https://www.spreaker.com/show/caregiving-for-dementia_1So basically the show is a little bet on everything that we do and get into as a Family.]]>enSociety & CultureCopyright Michael Delaneyhttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/766c846851b3c786e3aeb6cd38813c8f.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/show/caregiving-for-dementia_1Fri, 03 Dec 2021 19:20:03 +0000Michael DelaneyMichael Delaneyfeeds@spreaker.comThe show is about the Delaney Family that is caregiving for someone with dementia. My mother has had dementia for two years now, and I 'm hoping that this podcast will help someone how's in the some situation. Also, I may talk about my feeling on a...So basically the show is a little bet on everything that we do and get into as a Family.]]>cleanepisodicMichael Delaneyfeeds@spreaker.comThe show is about the Delaney Family that is caregiving for someone with dementia. My mother has had dementia for two years now, and I 'm hoping that this podcast will help someone how's in the some situation. Also, I may talk about my feeling on a lot of things like religion, politics, and there may even be a lot electronics. So basically the show is a little bet on everything that we do and get into as a Family.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/michaeldelaney/27-months-without-mommye3aa6ca9-58b7-4a23-bddf-ff57fc5882b5Fri, 03 Dec 2021 18:30:00 +0000Michael DelaneyThis is just an update of the family. 27 Months after losing Mommy!2027cleanfullMichael DelaneyThis is just an update of the family. 27 Months after losing Mommy!Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/michaeldelaney/life-after-caregiving-part-2baf79e2d-6e7b-45c9-8313-34302295014cMon, 10 Feb 2020 10:00:00 +0000Michael DelaneyThis Episode is a continuation of what went on after Mommy was picked up.1977cleanfullMichael DelaneyThis Episode is a continuation of what went on after Mommy was picked up.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/michaeldelaney/life-after-care-giving267f3722-308f-4b5a-bbbb-6f6ff4609cfbFri, 31 Jan 2020 10:00:00 +0000Michael DelaneyThis is the first of a few episodes that goes through what you may feel right immediately after your loved one passes away. There's not a whole lot of show notes of these episodes it's just me talking about what happened immediately after mommy's...2130cleanfullMichael DelaneyThis is the first of a few episodes that goes through what you may feel right immediately after your loved one passes away. There's not a whole lot of show notes of these episodes it's just me talking about what happened immediately after mommy's death. What I thought would happen that didn't and that kind of thing. I hope these few episodes help you get along for a few months immediately following your loved one's death.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/michaeldelaney/a-happy-thanksgiving-messagea08cd784-6a7e-4d26-babd-b0c7be35ab4dWed, 27 Nov 2019 10:00:00 +0000Michael DelaneyThis episode is a brief message to all those who are still downloading the podcast happy Thanksgiving to all136cleanfullMichael DelaneyThis episode is a brief message to all those who are still downloading the podcast happy Thanksgiving to allNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/michaeldelaney/caregiving-journey-ended385a44b88b1d4305b168869f0694bd40Tue, 03 Sep 2019 17:28:23 +0000Michael Delaney187cleanfullMichael DelaneyNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/michaeldelaney/the-hardest-talk-a-family-can-never-have3325feb032894362816b6f683fb43167Tue, 03 Sep 2019 05:41:17 +0000Michael DelaneyEpisode # 93 There comes a time in caregivers journey that they know time is very close to running out. We hear caregiving for dementia have realized that fact. The past five days Mama has not eat anything at all, the past four days...1563cleanfullMichael DelaneyEpisode # 93 There comes a time in caregivers journey that they know time is very close to running out. We hear caregiving for dementia have realized that fact. The past five days Mama has not eat anything at all, the past four days Mama has not drank anything, and for the past three days Mama’s been very hard to wake up at all. When she is awake it’s about two minutes and she’s right back out. Mamas, breathing has also changed its no longer normal breathing. Doesn’t look the same, doesn’t sound the same as the normal breathing does Mama breeze through her mouth now and has for the past three days. And also she’s breathing through her mouth it’s not as loud as you would think it should be. If you listen to me anytime at all you know that we keep my older brother and his wife informed as to what mamas doing anytime something changes with Mama last night we had the hardest conversation the family can have. We talked about what to do when this journey is over. What to expect and what not to expect from Mama. From the people that we need to talk to when it’s done. What we want and what we don’t want as for his funeral arrangements. I guess I’m kind of lucky in this respect because my older brothers always told me that he married mom, meaning that his wife and mom think an awful lot alike and I know from my own standpoint I’ve had conversations with mom and turned around had same conversation with his wife and dam near had the same conversation and there was no way, absolutely no way that mom and his wife had talked. So now I find myself trying to come to grips with the fact of not having mom in the living room. Mama not be in there when I come home from the store. Not knowing exactly how to fill. All kind of emotions are floating through my head, my heart, and I’m sure that the same kind of things are going on with Stephanie and Michael I’m sure they have all kind of feelings running through their brains as well. Feeling helpless is probably my number one feeling right now. Not being able to help mom do anything at all.  Everything is changing so rapidly this week, although mom is still with us for now we are getting prepared for Mama’s last trip to West Virginia.  I’m not sure if there will be in episode next couple weeks I’ll have to play that by ear.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/michaeldelaney/caregiving-mistakes-regrets64eebe9e8b8a4509a36d3191c7ef9c86Tue, 20 Aug 2019 00:36:17 +0000Michael DelaneyIn your caregiving a lot of times you do things in the heat of the moment. After time goes by you wonder whether or not what you did was the right thing to do.1873cleanfullMichael DelaneyIn your caregiving a lot of times you do things in the heat of the moment. After time goes by you wonder whether or not what you did was the right thing to do.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/michaeldelaney/know-it-all-doctors7fa00df6fff64a089b7ed0d0931637a1Mon, 05 Aug 2019 20:38:41 +0000Michael DelaneyWhile in your caregiving journey there will be a lot of things that happened that you don’t understand. I know when not when we first started there was a whole lot that went on that we didn’t understand there’s a whole lot that I haven’t gone into...1813cleanfullMichael DelaneyWhile in your caregiving journey there will be a lot of things that happened that you don’t understand. I know when not when we first started there was a whole lot that went on that we didn’t understand there’s a whole lot that I haven’t gone into with this podcast that went on when Mama first got dementia. That’s one reason why I started this podcastNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/michaeldelaney/getting-your-loved-one-to-do-whatever2bac7b4b19a642ec9e9bfb6d41beeb63Mon, 29 Jul 2019 15:45:36 +0000Michael DelaneyThere are times when you try to get your loved one to do something that they don’t want to do. When that happens the only thing that you can do is back off and give a little better time and try again you just need to keep trying until it works.1608cleanfullMichael DelaneyThere are times when you try to get your loved one to do something that they don’t want to do. When that happens the only thing that you can do is back off and give a little better time and try again you just need to keep trying until it works.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/michaeldelaney/there-but-not-there1b47de8501394e408eb0f542cf0ecf6bMon, 08 Jul 2019 23:00:19 +0000Michael DelaneyEpisode # 88 There are times when mama just seems to be staring out into space. There are times when mama doesn’t look at you but she looks through you. She doesn’t realize there’s anything going on around her. Over the Fourth of July...2037cleanfullMichael DelaneyEpisode # 88 There are times when mama just seems to be staring out into space. There are times when mama doesn’t look at you but she looks through you. She doesn’t realize there’s anything going on around her. Over the Fourth of July weekend mamas great-granddaughter come to see her. Not mama seem to be fixated on the granddaughter but I’m not sure whether she realized it was her granddaughter or if she just realized that somebody different was in the house. Mama was not afraid of the granddaughter because she did allow the granddaughter to feed her some food, she did talk to the granddaughter, she did hold the granddaughter’s hand. Which I believe told us that mama was not afraid of the granddaughter. Mama was never one for the fireworks even before she got dementia now she would take us kids to see the fireworks are let us kids have fireworks at the house for the Fourth of July especially sparklers but that was back before the government said you couldn’t have a said the fireworks were dangerous. So mama didn’t even acknowledge the fact that the fireworks were on the TV this year the didn’t seem too upset her at all she didn’t react to them at all and didn’t seem to anyway. When mama first got her dementia I would always tell her that I love her I still do that today but I used to get on I love you too or a me too however I am no longer getting tighter those all I’m getting now is oh okay. There are times when I don’t even get that all I get is the blank stare. I understand that this dementia will eventually take everything away from mama. I’m wondering if this blank stare into space is part of the dementia taking everything away from mama. It’s a stare of almost looking through you instead of at you. When mama broke her hip the insurance company sent in some therapist in nurses and stuff and one of the therapists worked with mom’s legs and showed Stephanie and I how to do some exercises with mom’s legs and mama reacts to those exercises especially the lake that has the broken hip. Now I don’t think the exercises are actually hurting the hip however I do believe that they are making mama a little more uncomfortable because of mama’s reaction. I do believe that the blank stares or the stare into space is happening a little more frequent it last a little longer and it takes a little bit more to get a reaction out of mama than normal. However fortunately it doesn’t seem to last very long once we start moving mama around a little bed once we start talking to mom once we start Robin mama’s back mama comes to her self for lack of a better description. I have not been able to pinpoint any trickier that causes this blank stare. The stare is just there at any time and I have not been able to figure out anything that’s causing it nothing that mama does nothing that’s on the TV nothing that we do here to house so I’m not sure where the stare comes from it just appears out of nowhere for no reason.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/michaeldelaney/family-interference6d7685ab5a58483493414e9bf25d661dMon, 01 Jul 2019 11:00:17 +0000Michael DelaneyEpisode # 87 This week’s episode of caregiving for dementia was inspired by a Facebook group post someone said something about their siblings giving them a hard time about caregiving for their loved one. If you are the main caregiver...2233cleanfullMichael DelaneyEpisode # 87 This week’s episode of caregiving for dementia was inspired by a Facebook group post someone said something about their siblings giving them a hard time about caregiving for their loved one. If you are the main caregiver for your loved one you are the one that is dealing with the aftereffects of your siblings coming to visit. If they are not around 24 seven 365 days a year like you are, if they are not sharing in the caregiving you’ll need to be able to tell your siblings to kiss your you know what, if they start trying to telling you what you need to do and what you don’t need to do. Mamma’s had six of us kids five of us are still living. Three of the five have just up and disappeared. They don’t call, they don’t write, and they definitely, definitely don’t come around to see mom. They have been gone for 5 or 6 years and if they were to show up today I don’t know that I’d would let them in the house. I’m not even sure I’d have a long drawn out conversation with any of them. Your siblings should have enough respect for you and for your loved one that they would not argue too awful much about what you’re doing and what you’re not doing. If your siblings don’t have enough respect for you or your loved one then you need to be able to put them in their place. After all you are the one that’s taking care of your loved one not them. The siblings would have a hard time forcing you to do anything other than what you’re doing, especially if you have a doctor’s letter saying that your loved one is incompetent. So believe me and my siblings showed up and started trying to tell me how to take care mom or how not to take care mom I would waste no time putting them in their place and if need be waive the doctor’s letter at them just let them know that the Dr. knows that she’s incompetent and that you know that the Dr. knows. When Mama divorced my stepfather the three siblings stayed with their father instead of living with mom and I. Now I’m not really going to whole lot of details here but they abandoned mom then. When the siblings decided that they wanted to go to college they knew where to go to get the help for college they knew that mom would help them any way that she could. Mama helped all three of them through college one she even helped with other bills and did without a lot of things and we didn’t do a lot of things when it was just mom and I in my 20s because the three of them were in school. They needed mom while they were in school. Now then that Mama needs them, and they have all, once again up and disappeared. Mama has two great grandkids that she’s never even laid eyes on. Mama is now so far gone that even if you brought the kids around Mama wouldn’t know them so Mama will never actually know those two great grandkids because their mother is not around. Before Mama got sick my sister would come down and see mom and take mom shopping and whatever else they wanted to do but when they got home,all  Mama wanted to do  in the evening was rest. When she wasn’t here she would call every evening and talk to mom for at least an hour or so. But since Mama has been diagnosed with this devastating disease of dementia none of them are around. MamaNo