Self-Care Havenhttps://www.spreaker.com/show/self-care-havenenMental HealthShahida Arabihttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/0cc6d886d3f8af2c4b806b13fae375e5.jpgSelf-Care Havenhttps://www.spreaker.com/show/self-care-havenSat, 02 May 2026 00:58:02 +0000Self Care HavenSelf Care Haveninfo@mhnrnetwork.comReflections and meditations to empower survivors of abuse and trauma. Hosted by bestselling author Shahida Arabi, founder of the blog Self-Care Haven.falseepisodicWhy Couples Counseling Doesn't Work For Abusive Relationships With Narcissistshttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/why-couples-counseling-doesn-t-work-for-abusive-relationships-with-narcissists--25765817https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2019/09/why-couples-therapy-doesnt-work-for-people-in-abusive-relationships-with-narcissists/]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/25765817Sun, 19 Apr 2020 19:36:56 +0000Self Care Haven5 Reasons Why Couples Counseling Doesn't Work For Abusive Relationships With Narcissists: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2019/09/why-couples-therapy-doesnt-work-for-people-in-abusive-relationships-with-narcissists/https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2019/09/why-couples-therapy-doesnt-work-for-people-in-abusive-relationships-with-narcissists/]]>1023abuse,couples,domestic,emotional,narcissistic,narcissists,therapy,violencefalsefull5 Techniques Pick-Up Artists and Narcissists Sociopaths Have In Commonhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/5-techniques-pick-up-artists-and-narcissists-sociopaths-have-in-common--20049117https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2018/12/5-pick-up-artist-techniques-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-players-use-to-unsettle-you/]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/20049117Fri, 15 Nov 2019 15:43:39 +0000Self Care HavenThere are five techniques pick-up artists and narcissists have in common. Can you guess what they are? Find out in this latest episode of Self-Care Haven for Survivors. Read the full article on pick-up artistry and narcissism here:...https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2018/12/5-pick-up-artist-techniques-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-players-use-to-unsettle-you/]]>2318falsefullStonewalling and The Narcissists Silent Treatment How They Are Different From No Contacthttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/stonewalling-and-the-narcissists-silent-treatment-how-they-are-different-from-no-contact--20048557https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/04/stonewalling-and-the-silent-treatment-when-the-narcissists-silence-is-deafening/]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/20048557Fri, 15 Nov 2019 15:15:32 +0000Self Care HavenWhy do narcissists use stonewalling and the silent treatment? And how does it differ from when victims go No Contact with their abusers? Find out in this latest episode of Self-Care for Survivors. Read the article on stonewalling here:...https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/04/stonewalling-and-the-silent-treatment-when-the-narcissists-silence-is-deafening/]]>590abuse,emotional,narcissisticabuse,narcissists,nocontact,silenttreatment,stonewallingfalsefullThe Manipulative Narcissist's Gaslighting Playbook: Translations of What They Say and What They REALLY Meanhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-manipulative-narcissist-s-gaslighting-playbook-translations-of-what-they-say-and-what-they-really-mean--17461713www.shahidaarabi.com for more information about my work. Derived from my articles 12 Things Narcissists Say and What They REALLY Mean on Thought Catalog and 7 Gaslighting Phrases Malignant Narcissists Use - https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2019/03/7-gaslighting-phrases-malignant-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-translated/]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/17461713Thu, 28 Mar 2019 09:08:51 +0000Self Care HavenI discuss the 12 common phrases narcissists use to manipulate you, as well as the 7 phrases they use to gaslight you. Visit my website www.shahidaarabi.com for more information about my work. Derived from my articles 12 Things Narcissists Say and What...www.shahidaarabi.com for more information about my work. Derived from my articles 12 Things Narcissists Say and What They REALLY Mean on Thought Catalog and 7 Gaslighting Phrases Malignant Narcissists Use - https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2019/03/7-gaslighting-phrases-malignant-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-translated/]]>2387dating,emotionalabuse,gaslighting,manipulation,narcissism,narcissisticabuse,psychological-abuse,psychology,psychopathology,psychopaths,red-flags,relationships,toxic-relationships,translationsfalsefullHow Narcissists And Sociopaths Test Our Boundaries Early On (And Why We Ignore the Red Flags)https://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-narcissists-and-sociopaths-test-our-boundaries-early-on-and-why-we-ignore-the-red-flags--16298815
Pre-order my new book, Healing the Children of Narcissists, here: www.tinyurl.com/childrenofnarcissists

Read my blog on Psych Central to learn more red flags of narcissists: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/16298815Sat, 24 Nov 2018 10:56:56 +0000Self Care HavenHow do narcissistic predators test the boundaries of their victims? Why do victims tend to ignore red flags early on? And what does childhood abuse have to do with this? In this episode, I explore why we tend to ignore our inner guidance and how we...
Pre-order my new book, Healing the Children of Narcissists, here: www.tinyurl.com/childrenofnarcissists

Read my blog on Psych Central to learn more red flags of narcissists: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/]]>2139abuse,childhoodabuse,emotionalabuse,mentalhealth,narcissistic,narcissisticparents,narcissists,psychologicalabuse,psychologyfalsefullIs The Narcissist Happy With The New Victim?https://www.spreaker.com/episode/is-the-narcissist-happy-with-the-new-victim--15753301
5 behaviours that will expose a narcissist the first time you meet them: https://www.mamamia.com.au/what-is-narcissism/

12 Of The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell, Translated Into Truth:
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2018/09/12-of-the-most-common-lies-sociopaths-and-narcissists-tell-translated-into-truth/

My Bustle Interview - 7 Self-Care Strategies To Help Manage Trauma, According to Experts: https://www.bustle.com/p/7-self-care-strategies-to-help-manage-trauma-according-to-experts-10087377]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/15753301Wed, 19 Sep 2018 11:26:16 +0000Self Care HavenIs the narcissist really happy with the new victim? I explore the reasons why we ask this question and why the answer is likely no. 5 behaviours that will expose a narcissist the first time you meet them:...
5 behaviours that will expose a narcissist the first time you meet them: https://www.mamamia.com.au/what-is-narcissism/

12 Of The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell, Translated Into Truth:
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2018/09/12-of-the-most-common-lies-sociopaths-and-narcissists-tell-translated-into-truth/

My Bustle Interview - 7 Self-Care Strategies To Help Manage Trauma, According to Experts: https://www.bustle.com/p/7-self-care-strategies-to-help-manage-trauma-according-to-experts-10087377]]>742abuse,emotionalabuse,narcissistic,narcissisticabuse,sociopaths,traumafalsefullThe INFJ: What It's Like To Be The Rarest Personality Typehttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-infj-what-it-s-like-to-be-the-rarest-personality-type--15492893
Why INFJ Empaths Fall Prey To Narcissists: https://introvertdear.com/news/3-reasons-infj-empaths-fall-prey-to-narcissists/  

What It's Like Being An INFJ, In Other Words, A Living Paradox: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/12/whats-its-like-to-be-an-infj-in-other-words-a-living-paradox/

6 Things You Need To Know If You're Dating An INFJ: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/01/6-things-you-need-to-know-if-youre-dating-an-infj/

5 Ways To Stay Strong As An INFJ Empath: https://introvertdear.com/news/5-ways-to-stay-strong-as-an-infj-empath/

Are you being gaslighted?Read Gaslighting Explained here.

 

 ]]>http://www.blogtalkradio.com/selfcarehaven/2018/03/13/the-infj-what-its-like-to-be-the-rarest-personality-typeTue, 13 Mar 2018 04:00:00 +0000Self Care HavenBe sure to read more about the INFJ in my articles here:  Why INFJ Empaths Fall Prey To Narcissists: https://introvertdear.com/news/3-reasons-infj-empaths-fall-prey-to-narcissists/   What It's Like Being An INFJ, In Other Words, A Living...
Why INFJ Empaths Fall Prey To Narcissists: https://introvertdear.com/news/3-reasons-infj-empaths-fall-prey-to-narcissists/  

What It's Like Being An INFJ, In Other Words, A Living Paradox: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/12/whats-its-like-to-be-an-infj-in-other-words-a-living-paradox/

6 Things You Need To Know If You're Dating An INFJ: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/01/6-things-you-need-to-know-if-youre-dating-an-infj/

5 Ways To Stay Strong As An INFJ Empath: https://introvertdear.com/news/5-ways-to-stay-strong-as-an-infj-empath/

Are you being gaslighted?Read Gaslighting Explained here.

 

 ]]>1612infj,introverts,myers-briggs,personality types,toxic relationshipsfalsefullEmpaths 101: What It's Like, How They're 'Made' And How To Protect Ourselveshttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/empaths-101-what-it-s-like-how-they-re-made-and-how-to-protect-ourselves--15492894
7 Things People Don't Realize You're Doing Because You're The Child Of A Narcissistic Parent: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/03/7-things-people-dont-realize-youre-doing-because-youre-the-child-of-a-narcissistic-parent/

The Dark Side Of Being An Empath: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/01/the-dark-side-of-being-an-empath-5-powerful-ways-the-highly-sensitive-experience-the-world-differently/

Why INFJ Empaths Fall Prey To Narcissists: https://introvertdear.com/news/3-reasons-infj-empaths-fall-prey-to-narcissists/

Pete Walker's Human Bill of Rights: http://pete-walker.com/humanBillofRights.htm

Social anxiety, empath or avoidant personality disorder? Find out here: What Avoidant Personality DIsorder Really Is.

 

 

 

 ]]>http://www.blogtalkradio.com/selfcarehaven/2018/03/13/empaths-101-what-its-like-how-theyre-made-and-how-to-protect-ourselvesTue, 13 Mar 2018 02:00:00 +0000Self Care HavenCheck out my articles on empaths and children of narcissists: 7 Things People Don't Realize You're Doing Because You're The Child Of A Narcissistic Parent:...
7 Things People Don't Realize You're Doing Because You're The Child Of A Narcissistic Parent: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/03/7-things-people-dont-realize-youre-doing-because-youre-the-child-of-a-narcissistic-parent/

The Dark Side Of Being An Empath: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/01/the-dark-side-of-being-an-empath-5-powerful-ways-the-highly-sensitive-experience-the-world-differently/

Why INFJ Empaths Fall Prey To Narcissists: https://introvertdear.com/news/3-reasons-infj-empaths-fall-prey-to-narcissists/

Pete Walker's Human Bill of Rights: http://pete-walker.com/humanBillofRights.htm

Social anxiety, empath or avoidant personality disorder? Find out here: What Avoidant Personality DIsorder Really Is.

 

 

 

 ]]>780empaths,gaslighting,highly sensitive people,narcissistic abuse,toxic relationshipsfalsefullThe Female Narcissist Is Just As Dangerous As Her Male Counterparthttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-female-narcissist-is-just-as-dangerous-as-her-male-counterpart--15492898
The 4 traits discussed: Intro (0:00-05:50) 

1. A sadistic sense of pleasure at someone else’s pain (05:50 - 09:08) and relational aggression towards other females (10:01 - 17:17) 2. An insatiable sense of competitiveness, due to pathological envy and the need to be the center of attention. (09:08 - 17:17) 3. An obsession with her appearance as well as a high level of materialism and superficiality; this could also translate into a haughty sense of intellectual superiority if the narcissist in question is more cerebral than somatic. (17:17 - 22:01)  4. A blatant disregard for the boundaries of intimate relationships, including her own. (22:01 - 24:00) Closing comments: Tips on how to deal with narcissists, how to heal and how to rise above. (24:00 - 35:48)

*This discussion of female narcissists was first featured in my article on Psych Central here.

*Visit my blog at: www.selfcarehaven.wordpress.com

*Visit my website at: www.selfcarehaven.org

*You can also find out more about the traits here: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/02/11-sickening-signs-youre-dealing-with-a-sneaky-female-narcissist/

*Grey Rock Method: https://lovefraud.com/the-gray-rock-method-of-dealing-with-psychopaths/ ]]>http://www.blogtalkradio.com/selfcarehaven/2018/02/17/the-female-narcissist-is-just-as-dangerous-as-her-male-counterpartSat, 17 Feb 2018 10:00:00 +0000Self Care HavenFemale malignant narcissists are especially dangerous because they can fly under the radar more easily. The 4 traits discussed: Intro (0:00-05:50)  1. A sadistic sense of pleasure at someone else’s pain (05:50 - 09:08) and relational aggression...
The 4 traits discussed: Intro (0:00-05:50) 

1. A sadistic sense of pleasure at someone else’s pain (05:50 - 09:08) and relational aggression towards other females (10:01 - 17:17) 2. An insatiable sense of competitiveness, due to pathological envy and the need to be the center of attention. (09:08 - 17:17) 3. An obsession with her appearance as well as a high level of materialism and superficiality; this could also translate into a haughty sense of intellectual superiority if the narcissist in question is more cerebral than somatic. (17:17 - 22:01)  4. A blatant disregard for the boundaries of intimate relationships, including her own. (22:01 - 24:00) Closing comments: Tips on how to deal with narcissists, how to heal and how to rise above. (24:00 - 35:48)

*This discussion of female narcissists was first featured in my article on Psych Central here.

*Visit my blog at: www.selfcarehaven.wordpress.com

*Visit my website at: www.selfcarehaven.org

*You can also find out more about the traits here: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/02/11-sickening-signs-youre-dealing-with-a-sneaky-female-narcissist/

*Grey Rock Method: https://lovefraud.com/the-gray-rock-method-of-dealing-with-psychopaths/ ]]>2149female narcissists,narcissism,narcissistic abuse,psychology,psychopathyfalsefull30 Kickass Affirmations for Staying No Contact With an Abusive Narcissisthttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/30-kickass-affirmations-for-staying-no-contact-with-an-abusive-narcissist--15492899http://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/05/30-kickass-affirmations-for-going-no-contact-with-an-abusive-narcissist/]]>http://www.blogtalkradio.com/selfcarehaven/2017/05/13/30-kickass-affirmations-for-staying-no-contact-with-an-abusive-narcissistSat, 13 May 2017 07:00:00 +0000Self Care HavenSee the article version of this article here: http://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/05/30-kickass-affirmations-for-going-no-contact-with-an-abusive-narcissist/http://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/05/30-kickass-affirmations-for-going-no-contact-with-an-abusive-narcissist/]]>2982healing,narcissistic abuse,narcissists,sociopaths,toxic relationshipsfalsefullPower Affirmations for Emotional Abuse and Bullying Survivorshttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/power-affirmations-for-emotional-abuse-and-bullying-survivors--15492901http://www.blogtalkradio.com/selfcarehaven/2017/05/09/power-affirmations-for-emotional-abuse-and-bullying-survivorsTue, 09 May 2017 21:30:00 +0000Self Care HavenI've created these powerful affirmations / manifesto to help keep you grounded during times of distress. Meant to inspire, encourage and empower you when you feel invalidated, bullied or otherwise pulled down by negativity.486bullying,emotional abuse,narcissistic abuse,ptsd,traumafalsefullHow Abuse Survivors Can Stage Their Own Victories from Abusehttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-abuse-survivors-can-stage-their-own-victories-from-abuse--15492907http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying-ebook/dp/B01B01O3PA/]]>http://www.blogtalkradio.com/selfcarehaven/2016/02/11/how-abuse-survivors-can-stage-their-own-victories-from-abuseThu, 11 Feb 2016 06:30:00 +0000Self Care HavenFor more information on how to stage your own recovery from abuse, pre-order my new book, Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself,...http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying-ebook/dp/B01B01O3PA/]]>368abuse,healing,narcissism,narcissistic abuse,traumafalsefullWhat is the Difference Between an Addict and a Narcissist?https://www.spreaker.com/episode/what-is-the-difference-between-an-addict-and-a-narcissist--15492906http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying-ebook/dp/B01B01O3PA/]]>http://www.blogtalkradio.com/selfcarehaven/2016/02/11/what-is-the-difference-between-an-addict-and-a-narcissistThu, 11 Feb 2016 06:30:00 +0000Self Care HavenIn this episode, I explore the distinction between an addict and a narcissistic abuser who also abuses alcohol and/or drugs. To learn more about narcissism and substance use, pre-order my new book, Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue...http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying-ebook/dp/B01B01O3PA/]]>227alcoholism,narcissistic abuse,narcissistic personality disor,npd,substance abusefalsefullHealing from Narcissistic Abuse: Tips and Toolshttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/healing-from-narcissistic-abuse-tips-and-tools--15492902http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying-ebook/dp/B01B01O3PA/]]>http://www.blogtalkradio.com/selfcarehaven/2016/02/11/healing-from-narcissistic-abuse-tips-and-toolsThu, 11 Feb 2016 06:30:00 +0000Self Care HavenTo learn more about the healing modalities available and the universal 11 Steps abuse survivors must take on the road to recovery, pre-order Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying...http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying-ebook/dp/B01B01O3PA/]]>411abusive relationships,domestic violence,narcissistic abuse,pathology,self-carefalsefullEmotional Abuse 101: Why do victims stay so long in abusive relationships?https://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotional-abuse-101-why-do-victims-stay-so-long-in-abusive-relationships--15492908http://www.blogtalkradio.com/selfcarehaven/2016/02/02/emotional-abuse-101-why-do-victims-stay-so-long-in-abusive-relationshipsTue, 02 Feb 2016 06:30:00 +0000Self Care HavenAn audio excerpt from my new book, Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, explains the reasons why abuse victims stay in abusive relationships, including the biochemical and...420falsefullEmotional Abuse 101: Why do abusers contact their former victims?https://www.spreaker.com/episode/emotional-abuse-101-why-do-abusers-contact-their-former-victims--15492910http://www.blogtalkradio.com/selfcarehaven/2016/02/02/emotional-abuse-101-why-do-abusers-contact-their-former-victimsTue, 02 Feb 2016 04:30:00 +0000Self Care HavenI discuss "hoovering," a technique abusers such as narcissistic abusers use to regain control after the ending of an abusive relationship. For more tips on healing from abuse, be sure to visit selfcarehaven.wordpress.com.314abuse,abusive relationships,hoovering,relationships,traumafalsefull