https://www.spreaker.com/show/phil-and-maude-on-successful-relationshienHealth & FitnessCopyright Phil Mayeshttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/51cff5d6c8230bbfbcb83c362c4f2acd.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/show/phil-and-maude-on-successful-relationshiSun, 26 May 2019 13:22:58 +0000Phil MayesPhil Mayesfeeds@spreaker.comEach week this podcast talks about some aspect of successful personal relationships. Phil and Maude believe that conflict-free relationships are possible for everyone, and talk about how they achieve that between them.cleanepisodicPhil Mayesfeeds@spreaker.comEach week this podcast talks about some aspect of successful personal relationships. Phil and Maude believe that conflict-free relationships are possible for everyone, and talk about how they achieve that between them.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/one-simple-practice-that-will-improve-yohttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3213Sun, 26 May 2019 13:15:09 +0000Phil MayesAs with so many things, progress on your own path enriches your relationship. Ongoing practice that helps you gain insight into yourself, and furthers your awareness of your own issues, needs and desires, is a strong support for a healthy peaceful...271cleanfullPhil MayesAs with so many things, progress on your own path enriches your relationship. Ongoing practice that helps you gain insight into yourself, and furthers your awareness of your own issues, needs and desires, is a strong support for a healthy peaceful relationship.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/why-is-intimacy-important-in-all-your-rehttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3202Sun, 19 May 2019 13:15:01 +0000Phil MayesIntimacy is a critical element for successful, peaceful relationships. To share intimacy in a relationship you must be present with each other. You cannot share love if you are not there.416cleanfullPhil MayesIntimacy is a critical element for successful, peaceful relationships. To share intimacy in a relationship you must be present with each other. You cannot share love if you are not there.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/it-is-important-to-be-present-in-life-anhttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3191Sun, 12 May 2019 13:15:52 +0000Phil Mayes“Be Here Now!” How elusive this often is. We can all benefit from finding ways to stay in the actual here and now. Most of the practices that we outline for a peaceful and successful relationship are predicated on being present, both with yourself and...382cleanfullPhil Mayes“Be Here Now!” How elusive this often is. We can all benefit from finding ways to stay in the actual here and now. Most of the practices that we outline for a peaceful and successful relationship are predicated on being present, both with yourself and with your partner.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/make-time-for-peace-in-your-relationshiphttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3181Sun, 05 May 2019 13:15:12 +0000Phil MayesYour relationship can, over time, take a back seat to life’s busyness: shopping, cleaning, childcare, parent care, friend care, health care, finance care... Relationships need to be experienced in the present. To have a partnership filled with living...232cleanfullPhil MayesYour relationship can, over time, take a back seat to life’s busyness: shopping, cleaning, childcare, parent care, friend care, health care, finance care... Relationships need to be experienced in the present. To have a partnership filled with living peace, it is necessary to share peace together as a tangible reality.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/why-core-values-are-important-for-a-succhttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3165Sun, 28 Apr 2019 13:15:57 +0000Phil MayesEnsuring that core values match is an important part of establishing a new relationship. Whether you are aware of yours or not, they underlie all your behavior. They are the principles you live by. These are not intellectual constructs, but rather...319cleanfullPhil MayesEnsuring that core values match is an important part of establishing a new relationship. Whether you are aware of yours or not, they underlie all your behavior. They are the principles you live by. These are not intellectual constructs, but rather deeply felt truths that arise from your inner being.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/a-successful-relationship-easily-handleshttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3156Sun, 21 Apr 2019 13:15:41 +0000Phil MayesOur togetherness isn’t fueled by needs – neither of us is looking for the other to fill holes in our lives or our being. This kind of connection enables each of us as individuals to develop and prosper, and at the same time, feeds that energy right...259cleanfullPhil MayesOur togetherness isn’t fueled by needs – neither of us is looking for the other to fill holes in our lives or our being. This kind of connection enables each of us as individuals to develop and prosper, and at the same time, feeds that energy right back into our relationship.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/why-you-need-unconditional-acceptance-inhttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3146Sun, 14 Apr 2019 13:15:55 +0000Phil MayesUnconditional acceptance of your partner is a baseline for a peaceful relationship. Being treated with total acceptance calls forth a markedly different response in all of us. When you know that you won’t be attacked or criticized, an amazing feeling...408cleanfullPhil MayesUnconditional acceptance of your partner is a baseline for a peaceful relationship. Being treated with total acceptance calls forth a markedly different response in all of us. When you know that you won’t be attacked or criticized, an amazing feeling of true peace and calm settles within you.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/the-truth-of-the-we-at-the-core-of-relathttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3139Sun, 07 Apr 2019 13:15:18 +0000Phil MayesOur experience is that by exploring how we feel about a problem we’re not only telling each other what is of meaning to us, but we understand our own voice better as well. This happens because of the safe arena of communication created by our joint...249cleanfullPhil MayesOur experience is that by exploring how we feel about a problem we’re not only telling each other what is of meaning to us, but we understand our own voice better as well. This happens because of the safe arena of communication created by our joint understanding of the “we”.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/see-differences-as-an-asset-in-your-relahttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3133Sun, 31 Mar 2019 13:15:43 +0000Phil MayesLearn to recognize your partner as an entirely different and unique individual. They don’t think, say or do things exactly the way you do. These differences aren’t a threat because they arise from the same core values. You are being offered alternate...273cleanfullPhil MayesLearn to recognize your partner as an entirely different and unique individual. They don’t think, say or do things exactly the way you do. These differences aren’t a threat because they arise from the same core values. You are being offered alternate ways of seeing, doing and feeling.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/reach-for-mutual-solutions-in-your-relathttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3122Sun, 24 Mar 2019 13:15:33 +0000Phil MayesIn a relationship, a mutual solution is a resolution that works for both people. It is something that is created together by the contributions of two different viewpoints. It is not something that either can come up with alone because each person...266cleanfullPhil MayesIn a relationship, a mutual solution is a resolution that works for both people. It is something that is created together by the contributions of two different viewpoints. It is not something that either can come up with alone because each person brings different knowledge, views and insights.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/you-need-to-balance-talking-and-listeninhttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3115Sun, 17 Mar 2019 13:15:23 +0000Phil MayesActive listening is paying attention to what the other person is saying without preparing a response. In practice, responses and ideas come up as the other person is speaking and it can be a considerable effort to both hold on to those thoughts and...386cleanfullPhil MayesActive listening is paying attention to what the other person is saying without preparing a response. In practice, responses and ideas come up as the other person is speaking and it can be a considerable effort to both hold on to those thoughts and keep following the speaker.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/what-lies-at-the-core-of-successful-relahttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3104Sun, 10 Mar 2019 13:15:31 +0000Phil MayesWe used to talk about conflict-free relationships, but now, instead of thinking in terms of what it is not, we see it as a quality of peace. In the world, it arises directly from peace between people, and we promote it both through the idea and the...224cleanfullPhil MayesWe used to talk about conflict-free relationships, but now, instead of thinking in terms of what it is not, we see it as a quality of peace. In the world, it arises directly from peace between people, and we promote it both through the idea and the direct experience.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/why-is-total-honesty-important-in-your-rhttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3093Sun, 03 Mar 2019 14:15:06 +0000Phil MayesTotal honesty: why it’s good, difficult, and what’s needed for it to be possible. It arises from working on yourself. You have to know yourself in order to share that with your partner. Resolving conflicts isn’t about changing the other person, but...439cleanfullPhil MayesTotal honesty: why it’s good, difficult, and what’s needed for it to be possible. It arises from working on yourself. You have to know yourself in order to share that with your partner. Resolving conflicts isn’t about changing the other person, but rather looking at what your resistance is about.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/how-to-balance-structure-and-flow-in-youhttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3086Sun, 24 Feb 2019 14:15:36 +0000Phil MayesThe balance between planning and going with the flow can be a problem in a relationship. One person is free and easy, and wants to accept the last-minute offer of a weekend at a cabin; the other had a household project planned. There’s a solution that...291cleanfullPhil MayesThe balance between planning and going with the flow can be a problem in a relationship. One person is free and easy, and wants to accept the last-minute offer of a weekend at a cabin; the other had a household project planned. There’s a solution that works for both people.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/truth-will-transform-the-arguments-in-yohttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3074Sun, 17 Feb 2019 14:15:48 +0000Phil MayesNeither of us enjoys arguments. It’s not avoidance, it’s that we choose not to act that way. Our desire to share what is happening with each other and to be sure there are no confusions, or any distancing caused by things unspoken, is paramount. It...280cleanfullPhil MayesNeither of us enjoys arguments. It’s not avoidance, it’s that we choose not to act that way. Our desire to share what is happening with each other and to be sure there are no confusions, or any distancing caused by things unspoken, is paramount. It leads to an argument-free relationship.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/why-touch-is-so-important-in-your-relatihttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3064Sun, 10 Feb 2019 14:15:35 +0000Phil MayesTouch is an important part of all relationships but can get overlooked. Animals huddle together and groom each other. The messages are of caring and comfort. So it is for humans, too, and if we stop speaking that language, we lose an important way of...273cleanfullPhil MayesTouch is an important part of all relationships but can get overlooked. Animals huddle together and groom each other. The messages are of caring and comfort. So it is for humans, too, and if we stop speaking that language, we lose an important way of expressing concern for each other.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/how-to-find-mutuality-in-your-relationshhttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3057Sun, 03 Feb 2019 14:15:34 +0000Phil MayesIt is critical to the success of a peaceful loving relationship to find mutuality, and to create from that place of connection. It can be quite simple to do, especially when it becomes a habit. Make agreements and verbalize them to each other; refer...172cleanfullPhil MayesIt is critical to the success of a peaceful loving relationship to find mutuality, and to create from that place of connection. It can be quite simple to do, especially when it becomes a habit. Make agreements and verbalize them to each other; refer to them aloud periodically.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/know-you-are-on-the-same-side-in-your-re_1https://philandmaude.com/?p=3049Sun, 27 Jan 2019 14:15:50 +0000Phil MayesIn any relationship, there can be a feeling of being on the same side that is quite delicious. Whatever it is, become attuned to that feeling, because if it vanishes, that’s a warning signal that you may be swerving into the path of a full-blown argument.182cleanfullPhil MayesIn any relationship, there can be a feeling of being on the same side that is quite delicious. Whatever it is, become attuned to that feeling, because if it vanishes, that’s a warning signal that you may be swerving into the path of a full-blown argument.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/what-does-commitment-really-mean-in-a-rehttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3038Sun, 20 Jan 2019 14:15:50 +0000Phil MayesToday, we are sharing about a very basic component of a peaceful loving relationship, and one that can have surprising consequences and ramifications. Commitment. Here, we each describe our personal experience of commitment and the surprising benefits...335cleanfullPhil MayesToday, we are sharing about a very basic component of a peaceful loving relationship, and one that can have surprising consequences and ramifications. Commitment. Here, we each describe our personal experience of commitment and the surprising benefits it creates.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/a-fresh-start-in-your-year-and-lifehttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3027Sun, 13 Jan 2019 14:15:38 +0000Phil MayesIt’s the early days of winter and yet it feels like a fresh start. Lots of changes have occurred, and there’s a sense of new opportunities. Come out of these events with renewed hope and a commitment to keep sharing burdens and rejoicing in victories...285cleanfullPhil MayesIt’s the early days of winter and yet it feels like a fresh start. Lots of changes have occurred, and there’s a sense of new opportunities. Come out of these events with renewed hope and a commitment to keep sharing burdens and rejoicing in victories together!Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/how-to-reconcile-individuality-and-unionhttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3021Sun, 06 Jan 2019 14:15:50 +0000Phil MayesTo be in a relationship is to exist in a state somewhere between individuality and union. We must all find our balance between staying in connection and awareness with ourselves, and relating to others and their inner selves. Ideally, we can move...194cleanfullPhil MayesTo be in a relationship is to exist in a state somewhere between individuality and union. We must all find our balance between staying in connection and awareness with ourselves, and relating to others and their inner selves. Ideally, we can move smoothly between these states without any struggle.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/we-offer-gratitude-peace-and-love-for-thWe feel an enormous sense of gratitude for life, for the opportunities to grow and share, and for our relationships.Click here to read more...]]>https://philandmaude.com/?p=3013Sun, 30 Dec 2018 14:15:58 +0000Phil MayesLast week we shared a holiday photo of us wishing everyone Peace and Love. Now the New Year is upon us, and what we wish for all of you is for peace to spread, one relationship at a time. We feel an enormous sense of gratitude for life, for the...We feel an enormous sense of gratitude for life, for the opportunities to grow and share, and for our relationships.Click here to read more...]]>225cleanfullPhil MayesLast week we shared a holiday photo of us wishing everyone Peace and Love. Now the New Year is upon us, and what we wish for all of you is for peace to spread, one relationship at a time. We feel an enormous sense of gratitude for life, for the opportunities to grow and share, and for our relationships.Click here to read more...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/celebrate-the-holidays-and-appreciate-thhttps://philandmaude.com/?p=3004Sun, 23 Dec 2018 14:15:24 +0000Phil MayesStressful situations are opportunities for us to grow. 80 to 90% of our reality is self-generated, so instead of seeing them as external problems and trying to deal with them as such, we can learn much and feel good if we use them to look inside.266cleanfullPhil MayesStressful situations are opportunities for us to grow. 80 to 90% of our reality is self-generated, so instead of seeing them as external problems and trying to deal with them as such, we can learn much and feel good if we use them to look inside.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/why-is-time-for-play-important-in-your-rhttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2995Sun, 16 Dec 2018 14:15:12 +0000Phil MayesIndividually and in our relationships we all need play time where we are not working on anything; not on progressing, not on taking care of business, and definitely not on achieving anything. Changing our patterns and altering the way we fill our time...183cleanfullPhil MayesIndividually and in our relationships we all need play time where we are not working on anything; not on progressing, not on taking care of business, and definitely not on achieving anything. Changing our patterns and altering the way we fill our time wakes us up and keeps us from sleepwalking through our lives and our loves.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/in-your-relationships-worry-is-not-lovehttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2984Sun, 09 Dec 2018 14:15:57 +0000Phil MayesTelling someone you are worrying about them doesn’t offer the kind of practical support they may need. Love, support and the belief that they will be able to deal with what is happening is much more constructive.217cleanfullPhil MayesTelling someone you are worrying about them doesn’t offer the kind of practical support they may need. Love, support and the belief that they will be able to deal with what is happening is much more constructive.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/how-to-be-present-in-your-life-and-relathttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2977Sun, 02 Dec 2018 14:15:34 +0000Phil MayesBeing present is not a rarified experience. It is something you can experience both in your relationships and your everyday life by paying attention to your senses as well as your thoughts.252cleanfullPhil MayesBeing present is not a rarified experience. It is something you can experience both in your relationships and your everyday life by paying attention to your senses as well as your thoughts.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/how-to-find-strength-from-your-relationshttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2969Sun, 25 Nov 2018 14:15:22 +0000Phil MayesIn these divisive times, it behooves us to take a look at all that is good, beautiful and loving in our lives, and to take comfort and joy from those things. The fabric of our intimate relationships can be a powerful force for peace and unity.304cleanfullPhil MayesIn these divisive times, it behooves us to take a look at all that is good, beautiful and loving in our lives, and to take comfort and joy from those things. The fabric of our intimate relationships can be a powerful force for peace and unity.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/thanksgiving-2018-spreading-peace-in-thehttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2960Sun, 18 Nov 2018 14:15:17 +0000Phil MayesThanksgiving is a wonderful American tradition when people from family to acquaintances come together in harmony. We want to let all of you know how glad we are to be connected to you and to share our work of spreading peace on this planet, one...233cleanfullPhil MayesThanksgiving is a wonderful American tradition when people from family to acquaintances come together in harmony. We want to let all of you know how glad we are to be connected to you and to share our work of spreading peace on this planet, one relationship at a time.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/how-to-balance-individuality-and-your-rehttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2947Sun, 11 Nov 2018 14:15:20 +0000Phil MayesIt is very important to find a balance between your own individuality and cooperation within your relationship. To achieve this kind of balance, it is vital to get to know yourself and to find practices to strengthen your sense of self, to come to be...337cleanfullPhil MayesIt is very important to find a balance between your own individuality and cooperation within your relationship. To achieve this kind of balance, it is vital to get to know yourself and to find practices to strengthen your sense of self, to come to be comfortable with your own individuality.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/do-you-show-love-and-respect-in-your-relhttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2939Sun, 04 Nov 2018 14:15:28 +0000Phil MayesOften relationship success can come down to partners speaking with respect, love and kindness in their tone of voice. When they do, this kind of communication creates an environment for loving interactions.311cleanfullPhil MayesOften relationship success can come down to partners speaking with respect, love and kindness in their tone of voice. When they do, this kind of communication creates an environment for loving interactions.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/know-you-are-on-the-same-side-in-your-rehttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2929Sun, 28 Oct 2018 13:15:02 +0000Phil MayesIn a relationship, always remember that you are on the same side. If you find yourselves estranged or at what feels like odds in your partnership, go back to this basic understanding. Speak it to each other. Find new ways to show it to each other.226cleanfullPhil MayesIn a relationship, always remember that you are on the same side. If you find yourselves estranged or at what feels like odds in your partnership, go back to this basic understanding. Speak it to each other. Find new ways to show it to each other.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/do-you-have-thumbtacks-in-your-relationshttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2913Sun, 21 Oct 2018 13:15:54 +0000Phil MayesThumbtacks represent lack of total acceptance from your partner. Your partner doesn’t accept you as you are. But when there are no thumbtacks, when your partner offers what we call 100% acceptance, the effect is transforming. You can be yourself.458cleanfullPhil MayesThumbtacks represent lack of total acceptance from your partner. Your partner doesn’t accept you as you are. But when there are no thumbtacks, when your partner offers what we call 100% acceptance, the effect is transforming. You can be yourself.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/how-to-defuse-drama-in-your-relationshiphttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2907Sun, 14 Oct 2018 13:15:20 +0000Phil MayesIn the security of a committed relationship, people feel safe enough to express their deepest emotions but sometimes dump their anger, grief or depression on their partner. This causes estrangement which can only be fixed by honest sharing of both...288cleanfullPhil MayesIn the security of a committed relationship, people feel safe enough to express their deepest emotions but sometimes dump their anger, grief or depression on their partner. This causes estrangement which can only be fixed by honest sharing of both partners’ feelings.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/how-to-transform-your-relationship-and-hhttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2898Sun, 07 Oct 2018 13:15:58 +0000Phil MayesWhen we’re snippy, we ask “What if we just decide not to do this, not to be short with each other, and then we just don’t?” So we do (just stop) and we do (not do it) and we have a magical time from that point on! Poof, true transformation.264cleanfullPhil MayesWhen we’re snippy, we ask “What if we just decide not to do this, not to be short with each other, and then we just don’t?” So we do (just stop) and we do (not do it) and we have a magical time from that point on! Poof, true transformation.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/be-grateful-and-dont-take-things-for-grahttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2888Sun, 30 Sep 2018 13:15:49 +0000Phil MayesToo many relationships (and this applies to all of our intimate relationships, family and friends) do get taken for granted. Spending time with each other gets put on the back burner till everything else of “importance” is taken care of, and often...260cleanfullPhil MayesToo many relationships (and this applies to all of our intimate relationships, family and friends) do get taken for granted. Spending time with each other gets put on the back burner till everything else of “importance” is taken care of, and often that time never comes.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/celebrate-the-international-day-of-peacehttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2876Fri, 21 Sep 2018 13:15:39 +0000Phil MayesSeptember 21st is the International Day of Peace. We believe there is a direct line between personal peace and world peace. A peaceful relationship has results beyond two people. It ripples out into the world and, by showing what is possible, inspires...579cleanfullPhil MayesSeptember 21st is the International Day of Peace. We believe there is a direct line between personal peace and world peace. A peaceful relationship has results beyond two people. It ripples out into the world and, by showing what is possible, inspires people to be their best.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/why-diversity-in-your-relationship-is-gohttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2868Sun, 16 Sep 2018 13:15:58 +0000Phil MayesThere’s been a lot of political discussion about diversity; its supposed good and bad points. In a relationship, sameness and difference coexist. Accept this paradox and look for mutuality, not a carbon copy. Lose yourself in the sameness, find...362cleanfullPhil MayesThere’s been a lot of political discussion about diversity; its supposed good and bad points. In a relationship, sameness and difference coexist. Accept this paradox and look for mutuality, not a carbon copy. Lose yourself in the sameness, find yourself in the difference, and rejoice in the peace it will bring.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/what-peace-is-and-how-to-spread-ithttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2860Sun, 09 Sep 2018 13:15:54 +0000Phil MayesPeace in our relationship is a tangible reality of tranquility, love, unity, connection with each other and with the world. You can counter the current divisiveness by carrying that peaceful feeling out into the world and offering it in every...247cleanfullPhil MayesPeace in our relationship is a tangible reality of tranquility, love, unity, connection with each other and with the world. You can counter the current divisiveness by carrying that peaceful feeling out into the world and offering it in every relationship: friends, family, strangers.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/9782853/how-to-avoid-disturbances-in-your-relatihttp://philandmaude.com/?p=2852Sun, 02 Sep 2018 13:15:28 +0000Phil MayesAfter several weeks of coughing and night sweats in the spare bedroom, we’re finally sleeping together all night again. It feels like a major step back to normality. But in another way, nothing has changed. There is no reconnection because there was...298cleanfullPhil MayesAfter several weeks of coughing and night sweats in the spare bedroom, we’re finally sleeping together all night again. It feels like a major step back to normality. But in another way, nothing has changed. There is no reconnection because there was never any disconnection. As Maude put it, there was no disturbance in the field.No