https://www.spreaker.com/show/divorceonplanetearthenRelationshipsKate Scharffhttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/aa31cde9f6ce2cc19355cd0fb26204ea.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/show/divorceonplanetearthSat, 16 Mar 2024 17:13:42 +0000Kate ScharffKate Scharffkatescharff@katescharff.comPsychotherapist/divorce expert Kate Scharff has worked with separating and divorcing families for 30 years. Both she and her co-host, psychotherapist Jane Prelinger, have been through divorce themselves- both as children and as adults. So they know,...falseepisodichttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/adults-whose-parents-split-the-invisible-children-of-divorce--57005443https://api.spreaker.com/episode/57005443Mon, 01 Jan 2024 20:18:00 +0000Kate ScharffWith divorce rates rising among people who are over 50, many of today's children of divorce are adults themselves- often with families of their own. Divorcing couples often assume their grown-up kids are "just fine." But these "invisible children of...2347adultchildrenofdivorce,childrenanddivorce,collaborativedivorce,coparenting,custody,divorceadvice,gooddivorce,graydivorce,healthydivorce,katescharff,latelifedivorce,lisaherrick,parentinganddivorcefalse30fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/separating-finances-in-divorce-it-doesn-t-have-to-be-a-nightmare-with-debora-may-cpa-cfp-cdfa--57323483https://api.spreaker.com/episode/57323483Tue, 28 Nov 2023 19:40:00 +0000Kate ScharffDividing finances in divorce- most separating couples dread it. After all, when you got married you didn't imagine having to discuss dividing all the assets you acquired during your marriage. Suddenly, the person you once shared a life with feels like...2518collaborativedivorce,co-parenting,deborahmay,divorce,divorceadvice,divorceagreement,divorcefinances,divorcefinancial,divorcefinancialplanner,katescharff,mediation,scharfffalse31fullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-29-protecting-your-children-in-divorce-an-update-on-the-latest-research-with-dr-lisa-herrick--49961208https://api.spreaker.com/episode/49961208Sun, 12 Jun 2022 20:00:00 +0000Kate ScharffIf you’re a divorcing parent, worries about how the split will affect your kids is probably the most upsetting and scary part of the whole experience. You have lots of questions, including "Is there anything I can do to make sure my divorce doesn’t...2744co-parenting,divorce,divorceadvice,divorceandkids,divorceresearch,highconflictdivorce,katescharff,lisaherrick,parenting,parentingadvice,parentinganddivorcefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-28-covid-mortgages-and-what-to-do-with-the-house--49745694https://api.spreaker.com/episode/49745694Sun, 15 May 2022 17:57:00 +0000Kate ScharffEven before the pandemic, divorcing couples struggled with the questions "What should we do with the house?" and "Where should each of us live?" Now, divorcing couples (many of whom have been trapped under the same roof for over two years) are...1931covid,coviddivorce,covidimpact,covidmortgages,covidrealestate,divorce,graydivorce,katescharff,margiehofberg,mortgagebroker,pandemic,pandemicmortgagesfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/ep-27-the-modern-pre-nup-there-s-a-better-way-really--48003634be surprised to learn that crafting a pre-nup should be a positive experience- one that strengthens the bond between you and your future spouse and sets you on a road to a happy, healthy marriage. Attorney Suzy Eckstein joins Kate to explain.]]>https://api.spreaker.com/episode/48003634Tue, 04 Jan 2022 00:26:00 +0000Kate ScharffWho’s afraid of the big bad prenup? Well, if you’re getting married probably you. So you might be surprised to learn that crafting a pre-nup should be a positive experience- one that strengthens the bond between you and your future spouse and sets...be surprised to learn that crafting a pre-nup should be a positive experience- one that strengthens the bond between you and your future spouse and sets you on a road to a happy, healthy marriage. Attorney Suzy Eckstein joins Kate to explain.]]>2535divorceadvice,divorceadvicepodcast,divorcepodcast,katescharff,katescharfftherapy,prenup,prenuptualagreementfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-26-divorce-mortgages-and-what-to-do-with-the-house--23811658https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23811658Fri, 20 Mar 2020 15:50:00 +0000Kate ScharffIf you're getting separated or divorced, where you'll each live is one of your biggest concerns. You have questions, like: "Can one of us keep the house?"; "Should one of us buy the other out?"; "How do we figure out what our house is worth?"; "Can I...3374divorce,divorceadvice,divorcemortgage,divorceonplanetearth,divorcepodcast,@janeprelinger,@katescharff,margiehofberg,moneyanddivorce,mortgage,mortgageprofessionalfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-25-how-to-protect-your-children-in-divorce-lessons-from-the-latest-research-with-dr-lisa-herrick--23404910https://api.spreaker.com/episode/23404910Thu, 05 Mar 2020 21:42:00 +0000Kate ScharffWhat steps can you take to make sure your divorce doesn't cause permanent damage to your child's development? Psychologist and divorce expert Dr. Lisa Herrick joins us to discuss what we can learn from the latest research on the impact of divorce on...3260childcustody,childrenofdivorce,custody,divorce,divorceresearch,katescharff,lisaherrickfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-24-is-collaborative-divorce-right-for-you-finding-the-right-divorce-for-you-part-2--22422541https://api.spreaker.com/episode/22422541Tue, 04 Feb 2020 22:47:15 +0000Kate ScharffCollabortive Divorce is an an out-of-court way to resolve your divorce disputes in a respectful, non-adversarial manner. Never heard of Collaborative Divorce? Heard of it, but want to know more? In this episode Kate and Jane are again joined by family...2473collaborativedivorce,collaborativedivorcecoach,divorce,divorceadvice,divorcecoach,divorcelawyer,divorcelitigation,divorcemediation,divorceoptions,divorcepodcast,janeprelinger,katescharff,scharff,@suzyecksteinfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-23-finding-the-right-divorce-for-you-part-1-what-are-your-options-and-how-do-you-choose--22422526https://api.spreaker.com/episode/22422526Tue, 04 Feb 2020 22:43:27 +0000Kate ScharffYou've decided to get divorced (or your spouse has decided for you)... Where to begin? In this episode Kate and Jane are joined by experienced family law attorney Suzy Epstein. Together they take on the confusing questions "How can I find a good...2088collaborativedivorce,divorce,divorcecourt,divorcelawyer,katescharff,mediation,scharfffalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-22-surviving-the-holidays-after-a-divorce-pt-2-10-tips-for-separating-and-divorced-parents--20837036https://api.spreaker.com/episode/20837036Thu, 19 Dec 2019 16:45:56 +0000Kate ScharffIf you're newly separated or divorced, the holidays can be tough. Especially if you have kids, you'll struggle with many questions, such as: "How can I surivive holiday time without my kids?", "How can I maintain or create new traditions on my own?",...2526divorce,divorceandtheholidays,@janeprelinger,@katescharff,parentingafterdivorce,survivingholidaysafterdivorcefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-21-surviving-the-holidays-after-a-divorce-pt-1-tips-for-people-who-don-t-have-kids-and-people-who-do--20837032https://api.spreaker.com/episode/20837032Thu, 19 Dec 2019 16:28:54 +0000Kate ScharffIf you're newly separated or divorced, the holidays can be particularly tough- fraught with feelings of loss, loneliness, alienation and destabilization. It can seem that while everyone you know is having a magical family experience, you're struggling...1455divorce,holidaysanddivorce,janeprelinger,katescharff,survivingholidayspostdivorcefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-20-10-tips-for-telling-your-children-about-the-divorce-pt-2--19640392https://api.spreaker.com/episode/19640392Wed, 23 Oct 2019 02:45:40 +0000Kate ScharffFor most divorcing parents, breaking the news to their kids is one the most upsetting parts of the experience. What, when and how to tell them? How to ease their pain? What if you and your future ex can't agree on a message? Take a breath, relax. You...1767divorceadvice,divorceparentingadvice,janeprelinger,katescharff,kidsanddivorce,telllingkidsaboutdivorcefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-19-10-tips-for-telling-your-children-about-the-divorce-pt-1--19615641https://api.spreaker.com/episode/19615641Mon, 21 Oct 2019 17:44:14 +0000Kate ScharffFor most divorcing parents, breaking the news to their kids is one the most upsetting parts of the experience. What, when and how to tell them? How to ease their pain? What if you and your future ex can't agree on a message? Take a breath, relax. You...1414divorce,divorceandkids,tellingkidsaboutdivorcefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-18-discipline-during-divorce-part-2-15-common-parenting-mistakes--18662481https://api.spreaker.com/episode/18662481Mon, 29 Jul 2019 17:56:07 +0000Kate ScharffDivorcing parents want to support their kids and minimize pain. But being a good parent sometimes means taking unpopular positions. And what if you don't have a cooperative co-parent who supports your philosophy? In this episode, Kate and Jane offer...2137disciplineandchildren,divorce,parentinganddivorcefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-17-disciplining-children-during-divorce-part-1-punishment-vs-consequence--18632772https://api.spreaker.com/episode/18632772Mon, 29 Jul 2019 17:44:07 +0000Kate Scharff"Now that we're splitting up, should I be softer on the kids or keep doing things the old way?" "Should my ex and I try to have the same rules?" "What if my ex undermines me with the kids?" Deciding how and when to discipline our kids during the...3420disciplineanddivorce,disciplineandkids,parenting,parentinganddivorcefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-16-how-to-choose-a-better-partner-next-time--17351824https://api.spreaker.com/episode/17351824Mon, 15 Jul 2019 11:19:00 +0000Kate Scharff"How did I get here?", "How did I not see this coming?", "Why did I marry that person in the first place?, "How can I avoid making the same mistakes again?" When you're baffled by your past, it's scary to imagine taking a step into the future. But...1140datingafterdivorce,divorce,divorcerecovery,remarriage,repartnering,secondmarriagefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-15-no-one-gets-how-hard-divorce-is-will-i-ever-feel-better--17351260https://api.spreaker.com/episode/17351260Mon, 18 Mar 2019 23:30:30 +0000Kate ScharffDivorce can be overwhelming, alienating and lonely. Even when friends and family want to help, they often grow tired of listening, offer unhelpful advice, or are simply at a loss. You may ask yourself "If divorce is so common, how come I'm the only...1066copingwithdivorce,divorce,divorcerecovery,healingfromdivorcefalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-14-separated-under-the-same-roof--15013066https://api.spreaker.com/episode/15013066Sun, 24 Jun 2018 20:34:00 +0000Kate ScharffDivorced but still living under the same roof? There are many reasons separating couples share a home for some period of time during the separation/divorce transition. For some it's a financial or legal necessity, for others part of a long-range plan...3113creativedivorce,custody,custodyplan,divorce,divorcedbutlivingtogether,divorcedunderthesameroof,janeprelinger,katescharff,nesting,nestinganddivorce,unusualcustodyplanfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-13-the-divorced-parents-pledge-part-6-of-6--15122077https://api.spreaker.com/episode/15122077Fri, 22 Jun 2018 23:32:00 +0000Kate ScharffOver years of working with children of divorce, Kate has compiled a list of 30 promises every divorcing parent should make to their children. In this sixth and final installment of our special series "The Divorced Parents' Pledge, " Kate and Jane...859falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-12-the-divorced-parents-pledge-part-5-of-6--15121976https://api.spreaker.com/episode/15121976Thu, 21 Jun 2018 23:09:00 +0000Kate ScharffOver years of working with children of divorce, Kate has compiled a list of 30 promises every divorcing parent should make to their children. In this fifth installment of our special series "The Divorced Parents' Pledge, " Kate and Jane discuss...1033falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-11-the-divorced-parents-pledge-part-4-of-6--15013158https://api.spreaker.com/episode/15013158Sun, 10 Jun 2018 21:01:28 +0000Kate ScharffOver years of working with children of divorce, Kate has compiled a list of 30 promises every divorcing parent should make to their children. In this fourth installment of our special series "The Divorced Parents' Pledge, " Kate and Jane discuss...1181childrenofdivorce,divorce,divorceandkids,parentingfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-10-the-divorced-parents-pledge-part-3-of-6--14840400https://api.spreaker.com/episode/14840400Sun, 20 May 2018 16:13:35 +0000Kate ScharffOver years of working with children of divorce, Kate has compiled a list of 30 promises every divorcing parent should make to their children. In this third installment of our special series "The Divorced Parents' Pledge, " Kate and Jane discuss...798custody,divorce,divorceadvice,goodparenting,highconflictdivorce,kidsanddivorce,parentingadvice,parentinganddivorce,prelinger,scharfffalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-9-the-divorced-parents-pledge-part-2-of-6--14840116https://api.spreaker.com/episode/14840116Sun, 20 May 2018 15:22:30 +0000Kate ScharffOver years of working with children of divorce, Kate has compiled a list of 30 promises every divorcing parent should make to their children. In this second installment of our special series "The Divorced Parents' Pledge, " Kate and Jane discuss...654co-parenting,divorce,divorceadvice,highconflictdivorce,parenting,parentingadvice,parentinganddivorce,relationshipadvice,relationships,selfhelpfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-8-the-divorced-parents-pledge-part-1-of-6--14840009https://api.spreaker.com/episode/14840009Sun, 20 May 2018 15:20:33 +0000Kate ScharffOver years of working with children of divorce, Kate has compiled a list of 30 promises every divorcing parent should make to their children. In this first installment of our special series "The Divorced Parents' Pledge, " Kate and Jane discuss...662childrenanddivorce,co-parenting,divorce,divorceadvice,highconflictdivorce,kidsanddivorce,parenting,parentinganddivorce,relationshipadvice,relationships,separationfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-7-divorce-advice-for-the-unfaithful--14839998https://api.spreaker.com/episode/14839998Sun, 20 May 2018 15:20:13 +0000Kate ScharffIf your infidelity played a part in the end of your marriage, you’re in for more-than-ordinarily tough sledding. In this episode Kate and Jane discuss this most painful and complex of divorce topics. They offer insights and practical tips for...2258adviceaftercheating,affairs,affairsanddivorce,cheating,cheatinganddivorce,divorce,infidelityfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-6-divorce-infidelity-and-your-kids--14839988https://api.spreaker.com/episode/14839988Sun, 20 May 2018 15:19:50 +0000Kate ScharffYour spouse has been unfaithful, you are understandably devastated. You want your kids to know the truth about their other parent and to learn right from wrong- and you certainly don't want to take responsibility for a divorce you don't want. Kate...2397affairs,cheating,cheatinganddivorce,divorce,divorceandinfidelity,infidelity,janeprelinger,katescharff,kidsanddivorce,marriage,relationshipadvice,relationships,separation,talkingtokidsaboutaffair,talkingtokidsaboutdivorce,tellingkidsaboutaffairfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-5-should-we-stay-together-until-our-kids-go-to-college--14398791https://api.spreaker.com/episode/14398791Tue, 27 Mar 2018 21:45:31 +0000Kate ScharffIn this episode of "Divorce on Planet Earth" Kate and Jane take on the oft-debated question of whether staying together until kids leave home is kinder and less disruptive than breaking up when they're younger and still living at home fulltime. Is...877divorce,divorceadvice,marriage,parenting,parentingadvice,prelinger,scharff,separation,staytogetherforthekids?falsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-4-spending-time-as-a-family-after-divorce-good-idea-or-bad--14391960https://api.spreaker.com/episode/14391960Tue, 27 Mar 2018 03:49:15 +0000Kate ScharffYou're getting divorced, and you want your kids to know that they still have two loving parents. You also want to minimize the disruption to your kids lives, and for them to see that you and your ex respect each other and can co-parent well. Does that...802co-parenting,divorce,divorceadvice,katescharff,prelinger,relationshipadvice,relationships,scharff,separationfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-3-my-ex-is-trashing-me-to-my-kids-help--14390862https://api.spreaker.com/episode/14390862Tue, 27 Mar 2018 00:00:46 +0000Kate ScharffHearing distorted, negative comments about you coming out of the mouths of your kids after they've spent time with their other parent is horribly painful. You know you're not supposed to disparage their other parent or put your kids in the middle,...1329co-parenting,divorce,divorceadvice,high-conflict,katescharff,prelinger,relationshipadvice,relationships,scharfffalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-2-you-re-getting-divorced-do-you-really-need-therapy--14312131https://api.spreaker.com/episode/14312131Sat, 17 Mar 2018 04:06:40 +0000Kate ScharffEpisode 2: Kate explores the reasons she usually recommends supportive therapy for her divorcing clients. She explains what kind of therapy to look for during divorce, and how to find the right therapist. She also addresses the concerns of therapy...837divorce,divorceadvice,katescharff,psychotherapy,scharff,therapyfalsefullhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/pilot-episode-kate-and-jane-explain-their-unique-approach-to-divorce-advice--14544093https://api.spreaker.com/episode/14544093Fri, 16 Mar 2018 15:25:00 +0000Kate ScharffIn this introduction to "Divorce on Planet Earth: Real World Advice for Well-Intentioned Humans," psychotherapist and divorce expert Kate Scharff (along with co-host, psychotherapist Jane Prelinger), explains her approach to divorce advice-- and what...1187advice,co-parenting,divorce,divorceadvice,divorceexpert,janeprelinger,katescharff,kidsanddivorce,prelinger,scharff,selfhelp,separationfalsefull