https://www.spreaker.com/show/pastors-on-pornenReligion & SpiritualityCopyright Vern Tompkehttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/f7d3747de2ee1c60dd9c4c0f326595f8.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/show/pastors-on-pornFri, 26 Jun 2026 18:54:29 +0000Vern TompkeVern Tompkebandofbrothers.care@gmail.comPastors on Porn is a podcast providing hope, healing and help for those who know the call of God on their lives but also struggle with compulsive sexual behaviorsfalseepisodichttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-98-running-dirty-running-scared--72706242
In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform.  For confidentiality sake simply use your first name and last initial or vice versa.

in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about talking to him about your sitiuation, get personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group of just Pastors you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/72706242Fri, 26 Jun 2026 18:53:42 +0000Vern TompkeAre you in a position in your ministry where you are running dirty or running scared?  Using a few different analogies, Vern discusses the cost of ongoing porn use and the affects it has on our ministries. In order to get access to a whole library of...
In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform.  For confidentiality sake simply use your first name and last initial or vice versa.

in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about talking to him about your sitiuation, get personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group of just Pastors you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>1080falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-97-that-l-preach-walking-into-temptation--66811504
In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform.

in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app).  You can use your initials (first or last) to provide you with a greater sense of privacy.

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/66811504Mon, 30 Jun 2025 20:28:45 +0000Vern TompkeThere is a saying that says - That-L Preach!  Something that immediately you want to share.  The following is something from my morning quiet time that I think has real relevance to our recovery journey. In order to get access to a whole library of...
In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform.

in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app).  You can use your initials (first or last) to provide you with a greater sense of privacy.

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>1101falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-96-garrett-kell-stepping-into-the-light--66016905
https://www.9marks.org/article/does-pornography-use-disqualify-a-pastor/

https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/pornography-and-church-discipline

http://garrettkell.com/should-i-tell-my-spouse-about-my-struggles-with-sexual-sin/

In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform.

in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/66016905Fri, 09 May 2025 20:20:04 +0000Vern TompkeGarrett Kell is a pastor who knows what it is to struggle with pornography.  In this podcast he speaks about his experience with stepping out of the shadows into the light. Garrett has written a book called "Pure in Heart" and is the current pastor of...
https://www.9marks.org/article/does-pornography-use-disqualify-a-pastor/

https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/pornography-and-church-discipline

http://garrettkell.com/should-i-tell-my-spouse-about-my-struggles-with-sexual-sin/

In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform.

in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>2187falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-95-the-numbers-don-t-lie--64736494
If you want to get a copy of that study you can purchase one at

https://puredesire.org/shop/beyond-the-porn-phenomenon/

In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform.

in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/64736494Thu, 06 Mar 2025 20:05:26 +0000Vern TompkeBack in 2016 the Barna Research group did a study around the use of pornography in society and in the church.  9 years later Barna (working with Pure Desire) did an expanded version of this same study.  We now can have an accurate and real time look...
If you want to get a copy of that study you can purchase one at

https://puredesire.org/shop/beyond-the-porn-phenomenon/

In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform.

in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>1346falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-94-talk-for-youth-and-young-adult-pastors--64234573
Below is the information on how to sign up for circle where you can find a downloadable powerpoint presentation of this talk. (under the Pastors on Porn section)  If you want me to talk to your young people life or by zoom reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com


If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

We are starting a brand new group for 2025!  This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course.  Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern.  If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. 

To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/64234573Thu, 06 Feb 2025 20:12:00 +0000Vern TompkeIf you are a youth pastor or work with young people in their teens or 20's you know that porn is a big challenge - for both guys and girls.  Recently I did a talk in Brazil (and later at our church) that talked about how the enemy uses addictions in...
Below is the information on how to sign up for circle where you can find a downloadable powerpoint presentation of this talk. (under the Pastors on Porn section)  If you want me to talk to your young people life or by zoom reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com


If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

We are starting a brand new group for 2025!  This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course.  Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern.  If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. 

To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2699falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-93-dave-s-big-reveal--63934271
If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

We are starting a brand new group for 2025!  This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course.  Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern.  If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. 

To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/63934271Mon, 27 Jan 2025 16:17:14 +0000Vern TompkeListen to my friend and pastor Dave talk about his big step to open up to his wife and church about his struggle with porn! If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle...
If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2

We are starting a brand new group for 2025!  This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course.  Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern.  If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. 

To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1897falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-92-the-hospital-church-with-james-reeves--62584647
James is the author of the TwoFearless Video series - one for men and one for women which deal with healing from emotional wounds and trauma.  They can be found here:

https://fearlessresources.org/

James is the Author of the book Refuge: How hospital Church ministry can change your church forever.  It can be accessed  on Amazon


If you would like to contact James you can do so by the followin

1. email:  jamesreeves68@gmail.com
2. phone: (817) 938 4562 (text first)

]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/62584647Fri, 01 Nov 2024 19:20:03 +0000Vern TompkeHow do you transition your church from a "shiny" facade to one that truly is a hospital for hurting broken people.  James Reeves has done it and shares some of his insights with Vern. James is the author of the TwoFearless Video series - one for men...
James is the author of the TwoFearless Video series - one for men and one for women which deal with healing from emotional wounds and trauma.  They can be found here:

https://fearlessresources.org/

James is the Author of the book Refuge: How hospital Church ministry can change your church forever.  It can be accessed  on Amazon


If you would like to contact James you can do so by the followin

1. email:  jamesreeves68@gmail.com
2. phone: (817) 938 4562 (text first)

]]>2755falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-91-sam-black-on-church-culture--62133044
We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.


If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2


You can link up to some some of Covenant Eyes resources by going to 

www.covenanteyes.com/church (tools for churches)
www.strive21.com (a 21 day porn detox plan)
www.covenanteyes.com/arise  (for women struggling with porn)]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/62133044Fri, 27 Sep 2024 19:00:51 +0000Vern TompkeSam Black works with churches at one of my favorite companies - Covenant Eyes. In this free ranging conversation we talk about why he joined Covenant Eyes, his book "The Healing Church" and what sort of churches provide a safe place and a safe process...
We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.


If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2


You can link up to some some of Covenant Eyes resources by going to 

www.covenanteyes.com/church (tools for churches)
www.strive21.com (a 21 day porn detox plan)
www.covenanteyes.com/arise  (for women struggling with porn)]]>2213falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-90-not-even-a-hint--62080886
Some of us have heard this verse as sort on an unattainable standard that makes us feel that we can never live up to God's standards.  Today I share my thoughts on this verse that has brought a new motivation and energy to my desire to walk in sexual purity.

We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.


If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/62080886Mon, 23 Sep 2024 17:08:57 +0000Vern TompkeEphesians 5:3 Says this "but among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality, or any kind of impurity" Some of us have heard this verse as sort on an unattainable standard that makes us feel that we can never live up to God's standards. ...
Some of us have heard this verse as sort on an unattainable standard that makes us feel that we can never live up to God's standards.  Today I share my thoughts on this verse that has brought a new motivation and energy to my desire to walk in sexual purity.

We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.


If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)

https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2]]>1258falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-89-delight-and-desire--60698085

If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more free  resources you can also check out the website
https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/60698085Mon, 15 Jul 2024 17:05:51 +0000Vern TompkeToday Vern explores how 2 words - delight and desire can go a long way in giving us immunity to the outside pull of porn and other distractions! If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can...

If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more free  resources you can also check out the website
https://bandofbrothers.care]]>950falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-88-father-s-day-how-to-be-a-good-and-safe-man--60425046
If you are looking for a safe person to talk about your Sexual struggles - Vern gets it - as a Pastor for 30 years Vern has battled porn as a pastor and didn't have a safe place to go to or someone to turn to.

To connect with Vern you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/60425046Tue, 18 Jun 2024 16:12:14 +0000Vern TompkeThis last Sunday Vern spoke on Sunday morning on how men can move from being an *ss to being good and safe men - something women, our churches and our communities desperately need more of. If you are looking for a safe person to talk about your...
If you are looking for a safe person to talk about your Sexual struggles - Vern gets it - as a Pastor for 30 years Vern has battled porn as a pastor and didn't have a safe place to go to or someone to turn to.

To connect with Vern you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>2641falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-87-quit-your-grovelling--60212068
If you are looking for a safe place to talk to regarding your struggles with porn - Vern has walked that struggle and would love to share his hope with you.

His email is bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/60212068Wed, 29 May 2024 17:37:26 +0000Vern TompkeHave you ever had God tell you to quit your grovelling?  Today Vern explores a bible story where that happens and relates it to our recovery walk. If you are looking for a safe place to talk to regarding your struggles with porn - Vern has walked...
If you are looking for a safe place to talk to regarding your struggles with porn - Vern has walked that struggle and would love to share his hope with you.

His email is bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com]]>1027falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-86-the-hardest-sermon-you-ll-ever-give--60006778

If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more free  resources you can also check out the website
https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/60006778Mon, 13 May 2024 16:27:54 +0000Vern TompkeIn this episode Vern answers the question - what is the hardest sermon you'll ever give?  I truly believe this episode is crucial to both listen to and keep in your constant awareness as a pastor.  If it helpful for you - pass it on! If you as a...

If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more free  resources you can also check out the website
https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1449falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-85-seasons-of-susceptibility--59873904

If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more free  resources you can also check out the website
https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/59873904Mon, 06 May 2024 16:34:56 +0000Vern TompkeAs I talk and work with pastors I have noticed that there are 3 seasons of vulnearabilitywhere patterns of sexual brokenness seem to emerge in our lives.  In this episode I lay out those seasons and take the approach to be fore-warned is to be...

If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more free  resources you can also check out the website
https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1774falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-84-examination-and-confession--59591372
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more free  resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/59591372Mon, 22 Apr 2024 19:13:44 +0000Vern TompkeThis last Sunday Vern spoke at church regarding the spiritual step of self examiniation and confession.  As pastors struggling with our sexual brokenness - it provides a crucial "powerpoint" that is available to us as we see to walk toward a life of...
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more free  resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care]]>2333falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-83-sitting-in-your-sin--59352257

If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/59352257Mon, 08 Apr 2024 20:27:09 +0000Vern TompkeMost of us seek to deny, hide, run from or rail agains the sin which dogs our steps.  In this episode Vern proposes a counter intuitive approach that he believes will actually result in better results - sitting in our sin! If you as a pastor are...

If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care]]>1508falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-82-wide-open-spaces--59200254
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more free  resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/59200254Wed, 27 Mar 2024 20:41:59 +0000Vern TompkeThe theme of wide open spaces is one that Scriptural writers come back to over and over again.  In this episode Vern puts on his bible teaching hat and relates to how this concept relates to our desire to walk away from porn and experience the best...
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more free  resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care]]>852falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-81-do-churches-really-celebrate-recovery--58837399
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/58837399Mon, 26 Feb 2024 21:59:52 +0000Vern TompkeIt has become quite common for churches to dip their toes into the stream of recovery groups.  In this episode Vern explores the difference between a church offering recovery programs and a church actually becoming a recovery church where people can...
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care]]>1196falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-80-are-pastors-special--58370414
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/58370414Fri, 19 Jan 2024 18:25:16 +0000Vern TompkeAre Pastors Special when it comes to porn? Are there unique reasons why pastors are drawn to porn and are there unique reasons they stay there? In this episode Vern explores that question. If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to...
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you are looking for more resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care]]>1713falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-79-30-years-a-pastor-lessons-from-the-best-years-of-my-life--57907664
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care



]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/57907664Mon, 04 Dec 2023 16:21:10 +0000Vern TompkeLooking back over 30 years of being a Pastor - from being an associate, to church planting and being a lead pastor, I have come up with a few overall lessons that I have learned. I think some of these lessons may stand you in good stead as you live...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care



]]>2079falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-78-simplistic-spiritual-solutions--57712351
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/57712351Sun, 19 Nov 2023 16:08:51 +0000Vern TompkeHave you ever been given simplistic spiritual advice that has proven to be ineffectual in your struggle with porn. Perhaps you have given simplistic advice. In this episode Vern talks about the proper way to approach (and give advice) about how to...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1559falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-77-christian-hangups-about-sexuality--57311512
In this episode I interview Kyle. He is one of a trio of Christian podcast hosts and ministry leaders from KingdomSexualityministry.comwho are seeking to bring talk of healthy sexuality into the open.

To connect with the ministry Kingdom Sexuality you can check them out on their website

https://www.kingdomsexualityministry.com


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/57311512Thu, 19 Oct 2023 22:59:22 +0000Vern TompkeOne of the biggest challenges in working in the church is that there seems to be such a hesitation to talk about sexuality. In the absense of talk about healthy sexuality it seems that we are left with the idea that sexuality is somehow dirty or the...
In this episode I interview Kyle. He is one of a trio of Christian podcast hosts and ministry leaders from KingdomSexualityministry.comwho are seeking to bring talk of healthy sexuality into the open.

To connect with the ministry Kingdom Sexuality you can check them out on their website

https://www.kingdomsexualityministry.com


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1811falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-76-5-steps-to-stay-healthy-as-a-pastor-with-mitch-harrison--56688345
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/56688345Mon, 04 Sep 2023 17:08:34 +0000Vern TompkeMitch Harrison is a seasoned pastor and leader who has a great gift in helping tired pastors find a new rhythm for their life. This podcast is all about helping you create a new way of living that will help find a pattern of healthy self care for your...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1734falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-75-the-best-things-about-my-recovery--56628104

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/56628104Tue, 29 Aug 2023 17:31:35 +0000Vern TompkeGratitude is a huge tool in my recovery. In this episode I share some of the things that I regularly remind myself of - things that my recovery has brought into my life! I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1150falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-74-kick-em-out--56321441
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/56321441Mon, 31 Jul 2023 14:31:10 +0000Vern TompkeIn this episode Vern uses tries his hand at some allegorical preaching by sharing the parallels between God's command to drive out the enemies of Canaan and our need to drive out the enemies (such as porn) from our lives. I love to talk to Pastors -...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1343falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-73-half-a-pastor--56265570

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/56265570Fri, 28 Jul 2023 17:02:52 +0000Vern TompkeSelf Care is a huge part of recovery and many Pastors think this is something less than spiritual. In this episode I challenge all those in ministry to actually practice a yearly holiday as part of a self care regimen. (I don't mean a week here or...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1383falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-72-my-heart-breaks--56031041

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/56031041Fri, 07 Jul 2023 21:20:30 +0000Vern TompkeHave you had the experience of having a family member go through a marriage breakup? In this painful episode, Vern discusses the ripples that spread out when someone you love go through a painful breakup and ask "Is there any lessons we can learn?"...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1389falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-71-jesus-never-journalled--54103259

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/54103259Mon, 05 Jun 2023 17:30:51 +0000Vern TompkeHave you ever been shoehorned into a particular definition of being spiritual that doesn't work for your wiring. In this episode Vern talks about how we need to find our own rhythm of being spiritual - even if it means not journalling! I love to...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1002falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-70-up-to-the-task--53562750
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/53562750Mon, 17 Apr 2023 18:49:04 +0000Vern TompkeIn this recording from a Sunday morning message Vern asks the question - are you up to the task? Using the text of 2 Timothy 1:7 Vern talks about how God's spirit wants to move us from a posture of fear and timidity to one of power, love, and self...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2189falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-69-my-best-pastoral-life--53074324
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/53074324Thu, 02 Mar 2023 17:42:45 +0000Vern TompkeLooking back on 30 years of pastoral ministry - there are three elements that led me to experience the best version of my pastoral self - three things, that when I strayed from, caused me to fray around the edges. I love to talk to Pastors -...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1240falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-68-leveraging-your-story--52651615
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/52651615Mon, 06 Feb 2023 16:27:21 +0000Vern TompkeWhat if God wanted us use our story, to leverage it for His glory - even the broken shameful parts. In this episode Vern shares how, rather than hiding our brokenness, God wants to use it in surprising ways. I love to talk to Pastors - especially...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1309falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-67-fully-alive--52630344
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/52630344Fri, 03 Feb 2023 18:27:41 +0000Vern TompkeHow does the idea of becoming fully alive relate to our recovery? From a Sunday morning message, Vern takes us on a journey through Narnia, Wild at Heart and the rock group Evanescense as he explores how the God's promise of "bringing us to life" is...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2342falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-66-broken-vessels-restoring-broken-pastors--52415518
To contact Mark you can reach him at

https://thereisstillhope.org

If you need a safe place to talk - you can also reach out to me (Vern) at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/52415518Wed, 11 Jan 2023 20:50:45 +0000Vern TompkeIn this episode Vern interviews pastor and author Mark Denison who shares about his loss of ministry and how God has turned this loss into a kingdom gain. Mark is the author of "Broken Vessels - Restoring Broken Pastors. To contact Mark you can...
To contact Mark you can reach him at

https://thereisstillhope.org

If you need a safe place to talk - you can also reach out to me (Vern) at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1788falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-65-presence-vs-power--52168008
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/52168008Mon, 12 Dec 2022 22:15:09 +0000Vern TompkeAs we struggle with moving away from embedded porn habits, it is important to make a distinction between the presence of porn and the power of porn. Using Scripture Vern provides hope that although we may still experience the presence of sin, it's...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1160falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-64-above-reproach--51844756
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51844756Wed, 09 Nov 2022 22:22:09 +0000Vern TompkePastors are frequently told that they need to be above reproach (I Timothy 3) What does this actually mean? How does this relate to having a sexual struggle with something like Porn? In this episode Vern tackles that topic. I love to talk to...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1173falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-63-it-is-for-freedom--51741001
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51741001Mon, 31 Oct 2022 17:47:08 +0000Vern TompkeHow do we make sense of the scriptures that promise us Christian freedom when we still struggle with elements of sin's bondage? This Sunday morning message seeks to bridge that gap by providing hope for freedom - even when we are still not fully...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2140falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-62-what-relapse-reveals--51698125

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51698125Wed, 26 Oct 2022 20:40:58 +0000Vern TompkeIt is not uncommon to look back at a recent relapse and ask ourself "what was that about?". In this episode Vern seeks to answer that question by exploring what our relapses reveal. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1286falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-61-i-need-to-make-it-right--51627049


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care

]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51627049Wed, 19 Oct 2022 22:10:32 +0000Vern TompkeThis episode refers in part to the 80's movie the Mission. Fair warning the movie does have considerable nudity in it as it portrays the life in the tribes of the South American jungle. On the other hand, the book "All is grace" by Brennan Manning...


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care

]]>871falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-60-talking-to-therapists--51556442
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51556442Wed, 12 Oct 2022 18:51:20 +0000Vern TompkeI believe that coaching and therapy work super well together. I am a coach not a therapist. I regularly make use of therapists and some therapists have found my approach is a great addition to what they do as well. Recently I was invited to speak...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2425falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-59-a-distortion-of-reality--51245142
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/51245142Tue, 13 Sep 2022 17:08:30 +0000Vern TompkeGerald May in his great book "Addictions and Grace" says that one of the components of an addiction is the "distortion of reality". In this episode Vern explores how an addiction to porn changes, distorts and warps our view of reality. I love to...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1522falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-58-the-stephen-mansfield-interview--49750227
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/49750227Tue, 10 May 2022 21:57:48 +0000Vern TompkeVern has been using Stephen Mansfield's book - Top Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash as the background for a number of recent episodes. In this episode, Vern is excited to interview Stephen for some further thoughts around the need for this book. I...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1301falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-57-route-666-bitterness--49550533
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/49550533Mon, 25 Apr 2022 20:07:13 +0000Vern TompkeIn this episode Vern explores bitterness - one of the key elements in Stephen Mansfield's book "Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash" I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1245falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-56-route-666-forgetting-fun--49482138

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/49482138Tue, 19 Apr 2022 18:40:52 +0000Vern TompkeIn this episode Vern explores "Forgetting Fun" - one of the key elements in Stephen Mansfield's book "Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash" I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors....

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1341falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-55-route-666-mind-the-gap--49358378
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/49358378Thu, 07 Apr 2022 20:16:19 +0000Vern TompkeIs there a "gap" between your private self and your public persona. This episode based on the book "Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash" talks about how that gap is especially problematic for those of us who struggle with sexual purity and are in...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1106falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-54-a-sex-therapists-take-on-the-gospel--49109237

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/49109237Fri, 18 Mar 2022 16:55:00 +0000Vern TompkeThis is a part episode taken from a longer conversation on my Podcast - Finding Traction episode 54 where Vern interviews Australian sex therapist Monica Cook. This podcast is simply about the part of the conversation where Monica presents a...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>517falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-53-route-666-close-friendships--48980557

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/48980557Mon, 07 Mar 2022 15:17:11 +0000Vern TompkeIn this episode Vern explores the lack of close friendships - one of the key elements in Stephen Mansfield's book "Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash" I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1083falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-52-route-666-isolation--48913931

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/48913931Tue, 01 Mar 2022 19:31:45 +0000Vern TompkeIn this episode Vern explores Isolation - one of the key elements in Stephen Mansfield's book "Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash" I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1644falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-51-should-i-tell-on-myself--48542651
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/48542651Tue, 01 Feb 2022 18:45:59 +0000Vern TompkeAs a pastor what is appropriate to tell about my sexual struggles? In this episode we explore that question - a question that most of us struggle with in our desire to be open with our lives but also the desire to protect ourselves. I love to talk...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1467falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-50-what-is-grace-based-recovery-with-jonathan-daugherty--47842924

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care

If you want to connect with Jonathan and the Be Broken Ministry site you can check them out at

https://www.bebroken.org


]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/47842924Wed, 08 Dec 2021 22:29:29 +0000Vern TompkeIn this episode Vern interview Jonathan Daugherty the author of the book Grace Based Recovery. They discuss the ways, good and bad, that people try to help others walk free from porn. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care

If you want to connect with Jonathan and the Be Broken Ministry site you can check them out at

https://www.bebroken.org


]]>1955falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-49-on-the-discipline-of-pastors--46942214
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/46942214Tue, 12 Oct 2021 17:39:30 +0000Vern TompkeThere are a number of ways that churches react to the information that a pastor is actively engaged in some form of sexual sin. In this episode Vern explores a number of those approaches (both helpful and not so helpful) and proposes a model to use...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2061falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-48-are-pastors-creating-a-shame-culture--46566951
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/46566951Fri, 17 Sep 2021 17:17:22 +0000Vern TompkeOur preaching can have unintended consequences. In this episode Vern asks the question - in our desire to help people with sexual issues are we in fact creating a culture of shame? I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1499falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-47-are-pastors-creating-a-porn-culture--46054151

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/46054151Wed, 11 Aug 2021 16:12:31 +0000Vern TompkeOur preaching can come with unintended consequences. In this episode Vern asks are we, despite our good intentions, actually creating more of a porn culture in how we are training our people to view sexuality? I love to talk to Pastors - especially...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1267falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-46-naaman-the-leper--45513205
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/45513205Wed, 30 Jun 2021 17:55:24 +0000Vern TompkeThis is a short sermon from the story of Naaman that could be used in any recovery setting to look at how our approach to God either encourages our recovery/healing or causes us to move away from it. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1590falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-45-the-beautiful-ugly-truth-with-mark-and-gwen-brague--45406158
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care

Mark and Gwen Brague's book the Beautiful Ugly Truth can be purchased on Amazon]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/45406158Wed, 23 Jun 2021 02:41:40 +0000Vern TompkeIn this episode Vern interviews the authors of the Beautiful Ugly Truth who share a story of how brought healing into the sexal brokenness in their marriage. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care

Mark and Gwen Brague's book the Beautiful Ugly Truth can be purchased on Amazon]]>2879falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-44-lies-we-tell-ourselves-with-john-doyel--45051847

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/45051847Wed, 26 May 2021 17:53:16 +0000Vern TompkeIn order for us to continue our embedded use of porn we need to continually tell ourselves a number of lies. In this episode Vern interviews recovery coach John Doyel as they explore these lies. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2189falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-43-what-s-hate-got-to-do-with-it--44018121

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/44018121Tue, 23 Mar 2021 16:09:56 +0000Vern TompkeEver considered yourself misogynistic? Most of us would not consider ourselves in this light. In this episode Vern explores the uncomfortable truth about how our porn use may be changing us more than we think. I love to talk to Pastors -...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1043falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-42-leaning-example--43355118I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care

]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/43355118Mon, 08 Feb 2021 22:15:43 +0000Vern TompkeI love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more resources on my...I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care

]]>2544falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-41-failure-to-lean--43132977
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/43132977Tue, 26 Jan 2021 21:26:58 +0000Vern TompkeWhy do churches fail to lean into difficult topics like sexual brokenness? It affects us all yet we pretend that we are above it all and our churches are above it all. In this episode Vern explores some of the reasons for our "failure to lean" I...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>976falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-40-when-sex-positive-isn-t-positive--42850230
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42850230Fri, 08 Jan 2021 21:54:38 +0000Vern TompkeThere is an entire movement under the banner of "Sex Positive" which has pushed against the Christian sex ethic as being harmful and repressive. In this episode Vern pushes back on some of the teaching by discussing how "Sex Postive" is far from...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1638falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-39-avoiding-the-potholes-with-dr-laura-nelson--42403868
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42403868Wed, 09 Dec 2020 20:13:33 +0000Vern TompkeDr Laura Nelson is a pastor who works with couples who are struggling with sexual brokenness. In this episode she describes some of the things she has learned along with way. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1716falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-38-true-vs-false-repentance--42009906
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/42009906Mon, 16 Nov 2020 23:37:23 +0000Vern TompkeOne of the biggest questions in dealing with sexually broken people is how do we discern between true and false repentance? In this episode we discuss that difficult topic. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>1556falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-37-the-turnaround-repentance--41885301
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/41885301Mon, 09 Nov 2020 20:27:18 +0000Vern TompkeRepentance is a word you hear alot about in the church. What is it and how do we approach this topic when we are struggling (despite our best efforts) to quit looking at porn? I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1256falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-36-the-non-conflicted-pastor--41758024
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/41758024Mon, 02 Nov 2020 14:45:51 +0000Vern TompkeIn the last podcast we introduced the idea of being a conflicted pastor when it comes to being used by God. Today we turn to the other side - what is it like to be a non-conflicted pastor? I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1884falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-35-the-conflicted-pastor-with-darrell-brazzell--41722173
In this episode he interviews Darrel Brazzell about his own conflicted journey with sexual brokenness and how God has both changed his life and used him to help other men.


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.  If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/41722173Fri, 30 Oct 2020 20:16:08 +0000Vern TompkeIn this first part of a two part series Vern explores the idea of being conflicted vs. being non-conflicted in our ministry as a pastor. In this episode he interviews Darrel Brazzell about his own conflicted journey with sexual brokenness and how God...
In this episode he interviews Darrel Brazzell about his own conflicted journey with sexual brokenness and how God has both changed his life and used him to help other men.


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.  If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1639falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-34-coach-me-up--41188158
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/41188158Mon, 28 Sep 2020 19:42:44 +0000Vern TompkeI (Vern) have been immensely helped by having a recovery coach. In this episode Vern interviews one of his mentors, Michael Leahy, as to the role that coaching can play in your recovery. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2466falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-33-can-god-use-me-with-matt-cline--40958929
Matt is the Director of Restored Ministries and can be reached at

https://www.restoredministries.ca


I (Vern) ove to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/40958929Thu, 17 Sep 2020 18:19:13 +0000Vern TompkeCan God still use me despite my ongoing struggles to walk completely free from behaviors like porn? In this episode Vern interviews Matt Cline and they discuss that topic. Matt is the Director of Restored Ministries and can be reached at...
Matt is the Director of Restored Ministries and can be reached at

https://www.restoredministries.ca


I (Vern) ove to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1871falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-32-surfing-for-god-with-michael-cusick--40552912
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/40552912Fri, 28 Aug 2020 23:56:37 +0000Vern TompkeProbably my favorite porn recovery book is Surfing for God by Michael Cusick. In this episode I am honored to interview the author. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2046falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-31-numberone-lie--40476480

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/40476480Mon, 24 Aug 2020 20:49:05 +0000Vern TompkeWhat is the biggest lie we need to tell ourselves to continue our porn use? In this episode Vern (in a round about way) gets there! I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1181falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-30-the-pirate-guys--35752077Pirate Monks podcast. In this episode I am honored to interview the two hosts of the podcast - Nate and Aaron


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/35752077Fri, 03 Jul 2020 19:02:15 +0000Vern TompkeOne of my favorite recovery podcasts is the Pirate Monks podcast. In this episode I am honored to interview the two hosts of the podcast - Nate and Aaron I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable...Pirate Monks podcast. In this episode I am honored to interview the two hosts of the podcast - Nate and Aaron


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1939falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-29-be-broken-ministries--28571530
In this episode Vern interviews Jonathan Daugherty, the director as they talk about some of the ways you can find help


We are so blessed in that there are so so many more resources than there were 10 years ago.

Be broken ministries can be contacted at

https://www.bebroken.org

I l(Vern) ove to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/28571530Thu, 28 May 2020 21:51:03 +0000Vern TompkeBe Broken is a ministry to bring sexual healing to the entire family. This includes groups for men, weekend intensives and support for women. In this episode Vern interviews Jonathan Daugherty, the director as they talk about some of the ways you...
In this episode Vern interviews Jonathan Daugherty, the director as they talk about some of the ways you can find help


We are so blessed in that there are so so many more resources than there were 10 years ago.

Be broken ministries can be contacted at

https://www.bebroken.org

I l(Vern) ove to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1873falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-28-porn-through-the-ages-pt-1--26778772
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/26778772Tue, 05 May 2020 16:36:50 +0000Vern TompkeThe pull towards porn impacts us differently as we age. In this episode we talk about the false promises that porn offers us at different stages of our life. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1272falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-27-recovery-songs-by-zack--24756296
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24756296Thu, 02 Apr 2020 20:49:50 +0000Vern TompkeZach Williams is a well known Christian artists who has some great recovery songs based on his own journey. In this episode Vern shares some of the songs he has found inspirational in his recovery journey. I love to talk to Pastors - especially...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>836falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-26-sexologist-dr-joe-beam--24637709
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24637709Mon, 30 Mar 2020 15:43:00 +0000Vern TompkeJoe Beam is a sexologist who leads a ministry that works with broken couples. In this episode he shares about some of his thoughts about how to provide hope and healing for couples on the brink of divorce. I love to talk to Pastors - especially...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2002falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-25-it-s-time-to-come-home--24335837
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/24335837Wed, 25 Mar 2020 21:16:15 +0000Vern TompkeRecovery is, among other things, a journey home. In this episode Vern explores the topic of how moving away from porn and addictive living makes sense only if we are returning to a place of true safety and belonging - in other words HOME! I love to...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>930falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-24-the-dobber--23987040
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23987040Tue, 17 Mar 2020 18:25:02 +0000Vern TompkeOne of Vern's brothers from another podcast is his friend Matt Dobscheutz. In this episode Matt joins Vern as the they talk about Matt's story and the way God has used him to help other men. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2687falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-23-corona-virus-and-the-end-of-the-world--23956256
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23956256Mon, 16 Mar 2020 23:01:44 +0000Vern TompkeThe Corona Virus poses not just a major health to our society but a recovery threat to those who already are isolated because of our porn behaviors. The last thing we need is more isolation! In this episode Vern talks about these challenges but also...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>947falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-22-pure-desire-guys--23805938
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23805938Thu, 12 Mar 2020 22:19:07 +0000Vern TompkeThe Pure Desire podcast is one of those podcasts that has been very helpful to me on my journey away from porn. In this episode we interview the two hosts of the podcasts - Trevor Winsor and Nick Stumbo. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>2432falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-21-am-i-a-saint-or-sinner--23223499

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23223499Wed, 26 Feb 2020 21:15:07 +0000Vern TompkeOne of the theological arguments that come up in Christian circles has to do with our identity. Are we fundamentally sinners or saints? Maybe we are both. In this episode Vern explores that questions and explains why it really matters how we...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>846falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-20-help-there-s-a-hot-girl-in-the-second-row--23041078
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23041078Fri, 21 Feb 2020 18:52:20 +0000Vern TompkeEver had the experiencing of noticing an extremely attractive girl in church? Ever had the experience of this happening while you are preaching! This is one of those true confession episodes that most of us don't like to talk about! I love to talk...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>959falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-19-i-have-made-fire--22741300
I (Vern) love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/22741300Thu, 13 Feb 2020 19:38:19 +0000Vern TompkeHave you ever wondered how the need to feel powerful is linked to our pull towards porn. In this episode Vern explore the linkages between the deisre to be powerful and the lure of porn. I (Vern) love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are...
I (Vern) love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>935falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-18-tony-ingrassia-pt-2--22668083

I (Vern) love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/22668083Tue, 11 Feb 2020 21:07:58 +0000Vern TompkeTony Ingrassia is the podcast host of the Power of Purity podcast. In this episode Vern concludes his discussion with Tony around his recovery journey. I (Vern) love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their...

I (Vern) love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1771falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-17-tony-ingrassia-pt-1--22668077

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/22668077Tue, 11 Feb 2020 21:06:59 +0000Vern TompkeTony Ingrassia is the podcast host of the Power of Purity podcast. In part one of this episode Vern begins his discussion with Tony around his recovery journey. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>1722falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-16-tipping-point-and-driving-tips--22417595

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/22417595Tue, 04 Feb 2020 20:25:19 +0000Vern TompkeEver heard of the concept of tipping point? It is a concept where a number of small steps come together and suddenly something more significant happens. In this episode Vern talks about some of the things that contributed to his tipping point in his...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>948falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-15-epiphany-recovery--21481896
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/21481896Wed, 08 Jan 2020 19:01:56 +0000Vern TompkeYou probably are familiar with the term "having an epiphany". On this Ephiphany Sunday Vern shares some of the epiphanies that he has experienced on his recovery journey. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>961falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-14-is-god-angry-with-me--20293088

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/20293088Tue, 26 Nov 2019 19:16:40 +0000Vern TompkeIs God angry with me or supremely disappointed because of my struggle with porn? Today's episode is all about God and our struggles, spiritual shame and the posture necessary to find healing in our relationship with God. I love to talk to Pastors -...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>965addiction,pastors,recovery,shamefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-13-resilience-pt-2--17679145
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/17679145Thu, 18 Apr 2019 16:17:17 +0000Vern TompkeIf we are going to last for any amount of time in our pastoral roles we are going to need resilience. In the second part of this topic Vern continues this discusion. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their...
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>934falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-12-resilience-pt-1--17608606


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/17608606Thu, 11 Apr 2019 22:34:57 +0000Vern TompkeIf we are going to last for any amount of time in our pastoral roles we are going to need resilience. In the first part of this topic Vern shares some thoughts around resilience and how this relates to our recovery journey. I love to talk to...


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1539falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-11-3-legged-stool-pt-3--17475388

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/17475388Fri, 29 Mar 2019 17:31:18 +0000Vern TompkeA three legged stool is a metaphor often used to descirbe a stable thing - such as a stable ministry. There are actually 3 components to be an effecitve pastor - and our problematic sexual behaviors impede and impair our ability to do them...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>1117falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-10-3-legged-stool-pt-2--17335685

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/17335685Fri, 15 Mar 2019 23:06:54 +0000Vern TompkeA three legged stool is a metaphor often used to descirbe a stable thing - such as a stable ministry. There are actually 3 components to be an effecitve pastor - and our problematic sexual behaviors impede and impair our ability to do them...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1001falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-9-3-legged-stool-pt-1--17293495

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/17293495Tue, 12 Mar 2019 00:10:24 +0000Vern TompkeA three legged stool is a metaphor often used to descirbe a stable thing - such as a stable ministry. There are actually 3 components to be an effecitve pastor - and our problematic sexual behaviors impede and impair our ability to do them...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>900falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-8-what-if-i-stumble--17098654

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/17098654Wed, 20 Feb 2019 19:41:14 +0000Vern TompkeThere is a line in an old DC Talk song "what if I stumble, whati if I fail". It is a sobering fear that most sexual strugglers in ministry face. In this episode we talk about that lingering fear. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1051falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-7-what-is-accountability--16739962

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/16739962Thu, 17 Jan 2019 19:22:30 +0000Vern TompkeOne of the most mis-applied words in Christian-ese - is the word "Accountability". In this episode we talk about how this word is misused and a proper application of the word. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>988falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-6-finding-traction--16397173
If you want to connect with Vern directly - there is now a new email that will take you directly to him

email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you want to check out more about him or the finding traction course go to the website:

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/16397173Thu, 06 Dec 2018 00:12:41 +0000Vern TompkeWhy do some people stay mired in their addiction while others find the traction needed to gain momentum in their recovery journey? Episode 6 is all about finding traction in your journey If you want to connect with Vern directly - there is now a new...
If you want to connect with Vern directly - there is now a new email that will take you directly to him

email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

If you want to check out more about him or the finding traction course go to the website:

https://www.bandofbrothers.care]]>1636falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-5-the-gift-of-addiction--15941090

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/15941090Fri, 12 Oct 2018 00:25:41 +0000Vern TompkeWhat if our brokenness - and in particular our struggle with it - was actually a "gift" to us in terms of potentially being used by God? In this episode we explore that thought. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1160falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-4-should-i-step-down--15721226"should Pastors who struggle with Porn leave the ministry?" In this episode we explore that question.


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/15721226Fri, 14 Sep 2018 22:56:53 +0000Vern TompkeOne of the most common questions I get asked (by both Pastors and non-pastors) is this one "should Pastors who struggle with Porn leave the ministry?" In this episode we explore that question. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are..."should Pastors who struggle with Porn leave the ministry?" In this episode we explore that question.


I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>945falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-3-why-pastors-struggle--15721184

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/15721184Fri, 14 Sep 2018 22:52:25 +0000Vern TompkeAre there unique reasons as to why Pastors struggle with porn (in the first place) and why they remain in these destructive behaviors. This episode explores those reasons. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>1069falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-2-vern-s-story--15651380

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/15651380Thu, 06 Sep 2018 00:31:00 +0000Vern TompkeI have been a pastor for 30 years. In this story I describe how my life of embedded porn intersected with God's call on my life to live a life of fruitfulness. We all have a story and it gives us a platform to speak into the lifes of others who have...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>966freedom,help,pastor,recoveryfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-1-pop-introduction--15650752

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/15650752Wed, 05 Sep 2018 22:32:04 +0000Vern TompkeWhat is Pastors on Porn about - well this first episode outlines the reasons why I started the podcast and who it is aimed to help. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If...

I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.

If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at

bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

You can also see some more resources on my website

https://bandofbrothers.care]]>396help,ministry,pastors,recoveryfalsefull