Young Black Married Christian

Why Your Spouse May HATE Your Apology

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 22:24:10 +0000

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In this episode, you will learn the 3-step "apology system" that does more than just stop the fighting—it actually "disarms" your spouse and turns your biggest arguments into "bouquets of roses." If you’ve ever felt like your apologies don't get very far, you cannot afford to miss the advice at 7:25 regarding the one thing that matters more than words.…

0:00 – Introduction

Welcome to the Young Black Married Christian podcast with Lashaud and Doriana James.

1:42 – Biblical Foundation for Reconciliation

A look at Matthew 5:23 and why God prioritizes reconciliation over religious offerings.

2:44 – Tip 1: The Speed of Your Apology

Why apologizing slowly is often rooted in pride and how "dead space" fuels arguments.

4:03 – Tip 2: Explaining the Impact

The power of articulating your spouse’s feelings to disarm conflict.

5:04 – Real-Life Example: Sleep Deprivation and Irritability

Lashaud and Doriana share a personal story about a recent disagreement and how they navigated it.

7:25 – Tip 3: The Plan for Changed Behavior

Why the best apology is a strategy for change, referencing Ephesians 4:28.

9:05 – Public vs. Private Apologies

Why an apology should be as public as the offense.

10:55 – Thorns vs. Roses

How to shift your perspective to see growth after a disagreement.

12:00 – The Phenomenal Family Inner Circle

Details on how to access the Marriage MBA, budgeting courses, and more.

16:20 – Final Encouragement and Closing

A prophetic word of encouragement for your day and marriage.

Key Takeaways

Don't Let the Sun Go Down: Speed is essential to prevent pride from taking root.
Validate Their Pain: When you explain how you affected your spouse, they no longer have to fight to make you understand.
Actions Speak Louder: A plan for different behavior in the future is what makes an apology trustworthy.

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How to Parent Without Losing Your Cool

Sat, 26 Apr 2025 05:45:07 +0000

02:41 – The Challenge of Parenting Without a Playbook
03:39 – Guiding Scripture: 1 Corinthians 13:4–7
04:38 – How the Love Test Became Their Family’s Only Rule
05:37 – Teaching Kids to Filter Behavior Through Love
07:05 – Integrating Faith and Parenting with Simplicity
08:05 – The Love Test as a Filter for Parenting Books and Advice
09:03 – Discipleship Through Daily Love and Behavior
10:59 – Teaching Love from the Inside Out (Not Just Compliance)
12:25 – Parenting With Virtue Over Rules
13:23 – Reflection: Are You Parenting From a Framework or Just Rules?
13:51 – Action Step: Propose “Love as the One Rule” to Your Spouse
14:46 – Extending Love Beyond Parenting: Leadership and Integrity
15:46 – Love-Centered Leadership Shifts Priorities From Profit to People
19:02 – Companies Built on Love Outperform the S&P 500 by 1400%
20:27 – Don’t Use Business-Only Tools for Parenting
21:54 – Using Love as the Core Framework Across All Life Arenas
23:17 – The Power of Consistency: Being the Same at Work and Home
24:44 – C.S. Lewis and the Idea That the Mask Is Your True Self
26:10 – Love in Apology: How to Repair Mistakes as a Parent
27:35 – Redo Moments: Letting Kids Practice the Right Behavior
28:32 – Recap: Love, Leadership, and Living with Integrity
29:58 – Ask Your Questions via SpeakPipe or Access More Resources
30:59 – Final Word: “Connect Before You Correct”

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How to Talk About Money Without Shutting Down or Blowing Up

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 20:49:14 +0000

01:49 – What Jesus and Proverbs Teach Us About Money
02:47 – The S.A.F.E. Framework for Budgeting
03:48 – How to Steward Your Money to Honor God
05:42 – How to Get on the Same Page with Your Spouse
10:35 – How to Focus on One Budgeting Goal
14:48 – How to Bring Enthusiasm to Your Budget Meetings
16:42 – Final Recap: Stewardship, Agreement, Focus, Enthusiasm
17:11 – Action Step: What’s Your Small Step Today?

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How to Reflect God's Forgiveness in Relationships

Thu, 21 Dec 2023 08:40:02 +0000

LaShaude and Dorianna James explore how the gospel strengthens marriages by fostering heaven on earth, emphasizing forgiveness and rejecting perfection. They advocate for modeling relationships after Jesus' love, promoting forgiveness and deeper spiritual connections.

04:16 - Understanding the Gospel's Impact: Experiencing Heaven on Earth
06:35 - The Power of Gospel Understanding: Creating Paradise in Marriage
08:57 - Reflecting God's Love: How Forgiveness Transforms Relationships
11:37 - Role of Forgiveness: Overcoming Resentment in Marriage
14:49 - Gospel's Solution: Addressing Selfishness, Fear, and Laziness
18:00 - The Gospel as a Role Model: Influencing Marital Dynamics
21:41 - Conclusion & Engagement: Resources for Enhanced Marital Bonds

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Breaking the Chains of Laziness: Igniting Action in Your Marriage

Thu, 14 Dec 2023 08:30:03 +0000

From Fig Leaves to Fully Known: Overcoming Barriers to Intimacy in Marriage

Thu, 07 Dec 2023 07:35:02 +0000

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This episode delves into the profound essence of intimacy, guiding listeners through the transformative power of vulnerability in relationships. It offers insights on shedding masks and embracing authenticity, fostering stronger connections. The discussions touch on the importance of genuine community, encouraging listeners to create safe spaces for emotional expression and growth. It navigates the complexities of intimacy, spanning beyond physicality to encompass emotional, financial, and spiritual aspects. With tangible examples and relatable anecdotes, it equips individuals with tools to cultivate openness, trust, and grace in their relationships. Ultimately, this episode serves as a roadmap for fostering deeper connections and experiencing the richness of genuine intimacy in all facets of life.

Below are some detailed timestamps. Feel free to HOP in wherever! <3

00:00 - Introduction, Setting the Stage
00:26 - Encouragement to Download, Introduction of Hosts
00:54 - Reflection on Podcast Evolution and Material Sharing
01:24 - Reflecting on the Last Episode's Depth
01:50 - Banter on Parenting and Topic Introduction: Fear of Intimacy
02:19 - Exploring Fear of Intimacy in Relationships
03:18 - Concealing True Selves, Withholding in Relationships
04:13 - Importance of Being Fully Known for Full Love
05:11 - Gospel's Role in Allowing Openness in Relationships
06:08 - Encouraging Intimacy with God's People and Spouse
07:03 - Experience of Love Within Community and Marriage
07:31 - Impact of Vulnerability in Strengthening Relationships
07:56 - Battling Enemy's Lies through Openness and Community
08:54 - Strengthening Against Enemy's Attacks Through Support
09:50 - Importance of Genuine Christian Community
10:19 - Experiencing God's Grace Through Community
10:47 - Actively Participating in a Godly Community
11:16 - Fighting for Authenticity in Relationships
11:44 - Shedding Secrecy to Embrace Vulnerability
12:11 - Overcoming Past Family Dynamics for Intimacy
12:39 - Consistently Pushing for Emotional Openness
13:03 - Creating Safe Spaces for Vulnerability
13:27 - Cultivating a Safe Place for Emotional Expression
13:56 - Integrity and Wholeness Through Openness
14:26 - Addressing the Tiring Facade of Secrecy
14:44 - Biblical Perspective on Wholeness and Intimacy
15:11 - Analogies of Wearing Fig Leaves in Relationships
15:35 - Encouragement to Drop the Mask, Embrace Fullness
16:03 - Establishing a Groundwork for Intimacy
16:33 - Ensuring Forgiveness and Grace in Relationships
17:00 - Initiating Tough Conversations for Intimacy
17:30 - Encouraging Full Disclosure and Support
17:59 - Cultivating an Environment of Forgiveness
18:23 - Embracing Imperfections and Growth Together
18:51 - Transition to Defining Intimacy
19:19 - Into-Me-See: Defining True Intimacy
19:41 - Intimacy Beyond Physical Connection
20:08 - Sharing Vulnerabilities, Insecurities, and Stories
20:35 - Intimacy in Financial and Emotional Sharing
21:05 - Aim for Progress, Not Perfection
21:34 - Building a Relationship Rooted in Trust
22:02 - Encouraging Openness in Marriage
22:26 - Preparation for Uncomfortable Conversations
22:55 - Embracing Fullness in Relationships
23:22 - Dive into Intimacy's Core Meaning
23:51 - Beyond Transactional Relationships
24:20 - Fighting for Emotional Transparency
24:49 - Acknowledging Challenges in Vulnerability
25:19 - Various Forms of Intimacy to Explore
25:49 - Conclusion & Encouragement for Intimacy

How To Improve Your Communication and Intimacy Without Feeling Lost For Words : Revisited

Tue, 05 Dec 2023 20:33:51 +0000

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[02:17] Some Scripture
[02:58] Don't Be A Fool
[03:55] Report vs Rapport
[04:20] Destination vs Journey
[05:19] What Happened To Them & In Them
[08:27] The Train VS The Rollercoaster
[10:00] Questions For Reflection & Action Steps For Application
[11:00] Our Best Conversations Have This
[12:20] Intimacy In Conversations
[13:05] I'm Too Tired To Talk At Night
[13:55] Be A Man (or Woman) Of The Second Shift
[14:55] Do You Give Your Best To Everyone But Your Spouse?
[18:30] Dorianna Makes It Wierd

Overcoming Selfishness: A Guide to Spiritual Unity in Marriage

Thu, 30 Nov 2023 06:22:07 +0000

Discover the beauty of marriage through the lens of faith! In this episode, we'll explore how shared beliefs and prioritizing each other are strengthened by faith. Uncover invaluable tips on building a resilient, loving bond, navigating challenges, and experiencing the profound impact of including God in your marriage.

05:09 - How to Understand the Impact of Selfishness on Oneness
07:58 - How to Prioritize Your Spouse's Spiritual Growth
10:20 - How to Trust God's Work in Your Spouse's Life
12:04 - How to Develop Spiritual Rhythms Together
16:22 - Conclusion: How to Focus on Overcoming Selfishness & Personal Growth

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How To Hold My Cheating Spouse Accountable

Fri, 07 Oct 2022 07:00:02 +0000

What does forgiveness, grace, & ACCOUNTABILITY look like when your spouse cheats?

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Singleness, Celibacy and Sexual Purity (FOR MARRIEDS TOO)

Sat, 24 Sep 2022 05:24:41 +0000

In this episode you'll learn:

How EVERYONE needs boundaries with people of the opposite sex.
The goal is not celibacy or just not cheating. The real goal is...
How community keeps your relationships safe.
...and so much more!

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PT2 Become a MASTER of Intimacy, Communication and Prayer With This Simple Tool [B.L.E.S.S. Framework]

Mon, 23 May 2022 01:45:09 +0000

How God Uses One Spouse To Save The Most Toxic Marriages & Relationships

Mon, 23 May 2022 01:37:17 +0000

How God can use one spouse to save the most toxic failing marriages in the world!

You're trying to...
invite your spouse into marriage counseling and they will not go
invite your spouse to read the books that you're reading and they won't do it
better your marriage and your relationship but you are in a relationship with the spouses completely unwilling to take steps forward

BUT it feels like...
you're just beating your head against the wall
you're destined to fail because you feel like it takes two to tango but your spouse is not moving whatsoever
you feel like a fool because your spouse is making you look bad in front of your friends and your friends are telling you you should quit
you want to treat your spouse the way that they treat you

Scripture:
And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth" (John 1:14).
Or do you despise the riches of his kindness, restraint, and patience, not recognizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance? (Romans 2:4)
We love him, because he first loved us. (1 John 4:19)
but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)

Bonus Teaching On How To Prevent Cheating (From 2020)

Mon, 23 May 2022 01:36:01 +0000

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I Cheated On My Spouse

Thu, 19 May 2022 17:51:45 +0000

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2. I loved my wife even though I cheated? What? How???
3. God used this terrible event to lead me to Him.
4. It gets better. It gets better than ever.

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Become a MASTER of Intimacy, Communication and Prayer With This Simple Tool

Tue, 17 May 2022 22:11:54 +0000

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Become a MASTER of Intimacy, Communication, and Prayer With This Simple Tool

[01:45] Shut Up And Listen!
[04:05] Learn The O2 Prayer
[05:00] How To Ask Good Follow-up Questions
[09:30] What is Discipleship?
[12:25] Do You Know Your Spouse's Obstacles and Opportunities?
[13:30] Getting To Know Your Host

How To Improve Your Communication and Intimacy Without Feeling Lost For Words

Tue, 03 May 2022 16:35:07 +0000

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[02:17] Some Scripture
[02:58] Don't Be A Fool
[03:55] Report vs Rapport
[04:20] Destination vs Journey
[05:19] What Happened To Them & In Them
[08:27] The Train VS The Rollercoaster
[10:00] Questions For Reflection & Action Steps For Application
[11:00] Our Best Conversations Have This
[12:20] Intimacy In Conversations
[13:05] I'm Too Tired To Talk At Night
[13:55] Be A Man (or Woman) Of The Second Shift
[14:55] Do You Give Your Best To Everyone But Your Spouse?
[18:30] Dorianna Makes It Wierd

3 Free Gifts That Will Make You Money and Save You Time

Mon, 18 Apr 2022 17:32:07 +0000

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Using Your Family Calendar To Win and Worship

Tue, 29 Mar 2022 01:20:02 +0000

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[04:12] S.A.F.E. Budgets and Family Calendar

How God Uses Community To Bless Your Marriage

Sun, 20 Mar 2022 10:00:03 +0000

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[02:00] What is "Christian community"?
[04:55] The Power Of Accountability
[06:00] Scripture On Christian Community
[08:20] I Want God In My Marriage
[09:20] God Works Through His People
[11:05] The Gifts Of God In Our Marriage
[19:15] You Need Intimacy In Your Small Group

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Fri, 18 Mar 2022 01:07:39 +0000

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What you'll learn:

[04:24] The Time Out Rule
[06:40] Using The Time Out Rule Correctly
[09:40] Intention Beats Accuracy
[13:57] God is Still There When You're Not "Productive"
[17:30] My Worth Is Set By God
[19:12] Humans' First Day At Work
[21:42] We Fight Against Our Limits
[24:53] You're Trying to Control Your Spouse
[27:42] A Podcast/Book Is Not Your Savior

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✔ increase the motivation for you and your spouse
✔send and receive CLEAR signals with your spouse

But it feels like:
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-you can't seem to be in the mood at the same time

In this episode, you'll quickly learn how to make room for play and foreplay.

How To Overcome Cheating, Lying, Porn Addiction Etc

Tue, 27 Jul 2021 21:57:04 +0000

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Sun, 25 Jul 2021 05:30:18 +0000

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Improve Your Marriage (Source Vs ReSource) Mini Episode

Thu, 22 Jul 2021 15:12:15 +0000

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Thriving Through Marriage Transitions Part 2 (w/ Sean and & Lanette Reed) l Episode 53

Wed, 16 Jun 2021 16:05:12 +0000

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Thriving Through Marriage Transitions Part 1 (w/ Sean and & Lanette Reed) l Episode 52

Mon, 07 Jun 2021 17:16:20 +0000

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✅ [02:45] Jesus used Teachings, Stories, and Questions
✅ [04:45] Atomesphese, Story Question Method of Asking Perfect Questions
✅ [05:21] Don't Argue Via Text Messages
✅ [07:55] Don't ask LOADED Questions
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✅ [12:53] Intimacy is INTO-ME-SEE
✅ [18:15] Communication Tips From an FBI Negotiators

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In this episode, you will learn …

✅[05:45] Ask For What You Want
✅ [07:40] Your Marriage Should Be Bathed In Prayer
✅ [09:00] Sitting With Your Father Is Never a Waste of Time.
✅ [10:45] Trust What's Happening Under The Surface
✅ [13:30] The Best Intimacy Advice We Have Is....
✅ [15:45] Your spouse studies differently than you.
✅ [18:37] Your Marriage Will Get EXPOSED
✅ [19:10] Children Will Expose You
✅ [20:50] Being sleepy is like being drunk?!? Don't fight drunk!?!
✅ [24:20] Is Your Spouse A Stay At Home Parent?
✅ [30:20] Why Does Everything Cause An Argument
✅ [34:25] How To Build Up Your Spouse With Love
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Tue, 23 Feb 2021 20:40:17 +0000

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Fri, 22 Jan 2021 18:23:51 +0000

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In this episode, we explore how quarantine has affected your marriage!

In this episode, you will learn …

1. This Pandemic is a magnifier 🔍 of where you're really at in your marriage and life. It exposed where we really were.

2. Sin is a 🦠 virus and cancer and seed that grows if not taken care of. The silent treatment is like pouring gas on the fire or letting a weed grow in your garden.

3. There's an opportunity in this solitude. You could cultivate an intimacy that will support you in 2021.

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1. We must help our spouse move from Unbelief To Belief in every area of their life.
2. Don't give your spouse so many compliments and criticism/corrections. They need to be reminded of the covenant relationship they have with God in Christ more than they need your words.
3. Use the 4 G's to help them know their identity in Christ.

God is great – so we don’t have to be in control
God is glorious – so we don’t have to fear others
God is good – so we don’t have to look elsewhere
God is gracious – so we don’t have to prove ourselves

How to Make Disciples Like Jesus Without Losing Your Family EPS 42

Fri, 09 Oct 2020 23:53:00 +0000

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1. Disciples Make Disciples (It's not our pastor's job... it's on us)
2. It's NOT family or mission... It's Family On Mission
3. Integration > Addition. We don't add disciple-making into our schedule we integrate it into our lives.

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How to Balance A Busy Schedule And Get Your Quality Time Back EPS. 41

Mon, 13 Jul 2020 08:50:08 +0000

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In this episode, you'll learn ...

1. Find Out What's Really Important To Your Family. Stop assuming you understand the priorities of your spouse.
2. Write down what's important. Develop an ideal week on paper and on purpose.
3. Give grace. The secret to an ideal week and a mission statement is giving yourself the grace to aim for it week after week.

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How Godly Families Fight For Social Justice l Eps. 40

Sat, 11 Jul 2020 17:41:10 +0000

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In this episode, you will learn …
1. Jesus cares about Justice.
2. Cast Your Votes. Using your voice to promote black people (and policies that support black people) into positions where they can make decisions for our community.
3. Advocate For The Arts. Intentionally consuming and supporting films, books, shows, and news outlets that portray black people in a fair and accurate way.
4. Reach Out With Relationships. Introducing people who don't look like you to your community and spiritual family.
5. Engage In The Economy. Using your dollar to only support businesses that share your values.

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Why We Cheat And What To Do After l EPS 39

Mon, 25 May 2020 06:45:06 +0000

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In this episode, you will learn …

1. Cheating comes from our hearts. It's not the other spouse's fault.
2. Faithfulness is a learned behavior. You need safeguards to help you stay pure.
3. It is not the end. This could be the start of your new honest open real relationship.

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How To Partner With Your Spouse Without Policing Them l EPS 38

Mon, 18 May 2020 00:59:39 +0000

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In this episode, you will learn …

3 Big Ideas:

1. Policing Your Spouse Only Trains Them To Hide
2. Change the Dynamic of How Truth Is Confessed
3. Pray and Trust God With the Unconfessed Secret Parts Of Your Relationship

Colossians 3:16 - Let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly in all WISDOM; teaching and admonishing one another...

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How To Reclaim Intimacy and Reconnect After Cheating l EPS 37

Sat, 09 May 2020 06:47:51 +0000

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3 Big Ideas:

✅The best apology is changed behavior. Changed behavior comes from God. You can change.
✅We forgive even though we still remember. Forgiving someone does not mean you no longer feel the pain of their offense.
✅Extend the same forgiveness that you've been given. God in Christ forgave us by absorbing in himself the destructive and painful consequences of our sin against him.

Ephesians 4:32 And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ.

How To Cultivate Intimacy and Improve your Sex Life l Eps 36

Sun, 03 May 2020 17:19:24 +0000

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How To Craft The Perfect Apology (Inner Circle January Episode UNLOCKED) l Eps 35

Sun, 03 May 2020 17:13:51 +0000

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How To Hear and Obey God's Voice l EPS 34

Sun, 12 Apr 2020 07:10:14 +0000

In this episode, you will learn …

✅ We need obedience-driven discipleship, not curriculum-driven discipleship. We all know more scripture than we apply.
✅ We should ask and answer, "What is God saying to you?". This is a question we should all be asking each other. Observe. Reflect. Discuss.
✅ We need to ask and answer, "What are you going to do about it?". This is a question we should all be asking each other. Plan. Have Accountability. Act.

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[02:00] Phenomenal Family Shoutouts
[03:45] How to know the difference between curriculum-driven discipleship versus obedience-driven discipleship.
[05:45] How do I OBSERVE what God is saying to me?
[06:15] How do I OBSERVE what God is saying to me in scripture?
[07:15] God speaking can feel like a speed bump. (see Jonah 1:4)
[08:35] God speaking can feel like a brick wall. (Acts 16:6)
[09:45] God speaking can feel like a window.
[10:15] God speaking can feel like a mirror. (Luke 15:17-20)
[10:45] How do I REFLECT and DISCUSS what God it saying to me?
[13:45] How do I PLAN what I'm going to do about it?
[17:45] We need ACCOUNTABILITY.
[21:00] We must ACT. Matthew 7:24-29
[22:30] Recap

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Securing The (Real Estate 101) Bag FT. Chris Winstead l Eps 33

Wed, 04 Mar 2020 22:16:29 +0000

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4 Big Ideas:

✅ Starting the Conversation with a realtor is FREE! You don’t pay the realtor that helps you buy a home. The seller of the home normally pays for all the realtors involved.
✅ You can use the equity built in your first home as the down payments for your next (bigger and better) home or start a business, college fund, etc.
✅ On average you only have to stay in a home for 5 years in order to have enough equity built in to profit from selling it.
✅ If you’re the "friend with a good job”. Buy a house and have your friends pay you rent.

[01:00] Introduction of Chris Winstead www.AllCitySA.com
[01:30] Chris calls you the Phenom-ily! *sorry -LJ*
[02:00] What is the simplified process of buying a house? Is it complicated?
[03:15] How much money do you need in your bank account in order to buy a house?
[04:30] Why go to FB and IG first?
[05:00] What is equity and why should you understand it?
[06:30] Your money is better spent growing in your home than growing in your bank account.
[07:00] Renting vs Buying a Home
[08:30] Securing the Bag means keeping the bag by not paying rent forever. Pay yourself by purchasing a home.
[09:00] Check out the home you’re going to buy at different times of the day
[10:00] Why have your landlord raise your rent when you can have a fixed mortgage?
[12:00] How long do I have to stay in a house if I buy it? What’s the process of selling?
[17:00] What are some successful ways to profit from real estate? What if I’m not married?
[19:00] Recap
[21:00] Lighting Round Questions

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The 3 Main Ingredients For Love l Eps 32

Wed, 19 Feb 2020 04:05:03 +0000

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8 Mistakes You Don't Want To Make For Newlyweds l Eps 31

Thu, 23 Jan 2020 17:31:11 +0000

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[03:30] #1 You don't know how to limit frustrations in your marriage.
[08:30] #2 You don't have a shared family budget for your time or your money.
[12:00] #3 You don't have a core mission or vision for your family.
[16:00] Revised James Family Mission Statement
[18:00] #4 You don't have agreed-upon rules for when you fight.
[22:00] #5 You believe that once you get married you'll live "happily ever after".
[23:30] #6 You believe that your marriage will solve personal problems that only God can fix.[26:30] #7 You stonewall when arguing.
[30:00] #8 You criticize or attack your spouse's character instead of the behavior their doing.

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How To Set Boundaries With People Outside Your Marriage l Eps. 30

Mon, 06 Jan 2020 16:11:46 +0000

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In this episode, you will learn …
✅ Pleasure without boundaries quickly turns dark. This episode will teach you why and how to set healthy boundaries with people outside your marriage.
✅Don't fulfill legitimate needs in illegitimate ways.
✅Any friendships without boundaries quickly turns dark.
✅Don't put yourself in tough situations to have to make tough decisions.
✅Sometimes the best way to say no is to not give yourself the opportunity to say yes.
✅Don't use the "brother/ sister in Christ" vocabulary to allow you to put yourself in intimate situations.

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9 Ways The Gospel Transforms Our Marriage l Eps 29

Mon, 16 Dec 2019 09:20:20 +0000

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1. Because of the gospel, Christians have become new creations (2 Corinthians 5:17).
2. Because of the gospel, we are forgiven (Ephesians 1:7).
3. Because of the gospel, we can forgive, just as Christ forgave us (Ephesians 4:32).
4. Because of the gospel, we are accepted by God.
5. Because of the gospel, sin's ruling power over us is broken (Romans 6:6, 14).
6. Because of the gospel, we have access to God through Christ (Hebrews 4:14-16).
7. Because of the gospel, we have hope (Romans 5:1-4).
8. Because of the gospel, Christ dwells in us by his Holy Spirit (Galatians 3:13-14).
9. Because of the gospel, we have the power to fight and overcome remaining sin.

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Biggest Problem In Marriage Ft. Speaker Felice Mattheui l Episode 28

Mon, 02 Dec 2019 09:30:21 +0000

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How Submission Should Look In Marriage Ft. Married Cultured Known Podcast l Episode 27

Fri, 08 Nov 2019 09:29:12 +0000

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7 Common Mistakes In First Year Of Marriage l Episode 26

Tue, 01 Oct 2019 04:49:19 +0000

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Debt Free Degree Ft. Anthony ONeal l Episode 25

Mon, 16 Sep 2019 12:46:35 +0000

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[05:00] Some questions about Anthony's Unique Story/ Past
Debt Free Degree Specific Questions
-Tell me about your new book, Debt-Free Degree.
[14:00] You say that you can go to school debt-free. How can you do it?
[18:30] It’s never too early to plan. What should parents do each year to start planning for life after high school?
[22:00] So you have a junior or senior in high school and no money saved for college. What do you say to that parent?
[24:30] What’s some advice parents can give to their kids so that they can be successful once they’re in college.
[28:30] Lighting Round Questions

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7 Tips To Deal With In-Laws l Eps. 24

Fri, 06 Sep 2019 16:33:29 +0000

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Do you want to learn 7 Tips To Deal With In-Laws?

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SPECIAL SHOUTOUT To Our First Founding Student Abigail S.
[04:15] Work With Your Spouse
[05:45] Set Boundaries and Limits. This is where you can use your family's core values.
[11:00] Enforce the Boundaries and Limits
[16:15] Important ACTION STEP
[18:00] Communicate Directly
[23:00] Know Yourself and Be Yourself
[24:20] Honor the Relationship between your spouse and your in-laws
[25:50] Don't Fumble the Inheritance
[29:15] Quick Recap and Action Steps
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4 Ways To Resolve Budget Fights l Episode 22

Fri, 30 Aug 2019 09:47:31 +0000

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6 Things Submission Is Not l Episode 21

Fri, 09 Aug 2019 17:51:21 +0000

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6 Things That Submission is Not

[04:15] Submission doesn't mean always agreeing with your husband
[06:45] Don't pay the submit date on your wife!
[7:10] Submission does not mean leaving your brain at the altar.
Exodus 4:25 Proverbs 31:16
[11:15] Submission does not mean you do not try to influence your husband.
[15:15] Submission is not putting the will of the husband before the will of Christ.
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[18:45] Submission does not mean getting all of her spiritual strength through her husband.
[20:40] Submission does not mean living or acting in fear.
https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/six-things-submission-is-not

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39 Unique Ways to Say I Love You Pt. 1 l Episode 19

Sat, 29 Jun 2019 05:05:20 +0000

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Want to learn 39 Ways To Use The 5 Love Languages To Tell Your Spouse "I Love You!"?

✅ [01:20] 8 Tips For Words of Affirmation
✅ [11:50] A Special Game We Play
✅ [13:00] 7 Tips For Quality Time
✅ [18:50] 9 Receiving Gifts

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Darkflix- Overcoming Pornography l Episode 18

Mon, 24 Jun 2019 15:44:27 +0000

This is a valuable conversation about our personal experience with pornography and how God has delivered us from its grasp. This episode is for anyone overcoming this habit or someone who is striving with people overcoming this habit. This is our most powerful and transparent episode to date.

[02:00] What was the allure?
[05:00] What was the effect of watching Darkflix?
[09:45] When did you make that decision to stop?
[12:00] How did God save us from Darkflix?
[21:00] What if my spouse watches Darkflix?
[23:00] How to deal with the shame?
[28:00] What would you say to someone trying to be free?
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3 Core Values That Saved Our Marriage l Episode 17

Tue, 18 Jun 2019 17:01:27 +0000

We describe 3 core values that saved our marriage from a HEATED argument. You'll want to hear them all and how we applied them!

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[02:00] What qualities should I look for in a spouse? From Proverbs 31
-Does this person follow through on his word?
-Does this person make you stronger?
-Is this person hard-working?
-Is this person generous and hospitable?
-Is this person wise?
-Does this person trust Jesus
[05:00] What happened?!?!
[07:30] Core Value: Don’t make permanent decisions based on temporary feelings.
[08:00] Core Value: Truth has a time and a vehicle.
[10:00] Core Value: We operate on God’s Time and God’s Dime.
[12:30] Mission Statement: Reflect God Reflect Greatness
[15:15] Bonus: Blame and Shame in Marriage
[17:15] Recap & 3 HW Assignments
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5 Love Languages l Episode 16

Wed, 12 Jun 2019 04:53:19 +0000

In this episode, we explore the 5 love languages.

[01:30] How to keep your God as your source instead of your spouse?
[09:30] Why should we study the 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman?
There are other booksThe 5 love languages for kids, teenagers, singles & military edition.
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/resources/books/
[11:15] What are the 5 emotional Love Languages?
l. Words of affirmation – using words to build up the other person. “
2. Gifts – a gift says, “He was thinking about me. Look what he got for me.”
3. Acts of Service – Doing something for your spouse that you know they would like. For example, cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, are all acts of service.
4. Quality time – by which I mean, giving your spouse your undivided attention. Taking a walk together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and listening.
5. Physical touch-holding hands, hugging, kissing, sexual intercourse, are all expressions of love.
[13:30] Why are they called different “Languages”? If you have to communicate with another person and you don’t speak their language it’s just pointing grunting and broken communication. No matter how hard you try to communicate love in your primary language IF you don’t speak your spouse's language it will not translate into them feeling loved.
[14:30] Marriage Confession = We did not speak each other’s language.
[20:20] Who cares... Love is love, right? No. Being sincere is not enough. We must be willing to learn our spouse's primary love languages and choose to love them in their language for a long period of time (without conditions). Learn your language to effectively share with your spouse what you want.
[21:30]Where can they find the test? Take the Love Languages Quiz. Find out yours and your spouses. Link in description. https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

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5 Tips to Survive The Honeymoon Phase l Episode 15

Thu, 16 May 2019 06:19:23 +0000

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[04:00] New Content. What is the honeymoon phase?
[08:30] What are 5 tips to survive the Honeymoon Phase? How should we go through the honeymoon phase?

1. Be aware of your mental state.
2. Surround yourself with Christian fellowship that can hold you accountable.
3. Base your boundaries and commitments on God's word.
4. Redefine love to mean sacrifice.
5. Constant isn’t common. See constant consistency as concrete and steadfastness. It’s sexy!

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Securing The Bag l Episode 14

Wed, 10 Apr 2019 05:50:21 +0000

This episode is all about securing the bag.

A budget doesn't limit your freedom. A budget gives you freedom. It's permission to spend. It allows you to give generously, spend wisely and save for the future

I enjoy being on the same page as Lashaude. Being able to agree on goals with him and as a team see our goal accomplished.

"Baby Step 1" and the others were fun for me to accomplish. It made me feel like we were a couple moving forward and getting stuff done.

-It'll take about 3 months to get the budget consistent.

- We were made to be a river, not a reservoir. Blessings were meant to flow through you not just to you. They are from God through you to others.
Hurt people hurt people. Blessed people bless people

-Stewardship means "We own nothing.“

"Every faculty you have, your power of thinking or of moving your limbs from moment to moment, is given you by God. If you devoted every moment of your whole life exclusively to His service, you could not give Him anything that was not in a sense His own already."
– C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

A budget puts your money on a mission. You can have more fun with a plan than you can without one. If you fail to plan then you plan to fail.

Saving $1000 is not for if something happens but WHEN something happens. These are wise healthy habits that inheriting wealth can’t teach you.

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Keys To Communication Ft. FELICE MATHIEU l Episode 13

Tue, 12 Mar 2019 06:53:55 +0000

This episode is all about communication.

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Creating Family Mission and Vision Statements

Fri, 08 Mar 2019 19:08:06 +0000

This 20-minute podcast episode lays out the James Family mission and vision statements that will empower you to form mission and vision statements for your family! This episode will equip you with the words and verbs needed to structure your family's core values.

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How To Fight Fair Mini-Episode

Fri, 18 Jan 2019 18:05:18 +0000

Vows That Shape Your Marriage Part 1 l Episode 11

Fri, 28 Dec 2018 22:37:49 +0000

We analyze the vows that I made to my wife. We reflect on the purpose and plan we expressed on our wedding day. Also, my wife grades me on my performance so far.

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3 Ways To Overcome Poison From Our Past l Episode 10

Sun, 16 Dec 2018 03:01:37 +0000

Take At Least 1 Action Step from this episode and APPLY it. (James 1:22-25)

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[02:20] What’s the topic for today? How the past is poisoning the present.
[03:00] Don’t believe the myth that you and your spouse both agree on the expectations for your marriage. Instead, remember that the more openly you work to express these expectations the more you can manage expectations.
[04:00] We are the plug for the certified SYMBIS Assessment.
[04:20] The expectations you bring into the marriage need to be expressed.
[05:35] What are the unspoken expectations that you have in your marriage? How are could they be negatively affecting or frustrating your marriage?
[06:40] It’s never to late to reevaluate the expectations that you have for your marriage with your spouse.
[06:50] What to do when you start to find out your spouse isn’t meeting your expectations?
[07:50] How are you going to manage your expectations? Frustration = unmet expectations.
[09:20] Your overall personal well being does affect your marriage. What personal challenges have you brought into the marriage but have neglected to address?
Overall well-being is a measure of emotional and spiritual health of the individuals within the marriage. A couple's relationship can only be as healthy as the two individuals within a relationship. Trying to build high levels of intimacy with others before you've properly managed your own emotional spiritual health is dangerous. This is where many couples find themselves searching for a spouse to complete them.
Marriage mathematics is not 2 halves make a whole it’s two (whole) people coming together as one.
Marriage mathematics should be two whole people become one (1+1=2) not two halves becoming one( ½ + ½ = 1).
[09:15] Podcast Giveaway Winners!
You don't want to put your spouse in a position the God was intended to feel. There's a certain level of healing reserved for God to perform not your spouse.
[15:05] Mutual empathy for one another can be the number one tool to resolve or avoid most conflicts within marriage.
[15:50] Here we discuss one of the best ideas we have for handling conflict.
1. Listen to their complaint.
2. Respond with “What I hear you saying is___.Am I right?”
3. If wrong go DIRECTLY back to step #1.
You don’t have to “win” or finish an argument on the spot. When needed ask for time to craft an appropriate response.
[18:20] Marriage is a process of leaving and cleaving.
Ephesians 5:31- "For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."
[20:20] Top Flight Security of the World Craig!
[24:00] In what areas of your life do you feel that you need personal healing? How can your spouse best support your healing?
[24:20] Embrace the process of learning your REAL spouse. Are you committed to learning and loving your REAL spouse?
[25:00] Two reason’s you don’t know your REAL spouse. (1) They put their “best foot forward” while dating. (2) There are parts of your spouse that were (properly) not shared with you while dating.
[24:30] How To Enter The Giveaway
[30:35] Disenchantment can lead to REAL intimacy.We want to be 100% known AND 100% loved.
[32:35] The God we serve FULLY knows us and FULLY loves us. He aint leaving you! Philippians 1:6
[35:21] LaShaude’s Marriage Confession