https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/so-you-re-getting-married--4676812enRelationshipsCopyright Tavershima Ayedehttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/4fe289dddce7f7f67eab584bad80a075.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/podcast/so-you-re-getting-married--4676812Tue, 11 Apr 2023 20:47:21 +0000Tavershima AyedeTavershima Ayedeayede.taver@gmail.comThis show offers personal perspectives to brides and wives, and grooms and guys on things to consider before walking down the aisle... as well as some lessons that will endure before and after the wedding ceremony! Hosted by Nigerian, abuja-based...cleanepisodichttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-20-we-re-not-done-yet--44433864https://api.spreaker.com/episode/44433864Thu, 22 Apr 2021 10:00:27 +0000Tavershima AyedeNew episodes available316cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-19-why-i-started-the-podcast-and-why-i-ll-be-gone-for-a-while--43131733https://api.spreaker.com/episode/43131733Tue, 26 Jan 2021 19:56:15 +0000Tavershima AyedeI started the podcast to see how I could elevate the level of discourse around the topics of marriage, family life and relationships... all borne out of my past experiences as a kid, as well as my current adventures as a wedding photographer who is...603cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-18-traditional-weddings-are-still-important--43092081https://api.spreaker.com/episode/43092081Sun, 24 Jan 2021 12:20:50 +0000Tavershima AyedeIt’s often assumed by modern couples that traditional ceremonies are the least important of the three 1. Civil/ registry marriages 2. Church unions 3. Traditional marriages. They’re all important and have distinct characters and purposes. Civil...874cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-17-the-coronavirus-finale--43068432https://api.spreaker.com/episode/43068432Fri, 22 Jan 2021 19:16:59 +0000Tavershima AyedeFrom the inception of the podcast up until now, we have been exploring ways that couples can either save money on the wedding or reduce the scope of the wedding to the bare minimum to make sure that we get married safely on the coronavirus...484cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/acquired-taste-in-marriage--43032564https://api.spreaker.com/episode/43032564Wed, 20 Jan 2021 21:00:17 +0000Tavershima AyedeWhen we are getting married to people from other tribes, there is the matter of a different palettes across different cultures. This also happens where you’re getting married to someone of the same tribe as well! It is not something to be afraid of or...889cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/is-item-number-7-essential-for-traditional-marriages--42973872https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42973872Sun, 17 Jan 2021 06:27:00 +0000Tavershima AyedeMerriment and “jolification” aren’t formally necessary for a valid traditional marriage to take place. However! Families of good and proper standing usually make sure their guests are “taken care of” and would host with appropriate traditional cuisines.884cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-14-why-exchange-consent-at-a-traditional-wedding--42907056https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42907056Tue, 12 Jan 2021 22:20:07 +0000Tavershima AyedeEven though the traditional proceedings have a community element to it, a lot of the validity for “modern” village weddings stem from the personal assent from the couples. The drama surrounding this can be varied and drawn out, but we should all take...900cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-13-why-do-we-have-to-identify-the-bride-and-groom-anyway--42871883https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42871883Sun, 10 Jan 2021 19:45:20 +0000Tavershima AyedeWe do so because even though we’ve undertaken a communal covenant, the actual responsibility for living out the marriage “day to day” is an individual one. We have to be absolutely sure that the “children” know who they intend to marry and are doing...802cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-12-about-choir-masters-and-sisters-in-church--42843058https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42843058Fri, 08 Jan 2021 13:00:42 +0000Tavershima AyedeIt’s a wonderful thing when we find love in the service and pursuits of God. We also have to be careful to be sure no ethical and spiritual lines are crossed when dating in the church.873cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-11-why-you-need-to-appease-the-extended-family--42813223https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42813223Wed, 06 Jan 2021 14:14:52 +0000Tavershima AyedeEven though a covenant/ bride price has been exchanged with the “main part” of the family, smaller appeasements have to be made here and there (in good jest) in recognition of the fact that the bride is part of a larger family and social structure as...867cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-10-why-is-the-bride-price-important--42763231https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42763231Sat, 02 Jan 2021 21:03:47 +0000Tavershima AyedeThe bride price is a sign of a covenant and is a pledge to show that our marriage vows before our families is a “weighty” one. The practice gets abused in different times and by lots of families, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t a valuable custom....872cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-9-the-one-about-why-you-need-to-show-up-with-your-father-s-people--42703417https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42703417Tue, 29 Dec 2020 09:53:57 +0000Tavershima AyedeFor traditional weddings it’s absolutely important that the right party’s show up on either side. Both the bride and the groom need to be adequately represented in the process by their kin because it’s not just a covenant between two individuals, but...746cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-8-the-one-about-complementarity-or-sameness-in-finding-your-soulmate--42595574https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42595574Mon, 21 Dec 2020 14:20:06 +0000Tavershima AyedeWhether you have practical or more romantic notions about marriage, only a firm commitment to your marriage is the major ingredient that will make it endure. In this episode we look at this and a lot more as well as riffing on ideas about...866cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-7-the-one-about-polyandry-and-polyamory--42448400https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42448400Sat, 12 Dec 2020 11:11:32 +0000Tavershima AyedeTo keep things objective, after having explored forms of marriage that leave the options of multiple wives open, I figured I’d explore the options that give leeway to women for multiple partners. In either case it’s better to have open discussions...840cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-6-the-one-on-traditional-weddings--42413123https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42413123Thu, 10 Dec 2020 09:57:06 +0000Tavershima AyedeCosts can be kept to a minimum in traditional weddings as well so long as we keep a keen focus on the key elements of the wedding which include the proper delegates, the pledge or bride price, and rituals for showing consent from the couples.867cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-5-why-you-should-attend-wedding-fairs--42274121https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42274121Wed, 02 Dec 2020 08:29:34 +0000Tavershima AyedeWedding fairs are good place to begin your research when planning your wedding! to make the most of your time while at the bridal expo, you should have a good sense of the questions you oughta ask your wedding vendors. The price and money...872cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-4-the-one-about-polygamy--42195601https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42195601Fri, 27 Nov 2020 08:51:12 +0000Tavershima AyedeFor couples who are open to the idea of polygamy, it's a conversation that is best hard early on in the wedding planning process. Both of you need to be open and Frank about the limits of the marriage, because this has serious implications for which...856cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-3-dealing-with-benefactors-and-people-who-promise-you-money--42136279https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42136279Tue, 24 Nov 2020 08:47:21 +0000Tavershima Ayedebenefactors who run away from promises that they made to you during the wedding planning process are not necessarily bad people! they probably didn't realise the extent of the commitment and how much money would be involved! These things will be...816cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-2-your-body-doesn-t-belong-to-you--42101568https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42101568Sun, 22 Nov 2020 07:19:54 +0000Tavershima AyedeWe have reciprocal obligations as husband and wife and you'll be pleased to know that the "good Book" endorses the idea that a wife has a hold on her husband's body just as the husband has a hold on the wife's!586cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/no-you-don-t-have-to-elope-to-save-costs--42073128https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42073128Fri, 20 Nov 2020 11:53:52 +0000Tavershima AyedeAfter the Corona virus lockdowns across the globe, some brides and grooms have figured that it would be a good idea to elope to save costs and have a small wedding. This is not necessarily the case so long as you meet the essential requirements for...889cleanfull