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For nearly a decade, Brett Trapp Harman kept a secret journal of thoughts on being gay and Christian, knowing one day he'd shout the story he feared most.

On a Wednesday morning in late 2016, he logged on to Facebook and began shouting...

He started by publishing a Gossip Guide to his sexuality—a cheeky way to let friends know his secret. He then began sharing the vivid details of his story through a 44-episode memoir, published as one episode per day. He called the story Blue Babies Pink.

Within days, Blue Babies Pink began to spread through social media. Thousands of readers tuned in, eagerly waiting for the daily installment to be released. Readers resonated deeply with Brett's struggle with faith, loneliness, shame, singleness, workaholism, and uncertainty.

Called "the Netflix of blogs," more than 100,000 people have read or listened to Blue Babies Pink to date.]]>enChristianityCopyright B.T. Harmanhttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/d81b74ad6b25bc9fd52fe72d39c09937.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/show/blue-babies-pinkWed, 20 Mar 2024 08:45:08 +0000B.T. HarmanB.T. Harmanbretttrapp@gmail.com(Note: Blue Babies Pink is like an audio book. Start with the Prologue, then Episode 1, Episode 2, etc.) For nearly a decade, B.T. Harman kept a secret journal of thoughts on being gay and Christian, knowing one day he'd shout the story he feared...
For nearly a decade, Brett Trapp Harman kept a secret journal of thoughts on being gay and Christian, knowing one day he'd shout the story he feared most.

On a Wednesday morning in late 2016, he logged on to Facebook and began shouting...

He started by publishing a Gossip Guide to his sexuality—a cheeky way to let friends know his secret. He then began sharing the vivid details of his story through a 44-episode memoir, published as one episode per day. He called the story Blue Babies Pink.

Within days, Blue Babies Pink began to spread through social media. Thousands of readers tuned in, eagerly waiting for the daily installment to be released. Readers resonated deeply with Brett's struggle with faith, loneliness, shame, singleness, workaholism, and uncertainty.

Called "the Netflix of blogs," more than 100,000 people have read or listened to Blue Babies Pink to date.]]>falseserialhttps://www.bluebabiespink.com/home/mud-on-our-shoes-by-brett-trappfa6013cdb6dae8f1382697621750b8f5Wed, 01 Feb 2017 21:58:02 +0000B.T. Harman"In the American South, homosexuality is often viewed as a spiritual issue. But for me, it's always just been a physiological one—like sneezing or sweating or laughing."533falsefullhttps://www.bluebabiespink.com/home/ep1-shofars-in-the-suburbs-by-brett-trapp0f684aed75607fcee77d3fcbd1e2638fWed, 01 Feb 2017 22:03:15 +0000B.T. HarmanThe story begins on a rainy night in Alabama as a group of Baptists march through the night with rams' horns in hands, praying for the miracle of a lifetime.574false1fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-2-the-christ-haunted-south--19168705d1ad0a2c80634f76eff5754fd7dbbd1bThu, 02 Feb 2017 22:27:46 +0000B.T. Harman"Being a preacher’s kid in a small town is a low form of southern royalty, and I was aware of this at an early age. As a kid I could basically wander the halls of our big old church at will, anytime, without interference. No one questioned a Trapp...539falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-3-home-and-school--19168687bc84d7b84cf9bb33446538bee948b964Thu, 02 Feb 2017 22:32:51 +0000B.T. Harman"I was small and gangly—like a little spider monkey amongst gorillas—so I couldn't do much damage. But I knew one surefire way to get the big guys' attention: pinching. I'd hang on the fringes and then swoop in like a tiny crab from hell..."489falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-4-bye-bye-love--191686766448c439c81b4c20a37b5f9947d82c02Thu, 02 Feb 2017 22:39:44 +0000B.T. HarmanA dark movie theater and a first kiss...582falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-5-there-s-something-happening-in-pensacola--19168720f4cf430444a50a50a5811a0bfeaf8656Thu, 02 Feb 2017 22:41:44 +0000B.T. Harman"For me church had always just been a very ho-hum thing. Pastor's kids can get jaded to it all because we're around church stuff so much. It's just another part of your life like school or sports or video games. That's how Christianity was to me. If...452falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-6-what-happened-on-the-carpet--1916870134c166565b1332881b0cc5fc4bd62f32Thu, 02 Feb 2017 22:43:33 +0000B.T. HarmanBrett has a bizarre spiritual encounter on the floor of a church in Pensacola, Florida.865falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-7-life-as-a-youth--191687095e7d04e8a3b854124f339783c5c712baThu, 02 Feb 2017 22:44:45 +0000B.T. HarmanBrett is crushed by the worst news of his life...467falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-8-learning-about-the-h-word--191687072875fcb88b21099ebf87544f6ff7b046Thu, 02 Feb 2017 22:46:09 +0000B.T. Harman"A few years earlier, in junior high, I first noticed that I looked at the boys more. It was very subtle and innocent. It was like I envied them...I wanted them to like me. It didn't feel like a sexual attraction back then, but they definitely caught...522falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-9-earning-my-man-badge--1916871168e589a79e20aad384a7a5876a03ac86Thu, 02 Feb 2017 22:48:07 +0000B.T. Harman"Part of me wonders if I was running back then, running from the very faint idea that just maybe this badness was inside of me, like a crocodile—waiting—nestled deep in cold mud at the bottom of a lake. Maybe sports was my attempt at misdirection—a...558falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-10-get-thee-behind-me-ooltewah--19168688d6ce36e246bc7e100c4adda30ff4eec3Thu, 02 Feb 2017 22:49:30 +0000B.T. Harman"One of the lesser known burdens of being gay is that you live a lot of your life in your head. At a young age, you start having little conversations with yourself. And you keep having them—over and over and over again. And the conversations evolve ....539falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-11-a-good-good-father--1916870836b6002f61200299036ef4e8e6dfe3b6Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:06:57 +0000B.T. HarmanThe most emotional episode from the series....527falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-12-girls-girls-girls--19168693dfba91d1da7c86441dc664c4b45bbea1Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:09:04 +0000B.T. Harman"Boobs have always kinda freaked me out. They're very scary to me, and the thought of touching one is like the thought of touching a wet bag of earthworms..."544falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-13-on-broken-machines--191687181911492fb55f70ce10850326eb9ec993Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:11:30 +0000B.T. Harman"Because of its near universality, heterosexuality is one of the most unifying forces in all of humanity...Imagine missing that one key piece of your humanity and what that would feel like. It's a slow terror. And once you are gripped by that fear, a...634falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-14-how-did-i-become-gay--19168692c1d53132bb60fdcdce629d355fbeb0b1Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:13:21 +0000B.T. Harman"Maybe it was because that cat slept in my bed every night. I mean . . . my brothers aren't gay, and they DEFINITELY DIDN'T have a cat sleeping with them every night. Maybe it's because our family had small dogs. Maybe we should have had bigger,...497falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-15-the-art-of-distraction--19168710f567d368aac26a26fcba069402218d67Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:14:50 +0000B.T. HarmanEveryone deals with their pain somehow. Brett discloses his coping mechanism of choice...705falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-16-leaving-home-coming-out--19168704f6470e7716a9d8cd5f3f64b02da5941aFri, 03 Feb 2017 13:16:38 +0000B.T. Harman"But those who have kept pet secrets know they are hard to keep caged. They thrash and bite and wiggle around inside of you. They aren't well behaved, and they have a life of their own. All that inner chaos had become too much for me. I couldn't keep...913falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-17-on-choosing-to-be-gay--191686773217e7235ca07738a0f7e6bfb3cbb30fFri, 03 Feb 2017 13:18:28 +0000B.T. Harman"I think I was like a lot of people in that I WANTED it to be a choice. If gay is a choice, I thought, then it makes the Christian theology of it so much simpler. Religion is hard, because it requires faith. It's mysterious and, at times, inscrutable....445falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-18-on-the-counselor-s-couch--19168719a18e96f775b5c3557ba5c3ed9e7dfe54Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:21:38 +0000B.T. Harman"Yet while I was praying against it, I was simultaneously denying that same-sex attraction was a thing in my life.  Back then, I denied that same-sex attraction was an intrinsic part of me. If anything, it was a clinger, a hanger-on, an invader, a...747falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-19-social-media-is-born--191686998827f1eb88d8c9a4fb48ca75230b9618Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:24:36 +0000B.T. Harman"A lot of my friends got married in their mid-20s. And I began to notice a trend: When friends would get married, you wouldn't hear from them much anymore. This was new to me, because, before that, friends had always been portable. I could collect...709falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-20-work-work-work-work-work--19168714da467ab274ec06a2e4cad732d4c16571Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:27:07 +0000B.T. Harman"Deep inside every workaholic man is a little boy who never felt big enough, strong enough, worthy enough. And that little boy can be very loud. He reminds the man of his lacking, of his lessness. Work is very noisy in the soul, so the workaholic uses...547falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-21-an-alien-in-nashville--19168706c8084ad708bf42d5b8a1c957dfa81febFri, 03 Feb 2017 13:31:00 +0000B.T. HarmanBrett hears a friend say something about gay people he will never forget...790falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-22-secret-sadness--19168674e9a67f82a4955e0bebc53a1603ab5b24Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:34:41 +0000B.T. Harman"Closets are dark, and when the gay child—or in my case, young professional—decides to stuff his soul in there, it has a warping effect. It forces you deeper inside yourself. You become a mapless soul in a haunted maze, and you lose your bearings on...638falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-23-unlearning-how-to-throw-a-football--19168689aaf10ce0513c1f018c7ce22377da9fe9Thu, 02 Mar 2017 17:31:17 +0000B.T. Harman"And still other failures feel like brands seared deep into the soft flesh of our souls. After the initial pain, they scab over, then scar over. And looking at it each day, we get used to it. It begins to look more like a birthmark than a brand. And...680falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-24-lonely-practice--19168695f90ef297600df270226919dee3bdfb27Thu, 02 Mar 2017 17:34:07 +0000B.T. HarmanBrett practices for a lifetime of loneliness—at an isolated cabin in the mountains and at a football stadium surrounded by 100k people...1078falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-25-finding-a-new-track--1916869856f78576e576b5732c72f5fbe7db5710Thu, 02 Mar 2017 17:36:13 +0000B.T. Harman"I would have done anything to just not be alone, to have at least 1% of hope that I wouldn't feel like this forever. And people who have felt hopeless before know that 1% of hope is a whole lot of hope. That's all I needed, but the Bible was clear. I...680falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-26-waiting-on-oranges--1916871281d9e5841de169269814049443c65adcThu, 02 Mar 2017 17:37:38 +0000B.T. HarmanCan God make a gay person straight?800falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-27-getting-real-in-london--19168703881656514cccc6381dee2e990d0abba5Thu, 02 Mar 2017 17:43:32 +0000B.T. HarmanBrett travels to Europe with a friend + an unforgettable night in London's oldest pub (NOTE: This episode is highly visual, and audio listeners are highly encouraged to visit the Episode 27 link on bluebabiespink.com to see the photos.)1041falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-28-chocolate-gravy--19168700743919d33e7c41acb746bfa52d0a5aa5Thu, 02 Mar 2017 17:44:48 +0000B.T. Harman"Jesus was so kind to me that day. He was so kind to send me a friend like Kelly. He was so kind to prepare that moment and those biscuits and that gravy. It's easy to get caught up in the ways God has let us down. And then, His grace comes crashing...1048falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-29-lifeboats--19168671cb2b4e4226de45887a2eff85b5592bcbThu, 02 Mar 2017 17:47:41 +0000B.T. HarmanBrett has the hardest coming out conversation of his life + a lesson on how to respond when your child comes out to you...1415falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-30-who-needs-love--19168717ebbaebd4d99bf760667ac2e2b880e213Thu, 02 Mar 2017 17:50:22 +0000B.T. Harman"And so sometime around 30, I slammed the door. I slammed the door on love..."706falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-31-adventuring--19168690204d5d651dedbe41e5e49a2b163fa643Thu, 02 Mar 2017 17:51:38 +0000B.T. HarmanBrett devises a two-part plan to survive as a gay Christian...567falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-32-community--19168713dffacc45e2fbcb8fc22fdc692af747ddThu, 02 Mar 2017 17:53:41 +0000B.T. Harman"And I believed that, if God wanted to love me—to hug me—He'd do it through my community. His people would surround me. They'd carry me. They'd love and encourage me on hard days. They'd push me forward when I couldn't walk anymore. God uses community...605falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-33-not-perfect-but-extremely-rare--19168694f65eeea86c6284673cef9f892820afefThu, 02 Mar 2017 17:55:28 +0000B.T. Harman"When I understood that, I realized most of my stresses in life came from this subterranean sense of self-hate that I carried around with me each day. Being unaware of the self-hatred inside of you is like walking through life with a backpack full of...709falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-34-warm-hands-on-cold-shoulders--191686858b5e1d3899c473dd710be894800c67d4Thu, 02 Mar 2017 17:57:36 +0000B.T. HarmanThoughts on singleness and paying people to touch you...736falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-35-becoming-minority--191686758920da5acee46bdc545f7b36eb980238Thu, 02 Mar 2017 17:59:29 +0000B.T. Harman"For the first time I began to wonder if this—all of this—was about more than sexuality. I began to wonder that maybe I'd been focused on the wrong thing all along. I began to wonder if this was more about the junk I'd been ignoring, than the one...635falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-36-anxiety--19168668fcf86eeb27d2388893d69759a23a199cThu, 02 Mar 2017 18:01:05 +0000B.T. HarmanTrip(s) to the ER...610falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-37-growing-old-but-not-quite-growing-up--1916867869c2d40c4a4c9f57bf00f2bddc150353Thu, 02 Mar 2017 18:02:51 +0000B.T. Harman"Every wedding was a little funeral for me. I held a little sad ceremony in my heart...a ceremony for one..."650falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-38-elvis-and-larry--191686867747999468255404dfb9b4f001317651Thu, 02 Mar 2017 18:14:57 +0000B.T. Harman"And while death is inevitable, we still have to live. We still have to do our best to use our lives well. This is one of the great paradoxes of life: That our time on earth is both utterly precious and completely insignificant."871falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-39-decade-long-battles--191686732699d2bfa7e681f388502c976d7308caThu, 02 Mar 2017 18:18:18 +0000B.T. Harman"March 14 was the day I thought God cursed my testicles..."  530falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-40-brain-blanks--191686725ea19625df12ba7171ee262a6ae8d5fbThu, 02 Mar 2017 18:20:10 +0000B.T. HarmanBrett appears on a Christian TV show and disaster strikes...744falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-41-questions-for-god--1916869127a85e42edc745a16833652ce5a42c9cThu, 02 Mar 2017 18:23:17 +0000B.T. Harman"My whole life, I'd been taught that God's design for the world was men and women getting married and making babies. This formed family units which were the building blocks of society. So it made sense that the institution of marriage would lead to...796falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-42-someone-to-run-home-to--19168684c5aee7b4db57548a54caec07fe6bf884Thu, 02 Mar 2017 18:25:42 +0000B.T. Harman"I began to think a lot then about the role of a spouse, of a companion. I'd never been in anything close to a meaningful relationship, and I'd slammed the door on love years before, so I was clueless about it all."  733falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-43-tears-on-a-boat-dock--191686676bc5ceff33377daeed664b9b9f749ed2Thu, 02 Mar 2017 18:26:52 +0000B.T. Harman"I sprinted down that path, through the trees, all the way out to the boat dock—heaving, shaking, and sobbing as I ran. I felt like I might choke, fighting for breath. My face poured wet salt onto the summer grass below..."903falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-44-love-storms--191686650fbf28874444e380ab7036e49201c7ecThu, 02 Mar 2017 18:35:01 +0000B.T. HarmanNOTE: This is the finale of Blue Babies Pink. If you haven't read the previous 43 episodes, please do that before listening to Episode 44. Also, after listening to this one, be sure to check out the Epilogue for the final wrap-up. 1247falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/epilogue-my-little-speaking-up--1916866927d46c620f200640ec04ad8ae94cef32Thu, 02 Mar 2017 18:37:31 +0000B.T. HarmanBrett's final thoughts on the journey of Blue Babies Pink...1296falsefull