts — for all people.As we kick off a new season of Modern Love, our host, Anna Martin, gets...Modern Love is back for a new season! New episodes drop on Wednesdays. Follow the show on Apple, Spotify, Stitcher, Amazon Music or wherever you get your podcasts.]]>1158false289fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/could-i-forgive-him-one-last-time--52993549This is our last episode of the summer. We’re taking a little break, but we’ll be back in the fall with a whole new lineup of stories. We hope you’ll join us.]]>01b56b70-bce6-4ac1-b7f2-c42f745807b6Wed, 03 Aug 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Victoria Rosner was seven months pregnant, her husband filed for divorce. He “decided that he couldn’t be married anymore, not to me, he said, and probably not to anyone,” Victoria wrote in her Modern Love essay.A couple of years later, while...This is our last episode of the summer. We’re taking a little break, but we’ll be back in the fall with a whole new lineup of stories. We hope you’ll join us.]]>1242false288fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-find-the-one--52994482nytimes.com/datestory for submission details.]]>74c48da9-9d52-4100-96f6-cb68e542bf84Wed, 27 Jul 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Meher Ahmad first saw the movie “Bend It Like Beckham” as a young girl, she was transfixed. Watching the main character, an Indian woman who looked like her, kiss her white soccer coach, she saw a vision of her own romantic future. While she felt...nytimes.com/datestory for submission details.]]>1119false287fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-shame-game--52994780442e8b51-ffeb-499d-9483-729250e03f63Wed, 20 Jul 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanThe year was 2006, and Damon Young had just met a woman on MySpace. Their back-and-forth was witty, flirty and easy. They went on a first date at Barnes & Noble, where they browsed books and continued to vibe.Things were going great, Damon...1287false286fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-mother-s-secret--52994182Ayad Akhtar, who received the 2013 Pulitzer Prize for Drama, is the author of the novel “Homeland Elegies” and the president of PEN America.]]>5926a6be-e81e-4038-9af8-0bdd37113cdeWed, 13 Jul 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanAyad Akhtar’s parents met in Pakistan in the early ’60s, when they were both medical students and “ridiculously attractive” — or so their friends say. Despite having a love marriage (against the wishes of their parents), theirs was rocky from the...Ayad Akhtar, who received the 2013 Pulitzer Prize for Drama, is the author of the novel “Homeland Elegies” and the president of PEN America.]]>1085false285fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/do-it-i-dare-you--529937803d7fb2aa-9eb7-4059-9e61-337815d3b335Wed, 06 Jul 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanIn his early 20s, Kevin Renn moved to New York City with dreams of making it as a playwright. When money got tight, he decided to fall back on a familiar option: babysitting.“The question, though, wasn’t whether I would be a good nanny, but if anyone...1068false284fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/left-to-be-found--52994190870c80c8-13f5-4f22-b341-8f17a5182338Wed, 29 Jun 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanYvonne Liu knew from a young age that she was adopted, but she didn’t know the details. All she knew was that she had been left by her birth mother in a busy stairwell in Hong Kong. It wasn’t until she was 30, on the night before a critical surgery,...1099false283fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/only-with-distance--52994452here. And click here to read her first Modern Love essay, "Age is No Obstacle to Love, or Adventure," which remains one of our most read.]]>6f9a9e1e-066c-4a38-82ef-3acab7af549fWed, 22 Jun 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanNora Johnson had been making weekly visits to older man after he suffered a mild stroke. But he wasn’t just any older man. “We had the worst marriage in the history of human relations,” Nora wrote in her 2014 Modern Love essay. “Dysfunctional doesn’t...here. And click here to read her first Modern Love essay, "Age is No Obstacle to Love, or Adventure," which remains one of our most read.]]>1204false282fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-younger-man--52994171Edgar and Beatriz, a couple featured in our Vows column, who tell their own story of letting go of expectations and finding each other in the process.]]>c0f0fd0a-4150-4460-9461-c556ba01f399Wed, 15 Jun 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanHeather von Rohr had moved to Los Angeles with aspirations: to make it as a screenwriter and to fall in love, marry and have a child. In need of a day job, she took an entry-level position at the research library of a prestigious film academy.At the...Edgar and Beatriz, a couple featured in our Vows column, who tell their own story of letting go of expectations and finding each other in the process.]]>1243false281fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/marriage-classes-at-guantanamo--52994532Don’t Forget Us Here: Lost and Found at Guantánamo.” You can find more information on today's episode here. ]]>cecc11b5-b061-4bcb-a1c0-a9ec28dcf6a9Wed, 08 Jun 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanMansoor Adayfi was only 19 when he arrived at the prison camp at the Guantánamo Bay Naval Base in Cuba. Growing up in a tiny village in the mountains of Yemen, “I didn’t know much about the world,” he said. “Now my world was Guantánamo.”For a period...Don’t Forget Us Here: Lost and Found at Guantánamo.” You can find more information on today's episode here. ]]>1124false280fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/season-premiere-one-man-s-trash--52993796Click here for more details.]]>5cec5d80-47b9-4876-ac6a-d5d518ef0c8dWed, 01 Jun 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanWhen Mike Rucker and his partner, John, moved in together, they purchased a sofa they affectionately named Miss Bee. “I didn’t just feel grown up buying this sofa, I felt sophisticated,” Mike wrote in his Modern Love essay. Miss Bee had low arms,...Click here for more details.]]>1325false279fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-new-season-for-the-summer--52993576click here. Tune in on Wednesdays for new episodes of Modern Love.]]>8811e3e2-c029-4318-804e-76de03741663Wed, 25 May 2022 10:00:00 +0000SelemanWe have exciting news: We’ll be back on Wednesday, June 1, for a new season of stories. In the meantime, we invite you to listen to a mini episode featuring Ariana DeBose, who recently won an Oscar for her role as Anita in Steven Spielberg’s...click here. Tune in on Wednesdays for new episodes of Modern Love.]]>375falsetrailerhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/first-love-mixtape-side-b--52993783one glorious Spotify playlist. If you’d like to add your song to the playlist, email us at modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com.]]>bf8b534a-73fc-46c4-bd61-e4aadd3be4f4Wed, 13 Apr 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanWhat’s the song that taught you about love as a teen? When we asked this question at the start of the season, your anthems came pouring in. We heard from present-day teens, and we heard from listeners who have been with their partners for over 50...one glorious Spotify playlist. If you’d like to add your song to the playlist, email us at modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com.]]>1353false278fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-couple-walks-into-city-hall--52994794b69886d6-641b-428b-899a-8cbc36c7dd25Wed, 06 Apr 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanIt’s 2022, the year of matrimania. Roughly 2.5 million weddings are expected (a bump not seen since 1984), and other trends are wildly taking off — ceremonies for pets, weddings on weekdays, a revival of epic poofy dresses.While the business of...1036false277fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/right-swipes-big-city--52994822c9d763fa-740b-402f-a2f4-4680e9fa41d0Wed, 30 Mar 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanAlexandra Capellini has been on the dating apps for about four years. Dating is already a fraught process, but to top it off, Alexandra has to decide if, when and how she should explain that she wears a prosthetic leg. Today, we listen to Alexandra’s...1141false276fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/confessions-of-a-late-bloomer--5299377176204c3c-ca56-4f81-9b1a-0ca08cebed8bWed, 23 Mar 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanGarrett Schlichte was exactly twice the age of his sister. When he was 28 and his sister was 14, she would dish to him on the phone about her teenage love life. But the feelings she was experiencing — like electric attraction and aching jealousy —...985false275fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-mother-s-wild-extravagant-love--52994622Ms. Kingston’s essay about opening the packages in the box, and her reflections on what was lost — and what was found. Then, we speak to a mother and son from one of our Tiny Love Stories to hear about how they have connected during the pandemic through cooking.]]>28787aeb-39f9-458a-afa0-9fcc39080bf4Wed, 16 Mar 2022 20:00:00 +0000SelemanGenevieve Kingston has carried a cardboard box with her throughout her life, filled with gifts for major milestones — childhood birthdays, her first period, graduation.The gifts are from her mother, who died of cancer just before Ms. Kingston’s 12th...Ms. Kingston’s essay about opening the packages in the box, and her reflections on what was lost — and what was found. Then, we speak to a mother and son from one of our Tiny Love Stories to hear about how they have connected during the pandemic through cooking.]]>1287false274fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/beyond-girlfriend-boyfriend--52994555067fd67b-ae7f-4d47-894f-83fde9f2efccWed, 09 Mar 2022 21:00:00 +0000SelemanThree months into the pandemic, Haili Blassingame was crafting an email to her boyfriend of five years, Malcolm, with the subject line “My Terms.” She wanted to break up. Haili had met Malcolm in college. At first she was “giddy about the cute guy...1041false273fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/when-you-think-you-know-your-parents--52994194nytimes.com/morningatnight). And if you’re an undergraduate at an American college or university, submit your story to our college essay contest. Visit nytimes.com/essaycontest for details. ]]>b5e8a701-728a-411f-a933-8278b929f2e2Wed, 02 Mar 2022 21:00:00 +0000SelemanAriel Sabar was visiting his parents in his childhood home in California, when he awoke one morning to high-pitched giggles coming from his parents’ room. He opened the door to a Norman Rockwell-type image: his father, 70, riding his stationary bike...nytimes.com/morningatnight). And if you’re an undergraduate at an American college or university, submit your story to our college essay contest. Visit nytimes.com/essaycontest for details. ]]>1298false272fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/married-to-a-deal-breaker--52993632Modern Love is hosting its sixth college essay contest this year! If you’re an undergraduate at an American college or university, tell us what love is like for you. Visit nytimes.com/essaycontest for submission details. The deadline is March 27.]]>fa883248-860c-484e-b085-e50457581e58Wed, 23 Feb 2022 21:00:00 +0000SelemanWhat are your dating non-negotiables? For Hyla Sabesin Finn, it was smoking — or so she thought. Hyla met Larry in college. She was 17; he was a 21-year-old law student, puffing away outside the library. Hyla had been “indoctrinated by parents whose...Modern Love is hosting its sixth college essay contest this year! If you’re an undergraduate at an American college or university, tell us what love is like for you. Visit nytimes.com/essaycontest for submission details. The deadline is March 27.]]>1279false271fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-ham-sandwich-effect--52994195nytimes.com/morningatnight.]]>8204cf12-9f76-45f0-834f-b7782204f824Wed, 16 Feb 2022 21:00:00 +0000SelemanBefore Andrew Limbong went off to college, his mother cautioned him about the dire consequences he would face if he hugged a girl. Andrew grew up in a strict Christian household, and his parents are Indonesian immigrants, so they never spoke about sex...nytimes.com/morningatnight.]]>1242false270fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/first-love-mixtape--52994221Spotify playlist, and we may use your story in an upcoming episode. Click here for more submission details.]]>879307a3-b049-452d-b836-06d3db86125bWed, 09 Feb 2022 21:00:00 +0000SelemanWe’re back for a whole new season of stories. In today’s premiere, we introduce our new host, Anna Martin, who has a question for listeners: What’s the one song that taught you about love when you were a teenager? We listen to “What Lou Reed Taught Me...Spotify playlist, and we may use your story in an upcoming episode. Click here for more submission details.]]>1611false269fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/loving-across-borders--45885005
On today’s episode, we hear about an undocumented immigrant’s search for love — and what it taught her about isolation and intimacy. Then, we hear from two Modern Love listeners who have kept their long-distance relationships alive during the pandemic.]]>34313f0a-9744-4369-ba25-29af89a5b0baWed, 21 Jul 2021 20:00:00 +0000SelemanAt age 11, Julissa Arce came to the United States from Mexico on a visa that expired three years later. For more than a decade, she lived as an undocumented immigrant, fearful of revealing her secret to anyone. “Every phone call or email I got from...
On today’s episode, we hear about an undocumented immigrant’s search for love — and what it taught her about isolation and intimacy. Then, we hear from two Modern Love listeners who have kept their long-distance relationships alive during the pandemic.]]>1308falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/when-his-shorts-are-just-too-tight--458850644d68ae87-0257-4318-896a-ebb3b467d65dWed, 07 Jul 2021 20:00:00 +0000Seleman1303falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-right-to-fail-at-marriage--4588506571653ad3-2bbc-4c40-b1ab-7458d6e7ecb9Wed, 23 Jun 2021 20:00:00 +0000SelemanIn 2004, the comedian Cameron Esposito sat on the steps of Boston City Hall and watched as some of the first legally married same-sex couples in the United States emerged victoriously as newlyweds. Thirteen years, three boyfriends and 10 girlfriends...1204falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/was-it-me-or-our-astrology--4588505447623361-c3ef-4a09-a0a9-ae8268f5e13dWed, 09 Jun 2021 20:00:00 +0000Seleman“Love life not working out? Health problems? Everything going wrong?” Amisha Patel used to be skeptical of astrological services that offered claims about the future. Her parents, who immigrated to the U.S. from India, would make annual trips back to...1230falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/trapped-in-a-romance-scam--45885069
Today’s story explores a global dating scam (that’s still going on, by the way) and the pandemic-fueled loneliness of digital life. Also, we hear from two women who were duped by Michael’s impostor. One of them shares a trick for determining whether or not a dating prospect is real.]]>773f2b8a-a3b7-40d7-84d6-8d7e6941efb6Wed, 02 Jun 2021 20:00:00 +0000SelemanLast spring, Michael McAllister’s inbox started filling up with messages from heartbroken women. “I thought you were the man,” one wrote. “Embarrassing, but I kinda became obsessed with ‘you,’” another said. Michael discovered that his photos were...
Today’s story explores a global dating scam (that’s still going on, by the way) and the pandemic-fueled loneliness of digital life. Also, we hear from two women who were duped by Michael’s impostor. One of them shares a trick for determining whether or not a dating prospect is real.]]>1362falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/she-left-me-there--45885070c8fb7a65-3c98-42b8-b385-46c04749c316Wed, 19 May 2021 20:00:00 +0000SelemanKacey Vu Shap had no desire to return to the Vietnamese orphanage of his youth. As a child, whenever he told people he was adopted, he would say that he came “premade” — that he spontaneously appeared one day at the Baltimore airport, greeted by a new...1479falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/why-do-people-get-married--458850612543a979-9d82-4303-9499-f885f6bb4273Wed, 12 May 2021 20:00:00 +0000SelemanWelcome to our season premiere. Seven years into a serious relationship, Jake Maynard got a text from his mother: “Gramma Gert: 3, Jake: 0.” This was her way of telling him that his grandmother, in her 80s, was getting married for the third time,...1494falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-return-of-the-modern-love-podcast--44685395c222a761-5532-448c-91f8-9fd79aa24510Fri, 07 May 2021 17:15:00 +0000SelemanThe Modern Love podcast will be back for a new season on May 12, with new episodes on Wednesdays. We hope you’ll join us!151falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/season-premiere-driveway-elegies--43248003
On the first episode of the new Modern Love podcast, we hear from two women who examine their lives through the contents of their homes — the car in the driveway, the stained teacups, the razor and shaving cream by the sink. Though easy to ignore, these everyday objects often tell a larger story.

Featured stories:“Bye Bye ‘Family’ Minivan," Kyrie Robinson“Tracking the Demise of My Marriage on Google Maps,” Maggie Smith


Maggie’s story was narrated by Audm. To hear more audio stories from publishers like The New York Times, download Audm for iPhone or Android.

You can find more information on today's episode here.]]>gid://art19-episode-locator/V0/5iAr8QfmCvR1yx4vZjjQ8NcssXhMDbdRNtpc-GoJgIwWed, 14 Oct 2020 20:00:29 +0000SelemanThis episode contains strong language. On the first episode of the new Modern Love podcast, we hear from two women who examine their lives through the contents of their homes — the car in the driveway, the stained teacups, the razor and shaving...
On the first episode of the new Modern Love podcast, we hear from two women who examine their lives through the contents of their homes — the car in the driveway, the stained teacups, the razor and shaving cream by the sink. Though easy to ignore, these everyday objects often tell a larger story.

Featured stories:“Bye Bye ‘Family’ Minivan," Kyrie Robinson“Tracking the Demise of My Marriage on Google Maps,” Maggie Smith


Maggie’s story was narrated by Audm. To hear more audio stories from publishers like The New York Times, download Audm for iPhone or Android.

You can find more information on today's episode here.]]>1744essay,loss,love,new york times,nyt,nytimes,redemption,storytellingfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/researching-jenna-discovering-myself-with-hasan-minhaj--43247997fbd48fe1-1a98-467a-aabf-84f5f9fed8b4Wed, 03 Jun 2020 19:41:27 +0000SelemanHasan Minhaj ("Patriot Act with Hasan Minhaj") reads Brian Goedde's essay about a man investigating his own breakup.1301essay,loss,love,new york times,nyt,nytimes,redemption,storytellingfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-language-of-love-with-saoirse-ronan-encore--43248001aca5db86-5403-4563-9e1f-31c428a1aaadWed, 27 May 2020 19:23:25 +0000SelemanSaoirse Ronan ("Little Women") reads an essay about how a language barrier impacts the relationship between a young woman and an Iraqi doctor. This is an encore presentation.1185essay,loss,love,new york times,nyt,nytimes,redemption,storytellingfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-lolita-freed-me-from-my-own-humbert-with-jameela-jamil--43247998Jameela Jamil ("I Weigh") reads her piece.]]>d1a1763b-ecdb-4f6c-8afa-5cc7d13ae469Wed, 20 May 2020 19:07:27 +0000Seleman"Lolita," Vladimir Nabokov’s novel about a man’s sexual obsession with a young girl, is famously controversial. But when Bindu Bansinath started to read it, it unexpectedly became a kind of road map for her, showing her a way out of the situation she...Jameela Jamil ("I Weigh") reads her piece.]]>1246essay,loss,love,new york times,nyt,nytimes,redemption,storytellingfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/alone-in-a-pandemic--43247999This episode features stories from people who live alone, telling us how they are doing right now.]]>d6aae561-7a23-4928-97d2-0a030c6c8b5aTue, 12 May 2020 23:31:32 +0000SelemanLiving alone can be liberating, maddening, joyful ... lonely.  It also might feel very different today than it did several months ago. This episode features stories from people who live alone, telling us how they are doing right now.This episode features stories from people who live alone, telling us how they are doing right now.]]>1389essay,loss,love,new york times,nyt,nytimes,redemption,storytellingfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/years-ago-my-sister-vanished-i-see-her-whenever-i-want-with-daisy-edgar-jones--43248004138aa14d-0fee-4151-a238-93c3faecea6cWed, 29 Apr 2020 20:13:33 +0000SelemanDaisy Edgar-Jones (Hulu's "Normal People") reads Kyleigh Leddy's essay, about the online presence people leave behind.1276essay,loss,love,new york times,nyt,nytimes,redemption,storytellingfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/sometimes-it-s-not-you-or-the-math-with-laura-prepon--43248005569f75e7-4953-4288-88ac-4024e6e9dc05Wed, 22 Apr 2020 19:05:28 +0000SelemanWhat if all the conventional wisdom about why you are single is wrong? Laura Prepon ("You And I, As Mothers") reads Sara Eckel's essay.1258essay,loss,love,new york times,nyt,nytimes,redemption,storytellingfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/somewhere-inside-a-path-to-empathy-with-daniel-radcliffe--43248006David Finch writes about that in his essay, which is read by Daniel Radcliffe. Daniel stars in the upcoming "Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt" interactive special on Netflix. ]]>8f92f7c7-6a98-4630-bbb6-7e712c1cb7b8Wed, 08 Apr 2020 19:49:31 +0000SelemanWhen you’re in a new relationship, you’re always trying to present your best self. But anyone who’s been in a relationship for awhile knows that you can’t keep the act up forever.  David Finch writes about that in his essay, which is read by Daniel...David Finch writes about that in his essay, which is read by Daniel Radcliffe. Daniel stars in the upcoming "Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt" interactive special on Netflix. ]]>1253essay,loss,love,new york times,nyt,nytimes,redemption,storytellingfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-role-i-was-born-to-play-with-tan-france--43248007b98ccfeb-7f66-4394-9248-fd197379bda2Wed, 29 Jan 2020 20:23:24 +0000SelemanTan France ("Queer Eye," "Next in Fashion") reads an essay by Evan James, about a man finding his role within his family.1151essay,loss,love,new york times,nyt,nytimes,redemption,storytellingfalsefull