http://www.hayleytwheeler.co.ukenMental HealthCopyright Teal at Hearthttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/9e1003180b544910c8f38d95e131f2d8.jpghttp://www.hayleytwheeler.co.ukFri, 19 May 2023 08:43:37 +0000Teal at HeartTeal at Heartfeeds@spreaker.comSelf Knowledge is a Superpower - the motto of Hayley T. Wheeler, Emotional Empowerment Coach,Motivational Speaker, Workshop Facilitator, and Author. Hayley's coaching programme came from lived experience of her depression and her son's battle with...yesepisodichttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-other-side-of-depression-my-history-with-mental-health--53869197https://api.spreaker.com/episode/53869197Fri, 19 May 2023 08:28:42 +0000Teal at Heart902cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/3-the-other-side-of-depression-sleep-exhaustion-and-bedtime-routines--53869177https://api.spreaker.com/episode/53869177Fri, 19 May 2023 08:28:37 +0000Teal at Heart513cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/1-the-other-side-of-depression-life-got-harder--53869166https://api.spreaker.com/episode/53869166Mon, 15 May 2023 10:40:30 +0000Teal at Heart861cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/hayley-s-full-story--51397067https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51397067Mon, 09 Jan 2023 17:23:58 +0000Teal at Heart276cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/mental-resilience-support--51395189https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51395189Mon, 09 Jan 2023 17:23:53 +0000Teal at Heart342cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/mental-resilience-and-wellbeing--51395174https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51395174Mon, 09 Jan 2023 17:23:49 +0000Teal at Heart943cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotional-performance--51395165https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51395165Mon, 09 Jan 2023 17:23:42 +0000Teal at Heart1273cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/mindset-perception-and-attitude--51395157https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51395157Mon, 09 Jan 2023 17:23:32 +0000Teal at Heart19cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/behaviours-and-actions--51395154https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51395154Tue, 13 Dec 2022 11:26:53 +0000Teal at Heart921cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/on-a-mission-to-improve-mental-health--51395136https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51395136Tue, 04 Oct 2022 20:25:51 +0000Teal at Heart212cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/when-i-was-interviewed--51395117https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51395117Tue, 04 Oct 2022 20:25:18 +0000Teal at Heart203mentalhealth,mentalhealthawareness,selfcare,wellbeingcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/inspiration-nation-2017--51469818www.colourblack.co.uk.

Self knowledge is our super power, it gives us the ability to conquer anything. I coach people who are ready to challenge and conquer anxiety, depression or stress, to accept their super power and take back control of their life and business.

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www.hayleytwheeler.co.uk]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51469818Tue, 04 Oct 2022 20:24:43 +0000Teal at HeartRecorded at Inspiration Nation, Princess Royal theater, 23rd March 2017. Original footage by www.colourblack.co.uk. Self knowledge is our super power, it gives us the ability to conquer anything. I coach people who are ready to challenge and...www.colourblack.co.uk.

Self knowledge is our super power, it gives us the ability to conquer anything. I coach people who are ready to challenge and conquer anxiety, depression or stress, to accept their super power and take back control of their life and business.

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www.hayleytwheeler.co.uk]]>1985care,emotionalwellbeing,mentalhealth,self,wellbeingcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/cindy-s-story--51394883https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51394883Tue, 27 Sep 2022 11:52:40 +0000Teal at Heart830cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/a-clients-journey-with-emd--51394740https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51394740Tue, 27 Sep 2022 11:22:31 +0000Teal at Heart133cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/afraid-of-talking-about-mental-health--51394717https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51394717Tue, 27 Sep 2022 11:18:47 +0000Teal at Heart81cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/introduction-to-emotionmind-dynamic--51394687https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51394687Tue, 27 Sep 2022 11:12:59 +0000Teal at Heart619cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/wellbeing-from-the-inside-out-part-2--51394684https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51394684Tue, 27 Sep 2022 11:11:27 +0000Teal at Heart804cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/wellbeing-from-the-inside-out-part-3--51394671https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51394671Tue, 27 Sep 2022 11:09:04 +0000Teal at Heart1020cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/wellbeing-from-the-inside-out-part1--51394659https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51394659Tue, 27 Sep 2022 11:05:48 +0000Teal at Heart820cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/wellbeing-from-the-inside-out-part-4--51394639https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51394639Tue, 27 Sep 2022 11:04:12 +0000Teal at Heart1460mentalhealth,mentalhealthawareness,selfcare,wellbeingcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/why-is-a-hard-question-hayley-t-wheeler--35516284https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35516284Wed, 23 Sep 2020 10:35:18 +0000Teal at HeartParenting is tough when you don't have all the information you need to make informed decisions. A child struggling with anxiety and or depression often can't give you the information you need to help them as they don't understand it themselves. Asking...402challenges,children,parenting,strugglecleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/containing-emotions-hayley-t-wheeler--35516093
Many of us are 'containing' our emotions but to what end?

While our emotions sit quietly inside we feel we are doing ok so we keep adding to our emotional vessel until it fuels our negative thoughts and drives us to find negative ways to cope but until we learn to identify, understand and let go of emotions we will forever be trying to cope instead of living]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35516093Fri, 18 Sep 2020 10:25:08 +0000Teal at HeartLets explore the EmotionMind Dynamic. Many of us are 'containing' our emotions but to what end? While our emotions sit quietly inside we feel we are doing ok so we keep adding to our emotional vessel until it fuels our negative thoughts and drives...
Many of us are 'containing' our emotions but to what end?

While our emotions sit quietly inside we feel we are doing ok so we keep adding to our emotional vessel until it fuels our negative thoughts and drives us to find negative ways to cope but until we learn to identify, understand and let go of emotions we will forever be trying to cope instead of living]]>533emotions,expression,letgocleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/adapting-to-new-changes-hayley-t-wheeler--35515963
Reflecting on these changes, and looking ahead to how things will change very shortly, you will gain some insight on what you need and what your family needs. Looking at the emotional impact, behaviours, and disruptions to our new routine in coming days, weeks and months - we can take the pressure off of our expectations.

Here are some questions I'd like you to ask yourself and ponder over; even at a time when we feel our control over our lives is limited, we can still make choices for ourselves. You can control what affects you and how it affects you and it makes a huge difference on your health and wellbeing.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35515963Sun, 13 Sep 2020 10:15:11 +0000Teal at HeartThe upheaval we have experienced over the last few months have had such an impact on each and every one of us. As we live through this situation, Its important to be self aware - to understand what is happening for you personally. Our own experiences...
Reflecting on these changes, and looking ahead to how things will change very shortly, you will gain some insight on what you need and what your family needs. Looking at the emotional impact, behaviours, and disruptions to our new routine in coming days, weeks and months - we can take the pressure off of our expectations.

Here are some questions I'd like you to ask yourself and ponder over; even at a time when we feel our control over our lives is limited, we can still make choices for ourselves. You can control what affects you and how it affects you and it makes a huge difference on your health and wellbeing.]]>571changes,lockdown,normalitycleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/practising-celebrating-our-successes-hayley-t-wheeler--35515825https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35515825Tue, 08 Sep 2020 10:05:03 +0000Teal at HeartAs parents or caregivers, we can often feel that we aren't 'enough', fall into patterns which remind us of the things we aren't doing well from our own perspective. However every day there are ways that you are succeeding in these roles; lets look at...326failure,parenting,successcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-do-you-cope-hayley-t-wheeler--35509455
Sometimes we can be carrying around the burden of overwhelming, powerful emotions - for example, guilt. We may feel pressured to behave in a particular way, and self punishment can begin to build. This is about looking about how you COPE, digging deeper to consider what emotions we are struggling with and have the opportunity to find healthy releases for these emotions. Emotional and mental health are closely linked, and its a running theme throughout my coaching programme.

What about you - are there emotions that you are carrying with you in everyday life? How do you COPE?]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35509455Thu, 03 Sep 2020 10:45:15 +0000Teal at HeartOne of the ideas I share with clients is about how we COPE - our Chosen Outlets for Powerful Emotions that we are experiencing. Sometimes we can be carrying around the burden of overwhelming, powerful emotions - for example, guilt. We may feel...
Sometimes we can be carrying around the burden of overwhelming, powerful emotions - for example, guilt. We may feel pressured to behave in a particular way, and self punishment can begin to build. This is about looking about how you COPE, digging deeper to consider what emotions we are struggling with and have the opportunity to find healthy releases for these emotions. Emotional and mental health are closely linked, and its a running theme throughout my coaching programme.

What about you - are there emotions that you are carrying with you in everyday life? How do you COPE?]]>290challenges,coping,mentalhealth,strugglescleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/mental-health-vs-mental-illness--35506640
Sometimes these two terms are used to mean the same thing, but I see a difference. Mental health is something that we can take control of and take actions to improve and maintain our wellbeing levels.

#mentalhealthawareness]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35506640Sat, 29 Aug 2020 10:35:17 +0000Teal at HeartFollowing a theme of a radio interview I had last night around this topic, this video discusses the differences between Mental Health and Mental Illness. Sometimes these two terms are used to mean the same thing, but I see a difference. Mental health...
Sometimes these two terms are used to mean the same thing, but I see a difference. Mental health is something that we can take control of and take actions to improve and maintain our wellbeing levels.

#mentalhealthawareness]]>213mentalhealth,mentalillness,mindfulness,wellbeingcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/self-kindness-hayley-t-wheeler--35504788
Please note - This episode discusses suicide and the widely publicised 'Be Kind' Campaign, and is marked as explicit to reflect the content.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35504788Mon, 24 Aug 2020 10:20:03 +0000Teal at HeartToday's episode is about how we can work towards being kinder to ourselves. This addresses self talk, negative self talk particularly - when we can find ways to be kinder to ourselves, it impacts how we treat others too. We are more accepting,...
Please note - This episode discusses suicide and the widely publicised 'Be Kind' Campaign, and is marked as explicit to reflect the content.]]>197bekind,kindness,mindfulness,selftalkyesfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/using-our-past-to-better-our-future-hayley-t-wheeler--35504713
There are many positive experiences we have had too, and its easy to focus on the negative experiences more. Life isn't all about successes, that’s true. But we can use these as ‘lessons’.

It's a process during my coaching programme - looking back at all the experiences we as individuals have, and seeing how this learning can help us to live the lives we want to.

Please let me know your thoughts on this topic - how have you used past experiences, positive or negative, to fuel your future?]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35504713Wed, 19 Aug 2020 10:15:14 +0000Teal at HeartHow many of us self punish ourselves for the mistakes we made? I did it for years, ruminating over the things I got wrong, and I think many of us are guilty of the same. The way I used to talk to myself, about myself, became a slippery slope into my...
There are many positive experiences we have had too, and its easy to focus on the negative experiences more. Life isn't all about successes, that’s true. But we can use these as ‘lessons’.

It's a process during my coaching programme - looking back at all the experiences we as individuals have, and seeing how this learning can help us to live the lives we want to.

Please let me know your thoughts on this topic - how have you used past experiences, positive or negative, to fuel your future?]]>372experience,future,lessons,mistakes,wisdomcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/trust-and-gut-instinct-hayley-t-wheeler--35504598
Is it easy to trust? What factors affect your ability to trust? Do you follow your intuition or do you override it? Let me know your thoughts on this.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35504598Fri, 14 Aug 2020 10:05:10 +0000Teal at HeartThe subject of trust is one that often comes up during my coaching sessions. During this episode, I explain more about where this sense of trust or mistrust stems from, and also how your sense of intuition helps or hinders your decisions. Is it easy...
Is it easy to trust? What factors affect your ability to trust? Do you follow your intuition or do you override it? Let me know your thoughts on this.]]>451children,instinct,intuition,parenting,trustcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/suppressing-success-and-focusing-on-failures-hayley-t-wheeler--35440356
Instead, what if we remembered our successes and the things we are proud of?
How would that change our perspective?]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35440356Sun, 09 Aug 2020 10:35:16 +0000Teal at HeartToday's episode is around the evidence we provide to ourselves about our past failures and successes. It can be easy to fall into the trap of focussing on the things that have gone wrong or not to plan, which can breed fear and uncertainty. Instead,...
Instead, what if we remembered our successes and the things we are proud of?
How would that change our perspective?]]>297failure,selftalk,successcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-impact-of-negative-self-talk-hayley-t-wheeler--35439862
I believe I came to a point where I accepted the negative self talk - it became the norm and so I had learned not to question it. Those self talk narratives didnt feel uncomfortable at the time. I'd allowed that self talk to grow stronger and take over many areas of my life.

This podcast is about how we can disrupt that pattern, change the negative narrative and focus on strengthening our positive self talk.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35439862Tue, 04 Aug 2020 10:30:19 +0000Teal at HeartFor me, there was a link between body issues and my mental health. Comparing myself with others in various ways - visually, academically, in sports and in my career. I believe I came to a point where I accepted the negative self talk - it became the...
I believe I came to a point where I accepted the negative self talk - it became the norm and so I had learned not to question it. Those self talk narratives didnt feel uncomfortable at the time. I'd allowed that self talk to grow stronger and take over many areas of my life.

This podcast is about how we can disrupt that pattern, change the negative narrative and focus on strengthening our positive self talk.]]>317cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/fear-of-the-summer-wardrobe-hayley-t-wheeler--35439789
I have also noticed that I'm still carrying around some old thoughts about the way I look and how I feel about my body. They don't help me to feel better about the way I look, and I think contribute to the low mood and lack of self esteem I have when it comes to my own body image.

So my current challenge is to address that and view my body in a kinder way. I'm exploring the source of those fears and judgment, and exploring how I can take steps daily to improve my thinking. Body empowerment means accepting what I am, losing the negative patterns of thinking, and choosing positive actions instead.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35439789Thu, 30 Jul 2020 10:20:17 +0000Teal at HeartWe've been fortunate to be blessed with great weather during the last few weeks. I've dug out my summer clothes again, some of those that I would only wear on holidays abroad. At home, I dress more conservatively and wondered if there is a reason...
I have also noticed that I'm still carrying around some old thoughts about the way I look and how I feel about my body. They don't help me to feel better about the way I look, and I think contribute to the low mood and lack of self esteem I have when it comes to my own body image.

So my current challenge is to address that and view my body in a kinder way. I'm exploring the source of those fears and judgment, and exploring how I can take steps daily to improve my thinking. Body empowerment means accepting what I am, losing the negative patterns of thinking, and choosing positive actions instead.]]>364cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/learning-to-accept-my-body-issues-hayley-t-wheeler--35439750https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35439750Sat, 25 Jul 2020 10:15:02 +0000Teal at HeartLearning to accept my body image - A bit of a personal one for me addressing my long held body issues and taking accountability to manage them.596cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/life-after-lockdown-hayley-t-wheeler--35439672
Are you also thinking ahead about the adjustments you will continue with after this period ends?]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35439672Mon, 20 Jul 2020 10:05:16 +0000Teal at HeartThis slower pace of life has had me thinking about how I want to live after these restrictions lift. Are you also thinking ahead about the adjustments you will continue with after this period ends?
Are you also thinking ahead about the adjustments you will continue with after this period ends?]]>242changes,covid19,family,life,lockdown,parenting,wellbeingcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/mum-guilt-hayley-t-wheeler--23028986
Guilt can be very toxic. Being able to step away from this feeling of guilt helps us to process and understand it better.

If you are juggling lots of commitments and responsibilities, have a think over the next 24 hours what you are feeling irrationally guilty about; is that the guilt a reality, or is the guilt fuelling how you think and feel?]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23028986Wed, 15 Jul 2020 08:45:03 +0000Teal at HeartSomething came up this week which made me feel guilty. However irrational the cause, it's a feeling thats been creeping into my thoughts. Guilt can be very toxic. Being able to step away from this feeling of guilt helps us to process and understand...
Guilt can be very toxic. Being able to step away from this feeling of guilt helps us to process and understand it better.

If you are juggling lots of commitments and responsibilities, have a think over the next 24 hours what you are feeling irrationally guilty about; is that the guilt a reality, or is the guilt fuelling how you think and feel?]]>255challenges,children,coaching,dad,emotions,father,guilt,irrational,life,mother,mum,parenting,parents,pressure,rational,selftalk,struggles,thinking,thoughtscleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/investing-in-ourselves-too-hayley-t-wheeler--24713882
It can feel unnecessary, sometimes we don't always recognise the need for it in our lives. There's always something else to invest in - Spend money on - Mobile phones, tvs, cars - whatever it is that we think will make us happy. Or it can be time that is the issue - another chore to fit into our lives. Making time to spend on yourself feels selfish if others are depending on you. If you're already in demand, where can you possibly find the time?

I admit, I haven't managed it well in the last few days. I have had a series of appointments, meetings and all sorts of things needing attention. Yet there's a big event this week in my personal life where I will need to be at my best. So to prepare, I will practice self care.

Will you invest in yourself too?]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24713882Wed, 08 Jul 2020 08:45:14 +0000Teal at HeartWe regularly invest in material things, but have we learned how to invest in ourselves too? It can feel unnecessary, sometimes we don't always recognise the need for it in our lives. There's always something else to invest in - Spend money on -...
It can feel unnecessary, sometimes we don't always recognise the need for it in our lives. There's always something else to invest in - Spend money on - Mobile phones, tvs, cars - whatever it is that we think will make us happy. Or it can be time that is the issue - another chore to fit into our lives. Making time to spend on yourself feels selfish if others are depending on you. If you're already in demand, where can you possibly find the time?

I admit, I haven't managed it well in the last few days. I have had a series of appointments, meetings and all sorts of things needing attention. Yet there's a big event this week in my personal life where I will need to be at my best. So to prepare, I will practice self care.

Will you invest in yourself too?]]>305anxiety,awareness,coaching,depression,health,life,lifecoach,mentalhealth,selfcare,wellbeing,well-beingyesfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/communicating-with-others-hayley-t-wheeler--24713392
But are we good at communicating how we feel? Poor communication can send a different message than we intend to give.

How do you communicate?
Are others misinterpreting what you mean?]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24713392Fri, 03 Jul 2020 08:35:16 +0000Teal at HeartOne of the things I say to help support others with their mental health is to check in on others to see how they are doing. This week, I have been on the receiving end of that. But are we good at communicating how we feel? Poor communication can send...
But are we good at communicating how we feel? Poor communication can send a different message than we intend to give.

How do you communicate?
Are others misinterpreting what you mean?]]>566anxiety,care,coaching,communicating,communication,depression,life,lifecoach,mentalhealth,selfdevelopment,stress,talkingcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/mental-health-in-sports-hayley-t-wheeler--24715539https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24715539Sun, 28 Jun 2020 08:45:10 +0000Teal at HeartA little more information about what happened in the first of this workshop series which focuses on improving the support we can offer to athletes and sports coaches. Through open discussion and collaboration, many thinking points were addressed and...423anxiety,athletes,coaching,depression,health,life,lifecoach,mentalhealth,performance,sport,sportscleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/accepting-our-lot-in-life-hayley-t-wheeler--23028822
When and why do we accept this as our new normal?
Why do we resist the need for change?
Let me know your thoughts.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23028822Sun, 21 Jun 2020 07:50:19 +0000Teal at HeartI want to offer my thoughts on the subject of acceptance - particularly in accepting things aren't going the way we want them to. When and why do we accept this as our new normal? Why do we resist the need for change? Let me know your thoughts.
When and why do we accept this as our new normal?
Why do we resist the need for change?
Let me know your thoughts.]]>377acceptance,challenges,change,choice,coaching,emotions,fear,habits,infidelity,life,relationships,strugglescleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/giving-yourself-permission-hayley-t-wheeler--24714439Some people have never felt they were allowed to be better, they didn’t think they deserved to feel the way they do.
Lets knock the self punishment on the head.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24714439Wed, 10 Jun 2020 08:45:10 +0000Teal at HeartOne of the things we often have to work during the coaching sessions is giving ourselves permission to be better, to be happier, or any of those emotions we are feeling in the moment. We often fight these emotions - using self punishment, the guilt,...Some people have never felt they were allowed to be better, they didn’t think they deserved to feel the way they do.
Lets knock the self punishment on the head.]]>240anxiety,coaching,depression,emotions,life,lifecoach,mentalhealth,negative,selfcare,selftalk,wellbeingcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/developing-healthy-relationships-hayley-t-wheeler--24714336https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24714336Fri, 05 Jun 2020 08:45:21 +0000Teal at HeartComments after listening to the radio four show which discussed how schools can approach the teaching of healthy relationships. This is a section of the coaching programme that I use with my clients - I believe the main theme of this stems back to...245anxiety,coaching,confidence,depression,empowering,lifecoach,mentalhealth,schools,selfesteem,teaching,wellbeingcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-face-of-depression-and-anxiety-hayley-t-wheeler--247141901 in 4 adults, and 1 in 8 children are currently struggling with their mental health. Wherever you are, at work or school or in our communities, these people are around you.
If this person is you and you are living with these challenges, be kind to yourself - work on your self care, self compassion. I remember what its like. If you want to reach out and talk, send me a message - don't struggle on your own.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24714190Sun, 31 May 2020 08:45:17 +0000Teal at HeartThe face of depression and anxiety - what does it look like? Often we talk about signs of poor mental health to look out for, but in truth its different for everyone. What you think you should look out for might not be how its presenting - How one...1 in 4 adults, and 1 in 8 children are currently struggling with their mental health. Wherever you are, at work or school or in our communities, these people are around you.
If this person is you and you are living with these challenges, be kind to yourself - work on your self care, self compassion. I remember what its like. If you want to reach out and talk, send me a message - don't struggle on your own.]]>491anxiety,coaching,depression,fight,hurdles,lifecoach,mentalhealth,stress,strugglecleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/losing-the-word-should-hayley-t-wheeler--26070682
Maybe you are super organised and have a set timetable. Maybe you are just doing what you can and when you can. However it's easy to fall into a trap of judging others, ourselves and comparing what we do with others. We may be having self talk that starts with what we would normally be doing, what we feel we should be doing, and berating ourselves for the gap between the two.

Is there a 'perfect' way of handling this situation, and do you feel pressured to perform as a parent - and also now as a teacher? Can we remove the word 'should' from our thoughts?

We will all have our own experiences of this. However you are spending your days with your family, we are adjusting and amending on a daily basis. I'd love to know what you think.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/26070682Tue, 26 May 2020 12:55:03 +0000Teal at HeartHomeschooling is a new pressure for some of us as parents. It isn't competitive by nature, we're learning this new role and our children are learning in a new environment. But it's getting harder not to feel that way. Maybe you are super organised...
Maybe you are super organised and have a set timetable. Maybe you are just doing what you can and when you can. However it's easy to fall into a trap of judging others, ourselves and comparing what we do with others. We may be having self talk that starts with what we would normally be doing, what we feel we should be doing, and berating ourselves for the gap between the two.

Is there a 'perfect' way of handling this situation, and do you feel pressured to perform as a parent - and also now as a teacher? Can we remove the word 'should' from our thoughts?

We will all have our own experiences of this. However you are spending your days with your family, we are adjusting and amending on a daily basis. I'd love to know what you think.]]>409guilt,homeschooling,parenting,pressurecleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/why-self-care-really-does-work-hayley-t-wheeler--24714051https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24714051Thu, 21 May 2020 08:45:19 +0000Teal at HeartWhy self care works - I use the coaching tools that I encourage my clients to use myself too. Life often presents us with challenging situations - by taking a step back, we can work out what we are feeling, look at what's going on inside, and decide...390anxiety,calm,coaching,depression,life,lifecoach,mentalhealth,mindful,mindfulness,relax,selfcare,stress,wellbeingcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/living-with-anxiety-forever-hayley-t-wheeler--26070638
Whilst I don't think there is a miracle cure, there are many options available to individuals that do help. Telling someone who is in crisis or panic but who is looking for hope, that they have to learn to live with it, is something I totally disagree with.

This subject does tug on my heartstrings, and I'm very open with what I think. But also, I'm interested to know what others think about the impact of sending out this kind of message.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/26070638Sat, 16 May 2020 12:55:10 +0000Teal at HeartThis is in response to some conversations with clients who have said they believe that they have no choice but to live with their mental health hurdles. From my own experiences, I always wanted to believe there was another way of living, a way out of...
Whilst I don't think there is a miracle cure, there are many options available to individuals that do help. Telling someone who is in crisis or panic but who is looking for hope, that they have to learn to live with it, is something I totally disagree with.

This subject does tug on my heartstrings, and I'm very open with what I think. But also, I'm interested to know what others think about the impact of sending out this kind of message.]]>423anxiety,life,mentalhealthcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/lockdown-breakdowns-hayley-t-wheeler--26070552
Personally I am getting things done that have been put off due to being too 'busy' with business and family demands. I'm enjoying the extra time and slower pace this situtaion is offering me now, albeit with a few challenges.

Despite the changes we're forced to accept at the moment, we must remember our daily habits are often ones we choose. I have also been carefully managing my selfcare, choosing what I engage with and don't engage with.

I'm feeling optimistic about my next week of social distancing - how are you feeling right now?]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/26070552Mon, 11 May 2020 12:45:12 +0000Teal at HeartWe're 5 weeks into our lockdown now, and its surprised me that as a family, so far we're in a good place. Personally I am getting things done that have been put off due to being too 'busy' with business and family demands. I'm enjoying the extra time...
Personally I am getting things done that have been put off due to being too 'busy' with business and family demands. I'm enjoying the extra time and slower pace this situtaion is offering me now, albeit with a few challenges.

Despite the changes we're forced to accept at the moment, we must remember our daily habits are often ones we choose. I have also been carefully managing my selfcare, choosing what I engage with and don't engage with.

I'm feeling optimistic about my next week of social distancing - how are you feeling right now?]]>481cleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/money-mindset-hayley-t-wheeler--26070527Over the last few days, I have been continuing my journey of self development to focus more about the beliefs and mindset I hold about money, and have reached some interesting conclusions.

What has the break in routine allowed you to discover about yourself? I'd love to hear your thoughts - please share them in the comments or send me a private message if you prefer.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/26070527Wed, 06 May 2020 12:40:15 +0000Teal at HeartIts important to take regular intervals to allow yourself space to self care, but also to learn about what you think and why you think a certain way. Over the last few days, I have been continuing my journey of self development to focus more about the...Over the last few days, I have been continuing my journey of self development to focus more about the beliefs and mindset I hold about money, and have reached some interesting conclusions.

What has the break in routine allowed you to discover about yourself? I'd love to hear your thoughts - please share them in the comments or send me a private message if you prefer.]]>431goals,mindset,money,planning,positivitycleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/reactive-anxiety-hayley-t-wheeler--26070263https://api.spreaker.com/episode/26070263Fri, 01 May 2020 12:35:04 +0000Teal at HeartHas this situation triggers unrecognisable emotions, behaviours, actions and patterns in you? Maybe this is a new experience for you, or its stirring up feelings that you have experienced before under another situation640anxiety,behaviours,emotions,uncertainty,worrycleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/making-the-best-of-the-situation-hayley-t-wheeler--26068535
There are still lots to be positive about - let's focus on the possible, not the impossible. I'd love to hear from you about your mindset at the moment - how you are feeling and how knowing how you works can help you make decisions about how you can work through this time.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/26068535Tue, 28 Apr 2020 12:30:10 +0000Teal at HeartInto the third week of the distancing, I'm settling into a new routine and accepting the situation. Acceptance is hard when you are consumed with worry, fear and feeling out of control. But remember there are a lot of things which you can control -...
There are still lots to be positive about - let's focus on the possible, not the impossible. I'd love to hear from you about your mindset at the moment - how you are feeling and how knowing how you works can help you make decisions about how you can work through this time.]]>344actions,behaviours,choice,coaching,life,lifecoachcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/what-do-we-mean-by-being-strong-hayley-t-wheeler--24712386
Our self talk affect our behaviours - then the guilt can start a snowball effect which can become a bigger problem. At my worst,I was processing over a hundred thoughts in my mind that I can now identify as individual concerns. The point is - there was never just one thing. It was a juggle and I think that's maybe the common theme with our mental health.

Knowing more about how you feel, why you feel it and ways that you can manage these thoughts and feelings can make such a difference. Being able to open up to someone else and simply say, I am not ok, and I am struggling today, can be so empowering.

1 in 4 adults - men and women, all ages of life, it can be anyone and everyone - are struggling with their mental health. It is more common that you may realise - you are not alone, reach out.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24712386Fri, 24 Apr 2020 08:45:08 +0000Teal at HeartSometimes we can send or pick up on signals about what we perceive as strength. It takes strength to simply get out of bed and go about your day, to go to work when you are struggling emotionally or mentally. Yet the emotions and thoughts that we...
Our self talk affect our behaviours - then the guilt can start a snowball effect which can become a bigger problem. At my worst,I was processing over a hundred thoughts in my mind that I can now identify as individual concerns. The point is - there was never just one thing. It was a juggle and I think that's maybe the common theme with our mental health.

Knowing more about how you feel, why you feel it and ways that you can manage these thoughts and feelings can make such a difference. Being able to open up to someone else and simply say, I am not ok, and I am struggling today, can be so empowering.

1 in 4 adults - men and women, all ages of life, it can be anyone and everyone - are struggling with their mental health. It is more common that you may realise - you are not alone, reach out.]]>410anxiety,coaching,depression,emotions,fear,mentalhealth,stigma,stress,talking,worrycleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/taking-care-of-you-hayley-t-wheeler--24712254https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24712254Sun, 19 Apr 2020 08:45:12 +0000Teal at HeartMany of us are going through ups and downs on a daily basis right now. A constant stream of bulletins, updates and conflicting messages. Some of you will be in a position where you are caring for other's wellbeing too. What can we do to care for...586care,caring,coaching,control,emotions,fear,life,mentalhealth,parenting,parents,wellbeingcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/not-every-battle-needs-to-be-fought-hayley-t-wheeler--24712145https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24712145Sun, 12 Apr 2020 08:45:21 +0000Teal at HeartIt can be so easy to feel influenced and pulled into battles around us. Not every battle needs to be fought, we always have a choice. Take a step back and evaluate how each battle affects you, and how you can react to it. There are things in our lives...256anxiety,battles,choice,coaching,control,depression,emotions,fear,hurdles,life,mentalhealthcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/feeling-out-of-control-hayley-t-wheeler--24712025https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24712025Sun, 05 Apr 2020 08:40:10 +0000Teal at HeartFind out a bit about how thousands of us are new to feeling out of control with the current situation. But thousands of us who have been living with anxiety and depression have felt like it for many years. In these unprecedented times, here is a...507anxiety,control,depression,emotions,fear,life,mentalhealth,wellbeing,worrycleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-hard-work-to-beat-depression-anxiety-hayley-t-wheeler--23029166
Predictability and familiarity can feel like a safe place. The unknown is a scary thought. Stepping out of the ‘comfort zone’ which actually isn't comfortable or easy, but that is where we can change, grow and develop.

Without support to make the changes, its easy to run out of steam. That’s what my programme offers - a mix of teaching, coaching, counselling skills, mentoring, and using mindfulness, I will walk beside you - we do this together.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23029166Sun, 29 Mar 2020 07:45:15 +0000Teal at HeartWhen you are wanting to make any kind of change to your life, your success will depend on how much you can put into the changes too. But when you have mental health struggles, it can be really difficult. It's like putting someone at the bottom of...
Predictability and familiarity can feel like a safe place. The unknown is a scary thought. Stepping out of the ‘comfort zone’ which actually isn't comfortable or easy, but that is where we can change, grow and develop.

Without support to make the changes, its easy to run out of steam. That’s what my programme offers - a mix of teaching, coaching, counselling skills, mentoring, and using mindfulness, I will walk beside you - we do this together.]]>491anxiety,challenge,coaching,depression,emotions,fear,life,mentalhealth,recovery,selfdevelopment,struggle,therapycleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotional-overwhelm-hayley-t-wheeler--23028941
Busy week last week; in a positive way mostly but then a few hurdles towards the end. I had a surge of energy brought on by excitement of some new developments, running around like a headless chicken sometimes! This morning, I had a teary moment which released some of this powerful emotions in another way.

Even being emotionally overwhelmed in a negative way can sometimes prompt positive actions too - certainly I find that many of my clients reach out to me initially because of this feeling of overwhelm, being on high alert and feeling like you aren’t quite doing your best. They take action to do something about the way they are feeling by reaching out for help.

So I ask - What is it that can push you into a state of feeling overwhelmed?
Is it a surge of positive or negative emotions, a little of both perhaps?
Can we do more to understand this on a more personal point of view?
Let me know in the comments what you think]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23028941Sun, 15 Mar 2020 08:40:05 +0000Teal at HeartCan we predict the things that will take us ‘over the edge’? Busy week last week; in a positive way mostly but then a few hurdles towards the end. I had a surge of energy brought on by excitement of some new developments, running around like a...
Busy week last week; in a positive way mostly but then a few hurdles towards the end. I had a surge of energy brought on by excitement of some new developments, running around like a headless chicken sometimes! This morning, I had a teary moment which released some of this powerful emotions in another way.

Even being emotionally overwhelmed in a negative way can sometimes prompt positive actions too - certainly I find that many of my clients reach out to me initially because of this feeling of overwhelm, being on high alert and feeling like you aren’t quite doing your best. They take action to do something about the way they are feeling by reaching out for help.

So I ask - What is it that can push you into a state of feeling overwhelmed?
Is it a surge of positive or negative emotions, a little of both perhaps?
Can we do more to understand this on a more personal point of view?
Let me know in the comments what you think]]>381choice,coaching,emotions,life,negative,overwhelm,overwhelming,positive,thinking,thoughts,wellbeing,wellnesscleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/rational-irrational-thoughts-hayley-t-wheeler--23028881https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23028881Sun, 01 Mar 2020 08:55:19 +0000Teal at HeartPast experiences can lead us to thinking negatively and pre-empting situations that may of may not happen. What if you can challenge this idea of perceived threats and control your response to situations that create fear?453actions,avoidance,challenges,choice,coaching,emotions,fear,habits,irrational,life,phobia,rational,struggles,thinking,thoughtscleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/maybe-you-can-t-change-hayley-t-wheeler--23005233
Please consider that other peoples words, opinions and actions are not fact and that you can change if you want to and you know how. And consider how you speak to others, what you tell them and how it influences the way someone thinks about themselves. Words are powerful, actions are powerful so use them wisely.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23005233Thu, 20 Feb 2020 21:09:03 +0000Teal at HeartA client had been told throughout his life that he was the black sheep and then a therapist confirmed 'maybe you can't changed' and so he didn't. For many years he desteoyed relationships, he lived in a bubble and believed he was bad and couldn't...
Please consider that other peoples words, opinions and actions are not fact and that you can change if you want to and you know how. And consider how you speak to others, what you tell them and how it influences the way someone thinks about themselves. Words are powerful, actions are powerful so use them wisely.]]>482anxiety,challenge,change,coaching,depression,habits,happiness,life,mentalhealth,stress,strugglescleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/hundreds-of-racing-thoughts-with-depression-and-anxiety-hayley-t-wheeler--23005180https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23005180Thu, 20 Feb 2020 21:05:16 +0000Teal at HeartJust wanted to share my experience of how depression affected my actions - those thoughts that lead to destrcutive, repeated behaviours - and to reassure those who may be feeling ashamed or embarrassed, that they are not the only ones to use these...394anxiety,coaching,depression,habits,handwashing,hurdles,life,obsession,ocd,strugglescleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-ups-and-downs-of-daily-life-hayley-t-wheeler--23005150https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23005150Thu, 20 Feb 2020 21:03:12 +0000Teal at HeartWhen things don't go to plan... We are going to have good and bad days, things may crop up which challenge us. But we can find a solution by looking at things a different way, and by getting support to overcome our struggles.290anxiety,challenges,choices,coaching,problems,strugglescleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/understanding-emotional-impact-hayley-t-wheeler--23005137
In this video, I talk about how learning to understand your emotions and the impact they have on our lives helps us to discover ways we can work with them instead of fighting them. Self Knowledge is a Superpower.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23005137Thu, 20 Feb 2020 21:00:58 +0000Teal at HeartWhy are we afraid of emotions? Sometimes we can avoid expressing our negative emotions especially - They're unpleasant, they feel uncomfortable, overwhelming at times too. We tend not to talk about our emotions or how to identify and explain to others...
In this video, I talk about how learning to understand your emotions and the impact they have on our lives helps us to discover ways we can work with them instead of fighting them. Self Knowledge is a Superpower.]]>692anxiety,change,coaching,depression,emotions,life,stress,understandingcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-power-is-within-you-hayley-t-wheeler--23005121
Knowing who we are, what we like, what we want from life. This learning path is different for us all, it's a deeply personal level of understanding. The reward isnt a good grade, a certificate or qualification - but it does contribute to a feeling of acceptance, confidence and assurance.

Personal development, or self development, can be the light bulb moment which helps your awareness about what is happening on your life and how you can make decisions, set goals and have a greater sense of control over your life. Its an investment in yourself which can change your life, as long as you continue to stay engaged in your learning.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23005121Thu, 20 Feb 2020 20:59:22 +0000Teal at HeartOur focus on learning, formed when we are children, is often centered on academic subjects - maths, english science. All valuable knowledge for the workplace, but outside of that so is learning about ourselves. Knowing who we are, what we like, what...
Knowing who we are, what we like, what we want from life. This learning path is different for us all, it's a deeply personal level of understanding. The reward isnt a good grade, a certificate or qualification - but it does contribute to a feeling of acceptance, confidence and assurance.

Personal development, or self development, can be the light bulb moment which helps your awareness about what is happening on your life and how you can make decisions, set goals and have a greater sense of control over your life. Its an investment in yourself which can change your life, as long as you continue to stay engaged in your learning.]]>555anxiety,awareness,change,coaching,depression,education,happiness,learning,mentalhealthcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-hangover-of-depression-hayley-t-wheeler--23002248https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23002248Thu, 20 Feb 2020 19:32:15 +0000Teal at HeartJust wanted to share my experience of how depression affected my actions - those thoughts that lead to destrcutive, repeated behaviours - and to reassure those who may be feeling ashamed or embarrassed, that they are not the only ones to use these...354anxiety,depression,food,germs,handwashing,memory,mentalhealth,ocd,overwhelm,overwhelmedcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/knowledge-is-power-if-you-use-it-hayley-t-wheeler--23002227
We can use the information we learn about ourselves to steer our life - we can use this everyday. It helps us reflect, make decisions, change our thoughts, behaviours and actions.
What do you think - how would knowing yourself a little better give you insights into what's going on in your life?]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23002227Thu, 20 Feb 2020 19:29:32 +0000Teal at HeartKnowledge is power, but unless you are using that knowledge, its holds no power. Self Awareness is knowing more about yourself. But it's how you use these insights that you uncover is what truly makes an impact. We can use the information we learn...
We can use the information we learn about ourselves to steer our life - we can use this everyday. It helps us reflect, make decisions, change our thoughts, behaviours and actions.
What do you think - how would knowing yourself a little better give you insights into what's going on in your life?]]>218ambitions,choice,goals,knowledge,life,mentalhealth,relationships,selfdevelopment,understanding,youcleanfullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/healthy-friendships-hayley-t-wheeler--23002016https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23002016Thu, 20 Feb 2020 19:14:11 +0000Teal at HeartLearning about healthy friendships. Often I hear children, preteens and teens who are struggling with their peers, friendships and bullying. In this episode, I talk about how friendships can change, how boundaries waver and can go from a positive...408boundaries,children,emotions,friends,friendships,parenting,preteens,relationships,respect,teens,tweenagercleanfull