https://www.spreaker.com/show/communicate-like-thisenSociety & CultureCopyright Dan Purkeyhttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/ebd835ce04ae7c187c2dbca23f46107b.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/show/communicate-like-thisSun, 03 May 2020 13:00:47 +0000Dan PurkeyDan Purkeyfeeds@spreaker.comA series of podcasts designed to teach people about communication tools that can be used to achieve a true mutual understanding among people they communicate with. These tools will reduce or eliminate miscommunication, misunderstandings, preventable...cleanepisodicDan Purkeyfeeds@spreaker.comA series of podcasts designed to teach people about communication tools that can be used to achieve a true mutual understanding among people they communicate with. These tools will reduce or eliminate miscommunication, misunderstandings, preventable arguments, and stress, as well as a whole litany of bad consequences related to ineffective communication.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-22-blame-versus-accountabilityAccountability, however, is a much more logical, less emotional way of pointing out when a given situation or expectation was either complied with or not complied with.
Blame is a drill sergeant screaming in the private’s face. Accountability is a coach helping correct a situation and preventing it from happening again.]]>ecfef0fd-d581-4822-9de0-1258e31a3b88Sun, 03 May 2020 12:08:09 +0000Dan PurkeyBlame is a much more emotional version of accountability. It’s usually pointing fingers at others in order to deflect the spotlight being turned on you. Accountability, however, is a much more logical, less emotional way of pointing out when a given...Accountability, however, is a much more logical, less emotional way of pointing out when a given situation or expectation was either complied with or not complied with.
Blame is a drill sergeant screaming in the private’s face. Accountability is a coach helping correct a situation and preventing it from happening again.]]>1432education,communication,stress,awareness,selfhelp,blame,arguments,integrity,leadership,principles,management,values,communicate,miscommunication,businessmanagement,defensiveness,judgments,continuousimprovement,misunderstandings,corevaluesandprinciplescleanfullDan PurkeyBlame is a much more emotional version of accountability. It’s usually pointing fingers at others in order to deflect the spotlight being turned on you. Accountability, however, is a much more logical, less emotional way of pointing out when a given situation or expectation was either complied with or not complied with. Blame is a drill sergeant screaming in the private’s face. Accountability is a coach helping correct a situation and preventing it from happening again.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-21-integrity-and-respect694c24cf-ab17-4453-b692-7a6651735e5eSun, 15 Mar 2020 01:19:28 +0000Dan PurkeyWe cover the topic of Integrity in some detail. Integrity means doing what you said you would do. Demonstrating Integrity builds trust. Trust reduces stress, arguments, misunderstandings, and miscommunication. The other side of the coin of Integrity...1380education,communication,stress,awareness,selfhelp,arguments,integrity,leadership,principles,management,values,communicate,miscommunication,businessmanagement,defensiveness,judgments,continuousimprovement,misunderstandings,corevaluesandprinciplescleanfullDan PurkeyWe cover the topic of Integrity in some detail. Integrity means doing what you said you would do. Demonstrating Integrity builds trust. Trust reduces stress, arguments, misunderstandings, and miscommunication. The other side of the coin of Integrity is Respect. If you don't do what you say you will do, then basically you're demeaning the other person as not being as important as you are. Hear how comedy bits from the movie Good Morning, Vietnam and Saturday Night Live highlight the issue of lack of respect.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-20-an-interview-with-chris-olson80725d72-45d0-4a2e-a61a-99ec92cca103Thu, 27 Feb 2020 17:43:56 +0000Dan PurkeyWe finish up the interview with Chris Olson, who is on the same journey to reduce stress, arguments, misunderstandings, and miscommunication in our lives. Chris talks about learning first hand that actually putting all of these communication tools...2006education,like,communication,stress,awareness,selfhelp,business,this,arguments,leadership,management,continuous,improvement,communicate,miscommunication,judgments,misunderstandingscleanfullDan PurkeyWe finish up the interview with Chris Olson, who is on the same journey to reduce stress, arguments, misunderstandings, and miscommunication in our lives. Chris talks about learning first hand that actually putting all of these communication tools we’ve been talking about to consistent use is pretty hard. You can’t expect instantaneous results. It takes commitment and a deliberate, conscious effort to put your actions into alignment with those Core Values and Principles that we know as ACE ARTIST.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-19-an-interview-with-chris-olson0fd03556-9211-4f2d-9325-d07aea631eeeWed, 19 Feb 2020 18:13:07 +0000Dan PurkeyThis is the first episode of Communicate Like This with a live interview. Chris Olson reflects on his journey with the concepts of Core Values and Principles and the use of communication tools in his real-world life. Listen as Chris talks about how he...1458education,like,communication,stress,awareness,selfhelp,business,this,arguments,leadership,management,continuous,improvement,communicate,miscommunication,judgments,misunderstandingscleanfullDan PurkeyThis is the first episode of Communicate Like This with a live interview. Chris Olson reflects on his journey with the concepts of Core Values and Principles and the use of communication tools in his real-world life. Listen as Chris talks about how he tries to use this stuff with everyone, from his six year old son to Chris's dad, and everyone in between. Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-18-awareness-of-awareness1e34064a-6545-4689-8542-453ddbb5b6b1Mon, 03 Feb 2020 22:08:56 +0000Dan PurkeyIf you’re feeling overwhelmed with all of the communication tools you’ve been learning, relax. We talk about how to simplify that process of actually putting the tools into action. Have an awareness at the front of your mind at all times, before you...1458education,like,communication,stress,awareness,selfhelp,business,this,arguments,leadership,management,continuous,improvement,communicate,miscommunication,judgments,misunderstandingscleanfullDan PurkeyIf you’re feeling overwhelmed with all of the communication tools you’ve been learning, relax. We talk about how to simplify that process of actually putting the tools into action. Have an awareness at the front of your mind at all times, before you open your mouth to speak, that you need to have an awareness of the discussion situation you’re in and that there are communication tools you can employ. Your brain will pull out the communication tool you need to help achieve a mutual understanding.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-17-belief-execution-and-hot-butt8b52b9c2-4435-4730-89f5-8fbbb3e6a38bSat, 18 Jan 2020 04:50:57 +0000Dan PurkeyWe explore the true meaning and value of the Core Values and Principles (CVPs) by looking at the situation of a yelling match between two people. We examine how yelling violates each and every one of the CVPs. If you truly want to Continuously Improve...1293education,like,communication,stress,awareness,selfhelp,business,this,arguments,leadership,management,continuous,improvement,communicate,miscommunication,judgments,misunderstandingscleanfullDan PurkeyWe explore the true meaning and value of the Core Values and Principles (CVPs) by looking at the situation of a yelling match between two people. We examine how yelling violates each and every one of the CVPs. If you truly want to Continuously Improve and make your communication more effective, then this episode gives you practical techniques to figuratively hit yourself upside the head with a 2-by-4 to stop yelling and start communicating.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-16-judgments77d4e064-cfc6-4bc7-a66d-29c64ad3078dWed, 01 Jan 2020 19:38:18 +0000Dan PurkeyJudgments are formed in five steps—action, observation of the action, assumptions made about the observation, judgments, then speaking the judgment out loud. Judgments are often the reason the punchline to many jokes is “. . . and that’s when the...1352education,and,like,communication,core,stress,awareness,selfhelp,business,this,arguments,leadership,principles,management,continuous,improvement,values,communicate,judgments,misunderstandingscleanfullDan PurkeyJudgments are formed in five steps—action, observation of the action, assumptions made about the observation, judgments, then speaking the judgment out loud. Judgments are often the reason the punchline to many jokes is “. . . and that’s when the fight started.” This episode gives you the tools needed to not only recognize when judgments are being made, but how to overcome negative judgments. There’s a lot of judging about judgments in this episode, so listen with your ironic comments at the readyNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-15-defensiveness-part-28f7d634b-b135-489a-a448-59abd12915dbThu, 19 Dec 2019 18:40:19 +0000Dan PurkeyThis episode summarizes Part 1 of Defensiveness from the previous episode and continues the conversation about defensiveness. This session is chock full of new tools and old tools to use to combat defensiveness. Listen closely to hear words from a...1142education,and,like,communication,core,stress,awareness,selfhelp,business,this,arguments,leadership,principles,management,continuous,improvement,values,communicate,judgments,misunderstandingscleanfullDan PurkeyThis episode summarizes Part 1 of Defensiveness from the previous episode and continues the conversation about defensiveness. This session is chock full of new tools and old tools to use to combat defensiveness. Listen closely to hear words from a different famous philosopher other than Marshawn Lynch. Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-14-defensiveness-part-1b20732b9-73bb-4449-b2d9-d80afd18dfd4Wed, 11 Dec 2019 18:59:35 +0000Dan PurkeyWhile assumptions may be at the root cause of most arguments, often the trigger for an argument starting is when one party becomes defensive. When they’re accused of something, they will lash out with their own accusation about you. If you then become...1583education,and,like,communication,core,stress,awareness,selfhelp,business,this,arguments,leadership,principles,management,continuous,improvement,values,communicate,judgments,misunderstandingscleanfullDan PurkeyWhile assumptions may be at the root cause of most arguments, often the trigger for an argument starting is when one party becomes defensive. When they’re accused of something, they will lash out with their own accusation about you. If you then become defensive about their accusation, then the conversation devolves into an argument and you never resolve the original issue. This episode talks about communication tools you can use to deal effectively with defensiveness.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-13-the-5-whys-non-participants-a63805d19-6e31-49ba-bdaa-84395819ad65Tue, 03 Dec 2019 19:16:52 +0000Dan PurkeyPicking up from the cliff-hanger in Episode 12, we’ll talk about how you can best deal with someone who hasn’t yet learned these effective communication tools when you’re in an argument or discussion. We’ll also discuss the tool called The 5 Whys and...1551education,and,like,communication,core,stress,awareness,selfhelp,business,this,arguments,leadership,principles,management,continuous,improvement,values,communicate,judgments,misunderstandingscleanfullDan PurkeyPicking up from the cliff-hanger in Episode 12, we’ll talk about how you can best deal with someone who hasn’t yet learned these effective communication tools when you’re in an argument or discussion. We’ll also discuss the tool called The 5 Whys and how it gets to the root causes of issues. Last, we’ll talk about the concept that all effective communication is 50% sender and 50% receiver. These are all important to help you along that path of Continuous Improvement. Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-12-continuous-improvement-part-2607c658c-6fe4-49bd-a768-c907b1e0d9c1Wed, 27 Nov 2019 19:38:16 +0000Dan PurkeyIn Episode 12 you get a tip to help remember what the nine Core Values and Principles are. We learn to set our expectations about how fast you can implement all of this information relatively low. The material in Communicate Like This is complex and...1255education,and,like,communication,core,stress,awareness,selfhelp,business,this,arguments,leadership,principles,management,continuous,improvement,values,communicate,judgments,misunderstandingscleanfullDan PurkeyIn Episode 12 you get a tip to help remember what the nine Core Values and Principles are. We learn to set our expectations about how fast you can implement all of this information relatively low. The material in Communicate Like This is complex and hard. Pace yourself. We also compare the material in this podcast to other sources, like Pete Carroll's Compete to Create program, to demonstrate the validity of what we're discussing. We also learn a tool to keep positive versus using negative language.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/11680197/episode-11-continuous-improvement-part-1a48b1b4b-1929-46c6-9226-85ebb7b08131Fri, 22 Nov 2019 16:55:39 +0000Dan PurkeyThis episode begins the journey into the exploration of Core Values and Principles other than Effective Communication. We discuss the concept of Continuous Improvement, which is defined as all people strive to continually get better at their lives and...1679education,like,communication,stress,awareness,selfhelp,business,this,arguments,leadership,management,continuous,improvement,communicate,miscommunication,judgments,misunderstandingscleanfullDan PurkeyThis episode begins the journey into the exploration of Core Values and Principles other than Effective Communication. We discuss the concept of Continuous Improvement, which is defined as all people strive to continually get better at their lives and their work. Using a couple of recent life events from me, we talk about how awareness is a big contributor to improving and how baggage influences conversations, affecting your ability to improve.No