https://www.spreaker.com/show/transformation-cafehttp://transformation-cafe.com]]>enSociety & CultureCopyright Transformation Cafehttps://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/96fe13385338b7bb0fc2eb8403516106.jpghttps://www.spreaker.com/show/transformation-cafeThu, 08 Apr 2021 04:57:00 +0000Transformation CafeTransformation Cafefeeds@spreaker.comJoin host Robin Masiewicz at the Transformation Café, a fun way to nourish your soul! Transformation Cafe focuses on health, happiness, well-being, and personal growth with a spiritual slant. See more at http://transformation-cafe.comhttp://transformation-cafe.com]]>cleanepisodicTransformation Cafefeeds@spreaker.comJoin host Robin Masiewicz at the Transformation Café, a fun way to nourish your soul! Transformation Cafe focuses on health, happiness, well-being, and personal growth with a spiritual slant. See more at http://transformation-cafe.comNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc361-cafe-book-club-the-game-called-lif
Click the link below to purchase The Game Called Life on Amazon.


About Kay:
Kay Gilley is a spiritual coach and mentor to executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals. In her writing, public speaking and individual work, she helps individuals break out of habitual near-life experiences to rediscover life, foster latent creativity and reclaim their whole potential. Kay has been described as "the world's leading thinking on intention." She says that means intention is the assignment God has given her to master at this point on her journey. To date, here spiritual homework has included writing four books on fear, courage, and intention. She describes The Game Called Life as the ultimate exercise in spiritual surrender…written in five days with passion that changed her life and her health. Kay writes the blog YouKnowInYourHeart.blogspot.com, and she is also a keynote speaker, in addition to her "day job" as senior organizational development consultant at NASA Headquarters.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3887Mon, 28 Aug 2017 02:32:00 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back Kay Gilley, the author of "The Game Called Life" available from Amazon. In this episode they discuss chapter 7 and summarize the themes...
Click the link below to purchase The Game Called Life on Amazon.


About Kay:
Kay Gilley is a spiritual coach and mentor to executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals. In her writing, public speaking and individual work, she helps individuals break out of habitual near-life experiences to rediscover life, foster latent creativity and reclaim their whole potential. Kay has been described as "the world's leading thinking on intention." She says that means intention is the assignment God has given her to master at this point on her journey. To date, here spiritual homework has included writing four books on fear, courage, and intention. She describes The Game Called Life as the ultimate exercise in spiritual surrender…written in five days with passion that changed her life and her health. Kay writes the blog YouKnowInYourHeart.blogspot.com, and she is also a keynote speaker, in addition to her "day job" as senior organizational development consultant at NASA Headquarters.]]>1812cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back Kay Gilley, the author of "The Game Called Life" available from Amazon. In this episode they discuss chapter 7 and summarize the themes from the book. Click the link below to purchase The Game Called Life on Amazon. About Kay: Kay Gilley is a spiritual coach and mentor to executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals. In her writing, public speaking and individual work, she helps individuals break out of habitual near-life experiences to rediscover life, foster latent creativity and reclaim their whole potential. Kay has been described as "the world's leading thinking on intention." She says that means intention is the assignment God has given her to master at this point on her journey. To date, here spiritual homework has included writing four books on fear, courage, and intention. She describes The Game Called Life as the ultimate exercise in spiritual surrender…written in five days with passion that changed her life and her health. Kay writes the blog YouKnowInYourHeart.blogspot.com, and she is also a keynote speaker, in addition to her "day job" as senior organizational development consultant at NASA Headquarters.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc360-cafe-book-club-the-game-called-lif
The Game Called Life: Book Club Notes
Chapter 5 – Reconciliation
(Chapters 5 & 6 are actions we need to take to win in the game called Life. Emphasis on connecting with Oneness, asking, listening.)
To win at the game called Life requires us to be in the present—not in the future which cannot be known by anyone nor in the past where our karmic story dominated our lives.  Moving from our karmic story into our divine legacy story requires “reconciliation”—the bringing together of these two diametrically opposed world views. The process of reconciliation assists us to keep the only commitment that binds our souls—the one we made before we were conceived to our soul and our integrity: to be at One with All That Is.
The process of reconciliation:

* Hold self in Oneness
* Ask what the Universe would have us do to be at One with our intentions—the goals of our souls
* Listen to the answer and then follow precisely (We don’t need to, and probably won’t, understand directions. Our job is to follow.)

Broken commitments and guilt, blame, and shame resulting from lack of forgiveness from our karmic story take us out of the present and into the past, creating “pinpricks in our integrity.”
Commitments-identify broken commitments, learn from them, and consciously choose what behaviors you will choose in your divine legacy story.
Forgiveness-is God’s nature. We are all here to experience our godliness. Players are reflecting their godliness when they forgive when asked for forgiveness, and they allow others to step into their godliness when they ask for forgiveness.  Forgiveness liberates players from the burdens of guilt, blame, and shame that keep pulling us into the past.  Forgiveness process:

* Tell the truth
* Ask for forgiveness     K.I.S.S.—Keep It Simple, Simon
* Say thank you
* Make amends

We can be overwhelmed when we begin to identify all the broken commitments and forgiveness breeches.  Karma will want us to think it is too much and that we cannot win, so we will give up.  Important to remember that each action fulfills several intentions, while building relationships and trust—the essence of being in the present.
Chapter 6 – Integration
The complexities of our sum total of the covenants of all the people in the world, overlapping and constantly changing, challenges our human brains, but Lizzie learns from Helen that when we act as guided, we will serve several intentions at once.  In Chapter 6, Lizzie acts on guidance received in Chapter 5 in her conversations with Helen.  In each case, she is delightfully surprised that, as promised, several intentions are served by simply acting on her guidance.
The lesson that our covenants are memorized in our feelings is reinforced; she notices that each time she completes something that was a covenant, her “heart swells” and feels full, reminding her that she is on track and also assuring her that she has stepped away from her autopilot mode.
Click the link below to purchase The Game Called Life on Amazon.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3874Mon, 21 Aug 2017 02:36:11 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back Kay Gilley, the author of "The Game Called Life" available from Amazon. In this episode they discuss chapters 5 and 6. The Game Called...
The Game Called Life: Book Club Notes
Chapter 5 – Reconciliation
(Chapters 5 & 6 are actions we need to take to win in the game called Life. Emphasis on connecting with Oneness, asking, listening.)
To win at the game called Life requires us to be in the present—not in the future which cannot be known by anyone nor in the past where our karmic story dominated our lives.  Moving from our karmic story into our divine legacy story requires “reconciliation”—the bringing together of these two diametrically opposed world views. The process of reconciliation assists us to keep the only commitment that binds our souls—the one we made before we were conceived to our soul and our integrity: to be at One with All That Is.
The process of reconciliation:

* Hold self in Oneness
* Ask what the Universe would have us do to be at One with our intentions—the goals of our souls
* Listen to the answer and then follow precisely (We don’t need to, and probably won’t, understand directions. Our job is to follow.)

Broken commitments and guilt, blame, and shame resulting from lack of forgiveness from our karmic story take us out of the present and into the past, creating “pinpricks in our integrity.”
Commitments-identify broken commitments, learn from them, and consciously choose what behaviors you will choose in your divine legacy story.
Forgiveness-is God’s nature. We are all here to experience our godliness. Players are reflecting their godliness when they forgive when asked for forgiveness, and they allow others to step into their godliness when they ask for forgiveness.  Forgiveness liberates players from the burdens of guilt, blame, and shame that keep pulling us into the past.  Forgiveness process:

* Tell the truth
* Ask for forgiveness     K.I.S.S.—Keep It Simple, Simon
* Say thank you
* Make amends

We can be overwhelmed when we begin to identify all the broken commitments and forgiveness breeches.  Karma will want us to think it is too much and that we cannot win, so we will give up.  Important to remember that each action fulfills several intentions, while building relationships and trust—the essence of being in the present.
Chapter 6 – Integration
The complexities of our sum total of the covenants of all the people in the world, overlapping and constantly changing, challenges our human brains, but Lizzie learns from Helen that when we act as guided, we will serve several intentions at once.  In Chapter 6, Lizzie acts on guidance received in Chapter 5 in her conversations with Helen.  In each case, she is delightfully surprised that, as promised, several intentions are served by simply acting on her guidance.
The lesson that our covenants are memorized in our feelings is reinforced; she notices that each time she completes something that was a covenant, her “heart swells” and feels full, reminding her that she is on track and also assuring her that she has stepped away from her autopilot mode.
Click the link below to purchase The Game Called Life on Amazon.]]>1890cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back Kay Gilley, the author of "The Game Called Life" available from Amazon. In this episode they discuss chapters 5 and 6. The Game Called Life: Book Club Notes Chapter 5 – Reconciliation (Chapters 5 & 6 are actions we need to take to win in the game called Life. Emphasis on connecting with Oneness, asking, listening.) To win at the game called Life requires us to be in the present—not in the future which cannot be known by anyone nor in the past where our karmic story dominated our lives.  Moving from our karmic story into our divine legacy story requires “reconciliation”—the bringing together of these two diametrically opposed world views. The process of reconciliation assists us to keep the only commitment that binds our souls—the one we made before we were conceived to our soul and our integrity: to be at One with All That Is. The process of reconciliation: * Hold self in Oneness * Ask what the Universe would have us do to be at One with our intentions—the goals of our souls * Listen to the answer and then follow precisely (We don’t need to, and probably won’t, understand directions. Our job is to follow.) Broken commitments and guilt, blame, and shame resulting from lack of forgiveness from our karmic story take us out of the present and into the past, creating “pinpricks in our integrity.” Commitments-identify broken commitments, learn from them, and consciously choose what behaviors you will choose in your divine legacy story. Forgiveness-is God’s nature. We are all here to experience our godliness. Players are reflecting their godliness when they forgive when asked for forgiveness, and they allow others to step into their godliness when they ask for forgiveness.  Forgiveness liberates players from the burdens of guilt, blame, and shame that keep pulling us into the past.  Forgiveness process: * Tell the truth * Ask for forgiveness     K.I.S.S.—Keep It Simple, Simon * Say thank you * Make amends We can be overwhelmed when we begin to identify all the broken commitments and forgiveness breeches.  Karma will want us to think it is too much and that we cannot win, so we will give up.  Important to remember that each action fulfills several intentions, while building relationships and trust—the essence of being in the present. Chapter 6 – Integration The complexities of our sum total of the covenants of all the people in the world, overlapping and constantly changing, challenges our human brains, but Lizzie learns from Helen that when we act as guided, we will serve several intentions at once.  In Chapter 6, Lizzie acts on guidance received in Chapter 5 in her conversations with Helen.  In each case, she is delightfully surprised that, as promised, several intentions are served by simply acting on her guidance. The lesson that our covenants are memorized in our feelings is reinforced; she notices that each time she completes something that was a covenant, her “heart swells” and feels full, reminding her that she is on track and also assuring her that she has stepped away from her autopilot mode. Click the link below to purchase The Game Called Life on Amazon.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc359-cafe-book-club-the-game-called-lif
The Game Called Life: Book Club Notes
Chapter 3: Redefining Success
The material world would have us believe that we need to develop a plan for our lives, set goals, and succeed in material ways. In The Game Called Life the only goals that count are the intentions — the goals of our souls — established before we were conceived. When we are at one with the goals of our souls we are in integrity–the word means to be "at one" or to be "whole". When we established these intentions before life, we memorized the feeling and our commitments are stored as a feeling in our hearts: a feeling of oneness with God–the compass of the heart.
In the game called "Life", we are plugged into an intricate matrix of souls all trying to evolve, develop gifts, and doing service. We are intensely interdependent. If one person doesn't learn their lesson or develop their gifts, a ripple is created to identify others who are capable of taking over for them. In the meantime, other assignments must be found. Others may move ahead more quickly and be ready for a new assignment sooner. Amidst this complexity how do we stay on track and succeed?

* Compass of the heart – allows us to stay current with what is needed from us in the complexities of the universe, as they change moment by moment. We never get the big picture because it is changing constantly. Helen tells us to imagine being at One with all that is and the act of doing so allows us to access a network of support–comprised of beings like Helen–which is "eagerly awaiting".
* That support network can't interfere unless it is invited. After holding our hearts open, we must ask for guidance, which will be current with the needs of that moment. Showing up is a "main event" in life: everything we do is sacred, even though we don't know how. Everyone who crosses our path is a "human partner", a helper on our journey, as we are helpers for everyone else. We just don't know how it is we are to help unless we ask. We are changing the world in simple ways…every day in every act.
* Because we memorized our commitments as a feeling, our emotions are quick access guides to what is going on in our soul. Feelings of hopelessness are the compass of the year speaking to you and saying you are off-track, it is time to tune in, listen, and show up for the "main events" of our lives.

The book started with Lizzie receiving a wake-up call. After explaining how we succeed at the game, Helen tells us the purpose of a wake-up call is to confuse players enough about what is real that they will turn to God/the Universe/the compass of the heart for answers to get back on track.
Chapter Four—Rewriting Our Stories
Each player goes through their game with a “story” about how things are—the “karmic story” because until it is challenged, it is all that anyone knows to be true.  When we live from our karmic story what we do happens without thinking. We react out of habit.  Our karma keeps us in an autopilot trance, acting or reacting without being aware of what we are doing.  Our karmic story is what we must overcome to evolve our souls. That is why it is chosen before we are conceived because we choose a family that will be most challenging to what we are supposed to learn.  The family, as human partners, sets us up for the lessons we need to learn, and those lessons will be reinforced by others as we “autopilot” through life. We learn and grow in consciousness only be doin...]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3865Mon, 14 Aug 2017 01:29:33 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back Kay Gilley, the author of "The Game Called Life" available from Amazon. In this episode they discuss chapters 3 and 4. The Game Called...
The Game Called Life: Book Club Notes
Chapter 3: Redefining Success
The material world would have us believe that we need to develop a plan for our lives, set goals, and succeed in material ways. In The Game Called Life the only goals that count are the intentions — the goals of our souls — established before we were conceived. When we are at one with the goals of our souls we are in integrity–the word means to be "at one" or to be "whole". When we established these intentions before life, we memorized the feeling and our commitments are stored as a feeling in our hearts: a feeling of oneness with God–the compass of the heart.
In the game called "Life", we are plugged into an intricate matrix of souls all trying to evolve, develop gifts, and doing service. We are intensely interdependent. If one person doesn't learn their lesson or develop their gifts, a ripple is created to identify others who are capable of taking over for them. In the meantime, other assignments must be found. Others may move ahead more quickly and be ready for a new assignment sooner. Amidst this complexity how do we stay on track and succeed?

* Compass of the heart – allows us to stay current with what is needed from us in the complexities of the universe, as they change moment by moment. We never get the big picture because it is changing constantly. Helen tells us to imagine being at One with all that is and the act of doing so allows us to access a network of support–comprised of beings like Helen–which is "eagerly awaiting".
* That support network can't interfere unless it is invited. After holding our hearts open, we must ask for guidance, which will be current with the needs of that moment. Showing up is a "main event" in life: everything we do is sacred, even though we don't know how. Everyone who crosses our path is a "human partner", a helper on our journey, as we are helpers for everyone else. We just don't know how it is we are to help unless we ask. We are changing the world in simple ways…every day in every act.
* Because we memorized our commitments as a feeling, our emotions are quick access guides to what is going on in our soul. Feelings of hopelessness are the compass of the year speaking to you and saying you are off-track, it is time to tune in, listen, and show up for the "main events" of our lives.

The book started with Lizzie receiving a wake-up call. After explaining how we succeed at the game, Helen tells us the purpose of a wake-up call is to confuse players enough about what is real that they will turn to God/the Universe/the compass of the heart for answers to get back on track.
Chapter Four—Rewriting Our Stories
Each player goes through their game with a “story” about how things are—the “karmic story” because until it is challenged, it is all that anyone knows to be true.  When we live from our karmic story what we do happens without thinking. We react out of habit.  Our karma keeps us in an autopilot trance, acting or reacting without being aware of what we are doing.  Our karmic story is what we must overcome to evolve our souls. That is why it is chosen before we are conceived because we choose a family that will be most challenging to what we are supposed to learn.  The family, as human partners, sets us up for the lessons we need to learn, and those lessons will be reinforced by others as we “autopilot” through life. We learn and grow in consciousness only be doin...]]>1870cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back Kay Gilley, the author of "The Game Called Life" available from Amazon. In this episode they discuss chapters 3 and 4. The Game Called Life: Book Club Notes Chapter 3: Redefining Success The material world would have us believe that we need to develop a plan for our lives, set goals, and succeed in material ways. In The Game Called Life the only goals that count are the intentions — the goals of our souls — established before we were conceived. When we are at one with the goals of our souls we are in integrity–the word means to be "at one" or to be "whole". When we established these intentions before life, we memorized the feeling and our commitments are stored as a feeling in our hearts: a feeling of oneness with God–the compass of the heart. In the game called "Life", we are plugged into an intricate matrix of souls all trying to evolve, develop gifts, and doing service. We are intensely interdependent. If one person doesn't learn their lesson or develop their gifts, a ripple is created to identify others who are capable of taking over for them. In the meantime, other assignments must be found. Others may move ahead more quickly and be ready for a new assignment sooner. Amidst this complexity how do we stay on track and succeed? * Compass of the heart – allows us to stay current with what is needed from us in the complexities of the universe, as they change moment by moment. We never get the big picture because it is changing constantly. Helen tells us to imagine being at One with all that is and the act of doing so allows us to access a network of support–comprised of beings like Helen–which is "eagerly awaiting". * That support network can't interfere unless it is invited. After holding our hearts open, we must ask for guidance, which will be current with the needs of that moment. Showing up is a "main event" in life: everything we do is sacred, even though we don't know how. Everyone who crosses our path is a "human partner", a helper on our journey, as we are helpers for everyone else. We just don't know how it is we are to help unless we ask. We are changing the world in simple ways…every day in every act. * Because we memorized our commitments as a feeling, our emotions are quick access guides to what is going on in our soul. Feelings of hopelessness are the compass of the year speaking to you and saying you are off-track, it is time to tune in, listen, and show up for the "main events" of our lives. The book started with Lizzie receiving a wake-up call. After explaining how we succeed at the game, Helen tells us the purpose of a wake-up call is to confuse players enough about what is real that they will turn to God/the Universe/the compass of the heart for answers to get back on track. Chapter Four—Rewriting Our Stories Each player goes through their game with a “story” about how things are—the “karmic story” because until it is challenged, it is all that anyone knows to be true.  When we live from our karmic story what we do happens without thinking. We react out of habit.  Our karma keeps us in an autopilot trance, acting or reacting without being aware of what we are doing.  Our karmic story is what we must overcome to evolve our souls. That is why it is chosen before we are conceived because we choose a family that will be most challenging to what we are supposed to learn.  The family, as human partners, sets us up for the lessons we need to learn, and those lessons will be reinforced by others as we “autopilot” through life. We learn and grow in consciousness only be doin...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc358-cafe-book-club-the-game-called-lif
In The Game Called Life, a visit from jovial and sometimes irreverent spirit guide Helen propels mid-life Lizzie Magill from despair and emptiness onto her path where she discovers joy, meaning, and purpose as she learns the secret to winning in life. In chapters 1 and 2 Lizzie is introduced to Helen, who has come in answer to Lizzie's prayers. Lizzie isn't sure if she's going crazy, or is she really hearing the voice of an angel. Why her? Why now?
Click the link below to purchase The Game Called Life on Amazon.


About Kay:
Kay Gilley is a spiritual coach and mentor to executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals. In her writing, public speaking and individual work, she helps individuals break out of habitual near-life experiences to rediscover life, foster latent creativity and reclaim their whole potential. Kay has been described as "the world's leading thinking on intention." She says that means intention is the assignment God has given her to master at this point on her journey. To date, here spiritual homework has included writing four books on fear, courage, and intention. She describes The Game Called Life as the ultimate exercise in spiritual surrender…written in five days with passion that changed her life and her health. Kay writes the blog YouKnowInYourHeart.blogspot.com, and she is also a keynote speaker, in addition to her "day job" as senior organizational development consultant at NASA Headquarters.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3861Mon, 07 Aug 2017 03:00:28 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back Kay Gilley to kick off another book in the Cafe Book Club! Kay is the author of "The Game Called Life" available from Amazon. In this...
In The Game Called Life, a visit from jovial and sometimes irreverent spirit guide Helen propels mid-life Lizzie Magill from despair and emptiness onto her path where she discovers joy, meaning, and purpose as she learns the secret to winning in life. In chapters 1 and 2 Lizzie is introduced to Helen, who has come in answer to Lizzie's prayers. Lizzie isn't sure if she's going crazy, or is she really hearing the voice of an angel. Why her? Why now?
Click the link below to purchase The Game Called Life on Amazon.


About Kay:
Kay Gilley is a spiritual coach and mentor to executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals. In her writing, public speaking and individual work, she helps individuals break out of habitual near-life experiences to rediscover life, foster latent creativity and reclaim their whole potential. Kay has been described as "the world's leading thinking on intention." She says that means intention is the assignment God has given her to master at this point on her journey. To date, here spiritual homework has included writing four books on fear, courage, and intention. She describes The Game Called Life as the ultimate exercise in spiritual surrender…written in five days with passion that changed her life and her health. Kay writes the blog YouKnowInYourHeart.blogspot.com, and she is also a keynote speaker, in addition to her "day job" as senior organizational development consultant at NASA Headquarters.]]>1914cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back Kay Gilley to kick off another book in the Cafe Book Club! Kay is the author of "The Game Called Life" available from Amazon. In this episode they discuss chapters 1 and 2. In The Game Called Life, a visit from jovial and sometimes irreverent spirit guide Helen propels mid-life Lizzie Magill from despair and emptiness onto her path where she discovers joy, meaning, and purpose as she learns the secret to winning in life. In chapters 1 and 2 Lizzie is introduced to Helen, who has come in answer to Lizzie's prayers. Lizzie isn't sure if she's going crazy, or is she really hearing the voice of an angel. Why her? Why now? Click the link below to purchase The Game Called Life on Amazon. About Kay: Kay Gilley is a spiritual coach and mentor to executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals. In her writing, public speaking and individual work, she helps individuals break out of habitual near-life experiences to rediscover life, foster latent creativity and reclaim their whole potential. Kay has been described as "the world's leading thinking on intention." She says that means intention is the assignment God has given her to master at this point on her journey. To date, here spiritual homework has included writing four books on fear, courage, and intention. She describes The Game Called Life as the ultimate exercise in spiritual surrender…written in five days with passion that changed her life and her health. Kay writes the blog YouKnowInYourHeart.blogspot.com, and she is also a keynote speaker, in addition to her "day job" as senior organizational development consultant at NASA Headquarters.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc357-the-eight-active-ingredients-of-ta
She describes this work as "Translating the Eastern concept of Tai Chi into Western language and bridging that gap."
Elaine describes how she originally got into Tai Chi, and then how she became connected with the Harvard research program of Dr. Peter Wayne.

Can you apply it to your daily life?
"You can change the energy in a room by changing your posture, and your demeanor, and passing positive energy into a negative environment."
The Eight Active Ingredients of Tai Chi

* Awareness – including mindfulness and focused attention.
* Intention – including belief and expectations.
* Structural Integration – including dynamic form and function.
* Active Relaxation – Tai Chi's circular, flowing motion helps shift the body and mind into deeper levels of relaxation, and is a form of meditation in motion.
* Strengthening and Flexibility – Tai Chi provides moderate aerobic training equal to levels obtained by walking at a moderate pace.
* Natural Freer Breathing – more efficient breathing improves gas exchange, massages body tissues, including internal organs, helps regulate the nervous system, improves mood, and balances and moves Qi within the body and between the body and the environment.
* Social Support – including interaction and community.
* Embodied Spirituality – including philosophy and ritual.

From the description on Amazon:
"Conventional medical science on the Chinese art of Tai Chi now shows what Tai Chi masters have known for centuries: regular practice leads to more vigor and flexibility, better balance and mobility, and a sense of well-being. Cutting-edge research from Harvard Medical School also supports the long-standing claims that Tai Chi also has a beneficial impact on the health of the heart, bones, nerves and muscles, immune system, and the mind. This research provides fascinating insight into the underlying physiological mechanisms that explain how Tai Chi actually works."

Contact Elaine:
Email: ebrovont(at)stanfordhealtcare.org
Phone: (925) 918-1026]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3846Mon, 31 Jul 2017 03:54:16 +0000Transformation CafeThe week we are pleased to welcome Elaine Brovont, a certified trainer of "The Eight Active Ingredients of Tai Chi" based on the Harvard Medical School Guide to Tai Chi by Peter M. Wayne, PhD and Mark L. Fuerst. Elaine is the first person certified to...
She describes this work as "Translating the Eastern concept of Tai Chi into Western language and bridging that gap."
Elaine describes how she originally got into Tai Chi, and then how she became connected with the Harvard research program of Dr. Peter Wayne.

Can you apply it to your daily life?
"You can change the energy in a room by changing your posture, and your demeanor, and passing positive energy into a negative environment."
The Eight Active Ingredients of Tai Chi

* Awareness – including mindfulness and focused attention.
* Intention – including belief and expectations.
* Structural Integration – including dynamic form and function.
* Active Relaxation – Tai Chi's circular, flowing motion helps shift the body and mind into deeper levels of relaxation, and is a form of meditation in motion.
* Strengthening and Flexibility – Tai Chi provides moderate aerobic training equal to levels obtained by walking at a moderate pace.
* Natural Freer Breathing – more efficient breathing improves gas exchange, massages body tissues, including internal organs, helps regulate the nervous system, improves mood, and balances and moves Qi within the body and between the body and the environment.
* Social Support – including interaction and community.
* Embodied Spirituality – including philosophy and ritual.

From the description on Amazon:
"Conventional medical science on the Chinese art of Tai Chi now shows what Tai Chi masters have known for centuries: regular practice leads to more vigor and flexibility, better balance and mobility, and a sense of well-being. Cutting-edge research from Harvard Medical School also supports the long-standing claims that Tai Chi also has a beneficial impact on the health of the heart, bones, nerves and muscles, immune system, and the mind. This research provides fascinating insight into the underlying physiological mechanisms that explain how Tai Chi actually works."

Contact Elaine:
Email: ebrovont(at)stanfordhealtcare.org
Phone: (925) 918-1026]]>1890cleanfullTransformation CafeThe week we are pleased to welcome Elaine Brovont, a certified trainer of "The Eight Active Ingredients of Tai Chi" based on the Harvard Medical School Guide to Tai Chi by Peter M. Wayne, PhD and Mark L. Fuerst. Elaine is the first person certified to train this program on the West Coast. She describes this work as "Translating the Eastern concept of Tai Chi into Western language and bridging that gap." Elaine describes how she originally got into Tai Chi, and then how she became connected with the Harvard research program of Dr. Peter Wayne. Can you apply it to your daily life? "You can change the energy in a room by changing your posture, and your demeanor, and passing positive energy into a negative environment." The Eight Active Ingredients of Tai Chi * Awareness – including mindfulness and focused attention. * Intention – including belief and expectations. * Structural Integration – including dynamic form and function. * Active Relaxation – Tai Chi's circular, flowing motion helps shift the body and mind into deeper levels of relaxation, and is a form of meditation in motion. * Strengthening and Flexibility – Tai Chi provides moderate aerobic training equal to levels obtained by walking at a moderate pace. * Natural Freer Breathing – more efficient breathing improves gas exchange, massages body tissues, including internal organs, helps regulate the nervous system, improves mood, and balances and moves Qi within the body and between the body and the environment. * Social Support – including interaction and community. * Embodied Spirituality – including philosophy and ritual. From the description on Amazon: "Conventional medical science on the Chinese art of Tai Chi now shows what Tai Chi masters have known for centuries: regular practice leads to more vigor and flexibility, better balance and mobility, and a sense of well-being. Cutting-edge research from Harvard Medical School also supports the long-standing claims that Tai Chi also has a beneficial impact on the health of the heart, bones, nerves and muscles, immune system, and the mind. This research provides fascinating insight into the underlying physiological mechanisms that explain how Tai Chi actually works." Contact Elaine: Email: ebrovont(at)stanfordhealtcare.org Phone: (925) 918-1026Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc356-the-creative-process-and-the-poetsMike shares three more of his poems. The first is one called "The Remembrance". Mike says that this poem comes "from the eternal aspect, from a place that isn't broken, and a place where the more we clear what's fragmented and bring it back into alignment with the source of everything, then I get to create more evenly from that place."
Mike reads a touching poem about the gift his parents gave to him: the wisdom to look inside one's self for answers.

Michael's upcoming events:

* July 30, 2017 6:00 – 9:00 PM– Poetry reading at Sundappled, 216 Foothill Blvd, Claremont, California. Michael is the featured guest along with Staxx and Ron Blakely
* August 12,2017 6:00 PM – Interworks Wellness Center,  1306 Monte Vista Ave. #8, Upland, CA – Kundalini Yoga and Poetry Reading

Sundappled Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/sundappledboutique/]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3836Mon, 24 Jul 2017 00:52:36 +0000Transformation CafeOn this week's podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back poet Michael Mejia. They are joined by Marsha and Vanessa, the owners of Sundappled Boutique in Claremont, California. Mike shares three more of his poems. The first is...Mike shares three more of his poems. The first is one called "The Remembrance". Mike says that this poem comes "from the eternal aspect, from a place that isn't broken, and a place where the more we clear what's fragmented and bring it back into alignment with the source of everything, then I get to create more evenly from that place."
Mike reads a touching poem about the gift his parents gave to him: the wisdom to look inside one's self for answers.

Michael's upcoming events:

* July 30, 2017 6:00 – 9:00 PM– Poetry reading at Sundappled, 216 Foothill Blvd, Claremont, California. Michael is the featured guest along with Staxx and Ron Blakely
* August 12,2017 6:00 PM – Interworks Wellness Center,  1306 Monte Vista Ave. #8, Upland, CA – Kundalini Yoga and Poetry Reading

Sundappled Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/sundappledboutique/]]>2768cleanfullTransformation CafeOn this week's podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back poet Michael Mejia. They are joined by Marsha and Vanessa, the owners of Sundappled Boutique in Claremont, California. Mike shares three more of his poems. The first is one called "The Remembrance". Mike says that this poem comes "from the eternal aspect, from a place that isn't broken, and a place where the more we clear what's fragmented and bring it back into alignment with the source of everything, then I get to create more evenly from that place." Mike reads a touching poem about the gift his parents gave to him: the wisdom to look inside one's self for answers. Michael's upcoming events: * July 30, 2017 6:00 – 9:00 PM– Poetry reading at Sundappled, 216 Foothill Blvd, Claremont, California. Michael is the featured guest along with Staxx and Ron Blakely * August 12,2017 6:00 PM – Interworks Wellness Center,  1306 Monte Vista Ave. #8, Upland, CA – Kundalini Yoga and Poetry Reading Sundappled Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/sundappledboutique/Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc355-the-power-of-poetry


Poetry is ordinary language raised to the Nth power. Poetry is boned with ideas, nerved and blooded with emotions, all held together by the delicate, tough skin of words. – Paul Engle

Mytho-Poetic States?
In this video Jason Silva  muses on the Power of Poetry from his "Shots of Awe" series.


Poetry is a deal of joy and pain and wonder, with a dash of the dictionary. – Kahlil Gibran

Michael's upcoming events:

* July 30, 2017 6:00 – 9:00 PM– Poetry reading at Sundappled, 216 Foothill Blvd, Claremont, California. Michael is the featured guest along with Staxx and Ron Blakely
* August 12,2017 6:00 PM – Interworks Wellness Center,  1306 Monte Vista Ave. #8, Upland, CA – Kundalini Yoga and Poetry Reading

References:
10 Points on the Power of Poetry
Iraqi Refugee Empowers Youth to Share Their Stories with Narratio – Ahmed Badr, an Iraqi-American,wrote the moving poem "A Thank You Letter From The Bomb That Visited My Home 11 Years Ago". This article talks about his project that provides a forum for others to tell their own story. The article contains an audio link to Ahmed reading his poem.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3787Mon, 17 Jul 2017 04:13:12 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome poet Michael Mejia. Mike shares several of his poems, and he and Robin discuss the poetry of Ahmed Badr, Rumi, and others. Poetry is ordinary...


Poetry is ordinary language raised to the Nth power. Poetry is boned with ideas, nerved and blooded with emotions, all held together by the delicate, tough skin of words. – Paul Engle

Mytho-Poetic States?
In this video Jason Silva  muses on the Power of Poetry from his "Shots of Awe" series.


Poetry is a deal of joy and pain and wonder, with a dash of the dictionary. – Kahlil Gibran

Michael's upcoming events:

* July 30, 2017 6:00 – 9:00 PM– Poetry reading at Sundappled, 216 Foothill Blvd, Claremont, California. Michael is the featured guest along with Staxx and Ron Blakely
* August 12,2017 6:00 PM – Interworks Wellness Center,  1306 Monte Vista Ave. #8, Upland, CA – Kundalini Yoga and Poetry Reading

References:
10 Points on the Power of Poetry
Iraqi Refugee Empowers Youth to Share Their Stories with Narratio – Ahmed Badr, an Iraqi-American,wrote the moving poem "A Thank You Letter From The Bomb That Visited My Home 11 Years Ago". This article talks about his project that provides a forum for others to tell their own story. The article contains an audio link to Ahmed reading his poem.]]>2667cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome poet Michael Mejia. Mike shares several of his poems, and he and Robin discuss the poetry of Ahmed Badr, Rumi, and others. Poetry is ordinary language raised to the Nth power. Poetry is boned with ideas, nerved and blooded with emotions, all held together by the delicate, tough skin of words. – Paul Engle Mytho-Poetic States? In this video Jason Silva  muses on the Power of Poetry from his "Shots of Awe" series. Poetry is a deal of joy and pain and wonder, with a dash of the dictionary. – Kahlil Gibran Michael's upcoming events: * July 30, 2017 6:00 – 9:00 PM– Poetry reading at Sundappled, 216 Foothill Blvd, Claremont, California. Michael is the featured guest along with Staxx and Ron Blakely * August 12,2017 6:00 PM – Interworks Wellness Center,  1306 Monte Vista Ave. #8, Upland, CA – Kundalini Yoga and Poetry Reading References: 10 Points on the Power of Poetry Iraqi Refugee Empowers Youth to Share Their Stories with Narratio – Ahmed Badr, an Iraqi-American,wrote the moving poem "A Thank You Letter From The Bomb That Visited My Home 11 Years Ago". This article talks about his project that provides a forum for others to tell their own story. The article contains an audio link to Ahmed reading his poem.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc354-the-game-called-life-interview-wit
About Kay:
Kay Gilley is a spiritual coach and mentor to executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals. In her writing, public speaking and individual work, she helps individuals break out of habitual near-life experiences to rediscover life, foster latent creativity and reclaim their whole potential. Kay has been described as "the world's leading thinking on intention." She says that means intention is the assignment God has given her to master at this point on her journey. To date, here spiritual homework has included writing four books on fear, courage, and intention. She describes The Game Called Life as the ultimate exercise in spiritual surrender…written in five days with passion that changed her life and her health. Kay writes the blog YouKnowInYourHeart.blogspot.com, and she is also a keynote speaker, in addition to her "day job" as senior organizational development consultant at NASA Headquarters.
You can read more at Kay's blog: http://youknowinyourheart.blogspot.com/]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3782Tue, 20 Jun 2017 01:09:38 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome Kay Gilley. Kay is the author of "The Game Called Life" available from Amazon. Kay and Amy have been friends for over 20 years. About Kay:...
About Kay:
Kay Gilley is a spiritual coach and mentor to executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals. In her writing, public speaking and individual work, she helps individuals break out of habitual near-life experiences to rediscover life, foster latent creativity and reclaim their whole potential. Kay has been described as "the world's leading thinking on intention." She says that means intention is the assignment God has given her to master at this point on her journey. To date, here spiritual homework has included writing four books on fear, courage, and intention. She describes The Game Called Life as the ultimate exercise in spiritual surrender…written in five days with passion that changed her life and her health. Kay writes the blog YouKnowInYourHeart.blogspot.com, and she is also a keynote speaker, in addition to her "day job" as senior organizational development consultant at NASA Headquarters.
You can read more at Kay's blog: http://youknowinyourheart.blogspot.com/]]>1831cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome Kay Gilley. Kay is the author of "The Game Called Life" available from Amazon. Kay and Amy have been friends for over 20 years. About Kay: Kay Gilley is a spiritual coach and mentor to executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals. In her writing, public speaking and individual work, she helps individuals break out of habitual near-life experiences to rediscover life, foster latent creativity and reclaim their whole potential. Kay has been described as "the world's leading thinking on intention." She says that means intention is the assignment God has given her to master at this point on her journey. To date, here spiritual homework has included writing four books on fear, courage, and intention. She describes The Game Called Life as the ultimate exercise in spiritual surrender…written in five days with passion that changed her life and her health. Kay writes the blog YouKnowInYourHeart.blogspot.com, and she is also a keynote speaker, in addition to her "day job" as senior organizational development consultant at NASA Headquarters. You can read more at Kay's blog: http://youknowinyourheart.blogspot.com/Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc353-self-care-for-caregivers-and-laughHidden Heroes brings vital attention to the untold stories of military caregivers and seeks solutions for the tremendous challenges and long-term needs they face.

In 2012, Elizabeth Dole founded the Elizabeth Dole Foundation to support military caregivers after witnessing the hardships these spouses, parents, siblings, and friends of wounded, ill, and injured veterans and service members face while she was caring for her husband, Bob, during an extended stay at Walter Reed Hospital. Since the Foundation’s launch, she has led the way in exposing the military caregiving crisis and bringing crucial resources to help these hidden heroes.

You can learn more about VA Caregiver Support, and participate in 4 weeks of daily self-care reflections and activities provided by the Veterans Administration. Check out the excellent "Caregiver Workbook Module 1: Caring for Yourself".]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3770Tue, 13 Jun 2017 02:56:33 +0000Transformation CafeOn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome Michelle Bassett, a Hidden Heroes Fellow, to discuss self-care for caregivers and the work of the Elizabeth Dole Foundation. Hidden Heroes brings...Hidden Heroes brings vital attention to the untold stories of military caregivers and seeks solutions for the tremendous challenges and long-term needs they face.

In 2012, Elizabeth Dole founded the Elizabeth Dole Foundation to support military caregivers after witnessing the hardships these spouses, parents, siblings, and friends of wounded, ill, and injured veterans and service members face while she was caring for her husband, Bob, during an extended stay at Walter Reed Hospital. Since the Foundation’s launch, she has led the way in exposing the military caregiving crisis and bringing crucial resources to help these hidden heroes.

You can learn more about VA Caregiver Support, and participate in 4 weeks of daily self-care reflections and activities provided by the Veterans Administration. Check out the excellent "Caregiver Workbook Module 1: Caring for Yourself".]]>1832cleanfullTransformation CafeOn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome Michelle Bassett, a Hidden Heroes Fellow, to discuss self-care for caregivers and the work of the Elizabeth Dole Foundation. Hidden Heroes brings vital attention to the untold stories of military caregivers and seeks solutions for the tremendous challenges and long-term needs they face. In 2012, Elizabeth Dole founded the Elizabeth Dole Foundation to support military caregivers after witnessing the hardships these spouses, parents, siblings, and friends of wounded, ill, and injured veterans and service members face while she was caring for her husband, Bob, during an extended stay at Walter Reed Hospital. Since the Foundation’s launch, she has led the way in exposing the military caregiving crisis and bringing crucial resources to help these hidden heroes. You can learn more about VA Caregiver Support, and participate in 4 weeks of daily self-care reflections and activities provided by the Veterans Administration. Check out the excellent "Caregiver Workbook Module 1: Caring for Yourself".Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc352-staying-well-on-vacation-with-gues
The CIGS Approach
A 4-prong approach to staying healthy on your vacation: CIGS. This is the only time that CIGS denotes something healthy for you!

* Condition your body to be active
* Nourish your immune system
* Prime your GI tract for proper function
* Reduce the impact of Stress on your body


Below is a link to a PDF of Catie's great article! Download the article and you'll find great resources to help you prepare your body and mind. Catie also includes a table of foods that provide vitamins and minerals to boost your immune system.
Staying Well on Vacation – (PDF file)
The Four R's
After vacation, apply the four R's to make your transition back to normal a smooth one.

* Reflect – on what you saw and did
* Re-establish routines– go to bed at a descent hour and set your alarm for the time you normally go to work
* Restock your refrigerator and pantry with healthy whole foods  so you can replenish your body
* Recalibrate – Plan your schedule and to-dos for your first week back to work. Revisit your personal and professional goals.

CONTACT INFO
Catie Fitzgerald, Health and Nutrition Coach
Enhanced Health Solutions
www.enhancedhealthsolutions.com
Email: cfitz@enhancedhealthsolutions.com]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3760Sun, 04 Jun 2017 04:52:46 +0000Transformation CafeOn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast we welcome back nutritional counselor Catie Fitzgerald. Catie tells us about her approach to staying well on vacation, by preparing your body ahead of time so you don't get sick while having fun! The...
The CIGS Approach
A 4-prong approach to staying healthy on your vacation: CIGS. This is the only time that CIGS denotes something healthy for you!

* Condition your body to be active
* Nourish your immune system
* Prime your GI tract for proper function
* Reduce the impact of Stress on your body


Below is a link to a PDF of Catie's great article! Download the article and you'll find great resources to help you prepare your body and mind. Catie also includes a table of foods that provide vitamins and minerals to boost your immune system.
Staying Well on Vacation – (PDF file)
The Four R's
After vacation, apply the four R's to make your transition back to normal a smooth one.

* Reflect – on what you saw and did
* Re-establish routines– go to bed at a descent hour and set your alarm for the time you normally go to work
* Restock your refrigerator and pantry with healthy whole foods  so you can replenish your body
* Recalibrate – Plan your schedule and to-dos for your first week back to work. Revisit your personal and professional goals.

CONTACT INFO
Catie Fitzgerald, Health and Nutrition Coach
Enhanced Health Solutions
www.enhancedhealthsolutions.com
Email: cfitz@enhancedhealthsolutions.com]]>1970cleanfullTransformation CafeOn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast we welcome back nutritional counselor Catie Fitzgerald. Catie tells us about her approach to staying well on vacation, by preparing your body ahead of time so you don't get sick while having fun! The CIGS Approach A 4-prong approach to staying healthy on your vacation: CIGS. This is the only time that CIGS denotes something healthy for you! * Condition your body to be active * Nourish your immune system * Prime your GI tract for proper function * Reduce the impact of Stress on your body Below is a link to a PDF of Catie's great article! Download the article and you'll find great resources to help you prepare your body and mind. Catie also includes a table of foods that provide vitamins and minerals to boost your immune system. Staying Well on Vacation – (PDF file) The Four R's After vacation, apply the four R's to make your transition back to normal a smooth one. * Reflect – on what you saw and did * Re-establish routines– go to bed at a descent hour and set your alarm for the time you normally go to work * Restock your refrigerator and pantry with healthy whole foods  so you can replenish your body * Recalibrate – Plan your schedule and to-dos for your first week back to work. Revisit your personal and professional goals. CONTACT INFO Catie Fitzgerald, Health and Nutrition Coach Enhanced Health Solutions www.enhancedhealthsolutions.com Email: cfitz@enhancedhealthsolutions.comNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc351-the-book-of-joy-relationships-and-
From the description on Amazon:
Two great spiritual masters share their own hard-won wisdom about living with joy even in the face of adversity.
The occasion was a big birthday. And it inspired two close friends to get together in Dharamsala for a talk about something very important to them. The friends were His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu. The subject was joy. Both winners of the Nobel Prize, both great spiritual masters and moral leaders of our time, they are also known for being among the most infectiously happy people on the planet.
From the beginning the book was envisioned as a three-layer birthday cake: their own stories and teachings about joy, the most recent findings in the science of deep happiness, and the daily practices that anchor their own emotional and spiritual lives. Both the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Tutu have been tested by great personal and national adversity, and here they share their personal stories of struggle and renewal. Now that they are both in their 80s, they especially want to spread the core message that to have joy yourself, you must bring joy to others.
Most of all, during that landmark week in Dharamsala, they demonstrated by their own exuberance, compassion, and humor how joy can be transformed from a fleeting emotion into an enduring way of life.

This book is filled with the wisdom of these two great spiritual leaders. They share their simple but profound ideas of how a shift in thought or behavior can have a tremendous impact on one's sense of joy, regardless of the challenges we experience. And as we've seen science backs up their claims that humility, humor, acceptance, forgiveness, gratitude, compassion, and generosity have a significant impact on our level of happiness.
The Eight Pillars of Joy:

Perspectives: There are many different angles
Humility: I try to look humble and modest
Humor: Laughter, joking is much better
Acceptance: The only place where change can begin
Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past
Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive
Compassion: Something we want to become
Generosity: We are filled with joy

We are grateful that we've been able to share this wonderful book with our audience. If you even need a reminder of how a change of perspective can make a difference, or how acceptance can help you to move forward, feel free to revisit these episode. We encourage you to share the book with your friends and family in the hope that they too will be able to experience more joy in their lives.
Additional Resources:
In the podcast Amy makes a reference to St. Ignatius of Loyola, the founder of the Society of Jesus,]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3751Mon, 22 May 2017 00:00:04 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast we conclude our Cafe Book Club review of "The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World". Host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost provide a meditation exercise for each one of the Eight Pillars of Joy, and Robin...
From the description on Amazon:
Two great spiritual masters share their own hard-won wisdom about living with joy even in the face of adversity.
The occasion was a big birthday. And it inspired two close friends to get together in Dharamsala for a talk about something very important to them. The friends were His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu. The subject was joy. Both winners of the Nobel Prize, both great spiritual masters and moral leaders of our time, they are also known for being among the most infectiously happy people on the planet.
From the beginning the book was envisioned as a three-layer birthday cake: their own stories and teachings about joy, the most recent findings in the science of deep happiness, and the daily practices that anchor their own emotional and spiritual lives. Both the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Tutu have been tested by great personal and national adversity, and here they share their personal stories of struggle and renewal. Now that they are both in their 80s, they especially want to spread the core message that to have joy yourself, you must bring joy to others.
Most of all, during that landmark week in Dharamsala, they demonstrated by their own exuberance, compassion, and humor how joy can be transformed from a fleeting emotion into an enduring way of life.

This book is filled with the wisdom of these two great spiritual leaders. They share their simple but profound ideas of how a shift in thought or behavior can have a tremendous impact on one's sense of joy, regardless of the challenges we experience. And as we've seen science backs up their claims that humility, humor, acceptance, forgiveness, gratitude, compassion, and generosity have a significant impact on our level of happiness.
The Eight Pillars of Joy:

Perspectives: There are many different angles
Humility: I try to look humble and modest
Humor: Laughter, joking is much better
Acceptance: The only place where change can begin
Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past
Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive
Compassion: Something we want to become
Generosity: We are filled with joy

We are grateful that we've been able to share this wonderful book with our audience. If you even need a reminder of how a change of perspective can make a difference, or how acceptance can help you to move forward, feel free to revisit these episode. We encourage you to share the book with your friends and family in the hope that they too will be able to experience more joy in their lives.
Additional Resources:
In the podcast Amy makes a reference to St. Ignatius of Loyola, the founder of the Society of Jesus,]]>1878cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast we conclude our Cafe Book Club review of "The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World". Host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost provide a meditation exercise for each one of the Eight Pillars of Joy, and Robin demonstrates a Laughter Yoga exercise that will put a smile on your face. From the description on Amazon: Two great spiritual masters share their own hard-won wisdom about living with joy even in the face of adversity. The occasion was a big birthday. And it inspired two close friends to get together in Dharamsala for a talk about something very important to them. The friends were His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu. The subject was joy. Both winners of the Nobel Prize, both great spiritual masters and moral leaders of our time, they are also known for being among the most infectiously happy people on the planet. From the beginning the book was envisioned as a three-layer birthday cake: their own stories and teachings about joy, the most recent findings in the science of deep happiness, and the daily practices that anchor their own emotional and spiritual lives. Both the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Tutu have been tested by great personal and national adversity, and here they share their personal stories of struggle and renewal. Now that they are both in their 80s, they especially want to spread the core message that to have joy yourself, you must bring joy to others. Most of all, during that landmark week in Dharamsala, they demonstrated by their own exuberance, compassion, and humor how joy can be transformed from a fleeting emotion into an enduring way of life. This book is filled with the wisdom of these two great spiritual leaders. They share their simple but profound ideas of how a shift in thought or behavior can have a tremendous impact on one's sense of joy, regardless of the challenges we experience. And as we've seen science backs up their claims that humility, humor, acceptance, forgiveness, gratitude, compassion, and generosity have a significant impact on our level of happiness. The Eight Pillars of Joy: Perspectives: There are many different angles Humility: I try to look humble and modest Humor: Laughter, joking is much better Acceptance: The only place where change can begin Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive Compassion: Something we want to become Generosity: We are filled with joy We are grateful that we've been able to share this wonderful book with our audience. If you even need a reminder of how a change of perspective can make a difference, or how acceptance can help you to move forward, feel free to revisit these episode. We encourage you to share the book with your friends and family in the hope that they too will be able to experience more joy in their lives. Additional Resources: In the podcast Amy makes a reference to St. Ignatius of Loyola, the founder of the Society of Jesus,Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc350-cafe-book-club-presents-the-book-o
Generosity is the habit of giving freely without expecting anything in return. It can involve offering time, assets or talents to aid someone in need. Often equated with charity as a virtue, generosity is widely accepted in society as a desirable trait.
Generosity is often a natural outgrowth of compassion, thought the line between the two can be hard to distinguish. We don't need to wait until the feelings of compassion arise before we choose to be generous. Generosity is often something that we learn to enjoy by doing. It is probably for this reason that charity is prescribed by almost every religious tradition.

The Science of Giving
Generosity was so important for our survival that the reward centers of our brain light up as strongly when we give as when we receive, sometimes even more so. Renowned neuroscientist Richard Davidson and his colleagues have identified that generosity is one of the four fundamental brain circuits that map with long-term well being.
Davidson is finding that happiness is something we can cultivate and a skill that can be learned. Working with the Dalai Lama, Davidson is investigating the far-reaching impact of mindfulness, meditation, and the cultivation of kindness on human health and well-being. The video from National Geographic below features Davidson on "The Science of a Happy Mind".

"The Science of Giving" video below gives a great summary of how generosity can improve your mood, boost your immunity, and provide other benefits.

Generosity can also be spending time, money, or labor, for others, without being rewarded in return.

Although the term generosity often goes hand-in-hand with charity, many people in the public's eye want recognition for their good deeds. Donations are needed to support organizations and committees, however, generosity should not be limited to times of great need such as natural disasters and extreme situations.

You don't have to be rich to be generous
Generosity is not solely based on one's economic status, but instead, includes the individual's pure intentions of looking out for society's common good and giving from the heart. Generosity should reflect the individual's passion to help others, but it doesn't have to cost you money.  You could volunteer at a senior center, a food bank, your local animal shelter, or any of a number of worthy causes. Your time is your gift.
What of those people who want to know how they can find joy in their own life while there are so many who are suffering?
As the Dalai Lama says, we do not have to take on the burdens of the world. "It helps no one if you sacrifice your joy because others are suffering. We people who care must be attractive, must be filled with joy, so that others recognize that caring, that helping and being generous are not a burden, they are a joy. Give the world your love, your service, your healing, but you can also give it your joy. This, too, is a great gift."
The Eight Pillars of Joy:

Perspectives: There are many different angles
Humility: I try to look humble and modest
Humor: Laughter, joking is much better
Acceptance: The only place where change can begin]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3736Sun, 14 May 2017 23:05:21 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss the last of the 8 Pillars of Joy from the "Book of Joy" by the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu. Pillar 8 is "Generosity". Generosity is the habit of giving freely...
Generosity is the habit of giving freely without expecting anything in return. It can involve offering time, assets or talents to aid someone in need. Often equated with charity as a virtue, generosity is widely accepted in society as a desirable trait.
Generosity is often a natural outgrowth of compassion, thought the line between the two can be hard to distinguish. We don't need to wait until the feelings of compassion arise before we choose to be generous. Generosity is often something that we learn to enjoy by doing. It is probably for this reason that charity is prescribed by almost every religious tradition.

The Science of Giving
Generosity was so important for our survival that the reward centers of our brain light up as strongly when we give as when we receive, sometimes even more so. Renowned neuroscientist Richard Davidson and his colleagues have identified that generosity is one of the four fundamental brain circuits that map with long-term well being.
Davidson is finding that happiness is something we can cultivate and a skill that can be learned. Working with the Dalai Lama, Davidson is investigating the far-reaching impact of mindfulness, meditation, and the cultivation of kindness on human health and well-being. The video from National Geographic below features Davidson on "The Science of a Happy Mind".

"The Science of Giving" video below gives a great summary of how generosity can improve your mood, boost your immunity, and provide other benefits.

Generosity can also be spending time, money, or labor, for others, without being rewarded in return.

Although the term generosity often goes hand-in-hand with charity, many people in the public's eye want recognition for their good deeds. Donations are needed to support organizations and committees, however, generosity should not be limited to times of great need such as natural disasters and extreme situations.

You don't have to be rich to be generous
Generosity is not solely based on one's economic status, but instead, includes the individual's pure intentions of looking out for society's common good and giving from the heart. Generosity should reflect the individual's passion to help others, but it doesn't have to cost you money.  You could volunteer at a senior center, a food bank, your local animal shelter, or any of a number of worthy causes. Your time is your gift.
What of those people who want to know how they can find joy in their own life while there are so many who are suffering?
As the Dalai Lama says, we do not have to take on the burdens of the world. "It helps no one if you sacrifice your joy because others are suffering. We people who care must be attractive, must be filled with joy, so that others recognize that caring, that helping and being generous are not a burden, they are a joy. Give the world your love, your service, your healing, but you can also give it your joy. This, too, is a great gift."
The Eight Pillars of Joy:

Perspectives: There are many different angles
Humility: I try to look humble and modest
Humor: Laughter, joking is much better
Acceptance: The only place where change can begin]]>1931cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss the last of the 8 Pillars of Joy from the "Book of Joy" by the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu. Pillar 8 is "Generosity". Generosity is the habit of giving freely without expecting anything in return. It can involve offering time, assets or talents to aid someone in need. Often equated with charity as a virtue, generosity is widely accepted in society as a desirable trait. Generosity is often a natural outgrowth of compassion, thought the line between the two can be hard to distinguish. We don't need to wait until the feelings of compassion arise before we choose to be generous. Generosity is often something that we learn to enjoy by doing. It is probably for this reason that charity is prescribed by almost every religious tradition. The Science of Giving Generosity was so important for our survival that the reward centers of our brain light up as strongly when we give as when we receive, sometimes even more so. Renowned neuroscientist Richard Davidson and his colleagues have identified that generosity is one of the four fundamental brain circuits that map with long-term well being. Davidson is finding that happiness is something we can cultivate and a skill that can be learned. Working with the Dalai Lama, Davidson is investigating the far-reaching impact of mindfulness, meditation, and the cultivation of kindness on human health and well-being. The video from National Geographic below features Davidson on "The Science of a Happy Mind". "The Science of Giving" video below gives a great summary of how generosity can improve your mood, boost your immunity, and provide other benefits. Generosity can also be spending time, money, or labor, for others, without being rewarded in return. Although the term generosity often goes hand-in-hand with charity, many people in the public's eye want recognition for their good deeds. Donations are needed to support organizations and committees, however, generosity should not be limited to times of great need such as natural disasters and extreme situations. You don't have to be rich to be generous Generosity is not solely based on one's economic status, but instead, includes the individual's pure intentions of looking out for society's common good and giving from the heart. Generosity should reflect the individual's passion to help others, but it doesn't have to cost you money.  You could volunteer at a senior center, a food bank, your local animal shelter, or any of a number of worthy causes. Your time is your gift. What of those people who want to know how they can find joy in their own life while there are so many who are suffering? As the Dalai Lama says, we do not have to take on the burdens of the world. "It helps no one if you sacrifice your joy because others are suffering. We people who care must be attractive, must be filled with joy, so that others recognize that caring, that helping and being generous are not a burden, they are a joy. Give the world your love, your service, your healing, but you can also give it your joy. This, too, is a great gift." The Eight Pillars of Joy: Perspectives: There are many different angles Humility: I try to look humble and modest Humor: Laughter, joking is much better Acceptance: The only place where change can beginNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc349-cafe-book-club-presents-the-book-o
Compassion – All traditions carry the same message: the message of love. Compassion is a sense of concern that arises when we are confronted with another’s suffering and feel motivated to see that suffering relieved. It connects the feeling of empathy to acts of kindness, generosity and other altruistic tendencies.

According to the research, we are hard-wired to want to relieve the suffering of others.

Can compassion be taught?

How is compassion related to joy and happiness?]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3724Sun, 07 May 2017 03:17:45 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Front continue their discussion of "The Book of Joy". This week we focus on Pillar 7: Compassion – Something We Want to Become Compassion – All traditions carry the same message: the...
Compassion – All traditions carry the same message: the message of love. Compassion is a sense of concern that arises when we are confronted with another’s suffering and feel motivated to see that suffering relieved. It connects the feeling of empathy to acts of kindness, generosity and other altruistic tendencies.

According to the research, we are hard-wired to want to relieve the suffering of others.

Can compassion be taught?

How is compassion related to joy and happiness?]]>1813cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Front continue their discussion of "The Book of Joy". This week we focus on Pillar 7: Compassion – Something We Want to Become Compassion – All traditions carry the same message: the message of love. Compassion is a sense of concern that arises when we are confronted with another’s suffering and feel motivated to see that suffering relieved. It connects the feeling of empathy to acts of kindness, generosity and other altruistic tendencies. According to the research, we are hard-wired to want to relieve the suffering of others. Can compassion be taught? How is compassion related to joy and happiness?Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc348-cafe-book-club-presents-the-book-o
The quotes below are excerpted from this chapter.
Greet each day with gratitude
"Every day, think as you wake up, ‘I am fortunate to be alive. I have a precious human life. I am not going to waste it.'"
Gratitude is the recognition of all that holds us in the web of life and all that has made it possible to have the live that we have and them moment that we are experiencing. Thanksgiving is a natural response to life and may be the only way to savor it. It allows us to shift our perspective toward all we have been given and all that we have. It moves us away from the narrow-minded focus on fault and lack and to the wider perspective of benefit and abundance.
It is gratitude that makes us happy
Brother David Seindl-Rast, a Catholic Benedictine monk and scholar who spent a great deal of time in Christian-Buddhist interfaith dialogue explained, "It is not happiness that makes us grateful. It is gratefulness that makes us happy. Every moment is a gift. There is no certainty that you will have another moment, with all the opportunity it contains. The gift within every gift is the opportunity it offers us. Most often it is the opportunity to enjoy it, but sometimes a difficult gift is given to us and that can be an opportunity to rise to the challenge."
"A grateful world is a world of joyful people. Grateful people are joyful people. A grateful world is a happy world."
In the video below, Brother David Steindl-Rast talks about the power of gratitude.

Joy is the happiness that does not depend on what happens
"Whatever life gives to you," Brother Steindl-Rast explains,"you can respond with joy. Joy is the happiness that does not depend on what happens. It is the grateful response to the opportunity that life offers you at this moment."
Unforgiveness robs us of our ability to enjoy and appreciate our life, because we are trapped in a past filled with anger and bitterness. Forgiveness allows us to move beyond the past and appreciate the present, including the drops of rain falling on our face.
Gratitude cuts across the negative bias
Scientists have long known that our brains have evolved with a negative bias. It was no doubt advantageous for our survival to focus on what was wrong or dangerous. Gratitude cuts across this default mode of the mind. It allows us to see what is good and right and not just what is bad and wrong.
Grateful people do not ignore the negative aspects of life, they simply choose to appreciate the positive
Grateful people do not seem to ignore or deny the negative aspects of life; they simply choose to appreciate what is positive as well: "People with a strong disposition toward gratitude have the capacity to be empathetic and to take the perspective of others. They are rated as more generous and more helpful by people in their social networks." The are also more likely to have helped someone with a personal problem or to have offered emotional support to others.

Keep a list of things for which you are grateful
People who focus on gratitude, by keeping a list of what they were grateful for, exercised more often, had fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives, and were more positive about the week ahead compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events. Similarly, those who focused on gratitude were more likely to have made progress toward their important personal goals. So it seems gratitude is motivating, not demotivating. Grateful people report more positive emotions, more vitality and optimism, and greater life satisfaction as well as lower levels of stress and depression.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3702Mon, 24 Apr 2017 02:01:37 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost continue their discussion on The Book of Joy. This week we focus on Pillar 6: Gratitude – I am Fortunate to be Alive The quotes below are excerpted from this chapter. Greet each day...
The quotes below are excerpted from this chapter.
Greet each day with gratitude
"Every day, think as you wake up, ‘I am fortunate to be alive. I have a precious human life. I am not going to waste it.'"
Gratitude is the recognition of all that holds us in the web of life and all that has made it possible to have the live that we have and them moment that we are experiencing. Thanksgiving is a natural response to life and may be the only way to savor it. It allows us to shift our perspective toward all we have been given and all that we have. It moves us away from the narrow-minded focus on fault and lack and to the wider perspective of benefit and abundance.
It is gratitude that makes us happy
Brother David Seindl-Rast, a Catholic Benedictine monk and scholar who spent a great deal of time in Christian-Buddhist interfaith dialogue explained, "It is not happiness that makes us grateful. It is gratefulness that makes us happy. Every moment is a gift. There is no certainty that you will have another moment, with all the opportunity it contains. The gift within every gift is the opportunity it offers us. Most often it is the opportunity to enjoy it, but sometimes a difficult gift is given to us and that can be an opportunity to rise to the challenge."
"A grateful world is a world of joyful people. Grateful people are joyful people. A grateful world is a happy world."
In the video below, Brother David Steindl-Rast talks about the power of gratitude.

Joy is the happiness that does not depend on what happens
"Whatever life gives to you," Brother Steindl-Rast explains,"you can respond with joy. Joy is the happiness that does not depend on what happens. It is the grateful response to the opportunity that life offers you at this moment."
Unforgiveness robs us of our ability to enjoy and appreciate our life, because we are trapped in a past filled with anger and bitterness. Forgiveness allows us to move beyond the past and appreciate the present, including the drops of rain falling on our face.
Gratitude cuts across the negative bias
Scientists have long known that our brains have evolved with a negative bias. It was no doubt advantageous for our survival to focus on what was wrong or dangerous. Gratitude cuts across this default mode of the mind. It allows us to see what is good and right and not just what is bad and wrong.
Grateful people do not ignore the negative aspects of life, they simply choose to appreciate the positive
Grateful people do not seem to ignore or deny the negative aspects of life; they simply choose to appreciate what is positive as well: "People with a strong disposition toward gratitude have the capacity to be empathetic and to take the perspective of others. They are rated as more generous and more helpful by people in their social networks." The are also more likely to have helped someone with a personal problem or to have offered emotional support to others.

Keep a list of things for which you are grateful
People who focus on gratitude, by keeping a list of what they were grateful for, exercised more often, had fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives, and were more positive about the week ahead compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events. Similarly, those who focused on gratitude were more likely to have made progress toward their important personal goals. So it seems gratitude is motivating, not demotivating. Grateful people report more positive emotions, more vitality and optimism, and greater life satisfaction as well as lower levels of stress and depression.]]>1804cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost continue their discussion on The Book of Joy. This week we focus on Pillar 6: Gratitude – I am Fortunate to be Alive The quotes below are excerpted from this chapter. Greet each day with gratitude "Every day, think as you wake up, ‘I am fortunate to be alive. I have a precious human life. I am not going to waste it.'" Gratitude is the recognition of all that holds us in the web of life and all that has made it possible to have the live that we have and them moment that we are experiencing. Thanksgiving is a natural response to life and may be the only way to savor it. It allows us to shift our perspective toward all we have been given and all that we have. It moves us away from the narrow-minded focus on fault and lack and to the wider perspective of benefit and abundance. It is gratitude that makes us happy Brother David Seindl-Rast, a Catholic Benedictine monk and scholar who spent a great deal of time in Christian-Buddhist interfaith dialogue explained, "It is not happiness that makes us grateful. It is gratefulness that makes us happy. Every moment is a gift. There is no certainty that you will have another moment, with all the opportunity it contains. The gift within every gift is the opportunity it offers us. Most often it is the opportunity to enjoy it, but sometimes a difficult gift is given to us and that can be an opportunity to rise to the challenge." "A grateful world is a world of joyful people. Grateful people are joyful people. A grateful world is a happy world." In the video below, Brother David Steindl-Rast talks about the power of gratitude. Joy is the happiness that does not depend on what happens "Whatever life gives to you," Brother Steindl-Rast explains,"you can respond with joy. Joy is the happiness that does not depend on what happens. It is the grateful response to the opportunity that life offers you at this moment." Unforgiveness robs us of our ability to enjoy and appreciate our life, because we are trapped in a past filled with anger and bitterness. Forgiveness allows us to move beyond the past and appreciate the present, including the drops of rain falling on our face. Gratitude cuts across the negative bias Scientists have long known that our brains have evolved with a negative bias. It was no doubt advantageous for our survival to focus on what was wrong or dangerous. Gratitude cuts across this default mode of the mind. It allows us to see what is good and right and not just what is bad and wrong. Grateful people do not ignore the negative aspects of life, they simply choose to appreciate the positive Grateful people do not seem to ignore or deny the negative aspects of life; they simply choose to appreciate what is positive as well: "People with a strong disposition toward gratitude have the capacity to be empathetic and to take the perspective of others. They are rated as more generous and more helpful by people in their social networks." The are also more likely to have helped someone with a personal problem or to have offered emotional support to others. Keep a list of things for which you are grateful People who focus on gratitude, by keeping a list of what they were grateful for, exercised more often, had fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives, and were more positive about the week ahead compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events. Similarly, those who focused on gratitude were more likely to have made progress toward their important personal goals. So it seems gratitude is motivating, not demotivating. Grateful people report more positive emotions, more vitality and optimism, and greater life satisfaction as well as lower levels of stress and depression.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc347-cafe-book-club-presents-the-book-o


 
 

The Eight Pillars of Joy:

Perspectives: There are many different angles
Humility: I try to look humble and modest
Humor: Laughter, joking is much better
Acceptance: The only place where change can begin
Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past
Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive
Compassion: Something we want to become
Generosity: We are filled with joy]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3684Sun, 16 Apr 2017 04:06:59 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost continue their discussion on The Book of Joy. This week we focus on Pillar 5: Forgiveness.     The Eight Pillars of Joy: Perspectives: There are many different angles Humility: I...


 
 

The Eight Pillars of Joy:

Perspectives: There are many different angles
Humility: I try to look humble and modest
Humor: Laughter, joking is much better
Acceptance: The only place where change can begin
Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past
Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive
Compassion: Something we want to become
Generosity: We are filled with joy]]>1857cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost continue their discussion on The Book of Joy. This week we focus on Pillar 5: Forgiveness.     The Eight Pillars of Joy: Perspectives: There are many different angles Humility: I try to look humble and modest Humor: Laughter, joking is much better Acceptance: The only place where change can begin Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive Compassion: Something we want to become Generosity: We are filled with joyNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc346-cafe-book-club-presents-the-book-o
Acceptance: The Only Place Where Change Can Begin
In this short teaching is the profound essence of the Dalai Lama's approach to life:
"Why be unhappy about something if it can be remedied? And what is the use of being unhappy if it cannot be remedied?
Once we can see life in its wider perspective, once we are able to see our role in its drama with some degree of humility, and once we are able to laugh at ourselves, we then come to the fourth and final quality of mind which is the ability to accept our life in all its pain, imperfection, and beauty.
Acceptance, it must be pointed out, is the opposite of resignation and defeat.


Acceptance–whether we believe in God or not–allows us to move into the fullness of joy. It allows us to engage with life on its own terms rather than rail against the fact that life is not as we would wish. It allows us not to struggle against the day-to-day current. The Dalai Lama had told us that stress and anxiety come from our expectation of how life should be. When we are able to accept that life is how it is, not as we think it should be, we are able to ease the ride, to go from that bumpy axle (dukkha), with all its suffering, stress, anxiety, and dissatisfaction, to the smooth axle (Sukha), with its greater ease, comfort, and happiness.
So many of the causes of suffering come from our reacting to the people, places, things, and circumstances in our lives, rather than accepting them. When we react, we stay locked in judgment and criticism, anxiety and despair, even denial and addiction. It is impossible to experience joy when we are stuck this way. Acceptance is the sword that cuts through all of this resistance, allowing us to relax, to see clearly, and to respond appropriately.

Amy mentions "A Thousand Names for Joy" by Byron Katie, one of her favorite authors. You can learn more about this book and Byron Katie's at TheWork.com.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3670Mon, 03 Apr 2017 03:31:19 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost continue their discussion of the Eight Pillars of Joy. This week focuses on the fourth pillar: Acceptance. Acceptance: The Only Place Where Change Can Begin In this short teaching is the...
Acceptance: The Only Place Where Change Can Begin
In this short teaching is the profound essence of the Dalai Lama's approach to life:
"Why be unhappy about something if it can be remedied? And what is the use of being unhappy if it cannot be remedied?
Once we can see life in its wider perspective, once we are able to see our role in its drama with some degree of humility, and once we are able to laugh at ourselves, we then come to the fourth and final quality of mind which is the ability to accept our life in all its pain, imperfection, and beauty.
Acceptance, it must be pointed out, is the opposite of resignation and defeat.


Acceptance–whether we believe in God or not–allows us to move into the fullness of joy. It allows us to engage with life on its own terms rather than rail against the fact that life is not as we would wish. It allows us not to struggle against the day-to-day current. The Dalai Lama had told us that stress and anxiety come from our expectation of how life should be. When we are able to accept that life is how it is, not as we think it should be, we are able to ease the ride, to go from that bumpy axle (dukkha), with all its suffering, stress, anxiety, and dissatisfaction, to the smooth axle (Sukha), with its greater ease, comfort, and happiness.
So many of the causes of suffering come from our reacting to the people, places, things, and circumstances in our lives, rather than accepting them. When we react, we stay locked in judgment and criticism, anxiety and despair, even denial and addiction. It is impossible to experience joy when we are stuck this way. Acceptance is the sword that cuts through all of this resistance, allowing us to relax, to see clearly, and to respond appropriately.

Amy mentions "A Thousand Names for Joy" by Byron Katie, one of her favorite authors. You can learn more about this book and Byron Katie's at TheWork.com.]]>1758cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost continue their discussion of the Eight Pillars of Joy. This week focuses on the fourth pillar: Acceptance. Acceptance: The Only Place Where Change Can Begin In this short teaching is the profound essence of the Dalai Lama's approach to life: "Why be unhappy about something if it can be remedied? And what is the use of being unhappy if it cannot be remedied? Once we can see life in its wider perspective, once we are able to see our role in its drama with some degree of humility, and once we are able to laugh at ourselves, we then come to the fourth and final quality of mind which is the ability to accept our life in all its pain, imperfection, and beauty. Acceptance, it must be pointed out, is the opposite of resignation and defeat. Acceptance–whether we believe in God or not–allows us to move into the fullness of joy. It allows us to engage with life on its own terms rather than rail against the fact that life is not as we would wish. It allows us not to struggle against the day-to-day current. The Dalai Lama had told us that stress and anxiety come from our expectation of how life should be. When we are able to accept that life is how it is, not as we think it should be, we are able to ease the ride, to go from that bumpy axle (dukkha), with all its suffering, stress, anxiety, and dissatisfaction, to the smooth axle (Sukha), with its greater ease, comfort, and happiness. So many of the causes of suffering come from our reacting to the people, places, things, and circumstances in our lives, rather than accepting them. When we react, we stay locked in judgment and criticism, anxiety and despair, even denial and addiction. It is impossible to experience joy when we are stuck this way. Acceptance is the sword that cuts through all of this resistance, allowing us to relax, to see clearly, and to respond appropriately. Amy mentions "A Thousand Names for Joy" by Byron Katie, one of her favorite authors. You can learn more about this book and Byron Katie's at TheWork.com.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc345-cafe-book-club-presents-the-book-o
To reinforce the benefits of humor, here's a great article called "Laughter is the Best Medicine". It discusses the benefits of laughter and how "Why laughter is the sweetest medicine for mind and body", including the physical, mental, and social benefits of laughter. They also offer tips for how you can develop your sense of humor. Below is an excerpt:




How to Develop Your Sense of Humor





Laugh at yourself. Share your embarrassing moments. The best way to take yourself less seriously is to talk about times when you took yourself too seriously.


Attempt to laugh at situations rather than bemoan them. Look for the humor in a bad situation, and uncover the irony and absurdity of life. When something negative happens, try to find a way to make it a humorous anecdote that will make others laugh.


Surround yourself with reminders to lighten up. Keep a toy on your desk or in your car. Put up a funny poster in your office. Choose a computer screensaver that makes you laugh. Frame photos of you and your family or friends having fun.


Remember funny things that happen. If something amusing happens or you hear a joke or funny story you really like, write it down or tell it to someone else to help you remember it.


Don’t dwell on the negative. Try to avoid negative people and don’t dwell on news stories, entertainment, or conversations that make you sad or unhappy. Many things in life are beyond your control—particularly the behavior of other people. While you might think taking the weight of the world on your shoulders is admirable, in the long run it’s unrealistic and unhealthy.


Find your inner child. Pay attention to children and try to emulate them—after all, they are the experts on playing, taking life lightly, and laughing at ordinary things.


Deal with your stress. Stress can be a major impediment to humor and laughter, so it's important to get your stress levels in check. One great technique to relieve stress in the moment is to draw upon a favorite memory that always makes you smile—something your kids did, for example, or something funny a friend told you.


Don’t go a day without laughing. Think of it like exercise or breakfast and make a conscious effort to find something each day that makes you laugh. Set aside 10 to 15 minutes and do something that amuses you. The more you get used to laughing each day, the less effort you’ll have to make.






Purchase your own copy of the Book of Joy

 
//]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3656Mon, 27 Mar 2017 01:04:07 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost continue their discussion of the Eight Pillars of Joy. This week focuses on the third pillar: Humor. To reinforce the benefits of humor, here's a great article called "Laughter is the Best...
To reinforce the benefits of humor, here's a great article called "Laughter is the Best Medicine". It discusses the benefits of laughter and how "Why laughter is the sweetest medicine for mind and body", including the physical, mental, and social benefits of laughter. They also offer tips for how you can develop your sense of humor. Below is an excerpt:




How to Develop Your Sense of Humor





Laugh at yourself. Share your embarrassing moments. The best way to take yourself less seriously is to talk about times when you took yourself too seriously.


Attempt to laugh at situations rather than bemoan them. Look for the humor in a bad situation, and uncover the irony and absurdity of life. When something negative happens, try to find a way to make it a humorous anecdote that will make others laugh.


Surround yourself with reminders to lighten up. Keep a toy on your desk or in your car. Put up a funny poster in your office. Choose a computer screensaver that makes you laugh. Frame photos of you and your family or friends having fun.


Remember funny things that happen. If something amusing happens or you hear a joke or funny story you really like, write it down or tell it to someone else to help you remember it.


Don’t dwell on the negative. Try to avoid negative people and don’t dwell on news stories, entertainment, or conversations that make you sad or unhappy. Many things in life are beyond your control—particularly the behavior of other people. While you might think taking the weight of the world on your shoulders is admirable, in the long run it’s unrealistic and unhealthy.


Find your inner child. Pay attention to children and try to emulate them—after all, they are the experts on playing, taking life lightly, and laughing at ordinary things.


Deal with your stress. Stress can be a major impediment to humor and laughter, so it's important to get your stress levels in check. One great technique to relieve stress in the moment is to draw upon a favorite memory that always makes you smile—something your kids did, for example, or something funny a friend told you.


Don’t go a day without laughing. Think of it like exercise or breakfast and make a conscious effort to find something each day that makes you laugh. Set aside 10 to 15 minutes and do something that amuses you. The more you get used to laughing each day, the less effort you’ll have to make.






Purchase your own copy of the Book of Joy

 
//]]>1836cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost continue their discussion of the Eight Pillars of Joy. This week focuses on the third pillar: Humor. To reinforce the benefits of humor, here's a great article called "Laughter is the Best Medicine". It discusses the benefits of laughter and how "Why laughter is the sweetest medicine for mind and body", including the physical, mental, and social benefits of laughter. They also offer tips for how you can develop your sense of humor. Below is an excerpt: How to Develop Your Sense of Humor Laugh at yourself. Share your embarrassing moments. The best way to take yourself less seriously is to talk about times when you took yourself too seriously. Attempt to laugh at situations rather than bemoan them. Look for the humor in a bad situation, and uncover the irony and absurdity of life. When something negative happens, try to find a way to make it a humorous anecdote that will make others laugh. Surround yourself with reminders to lighten up. Keep a toy on your desk or in your car. Put up a funny poster in your office. Choose a computer screensaver that makes you laugh. Frame photos of you and your family or friends having fun. Remember funny things that happen. If something amusing happens or you hear a joke or funny story you really like, write it down or tell it to someone else to help you remember it. Don’t dwell on the negative. Try to avoid negative people and don’t dwell on news stories, entertainment, or conversations that make you sad or unhappy. Many things in life are beyond your control—particularly the behavior of other people. While you might think taking the weight of the world on your shoulders is admirable, in the long run it’s unrealistic and unhealthy. Find your inner child. Pay attention to children and try to emulate them—after all, they are the experts on playing, taking life lightly, and laughing at ordinary things. Deal with your stress. Stress can be a major impediment to humor and laughter, so it's important to get your stress levels in check. One great technique to relieve stress in the moment is to draw upon a favorite memory that always makes you smile—something your kids did, for example, or something funny a friend told you. Don’t go a day without laughing. Think of it like exercise or breakfast and make a conscious effort to find something each day that makes you laugh. Set aside 10 to 15 minutes and do something that amuses you. The more you get used to laughing each day, the less effort you’ll have to make. Purchase your own copy of the Book of Joy   //Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc344-cafe-book-club-presents-the-book-o
We are all just human beings
Dalai Lama said, referring back to the Archbishop's story about preaching at Chris Hani's funeral. "You mentioned when you spoke at the funeral that you did not consider yourself superior, you were just one of them. That's very, very important. I always feels the same way when I give a talk. I consider myself as simply another person, just like those in the audience, same human being. So, I am just one human being talking to other human beings. "
"Similarly, they should consider me as the same human being, with the same potential for constructive emotions and destructive emotions. When we meet anyone, first and foremost we must remember that they, too, have the same desire to have a happy day, a happy month, a happy life. And all have the right to achieve it."
"Then, you see, my talk may offer them something relevant, but if I consider myself something special, or they also consider me something different and special, then my experience will not be of much use. So it's a wonder that, in you, Archbishop, I have found a comrade who fully shares this same view."

The Archbishop tells a joke
"‘Can you explain the role that humility plays in cultivating joy?' I asked, as the Archbishop started laughing."
"They tell the story of a bishop," he began, "who was about to ordain candidates to the priesthood. They were speaking about virtues, including the virtue of humility. One of the candidates came up to the Bishop and said, ‘My lord, I've been looking in the library to find a book on humility.' The bishop said, ‘Oh, yes, I've written the best book on the subject.'"

Humility is essential
"The Dalia Lama and the Archbishop were both insistent that humility is essential to any possibility of joy. When we have a wider perspective, we have a natural understanding of our place in the great sweep of all that was, is, and will be. This naturally leads to humility and the recognition that as human beings we can't solve everything or control all aspects of life. We need others."

Purchase your own copy of the Book of Joy

 ]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3641Mon, 20 Mar 2017 02:30:36 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost continue their discussion of the Eight Pillars of Joy. This week focuses on the second pillar: Humility. We are all just human beings Dalai Lama said, referring back to the Archbishop's story...
We are all just human beings
Dalai Lama said, referring back to the Archbishop's story about preaching at Chris Hani's funeral. "You mentioned when you spoke at the funeral that you did not consider yourself superior, you were just one of them. That's very, very important. I always feels the same way when I give a talk. I consider myself as simply another person, just like those in the audience, same human being. So, I am just one human being talking to other human beings. "
"Similarly, they should consider me as the same human being, with the same potential for constructive emotions and destructive emotions. When we meet anyone, first and foremost we must remember that they, too, have the same desire to have a happy day, a happy month, a happy life. And all have the right to achieve it."
"Then, you see, my talk may offer them something relevant, but if I consider myself something special, or they also consider me something different and special, then my experience will not be of much use. So it's a wonder that, in you, Archbishop, I have found a comrade who fully shares this same view."

The Archbishop tells a joke
"‘Can you explain the role that humility plays in cultivating joy?' I asked, as the Archbishop started laughing."
"They tell the story of a bishop," he began, "who was about to ordain candidates to the priesthood. They were speaking about virtues, including the virtue of humility. One of the candidates came up to the Bishop and said, ‘My lord, I've been looking in the library to find a book on humility.' The bishop said, ‘Oh, yes, I've written the best book on the subject.'"

Humility is essential
"The Dalia Lama and the Archbishop were both insistent that humility is essential to any possibility of joy. When we have a wider perspective, we have a natural understanding of our place in the great sweep of all that was, is, and will be. This naturally leads to humility and the recognition that as human beings we can't solve everything or control all aspects of life. We need others."

Purchase your own copy of the Book of Joy

 ]]>1795cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost continue their discussion of the Eight Pillars of Joy. This week focuses on the second pillar: Humility. We are all just human beings Dalai Lama said, referring back to the Archbishop's story about preaching at Chris Hani's funeral. "You mentioned when you spoke at the funeral that you did not consider yourself superior, you were just one of them. That's very, very important. I always feels the same way when I give a talk. I consider myself as simply another person, just like those in the audience, same human being. So, I am just one human being talking to other human beings. " "Similarly, they should consider me as the same human being, with the same potential for constructive emotions and destructive emotions. When we meet anyone, first and foremost we must remember that they, too, have the same desire to have a happy day, a happy month, a happy life. And all have the right to achieve it." "Then, you see, my talk may offer them something relevant, but if I consider myself something special, or they also consider me something different and special, then my experience will not be of much use. So it's a wonder that, in you, Archbishop, I have found a comrade who fully shares this same view." The Archbishop tells a joke "‘Can you explain the role that humility plays in cultivating joy?' I asked, as the Archbishop started laughing." "They tell the story of a bishop," he began, "who was about to ordain candidates to the priesthood. They were speaking about virtues, including the virtue of humility. One of the candidates came up to the Bishop and said, ‘My lord, I've been looking in the library to find a book on humility.' The bishop said, ‘Oh, yes, I've written the best book on the subject.'" Humility is essential "The Dalia Lama and the Archbishop were both insistent that humility is essential to any possibility of joy. When we have a wider perspective, we have a natural understanding of our place in the great sweep of all that was, is, and will be. This naturally leads to humility and the recognition that as human beings we can't solve everything or control all aspects of life. We need others." Purchase your own copy of the Book of Joy  Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc343-cafe-book-club-presents-the-book-o
Archbishop Tutu and the Dalai Lama discuss having a mental immunity that helps us about filling our minds and hearts with positive thoughts and feelings. There are so many times we get caught up in our fear, things that are going on when we experience challenging circumstances.
"A healthy perspective really is the foundation of joy and happiness, because the way we see the world is the way we experience the world. Changing the way we see the world in turn changes the way we feel and the way we act, which changes the world itself."

The Dalai Lama used the terms wider perspective and larger perspective. They involve stepping back, within our own mind, to look at the bigger picture and to move beyond our limited self-awareness, and our limited self interest.
"We must look at any given situation or problem from the front and from the back, from the sides, and from top to bottom, so from at least six different angles. This allows us to take a more complete and holistic view or reality, and if we do, our response will be more constructive."
One thing that they say in this chapter is that if we come from compassion and generosity that these two qualities are perhaps the most pivotal in everlasting happiness.
"As the Dali Lama and the Archbishop explained, the wider perspective leads to serenity and equanimity. It does not mean we don't have the strength to confront a problem, but we can confront it with creativity and compassion rather than rigidity and reactivity. When we take the perspective of others, we can empathize with them. One starts to see the interdependence that envelops us all, which reveals that how we treat others is ultimately how we treat ourselves. We also are able to recognize that we do not control all aspects of any situation. This leads to a greater sense of humility, humor, and acceptance."

Narrow vs. World-wide Perspective
The Dalai Lama uses the approach of taking a wider perspective when dealing with the situation in Tibet. He explains that if he were to look at the situation in Tibet from a narrow perspective, then the situation looks almost hopeless. However, if he looks at it from a wider worldwide perspective, then he sees an international situation in which communist and totalitarian regimes are collapsing, and even in China there’s a move toward democracy. So he doesn’t give up.
In addition, researchers have conducted a number of experiments which demonstrate that one’s level of life satisfaction can be enhanced simply by shifting one’s perspective and contemplating how things could be worse. How we feel at any given moment has little to do with the conditions themselves, but is rather a function of how we perceive the situation and how satisfied we are with what we have.
When a situation is causing negative emotions, spend some time seriously searching for a different perspective on the situation. A key component to happiness is adopting a flexible, malleable approach to life.

Joy Practice for Perspective

Think about a problem or situation that you are facing.
Describe your problem as it were happening to someone else–using your name rather than the words I, me, or mine.
Imagine the problem from the perspective or a week, a year, or even a decade from now. Will this issue or event still have an impact on you? Will you even remember it? What will you have learned from the experience?
Witness your life from a God's-eye, or universal, perspective. See your fears and your frustrations from this point of view. Now see all of the other people who are involved as having equal value and being worthy of love and respect. Then ask what will serve the whole.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3623Mon, 13 Mar 2017 03:53:57 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss the Pillar of Perspective, the first of the Eight Pillars of Joy. Archbishop Tutu and the Dalai Lama discuss having a mental immunity that helps us about filling our minds and hearts...
Archbishop Tutu and the Dalai Lama discuss having a mental immunity that helps us about filling our minds and hearts with positive thoughts and feelings. There are so many times we get caught up in our fear, things that are going on when we experience challenging circumstances.
"A healthy perspective really is the foundation of joy and happiness, because the way we see the world is the way we experience the world. Changing the way we see the world in turn changes the way we feel and the way we act, which changes the world itself."

The Dalai Lama used the terms wider perspective and larger perspective. They involve stepping back, within our own mind, to look at the bigger picture and to move beyond our limited self-awareness, and our limited self interest.
"We must look at any given situation or problem from the front and from the back, from the sides, and from top to bottom, so from at least six different angles. This allows us to take a more complete and holistic view or reality, and if we do, our response will be more constructive."
One thing that they say in this chapter is that if we come from compassion and generosity that these two qualities are perhaps the most pivotal in everlasting happiness.
"As the Dali Lama and the Archbishop explained, the wider perspective leads to serenity and equanimity. It does not mean we don't have the strength to confront a problem, but we can confront it with creativity and compassion rather than rigidity and reactivity. When we take the perspective of others, we can empathize with them. One starts to see the interdependence that envelops us all, which reveals that how we treat others is ultimately how we treat ourselves. We also are able to recognize that we do not control all aspects of any situation. This leads to a greater sense of humility, humor, and acceptance."

Narrow vs. World-wide Perspective
The Dalai Lama uses the approach of taking a wider perspective when dealing with the situation in Tibet. He explains that if he were to look at the situation in Tibet from a narrow perspective, then the situation looks almost hopeless. However, if he looks at it from a wider worldwide perspective, then he sees an international situation in which communist and totalitarian regimes are collapsing, and even in China there’s a move toward democracy. So he doesn’t give up.
In addition, researchers have conducted a number of experiments which demonstrate that one’s level of life satisfaction can be enhanced simply by shifting one’s perspective and contemplating how things could be worse. How we feel at any given moment has little to do with the conditions themselves, but is rather a function of how we perceive the situation and how satisfied we are with what we have.
When a situation is causing negative emotions, spend some time seriously searching for a different perspective on the situation. A key component to happiness is adopting a flexible, malleable approach to life.

Joy Practice for Perspective

Think about a problem or situation that you are facing.
Describe your problem as it were happening to someone else–using your name rather than the words I, me, or mine.
Imagine the problem from the perspective or a week, a year, or even a decade from now. Will this issue or event still have an impact on you? Will you even remember it? What will you have learned from the experience?
Witness your life from a God's-eye, or universal, perspective. See your fears and your frustrations from this point of view. Now see all of the other people who are involved as having equal value and being worthy of love and respect. Then ask what will serve the whole.]]>1888cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss the Pillar of Perspective, the first of the Eight Pillars of Joy. Archbishop Tutu and the Dalai Lama discuss having a mental immunity that helps us about filling our minds and hearts with positive thoughts and feelings. There are so many times we get caught up in our fear, things that are going on when we experience challenging circumstances. "A healthy perspective really is the foundation of joy and happiness, because the way we see the world is the way we experience the world. Changing the way we see the world in turn changes the way we feel and the way we act, which changes the world itself." The Dalai Lama used the terms wider perspective and larger perspective. They involve stepping back, within our own mind, to look at the bigger picture and to move beyond our limited self-awareness, and our limited self interest. "We must look at any given situation or problem from the front and from the back, from the sides, and from top to bottom, so from at least six different angles. This allows us to take a more complete and holistic view or reality, and if we do, our response will be more constructive." One thing that they say in this chapter is that if we come from compassion and generosity that these two qualities are perhaps the most pivotal in everlasting happiness. "As the Dali Lama and the Archbishop explained, the wider perspective leads to serenity and equanimity. It does not mean we don't have the strength to confront a problem, but we can confront it with creativity and compassion rather than rigidity and reactivity. When we take the perspective of others, we can empathize with them. One starts to see the interdependence that envelops us all, which reveals that how we treat others is ultimately how we treat ourselves. We also are able to recognize that we do not control all aspects of any situation. This leads to a greater sense of humility, humor, and acceptance." Narrow vs. World-wide Perspective The Dalai Lama uses the approach of taking a wider perspective when dealing with the situation in Tibet. He explains that if he were to look at the situation in Tibet from a narrow perspective, then the situation looks almost hopeless. However, if he looks at it from a wider worldwide perspective, then he sees an international situation in which communist and totalitarian regimes are collapsing, and even in China there’s a move toward democracy. So he doesn’t give up. In addition, researchers have conducted a number of experiments which demonstrate that one’s level of life satisfaction can be enhanced simply by shifting one’s perspective and contemplating how things could be worse. How we feel at any given moment has little to do with the conditions themselves, but is rather a function of how we perceive the situation and how satisfied we are with what we have. When a situation is causing negative emotions, spend some time seriously searching for a different perspective on the situation. A key component to happiness is adopting a flexible, malleable approach to life. Joy Practice for Perspective Think about a problem or situation that you are facing. Describe your problem as it were happening to someone else–using your name rather than the words I, me, or mine. Imagine the problem from the perspective or a week, a year, or even a decade from now. Will this issue or event still have an impact on you? Will you even remember it? What will you have learned from the experience? Witness your life from a God's-eye, or universal, perspective. See your fears and your frustrations from this point of view. Now see all of the other people who are involved as having equal value and being worthy of love and respect. Then ask what will serve the whole.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc342-cafe-book-club-the-book-of-joy-par
The book explores how to live a more joyous life and is broken down into the "Eight Pillars": Perspectives, Humility, Humor, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Compassion, and Generosity. This is one of a hundred or so (!) books  that the Dalai Lama has authored or lent his name to, and the first one with Archbishop Tutu.

The Four Independent Brain Circuits
In this week's show, Robin mentions the "four independent brain circuits that influence our well-being. According to Davidson:
“There are four independent brain circuits that influence our lasting well-being, Davidson explained. The first is “our ability to maintain positive states.” It makes sense that the ability to maintain positive states or positive emotions would directly impact one’s ability to experience happiness. These two great spiritual leaders were saying that the fastest way to this state is to start with love and compassion.
The second circuit is responsible for “our ability to recover from negative states.” What was most fascinating to me was that these circuits were totally independent. One could be good at maintaining positive states but easily fall into an abyss of a negative state from which one had a hard time recovering. That explained a lot in my life.
The third circuit, also independent but essential to the others, is “our ability to focus and avoid mind-wandering.” This of course was the circuit that so much of meditation exists to develop. Whether it was focusing on one’s breath, or a mantra, or the analytic meditation that the Dalai Lama did each morning, this ability to focus one’s attention was fundamental.
The fourth and final circuit is “our ability to be generous.” That was amazing to me: that we had an entire brain circuit, one of four, devoted to generosity. It is no wonder that our brains feel so good when we help others or are helped by others, or even witness others being helped, which Ekman had described as the elevation that is one dimension of joy. There was strong and compelling research that we come factory equipped for cooperation, compassion, and generosity.”
― Dalai Lama, The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World

The Book of Joy from Human Journey on Vimeo.
Next week Robin and Amy will discuss "Perspectives", the first of the "Eight Pillars of Joy".
The Eight Pillars of Joy:

Perspectives: There are many different angles
Humility: I try to look humble and modest
Humor: Laughter, joking is much better
Acceptance: The only place where change can begin
Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past
Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive
Compassion: Something we want to become
Generosity: We are filled with joy

Join us as we cover this amazing book! We will be continuing through the end of April.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3617Mon, 06 Mar 2017 04:26:47 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost begin their review of The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu with Douglas Abrams. The book explores how to live a...
The book explores how to live a more joyous life and is broken down into the "Eight Pillars": Perspectives, Humility, Humor, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Compassion, and Generosity. This is one of a hundred or so (!) books  that the Dalai Lama has authored or lent his name to, and the first one with Archbishop Tutu.

The Four Independent Brain Circuits
In this week's show, Robin mentions the "four independent brain circuits that influence our well-being. According to Davidson:
“There are four independent brain circuits that influence our lasting well-being, Davidson explained. The first is “our ability to maintain positive states.” It makes sense that the ability to maintain positive states or positive emotions would directly impact one’s ability to experience happiness. These two great spiritual leaders were saying that the fastest way to this state is to start with love and compassion.
The second circuit is responsible for “our ability to recover from negative states.” What was most fascinating to me was that these circuits were totally independent. One could be good at maintaining positive states but easily fall into an abyss of a negative state from which one had a hard time recovering. That explained a lot in my life.
The third circuit, also independent but essential to the others, is “our ability to focus and avoid mind-wandering.” This of course was the circuit that so much of meditation exists to develop. Whether it was focusing on one’s breath, or a mantra, or the analytic meditation that the Dalai Lama did each morning, this ability to focus one’s attention was fundamental.
The fourth and final circuit is “our ability to be generous.” That was amazing to me: that we had an entire brain circuit, one of four, devoted to generosity. It is no wonder that our brains feel so good when we help others or are helped by others, or even witness others being helped, which Ekman had described as the elevation that is one dimension of joy. There was strong and compelling research that we come factory equipped for cooperation, compassion, and generosity.”
― Dalai Lama, The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World

The Book of Joy from Human Journey on Vimeo.
Next week Robin and Amy will discuss "Perspectives", the first of the "Eight Pillars of Joy".
The Eight Pillars of Joy:

Perspectives: There are many different angles
Humility: I try to look humble and modest
Humor: Laughter, joking is much better
Acceptance: The only place where change can begin
Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past
Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive
Compassion: Something we want to become
Generosity: We are filled with joy

Join us as we cover this amazing book! We will be continuing through the end of April.]]>1845cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost begin their review of The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu with Douglas Abrams. The book explores how to live a more joyous life and is broken down into the "Eight Pillars": Perspectives, Humility, Humor, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Compassion, and Generosity. This is one of a hundred or so (!) books  that the Dalai Lama has authored or lent his name to, and the first one with Archbishop Tutu. The Four Independent Brain Circuits In this week's show, Robin mentions the "four independent brain circuits that influence our well-being. According to Davidson: “There are four independent brain circuits that influence our lasting well-being, Davidson explained. The first is “our ability to maintain positive states.” It makes sense that the ability to maintain positive states or positive emotions would directly impact one’s ability to experience happiness. These two great spiritual leaders were saying that the fastest way to this state is to start with love and compassion. The second circuit is responsible for “our ability to recover from negative states.” What was most fascinating to me was that these circuits were totally independent. One could be good at maintaining positive states but easily fall into an abyss of a negative state from which one had a hard time recovering. That explained a lot in my life. The third circuit, also independent but essential to the others, is “our ability to focus and avoid mind-wandering.” This of course was the circuit that so much of meditation exists to develop. Whether it was focusing on one’s breath, or a mantra, or the analytic meditation that the Dalai Lama did each morning, this ability to focus one’s attention was fundamental. The fourth and final circuit is “our ability to be generous.” That was amazing to me: that we had an entire brain circuit, one of four, devoted to generosity. It is no wonder that our brains feel so good when we help others or are helped by others, or even witness others being helped, which Ekman had described as the elevation that is one dimension of joy. There was strong and compelling research that we come factory equipped for cooperation, compassion, and generosity.” ― Dalai Lama, The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World The Book of Joy from Human Journey on Vimeo. Next week Robin and Amy will discuss "Perspectives", the first of the "Eight Pillars of Joy". The Eight Pillars of Joy: Perspectives: There are many different angles Humility: I try to look humble and modest Humor: Laughter, joking is much better Acceptance: The only place where change can begin Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive Compassion: Something we want to become Generosity: We are filled with joy Join us as we cover this amazing book! We will be continuing through the end of April.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc341-try-trauma-recovery-yoga-interview
Established in 2016, TRY is a team of trauma-informed yoga teachers who are dispatched to service individuals who have experienced trauma or are living in crisis. Trauma informed yoga incorporates a series of meditation, strengthening postures, and breathing which magnify the mind-body-spirit connection after the experience of trauma.
The effects of trauma
Trauma is emotional shock that follows a deeply distressing or disturbing incident such as: war, crime, accident, assault, or natural disaster. While shock and denial tend to immediately follow a traumatic event, its long-term effects can include: unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships (due to anxiety, depression, and/or isolation), and a number of stress-related physical symptoms. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, founder of the Trauma Center in Brookline, Mass., and a clinical psychiatrist specializing in post-traumatic stress, calls these physical symptoms “issues in our tissues.” Unresolved emotional trauma can manifest in the body as migraines, nervous ticks, clenched shoulders/neck/jaw, a sunken chest, and/or a heavy heart.
Trauma-sensitive yoga
In recovering from emotional trauma, the American Psychological Association suggests to “engage in healthy behaviors to enhance your ability to cope with excessive stress.” In addition to proper rest, nutrition, and the avoidance of drugs and alcohol, the APA suggests using relaxation techniques.
However, given the effects of trauma, we can understand why relaxation might not come easily to those suffering from PTSD. This is where trauma-sensitive yoga comes in. Dr. van der Kolk explains that, with the proper approach, yoga can greatly benefit trauma survivors: “Yoga really attends to the body and the breath, attends to stillness. It allows you to feel everything you feel, to tolerate every sensation, and to live and move with it.” – Healing Trauma and PTSD Through Yoga
How Yoga Heals
In the interview, Joyce and Darwin talk about the importance of reconnecting the mind and body after a traumatic event, and research backs this up.
"A three-year NIH-funded yoga and trauma study conducted at the Trauma Center at Justice Resource Institute in Brookline, Massachusetts, with women who have treatment-resistant complex PTSD, has shown promising results. Bessel van der Kolk, MD, the study’s principal investigator, and his colleagues presented preliminary findings at the 2010 International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies conference in Montreal last November. Initial study results revealed that participation in trauma-informed gentle yoga leads to a significant reduction (over 30 percent) in symptoms of post-traumatic stress, including fewer intrusive thoughts and less dissociation from the body. By the end of the study (after only 10 weeks of yoga) several women in the yoga group no longer met diagnostic criteria for PTSD." – Transcending Trauma: How Yoga Heals

BREATH IS PRESENCE

In the video below, Joyce shares how the loss of her 22-year-old son Jake inspired her to bring her yoga work to individuals dealing with trauma.



 

Contact Information:
Trauma Recover Yoga (TRY) website:
http://www.traumarecoveryyoga.org/
TRY Facebook: 
https://www.facebook.com/Traumarecoveryyoga/]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3600Mon, 27 Feb 2017 01:25:13 +0000Transformation CafeThis week host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome Joyce Sportsman and Darwin Bosen, co-founders of Trauma Recovery Yoga. Established in 2016, TRY is a team of trauma-informed yoga teachers who are dispatched to service individuals who have...
Established in 2016, TRY is a team of trauma-informed yoga teachers who are dispatched to service individuals who have experienced trauma or are living in crisis. Trauma informed yoga incorporates a series of meditation, strengthening postures, and breathing which magnify the mind-body-spirit connection after the experience of trauma.
The effects of trauma
Trauma is emotional shock that follows a deeply distressing or disturbing incident such as: war, crime, accident, assault, or natural disaster. While shock and denial tend to immediately follow a traumatic event, its long-term effects can include: unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships (due to anxiety, depression, and/or isolation), and a number of stress-related physical symptoms. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, founder of the Trauma Center in Brookline, Mass., and a clinical psychiatrist specializing in post-traumatic stress, calls these physical symptoms “issues in our tissues.” Unresolved emotional trauma can manifest in the body as migraines, nervous ticks, clenched shoulders/neck/jaw, a sunken chest, and/or a heavy heart.
Trauma-sensitive yoga
In recovering from emotional trauma, the American Psychological Association suggests to “engage in healthy behaviors to enhance your ability to cope with excessive stress.” In addition to proper rest, nutrition, and the avoidance of drugs and alcohol, the APA suggests using relaxation techniques.
However, given the effects of trauma, we can understand why relaxation might not come easily to those suffering from PTSD. This is where trauma-sensitive yoga comes in. Dr. van der Kolk explains that, with the proper approach, yoga can greatly benefit trauma survivors: “Yoga really attends to the body and the breath, attends to stillness. It allows you to feel everything you feel, to tolerate every sensation, and to live and move with it.” – Healing Trauma and PTSD Through Yoga
How Yoga Heals
In the interview, Joyce and Darwin talk about the importance of reconnecting the mind and body after a traumatic event, and research backs this up.
"A three-year NIH-funded yoga and trauma study conducted at the Trauma Center at Justice Resource Institute in Brookline, Massachusetts, with women who have treatment-resistant complex PTSD, has shown promising results. Bessel van der Kolk, MD, the study’s principal investigator, and his colleagues presented preliminary findings at the 2010 International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies conference in Montreal last November. Initial study results revealed that participation in trauma-informed gentle yoga leads to a significant reduction (over 30 percent) in symptoms of post-traumatic stress, including fewer intrusive thoughts and less dissociation from the body. By the end of the study (after only 10 weeks of yoga) several women in the yoga group no longer met diagnostic criteria for PTSD." – Transcending Trauma: How Yoga Heals

BREATH IS PRESENCE

In the video below, Joyce shares how the loss of her 22-year-old son Jake inspired her to bring her yoga work to individuals dealing with trauma.



 

Contact Information:
Trauma Recover Yoga (TRY) website:
http://www.traumarecoveryyoga.org/
TRY Facebook: 
https://www.facebook.com/Traumarecoveryyoga/]]>1423cleanfullTransformation CafeThis week host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome Joyce Sportsman and Darwin Bosen, co-founders of Trauma Recovery Yoga. Established in 2016, TRY is a team of trauma-informed yoga teachers who are dispatched to service individuals who have experienced trauma or are living in crisis. Trauma informed yoga incorporates a series of meditation, strengthening postures, and breathing which magnify the mind-body-spirit connection after the experience of trauma. The effects of trauma Trauma is emotional shock that follows a deeply distressing or disturbing incident such as: war, crime, accident, assault, or natural disaster. While shock and denial tend to immediately follow a traumatic event, its long-term effects can include: unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships (due to anxiety, depression, and/or isolation), and a number of stress-related physical symptoms. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, founder of the Trauma Center in Brookline, Mass., and a clinical psychiatrist specializing in post-traumatic stress, calls these physical symptoms “issues in our tissues.” Unresolved emotional trauma can manifest in the body as migraines, nervous ticks, clenched shoulders/neck/jaw, a sunken chest, and/or a heavy heart. Trauma-sensitive yoga In recovering from emotional trauma, the American Psychological Association suggests to “engage in healthy behaviors to enhance your ability to cope with excessive stress.” In addition to proper rest, nutrition, and the avoidance of drugs and alcohol, the APA suggests using relaxation techniques. However, given the effects of trauma, we can understand why relaxation might not come easily to those suffering from PTSD. This is where trauma-sensitive yoga comes in. Dr. van der Kolk explains that, with the proper approach, yoga can greatly benefit trauma survivors: “Yoga really attends to the body and the breath, attends to stillness. It allows you to feel everything you feel, to tolerate every sensation, and to live and move with it.” – Healing Trauma and PTSD Through Yoga How Yoga Heals In the interview, Joyce and Darwin talk about the importance of reconnecting the mind and body after a traumatic event, and research backs this up. "A three-year NIH-funded yoga and trauma study conducted at the Trauma Center at Justice Resource Institute in Brookline, Massachusetts, with women who have treatment-resistant complex PTSD, has shown promising results. Bessel van der Kolk, MD, the study’s principal investigator, and his colleagues presented preliminary findings at the 2010 International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies conference in Montreal last November. Initial study results revealed that participation in trauma-informed gentle yoga leads to a significant reduction (over 30 percent) in symptoms of post-traumatic stress, including fewer intrusive thoughts and less dissociation from the body. By the end of the study (after only 10 weeks of yoga) several women in the yoga group no longer met diagnostic criteria for PTSD." – Transcending Trauma: How Yoga Heals BREATH IS PRESENCE In the video below, Joyce shares how the loss of her 22-year-old son Jake inspired her to bring her yoga work to individuals dealing with trauma.   Contact Information: Trauma Recover Yoga (TRY) website: http://www.traumarecoveryyoga.org/ TRY Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/Traumarecoveryyoga/Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc340-the-book-of-joy-our-next-cafe-book
The book explores how to live a more joyous life and is broken down into the "Eight Pillars": Perspectives, Humility, Humor, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Compassion, and Generosity. This is one of a hundred or so (!) books  that the Dalai Lama has authored or lent his name to, and the first one with Archbishop Tutu.
"Happy, not only just on the physical level, but mentally.  Peace. Compassion. That's the real joy." – Dalai Lama
 

The video below appeared on CBS Sunday Morning in the U.S.

Robin and Amy discuss how the book is organized, and their plans to cover each of the "Eight Pillars".
The Eight Pillars of Joy:

Perspectives: There are many different angles
Humility: I try to look humble and modest
Humor: Laughter, joking is much better
Acceptance: The only place where change can begin
Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past
Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive
Compassion: Something we want to become
Generosity: We are filled with joy



Join us as we cover this amazing book! We will be starting February 21st, and continuing through the end of April.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3580Mon, 13 Feb 2017 02:31:44 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss the next selection in our Cafe Book Club: The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu with Douglas Abbrams. The...
The book explores how to live a more joyous life and is broken down into the "Eight Pillars": Perspectives, Humility, Humor, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Compassion, and Generosity. This is one of a hundred or so (!) books  that the Dalai Lama has authored or lent his name to, and the first one with Archbishop Tutu.
"Happy, not only just on the physical level, but mentally.  Peace. Compassion. That's the real joy." – Dalai Lama
 

The video below appeared on CBS Sunday Morning in the U.S.

Robin and Amy discuss how the book is organized, and their plans to cover each of the "Eight Pillars".
The Eight Pillars of Joy:

Perspectives: There are many different angles
Humility: I try to look humble and modest
Humor: Laughter, joking is much better
Acceptance: The only place where change can begin
Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past
Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive
Compassion: Something we want to become
Generosity: We are filled with joy



Join us as we cover this amazing book! We will be starting February 21st, and continuing through the end of April.]]>1811cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss the next selection in our Cafe Book Club: The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu with Douglas Abbrams. The book explores how to live a more joyous life and is broken down into the "Eight Pillars": Perspectives, Humility, Humor, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Compassion, and Generosity. This is one of a hundred or so (!) books  that the Dalai Lama has authored or lent his name to, and the first one with Archbishop Tutu. "Happy, not only just on the physical level, but mentally.  Peace. Compassion. That's the real joy." – Dalai Lama   The video below appeared on CBS Sunday Morning in the U.S. Robin and Amy discuss how the book is organized, and their plans to cover each of the "Eight Pillars". The Eight Pillars of Joy: Perspectives: There are many different angles Humility: I try to look humble and modest Humor: Laughter, joking is much better Acceptance: The only place where change can begin Forgiveness: Freeing ourselves from the past Gratitude: I am fortunate to be alive Compassion: Something we want to become Generosity: We are filled with joy Join us as we cover this amazing book! We will be starting February 21st, and continuing through the end of April.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-339-forgotten-not-gone-helping-to-hea
The Mission Of Forgotten Not Gone
The mission of Forgotten Not Gone is to get suffering veterans physically active and interacting with society. They are a 501(C)(3) organization dedicated to helping veterans and their families through emotional, physical, and spiritual activities.
Veterans are encouraged to re-engage with society instead of living in isolation. Too many veterans go within, shutting off the outside world until it is too late. According to Veterans Administration research, 20 veterans take their own lives each day in America.
"People don't die from suicide. Sadness kills them."
Physical activity is one of the surest ways to help veterans get back into an active social life. Based on doctor's recommendations, the group uses recumbent bikes. "The challenge with most veterans is that we have mobility issues. So our balance may be off, so a regular bike is not really going to work for us.  Or we may have back troubles like like my husband, and he has bi-lateral knee damage. This bike is specifically designed to get you out of the house when you normally wouldn't be able to ride a regular bike. It's specifically designed for rehabilitation."

Peter Guidry, co-founder of Forgotten Not Gone, knows the struggle first-hand and how much this organization aids veterans. Guidry says, "I feel like I'm serving this country again, but I no longer have to be violent to do so."

Kelley explains that the name "Forgotten Not Gone" refers to our Vietnam-era veterans. Once the war ended, Vietnam vets came home to hostility, name-calling, and rejection. They did not receive the kind of respect and support that they deserved. They are still here; forgotten, but not gone.
Suicide Prevention and safeTALK

In the podcast Amy and Kelley mention safeTALK, which is built around the four TALK steps: Tell, Ask, Listen, and KeepSafe. Each year, safeTALK prepares over 60,000 people to ask: “Are you thinking about suicide?”
Check out this video from LivingWorks.net, a world-wide leader in suicide prevention training, that gives an overview of safeTALK. Check their website for training available in your area.
Below is another video that describes the importance of safeTALK from the perspective of a hockey team.

We encourage you to visit Forgotten Not Gone and other organizations and lend your support. You can learn more about their mission, purchase a Forgotten Not Gone t-shirt, join in on a ride, and donate to their organization.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3558Sun, 05 Feb 2017 20:53:49 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost talk with Kelley Guidry, co-founder of Forgotten Not Gone, a Las Vegas-based organization that provides much needed help to veterans suffering from depression, isolation, and other...
The Mission Of Forgotten Not Gone
The mission of Forgotten Not Gone is to get suffering veterans physically active and interacting with society. They are a 501(C)(3) organization dedicated to helping veterans and their families through emotional, physical, and spiritual activities.
Veterans are encouraged to re-engage with society instead of living in isolation. Too many veterans go within, shutting off the outside world until it is too late. According to Veterans Administration research, 20 veterans take their own lives each day in America.
"People don't die from suicide. Sadness kills them."
Physical activity is one of the surest ways to help veterans get back into an active social life. Based on doctor's recommendations, the group uses recumbent bikes. "The challenge with most veterans is that we have mobility issues. So our balance may be off, so a regular bike is not really going to work for us.  Or we may have back troubles like like my husband, and he has bi-lateral knee damage. This bike is specifically designed to get you out of the house when you normally wouldn't be able to ride a regular bike. It's specifically designed for rehabilitation."

Peter Guidry, co-founder of Forgotten Not Gone, knows the struggle first-hand and how much this organization aids veterans. Guidry says, "I feel like I'm serving this country again, but I no longer have to be violent to do so."

Kelley explains that the name "Forgotten Not Gone" refers to our Vietnam-era veterans. Once the war ended, Vietnam vets came home to hostility, name-calling, and rejection. They did not receive the kind of respect and support that they deserved. They are still here; forgotten, but not gone.
Suicide Prevention and safeTALK

In the podcast Amy and Kelley mention safeTALK, which is built around the four TALK steps: Tell, Ask, Listen, and KeepSafe. Each year, safeTALK prepares over 60,000 people to ask: “Are you thinking about suicide?”
Check out this video from LivingWorks.net, a world-wide leader in suicide prevention training, that gives an overview of safeTALK. Check their website for training available in your area.
Below is another video that describes the importance of safeTALK from the perspective of a hockey team.

We encourage you to visit Forgotten Not Gone and other organizations and lend your support. You can learn more about their mission, purchase a Forgotten Not Gone t-shirt, join in on a ride, and donate to their organization.]]>1817cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost talk with Kelley Guidry, co-founder of Forgotten Not Gone, a Las Vegas-based organization that provides much needed help to veterans suffering from depression, isolation, and other emotional and physical issues. The Mission Of Forgotten Not Gone The mission of Forgotten Not Gone is to get suffering veterans physically active and interacting with society. They are a 501(C)(3) organization dedicated to helping veterans and their families through emotional, physical, and spiritual activities. Veterans are encouraged to re-engage with society instead of living in isolation. Too many veterans go within, shutting off the outside world until it is too late. According to Veterans Administration research, 20 veterans take their own lives each day in America. "People don't die from suicide. Sadness kills them." Physical activity is one of the surest ways to help veterans get back into an active social life. Based on doctor's recommendations, the group uses recumbent bikes. "The challenge with most veterans is that we have mobility issues. So our balance may be off, so a regular bike is not really going to work for us.  Or we may have back troubles like like my husband, and he has bi-lateral knee damage. This bike is specifically designed to get you out of the house when you normally wouldn't be able to ride a regular bike. It's specifically designed for rehabilitation." Peter Guidry, co-founder of Forgotten Not Gone, knows the struggle first-hand and how much this organization aids veterans. Guidry says, "I feel like I'm serving this country again, but I no longer have to be violent to do so." Kelley explains that the name "Forgotten Not Gone" refers to our Vietnam-era veterans. Once the war ended, Vietnam vets came home to hostility, name-calling, and rejection. They did not receive the kind of respect and support that they deserved. They are still here; forgotten, but not gone. Suicide Prevention and safeTALK In the podcast Amy and Kelley mention safeTALK, which is built around the four TALK steps: Tell, Ask, Listen, and KeepSafe. Each year, safeTALK prepares over 60,000 people to ask: “Are you thinking about suicide?” Check out this video from LivingWorks.net, a world-wide leader in suicide prevention training, that gives an overview of safeTALK. Check their website for training available in your area. Below is another video that describes the importance of safeTALK from the perspective of a hockey team. We encourage you to visit Forgotten Not Gone and other organizations and lend your support. You can learn more about their mission, purchase a Forgotten Not Gone t-shirt, join in on a ride, and donate to their organization.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc338-k9s-for-warriors-interview-with-ra
He was on the brink of suicide.
Randy told his doctor at the Naval Hospital about his suicidal thoughts. His doctor suggested he enroll in a program called "K9 Inspired Community Reintegration". It is partnered with a non-profit organization in San Diego called "Paws'itive Teams". The organization shows veterans what it would be like to have their own service dog to see if they could benefit.
Randy meets Ricochet
As a result of the six-week program and his interaction with a golden retriever named "Ricochet", Randy was finally able to start talking about his experiences and what he was dealing with to his wife, and to others outside the hospital setting. He realized that this could benefit others in his situation, so Randy and Judy Fridono, Ricochet's handler, started the "PTSD Battle Buddies Initiative".

Randy and Ricochet

Ricochet and the organization do a lot of fund raising, and as a result, were able to raise $10,000 for Randy to get his own service dog.

Randy flew to Florida to visit K9's for Warriors and met Captain for the first time.
The video below gives you some idea of the deep bond that Randy and Captain developed.
Military Veteran and K9s For Warriors graduate, Randy writes a letter to his service dog Captain. As of today this video has been seen nearly 250,000 times.

Randy is going into his senior year as a Communications Studies major at University of Nevada, Las Vegas, carrying a 3.7 GPA. He is President of the "Rebel Vets" Student Veteran's Organization. He continues to share his story in an effort to help others learn about the benefit of service dogs, and hopefully save lives.
Randy's story appeared in Barkpost in an article titled "When a Veteran Needed Redemption, He Turned to This Incredible Dog".

Service Dog Resources
Assistance Dogs International – Assistance Dogs International (ADI) is a coalition of not for profit assistance dog organizations. ADI has regional chapters in Europe, North America, and Australia/New Zealand.
K9s for Warriors – K9s For Warriors is dedicated to providing service canines to our Warriors suffering from Post-traumatic Stress Disability, traumatic brain injury and/or military sexual trauma as a result of military service post-9/11.
Freedom Service Dogs of America – Freedom Service Dogs enhances the lives of people with disabilities by rescuing dogs and custom training them for individual needs. They are an accredited member of ADI.
Canine Companions for Independence – For over 40 years, Canine Companions for Independence has been enhancing the lives of people with disabilities by training a...]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3541Mon, 30 Jan 2017 02:19:11 +0000Transformation CafeThis week we have a very special guest on our program. Randy Dexter served in the US Army as a combat medic. He deployed to Iraq twice. As a result of the trauma that he dealt with there, he developed severe Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD),...
He was on the brink of suicide.
Randy told his doctor at the Naval Hospital about his suicidal thoughts. His doctor suggested he enroll in a program called "K9 Inspired Community Reintegration". It is partnered with a non-profit organization in San Diego called "Paws'itive Teams". The organization shows veterans what it would be like to have their own service dog to see if they could benefit.
Randy meets Ricochet
As a result of the six-week program and his interaction with a golden retriever named "Ricochet", Randy was finally able to start talking about his experiences and what he was dealing with to his wife, and to others outside the hospital setting. He realized that this could benefit others in his situation, so Randy and Judy Fridono, Ricochet's handler, started the "PTSD Battle Buddies Initiative".

Randy and Ricochet

Ricochet and the organization do a lot of fund raising, and as a result, were able to raise $10,000 for Randy to get his own service dog.

Randy flew to Florida to visit K9's for Warriors and met Captain for the first time.
The video below gives you some idea of the deep bond that Randy and Captain developed.
Military Veteran and K9s For Warriors graduate, Randy writes a letter to his service dog Captain. As of today this video has been seen nearly 250,000 times.

Randy is going into his senior year as a Communications Studies major at University of Nevada, Las Vegas, carrying a 3.7 GPA. He is President of the "Rebel Vets" Student Veteran's Organization. He continues to share his story in an effort to help others learn about the benefit of service dogs, and hopefully save lives.
Randy's story appeared in Barkpost in an article titled "When a Veteran Needed Redemption, He Turned to This Incredible Dog".

Service Dog Resources
Assistance Dogs International – Assistance Dogs International (ADI) is a coalition of not for profit assistance dog organizations. ADI has regional chapters in Europe, North America, and Australia/New Zealand.
K9s for Warriors – K9s For Warriors is dedicated to providing service canines to our Warriors suffering from Post-traumatic Stress Disability, traumatic brain injury and/or military sexual trauma as a result of military service post-9/11.
Freedom Service Dogs of America – Freedom Service Dogs enhances the lives of people with disabilities by rescuing dogs and custom training them for individual needs. They are an accredited member of ADI.
Canine Companions for Independence – For over 40 years, Canine Companions for Independence has been enhancing the lives of people with disabilities by training a...]]>1789cleanfullTransformation CafeThis week we have a very special guest on our program. Randy Dexter served in the US Army as a combat medic. He deployed to Iraq twice. As a result of the trauma that he dealt with there, he developed severe Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), major depressive disorder, traumatic brain injury, migraines, and other issues. He spent over a year in the Naval Hospital as a result of his injuries. He was on the brink of suicide. Randy told his doctor at the Naval Hospital about his suicidal thoughts. His doctor suggested he enroll in a program called "K9 Inspired Community Reintegration". It is partnered with a non-profit organization in San Diego called "Paws'itive Teams". The organization shows veterans what it would be like to have their own service dog to see if they could benefit. Randy meets Ricochet As a result of the six-week program and his interaction with a golden retriever named "Ricochet", Randy was finally able to start talking about his experiences and what he was dealing with to his wife, and to others outside the hospital setting. He realized that this could benefit others in his situation, so Randy and Judy Fridono, Ricochet's handler, started the "PTSD Battle Buddies Initiative". Randy and Ricochet Ricochet and the organization do a lot of fund raising, and as a result, were able to raise $10,000 for Randy to get his own service dog. Randy flew to Florida to visit K9's for Warriors and met Captain for the first time. The video below gives you some idea of the deep bond that Randy and Captain developed. Military Veteran and K9s For Warriors graduate, Randy writes a letter to his service dog Captain. As of today this video has been seen nearly 250,000 times. Randy is going into his senior year as a Communications Studies major at University of Nevada, Las Vegas, carrying a 3.7 GPA. He is President of the "Rebel Vets" Student Veteran's Organization. He continues to share his story in an effort to help others learn about the benefit of service dogs, and hopefully save lives. Randy's story appeared in Barkpost in an article titled "When a Veteran Needed Redemption, He Turned to This Incredible Dog". Service Dog Resources Assistance Dogs International – Assistance Dogs International (ADI) is a coalition of not for profit assistance dog organizations. ADI has regional chapters in Europe, North America, and Australia/New Zealand. K9s for Warriors – K9s For Warriors is dedicated to providing service canines to our Warriors suffering from Post-traumatic Stress Disability, traumatic brain injury and/or military sexual trauma as a result of military service post-9/11. Freedom Service Dogs of America – Freedom Service Dogs enhances the lives of people with disabilities by rescuing dogs and custom training them for individual needs. They are an accredited member of ADI. Canine Companions for Independence – For over 40 years, Canine Companions for Independence has been enhancing the lives of people with disabilities by training a...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc337-growing-forward-nutrition-with-cat
Chapter 20 – Learning to Live and Love Again At the Same Time
This chapter reviews summarizes the main concepts from the book.
"At least I don't run around actively seeking my own demise anymore". – Anonymous Alanon Member
Getting started:
In a nutshell, she uses the HOW method:
H – Honesty – get honest
O – Openness – keep an open mind
W – Willingness – become willing to try new things
We need to learn to really see ourselves and our motives. Melodie says to pick one behavior to work on at a time. Work on one, then get busy on another. Chapter four can help with this. Time to light a fire under ourselves.
Ways to get our needs met:

* detachment
* don’t rescue people
* be direct
* pay attention to ourselves
* work a 12 step program
* become “undependent”
* seek and build healthy relationships
* don’t maintain painful relationships
* set goals and reach them
* know growth is uncomfortable but worth it
* have fun
* balance emotional, physical and spiritual needs
* let go of grief
* balance giving and receiving
* balance between letting go and doing our part
* balance problem solving and living with unsolved problems
* let go of unrealistic expectations (most of them)
* remember we are important, valuable and deserve a decent life

I am responsible for my choices and behaviors in initiating, maintaining, and discontinuing relationships as appropriate.
Growing Forward:

* Its okay to backtrack a bit
* Face tough decisions about relationships
* Be patient when rebuilding damaged relationships—Love and trust heal on their own time. Sometimes they can’t heal.
* Find new friends.
* Work on ourselves and learn what needs to be learned.
* Strive toward goals.
* Have fun.
* Trust God (or your higher power) and ask for guidance
* Love from strength not weaknesses.
* When we fall, get up and start again.

"Getting our balance and keeping it once we have found it is what recovery is all about. If that sounds like a big order, don't worry. We can do it. We can learn to love again. We can even learn to have fun at the same time".
Catie Fitzgerald – A Different Perspective on Food
Catie is launching her Health Quest 2017 through Enhanced Nutrition Solutions. This program gives you seven days of concentrated things to do, then after those seven days you practice on your own. The following month you get another seven days of concentrated things to do, and the cycle continues.
Catie's last episode: TC327: Making Food Your Friend for the Holidays.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3530Sun, 22 Jan 2017 23:38:44 +0000Transformation CafeIn this podcast we wrap up our discussion of Codependent No More by Melody Beattie, and welcome back our nutritional guru Catie Fitzgerald to talk about food and how it relates to codependency. Catie also describes her new program for 2017. Chapter...
Chapter 20 – Learning to Live and Love Again At the Same Time
This chapter reviews summarizes the main concepts from the book.
"At least I don't run around actively seeking my own demise anymore". – Anonymous Alanon Member
Getting started:
In a nutshell, she uses the HOW method:
H – Honesty – get honest
O – Openness – keep an open mind
W – Willingness – become willing to try new things
We need to learn to really see ourselves and our motives. Melodie says to pick one behavior to work on at a time. Work on one, then get busy on another. Chapter four can help with this. Time to light a fire under ourselves.
Ways to get our needs met:

* detachment
* don’t rescue people
* be direct
* pay attention to ourselves
* work a 12 step program
* become “undependent”
* seek and build healthy relationships
* don’t maintain painful relationships
* set goals and reach them
* know growth is uncomfortable but worth it
* have fun
* balance emotional, physical and spiritual needs
* let go of grief
* balance giving and receiving
* balance between letting go and doing our part
* balance problem solving and living with unsolved problems
* let go of unrealistic expectations (most of them)
* remember we are important, valuable and deserve a decent life

I am responsible for my choices and behaviors in initiating, maintaining, and discontinuing relationships as appropriate.
Growing Forward:

* Its okay to backtrack a bit
* Face tough decisions about relationships
* Be patient when rebuilding damaged relationships—Love and trust heal on their own time. Sometimes they can’t heal.
* Find new friends.
* Work on ourselves and learn what needs to be learned.
* Strive toward goals.
* Have fun.
* Trust God (or your higher power) and ask for guidance
* Love from strength not weaknesses.
* When we fall, get up and start again.

"Getting our balance and keeping it once we have found it is what recovery is all about. If that sounds like a big order, don't worry. We can do it. We can learn to love again. We can even learn to have fun at the same time".
Catie Fitzgerald – A Different Perspective on Food
Catie is launching her Health Quest 2017 through Enhanced Nutrition Solutions. This program gives you seven days of concentrated things to do, then after those seven days you practice on your own. The following month you get another seven days of concentrated things to do, and the cycle continues.
Catie's last episode: TC327: Making Food Your Friend for the Holidays.]]>1875cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this podcast we wrap up our discussion of Codependent No More by Melody Beattie, and welcome back our nutritional guru Catie Fitzgerald to talk about food and how it relates to codependency. Catie also describes her new program for 2017. Chapter 20 – Learning to Live and Love Again At the Same Time This chapter reviews summarizes the main concepts from the book. "At least I don't run around actively seeking my own demise anymore". – Anonymous Alanon Member Getting started: In a nutshell, she uses the HOW method: H – Honesty – get honest O – Openness – keep an open mind W – Willingness – become willing to try new things We need to learn to really see ourselves and our motives. Melodie says to pick one behavior to work on at a time. Work on one, then get busy on another. Chapter four can help with this. Time to light a fire under ourselves. Ways to get our needs met: * detachment * don’t rescue people * be direct * pay attention to ourselves * work a 12 step program * become “undependent” * seek and build healthy relationships * don’t maintain painful relationships * set goals and reach them * know growth is uncomfortable but worth it * have fun * balance emotional, physical and spiritual needs * let go of grief * balance giving and receiving * balance between letting go and doing our part * balance problem solving and living with unsolved problems * let go of unrealistic expectations (most of them) * remember we are important, valuable and deserve a decent life I am responsible for my choices and behaviors in initiating, maintaining, and discontinuing relationships as appropriate. Growing Forward: * Its okay to backtrack a bit * Face tough decisions about relationships * Be patient when rebuilding damaged relationships—Love and trust heal on their own time. Sometimes they can’t heal. * Find new friends. * Work on ourselves and learn what needs to be learned. * Strive toward goals. * Have fun. * Trust God (or your higher power) and ask for guidance * Love from strength not weaknesses. * When we fall, get up and start again. "Getting our balance and keeping it once we have found it is what recovery is all about. If that sounds like a big order, don't worry. We can do it. We can learn to love again. We can even learn to have fun at the same time". Catie Fitzgerald – A Different Perspective on Food Catie is launching her Health Quest 2017 through Enhanced Nutrition Solutions. This program gives you seven days of concentrated things to do, then after those seven days you practice on your own. The following month you get another seven days of concentrated things to do, and the cycle continues. Catie's last episode: TC327: Making Food Your Friend for the Holidays.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc336-cafe-book-club-codependent-no-more
Chapter 15 – "Yes You Can Think"
In codependence, many of us don't trust our minds. We truly understand the horror of indecision. The small choices such as what to order at a restaurant or what bottle of bleach to purchase paralyzes us. Big choices like what to do with our lives or who to live with or how to solve our problems can be overwhelming.
We must think, figure things out, decide what we need and want and decide how to solve our own problems.
Our ability to think may be clouded by lies we have believed, told to us or by ourselves (denial), chaos, stress, low self-esteem and repressed emotions.
Over-reacting can be spurred by wrongly thinking we must hurry or we must be perfect and by worrying about what others think.
“Should’s,” self-deprecating thoughts, low self-esteem and self-hatred can also make it hard to make decisions.
Not listening to what we want and need or telling ourselves what we want is wrong stops us from seeing informational tools to make choices and decisions.

 
Things to help us gain mental confidence:

* Trust our minds to peace – get quiet before you make a decision. Maybe now is not the time to make a decision.
* Ask God to help you think
* Quit abusing your mind – worry and obsessing is mental abuse – stop it
* Feed your mind – research choices
* Feed your mind healthy thoughts – read and think positive thoughts
* Stretch your mind – learn, read, take a class
* Stop saying negative things about your mind – say positive things and they will come true
* Use your mind – create, form opinions, make decisions (also let others use their mind)

Chapter 16 “Set Your Own Goals”
Learning How to Set Goals

* Turn everything into a goal

* Make solving a problem or making a decision into a goal
* Make getting what you want or need into a goal


* Omit the shoulds
* Don’t limit yourself
* Write goals on paper
* Commit written goals to God
* Let go – don’t obsess or worry
* Do what you can, one day at a time

* Follow your gut or desire


* Set goals regularly and as needed
* Check off reached goals
* Celebrate and thank God for reached goals
* Be patient

Chapter 17 "Communication"
Many Codependents:

* manipulate
* are people pleasers
* are controlling
* cover things up
* assign/use guilt or try to alleviate guilt
* repress feelings and thoughts
* have ulterior motives
* have low self-esteem or self-worth and feel a lot of shame
* react inappropriately
* allow abuse and use badgering as a tool
* justify, rationalize, compensate and threaten

Codependent communication is indirect and not forthright, regardless of intention.
Fear of rejection fuels our inability to say who we are and what we want or need or allow others to do the same.
The words we speak reflect who we are. If we don’t love or trust our thoughts, feelings or wants and feel we are not worthy, we will judge others and expect them to have all the answers. We will control others to ensure they are “pleased” and force things to happen because that is all we have.
To speak openly and honestly is fun!

* Who we are is okay.
* Our feelings and wants are okay.
* Our opinions count.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3515Mon, 16 Jan 2017 03:12:45 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 15 – 19 of Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself and the companion Codependent No More Workbook by Melody Beattie....
Chapter 15 – "Yes You Can Think"
In codependence, many of us don't trust our minds. We truly understand the horror of indecision. The small choices such as what to order at a restaurant or what bottle of bleach to purchase paralyzes us. Big choices like what to do with our lives or who to live with or how to solve our problems can be overwhelming.
We must think, figure things out, decide what we need and want and decide how to solve our own problems.
Our ability to think may be clouded by lies we have believed, told to us or by ourselves (denial), chaos, stress, low self-esteem and repressed emotions.
Over-reacting can be spurred by wrongly thinking we must hurry or we must be perfect and by worrying about what others think.
“Should’s,” self-deprecating thoughts, low self-esteem and self-hatred can also make it hard to make decisions.
Not listening to what we want and need or telling ourselves what we want is wrong stops us from seeing informational tools to make choices and decisions.

 
Things to help us gain mental confidence:

* Trust our minds to peace – get quiet before you make a decision. Maybe now is not the time to make a decision.
* Ask God to help you think
* Quit abusing your mind – worry and obsessing is mental abuse – stop it
* Feed your mind – research choices
* Feed your mind healthy thoughts – read and think positive thoughts
* Stretch your mind – learn, read, take a class
* Stop saying negative things about your mind – say positive things and they will come true
* Use your mind – create, form opinions, make decisions (also let others use their mind)

Chapter 16 “Set Your Own Goals”
Learning How to Set Goals

* Turn everything into a goal

* Make solving a problem or making a decision into a goal
* Make getting what you want or need into a goal


* Omit the shoulds
* Don’t limit yourself
* Write goals on paper
* Commit written goals to God
* Let go – don’t obsess or worry
* Do what you can, one day at a time

* Follow your gut or desire


* Set goals regularly and as needed
* Check off reached goals
* Celebrate and thank God for reached goals
* Be patient

Chapter 17 "Communication"
Many Codependents:

* manipulate
* are people pleasers
* are controlling
* cover things up
* assign/use guilt or try to alleviate guilt
* repress feelings and thoughts
* have ulterior motives
* have low self-esteem or self-worth and feel a lot of shame
* react inappropriately
* allow abuse and use badgering as a tool
* justify, rationalize, compensate and threaten

Codependent communication is indirect and not forthright, regardless of intention.
Fear of rejection fuels our inability to say who we are and what we want or need or allow others to do the same.
The words we speak reflect who we are. If we don’t love or trust our thoughts, feelings or wants and feel we are not worthy, we will judge others and expect them to have all the answers. We will control others to ensure they are “pleased” and force things to happen because that is all we have.
To speak openly and honestly is fun!

* Who we are is okay.
* Our feelings and wants are okay.
* Our opinions count.]]>1883cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 15 – 19 of Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself and the companion Codependent No More Workbook by Melody Beattie. Chapter 15 – "Yes You Can Think" In codependence, many of us don't trust our minds. We truly understand the horror of indecision. The small choices such as what to order at a restaurant or what bottle of bleach to purchase paralyzes us. Big choices like what to do with our lives or who to live with or how to solve our problems can be overwhelming. We must think, figure things out, decide what we need and want and decide how to solve our own problems. Our ability to think may be clouded by lies we have believed, told to us or by ourselves (denial), chaos, stress, low self-esteem and repressed emotions. Over-reacting can be spurred by wrongly thinking we must hurry or we must be perfect and by worrying about what others think. “Should’s,” self-deprecating thoughts, low self-esteem and self-hatred can also make it hard to make decisions. Not listening to what we want and need or telling ourselves what we want is wrong stops us from seeing informational tools to make choices and decisions.   Things to help us gain mental confidence: * Trust our minds to peace – get quiet before you make a decision. Maybe now is not the time to make a decision. * Ask God to help you think * Quit abusing your mind – worry and obsessing is mental abuse – stop it * Feed your mind – research choices * Feed your mind healthy thoughts – read and think positive thoughts * Stretch your mind – learn, read, take a class * Stop saying negative things about your mind – say positive things and they will come true * Use your mind – create, form opinions, make decisions (also let others use their mind) Chapter 16 “Set Your Own Goals” Learning How to Set Goals * Turn everything into a goal * Make solving a problem or making a decision into a goal * Make getting what you want or need into a goal * Omit the shoulds * Don’t limit yourself * Write goals on paper * Commit written goals to God * Let go – don’t obsess or worry * Do what you can, one day at a time * Follow your gut or desire * Set goals regularly and as needed * Check off reached goals * Celebrate and thank God for reached goals * Be patient Chapter 17 "Communication" Many Codependents: * manipulate * are people pleasers * are controlling * cover things up * assign/use guilt or try to alleviate guilt * repress feelings and thoughts * have ulterior motives * have low self-esteem or self-worth and feel a lot of shame * react inappropriately * allow abuse and use badgering as a tool * justify, rationalize, compensate and threaten Codependent communication is indirect and not forthright, regardless of intention. Fear of rejection fuels our inability to say who we are and what we want or need or allow others to do the same. The words we speak reflect who we are. If we don’t love or trust our thoughts, feelings or wants and feel we are not worthy, we will judge others and expect them to have all the answers. We will control others to ensure they are “pleased” and force things to happen because that is all we have. To speak openly and honestly is fun! * Who we are is okay. * Our feelings and wants are okay. * Our opinions count.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc335-transformation-cafe-best-of-2016
Setting Your Intention
TC 283 – Letters To My Future Self – In this episode we talked about writing a letter to yourself in the future, inspired by the "Letters To My Future Self" diary. It contains writing prompts such as "where do I want to go", "all the things I'd like to try someday", "I promise myself to", "I never want to forget this", and other topics for self-reflection. You date the letter to be opened at whatever future date you specify, a year or two in the future. Then when that day arrives, you open the letter and can see how far you've come.

Being a Lifelong Seeker
TC 285:  On Being a Lifelong Seeker – In this episode we talked about how we are each lifelong seekers of wisdom, knowledge, spirituality, and other aspects of becoming a complete person. As Amy observes in tonight's episode, that is who we are, and who we believe our core audience to be. We don't have "a path", or claim that we have "the answer". Our goal is to present great books, amazing speakers, and introduce anyone who is interested to new information that we've discovered, and share our thoughts about what we've learned. We invite you to dialogue with us so we can learn from each other as we continue on our journey.
Cafe Book Club presented Presence by Amy Cuddy
The series on Presence ran from the end of January through March, so there are a number of really great episodes. Links to each episode are provided below.

TC 286: Cafe Book Club – Presence by Amy Cuddy – In this episode we kicked off the second book in our Cafe Book Club series: Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, PhD, Social Psychologist and Associate Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School.
TC 287: Cafe Book Club – Presence by Amy Cuddy  Part 2 – In this episode we discussed chapter 2 of Presence: “Believing and Owning Your Story”.
TC 288: Presence Part 3 – How Presence Begets Presence – This chapter is titled “Stop Preaching, Start Listening: How Presence Begets Presence”. It features a very moving story of how a group of pastors were able to address very serious problems of gang violence by being fully present.
TC 289: Presence Part 4: I Don't Deserve To Be Here – In this chap...]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3482Tue, 03 Jan 2017 03:22:24 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost take a look back at 2016. Below is a list of the programs that you may want to listen to again or review if you missed them the first time. We did about fifty shows in 2016; here are some of...
Setting Your Intention
TC 283 – Letters To My Future Self – In this episode we talked about writing a letter to yourself in the future, inspired by the "Letters To My Future Self" diary. It contains writing prompts such as "where do I want to go", "all the things I'd like to try someday", "I promise myself to", "I never want to forget this", and other topics for self-reflection. You date the letter to be opened at whatever future date you specify, a year or two in the future. Then when that day arrives, you open the letter and can see how far you've come.

Being a Lifelong Seeker
TC 285:  On Being a Lifelong Seeker – In this episode we talked about how we are each lifelong seekers of wisdom, knowledge, spirituality, and other aspects of becoming a complete person. As Amy observes in tonight's episode, that is who we are, and who we believe our core audience to be. We don't have "a path", or claim that we have "the answer". Our goal is to present great books, amazing speakers, and introduce anyone who is interested to new information that we've discovered, and share our thoughts about what we've learned. We invite you to dialogue with us so we can learn from each other as we continue on our journey.
Cafe Book Club presented Presence by Amy Cuddy
The series on Presence ran from the end of January through March, so there are a number of really great episodes. Links to each episode are provided below.

TC 286: Cafe Book Club – Presence by Amy Cuddy – In this episode we kicked off the second book in our Cafe Book Club series: Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, PhD, Social Psychologist and Associate Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School.
TC 287: Cafe Book Club – Presence by Amy Cuddy  Part 2 – In this episode we discussed chapter 2 of Presence: “Believing and Owning Your Story”.
TC 288: Presence Part 3 – How Presence Begets Presence – This chapter is titled “Stop Preaching, Start Listening: How Presence Begets Presence”. It features a very moving story of how a group of pastors were able to address very serious problems of gang violence by being fully present.
TC 289: Presence Part 4: I Don't Deserve To Be Here – In this chap...]]>2015cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost take a look back at 2016. Below is a list of the programs that you may want to listen to again or review if you missed them the first time. We did about fifty shows in 2016; here are some of our favorites. Setting Your Intention TC 283 – Letters To My Future Self – In this episode we talked about writing a letter to yourself in the future, inspired by the "Letters To My Future Self" diary. It contains writing prompts such as "where do I want to go", "all the things I'd like to try someday", "I promise myself to", "I never want to forget this", and other topics for self-reflection. You date the letter to be opened at whatever future date you specify, a year or two in the future. Then when that day arrives, you open the letter and can see how far you've come. Being a Lifelong Seeker TC 285:  On Being a Lifelong Seeker – In this episode we talked about how we are each lifelong seekers of wisdom, knowledge, spirituality, and other aspects of becoming a complete person. As Amy observes in tonight's episode, that is who we are, and who we believe our core audience to be. We don't have "a path", or claim that we have "the answer". Our goal is to present great books, amazing speakers, and introduce anyone who is interested to new information that we've discovered, and share our thoughts about what we've learned. We invite you to dialogue with us so we can learn from each other as we continue on our journey. Cafe Book Club presented Presence by Amy Cuddy The series on Presence ran from the end of January through March, so there are a number of really great episodes. Links to each episode are provided below. TC 286: Cafe Book Club – Presence by Amy Cuddy – In this episode we kicked off the second book in our Cafe Book Club series: Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, PhD, Social Psychologist and Associate Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School. TC 287: Cafe Book Club – Presence by Amy Cuddy  Part 2 – In this episode we discussed chapter 2 of Presence: “Believing and Owning Your Story”. TC 288: Presence Part 3 – How Presence Begets Presence – This chapter is titled “Stop Preaching, Start Listening: How Presence Begets Presence”. It features a very moving story of how a group of pastors were able to address very serious problems of gang violence by being fully present. TC 289: Presence Part 4: I Don't Deserve To Be Here – In this chap...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-334-cafe-book-club-codependent-no-mor
Chapter 10 – Live Your Own Life
Melody says in Chapter 10: "The surest way to make ourselves crazy is to get involved in other people's business, and the quickest way to become sane and happy is to tend to our own affairs."
Giving ourselves what we need is not difficult. I believe we can learn quickly. The formula is simple: In any given situation, detach and ask, "What do I need to do to take care of myself?"

Activity

* As you go through the days ahead, stop and ask yourself what you need to do to take care of yourself. Do it as often as you need to, but do it at least once daily. If you are going through a crisis, you may need to do it every hour. Then give yourself what you need.
* What do you need from people around you? At an appropriate time, sit down with them and discuss what you need from them.

Chapter 11 – Have a Love Affair with Yourself
"We can cherish ourselves and our lives. We can nurture ourselves and love ourselves. We can accept our wonderful selves, with all our faults, foibles, strong points, weak points, feelings, thoughts, and everything else. It's the best thing we've got going for us. It's who we are, and who we were meant to be. And it's not a mistake. We are the greatest thing that will ever happen to us. Believe it. It makes life much easier."
Activity
How do you feel about yourself? Write about it. Include the things you like or don't like about yourself. Reread what you have written.
 
Click the images below to order your copy of the book and workbook.


Cafe Book Club Schedule
You can join us live Tuesdays at 8 PM PST by calling 646-727-3206.
December 6: Part 1 : What's Codependency, and Who's Got It?  which covers chapters 1 – 4 of Codependent No More. Workbook Lesson 3 chap 3; Workbook Lesson 5 chap 4
December 13: Part 2: The Basics of Self-Care – chapters 5-9; Workbook Lesson 4 chap 7
December 20: Part 2 – The Basics of Self-Care Part 2 – Chapters 10-14; Workbook Lesson 3 chap 12; Workbook Lesson 6 chap 10
December 27: Dark – no show this week
January 2: Part 2 Chapters 15-20; Workbook Lesson 7 chap 17; Workbook Lesson 8 chap 20; Workbook Lesson 9 chap 18
January 10: Interview with Catie Fitzgerald on Nutrition and Codependence
Information about Melody:
Melody Beattie is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles.  Her international bestselling book,]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3509Fri, 30 Dec 2016 04:49:00 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 10 -14 of  Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself and the companion Codependent No More Workbook by Melody Beattie....
Chapter 10 – Live Your Own Life
Melody says in Chapter 10: "The surest way to make ourselves crazy is to get involved in other people's business, and the quickest way to become sane and happy is to tend to our own affairs."
Giving ourselves what we need is not difficult. I believe we can learn quickly. The formula is simple: In any given situation, detach and ask, "What do I need to do to take care of myself?"

Activity

* As you go through the days ahead, stop and ask yourself what you need to do to take care of yourself. Do it as often as you need to, but do it at least once daily. If you are going through a crisis, you may need to do it every hour. Then give yourself what you need.
* What do you need from people around you? At an appropriate time, sit down with them and discuss what you need from them.

Chapter 11 – Have a Love Affair with Yourself
"We can cherish ourselves and our lives. We can nurture ourselves and love ourselves. We can accept our wonderful selves, with all our faults, foibles, strong points, weak points, feelings, thoughts, and everything else. It's the best thing we've got going for us. It's who we are, and who we were meant to be. And it's not a mistake. We are the greatest thing that will ever happen to us. Believe it. It makes life much easier."
Activity
How do you feel about yourself? Write about it. Include the things you like or don't like about yourself. Reread what you have written.
 
Click the images below to order your copy of the book and workbook.


Cafe Book Club Schedule
You can join us live Tuesdays at 8 PM PST by calling 646-727-3206.
December 6: Part 1 : What's Codependency, and Who's Got It?  which covers chapters 1 – 4 of Codependent No More. Workbook Lesson 3 chap 3; Workbook Lesson 5 chap 4
December 13: Part 2: The Basics of Self-Care – chapters 5-9; Workbook Lesson 4 chap 7
December 20: Part 2 – The Basics of Self-Care Part 2 – Chapters 10-14; Workbook Lesson 3 chap 12; Workbook Lesson 6 chap 10
December 27: Dark – no show this week
January 2: Part 2 Chapters 15-20; Workbook Lesson 7 chap 17; Workbook Lesson 8 chap 20; Workbook Lesson 9 chap 18
January 10: Interview with Catie Fitzgerald on Nutrition and Codependence
Information about Melody:
Melody Beattie is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles.  Her international bestselling book,]]>1903cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 10 -14 of  Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself and the companion Codependent No More Workbook by Melody Beattie. This is the second part on the Basics of Self Care. Chapter 10 – Live Your Own Life Melody says in Chapter 10: "The surest way to make ourselves crazy is to get involved in other people's business, and the quickest way to become sane and happy is to tend to our own affairs." Giving ourselves what we need is not difficult. I believe we can learn quickly. The formula is simple: In any given situation, detach and ask, "What do I need to do to take care of myself?" Activity * As you go through the days ahead, stop and ask yourself what you need to do to take care of yourself. Do it as often as you need to, but do it at least once daily. If you are going through a crisis, you may need to do it every hour. Then give yourself what you need. * What do you need from people around you? At an appropriate time, sit down with them and discuss what you need from them. Chapter 11 – Have a Love Affair with Yourself "We can cherish ourselves and our lives. We can nurture ourselves and love ourselves. We can accept our wonderful selves, with all our faults, foibles, strong points, weak points, feelings, thoughts, and everything else. It's the best thing we've got going for us. It's who we are, and who we were meant to be. And it's not a mistake. We are the greatest thing that will ever happen to us. Believe it. It makes life much easier." Activity How do you feel about yourself? Write about it. Include the things you like or don't like about yourself. Reread what you have written.   Click the images below to order your copy of the book and workbook. Cafe Book Club Schedule You can join us live Tuesdays at 8 PM PST by calling 646-727-3206. December 6: Part 1 : What's Codependency, and Who's Got It?  which covers chapters 1 – 4 of Codependent No More. Workbook Lesson 3 chap 3; Workbook Lesson 5 chap 4 December 13: Part 2: The Basics of Self-Care – chapters 5-9; Workbook Lesson 4 chap 7 December 20: Part 2 – The Basics of Self-Care Part 2 – Chapters 10-14; Workbook Lesson 3 chap 12; Workbook Lesson 6 chap 10 December 27: Dark – no show this week January 2: Part 2 Chapters 15-20; Workbook Lesson 7 chap 17; Workbook Lesson 8 chap 20; Workbook Lesson 9 chap 18 January 10: Interview with Catie Fitzgerald on Nutrition and Codependence Information about Melody: Melody Beattie is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles.  Her international bestselling book,Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc333-cafe-book-club-codependent-no-more
Chapter 5: Detachment
In Chapter 5, Melody Beattie describes detachment as an underlying concept. "It is something we need to do frequently, as we strive to live happy lives. It is the goal of most recovery programs for codependents. And, it is something we must do first –before we can do the other things we need to do. We cannot begin to work on ourselves, to live our own lives, feel our own feelings, and solve our own problems until we have detached from the object of our obsession. From my experiences (and those of others), it appears that even our Higher Power can't do much with us until we have detached."

It (detachment) is not detaching from the person whom we care about, but from the agony of involvement. –AL-ANON Member

Detachment involves "present moment living" – living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day.
Detachment also involves accepting reality–the facts. It requires faith–in ourselves, in God, in other people, and in the natural order and destiny of things in this world.
Detachment does not mean we don't care. It means we learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy. We stop creating all this chaos in our minds and environments. When we are not anxiously and compulsively thrashing about, we become able to make good decisions about how to love people, and how to solve our problems. We become free to care and love in ways that help others and don't hurt ourselves.

Chapter 6: Don't Be Blown About by Every Wind
Most codependents are reactionaries. We react with anger, guilt, shame, self-hate, worry, hurt, controlling gestures, caretaking acts, depression, desperation and fury. We react with fear and anxiety.
When we react we forfeit our personal, God-given power to think, feel, and behave in our best interests.
We react because we're anxious and afraid of what has happened, what might happen, and what is happening.
We don't have to behave this way
We don't have to be so afraid of people. They are people like us.
We don't have to forfeit our peace. It doesn't help.
We don't have to forfeit our power to think and feel for anyone or anything. That is also not required of us.
We don't have to take things so seriously (ourselves, events, and other people). 
We don't have to take things so personally. 
Melody offers suggestions in Chapter 6 to help you detach from people and your destructive reactions to them. Refer to pages 70 – 72 in the book to find out what she suggests.


 ]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3467Mon, 19 Dec 2016 03:04:41 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 5 – 9 of  Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself and the companion Codependent No More Workbook by Melody Beattie....
Chapter 5: Detachment
In Chapter 5, Melody Beattie describes detachment as an underlying concept. "It is something we need to do frequently, as we strive to live happy lives. It is the goal of most recovery programs for codependents. And, it is something we must do first –before we can do the other things we need to do. We cannot begin to work on ourselves, to live our own lives, feel our own feelings, and solve our own problems until we have detached from the object of our obsession. From my experiences (and those of others), it appears that even our Higher Power can't do much with us until we have detached."

It (detachment) is not detaching from the person whom we care about, but from the agony of involvement. –AL-ANON Member

Detachment involves "present moment living" – living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day.
Detachment also involves accepting reality–the facts. It requires faith–in ourselves, in God, in other people, and in the natural order and destiny of things in this world.
Detachment does not mean we don't care. It means we learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy. We stop creating all this chaos in our minds and environments. When we are not anxiously and compulsively thrashing about, we become able to make good decisions about how to love people, and how to solve our problems. We become free to care and love in ways that help others and don't hurt ourselves.

Chapter 6: Don't Be Blown About by Every Wind
Most codependents are reactionaries. We react with anger, guilt, shame, self-hate, worry, hurt, controlling gestures, caretaking acts, depression, desperation and fury. We react with fear and anxiety.
When we react we forfeit our personal, God-given power to think, feel, and behave in our best interests.
We react because we're anxious and afraid of what has happened, what might happen, and what is happening.
We don't have to behave this way
We don't have to be so afraid of people. They are people like us.
We don't have to forfeit our peace. It doesn't help.
We don't have to forfeit our power to think and feel for anyone or anything. That is also not required of us.
We don't have to take things so seriously (ourselves, events, and other people). 
We don't have to take things so personally. 
Melody offers suggestions in Chapter 6 to help you detach from people and your destructive reactions to them. Refer to pages 70 – 72 in the book to find out what she suggests.


 ]]>1970cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 5 – 9 of  Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself and the companion Codependent No More Workbook by Melody Beattie. These chapters focus on the Basics of Self Care. Chapter 5: Detachment In Chapter 5, Melody Beattie describes detachment as an underlying concept. "It is something we need to do frequently, as we strive to live happy lives. It is the goal of most recovery programs for codependents. And, it is something we must do first –before we can do the other things we need to do. We cannot begin to work on ourselves, to live our own lives, feel our own feelings, and solve our own problems until we have detached from the object of our obsession. From my experiences (and those of others), it appears that even our Higher Power can't do much with us until we have detached." It (detachment) is not detaching from the person whom we care about, but from the agony of involvement. –AL-ANON Member Detachment involves "present moment living" – living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day. Detachment also involves accepting reality–the facts. It requires faith–in ourselves, in God, in other people, and in the natural order and destiny of things in this world. Detachment does not mean we don't care. It means we learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy. We stop creating all this chaos in our minds and environments. When we are not anxiously and compulsively thrashing about, we become able to make good decisions about how to love people, and how to solve our problems. We become free to care and love in ways that help others and don't hurt ourselves. Chapter 6: Don't Be Blown About by Every Wind Most codependents are reactionaries. We react with anger, guilt, shame, self-hate, worry, hurt, controlling gestures, caretaking acts, depression, desperation and fury. We react with fear and anxiety. When we react we forfeit our personal, God-given power to think, feel, and behave in our best interests. We react because we're anxious and afraid of what has happened, what might happen, and what is happening. We don't have to behave this way We don't have to be so afraid of people. They are people like us. We don't have to forfeit our peace. It doesn't help. We don't have to forfeit our power to think and feel for anyone or anything. That is also not required of us. We don't have to take things so seriously (ourselves, events, and other people).  We don't have to take things so personally.  Melody offers suggestions in Chapter 6 to help you detach from people and your destructive reactions to them. Refer to pages 70 – 72 in the book to find out what she suggests.  Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc332-cafe-book-club-codependent-no-more

 
Quote from Chapter 3:

Relationships are like a dance, with visible energy racing back and forth between the partners. Some relationships are the slow, dark dance of death.
— Colette Dowling

What is Codependency?
In an article from the book Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue, Robert Subby wrote codependency is "an emotional, psychological, and behavioral condition that develops as a result of an individual's prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules–rules which prevent the open expression of feeling as well as the direct discussion of personal and interpersonal problems."
Melody Beattie defines codependent as: "A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior."
"The other person might be a child, an adult, a lover, a spouse, a brother, a sister, a grandparent, a parent, a client, or a best friend. He or she can be a drug addict, a mentally or physically ill person, a normal person who occasionally has sad feelings, or one of the people mentioned earlier."
"But, the heart of the definition and recovery lies not in the other person–no matter how much we believe it does. It lies in ourselves, in the ways we have let other people's behavior affect us and in the ways we try to affect them: the obsessing, the controlling, the obsessive "helping", caretaking, low self-worth bordering on self-hatred, self-repression, abundance of anger and guilt. . . attraction to and tolerance for the bizarre, other-centeredness that results in abandonment of self, communication problems, intimacy problems, and on ongoing whirlwind trip through the five-stage grief process."
 


 
Cafe Book Club Schedule
You can join us live Tuesdays at 8 PM PST by calling 646-727-3206.
December 6: Part 1 : What's Codependency, and Who's Got It?  which covers chapters 1 – 4 of Codependent No More. Workbook Lesson 3 chap 3; Workbook Lesson 5 chap 4
December 13: Part 2: Chapters 5-9; Workbook Lesson 4 chap 7; Workbook Lesson 10 chap 8
December 20: Part 2 – Chapters 10-14; Workbook Lesson 3 chap 12; Workbook Lesson 6 chap 10
December 27: Dark – no show this week
January 2: Part 2 Chapters 15-20; Workbook Lesson 7 chap 17; Workbook Lesson 8 chap 20; Workbook Lesson 9 chap 18
Information about Melody:
Melody Beattie is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles.  Her international bestselling book, Codependent No More, introduced the world to the term “codependency” i...]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3448Mon, 12 Dec 2016 04:37:39 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost and Amy's friend Joan discuss chapters 1 – 4 of  Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself and the companion Codependent No More...

 
Quote from Chapter 3:

Relationships are like a dance, with visible energy racing back and forth between the partners. Some relationships are the slow, dark dance of death.
— Colette Dowling

What is Codependency?
In an article from the book Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue, Robert Subby wrote codependency is "an emotional, psychological, and behavioral condition that develops as a result of an individual's prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules–rules which prevent the open expression of feeling as well as the direct discussion of personal and interpersonal problems."
Melody Beattie defines codependent as: "A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior."
"The other person might be a child, an adult, a lover, a spouse, a brother, a sister, a grandparent, a parent, a client, or a best friend. He or she can be a drug addict, a mentally or physically ill person, a normal person who occasionally has sad feelings, or one of the people mentioned earlier."
"But, the heart of the definition and recovery lies not in the other person–no matter how much we believe it does. It lies in ourselves, in the ways we have let other people's behavior affect us and in the ways we try to affect them: the obsessing, the controlling, the obsessive "helping", caretaking, low self-worth bordering on self-hatred, self-repression, abundance of anger and guilt. . . attraction to and tolerance for the bizarre, other-centeredness that results in abandonment of self, communication problems, intimacy problems, and on ongoing whirlwind trip through the five-stage grief process."
 


 
Cafe Book Club Schedule
You can join us live Tuesdays at 8 PM PST by calling 646-727-3206.
December 6: Part 1 : What's Codependency, and Who's Got It?  which covers chapters 1 – 4 of Codependent No More. Workbook Lesson 3 chap 3; Workbook Lesson 5 chap 4
December 13: Part 2: Chapters 5-9; Workbook Lesson 4 chap 7; Workbook Lesson 10 chap 8
December 20: Part 2 – Chapters 10-14; Workbook Lesson 3 chap 12; Workbook Lesson 6 chap 10
December 27: Dark – no show this week
January 2: Part 2 Chapters 15-20; Workbook Lesson 7 chap 17; Workbook Lesson 8 chap 20; Workbook Lesson 9 chap 18
Information about Melody:
Melody Beattie is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles.  Her international bestselling book, Codependent No More, introduced the world to the term “codependency” i...]]>1834cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost and Amy's friend Joan discuss chapters 1 – 4 of  Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself and the companion Codependent No More Workbook by Melody Beattie.   Quote from Chapter 3: Relationships are like a dance, with visible energy racing back and forth between the partners. Some relationships are the slow, dark dance of death. — Colette Dowling What is Codependency? In an article from the book Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue, Robert Subby wrote codependency is "an emotional, psychological, and behavioral condition that develops as a result of an individual's prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules–rules which prevent the open expression of feeling as well as the direct discussion of personal and interpersonal problems." Melody Beattie defines codependent as: "A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior." "The other person might be a child, an adult, a lover, a spouse, a brother, a sister, a grandparent, a parent, a client, or a best friend. He or she can be a drug addict, a mentally or physically ill person, a normal person who occasionally has sad feelings, or one of the people mentioned earlier." "But, the heart of the definition and recovery lies not in the other person–no matter how much we believe it does. It lies in ourselves, in the ways we have let other people's behavior affect us and in the ways we try to affect them: the obsessing, the controlling, the obsessive "helping", caretaking, low self-worth bordering on self-hatred, self-repression, abundance of anger and guilt. . . attraction to and tolerance for the bizarre, other-centeredness that results in abandonment of self, communication problems, intimacy problems, and on ongoing whirlwind trip through the five-stage grief process."     Cafe Book Club Schedule You can join us live Tuesdays at 8 PM PST by calling 646-727-3206. December 6: Part 1 : What's Codependency, and Who's Got It?  which covers chapters 1 – 4 of Codependent No More. Workbook Lesson 3 chap 3; Workbook Lesson 5 chap 4 December 13: Part 2: Chapters 5-9; Workbook Lesson 4 chap 7; Workbook Lesson 10 chap 8 December 20: Part 2 – Chapters 10-14; Workbook Lesson 3 chap 12; Workbook Lesson 6 chap 10 December 27: Dark – no show this week January 2: Part 2 Chapters 15-20; Workbook Lesson 7 chap 17; Workbook Lesson 8 chap 20; Workbook Lesson 9 chap 18 Information about Melody: Melody Beattie is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles.  Her international bestselling book, Codependent No More, introduced the world to the term “codependency” i...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc331-celebrating-the-30th-anniversary-o


According to Melody, codependency is the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another, often while struggling with a loved one's self-destructive behavior.

"Codependents need boundaries. We need to set limits on what we shall do to and for people".

The key principles of the book continue to resonate: Knowing when to say no and when to say yes. Taking responsibility for your choices. Setting boundaries. Learning to let go.  Forgiveness after feeling your feelings–not before. Self-expression. Loving others but loving yourself too.
 

Cafe Book Club Schedule
You can join us live Tuesdays at 8 PM PST by calling 646-727-3206.
December 6: Part 1 : What's Codependency, and Who's Got It?  which covers chapters 1 – 4 of Codependent No More. Workbook Lesson 3 chap 3; Workbook Lesson 5 chap 4
December 13: Part 2: Chapters 5-9; Workbook Lesson 4 chap 7; Workbook Lesson 10 chap 8
December 20: Part 2 – Chapters 10-14; Workbook Lesson 3 chap 12; Workbook Lesson 6 chap 10
December 27: Dark – no show this week
January 2: Part 2 Chapters 15-20; Workbook Lesson 7 chap 17; Workbook Lesson 8 chap 20; Workbook Lesson 9 chap 18
Information about Melody:
Melody Beattie is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles.  Her international bestselling book, Codependent No More,introduced the world to the term “codependency” in 1986.  Millions of readers have trusted Melody’s words of wisdom and guidance because she knows firsthand what they’re going through. In her lifetime, she has survived abandonment, kidnapping, sexual abuse, drug and alcohol addiction, divorce, and the death of a child.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3435Mon, 05 Dec 2016 00:18:56 +0000Transformation CafeThis week host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss Melody Beattie's ground-breaking book Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself and the companion Codependent No More Workbook. 2016 marks the 30th...


According to Melody, codependency is the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another, often while struggling with a loved one's self-destructive behavior.

"Codependents need boundaries. We need to set limits on what we shall do to and for people".

The key principles of the book continue to resonate: Knowing when to say no and when to say yes. Taking responsibility for your choices. Setting boundaries. Learning to let go.  Forgiveness after feeling your feelings–not before. Self-expression. Loving others but loving yourself too.
 

Cafe Book Club Schedule
You can join us live Tuesdays at 8 PM PST by calling 646-727-3206.
December 6: Part 1 : What's Codependency, and Who's Got It?  which covers chapters 1 – 4 of Codependent No More. Workbook Lesson 3 chap 3; Workbook Lesson 5 chap 4
December 13: Part 2: Chapters 5-9; Workbook Lesson 4 chap 7; Workbook Lesson 10 chap 8
December 20: Part 2 – Chapters 10-14; Workbook Lesson 3 chap 12; Workbook Lesson 6 chap 10
December 27: Dark – no show this week
January 2: Part 2 Chapters 15-20; Workbook Lesson 7 chap 17; Workbook Lesson 8 chap 20; Workbook Lesson 9 chap 18
Information about Melody:
Melody Beattie is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles.  Her international bestselling book, Codependent No More,introduced the world to the term “codependency” in 1986.  Millions of readers have trusted Melody’s words of wisdom and guidance because she knows firsthand what they’re going through. In her lifetime, she has survived abandonment, kidnapping, sexual abuse, drug and alcohol addiction, divorce, and the death of a child.]]>1752cleanfullTransformation CafeThis week host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss Melody Beattie's ground-breaking book Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself and the companion Codependent No More Workbook. 2016 marks the 30th anniversary of the book, and to date more than 8 million copies have been sold, 6 million in the US. This will be the next book in our Cafe Book Club series. According to Melody, codependency is the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another, often while struggling with a loved one's self-destructive behavior. "Codependents need boundaries. We need to set limits on what we shall do to and for people". The key principles of the book continue to resonate: Knowing when to say no and when to say yes. Taking responsibility for your choices. Setting boundaries. Learning to let go.  Forgiveness after feeling your feelings–not before. Self-expression. Loving others but loving yourself too.   Cafe Book Club Schedule You can join us live Tuesdays at 8 PM PST by calling 646-727-3206. December 6: Part 1 : What's Codependency, and Who's Got It?  which covers chapters 1 – 4 of Codependent No More. Workbook Lesson 3 chap 3; Workbook Lesson 5 chap 4 December 13: Part 2: Chapters 5-9; Workbook Lesson 4 chap 7; Workbook Lesson 10 chap 8 December 20: Part 2 – Chapters 10-14; Workbook Lesson 3 chap 12; Workbook Lesson 6 chap 10 December 27: Dark – no show this week January 2: Part 2 Chapters 15-20; Workbook Lesson 7 chap 17; Workbook Lesson 8 chap 20; Workbook Lesson 9 chap 18 Information about Melody: Melody Beattie is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles.  Her international bestselling book, Codependent No More,introduced the world to the term “codependency” in 1986.  Millions of readers have trusted Melody’s words of wisdom and guidance because she knows firsthand what they’re going through. In her lifetime, she has survived abandonment, kidnapping, sexual abuse, drug and alcohol addiction, divorce, and the death of a child.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc330-building-a-community-of-fitness
Strengthening Community Ties
Beyond just the desire to look good and be fit, the issue that’s becoming increasingly important, especially as our population ages, is community. Social isolation is a serious issue, and can lead to many health-related problems that have a wide-reaching effect. One reason people join a fitness facility is to feel they are part of a social network. In addition to having a fun place to meet people, members are engaging in healthy activities.
The relationship between personal trainers and clients becomes even more important as clients enter their golden years. Some clubs mix young, energetic trainers with older clients; it is good for both parties. It’s equally important to have older people on staff to reflect how everyone at every age contributes to a sense of belonging. An older workforce brings wisdom and fosters mentorship, which strengthens community.
The Happiness Quotient
Ultimately, people want to be happy. In most cases, a buying decision is rooted in the desire for happiness, whether the purchase is a vacation, a new car, a better house or new shoes; the underlying motivation for spending money is happiness. When someone is considering buying a membership or personal training package, she is imagining a healthier body. Why have a healthier body? To be happier and more satisfied with life. A healthy body is important to overall happiness and peace of mind. It’s hard to be happy when the thought of clothes shopping causes despair or when you’re in constant pain and discomfort. Some people even fear pursuing happiness because they believe the pursuit is selfish, impossible or both.
Trainers that understand this fear and the desire for happiness have empathy for customers and support them on their journeys to health and happiness. This desire for happiness is not only a possibility; it’s a necessity for a fulfilling life! Happy people create more happiness.
Guest: Debbie Carreon, General Manager 24 Hour Fitness]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3429Mon, 28 Nov 2016 04:42:19 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast we welcome Debbie Carreon to discuss how some fitness clubs are changing from some place just to exercise, to a place where you can develop friendships and build a sense of community. Strengthening Community Ties Beyond just...
Strengthening Community Ties
Beyond just the desire to look good and be fit, the issue that’s becoming increasingly important, especially as our population ages, is community. Social isolation is a serious issue, and can lead to many health-related problems that have a wide-reaching effect. One reason people join a fitness facility is to feel they are part of a social network. In addition to having a fun place to meet people, members are engaging in healthy activities.
The relationship between personal trainers and clients becomes even more important as clients enter their golden years. Some clubs mix young, energetic trainers with older clients; it is good for both parties. It’s equally important to have older people on staff to reflect how everyone at every age contributes to a sense of belonging. An older workforce brings wisdom and fosters mentorship, which strengthens community.
The Happiness Quotient
Ultimately, people want to be happy. In most cases, a buying decision is rooted in the desire for happiness, whether the purchase is a vacation, a new car, a better house or new shoes; the underlying motivation for spending money is happiness. When someone is considering buying a membership or personal training package, she is imagining a healthier body. Why have a healthier body? To be happier and more satisfied with life. A healthy body is important to overall happiness and peace of mind. It’s hard to be happy when the thought of clothes shopping causes despair or when you’re in constant pain and discomfort. Some people even fear pursuing happiness because they believe the pursuit is selfish, impossible or both.
Trainers that understand this fear and the desire for happiness have empathy for customers and support them on their journeys to health and happiness. This desire for happiness is not only a possibility; it’s a necessity for a fulfilling life! Happy people create more happiness.
Guest: Debbie Carreon, General Manager 24 Hour Fitness]]>1988cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast we welcome Debbie Carreon to discuss how some fitness clubs are changing from some place just to exercise, to a place where you can develop friendships and build a sense of community. Strengthening Community Ties Beyond just the desire to look good and be fit, the issue that’s becoming increasingly important, especially as our population ages, is community. Social isolation is a serious issue, and can lead to many health-related problems that have a wide-reaching effect. One reason people join a fitness facility is to feel they are part of a social network. In addition to having a fun place to meet people, members are engaging in healthy activities. The relationship between personal trainers and clients becomes even more important as clients enter their golden years. Some clubs mix young, energetic trainers with older clients; it is good for both parties. It’s equally important to have older people on staff to reflect how everyone at every age contributes to a sense of belonging. An older workforce brings wisdom and fosters mentorship, which strengthens community. The Happiness Quotient Ultimately, people want to be happy. In most cases, a buying decision is rooted in the desire for happiness, whether the purchase is a vacation, a new car, a better house or new shoes; the underlying motivation for spending money is happiness. When someone is considering buying a membership or personal training package, she is imagining a healthier body. Why have a healthier body? To be happier and more satisfied with life. A healthy body is important to overall happiness and peace of mind. It’s hard to be happy when the thought of clothes shopping causes despair or when you’re in constant pain and discomfort. Some people even fear pursuing happiness because they believe the pursuit is selfish, impossible or both. Trainers that understand this fear and the desire for happiness have empathy for customers and support them on their journeys to health and happiness. This desire for happiness is not only a possibility; it’s a necessity for a fulfilling life! Happy people create more happiness. Guest: Debbie Carreon, General Manager 24 Hour FitnessNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc239-grief-recovery-with-guest-mikki-waAccording to John W. James and Russell Friedman, "Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change of a familiar pattern of behavior."
Grief can be the result of any change, positive or negative. It can be triggered by death of a loved one, divorce, loss of health, loss of a job, financial issues, abuse, and many other events. It can also be triggered by positive changes like getting a new job and moving to a new city.
Updated to commemorate its 20th anniversary, the Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James and Russell Friedman further explores the effects of grief and sheds new light on how to begin to take effective actions to complete the grieving process and work towards recovery and happiness.


Common responses to grief:
Reduced concentration – you may go the the kitchen and then forget why you went there
A sense of numbness – physically, emotionally, or both
Disturbed sleep patterns – not being able to sleep or sleeping too much, or both alternately
Change in eating habits – grievers may have no appetite or may eat nonstop, or both alternately
Roller coaster of emotional energy – emotional highs and lows that can be emotionally and physically draining
These are all normal and natural responses to loss. Their duration is unique to every individual. They are not stages and they do not always occur. Do not allow anyone to create time frames or stages for you.

Trying to overcome grief with your head is like trying to paint a room with a hammer. Good luck with that.

Myths about grief:
The following are common ways we're told to get over grief, either directly or modeled by the behavior of others. They are labeled "myths" because these methods are no more effective than treating a gushing wound to the body by "just getting over it" would be.
Don't feel bad – don't cry, just get over it, etc. Trying to suppress your natural reaction to loss won't make things better.
Replace the loss – replace the loss with food, or a substitute for what or who you've lost. Daughter: "My dog died!" Dad: "Don't cry, we'll buy you another dog on Saturday".
Grieve alone – don't cry in front of others. "Laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone". We're told to hide our feelings and not bother others.
Just give it time – "Time heals all wounds". No it doesn't. Actions taken over time heals the wound.
Be strong for others – We say "I'm fine" when asked how we are, even if we're not fine. We perpetuate the lie and act like there is nothing wrong.
Keep busy – being busy will keep your mind off your loss, and you'll eventually get over it. Again, this doesn't work.

A griever needs to be listened to, not fixed.

About Mikki Wade

Mikki Wade is the founder and CEO of]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3402Mon, 21 Nov 2016 02:16:46 +0000Transformation CafeOn this week's show we welcome back Mikki Wade, a pastor and certified grief recovery practitioner. Mikki describes what grief is, describes the signs to look for in yourself and others, and discusses some of the common myths associated with grief....According to John W. James and Russell Friedman, "Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change of a familiar pattern of behavior."
Grief can be the result of any change, positive or negative. It can be triggered by death of a loved one, divorce, loss of health, loss of a job, financial issues, abuse, and many other events. It can also be triggered by positive changes like getting a new job and moving to a new city.
Updated to commemorate its 20th anniversary, the Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James and Russell Friedman further explores the effects of grief and sheds new light on how to begin to take effective actions to complete the grieving process and work towards recovery and happiness.


Common responses to grief:
Reduced concentration – you may go the the kitchen and then forget why you went there
A sense of numbness – physically, emotionally, or both
Disturbed sleep patterns – not being able to sleep or sleeping too much, or both alternately
Change in eating habits – grievers may have no appetite or may eat nonstop, or both alternately
Roller coaster of emotional energy – emotional highs and lows that can be emotionally and physically draining
These are all normal and natural responses to loss. Their duration is unique to every individual. They are not stages and they do not always occur. Do not allow anyone to create time frames or stages for you.

Trying to overcome grief with your head is like trying to paint a room with a hammer. Good luck with that.

Myths about grief:
The following are common ways we're told to get over grief, either directly or modeled by the behavior of others. They are labeled "myths" because these methods are no more effective than treating a gushing wound to the body by "just getting over it" would be.
Don't feel bad – don't cry, just get over it, etc. Trying to suppress your natural reaction to loss won't make things better.
Replace the loss – replace the loss with food, or a substitute for what or who you've lost. Daughter: "My dog died!" Dad: "Don't cry, we'll buy you another dog on Saturday".
Grieve alone – don't cry in front of others. "Laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone". We're told to hide our feelings and not bother others.
Just give it time – "Time heals all wounds". No it doesn't. Actions taken over time heals the wound.
Be strong for others – We say "I'm fine" when asked how we are, even if we're not fine. We perpetuate the lie and act like there is nothing wrong.
Keep busy – being busy will keep your mind off your loss, and you'll eventually get over it. Again, this doesn't work.

A griever needs to be listened to, not fixed.

About Mikki Wade

Mikki Wade is the founder and CEO of]]>1882cleanfullTransformation CafeOn this week's show we welcome back Mikki Wade, a pastor and certified grief recovery practitioner. Mikki describes what grief is, describes the signs to look for in yourself and others, and discusses some of the common myths associated with grief. According to John W. James and Russell Friedman, "Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change of a familiar pattern of behavior." Grief can be the result of any change, positive or negative. It can be triggered by death of a loved one, divorce, loss of health, loss of a job, financial issues, abuse, and many other events. It can also be triggered by positive changes like getting a new job and moving to a new city. Updated to commemorate its 20th anniversary, the Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James and Russell Friedman further explores the effects of grief and sheds new light on how to begin to take effective actions to complete the grieving process and work towards recovery and happiness. Common responses to grief: Reduced concentration – you may go the the kitchen and then forget why you went there A sense of numbness – physically, emotionally, or both Disturbed sleep patterns – not being able to sleep or sleeping too much, or both alternately Change in eating habits – grievers may have no appetite or may eat nonstop, or both alternately Roller coaster of emotional energy – emotional highs and lows that can be emotionally and physically draining These are all normal and natural responses to loss. Their duration is unique to every individual. They are not stages and they do not always occur. Do not allow anyone to create time frames or stages for you. Trying to overcome grief with your head is like trying to paint a room with a hammer. Good luck with that. Myths about grief: The following are common ways we're told to get over grief, either directly or modeled by the behavior of others. They are labeled "myths" because these methods are no more effective than treating a gushing wound to the body by "just getting over it" would be. Don't feel bad – don't cry, just get over it, etc. Trying to suppress your natural reaction to loss won't make things better. Replace the loss – replace the loss with food, or a substitute for what or who you've lost. Daughter: "My dog died!" Dad: "Don't cry, we'll buy you another dog on Saturday". Grieve alone – don't cry in front of others. "Laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone". We're told to hide our feelings and not bother others. Just give it time – "Time heals all wounds". No it doesn't. Actions taken over time heals the wound. Be strong for others – We say "I'm fine" when asked how we are, even if we're not fine. We perpetuate the lie and act like there is nothing wrong. Keep busy – being busy will keep your mind off your loss, and you'll eventually get over it. Again, this doesn't work. A griever needs to be listened to, not fixed. About Mikki Wade Mikki Wade is the founder and CEO ofNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc238-what-now-accepting-what-is-and-turAmy observes that whatever happens with the U.S. election, nearly 50% of the population is going to be unhappy. The night of the election as people began to realize the outcome, some people were happy and excited, and others were shocked and depressed. The only thing that is certain is that the future is uncertain. Change is hard, and even positive change can cause uneasiness and anxiety.

Since the election there has been protests in major U.S. cities: Los Angeles; New Haven, Connecticut; Orlando; Chicago; Boston; Asheville, North Carolina; Nashville; and Columbus, Ohio, and there were marches at schools in Denver and Omaha, Nebraska. Groups across the country are angry about policies Trump has promised to enforce concerning immigration, the environment, LGBT rights and other issues.
Some people are trying to stay positive and keep an open mind, where others are struggling to cope with the new reality. It is perfectly natural to feel sad, depressed, angry, fearful, and a host of other emotions. These are all symptoms of grief, and now about half of the country is experiencing some form of it.

Dealing with Post-Election Anxiety
Cosmopolitan magazine has a great article called 14 Effective Ways to Deal with Post-Election Anxiety.  “Feeling out of control can cause symptoms of fear, depression, and anxiety,” says Dr. Jennifer Caudle, DO, family physician, assistant professor at Rowan University School of Osteopathic Medicine, who's counseled scores of patients suffering from stress and anxiety.
The transitional period between administrations only worsens the situation. “Uncertainty almost always increases anxiety, so it's totally normal to feel anxious after an election,” says Dr. Chloe Carmichael, PhD, a Manhattan-based psychologist. “Even if you're pleased with the chosen candidate, you still don't know exactly what life will be like with the changes ahead.”
Another good article from PositivelyPresent.com includes a section on 4 Ways to Accept What Is (Even When It's Sad).
Amy recommends reading "A Force for Good: The Dalai Lama's Vision for Our World" by Daniel Goleman.
“Far from being a self-help book, this examines specific ideas espoused by the Dalai Lama, such as emotional hygiene, compassionate economy, and education of the heart that can make the world a better place. An optimistic and thoughtful primer with practical applications.”—Booklist

Maybe so, Maybe not. We’ll see.
There is a Chinese Proverb that goes something like this…
A farmer and his son had a beloved stallion who helped the family earn a living. One day, the horse ran away and their neighbors exclaimed, “Your horse ran away, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”
A few days later, the horse returned home, leading a few wild mares back to the farm as well. The neighbors shouted out, “Your horse has returned, and brought several horses home with him. What great luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3380Sat, 12 Nov 2016 22:17:43 +0000Transformation CafeIn this timely episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome Mickey Wade, a grief recovery specialist and life coach. This show was recorded on November 8 – Election Night in the U.S. Amy observes that...Amy observes that whatever happens with the U.S. election, nearly 50% of the population is going to be unhappy. The night of the election as people began to realize the outcome, some people were happy and excited, and others were shocked and depressed. The only thing that is certain is that the future is uncertain. Change is hard, and even positive change can cause uneasiness and anxiety.

Since the election there has been protests in major U.S. cities: Los Angeles; New Haven, Connecticut; Orlando; Chicago; Boston; Asheville, North Carolina; Nashville; and Columbus, Ohio, and there were marches at schools in Denver and Omaha, Nebraska. Groups across the country are angry about policies Trump has promised to enforce concerning immigration, the environment, LGBT rights and other issues.
Some people are trying to stay positive and keep an open mind, where others are struggling to cope with the new reality. It is perfectly natural to feel sad, depressed, angry, fearful, and a host of other emotions. These are all symptoms of grief, and now about half of the country is experiencing some form of it.

Dealing with Post-Election Anxiety
Cosmopolitan magazine has a great article called 14 Effective Ways to Deal with Post-Election Anxiety.  “Feeling out of control can cause symptoms of fear, depression, and anxiety,” says Dr. Jennifer Caudle, DO, family physician, assistant professor at Rowan University School of Osteopathic Medicine, who's counseled scores of patients suffering from stress and anxiety.
The transitional period between administrations only worsens the situation. “Uncertainty almost always increases anxiety, so it's totally normal to feel anxious after an election,” says Dr. Chloe Carmichael, PhD, a Manhattan-based psychologist. “Even if you're pleased with the chosen candidate, you still don't know exactly what life will be like with the changes ahead.”
Another good article from PositivelyPresent.com includes a section on 4 Ways to Accept What Is (Even When It's Sad).
Amy recommends reading "A Force for Good: The Dalai Lama's Vision for Our World" by Daniel Goleman.
“Far from being a self-help book, this examines specific ideas espoused by the Dalai Lama, such as emotional hygiene, compassionate economy, and education of the heart that can make the world a better place. An optimistic and thoughtful primer with practical applications.”—Booklist

Maybe so, Maybe not. We’ll see.
There is a Chinese Proverb that goes something like this…
A farmer and his son had a beloved stallion who helped the family earn a living. One day, the horse ran away and their neighbors exclaimed, “Your horse ran away, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”
A few days later, the horse returned home, leading a few wild mares back to the farm as well. The neighbors shouted out, “Your horse has returned, and brought several horses home with him. What great luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”]]>2128cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this timely episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome Mickey Wade, a grief recovery specialist and life coach. This show was recorded on November 8 – Election Night in the U.S. Amy observes that whatever happens with the U.S. election, nearly 50% of the population is going to be unhappy. The night of the election as people began to realize the outcome, some people were happy and excited, and others were shocked and depressed. The only thing that is certain is that the future is uncertain. Change is hard, and even positive change can cause uneasiness and anxiety. Since the election there has been protests in major U.S. cities: Los Angeles; New Haven, Connecticut; Orlando; Chicago; Boston; Asheville, North Carolina; Nashville; and Columbus, Ohio, and there were marches at schools in Denver and Omaha, Nebraska. Groups across the country are angry about policies Trump has promised to enforce concerning immigration, the environment, LGBT rights and other issues. Some people are trying to stay positive and keep an open mind, where others are struggling to cope with the new reality. It is perfectly natural to feel sad, depressed, angry, fearful, and a host of other emotions. These are all symptoms of grief, and now about half of the country is experiencing some form of it. Dealing with Post-Election Anxiety Cosmopolitan magazine has a great article called 14 Effective Ways to Deal with Post-Election Anxiety.  “Feeling out of control can cause symptoms of fear, depression, and anxiety,” says Dr. Jennifer Caudle, DO, family physician, assistant professor at Rowan University School of Osteopathic Medicine, who's counseled scores of patients suffering from stress and anxiety. The transitional period between administrations only worsens the situation. “Uncertainty almost always increases anxiety, so it's totally normal to feel anxious after an election,” says Dr. Chloe Carmichael, PhD, a Manhattan-based psychologist. “Even if you're pleased with the chosen candidate, you still don't know exactly what life will be like with the changes ahead.” Another good article from PositivelyPresent.com includes a section on 4 Ways to Accept What Is (Even When It's Sad). Amy recommends reading "A Force for Good: The Dalai Lama's Vision for Our World" by Daniel Goleman. “Far from being a self-help book, this examines specific ideas espoused by the Dalai Lama, such as emotional hygiene, compassionate economy, and education of the heart that can make the world a better place. An optimistic and thoughtful primer with practical applications.”—Booklist Maybe so, Maybe not. We’ll see. There is a Chinese Proverb that goes something like this… A farmer and his son had a beloved stallion who helped the family earn a living. One day, the horse ran away and their neighbors exclaimed, “Your horse ran away, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.” A few days later, the horse returned home, leading a few wild mares back to the farm as well. The neighbors shouted out, “Your horse has returned, and brought several horses home with him. What great luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc237-making-food-your-friend-for-the-ho
Catie is a former professional figure skater and ballet dancer, and has had a passion for personal health and fitness from an early age. At age 16 Catie's mother lost a battle with cancer, which made her want to learn more about what we can do to help our bodies to be healthy and prevent disease. Catie will be completing a Master's degree in Holistic Nutrition in the next few months.

What is an optimal diet?
An optimal diet really starts with whole foods; foods that come in the package that mother nature provided. It also focuses on organic foods because they are exposed to fewer synthetic pesticides and herbicides, which reduces the overall toxin burden on our body. These toxins are known to cause cancer and other diseases in increase aging.

Organic foods are expensive. What if I can't afford to buy all organic?
If buying all organic foods is not within your budget, the Environmental Working Group (EWG) recommends that you at least buy "The Dirty Dozen", which have the highest amount of residual pesticides and herbicides present on their surface or within their flesh. Strawberries and apples are at the top of the list. See the Resources section below for links to additional articles.
Eat Seasonally
Another tip is to eat seasonally. Seasonal foods are those foods that are at their peak during that time of year. Here's a link to a Seasonal Food Guide for the United States. Just select your state and choose the month or produce to see when it is is season. There's also a Seasonality Table from the BBC that includes fruit, vegetables, meat and game, and fish and seafood. We've also included another link in the Resources section.

Eat Locally Grown Food
"Locally grown" refers to food and other agricultural products (for example, wool or flowers) that are grown or produced, processed and then sold within a certain area. However, there's no standard definition of "local," and so businesses touting their "locally grown products" may be using very different definitions. A distance of 100 miles is generally accepted as "local", but some stores will say it's local if it's grown in the same state.
The advantage of eating locally is that the food did not have to be packed and trucked long distances before it gets to you, which diminishes its nutritional value. Also supporting local growers has an impact on the economy of the area in which you live. Makes sense to me.

Four Ways Food Can Be Your Friend

Foods can help keep you immune system strong – eat foods high in vitamin A, C, and E. Zinc is useful to help prevent colds.
Food can help provide the additional energy required to get through the long busy days that the holiday...]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3339Mon, 07 Nov 2016 00:58:12 +0000Transformation CafeThis week host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome Catie Fitzgerald to discuss eating guilt-free for the holidays, how foods can help you feel calmer, have more energy, and even boost you immune system. Catie will share ways to modify...
Catie is a former professional figure skater and ballet dancer, and has had a passion for personal health and fitness from an early age. At age 16 Catie's mother lost a battle with cancer, which made her want to learn more about what we can do to help our bodies to be healthy and prevent disease. Catie will be completing a Master's degree in Holistic Nutrition in the next few months.

What is an optimal diet?
An optimal diet really starts with whole foods; foods that come in the package that mother nature provided. It also focuses on organic foods because they are exposed to fewer synthetic pesticides and herbicides, which reduces the overall toxin burden on our body. These toxins are known to cause cancer and other diseases in increase aging.

Organic foods are expensive. What if I can't afford to buy all organic?
If buying all organic foods is not within your budget, the Environmental Working Group (EWG) recommends that you at least buy "The Dirty Dozen", which have the highest amount of residual pesticides and herbicides present on their surface or within their flesh. Strawberries and apples are at the top of the list. See the Resources section below for links to additional articles.
Eat Seasonally
Another tip is to eat seasonally. Seasonal foods are those foods that are at their peak during that time of year. Here's a link to a Seasonal Food Guide for the United States. Just select your state and choose the month or produce to see when it is is season. There's also a Seasonality Table from the BBC that includes fruit, vegetables, meat and game, and fish and seafood. We've also included another link in the Resources section.

Eat Locally Grown Food
"Locally grown" refers to food and other agricultural products (for example, wool or flowers) that are grown or produced, processed and then sold within a certain area. However, there's no standard definition of "local," and so businesses touting their "locally grown products" may be using very different definitions. A distance of 100 miles is generally accepted as "local", but some stores will say it's local if it's grown in the same state.
The advantage of eating locally is that the food did not have to be packed and trucked long distances before it gets to you, which diminishes its nutritional value. Also supporting local growers has an impact on the economy of the area in which you live. Makes sense to me.

Four Ways Food Can Be Your Friend

Foods can help keep you immune system strong – eat foods high in vitamin A, C, and E. Zinc is useful to help prevent colds.
Food can help provide the additional energy required to get through the long busy days that the holiday...]]>2068cleanfullTransformation CafeThis week host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome Catie Fitzgerald to discuss eating guilt-free for the holidays, how foods can help you feel calmer, have more energy, and even boost you immune system. Catie will share ways to modify recipes so they are not only have fewer calories, and are better for you, but are also more flavorful. Catie is a former professional figure skater and ballet dancer, and has had a passion for personal health and fitness from an early age. At age 16 Catie's mother lost a battle with cancer, which made her want to learn more about what we can do to help our bodies to be healthy and prevent disease. Catie will be completing a Master's degree in Holistic Nutrition in the next few months. What is an optimal diet? An optimal diet really starts with whole foods; foods that come in the package that mother nature provided. It also focuses on organic foods because they are exposed to fewer synthetic pesticides and herbicides, which reduces the overall toxin burden on our body. These toxins are known to cause cancer and other diseases in increase aging. Organic foods are expensive. What if I can't afford to buy all organic? If buying all organic foods is not within your budget, the Environmental Working Group (EWG) recommends that you at least buy "The Dirty Dozen", which have the highest amount of residual pesticides and herbicides present on their surface or within their flesh. Strawberries and apples are at the top of the list. See the Resources section below for links to additional articles. Eat Seasonally Another tip is to eat seasonally. Seasonal foods are those foods that are at their peak during that time of year. Here's a link to a Seasonal Food Guide for the United States. Just select your state and choose the month or produce to see when it is is season. There's also a Seasonality Table from the BBC that includes fruit, vegetables, meat and game, and fish and seafood. We've also included another link in the Resources section. Eat Locally Grown Food "Locally grown" refers to food and other agricultural products (for example, wool or flowers) that are grown or produced, processed and then sold within a certain area. However, there's no standard definition of "local," and so businesses touting their "locally grown products" may be using very different definitions. A distance of 100 miles is generally accepted as "local", but some stores will say it's local if it's grown in the same state. The advantage of eating locally is that the food did not have to be packed and trucked long distances before it gets to you, which diminishes its nutritional value. Also supporting local growers has an impact on the economy of the area in which you live. Makes sense to me. Four Ways Food Can Be Your Friend Foods can help keep you immune system strong – eat foods high in vitamin A, C, and E. Zinc is useful to help prevent colds. Food can help provide the additional energy required to get through the long busy days that the holiday...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc236-staying-stress-free-for-the-holida
Here are just a few of the great tips from the article 25 Ways to Fight Holiday Stress from Health.com.
Hike your mood with sunlight
It stimulates the production of feel-good serotonin and also helps relieve seasonal affective disorder (SAD), which impacts millions of Americans every year, says Judith Orloff, MD, an assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of California, Los Angeles.
To ease SAD symptoms, spend time outdoors or near a window on sunny days, or ask your doc about phototherapy (a treatment using a box that emits full-spectrum light).

Walk away from worries
Walking has a tranquilizing effect on your brain, it decreases anxiety and improves your sleep.

Do less, enjoy more
instead of going overboard trying to please others during the holidays and attending every event, take care of yourself and say "no" to at least once, maybe more.

Forget perfection
Stop obsessing over doing it all. The world is not going to end if the house is a little cluttered or dinner is on the table a few minutes late.

Eat breakfast before you tank up on coffee
Caffeine on an empty stomach can cause blood sugar levels to spike, which can cause attention problems and irritability.

Don't overschedule
If you're feeling stressed and overwhelmed by your holiday agenda, don't over schedule your time and take on more than you can manage. Remember: It's OK to slow down a bit.

Next week we'll continue our discussion on stress-free holidays. Our guest will be Katie Fitzgerald, and she'll help us learn how to eat food that loves us back!]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3328Mon, 31 Oct 2016 03:20:39 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost talk about making the most out of the holiday season, and offer some ideas on how you can make them more meaningful. Here are just a few of the great tips...
Here are just a few of the great tips from the article 25 Ways to Fight Holiday Stress from Health.com.
Hike your mood with sunlight
It stimulates the production of feel-good serotonin and also helps relieve seasonal affective disorder (SAD), which impacts millions of Americans every year, says Judith Orloff, MD, an assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of California, Los Angeles.
To ease SAD symptoms, spend time outdoors or near a window on sunny days, or ask your doc about phototherapy (a treatment using a box that emits full-spectrum light).

Walk away from worries
Walking has a tranquilizing effect on your brain, it decreases anxiety and improves your sleep.

Do less, enjoy more
instead of going overboard trying to please others during the holidays and attending every event, take care of yourself and say "no" to at least once, maybe more.

Forget perfection
Stop obsessing over doing it all. The world is not going to end if the house is a little cluttered or dinner is on the table a few minutes late.

Eat breakfast before you tank up on coffee
Caffeine on an empty stomach can cause blood sugar levels to spike, which can cause attention problems and irritability.

Don't overschedule
If you're feeling stressed and overwhelmed by your holiday agenda, don't over schedule your time and take on more than you can manage. Remember: It's OK to slow down a bit.

Next week we'll continue our discussion on stress-free holidays. Our guest will be Katie Fitzgerald, and she'll help us learn how to eat food that loves us back!]]>1916cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost talk about making the most out of the holiday season, and offer some ideas on how you can make them more meaningful. Here are just a few of the great tips from the article 25 Ways to Fight Holiday Stress from Health.com. Hike your mood with sunlight It stimulates the production of feel-good serotonin and also helps relieve seasonal affective disorder (SAD), which impacts millions of Americans every year, says Judith Orloff, MD, an assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of California, Los Angeles. To ease SAD symptoms, spend time outdoors or near a window on sunny days, or ask your doc about phototherapy (a treatment using a box that emits full-spectrum light). Walk away from worries Walking has a tranquilizing effect on your brain, it decreases anxiety and improves your sleep. Do less, enjoy more instead of going overboard trying to please others during the holidays and attending every event, take care of yourself and say "no" to at least once, maybe more. Forget perfection Stop obsessing over doing it all. The world is not going to end if the house is a little cluttered or dinner is on the table a few minutes late. Eat breakfast before you tank up on coffee Caffeine on an empty stomach can cause blood sugar levels to spike, which can cause attention problems and irritability. Don't overschedule If you're feeling stressed and overwhelmed by your holiday agenda, don't over schedule your time and take on more than you can manage. Remember: It's OK to slow down a bit. Next week we'll continue our discussion on stress-free holidays. Our guest will be Katie Fitzgerald, and she'll help us learn how to eat food that loves us back!Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc324-holistic-psychotherapy-with-dr-rac
What is Holistic Psychotherapy?
Holistic psychotherapy, an integrative approach grounded in psychosynthesis, focuses on the relationship between mind, body, and spirit, attempting to understand and address the ways issues in one aspect of a person can lead to concerns in other areas.

Those pursuing holistic therapy may, with the support of a qualified mental health professional, become better attuned to their entire awareness, which can often promote greater acceptance of the self.
As Dr. Sand explains, traditional psychology focuses on the mind and the psyche.  Holistic psychotherapy is more than talk therapy; it recognizes that we are whole organisms and that everything is inter-related. Your mind is related to how your body is doing. How your body is doing affects how you think, and all of that affects how you feel; they all interact together.

Some people intellectualize and gain insight through thinking and talking, other people are very in touch with their emotions. Some tend to express themselves physically, so when they are feeling off they may go for a run. Holistic psychotherapy looks at how the person generally approaches their lives, whether intellectual, emotional, or physical. It utilizes complementary services like massage, acupuncture, or yoga therapy as part of the treatment. The goal is to achieve a balance between mind, body, and spirit and to achieve the deepest levels of healing possible.
Non-traditional therapies involved in Holistic Psychotherapy
Non-traditional therapies tap into various levels of mind-body-spirit healing. They have a strong spiritual component, incorporating elements of transpersonal psychology, energy medicine, and other traditions of healing. These therapies may include hypnosis, breath therapy, guided imagery, and other techniques.
For more information on how Holistic Psychotherapy works and links to finding a therapist in your area, check out GoodTherapy.org.
About Rachael Sand
Rachael B. Sand, Psy.D. is a psychologist with a private health psychology practice specializing in the balancing of mind/body/instincts towards natural well being. She is passionate about helping her clients find balance in their lives, clearing their fears and limiting beliefs, and learning to listen to and trust their instincts.
Dr. Sand is trained in traditional clinical psychology, hypnosis, and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) with an emphasis in cognitive-behavioral therapy approaches and energy psychology techniques.
She is a member of the American Psychological Association (APA), the Maryland Psychological Association (MPA), the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology (ACEP), and the National Institute of Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM), where she is a member of their Leadership Council. Rachael is currently a staff psychologist at the Veterans Transition Resource Center in Las Vegas, Nevada.
For contact information visit RachaelSand.com.

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What is Holistic Psychotherapy?
Holistic psychotherapy, an integrative approach grounded in psychosynthesis, focuses on the relationship between mind, body, and spirit, attempting to understand and address the ways issues in one aspect of a person can lead to concerns in other areas.

Those pursuing holistic therapy may, with the support of a qualified mental health professional, become better attuned to their entire awareness, which can often promote greater acceptance of the self.
As Dr. Sand explains, traditional psychology focuses on the mind and the psyche.  Holistic psychotherapy is more than talk therapy; it recognizes that we are whole organisms and that everything is inter-related. Your mind is related to how your body is doing. How your body is doing affects how you think, and all of that affects how you feel; they all interact together.

Some people intellectualize and gain insight through thinking and talking, other people are very in touch with their emotions. Some tend to express themselves physically, so when they are feeling off they may go for a run. Holistic psychotherapy looks at how the person generally approaches their lives, whether intellectual, emotional, or physical. It utilizes complementary services like massage, acupuncture, or yoga therapy as part of the treatment. The goal is to achieve a balance between mind, body, and spirit and to achieve the deepest levels of healing possible.
Non-traditional therapies involved in Holistic Psychotherapy
Non-traditional therapies tap into various levels of mind-body-spirit healing. They have a strong spiritual component, incorporating elements of transpersonal psychology, energy medicine, and other traditions of healing. These therapies may include hypnosis, breath therapy, guided imagery, and other techniques.
For more information on how Holistic Psychotherapy works and links to finding a therapist in your area, check out GoodTherapy.org.
About Rachael Sand
Rachael B. Sand, Psy.D. is a psychologist with a private health psychology practice specializing in the balancing of mind/body/instincts towards natural well being. She is passionate about helping her clients find balance in their lives, clearing their fears and limiting beliefs, and learning to listen to and trust their instincts.
Dr. Sand is trained in traditional clinical psychology, hypnosis, and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) with an emphasis in cognitive-behavioral therapy approaches and energy psychology techniques.
She is a member of the American Psychological Association (APA), the Maryland Psychological Association (MPA), the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology (ACEP), and the National Institute of Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM), where she is a member of their Leadership Council. Rachael is currently a staff psychologist at the Veterans Transition Resource Center in Las Vegas, Nevada.
For contact information visit RachaelSand.com.

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Marvine recounts her own near death experience that occurred when she was 24 and undergoing surgery. She tells of meeting her grandfather and having conversations with other people dressed in white, and being given the choice of staying or going back to her body. This was at a time before the phenomenon of NDEs even had a name, let alone were discussed in the open.
The term "Near Death Experiences" was coined by Raymond Moody, MD, PhD in the 1970s. In his landmark book Life After Life, Dr. Moody investigated more than one hundred case studies of people who experienced “clinical death” and were subsequently revived.


In the podcast, Robin mentions an article called "The Mystical Impact of Near Death Experiences" by Bruce Greyson, PhD. Dr. Greyson concludes the article this way: "At the very least, near-death experiences should foster spiritual growth by leading us to question some of our basic assumptions about mind and brain, about our relationship to the divine, and about the universe and our role in it."
Research has shown that individuals from different cultures and backgrounds relate very similar elements when they recount what they experienced during near-death. In the video below, Dr. Greyson observes that individuals from different cultures don't share the same vocabulary, but do describe similar experiences. What a westerner would describe as "a tunnel", someone from a third-world country might describe as "a cave". It's also worth noting that they are trying to put an an experience that is ineffable – something not able to be described in words – into words.
In the video below, Dr. Greyson talks about consciousness without brain activity.

Resources:
The Mystical Impact of Near Death Experiences – article by Bruce Greyson.
Life after Life Institute
International Association for Near Death Studies
List of References from "The Self Does Not Die"

Do you know of someone that has had a near death experience? Would you believe them if they told you they had?
Marvine's Bio:
As a result of using Spiritual and Intuitive Guidance, Marvine Lindberg's life is a unique one. Aside from her private practice, Marvine has worked with the professional fields of Education, Law Enforcement, Medicine, Engineering, Business and Performing Arts. In her private consulting work Marvine has the pleasure of helping hundreds of her clients reach their goals, understand and overcome their fears, improve their health, and enrich the quality of their lives. Marvine has made numerous public appearances and taught throughout California, Washington and Alberta, Canada. She has a Ph.D. in Religious Philosophy and a Certificate of Achievement in Telecommunications, with an emphasis in Television and Film Production.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3295Sun, 16 Oct 2016 23:58:08 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast Robin and her guest Marvine Lindberg discuss Near Death Experiences (NDEs), a phenomenon that has become the subject of serious scientific study. Marvine recounts her own near death experience that occurred when she was 24 and...
Marvine recounts her own near death experience that occurred when she was 24 and undergoing surgery. She tells of meeting her grandfather and having conversations with other people dressed in white, and being given the choice of staying or going back to her body. This was at a time before the phenomenon of NDEs even had a name, let alone were discussed in the open.
The term "Near Death Experiences" was coined by Raymond Moody, MD, PhD in the 1970s. In his landmark book Life After Life, Dr. Moody investigated more than one hundred case studies of people who experienced “clinical death” and were subsequently revived.


In the podcast, Robin mentions an article called "The Mystical Impact of Near Death Experiences" by Bruce Greyson, PhD. Dr. Greyson concludes the article this way: "At the very least, near-death experiences should foster spiritual growth by leading us to question some of our basic assumptions about mind and brain, about our relationship to the divine, and about the universe and our role in it."
Research has shown that individuals from different cultures and backgrounds relate very similar elements when they recount what they experienced during near-death. In the video below, Dr. Greyson observes that individuals from different cultures don't share the same vocabulary, but do describe similar experiences. What a westerner would describe as "a tunnel", someone from a third-world country might describe as "a cave". It's also worth noting that they are trying to put an an experience that is ineffable – something not able to be described in words – into words.
In the video below, Dr. Greyson talks about consciousness without brain activity.

Resources:
The Mystical Impact of Near Death Experiences – article by Bruce Greyson.
Life after Life Institute
International Association for Near Death Studies
List of References from "The Self Does Not Die"

Do you know of someone that has had a near death experience? Would you believe them if they told you they had?
Marvine's Bio:
As a result of using Spiritual and Intuitive Guidance, Marvine Lindberg's life is a unique one. Aside from her private practice, Marvine has worked with the professional fields of Education, Law Enforcement, Medicine, Engineering, Business and Performing Arts. In her private consulting work Marvine has the pleasure of helping hundreds of her clients reach their goals, understand and overcome their fears, improve their health, and enrich the quality of their lives. Marvine has made numerous public appearances and taught throughout California, Washington and Alberta, Canada. She has a Ph.D. in Religious Philosophy and a Certificate of Achievement in Telecommunications, with an emphasis in Television and Film Production.]]>1942cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast Robin and her guest Marvine Lindberg discuss Near Death Experiences (NDEs), a phenomenon that has become the subject of serious scientific study. Marvine recounts her own near death experience that occurred when she was 24 and undergoing surgery. She tells of meeting her grandfather and having conversations with other people dressed in white, and being given the choice of staying or going back to her body. This was at a time before the phenomenon of NDEs even had a name, let alone were discussed in the open. The term "Near Death Experiences" was coined by Raymond Moody, MD, PhD in the 1970s. In his landmark book Life After Life, Dr. Moody investigated more than one hundred case studies of people who experienced “clinical death” and were subsequently revived. In the podcast, Robin mentions an article called "The Mystical Impact of Near Death Experiences" by Bruce Greyson, PhD. Dr. Greyson concludes the article this way: "At the very least, near-death experiences should foster spiritual growth by leading us to question some of our basic assumptions about mind and brain, about our relationship to the divine, and about the universe and our role in it." Research has shown that individuals from different cultures and backgrounds relate very similar elements when they recount what they experienced during near-death. In the video below, Dr. Greyson observes that individuals from different cultures don't share the same vocabulary, but do describe similar experiences. What a westerner would describe as "a tunnel", someone from a third-world country might describe as "a cave". It's also worth noting that they are trying to put an an experience that is ineffable – something not able to be described in words – into words. In the video below, Dr. Greyson talks about consciousness without brain activity. Resources: The Mystical Impact of Near Death Experiences – article by Bruce Greyson. Life after Life Institute International Association for Near Death Studies List of References from "The Self Does Not Die" Do you know of someone that has had a near death experience? Would you believe them if they told you they had? Marvine's Bio: As a result of using Spiritual and Intuitive Guidance, Marvine Lindberg's life is a unique one. Aside from her private practice, Marvine has worked with the professional fields of Education, Law Enforcement, Medicine, Engineering, Business and Performing Arts. In her private consulting work Marvine has the pleasure of helping hundreds of her clients reach their goals, understand and overcome their fears, improve their health, and enrich the quality of their lives. Marvine has made numerous public appearances and taught throughout California, Washington and Alberta, Canada. She has a Ph.D. in Religious Philosophy and a Certificate of Achievement in Telecommunications, with an emphasis in Television and Film Production.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-322-tea-time-with-louise-carruthDid you know that the fragrance of tea, just like wine, plays a large part in its taste? So make sure to enjoy the aroma as you sip your tea!
Is Herbal Tea really Tea?
Technically any drink you make from an infusion of herbs, spices, or other plants – but doesn't contain tea leaves – is called a tisane (tea-zahn). These drinks are distinguished from true teas like green, white, yellow, and oolong, which are prepared from the cured leaves of the tea plant Camellia sinensis (cam-MEE-lee-ah sin-EN-sis), so herbal "tea" isn't technically tea. Still, if you go to a restaurant and order a tisane, you'll probably be met with a blank stare.
Benefits of White Tea
White tea is the least processed form of tea and has a more delicate flavor. Because of it's minimal processing it contains more nutrients than black or green tea, making it "the ultimate Health Tea". You can learn more about the health benefits of white tea at the White Tea Guide.
Benefits of Green Tea
Green tea is considered one of the world's healthiest drinks and contains one of the highest amount of antioxidants of any tea. It's been shown to improve brain function, aid in fat loss, and lower risk of cancer. You can learn about the 10 Proven Benefits of Green Tea at Authority Nutrition, and the 11 Benefits of Green Tea You Didn't Know About from Lifehack.org. There are also numerous medical studies that demonstrate the medicinal benefits of green tea.
Herbal Teas
Herbal teas have been used traditionally for their medicinal effects. Chamomile, for example, helps to calm you and has a mild sedative effect. Teas made from peppermint, spearmint, and other types of mint are often recommended to help soothe digestive issues. I like green tea infused with spearmint and a little honey as a refreshing change of pace.
Recommended Herbal Teas:

* Chamomile
* Mint
* Raspberry Leaf
* Lavender tea

Mint tea is also very popular and is great for soothing your digestive system.
If you would like to order tea online, visit Louise's The Little Candle Tea Company.

Louise's Bio
After teaching elementary school for 30 years in California, I decided to retire to Las Vegas. I did teach for one year here, and met a friend who loved drinking coffee, as I still do, and also loose leaf tea. She introduced me to the aromas and flavors of so many teas, my interest was piqued and that was that! I started learning all I could and began a business focusing on tea education. Most of my customers were also new to loose leaf (specialty) tea, and we began the journey together; learning and drinking this most wonderful brew.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3287Mon, 10 Oct 2016 02:24:45 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe Podcast, we welcome back Louise Carruth, owner of the Little Candle Tea Company in Las Vegas, Nevada, to talk about the little known facts about tea. Did you know that the fragrance of tea, just like wine,...Did you know that the fragrance of tea, just like wine, plays a large part in its taste? So make sure to enjoy the aroma as you sip your tea!
Is Herbal Tea really Tea?
Technically any drink you make from an infusion of herbs, spices, or other plants – but doesn't contain tea leaves – is called a tisane (tea-zahn). These drinks are distinguished from true teas like green, white, yellow, and oolong, which are prepared from the cured leaves of the tea plant Camellia sinensis (cam-MEE-lee-ah sin-EN-sis), so herbal "tea" isn't technically tea. Still, if you go to a restaurant and order a tisane, you'll probably be met with a blank stare.
Benefits of White Tea
White tea is the least processed form of tea and has a more delicate flavor. Because of it's minimal processing it contains more nutrients than black or green tea, making it "the ultimate Health Tea". You can learn more about the health benefits of white tea at the White Tea Guide.
Benefits of Green Tea
Green tea is considered one of the world's healthiest drinks and contains one of the highest amount of antioxidants of any tea. It's been shown to improve brain function, aid in fat loss, and lower risk of cancer. You can learn about the 10 Proven Benefits of Green Tea at Authority Nutrition, and the 11 Benefits of Green Tea You Didn't Know About from Lifehack.org. There are also numerous medical studies that demonstrate the medicinal benefits of green tea.
Herbal Teas
Herbal teas have been used traditionally for their medicinal effects. Chamomile, for example, helps to calm you and has a mild sedative effect. Teas made from peppermint, spearmint, and other types of mint are often recommended to help soothe digestive issues. I like green tea infused with spearmint and a little honey as a refreshing change of pace.
Recommended Herbal Teas:

* Chamomile
* Mint
* Raspberry Leaf
* Lavender tea

Mint tea is also very popular and is great for soothing your digestive system.
If you would like to order tea online, visit Louise's The Little Candle Tea Company.

Louise's Bio
After teaching elementary school for 30 years in California, I decided to retire to Las Vegas. I did teach for one year here, and met a friend who loved drinking coffee, as I still do, and also loose leaf tea. She introduced me to the aromas and flavors of so many teas, my interest was piqued and that was that! I started learning all I could and began a business focusing on tea education. Most of my customers were also new to loose leaf (specialty) tea, and we began the journey together; learning and drinking this most wonderful brew.]]>1715cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe Podcast, we welcome back Louise Carruth, owner of the Little Candle Tea Company in Las Vegas, Nevada, to talk about the little known facts about tea. Did you know that the fragrance of tea, just like wine, plays a large part in its taste? So make sure to enjoy the aroma as you sip your tea! Is Herbal Tea really Tea? Technically any drink you make from an infusion of herbs, spices, or other plants – but doesn't contain tea leaves – is called a tisane (tea-zahn). These drinks are distinguished from true teas like green, white, yellow, and oolong, which are prepared from the cured leaves of the tea plant Camellia sinensis (cam-MEE-lee-ah sin-EN-sis), so herbal "tea" isn't technically tea. Still, if you go to a restaurant and order a tisane, you'll probably be met with a blank stare. Benefits of White Tea White tea is the least processed form of tea and has a more delicate flavor. Because of it's minimal processing it contains more nutrients than black or green tea, making it "the ultimate Health Tea". You can learn more about the health benefits of white tea at the White Tea Guide. Benefits of Green Tea Green tea is considered one of the world's healthiest drinks and contains one of the highest amount of antioxidants of any tea. It's been shown to improve brain function, aid in fat loss, and lower risk of cancer. You can learn about the 10 Proven Benefits of Green Tea at Authority Nutrition, and the 11 Benefits of Green Tea You Didn't Know About from Lifehack.org. There are also numerous medical studies that demonstrate the medicinal benefits of green tea. Herbal Teas Herbal teas have been used traditionally for their medicinal effects. Chamomile, for example, helps to calm you and has a mild sedative effect. Teas made from peppermint, spearmint, and other types of mint are often recommended to help soothe digestive issues. I like green tea infused with spearmint and a little honey as a refreshing change of pace. Recommended Herbal Teas: * Chamomile * Mint * Raspberry Leaf * Lavender tea Mint tea is also very popular and is great for soothing your digestive system. If you would like to order tea online, visit Louise's The Little Candle Tea Company. Louise's Bio After teaching elementary school for 30 years in California, I decided to retire to Las Vegas. I did teach for one year here, and met a friend who loved drinking coffee, as I still do, and also loose leaf tea. She introduced me to the aromas and flavors of so many teas, my interest was piqued and that was that! I started learning all I could and began a business focusing on tea education. Most of my customers were also new to loose leaf (specialty) tea, and we began the journey together; learning and drinking this most wonderful brew.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc321-cafe-book-club-interview-with-ana-
In this interview Ana recaps some ideas from the book, and describes how it has impacted her readers. Ana is now in the process of developing a companion workbook so we can dive deeper into the DOXA method (which we'll share on here on Transformation Cafe when it's available).
Amy also tells a story about how she has been applying some of the DOXA principles to her work with veterans and their families, and what she's experienced as a result. It illustrates how these concepts can be applied in a real-world setting.

Author Biography:
The consummate "people person," Ana approaches every person and every new experience with joy and love. Her employees love to work with her, and her friends love to be around her. And at every company she has helped to manage, she's helped engineer massive revenue growth. As an example, she took one company from annual revenues of $250,000 to $62 million in just five years, while creating 83 new full-time jobs. If you ask Ana the secret of her long string of business successes, she'll tell you it's all about building relationships.
In addition to her many decades of business experience, Ana has achieved success in multiple parallel careers—as a writer, speaker, personal and business/professional coach, and philanthropist:
Writer:
Since 2005, she's published 17 nonfiction books on personal improvement, covering personal happiness, time management, healthy eating, business/personal success, parenting and money relationships as well as a novel and a poetry collection. Her books have been featured on some of the top websites in the world, including SheKnows, VenusDivas, American Airlines, USA Weekly, Wall Street Journal and Bank of America Newsletter April, 2013.
As a freelance journalist who has published in Parents Magazine, Lifestyle, USA Today, USA Weekly, Wall Street Journal, Bank of America, American Airlines on flight Magazine, Celebrity, Orange County Register, and TV Guide, she has interviewed dozens of high-profile high achievers, among them supermodel Kathy Ireland, anti-aging expert Dr. William Andrews, and Melanie True Hills—e-business strategist, author, and founder and CEO of the American Foundation for Women's Health.
Speaker:
Ana's recent presentations include Canyon Ranch, Avalon European River Cruises (general public); Southwest Airlines, ADP, JetBlue, Virgin Atlantic (corporate), American Institute of Architects National Conference, University of Michigan Annual Education Conference, Eastern Michigan University (academic and professional organizations). University of Delaware. (Detailed list of presentations on request.)
360 Degrees of Success Coach:
Ana has a terrific online course called 360 Degrees of Success. Learn directly from Ana as she provides you with practical tools to maintain a high energy level…merge their passion, talents, skills, educations and experiences…live in the present…and, most importantly, live a balanced, joyful,]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3273Sun, 02 Oct 2016 14:54:02 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back bestselling author and success coach Ana Weber, author of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life to discuss what we've...
In this interview Ana recaps some ideas from the book, and describes how it has impacted her readers. Ana is now in the process of developing a companion workbook so we can dive deeper into the DOXA method (which we'll share on here on Transformation Cafe when it's available).
Amy also tells a story about how she has been applying some of the DOXA principles to her work with veterans and their families, and what she's experienced as a result. It illustrates how these concepts can be applied in a real-world setting.

Author Biography:
The consummate "people person," Ana approaches every person and every new experience with joy and love. Her employees love to work with her, and her friends love to be around her. And at every company she has helped to manage, she's helped engineer massive revenue growth. As an example, she took one company from annual revenues of $250,000 to $62 million in just five years, while creating 83 new full-time jobs. If you ask Ana the secret of her long string of business successes, she'll tell you it's all about building relationships.
In addition to her many decades of business experience, Ana has achieved success in multiple parallel careers—as a writer, speaker, personal and business/professional coach, and philanthropist:
Writer:
Since 2005, she's published 17 nonfiction books on personal improvement, covering personal happiness, time management, healthy eating, business/personal success, parenting and money relationships as well as a novel and a poetry collection. Her books have been featured on some of the top websites in the world, including SheKnows, VenusDivas, American Airlines, USA Weekly, Wall Street Journal and Bank of America Newsletter April, 2013.
As a freelance journalist who has published in Parents Magazine, Lifestyle, USA Today, USA Weekly, Wall Street Journal, Bank of America, American Airlines on flight Magazine, Celebrity, Orange County Register, and TV Guide, she has interviewed dozens of high-profile high achievers, among them supermodel Kathy Ireland, anti-aging expert Dr. William Andrews, and Melanie True Hills—e-business strategist, author, and founder and CEO of the American Foundation for Women's Health.
Speaker:
Ana's recent presentations include Canyon Ranch, Avalon European River Cruises (general public); Southwest Airlines, ADP, JetBlue, Virgin Atlantic (corporate), American Institute of Architects National Conference, University of Michigan Annual Education Conference, Eastern Michigan University (academic and professional organizations). University of Delaware. (Detailed list of presentations on request.)
360 Degrees of Success Coach:
Ana has a terrific online course called 360 Degrees of Success. Learn directly from Ana as she provides you with practical tools to maintain a high energy level…merge their passion, talents, skills, educations and experiences…live in the present…and, most importantly, live a balanced, joyful,]]>1818cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome back bestselling author and success coach Ana Weber, author of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life to discuss what we've learned from this great little book. In this interview Ana recaps some ideas from the book, and describes how it has impacted her readers. Ana is now in the process of developing a companion workbook so we can dive deeper into the DOXA method (which we'll share on here on Transformation Cafe when it's available). Amy also tells a story about how she has been applying some of the DOXA principles to her work with veterans and their families, and what she's experienced as a result. It illustrates how these concepts can be applied in a real-world setting. Author Biography: The consummate "people person," Ana approaches every person and every new experience with joy and love. Her employees love to work with her, and her friends love to be around her. And at every company she has helped to manage, she's helped engineer massive revenue growth. As an example, she took one company from annual revenues of $250,000 to $62 million in just five years, while creating 83 new full-time jobs. If you ask Ana the secret of her long string of business successes, she'll tell you it's all about building relationships. In addition to her many decades of business experience, Ana has achieved success in multiple parallel careers—as a writer, speaker, personal and business/professional coach, and philanthropist: Writer: Since 2005, she's published 17 nonfiction books on personal improvement, covering personal happiness, time management, healthy eating, business/personal success, parenting and money relationships as well as a novel and a poetry collection. Her books have been featured on some of the top websites in the world, including SheKnows, VenusDivas, American Airlines, USA Weekly, Wall Street Journal and Bank of America Newsletter April, 2013. As a freelance journalist who has published in Parents Magazine, Lifestyle, USA Today, USA Weekly, Wall Street Journal, Bank of America, American Airlines on flight Magazine, Celebrity, Orange County Register, and TV Guide, she has interviewed dozens of high-profile high achievers, among them supermodel Kathy Ireland, anti-aging expert Dr. William Andrews, and Melanie True Hills—e-business strategist, author, and founder and CEO of the American Foundation for Women's Health. Speaker: Ana's recent presentations include Canyon Ranch, Avalon European River Cruises (general public); Southwest Airlines, ADP, JetBlue, Virgin Atlantic (corporate), American Institute of Architects National Conference, University of Michigan Annual Education Conference, Eastern Michigan University (academic and professional organizations). University of Delaware. (Detailed list of presentations on request.) 360 Degrees of Success Coach: Ana has a terrific online course called 360 Degrees of Success. Learn directly from Ana as she provides you with practical tools to maintain a high energy level…merge their passion, talents, skills, educations and experiences…live in the present…and, most importantly, live a balanced, joyful,Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc320-cafe-book-club-passion-spirit-purpBelow are some suggested questions to ponder. We suggest that you take each question and journal your response.
For a slightly different perspective, try writing with your non-dominant hand (if you're right-handed, try writing left-handed). Since writing this way uses the other side of your brain, you're likely to get a very different view. Here is an article with tips to learn how to write with your other hand. Below you'll find a link to "The Power of Your Other Hand" by Lucia Capacchione.

Chapter 18: What I’ve Learned to Get You There Faster
What story in your life can you use to get “there” faster now?
Chapter 19: My First Immigration
What is a “void” in your life?
Chapter 20: Looking for Love
Are you settling in any areas of your life?
Chapter 21: What Is Love—and How Can It Last?
Answer questions on pages 117-118 and see where it takes you.

Personal Boundary Assessment
(From Drawing Your Boundaries with Grace by Amy Frost)
How content am I in the various boundaries of MY life?
Rate them on a scale of 1-5; 1 is okay and 5 the best possible

* I know my definition of success
* I am able to set goals to achieve live dreams
* I have compassion with myself
* I practice healthy Self-Care
* I know my personal mission
* I listen to my instincts
* I know who I am

Next week we'll welcome author Ana Weber to discuss what we've learned from Passion, Spirit, Purpose.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3264Mon, 26 Sep 2016 05:44:06 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 18 – 21 of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. Below are some suggested questions to ponder. We suggest...Below are some suggested questions to ponder. We suggest that you take each question and journal your response.
For a slightly different perspective, try writing with your non-dominant hand (if you're right-handed, try writing left-handed). Since writing this way uses the other side of your brain, you're likely to get a very different view. Here is an article with tips to learn how to write with your other hand. Below you'll find a link to "The Power of Your Other Hand" by Lucia Capacchione.

Chapter 18: What I’ve Learned to Get You There Faster
What story in your life can you use to get “there” faster now?
Chapter 19: My First Immigration
What is a “void” in your life?
Chapter 20: Looking for Love
Are you settling in any areas of your life?
Chapter 21: What Is Love—and How Can It Last?
Answer questions on pages 117-118 and see where it takes you.

Personal Boundary Assessment
(From Drawing Your Boundaries with Grace by Amy Frost)
How content am I in the various boundaries of MY life?
Rate them on a scale of 1-5; 1 is okay and 5 the best possible

* I know my definition of success
* I am able to set goals to achieve live dreams
* I have compassion with myself
* I practice healthy Self-Care
* I know my personal mission
* I listen to my instincts
* I know who I am

Next week we'll welcome author Ana Weber to discuss what we've learned from Passion, Spirit, Purpose.]]>1663cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 18 – 21 of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. Below are some suggested questions to ponder. We suggest that you take each question and journal your response. For a slightly different perspective, try writing with your non-dominant hand (if you're right-handed, try writing left-handed). Since writing this way uses the other side of your brain, you're likely to get a very different view. Here is an article with tips to learn how to write with your other hand. Below you'll find a link to "The Power of Your Other Hand" by Lucia Capacchione. Chapter 18: What I’ve Learned to Get You There Faster What story in your life can you use to get “there” faster now? Chapter 19: My First Immigration What is a “void” in your life? Chapter 20: Looking for Love Are you settling in any areas of your life? Chapter 21: What Is Love—and How Can It Last? Answer questions on pages 117-118 and see where it takes you. Personal Boundary Assessment (From Drawing Your Boundaries with Grace by Amy Frost) How content am I in the various boundaries of MY life? Rate them on a scale of 1-5; 1 is okay and 5 the best possible * I know my definition of success * I am able to set goals to achieve live dreams * I have compassion with myself * I practice healthy Self-Care * I know my personal mission * I listen to my instincts * I know who I am Next week we'll welcome author Ana Weber to discuss what we've learned from Passion, Spirit, Purpose.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-319-cafe-book-club-passion-spirit-purChapter 13: What’s Next?
How do you start your day? Try five minutes of stillness before you dive into your day.
To learn more about stillness and its benefits, check out "The Practice of Stillness" by Michael Hyatt. In the article he refers to The Joy Diet by Martha Beck. In chapter 1 Beck states "To begin the Joy Diet, you must do nothing for fifteen minutes a day".

Here are some suggestions on how to practice stillness excerpted from Hyatt's article:
How to Practice Stillness

Schedule a time. For me, I schedule stillness first thing in the morning. It has become so precious to me, that I won’t want to start the day without it. I practice this first—before prayer, before Bible reading, before journaling, and before exercise.
Find a place. When I was on vacation, I sat on the dock by the lake. This was ideal. But it is not my real world. Now I simply go into my study and shut the door. The main thing is to find a place where you won’t be interrupted.
Set a timer. I am following Beck’s admonition to set aside fifteen minutes a day. In my limited experience this seems about right. It is amazing how my perception of this time changes from day to day. Sometimes it seems like forever. Other times, it goes by very quickly. I use the timer on my iPhone.
Relax your body. I simply sit in a soft chair with my eyes closed. I then systematically relax my body and get quiet. Beck says that if you can’t sit still, then engage in any mindless physical activity, like rocking in a chair or watching some natural motion like fire or running water. I also play a recording I have of the ocean.
Quiet your mind. This is the biggest challenge for me. Just when I get still, I have some random thought or a whole flurry of thoughts. But I am getting better. Beck offers several techniques for practicing “nonjudgmental observation,” a discipline that keeps your allotted time from being hijacked by an overly-active mind.
Be present. Don’t be regretting or celebrating the past. Don’t be worrying or dreaming about the future. Instead, collect your thoughts and be present—in this moment. It is the most important time you have. In fact, it is the only time you have.
Learn to return. This has been the most helpful component. In involves recalling a “place of peace,” where you had a particularly vivid experience of peace and stillness.

Chapter 14: Hearing the Inner Voice
This week eat foods that love you back! Listen to your body.

Chapter 15: Compromise Isn’t Settling!
Ana's article on Compromise Isn't Settling appeared on this week's Huffington Post. Here's an excerpt:

"Compromise is a choice to negotiate and validate one another and support one another. It derives from desire, love and integrity. You grow, you learn and you give.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3240Sat, 17 Sep 2016 23:43:58 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 13 – 17 of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. Chapter 13: What’s Next? How do you start your day? Try...Chapter 13: What’s Next?
How do you start your day? Try five minutes of stillness before you dive into your day.
To learn more about stillness and its benefits, check out "The Practice of Stillness" by Michael Hyatt. In the article he refers to The Joy Diet by Martha Beck. In chapter 1 Beck states "To begin the Joy Diet, you must do nothing for fifteen minutes a day".

Here are some suggestions on how to practice stillness excerpted from Hyatt's article:
How to Practice Stillness

Schedule a time. For me, I schedule stillness first thing in the morning. It has become so precious to me, that I won’t want to start the day without it. I practice this first—before prayer, before Bible reading, before journaling, and before exercise.
Find a place. When I was on vacation, I sat on the dock by the lake. This was ideal. But it is not my real world. Now I simply go into my study and shut the door. The main thing is to find a place where you won’t be interrupted.
Set a timer. I am following Beck’s admonition to set aside fifteen minutes a day. In my limited experience this seems about right. It is amazing how my perception of this time changes from day to day. Sometimes it seems like forever. Other times, it goes by very quickly. I use the timer on my iPhone.
Relax your body. I simply sit in a soft chair with my eyes closed. I then systematically relax my body and get quiet. Beck says that if you can’t sit still, then engage in any mindless physical activity, like rocking in a chair or watching some natural motion like fire or running water. I also play a recording I have of the ocean.
Quiet your mind. This is the biggest challenge for me. Just when I get still, I have some random thought or a whole flurry of thoughts. But I am getting better. Beck offers several techniques for practicing “nonjudgmental observation,” a discipline that keeps your allotted time from being hijacked by an overly-active mind.
Be present. Don’t be regretting or celebrating the past. Don’t be worrying or dreaming about the future. Instead, collect your thoughts and be present—in this moment. It is the most important time you have. In fact, it is the only time you have.
Learn to return. This has been the most helpful component. In involves recalling a “place of peace,” where you had a particularly vivid experience of peace and stillness.

Chapter 14: Hearing the Inner Voice
This week eat foods that love you back! Listen to your body.

Chapter 15: Compromise Isn’t Settling!
Ana's article on Compromise Isn't Settling appeared on this week's Huffington Post. Here's an excerpt:

"Compromise is a choice to negotiate and validate one another and support one another. It derives from desire, love and integrity. You grow, you learn and you give.]]>1833cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 13 – 17 of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. Chapter 13: What’s Next? How do you start your day? Try five minutes of stillness before you dive into your day. To learn more about stillness and its benefits, check out "The Practice of Stillness" by Michael Hyatt. In the article he refers to The Joy Diet by Martha Beck. In chapter 1 Beck states "To begin the Joy Diet, you must do nothing for fifteen minutes a day". Here are some suggestions on how to practice stillness excerpted from Hyatt's article: How to Practice Stillness Schedule a time. For me, I schedule stillness first thing in the morning. It has become so precious to me, that I won’t want to start the day without it. I practice this first—before prayer, before Bible reading, before journaling, and before exercise. Find a place. When I was on vacation, I sat on the dock by the lake. This was ideal. But it is not my real world. Now I simply go into my study and shut the door. The main thing is to find a place where you won’t be interrupted. Set a timer. I am following Beck’s admonition to set aside fifteen minutes a day. In my limited experience this seems about right. It is amazing how my perception of this time changes from day to day. Sometimes it seems like forever. Other times, it goes by very quickly. I use the timer on my iPhone. Relax your body. I simply sit in a soft chair with my eyes closed. I then systematically relax my body and get quiet. Beck says that if you can’t sit still, then engage in any mindless physical activity, like rocking in a chair or watching some natural motion like fire or running water. I also play a recording I have of the ocean. Quiet your mind. This is the biggest challenge for me. Just when I get still, I have some random thought or a whole flurry of thoughts. But I am getting better. Beck offers several techniques for practicing “nonjudgmental observation,” a discipline that keeps your allotted time from being hijacked by an overly-active mind. Be present. Don’t be regretting or celebrating the past. Don’t be worrying or dreaming about the future. Instead, collect your thoughts and be present—in this moment. It is the most important time you have. In fact, it is the only time you have. Learn to return. This has been the most helpful component. In involves recalling a “place of peace,” where you had a particularly vivid experience of peace and stillness. Chapter 14: Hearing the Inner Voice This week eat foods that love you back! Listen to your body. Chapter 15: Compromise Isn’t Settling! Ana's article on Compromise Isn't Settling appeared on this week's Huffington Post. Here's an excerpt: "Compromise is a choice to negotiate and validate one another and support one another. It derives from desire, love and integrity. You grow, you learn and you give.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-318-cafe-book-club-passion-spirit-pur
Below you'll find some questions to consider as you reflect on these chapters. Ana gives us a lot to think about!
Chapter 8 – Learn, Grow, and Live!
Where are you leading now?  Where might you step into leadership in a new place/way?  What is the first step you can take to turn on your own inner light?

Chapter 9:  Freedom! Connecting the Dots
This week try some of the ways to achieve a positive attitude and welcome a new thought pattern on pages 50-51.  What happened?
For inspiration, below is Steve Jobs' famous Stanford University commencement address from 2005. Standing before the nation's next generation of innovators was the genius who never graduated from college. He tells the story of how he came to connect the dots of his past and went on to revolutionize technology.

Chapter 10:  Your Metaphorical Grocery Bag
What can I get rid of that now longer serves the life I want…physically… mentally…emotionally and spiritually? It's time to take a personal inventory of what you want for your life, and what you can get rid of.

Chapter 11: A Cautionary Tale—and a Surprise Ending
What are some simple steps you can take to value and deepen your current relationships? Try some! What happened?
Chapter 12:  Coloring My Views
How can you accept yourself a little bit more today?  OK, READY??? How can you unconditionally love yourself today?]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3228Mon, 12 Sep 2016 04:56:52 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 8 – 11 of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. Below you'll find some questions to consider as you...
Below you'll find some questions to consider as you reflect on these chapters. Ana gives us a lot to think about!
Chapter 8 – Learn, Grow, and Live!
Where are you leading now?  Where might you step into leadership in a new place/way?  What is the first step you can take to turn on your own inner light?

Chapter 9:  Freedom! Connecting the Dots
This week try some of the ways to achieve a positive attitude and welcome a new thought pattern on pages 50-51.  What happened?
For inspiration, below is Steve Jobs' famous Stanford University commencement address from 2005. Standing before the nation's next generation of innovators was the genius who never graduated from college. He tells the story of how he came to connect the dots of his past and went on to revolutionize technology.

Chapter 10:  Your Metaphorical Grocery Bag
What can I get rid of that now longer serves the life I want…physically… mentally…emotionally and spiritually? It's time to take a personal inventory of what you want for your life, and what you can get rid of.

Chapter 11: A Cautionary Tale—and a Surprise Ending
What are some simple steps you can take to value and deepen your current relationships? Try some! What happened?
Chapter 12:  Coloring My Views
How can you accept yourself a little bit more today?  OK, READY??? How can you unconditionally love yourself today?]]>1889cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 8 – 11 of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. Below you'll find some questions to consider as you reflect on these chapters. Ana gives us a lot to think about! Chapter 8 – Learn, Grow, and Live! Where are you leading now?  Where might you step into leadership in a new place/way?  What is the first step you can take to turn on your own inner light? Chapter 9:  Freedom! Connecting the Dots This week try some of the ways to achieve a positive attitude and welcome a new thought pattern on pages 50-51.  What happened? For inspiration, below is Steve Jobs' famous Stanford University commencement address from 2005. Standing before the nation's next generation of innovators was the genius who never graduated from college. He tells the story of how he came to connect the dots of his past and went on to revolutionize technology. Chapter 10:  Your Metaphorical Grocery Bag What can I get rid of that now longer serves the life I want…physically… mentally…emotionally and spiritually? It's time to take a personal inventory of what you want for your life, and what you can get rid of. Chapter 11: A Cautionary Tale—and a Surprise Ending What are some simple steps you can take to value and deepen your current relationships? Try some! What happened? Chapter 12:  Coloring My Views How can you accept yourself a little bit more today?  OK, READY??? How can you unconditionally love yourself today?Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-317-cafe-book-club-passion-spirit-pur
Review Questions/Exercises
Chapter 3: The ABC of Desire – Journal on “What does attract…believe and Create mean to you?” Don’t think… just allow your pen to flow and see what comes out.
Chapter 4:  Living in the Now of DOXA Desire – Design a dream or wish board using the three DOXA Desire principles of Attract, Believe, and Create. Place some of your specific dreams and goals on the board, in any format that makes sense for you: write, draw, paste photographs or newspaper clips, whatever fits your mood. This will help you attract and manifest those goals, and turn them into reality.
Chapter 5:  Your Present…Your Purpose – Be open to knowing your purpose. Reflect on what you have always felt called to do. Get out your journal and answer the questions below:

* What are your talents?
* What do you like to do?
* What have you always been good at?
* When you were working on an assignment or project and you felt like your soul was fully engaged what tasks were you doing?
* What are your dreams? What were they when you were a kid? Are you living them? If not, why not?

Chapter 6:  Why? The Magical Question –  Practice Phrasing Your Why and How questions positively: Instead of “why am I so bored?”, try “how can I replace my boredom with enthusiasm—what can I do and where can I go to change my mindset?” Instead of “why am I depressed?”, “what is getting in the way of my happiness (or my purpose)—and how can I transform that roadblock into an open door?” Look at what you wrote on attract, believe and create and see what Ana has provide on them at the end of this chapter.

Chapter 7:  Rock of Intentions! –  Let's all set up a road trip with Ana to Canyon Ranch in Tucson!!!! AND, the dissection of intentions is so powerful:
The word starts with I. I is the person who lives through us—the individual we must love in a healthy way.
Add the letter n, and I becomes In. The In represents our inner spirit, our soul—infusing us with direction.
The rest of the word, tentions, is pronounced like “tensions.” Tensions come about when we dismiss that inner being, refuse to listen to our own sacred voice. Tensions lead us to stress, keep us in unawareness, and block our ability to ignite our passion and fulfill our purpose.
This week: Listen to your own sacred voice … write down what you hear…
 ]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3210Mon, 05 Sep 2016 05:41:06 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 3 – 7 of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. Review Questions/Exercises Chapter 3: The ABC of Desire –...
Review Questions/Exercises
Chapter 3: The ABC of Desire – Journal on “What does attract…believe and Create mean to you?” Don’t think… just allow your pen to flow and see what comes out.
Chapter 4:  Living in the Now of DOXA Desire – Design a dream or wish board using the three DOXA Desire principles of Attract, Believe, and Create. Place some of your specific dreams and goals on the board, in any format that makes sense for you: write, draw, paste photographs or newspaper clips, whatever fits your mood. This will help you attract and manifest those goals, and turn them into reality.
Chapter 5:  Your Present…Your Purpose – Be open to knowing your purpose. Reflect on what you have always felt called to do. Get out your journal and answer the questions below:

* What are your talents?
* What do you like to do?
* What have you always been good at?
* When you were working on an assignment or project and you felt like your soul was fully engaged what tasks were you doing?
* What are your dreams? What were they when you were a kid? Are you living them? If not, why not?

Chapter 6:  Why? The Magical Question –  Practice Phrasing Your Why and How questions positively: Instead of “why am I so bored?”, try “how can I replace my boredom with enthusiasm—what can I do and where can I go to change my mindset?” Instead of “why am I depressed?”, “what is getting in the way of my happiness (or my purpose)—and how can I transform that roadblock into an open door?” Look at what you wrote on attract, believe and create and see what Ana has provide on them at the end of this chapter.

Chapter 7:  Rock of Intentions! –  Let's all set up a road trip with Ana to Canyon Ranch in Tucson!!!! AND, the dissection of intentions is so powerful:
The word starts with I. I is the person who lives through us—the individual we must love in a healthy way.
Add the letter n, and I becomes In. The In represents our inner spirit, our soul—infusing us with direction.
The rest of the word, tentions, is pronounced like “tensions.” Tensions come about when we dismiss that inner being, refuse to listen to our own sacred voice. Tensions lead us to stress, keep us in unawareness, and block our ability to ignite our passion and fulfill our purpose.
This week: Listen to your own sacred voice … write down what you hear…
 ]]>1954cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 3 – 7 of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. Review Questions/Exercises Chapter 3: The ABC of Desire – Journal on “What does attract…believe and Create mean to you?” Don’t think… just allow your pen to flow and see what comes out. Chapter 4:  Living in the Now of DOXA Desire – Design a dream or wish board using the three DOXA Desire principles of Attract, Believe, and Create. Place some of your specific dreams and goals on the board, in any format that makes sense for you: write, draw, paste photographs or newspaper clips, whatever fits your mood. This will help you attract and manifest those goals, and turn them into reality. Chapter 5:  Your Present…Your Purpose – Be open to knowing your purpose. Reflect on what you have always felt called to do. Get out your journal and answer the questions below: * What are your talents? * What do you like to do? * What have you always been good at? * When you were working on an assignment or project and you felt like your soul was fully engaged what tasks were you doing? * What are your dreams? What were they when you were a kid? Are you living them? If not, why not? Chapter 6:  Why? The Magical Question –  Practice Phrasing Your Why and How questions positively: Instead of “why am I so bored?”, try “how can I replace my boredom with enthusiasm—what can I do and where can I go to change my mindset?” Instead of “why am I depressed?”, “what is getting in the way of my happiness (or my purpose)—and how can I transform that roadblock into an open door?” Look at what you wrote on attract, believe and create and see what Ana has provide on them at the end of this chapter. Chapter 7:  Rock of Intentions! –  Let's all set up a road trip with Ana to Canyon Ranch in Tucson!!!! AND, the dissection of intentions is so powerful: The word starts with I. I is the person who lives through us—the individual we must love in a healthy way. Add the letter n, and I becomes In. The In represents our inner spirit, our soul—infusing us with direction. The rest of the word, tentions, is pronounced like “tensions.” Tensions come about when we dismiss that inner being, refuse to listen to our own sacred voice. Tensions lead us to stress, keep us in unawareness, and block our ability to ignite our passion and fulfill our purpose. This week: Listen to your own sacred voice … write down what you hear…  Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-316-cafe-book-club-passion-spirit-pur
Chapter 1: Find Your Passion, Spirit, Purpose, and Connection—the DOXA Way
The DOXA Method
The best success formulas are simple—because simple formulas are easy to remember and easy to make a part of your life. The DOXA formula, one of my favorites has only four steps:
D – desire
O – outstanding
X –  X out the impossible
A – allow you to be YOU
Owning the Choosing Process
This week’s assignment: When you choose in a conscious way, you own the choosing process, and you make stronger, better choices.
Pause your routine and take a break. Take a deep breath and ask yourself: What are my choices? What path should I walk on? Is there a sign in this? Do I need to shift to another path?

 
Chapter 2:  Life Mysteries
Dreams and desires become our companions as we travel from the present to the future, letting go of past challenges, giving us a sense and a taste of purpose and fulfillment, and replenishing our dignity and sense of belonging. With this powerful help, we’re in the driver’s seat, controlling our own destiny. We’re centered, we’re loved, we enjoy the drive. But we’re no longer co-dependent. We flow with life—and life flows with our complete being.
This week’s assignment:  Draw something that represents your dreams and desires on a road trip to the future.
Next Week:

* Chapter 3:  The ABC of Desire
* Chapter 4:  Living in the Now of DOXA Desire
* Chapter 5:  Your Present…Your Purpose
* Chapter 6:  Why? The Magical Question
* Chapter 7:  Rock of Intentions!]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3197Mon, 29 Aug 2016 04:30:37 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 1 and 2 of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. Chapter 1: Find Your Passion, Spirit, Purpose, and...
Chapter 1: Find Your Passion, Spirit, Purpose, and Connection—the DOXA Way
The DOXA Method
The best success formulas are simple—because simple formulas are easy to remember and easy to make a part of your life. The DOXA formula, one of my favorites has only four steps:
D – desire
O – outstanding
X –  X out the impossible
A – allow you to be YOU
Owning the Choosing Process
This week’s assignment: When you choose in a conscious way, you own the choosing process, and you make stronger, better choices.
Pause your routine and take a break. Take a deep breath and ask yourself: What are my choices? What path should I walk on? Is there a sign in this? Do I need to shift to another path?

 
Chapter 2:  Life Mysteries
Dreams and desires become our companions as we travel from the present to the future, letting go of past challenges, giving us a sense and a taste of purpose and fulfillment, and replenishing our dignity and sense of belonging. With this powerful help, we’re in the driver’s seat, controlling our own destiny. We’re centered, we’re loved, we enjoy the drive. But we’re no longer co-dependent. We flow with life—and life flows with our complete being.
This week’s assignment:  Draw something that represents your dreams and desires on a road trip to the future.
Next Week:

* Chapter 3:  The ABC of Desire
* Chapter 4:  Living in the Now of DOXA Desire
* Chapter 5:  Your Present…Your Purpose
* Chapter 6:  Why? The Magical Question
* Chapter 7:  Rock of Intentions!]]>2024cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 1 and 2 of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. Chapter 1: Find Your Passion, Spirit, Purpose, and Connection—the DOXA Way The DOXA Method The best success formulas are simple—because simple formulas are easy to remember and easy to make a part of your life. The DOXA formula, one of my favorites has only four steps: D – desire O – outstanding X –  X out the impossible A – allow you to be YOU Owning the Choosing Process This week’s assignment: When you choose in a conscious way, you own the choosing process, and you make stronger, better choices. Pause your routine and take a break. Take a deep breath and ask yourself: What are my choices? What path should I walk on? Is there a sign in this? Do I need to shift to another path?   Chapter 2:  Life Mysteries Dreams and desires become our companions as we travel from the present to the future, letting go of past challenges, giving us a sense and a taste of purpose and fulfillment, and replenishing our dignity and sense of belonging. With this powerful help, we’re in the driver’s seat, controlling our own destiny. We’re centered, we’re loved, we enjoy the drive. But we’re no longer co-dependent. We flow with life—and life flows with our complete being. This week’s assignment:  Draw something that represents your dreams and desires on a road trip to the future. Next Week: * Chapter 3:  The ABC of Desire * Chapter 4:  Living in the Now of DOXA Desire * Chapter 5:  Your Present…Your Purpose * Chapter 6:  Why? The Magical Question * Chapter 7:  Rock of Intentions!Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-315-passion-spirit-purpose-interview-
In this interview Ana tells how she was inspired to write her new book. She has already authored sixteen other books, and felt she had nothing more to say, then WHAM! She sat down and the words just started to flow.
Ana describes her book this way: "In Passion, Spirit, Purpose I’ll share with you the many success formulas I struggled to understand through years of trial and error, years of failing and getting up again. All of us can learn to wire ourselves for success. Even when life seems like an endless series of unexpected and frightening challenges. We can still choose how to respond, and our choices change the outcome."
Ana describes her new book and what "DOXA" means in the video below.

 

Contact Info:

ana@anaweberdoxa.com
//]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3185Tue, 23 Aug 2016 16:33:05 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome bestselling author and success coach Ana Weber, author of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. In this interview...
In this interview Ana tells how she was inspired to write her new book. She has already authored sixteen other books, and felt she had nothing more to say, then WHAM! She sat down and the words just started to flow.
Ana describes her book this way: "In Passion, Spirit, Purpose I’ll share with you the many success formulas I struggled to understand through years of trial and error, years of failing and getting up again. All of us can learn to wire ourselves for success. Even when life seems like an endless series of unexpected and frightening challenges. We can still choose how to respond, and our choices change the outcome."
Ana describes her new book and what "DOXA" means in the video below.

 

Contact Info:

ana@anaweberdoxa.com
//]]>1961cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost welcome bestselling author and success coach Ana Weber, author of Passion, Spirit, Purpose – 3 Formulas to Introduce the DOXA Method to Empower You to Love Your Life. In this interview Ana tells how she was inspired to write her new book. She has already authored sixteen other books, and felt she had nothing more to say, then WHAM! She sat down and the words just started to flow. Ana describes her book this way: "In Passion, Spirit, Purpose I’ll share with you the many success formulas I struggled to understand through years of trial and error, years of failing and getting up again. All of us can learn to wire ourselves for success. Even when life seems like an endless series of unexpected and frightening challenges. We can still choose how to respond, and our choices change the outcome." Ana describes her new book and what "DOXA" means in the video below.   Contact Info: ana@anaweberdoxa.com //Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc314-shasta-nelson-author-of-frientimac
If you are a follower of the Transformation Cafe podcast, you may have heard our Cafe Book Club episodes covering this great book. If not, now's your chance to check it out!
If you don't have a copy of this great book, or you want to give one to a loved one, you can support the Transformation-Cafe by purchasing  Frientimacy using this link. It won't cost you any more, but it helps us to continue providing new content. Thank you!

Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy
Cafe Book Club episodes on Frientimacy
Here are links to the previous episodes of our Cafe Book Club review of Frientimacy.
Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap
Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving
Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning
Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection
Chapter 11 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend Trend
Chapters 12-13 –Obstacles – Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back
About Shasta:
Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show.
Shasta's Links:



Websites


Shasta Nelson
www.ShastaNelson.com


GirlFriendCircles.com
www.GirlFriendCircles.com


Shasta's Friendship Blog
www.ShastasFriendshipBlog.com]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3174Sat, 13 Aug 2016 22:39:17 +0000Transformation CafeOn this week's show we are pleased to have Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, as our guest. Join host Robin Masiewicz and Amy Frost as they discuss Shasta's book, challenges with...
If you are a follower of the Transformation Cafe podcast, you may have heard our Cafe Book Club episodes covering this great book. If not, now's your chance to check it out!
If you don't have a copy of this great book, or you want to give one to a loved one, you can support the Transformation-Cafe by purchasing  Frientimacy using this link. It won't cost you any more, but it helps us to continue providing new content. Thank you!

Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy
Cafe Book Club episodes on Frientimacy
Here are links to the previous episodes of our Cafe Book Club review of Frientimacy.
Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap
Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving
Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning
Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection
Chapter 11 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend Trend
Chapters 12-13 –Obstacles – Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back
About Shasta:
Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show.
Shasta's Links:



Websites


Shasta Nelson
www.ShastaNelson.com


GirlFriendCircles.com
www.GirlFriendCircles.com


Shasta's Friendship Blog
www.ShastasFriendshipBlog.com]]>2342cleanfullTransformation CafeOn this week's show we are pleased to have Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, as our guest. Join host Robin Masiewicz and Amy Frost as they discuss Shasta's book, challenges with friendship for both women and men, and Shasta's future projects. If you are a follower of the Transformation Cafe podcast, you may have heard our Cafe Book Club episodes covering this great book. If not, now's your chance to check it out! If you don't have a copy of this great book, or you want to give one to a loved one, you can support the Transformation-Cafe by purchasing  Frientimacy using this link. It won't cost you any more, but it helps us to continue providing new content. Thank you! Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy Cafe Book Club episodes on Frientimacy Here are links to the previous episodes of our Cafe Book Club review of Frientimacy. Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection Chapter 11 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend Trend Chapters 12-13 –Obstacles – Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back About Shasta: Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show. Shasta's Links: Websites Shasta Nelson www.ShastaNelson.com GirlFriendCircles.com www.GirlFriendCircles.com Shasta's Friendship Blog www.ShastasFriendshipBlog.comNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-313-earthing-a-natural-way-to-improveMost of us have experienced the rejuvenating feeling of being in nature — taking a walk on the beach, working in a garden, or walking barefoot in the grass. Part of why we feel better is being in the sunshine, breathing clean air, or maybe being near natural water sources like a lake or stream.

But there's also something else going on of which you may be unaware. Being in direct contact with nature also improves our health; it can reduce inflammation, relieve pain, and improve our sleep among other things.
As Doctor Stephen T. Sinatra explains: "It has recently been discovered that when our bare feet make contact with the Earth’s surface our body uptakes a natural and subtle energy in the form of electrons that have a negative charge – you could think of this as "vitamin G" – G for Ground. Just as the sun above us creates vitamin D in our body, the ground below us creates vitamin G, sort of an ‘electrical nutrition‘."
What is Earthing?
The short video below gives a quick overview of the principles of earthing.

This could be the difference between feeling good and not so good, of having little or a lot of energy, sleeping well or not so well, looking vibrant or looking tired and old, suffering from an auto-immune disease or having a strong immune system.
Here's a video by Laura Koniver, M.D., describing how quickly grounding can affect your body.

Earthing: The Most Important Health Discovery Ever!
This fascinating book by Clinton Ober, Stephen T. Sinatra, M.D., and Martin Zucker is available by clicking the image below. The first third of the book describes Clint Ober's original idea and the initial research done showing its results.

How can I experience Earthing now?
Go barefoot outside for at least half-hour and see what a difference it makes on your pain or stress level. Sit, stand, lay or walk on grass, sand, dirt, or plain concrete. These are all conductive surfaces from which your body can draw the Earth’s energy. Wood, carpet, asphalt, sealed or painted concrete and vinyl won’t work. They are not conductive surfaces. Experience for yourself the healing energy of the Earth at work.
Ideas on how you can experience Earthing

* Take your shoes off and walk barefoot on the grass before or after work
* Garden with you bare hands (or play in the dirt with your kids/grandkids)
* Lay on the grass or in a field
* Lean up against a tree while reading a book
* Sleep on the earth while camping
* Walk outside barefoot and look at the stars before you go to sleep
* Swim in the ocean or lakes
* Walk on the beach

Earthing indoors
Many earthing products are now available that allows you to get the same benefit while you're indoors. While you may live in an apartment far above the ground, grounding wires are within easy reach in your electrical outlets (at least they are in the United States). One such product is a grounding mat. I just purchased one and have it under my (now bare) feet while I'm working at the computer, and the grounding wire is plugged into the nearby wall socket. It's nice to think I'm actually doing something good for myself while I pound away at the keybo...]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3153Sun, 31 Jul 2016 19:00:09 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss "Earthing", also called "grounding"; what it is, and how you can benefit from it. Most of us have experienced the rejuvenating feeling of being in nature — taking a walk on the...Most of us have experienced the rejuvenating feeling of being in nature — taking a walk on the beach, working in a garden, or walking barefoot in the grass. Part of why we feel better is being in the sunshine, breathing clean air, or maybe being near natural water sources like a lake or stream.

But there's also something else going on of which you may be unaware. Being in direct contact with nature also improves our health; it can reduce inflammation, relieve pain, and improve our sleep among other things.
As Doctor Stephen T. Sinatra explains: "It has recently been discovered that when our bare feet make contact with the Earth’s surface our body uptakes a natural and subtle energy in the form of electrons that have a negative charge – you could think of this as "vitamin G" – G for Ground. Just as the sun above us creates vitamin D in our body, the ground below us creates vitamin G, sort of an ‘electrical nutrition‘."
What is Earthing?
The short video below gives a quick overview of the principles of earthing.

This could be the difference between feeling good and not so good, of having little or a lot of energy, sleeping well or not so well, looking vibrant or looking tired and old, suffering from an auto-immune disease or having a strong immune system.
Here's a video by Laura Koniver, M.D., describing how quickly grounding can affect your body.

Earthing: The Most Important Health Discovery Ever!
This fascinating book by Clinton Ober, Stephen T. Sinatra, M.D., and Martin Zucker is available by clicking the image below. The first third of the book describes Clint Ober's original idea and the initial research done showing its results.

How can I experience Earthing now?
Go barefoot outside for at least half-hour and see what a difference it makes on your pain or stress level. Sit, stand, lay or walk on grass, sand, dirt, or plain concrete. These are all conductive surfaces from which your body can draw the Earth’s energy. Wood, carpet, asphalt, sealed or painted concrete and vinyl won’t work. They are not conductive surfaces. Experience for yourself the healing energy of the Earth at work.
Ideas on how you can experience Earthing

* Take your shoes off and walk barefoot on the grass before or after work
* Garden with you bare hands (or play in the dirt with your kids/grandkids)
* Lay on the grass or in a field
* Lean up against a tree while reading a book
* Sleep on the earth while camping
* Walk outside barefoot and look at the stars before you go to sleep
* Swim in the ocean or lakes
* Walk on the beach

Earthing indoors
Many earthing products are now available that allows you to get the same benefit while you're indoors. While you may live in an apartment far above the ground, grounding wires are within easy reach in your electrical outlets (at least they are in the United States). One such product is a grounding mat. I just purchased one and have it under my (now bare) feet while I'm working at the computer, and the grounding wire is plugged into the nearby wall socket. It's nice to think I'm actually doing something good for myself while I pound away at the keybo...]]>1796cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss "Earthing", also called "grounding"; what it is, and how you can benefit from it. Most of us have experienced the rejuvenating feeling of being in nature — taking a walk on the beach, working in a garden, or walking barefoot in the grass. Part of why we feel better is being in the sunshine, breathing clean air, or maybe being near natural water sources like a lake or stream. But there's also something else going on of which you may be unaware. Being in direct contact with nature also improves our health; it can reduce inflammation, relieve pain, and improve our sleep among other things. As Doctor Stephen T. Sinatra explains: "It has recently been discovered that when our bare feet make contact with the Earth’s surface our body uptakes a natural and subtle energy in the form of electrons that have a negative charge – you could think of this as "vitamin G" – G for Ground. Just as the sun above us creates vitamin D in our body, the ground below us creates vitamin G, sort of an ‘electrical nutrition‘." What is Earthing? The short video below gives a quick overview of the principles of earthing. This could be the difference between feeling good and not so good, of having little or a lot of energy, sleeping well or not so well, looking vibrant or looking tired and old, suffering from an auto-immune disease or having a strong immune system. Here's a video by Laura Koniver, M.D., describing how quickly grounding can affect your body. Earthing: The Most Important Health Discovery Ever! This fascinating book by Clinton Ober, Stephen T. Sinatra, M.D., and Martin Zucker is available by clicking the image below. The first third of the book describes Clint Ober's original idea and the initial research done showing its results. How can I experience Earthing now? Go barefoot outside for at least half-hour and see what a difference it makes on your pain or stress level. Sit, stand, lay or walk on grass, sand, dirt, or plain concrete. These are all conductive surfaces from which your body can draw the Earth’s energy. Wood, carpet, asphalt, sealed or painted concrete and vinyl won’t work. They are not conductive surfaces. Experience for yourself the healing energy of the Earth at work. Ideas on how you can experience Earthing * Take your shoes off and walk barefoot on the grass before or after work * Garden with you bare hands (or play in the dirt with your kids/grandkids) * Lay on the grass or in a field * Lean up against a tree while reading a book * Sleep on the earth while camping * Walk outside barefoot and look at the stars before you go to sleep * Swim in the ocean or lakes * Walk on the beach Earthing indoors Many earthing products are now available that allows you to get the same benefit while you're indoors. While you may live in an apartment far above the ground, grounding wires are within easy reach in your electrical outlets (at least they are in the United States). One such product is a grounding mat. I just purchased one and have it under my (now bare) feet while I'm working at the computer, and the grounding wire is plugged into the nearby wall socket. It's nice to think I'm actually doing something good for myself while I pound away at the keybo...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc312-star-wisdom-and-vedic-astrology
From Chakrapani Ullal's site:
Astrology, or Jyotish, originated from The Vedas (Vedic Scriptures) dating back over 6,000 years. The world´s most ancient scriptures give evidence of a culture rich in the arts, philosophy, religion, and science. Jyotish was first mentioned in the Rig Veda, and references were also made in the classical Indian epics, the Ramayana, the Mahabharata, and the classic Bhagavad-Gita.

The Vedas are considered by many to be the most vast and complete system of knowledge known to man, and Jyotish is revered as one of the most important limbs of the Vedas. Jyotish, a Sanskrit word, translates to "Science of Light". Jyotish is the "remover of the darkness of ignorance". It is the eye of divine knowledge which is pure, supreme, and exalted.
Jyotish is believed to have been conceived by the ancient sages while in a state of super-consciousness which allowed them to cognize life beyond time and space, beyond past, present and future. In this super-conscious state, they recognized the energetic rays of the planets as reflectors or transmitters of light energy. These solar and planetary radio-like waves, sent out at various angles, were seen to bear influence on everything animate and inanimate, affecting humans on both biological and psychological levels. It is said that the sages observed and experimented with their observations in order to codify into rules the formulations which ultimately became the laws by which Jyotish is practiced.
About Dennis:
For more than twenty years, Dennis has studied both Eastern and Western astrological techniques with some of the world's most respected astrologers. He has published numerous articles, research papers and book chapters in the fields of astrology, psychology, and medicine.
Dennis was a founding member of the American Council of Vedic Astrology and served as president of the American College of Vedic Astrology, located in Sedona, Arizona, from 1999-2009. His book, The Nakshatras: The Lunar Mansions of Vedic Astrology, is published by Lotus Press and continues to be one of the few works dedicated to uncovering the mysteries of these important, and often overlooked, asterisms of Vedic Astrology.
The Nakshatras: The Lunar Mansions of Vedic Astrology

Dennis is a popular speaker and lectures and teaches at conferences, workshops and retreat seminars around the world. If you would like Dennis to speak at your event, please contact him at:
Dennis Harness, Ph.D.
P.O. Box 2149
Sedona AZ 86339
Phone: (928) 282-6595
You can learn more about Dennis and his work at http://www.dennisharness.com
//]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3136Sun, 24 Jul 2016 05:30:08 +0000Transformation CafeThis week we're welcoming Dennis M. Harness, Ph.D., a professional Vedic astrologer and lecturer who received his doctorate degree in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco, California. From...
From Chakrapani Ullal's site:
Astrology, or Jyotish, originated from The Vedas (Vedic Scriptures) dating back over 6,000 years. The world´s most ancient scriptures give evidence of a culture rich in the arts, philosophy, religion, and science. Jyotish was first mentioned in the Rig Veda, and references were also made in the classical Indian epics, the Ramayana, the Mahabharata, and the classic Bhagavad-Gita.

The Vedas are considered by many to be the most vast and complete system of knowledge known to man, and Jyotish is revered as one of the most important limbs of the Vedas. Jyotish, a Sanskrit word, translates to "Science of Light". Jyotish is the "remover of the darkness of ignorance". It is the eye of divine knowledge which is pure, supreme, and exalted.
Jyotish is believed to have been conceived by the ancient sages while in a state of super-consciousness which allowed them to cognize life beyond time and space, beyond past, present and future. In this super-conscious state, they recognized the energetic rays of the planets as reflectors or transmitters of light energy. These solar and planetary radio-like waves, sent out at various angles, were seen to bear influence on everything animate and inanimate, affecting humans on both biological and psychological levels. It is said that the sages observed and experimented with their observations in order to codify into rules the formulations which ultimately became the laws by which Jyotish is practiced.
About Dennis:
For more than twenty years, Dennis has studied both Eastern and Western astrological techniques with some of the world's most respected astrologers. He has published numerous articles, research papers and book chapters in the fields of astrology, psychology, and medicine.
Dennis was a founding member of the American Council of Vedic Astrology and served as president of the American College of Vedic Astrology, located in Sedona, Arizona, from 1999-2009. His book, The Nakshatras: The Lunar Mansions of Vedic Astrology, is published by Lotus Press and continues to be one of the few works dedicated to uncovering the mysteries of these important, and often overlooked, asterisms of Vedic Astrology.
The Nakshatras: The Lunar Mansions of Vedic Astrology

Dennis is a popular speaker and lectures and teaches at conferences, workshops and retreat seminars around the world. If you would like Dennis to speak at your event, please contact him at:
Dennis Harness, Ph.D.
P.O. Box 2149
Sedona AZ 86339
Phone: (928) 282-6595
You can learn more about Dennis and his work at http://www.dennisharness.com
//]]>1945cleanfullTransformation CafeThis week we're welcoming Dennis M. Harness, Ph.D., a professional Vedic astrologer and lecturer who received his doctorate degree in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco, California. From Chakrapani Ullal's site: Astrology, or Jyotish, originated from The Vedas (Vedic Scriptures) dating back over 6,000 years. The world´s most ancient scriptures give evidence of a culture rich in the arts, philosophy, religion, and science. Jyotish was first mentioned in the Rig Veda, and references were also made in the classical Indian epics, the Ramayana, the Mahabharata, and the classic Bhagavad-Gita. The Vedas are considered by many to be the most vast and complete system of knowledge known to man, and Jyotish is revered as one of the most important limbs of the Vedas. Jyotish, a Sanskrit word, translates to "Science of Light". Jyotish is the "remover of the darkness of ignorance". It is the eye of divine knowledge which is pure, supreme, and exalted. Jyotish is believed to have been conceived by the ancient sages while in a state of super-consciousness which allowed them to cognize life beyond time and space, beyond past, present and future. In this super-conscious state, they recognized the energetic rays of the planets as reflectors or transmitters of light energy. These solar and planetary radio-like waves, sent out at various angles, were seen to bear influence on everything animate and inanimate, affecting humans on both biological and psychological levels. It is said that the sages observed and experimented with their observations in order to codify into rules the formulations which ultimately became the laws by which Jyotish is practiced. About Dennis: For more than twenty years, Dennis has studied both Eastern and Western astrological techniques with some of the world's most respected astrologers. He has published numerous articles, research papers and book chapters in the fields of astrology, psychology, and medicine. Dennis was a founding member of the American Council of Vedic Astrology and served as president of the American College of Vedic Astrology, located in Sedona, Arizona, from 1999-2009. His book, The Nakshatras: The Lunar Mansions of Vedic Astrology, is published by Lotus Press and continues to be one of the few works dedicated to uncovering the mysteries of these important, and often overlooked, asterisms of Vedic Astrology. The Nakshatras: The Lunar Mansions of Vedic Astrology Dennis is a popular speaker and lectures and teaches at conferences, workshops and retreat seminars around the world. If you would like Dennis to speak at your event, please contact him at: Dennis Harness, Ph.D. P.O. Box 2149 Sedona AZ 86339 Phone: (928) 282-6595 You can learn more about Dennis and his work at http://www.dennisharness.com //Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-311-the-culture-of-cosplay-bringing-a
For the uninitiated, "cosplay" comes from Costume Roleplay, where fans of a particular genre of popular culture create costumes and portray their favorite character. Cosplay can include Japanese Anime characters, characters from video games, television shows, movies, comic books, science fiction, the list is almost endless. Characters can be a mix of two different genres, so the only limit is one's imagination.
An anime convention is an event or gathering with a primary focus on anime, manga and Japanese culture. Commonly, anime conventions are multi-day events hosted at convention centers, hotels or college campuses.
This fun video tells the story better than mere words.

In the United States conventions like San Diego Comic-Con and the Anime Expo have welcomed many thousands of guests, and cosplay has become a serious art form. Competitions with cash prizes are held, and some professional cosplayers are paid to make appearances at various conventions. There’s cosplaying, panels, workshops, booths, and even the chance to take a picture with your favorite writer, actor, hero, or designer. There are also numerous books and even television shows about the world of Cosplay.

KEM Cosplay photos
Katherine Masiewicz (KEM Cosplay) as "GLaDOS".
 
Katherine Masiewicz (KEM Cosplay) as "Carmelita Fox"
 
Actor Anthony Misiano as "The Joker"
If you're interested in learning more, check out the books below.
Books




 ]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3104Mon, 18 Jul 2016 00:09:20 +0000Transformation CafeThis week we're doing something a little different. Our guest tonight is Katherine Masiewicz, a.k.a. KEM Cosplay, an aspiring actress and model who is active in the world of Cosplay. For the uninitiated, "cosplay" comes from Costume Roleplay, where...
For the uninitiated, "cosplay" comes from Costume Roleplay, where fans of a particular genre of popular culture create costumes and portray their favorite character. Cosplay can include Japanese Anime characters, characters from video games, television shows, movies, comic books, science fiction, the list is almost endless. Characters can be a mix of two different genres, so the only limit is one's imagination.
An anime convention is an event or gathering with a primary focus on anime, manga and Japanese culture. Commonly, anime conventions are multi-day events hosted at convention centers, hotels or college campuses.
This fun video tells the story better than mere words.

In the United States conventions like San Diego Comic-Con and the Anime Expo have welcomed many thousands of guests, and cosplay has become a serious art form. Competitions with cash prizes are held, and some professional cosplayers are paid to make appearances at various conventions. There’s cosplaying, panels, workshops, booths, and even the chance to take a picture with your favorite writer, actor, hero, or designer. There are also numerous books and even television shows about the world of Cosplay.

KEM Cosplay photos
Katherine Masiewicz (KEM Cosplay) as "GLaDOS".
 
Katherine Masiewicz (KEM Cosplay) as "Carmelita Fox"
 
Actor Anthony Misiano as "The Joker"
If you're interested in learning more, check out the books below.
Books




 ]]>1795cleanfullTransformation CafeThis week we're doing something a little different. Our guest tonight is Katherine Masiewicz, a.k.a. KEM Cosplay, an aspiring actress and model who is active in the world of Cosplay. For the uninitiated, "cosplay" comes from Costume Roleplay, where fans of a particular genre of popular culture create costumes and portray their favorite character. Cosplay can include Japanese Anime characters, characters from video games, television shows, movies, comic books, science fiction, the list is almost endless. Characters can be a mix of two different genres, so the only limit is one's imagination. An anime convention is an event or gathering with a primary focus on anime, manga and Japanese culture. Commonly, anime conventions are multi-day events hosted at convention centers, hotels or college campuses. This fun video tells the story better than mere words. In the United States conventions like San Diego Comic-Con and the Anime Expo have welcomed many thousands of guests, and cosplay has become a serious art form. Competitions with cash prizes are held, and some professional cosplayers are paid to make appearances at various conventions. There’s cosplaying, panels, workshops, booths, and even the chance to take a picture with your favorite writer, actor, hero, or designer. There are also numerous books and even television shows about the world of Cosplay. KEM Cosplay photos Katherine Masiewicz (KEM Cosplay) as "GLaDOS".   Katherine Masiewicz (KEM Cosplay) as "Carmelita Fox"   Actor Anthony Misiano as "The Joker" If you're interested in learning more, check out the books below. Books  Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-310-trauma-and-tft
TFT was developed by Roger Callahan, Ph.D. It involves tapping on acupuncture meridians in a specific sequence while a person is thinking of a traumatic event or a specific problem. Research has shown that it can be a very effective treatment for individuals with PTS.

PTSD, or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, in the general world population, is a significant public health problem. At the global level it's estimated that the treatment of PTSD accounts for about 4% of the global burden of disease. 10 % of women, and 5 % of men worldwide, are suffering from post-traumatic stress. According to the World Health Organization, mental illness is predicted to be the second largest cause of death and disability in populations around the world by 2020, second only to heart disease.

Suzanne and Kristin will be working with Amy on a exciting new study to treat veterans in Las Vegas. The project is called the Veteran to Veteran Healing Project. Not only will Suzanne, Kristin, and their team be able to treat veterans directly, but their patients will also be taught how to perform TFT for themselves, and how to work with their peers.
How to Participate
If you are a veteran in the Las Vegas area and would like to participate, here is a link to the Letter of Invitation to Participate and the form you'll need to complete.
Dr. Roger Callahan on Tapping

Thought Field Therapy Demonstration

Resources:
The Veterans Transition Resource Center (https://veteranstransitionresourcecenter.com) is a collaborative partnership between Life After Active Duty and Veterans Care Foundation, created to help fill the gap in Veteran Services.
Veteran's Transition Resource Center article: Veteran to Veteran Thought Field Therapy (TFT) Intervention for War-Related PTSD Can Help Nevada Combat Veteran Suicide Statewide
Guests: Suzanne M. Connolly, TFT-Adv, LCSW, LMFT, based in Sedona, Arizona and Kristin Miller, Ph.D., CA Lic. Psychologist
Suzanne's website: Thought Field Therapy
Online Video Training in TFT by Suzanne Connolly: http://www.thoughtfieldtherapy.net/online-training/
 

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TFT was developed by Roger Callahan, Ph.D. It involves tapping on acupuncture meridians in a specific sequence while a person is thinking of a traumatic event or a specific problem. Research has shown that it can be a very effective treatment for individuals with PTS.

PTSD, or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, in the general world population, is a significant public health problem. At the global level it's estimated that the treatment of PTSD accounts for about 4% of the global burden of disease. 10 % of women, and 5 % of men worldwide, are suffering from post-traumatic stress. According to the World Health Organization, mental illness is predicted to be the second largest cause of death and disability in populations around the world by 2020, second only to heart disease.

Suzanne and Kristin will be working with Amy on a exciting new study to treat veterans in Las Vegas. The project is called the Veteran to Veteran Healing Project. Not only will Suzanne, Kristin, and their team be able to treat veterans directly, but their patients will also be taught how to perform TFT for themselves, and how to work with their peers.
How to Participate
If you are a veteran in the Las Vegas area and would like to participate, here is a link to the Letter of Invitation to Participate and the form you'll need to complete.
Dr. Roger Callahan on Tapping

Thought Field Therapy Demonstration

Resources:
The Veterans Transition Resource Center (https://veteranstransitionresourcecenter.com) is a collaborative partnership between Life After Active Duty and Veterans Care Foundation, created to help fill the gap in Veteran Services.
Veteran's Transition Resource Center article: Veteran to Veteran Thought Field Therapy (TFT) Intervention for War-Related PTSD Can Help Nevada Combat Veteran Suicide Statewide
Guests: Suzanne M. Connolly, TFT-Adv, LCSW, LMFT, based in Sedona, Arizona and Kristin Miller, Ph.D., CA Lic. Psychologist
Suzanne's website: Thought Field Therapy
Online Video Training in TFT by Suzanne Connolly: http://www.thoughtfieldtherapy.net/online-training/
 

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amzn_assoc_emphasize_categories = "1000";]]>1801cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost interview Suzanne Connolly and Kristin Miller about TFT – Thought Field Therapy – as a treatment for Post Traumatic Stress. TFT was developed by Roger Callahan, Ph.D. It involves tapping on acupuncture meridians in a specific sequence while a person is thinking of a traumatic event or a specific problem. Research has shown that it can be a very effective treatment for individuals with PTS. PTSD, or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, in the general world population, is a significant public health problem. At the global level it's estimated that the treatment of PTSD accounts for about 4% of the global burden of disease. 10 % of women, and 5 % of men worldwide, are suffering from post-traumatic stress. According to the World Health Organization, mental illness is predicted to be the second largest cause of death and disability in populations around the world by 2020, second only to heart disease. Suzanne and Kristin will be working with Amy on a exciting new study to treat veterans in Las Vegas. The project is called the Veteran to Veteran Healing Project. Not only will Suzanne, Kristin, and their team be able to treat veterans directly, but their patients will also be taught how to perform TFT for themselves, and how to work with their peers. How to Participate If you are a veteran in the Las Vegas area and would like to participate, here is a link to the Letter of Invitation to Participate and the form you'll need to complete. Dr. Roger Callahan on Tapping Thought Field Therapy Demonstration Resources: The Veterans Transition Resource Center (https://veteranstransitionresourcecenter.com) is a collaborative partnership between Life After Active Duty and Veterans Care Foundation, created to help fill the gap in Veteran Services. Veteran's Transition Resource Center article: Veteran to Veteran Thought Field Therapy (TFT) Intervention for War-Related PTSD Can Help Nevada Combat Veteran Suicide Statewide Guests: Suzanne M. Connolly, TFT-Adv, LCSW, LMFT, based in Sedona, Arizona and Kristin Miller, Ph.D., CA Lic. Psychologist Suzanne's website: Thought Field Therapy Online Video Training in TFT by Suzanne Connolly: http://www.thoughtfieldtherapy.net/online-training/   amzn_assoc_placement = "adunit0"; amzn_assoc_enable_interest_ads = "true"; amzn_assoc_tracking_id = "transfcafe-20"; amzn_assoc_ad_mode = "auto"; amzn_assoc_ad_type = "smart"; amzn_assoc_marketplace = "amazon"; amzn_assoc_region = "US"; amzn_assoc_linkid = "62ce0b8cbad2b3876339aa71e6fa9f09"; amzn_assoc_fallback_mode = {"type":"search","value":"PTSD"}; amzn_assoc_default_category = "All"; amzn_assoc_emphasize_categories = "1000";Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-309-adult-coloring-book-crazeStudies have shown that coloring books and coloring pages can be extremely therapeutic, and has been compared to the benefits that one gets from meditation. It must be working; adult coloring books have taken over the publishing industry, and have skyrocketed to the best-seller list.


You can't walk into a brick-and-mortar bookstore without seeing a table filled with coloring books for adults.
In the video below, Katie Couric talks about how adult coloring books have become a phenomenon. It started in the U.K., then to France, but has quickly spread globally. Coloring parties are even popping up in bars!

Just a few of the benefits of coloring books:

* Coloring has been shown to have stress-reducing benefits
* Increases focus and creativity
* Provides opportunities for social time
* Alternative to meditation

Check out this list of 10 Therapeutic Benefits of Coloring Books for Adults from color-meanings.com for a more in-depth discussion of the benefits.
Links to articles about Adult Coloring Books
Here's an interesting article about the Health and Brain Benefits of Adult Coloring Books from Wellness Mama.
http://www.medicaldaily.com/therapeutic-science-adult-coloring-books-how-childhood-pastime-helps-adults-356280
4 Benefits of Adult Coloring Books

If you'd like to purchase some coloring books and give it a try yourself, we'd love you to take a look at this link to the Adult Coloring Book page on Amazon.
Here are some favorites:


And lest you think they are all butterflies and unicorns, here are a couple that are definitely more "adult".


And last but not least, you'll need some colored pencils and a sharpener.

...]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2913Mon, 27 Jun 2016 02:24:43 +0000Transformation CafeThis week we're exploring the Coloring Book Craze! Why are they so popular? Can they really help you to relax? Studies have shown that coloring books and coloring pages can be extremely therapeutic, and has been compared to the benefits that one gets...Studies have shown that coloring books and coloring pages can be extremely therapeutic, and has been compared to the benefits that one gets from meditation. It must be working; adult coloring books have taken over the publishing industry, and have skyrocketed to the best-seller list.


You can't walk into a brick-and-mortar bookstore without seeing a table filled with coloring books for adults.
In the video below, Katie Couric talks about how adult coloring books have become a phenomenon. It started in the U.K., then to France, but has quickly spread globally. Coloring parties are even popping up in bars!

Just a few of the benefits of coloring books:

* Coloring has been shown to have stress-reducing benefits
* Increases focus and creativity
* Provides opportunities for social time
* Alternative to meditation

Check out this list of 10 Therapeutic Benefits of Coloring Books for Adults from color-meanings.com for a more in-depth discussion of the benefits.
Links to articles about Adult Coloring Books
Here's an interesting article about the Health and Brain Benefits of Adult Coloring Books from Wellness Mama.
http://www.medicaldaily.com/therapeutic-science-adult-coloring-books-how-childhood-pastime-helps-adults-356280
4 Benefits of Adult Coloring Books

If you'd like to purchase some coloring books and give it a try yourself, we'd love you to take a look at this link to the Adult Coloring Book page on Amazon.
Here are some favorites:


And lest you think they are all butterflies and unicorns, here are a couple that are definitely more "adult".


And last but not least, you'll need some colored pencils and a sharpener.

...]]>1714cleanfullTransformation CafeThis week we're exploring the Coloring Book Craze! Why are they so popular? Can they really help you to relax? Studies have shown that coloring books and coloring pages can be extremely therapeutic, and has been compared to the benefits that one gets from meditation. It must be working; adult coloring books have taken over the publishing industry, and have skyrocketed to the best-seller list. You can't walk into a brick-and-mortar bookstore without seeing a table filled with coloring books for adults. In the video below, Katie Couric talks about how adult coloring books have become a phenomenon. It started in the U.K., then to France, but has quickly spread globally. Coloring parties are even popping up in bars! Just a few of the benefits of coloring books: * Coloring has been shown to have stress-reducing benefits * Increases focus and creativity * Provides opportunities for social time * Alternative to meditation Check out this list of 10 Therapeutic Benefits of Coloring Books for Adults from color-meanings.com for a more in-depth discussion of the benefits. Links to articles about Adult Coloring Books Here's an interesting article about the Health and Brain Benefits of Adult Coloring Books from Wellness Mama. http://www.medicaldaily.com/therapeutic-science-adult-coloring-books-how-childhood-pastime-helps-adults-356280 4 Benefits of Adult Coloring Books If you'd like to purchase some coloring books and give it a try yourself, we'd love you to take a look at this link to the Adult Coloring Book page on Amazon. Here are some favorites: And lest you think they are all butterflies and unicorns, here are a couple that are definitely more "adult". And last but not least, you'll need some colored pencils and a sharpener. ...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-308-frientimacy-envy-jealousy-and-hol

Frientimacy Recap
Here are links to the previous episodes of our Cafe Book Club review of Frientimacy.
Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap
Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving
Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning
Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection
Chapter 11 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend Trend
Chapters 12-13 -Obstacles – Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back
Conclusion – What we learned and what are our next steps in friendship
 
About Shasta:
Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show.
Shasta's Links:



Websites


Shasta Nelson
www.ShastaNelson.com


GirlFriendCircles.com
www.GirlFriendCircles.com


Shasta's Friendship Blog
www.ShastasFriendshipBlog.com



//]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3040Sun, 19 Jun 2016 13:52:01 +0000Transformation CafeThe Cafe Book Club concludes our study of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson. In this episode we talk about the final obstacles to intimacy: Envy and Jealousy. We also discuss the main ideas from...

Frientimacy Recap
Here are links to the previous episodes of our Cafe Book Club review of Frientimacy.
Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap
Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving
Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning
Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection
Chapter 11 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend Trend
Chapters 12-13 -Obstacles – Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back
Conclusion – What we learned and what are our next steps in friendship
 
About Shasta:
Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show.
Shasta's Links:



Websites


Shasta Nelson
www.ShastaNelson.com


GirlFriendCircles.com
www.GirlFriendCircles.com


Shasta's Friendship Blog
www.ShastasFriendshipBlog.com



//]]>1900cleanfullTransformation CafeThe Cafe Book Club concludes our study of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson. In this episode we talk about the final obstacles to intimacy: Envy and Jealousy. We also discuss the main ideas from the book and how it has affected the way we look at our friendships and ourselves. Frientimacy Recap Here are links to the previous episodes of our Cafe Book Club review of Frientimacy. Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection Chapter 11 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend Trend Chapters 12-13 -Obstacles – Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back Conclusion – What we learned and what are our next steps in friendship   About Shasta: Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show. Shasta's Links: Websites Shasta Nelson www.ShastaNelson.com GirlFriendCircles.com www.GirlFriendCircles.com Shasta's Friendship Blog www.ShastasFriendshipBlog.com //Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-307-frientimacy-the-toxic-friend-trenAs Shasta says in her article in the Huffington Post, not all friendships last forever.

"Chances are, only a select few people you are close to now will end up becoming life-long friends. And even those friendships have to change and become something new many times over, as we all go through various life stages and moves. But all friendships should enhance our lives and teach us new ways of loving people, even if they don’t last forever, so it’s important to learn how to leave people better off for having spent time with you."

 
Is Your Friend Really Toxic?
"Very few people are actually “toxic” (a word thrown around way too easily these days!), but that is not to say that the friendship you co-created with someone might not be meeting your needs anymore."
"Seeing that it often has less to do with their actions and more to do with our expectations and current needs reminds us that there is room for mature conversations to help grow the friendship into something that brings joy to both individuals."
How to Deal with a Toxic Friend
Here is a three-step process for dealing with a toxic friend as suggested by Oprah.com.



 
Five Practices for Owning Up
"It so happens that in practicing being kind–especially with those we'd previously want to shun–we will grow in the process. We will build stronger muscles as we engage in our compassion, provoke our empathy, and develop our ability to set boundaries."
"When we show up differently, it changes the pattern and dynamic of the relationship–and in turn invites the other to respond differently. Chances are high that our friend won't respond perfectly the first time we practice, nor will we initiate perfectly. That's why it's called practice. And know that the point is not to reach immediate success. If we feel it's important to stay in relationship with this person, the point is we're choosing to become more likely to hold our peace through whatever comes–and to in turn be an agent of peace."

Own Our Imperfections
Assume the Best in Others
Work to Understand Others' Needs
Rethink the Word "Needy"
Trust That You Are Safe

For Evaluation
On a scale of 1-10, how strong is the habit to immediately judge, dismiss, or devalue others who disappoint me?
For Reflection
When I judge others, the pay-off for me is. . . (in other words, how do I feel better? What motivates me? What is my benefit or gain?)
If someone else were to describe me as toxic, the behaviors they'd probably point to would be:
Is there someone in my life I need to set better boundaries with in order to have a healthier relationship? If so, what might that look like?
Of the Five Practices for Owning Up that are highlighted in this chapter, which one(s) resonate with me as the one that will make the biggest difference to my life? What could that look like?
Resources:
Shasta references The Wisdom of the Enne...]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=3013Sun, 12 Jun 2016 20:01:32 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz discusses chapter 11 of Frientimacy. This chapter is about Obstacle #3 to Frientimacy: "The Toxic Friend Trend". As Shasta says in her article in the Huffington Post, not all...As Shasta says in her article in the Huffington Post, not all friendships last forever.

"Chances are, only a select few people you are close to now will end up becoming life-long friends. And even those friendships have to change and become something new many times over, as we all go through various life stages and moves. But all friendships should enhance our lives and teach us new ways of loving people, even if they don’t last forever, so it’s important to learn how to leave people better off for having spent time with you."

 
Is Your Friend Really Toxic?
"Very few people are actually “toxic” (a word thrown around way too easily these days!), but that is not to say that the friendship you co-created with someone might not be meeting your needs anymore."
"Seeing that it often has less to do with their actions and more to do with our expectations and current needs reminds us that there is room for mature conversations to help grow the friendship into something that brings joy to both individuals."
How to Deal with a Toxic Friend
Here is a three-step process for dealing with a toxic friend as suggested by Oprah.com.



 
Five Practices for Owning Up
"It so happens that in practicing being kind–especially with those we'd previously want to shun–we will grow in the process. We will build stronger muscles as we engage in our compassion, provoke our empathy, and develop our ability to set boundaries."
"When we show up differently, it changes the pattern and dynamic of the relationship–and in turn invites the other to respond differently. Chances are high that our friend won't respond perfectly the first time we practice, nor will we initiate perfectly. That's why it's called practice. And know that the point is not to reach immediate success. If we feel it's important to stay in relationship with this person, the point is we're choosing to become more likely to hold our peace through whatever comes–and to in turn be an agent of peace."

Own Our Imperfections
Assume the Best in Others
Work to Understand Others' Needs
Rethink the Word "Needy"
Trust That You Are Safe

For Evaluation
On a scale of 1-10, how strong is the habit to immediately judge, dismiss, or devalue others who disappoint me?
For Reflection
When I judge others, the pay-off for me is. . . (in other words, how do I feel better? What motivates me? What is my benefit or gain?)
If someone else were to describe me as toxic, the behaviors they'd probably point to would be:
Is there someone in my life I need to set better boundaries with in order to have a healthier relationship? If so, what might that look like?
Of the Five Practices for Owning Up that are highlighted in this chapter, which one(s) resonate with me as the one that will make the biggest difference to my life? What could that look like?
Resources:
Shasta references The Wisdom of the Enne...]]>1644cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz discusses chapter 11 of Frientimacy. This chapter is about Obstacle #3 to Frientimacy: "The Toxic Friend Trend". As Shasta says in her article in the Huffington Post, not all friendships last forever. "Chances are, only a select few people you are close to now will end up becoming life-long friends. And even those friendships have to change and become something new many times over, as we all go through various life stages and moves. But all friendships should enhance our lives and teach us new ways of loving people, even if they don’t last forever, so it’s important to learn how to leave people better off for having spent time with you."   Is Your Friend Really Toxic? "Very few people are actually “toxic” (a word thrown around way too easily these days!), but that is not to say that the friendship you co-created with someone might not be meeting your needs anymore." "Seeing that it often has less to do with their actions and more to do with our expectations and current needs reminds us that there is room for mature conversations to help grow the friendship into something that brings joy to both individuals." How to Deal with a Toxic Friend Here is a three-step process for dealing with a toxic friend as suggested by Oprah.com.   Five Practices for Owning Up "It so happens that in practicing being kind–especially with those we'd previously want to shun–we will grow in the process. We will build stronger muscles as we engage in our compassion, provoke our empathy, and develop our ability to set boundaries." "When we show up differently, it changes the pattern and dynamic of the relationship–and in turn invites the other to respond differently. Chances are high that our friend won't respond perfectly the first time we practice, nor will we initiate perfectly. That's why it's called practice. And know that the point is not to reach immediate success. If we feel it's important to stay in relationship with this person, the point is we're choosing to become more likely to hold our peace through whatever comes–and to in turn be an agent of peace." Own Our Imperfections Assume the Best in Others Work to Understand Others' Needs Rethink the Word "Needy" Trust That You Are Safe For Evaluation On a scale of 1-10, how strong is the habit to immediately judge, dismiss, or devalue others who disappoint me? For Reflection When I judge others, the pay-off for me is. . . (in other words, how do I feel better? What motivates me? What is my benefit or gain?) If someone else were to describe me as toxic, the behaviors they'd probably point to would be: Is there someone in my life I need to set better boundaries with in order to have a healthier relationship? If so, what might that look like? Of the Five Practices for Owning Up that are highlighted in this chapter, which one(s) resonate with me as the one that will make the biggest difference to my life? What could that look like? Resources: Shasta references The Wisdom of the Enne...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-306-frientimacy-doubting-our-self-worWe all suffer from doubting our own self worth, and from fear of rejection. The question, though, is what can we do about it?

About Fear
"There are two things about fear that are particularly pertinent to our discussion: 1) It doesn't distinguish whether it's based on reality or not; and 2) Many of the fears that plague us are all frequently injurious to relationships."
Leaning into Intimacy
Shasta identifies five basic fears that we all have, and addresses each one in a separate chapter. She starts the section with chapter called "Leaning in to Intimacy".
I am willing to put as much energy into the saving of a friendship as I put into the the development of that friendship. Pulling away isn't the path to intimacy; we have to stay loving and curious if we want to get there.
Relationships are the Gym for our Personal Growth
"Our relationships are the health clubs where we practice intimacy; the places where we build up the muscles of compassion, increase our endurance for sitting with hard feelings, and stretch the flexibility of our biases. It's in our relationships where the rubber meets the road, where we practice being those better people we claim we want to become, the people we wish everyone else can be."
Friendships are the gymnastics for the soul, where we can practice the hard work of relationships.

The Hard Work of Relationships, such as:

Apologizing even when our friends don't.
Asking our friends what is bothering them even if we're unsure we want to know.
Brainstorming solutions with our friends to help us love each other in meaningful ways with what we each offer.
Finding loving ways to say, "I need something different."
Naming our feelings instead of expecting our friends to guess.
Practicing empathy even when we're tempted to judge.
Speaking up honestly even when it's easier to shrug it off and pretend we're fine.
Releasing our own version of a story instead of looking for more evidence to back it up.
Staying non-defensive even when we feel attacked.
Talking to our friend who hurt us instead of complaining about her to everyone else.

Amy discusses a resource from the Center for Nonviolent Communication to help to describe our feelings. The Feelings Inventory provides a list of words to express a combination of emotional states and physical sensations. It is meant as a starting place to support anyone who wishes to engage in a process of deepening self-discovery and to facilitate greater understanding and connection between people. They also provide a Needs Inventory.
There are two parts to this list: feelings we may have when our needs are being met and feelings we may have when our needs are not being met.
If your friendship is going through a rough patch, Shasta provides four actions we can engage in when we choose to discuss our frustration or hurt. The goal isn't for us to feel better by dumping our frustrations on the other; rather our goal is to deepen the intimacy by inviting conversation. We want to open up space with questions, not shut it down with blame.

Expressing Love
Validating Feelings
Removing Blame
Requesting Willingness]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2983Sun, 05 Jun 2016 21:04:58 +0000Transformation CafeThe Cafe Book Club continues with our study of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson. In this episode we start Part 3  on Obstacles to Intimacy. Chapter 8 – Leaning into Intimacy, Chapter 9 –...We all suffer from doubting our own self worth, and from fear of rejection. The question, though, is what can we do about it?

About Fear
"There are two things about fear that are particularly pertinent to our discussion: 1) It doesn't distinguish whether it's based on reality or not; and 2) Many of the fears that plague us are all frequently injurious to relationships."
Leaning into Intimacy
Shasta identifies five basic fears that we all have, and addresses each one in a separate chapter. She starts the section with chapter called "Leaning in to Intimacy".
I am willing to put as much energy into the saving of a friendship as I put into the the development of that friendship. Pulling away isn't the path to intimacy; we have to stay loving and curious if we want to get there.
Relationships are the Gym for our Personal Growth
"Our relationships are the health clubs where we practice intimacy; the places where we build up the muscles of compassion, increase our endurance for sitting with hard feelings, and stretch the flexibility of our biases. It's in our relationships where the rubber meets the road, where we practice being those better people we claim we want to become, the people we wish everyone else can be."
Friendships are the gymnastics for the soul, where we can practice the hard work of relationships.

The Hard Work of Relationships, such as:

Apologizing even when our friends don't.
Asking our friends what is bothering them even if we're unsure we want to know.
Brainstorming solutions with our friends to help us love each other in meaningful ways with what we each offer.
Finding loving ways to say, "I need something different."
Naming our feelings instead of expecting our friends to guess.
Practicing empathy even when we're tempted to judge.
Speaking up honestly even when it's easier to shrug it off and pretend we're fine.
Releasing our own version of a story instead of looking for more evidence to back it up.
Staying non-defensive even when we feel attacked.
Talking to our friend who hurt us instead of complaining about her to everyone else.

Amy discusses a resource from the Center for Nonviolent Communication to help to describe our feelings. The Feelings Inventory provides a list of words to express a combination of emotional states and physical sensations. It is meant as a starting place to support anyone who wishes to engage in a process of deepening self-discovery and to facilitate greater understanding and connection between people. They also provide a Needs Inventory.
There are two parts to this list: feelings we may have when our needs are being met and feelings we may have when our needs are not being met.
If your friendship is going through a rough patch, Shasta provides four actions we can engage in when we choose to discuss our frustration or hurt. The goal isn't for us to feel better by dumping our frustrations on the other; rather our goal is to deepen the intimacy by inviting conversation. We want to open up space with questions, not shut it down with blame.

Expressing Love
Validating Feelings
Removing Blame
Requesting Willingness]]>1801cleanfullTransformation CafeThe Cafe Book Club continues with our study of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson. In this episode we start Part 3  on Obstacles to Intimacy. Chapter 8 – Leaning into Intimacy, Chapter 9 – Obstacle #1: Doubting Our Self Worth, and Chapter 10 – Obstacle #2: The Fear of Rejection. We all suffer from doubting our own self worth, and from fear of rejection. The question, though, is what can we do about it? About Fear "There are two things about fear that are particularly pertinent to our discussion: 1) It doesn't distinguish whether it's based on reality or not; and 2) Many of the fears that plague us are all frequently injurious to relationships." Leaning into Intimacy Shasta identifies five basic fears that we all have, and addresses each one in a separate chapter. She starts the section with chapter called "Leaning in to Intimacy". I am willing to put as much energy into the saving of a friendship as I put into the the development of that friendship. Pulling away isn't the path to intimacy; we have to stay loving and curious if we want to get there. Relationships are the Gym for our Personal Growth "Our relationships are the health clubs where we practice intimacy; the places where we build up the muscles of compassion, increase our endurance for sitting with hard feelings, and stretch the flexibility of our biases. It's in our relationships where the rubber meets the road, where we practice being those better people we claim we want to become, the people we wish everyone else can be." Friendships are the gymnastics for the soul, where we can practice the hard work of relationships. The Hard Work of Relationships, such as: Apologizing even when our friends don't. Asking our friends what is bothering them even if we're unsure we want to know. Brainstorming solutions with our friends to help us love each other in meaningful ways with what we each offer. Finding loving ways to say, "I need something different." Naming our feelings instead of expecting our friends to guess. Practicing empathy even when we're tempted to judge. Speaking up honestly even when it's easier to shrug it off and pretend we're fine. Releasing our own version of a story instead of looking for more evidence to back it up. Staying non-defensive even when we feel attacked. Talking to our friend who hurt us instead of complaining about her to everyone else. Amy discusses a resource from the Center for Nonviolent Communication to help to describe our feelings. The Feelings Inventory provides a list of words to express a combination of emotional states and physical sensations. It is meant as a starting place to support anyone who wishes to engage in a process of deepening self-discovery and to facilitate greater understanding and connection between people. They also provide a Needs Inventory. There are two parts to this list: feelings we may have when our needs are being met and feelings we may have when our needs are not being met. If your friendship is going through a rough patch, Shasta provides four actions we can engage in when we choose to discuss our frustration or hurt. The goal isn't for us to feel better by dumping our frustrations on the other; rather our goal is to deepen the intimacy by inviting conversation. We want to open up space with questions, not shut it down with blame. Expressing Love Validating Feelings Removing Blame Requesting WillingnessNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc305-frientimacy-consistency-and-vulner


Shasta discusses the intimacy gap and other questions in this interview from the Toronto Star:
In your book, you talk about an intimacy gap many of us feel in our friendships. What is that, exactly?
It’s the gap between what we wish we were experiencing in friendships and what we’re currently experiencing. It speaks to the fact that we all know a ton of people — it’s not a lack of a social life — but we’re not feeling that our friendships are deep or fulfilling enough.
Why do you think so many people feel that?
I think we’re not spending enough time with each other. Research shows healthy relationships need to stay above a 5:1 positivity to negativity ratio, so if we’re not seeing each other very often, and the encounters are filled with stressing and venting, we’re not having those times of laughing and having fun. We’re not feeling like people know what’s going on in our lives day-to-day. There are three aspects to friendships that are non-negotiable: positivity, consistency and vulnerability. If any of those are missing, it’s an obstacle.


Why is being vulnerable so important?
If you have positivity and consistency, it means you’re going out and having a good time, but you’re not feeling known. That third piece is what helps us feel safe and that our lives are feeling witnessed. Having those people we’ve practiced being vulnerable and real with — and going deeper with than just updating them about our lives — those are the people that we think will be there for us.
You talk about women searching for the perfect friend, the Thelma to our Louise, but obviously nobody’s perfect. Instead you think we need better friendships, not better friends. What do you mean by that?
If you look at those three non-negotiables of friendship, then anybody we practice those with, we’ll feel closer to. For example, we’ll feel closer to someone we work with because the consistency is happening often. Those women at work, if we’d gone on one coffee date, we wouldn’t have necessarily chosen them as a best friend, but we’re bonding because of the consistency with each other. We all have examples of women we really, really like and admire and had a great time with, but if we never saw them again, we didn’t develop a friendship. The only people who develop a friendship are the ones doing these three things together.
What can women do if they feel like their friendships are lopsided, where they’re giving more than they’re getting?
Only 26 per cent of us feel like we’re in friendships that are mutual — it’s a staggeringly low number! We tend to keep score more when we’re feeling depleted and tired, which speaks to women’s need for self-care. It also speaks to the fact that women need to practice asking for what they need. We need to learn to say, “I don’t need advice right now, I just need you to validate me.”
If you could offer one key piece of friendship advice based on your research for the book, what would it be?
I would say: Initiate the connection that you’re craving with your friendships. If you want more meaningful relationships, it’s in your hands.
Frientimacy Schedule:
Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap
Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle,]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2976Mon, 30 May 2016 15:35:13 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 6 and 7 of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson. This section focuses on the other two sides...


Shasta discusses the intimacy gap and other questions in this interview from the Toronto Star:
In your book, you talk about an intimacy gap many of us feel in our friendships. What is that, exactly?
It’s the gap between what we wish we were experiencing in friendships and what we’re currently experiencing. It speaks to the fact that we all know a ton of people — it’s not a lack of a social life — but we’re not feeling that our friendships are deep or fulfilling enough.
Why do you think so many people feel that?
I think we’re not spending enough time with each other. Research shows healthy relationships need to stay above a 5:1 positivity to negativity ratio, so if we’re not seeing each other very often, and the encounters are filled with stressing and venting, we’re not having those times of laughing and having fun. We’re not feeling like people know what’s going on in our lives day-to-day. There are three aspects to friendships that are non-negotiable: positivity, consistency and vulnerability. If any of those are missing, it’s an obstacle.


Why is being vulnerable so important?
If you have positivity and consistency, it means you’re going out and having a good time, but you’re not feeling known. That third piece is what helps us feel safe and that our lives are feeling witnessed. Having those people we’ve practiced being vulnerable and real with — and going deeper with than just updating them about our lives — those are the people that we think will be there for us.
You talk about women searching for the perfect friend, the Thelma to our Louise, but obviously nobody’s perfect. Instead you think we need better friendships, not better friends. What do you mean by that?
If you look at those three non-negotiables of friendship, then anybody we practice those with, we’ll feel closer to. For example, we’ll feel closer to someone we work with because the consistency is happening often. Those women at work, if we’d gone on one coffee date, we wouldn’t have necessarily chosen them as a best friend, but we’re bonding because of the consistency with each other. We all have examples of women we really, really like and admire and had a great time with, but if we never saw them again, we didn’t develop a friendship. The only people who develop a friendship are the ones doing these three things together.
What can women do if they feel like their friendships are lopsided, where they’re giving more than they’re getting?
Only 26 per cent of us feel like we’re in friendships that are mutual — it’s a staggeringly low number! We tend to keep score more when we’re feeling depleted and tired, which speaks to women’s need for self-care. It also speaks to the fact that women need to practice asking for what they need. We need to learn to say, “I don’t need advice right now, I just need you to validate me.”
If you could offer one key piece of friendship advice based on your research for the book, what would it be?
I would say: Initiate the connection that you’re craving with your friendships. If you want more meaningful relationships, it’s in your hands.
Frientimacy Schedule:
Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap
Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle,]]>1848cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 6 and 7 of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson. This section focuses on the other two sides of the Frientimacy Triangle: Consistency and Vulnerability. Shasta discusses the intimacy gap and other questions in this interview from the Toronto Star: In your book, you talk about an intimacy gap many of us feel in our friendships. What is that, exactly? It’s the gap between what we wish we were experiencing in friendships and what we’re currently experiencing. It speaks to the fact that we all know a ton of people — it’s not a lack of a social life — but we’re not feeling that our friendships are deep or fulfilling enough. Why do you think so many people feel that? I think we’re not spending enough time with each other. Research shows healthy relationships need to stay above a 5:1 positivity to negativity ratio, so if we’re not seeing each other very often, and the encounters are filled with stressing and venting, we’re not having those times of laughing and having fun. We’re not feeling like people know what’s going on in our lives day-to-day. There are three aspects to friendships that are non-negotiable: positivity, consistency and vulnerability. If any of those are missing, it’s an obstacle. Why is being vulnerable so important? If you have positivity and consistency, it means you’re going out and having a good time, but you’re not feeling known. That third piece is what helps us feel safe and that our lives are feeling witnessed. Having those people we’ve practiced being vulnerable and real with — and going deeper with than just updating them about our lives — those are the people that we think will be there for us. You talk about women searching for the perfect friend, the Thelma to our Louise, but obviously nobody’s perfect. Instead you think we need better friendships, not better friends. What do you mean by that? If you look at those three non-negotiables of friendship, then anybody we practice those with, we’ll feel closer to. For example, we’ll feel closer to someone we work with because the consistency is happening often. Those women at work, if we’d gone on one coffee date, we wouldn’t have necessarily chosen them as a best friend, but we’re bonding because of the consistency with each other. We all have examples of women we really, really like and admire and had a great time with, but if we never saw them again, we didn’t develop a friendship. The only people who develop a friendship are the ones doing these three things together. What can women do if they feel like their friendships are lopsided, where they’re giving more than they’re getting? Only 26 per cent of us feel like we’re in friendships that are mutual — it’s a staggeringly low number! We tend to keep score more when we’re feeling depleted and tired, which speaks to women’s need for self-care. It also speaks to the fact that women need to practice asking for what they need. We need to learn to say, “I don’t need advice right now, I just need you to validate me.” If you could offer one key piece of friendship advice based on your research for the book, what would it be? I would say: Initiate the connection that you’re craving with your friendships. If you want more meaningful relationships, it’s in your hands. Frientimacy Schedule: Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle,Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-304-the-frientimacy-triangle-intimacy
"Simply stated, frientimacy is any relationship where two people feel really seen in a way that feels satisfying and safe for both of them."
"So how can we find frientimacy?"

For us to feel SATISFIED, we must feel our interaction is rewarding, practicing POSITIVITY with each other.
For us to feel SAFE, we must feel some level of trust, practicing CONSISTENCY with each other.
For us to feel SEEN, we must be willing to reveal ourselves, practicing being VULNERABLE with each other.

The Frientimacy Triangle consists of the qualities of Commitment, Vulnerability, and Positivity. As Shasta describes it:
"To initiate, cultivate, and safeguard our intimacy, we must practice three things: positivity, consistency, and vulnerability."

Frientimacy = positivity + consistency + vulnerability

The Frientimacy Triangle. In this model Positivity forms the base.
If you haven't already done so, we encourage you to get your own copy of Frientimacy and join the discussion. You can leave a comment, or call in to the show live on Tuesday night at 8 PM Pacific time. The call-in number is (646) 727-3206. We'd love to hear from you!
 

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"Simply stated, frientimacy is any relationship where two people feel really seen in a way that feels satisfying and safe for both of them."
"So how can we find frientimacy?"

For us to feel SATISFIED, we must feel our interaction is rewarding, practicing POSITIVITY with each other.
For us to feel SAFE, we must feel some level of trust, practicing CONSISTENCY with each other.
For us to feel SEEN, we must be willing to reveal ourselves, practicing being VULNERABLE with each other.

The Frientimacy Triangle consists of the qualities of Commitment, Vulnerability, and Positivity. As Shasta describes it:
"To initiate, cultivate, and safeguard our intimacy, we must practice three things: positivity, consistency, and vulnerability."

Frientimacy = positivity + consistency + vulnerability

The Frientimacy Triangle. In this model Positivity forms the base.
If you haven't already done so, we encourage you to get your own copy of Frientimacy and join the discussion. You can leave a comment, or call in to the show live on Tuesday night at 8 PM Pacific time. The call-in number is (646) 727-3206. We'd love to hear from you!
 

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amzn_assoc_default_category = "All";]]>1823cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost present discuss chapters 3 – 5 of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson. This section focuses on the Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps, and Positivity: Giving and Receiving. "Simply stated, frientimacy is any relationship where two people feel really seen in a way that feels satisfying and safe for both of them." "So how can we find frientimacy?" For us to feel SATISFIED, we must feel our interaction is rewarding, practicing POSITIVITY with each other. For us to feel SAFE, we must feel some level of trust, practicing CONSISTENCY with each other. For us to feel SEEN, we must be willing to reveal ourselves, practicing being VULNERABLE with each other. The Frientimacy Triangle consists of the qualities of Commitment, Vulnerability, and Positivity. As Shasta describes it: "To initiate, cultivate, and safeguard our intimacy, we must practice three things: positivity, consistency, and vulnerability." Frientimacy = positivity + consistency + vulnerability The Frientimacy Triangle. In this model Positivity forms the base. If you haven't already done so, we encourage you to get your own copy of Frientimacy and join the discussion. You can leave a comment, or call in to the show live on Tuesday night at 8 PM Pacific time. The call-in number is (646) 727-3206. We'd love to hear from you!   amzn_assoc_placement = "adunit0"; amzn_assoc_enable_interest_ads = "true"; amzn_assoc_tracking_id = "transfcafe-20"; amzn_assoc_ad_mode = "auto"; amzn_assoc_ad_type = "smart"; amzn_assoc_marketplace = "amazon"; amzn_assoc_region = "US"; amzn_assoc_linkid = "1f8dd348ef06b8592371349ef22a3751"; amzn_assoc_emphasize_categories = "16261631,1000,3760901,301668"; amzn_assoc_fallback_mode = {"type":"search","value":"friendship"}; amzn_assoc_default_category = "All";Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-303-cafe-book-club-frientimacy-the-in
The Intimacy Gap
This section includes an assessment to help you evaluate were you are in terms of relationships. The "intimacy gap" is the difference between the level of intimacy we are experiencing in our friendships, and the level we wish we were experiencing. Shasta describes this gap in the video below.


"With the constant connectivity of today’s world, it’s never been easier to meet people and make new friends—but it’s never been harder to form meaningful friendships."


Shasta makes the case that we are living in the "Age of Loneliness".
"So I'd like to clarify what I do and don't mean when I say we're lonely. We're not lonely because we don't have any friends, we're lonely because those friends don't always leave us feeling better after spending time with them."
Robin and Amy discuss the workbook that accompanies the book, and how they are finding it to be a valuable tool to explore this subject. You can find the workbook on Shasta's website.
Tentative Schedule:
Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap
Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving
Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning
Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection
Chapters 11-13 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend, Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back
Conclusion – retake the quiz… come prepared to talk about what you learned and what are our next steps in friendship.
We invite you to join us each week as we work through the book and explore how we can implement the ideas in our own lives. You can support the Transformation-Cafe by purchasing  Frientimacy using this link, or use the link in the Cafe Book Club Selection in the sidebar. It won't cost you any more, but it helps us to continue providing new content. Thanks!
About Shasta:
Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show.
Shasta's Links:



Websites


Shasta Nelson
www.ShastaNelson.com


GirlFriendCircles.com
www.GirlFriendCircles.com]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2946Tue, 17 May 2016 03:49:29 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz, co-host Amy Frost, and guest Dr. Kymn start our exploration of  Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson, a nationally recognized friendship expert. This...
The Intimacy Gap
This section includes an assessment to help you evaluate were you are in terms of relationships. The "intimacy gap" is the difference between the level of intimacy we are experiencing in our friendships, and the level we wish we were experiencing. Shasta describes this gap in the video below.


"With the constant connectivity of today’s world, it’s never been easier to meet people and make new friends—but it’s never been harder to form meaningful friendships."


Shasta makes the case that we are living in the "Age of Loneliness".
"So I'd like to clarify what I do and don't mean when I say we're lonely. We're not lonely because we don't have any friends, we're lonely because those friends don't always leave us feeling better after spending time with them."
Robin and Amy discuss the workbook that accompanies the book, and how they are finding it to be a valuable tool to explore this subject. You can find the workbook on Shasta's website.
Tentative Schedule:
Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap
Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving
Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning
Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection
Chapters 11-13 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend, Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back
Conclusion – retake the quiz… come prepared to talk about what you learned and what are our next steps in friendship.
We invite you to join us each week as we work through the book and explore how we can implement the ideas in our own lives. You can support the Transformation-Cafe by purchasing  Frientimacy using this link, or use the link in the Cafe Book Club Selection in the sidebar. It won't cost you any more, but it helps us to continue providing new content. Thanks!
About Shasta:
Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show.
Shasta's Links:



Websites


Shasta Nelson
www.ShastaNelson.com


GirlFriendCircles.com
www.GirlFriendCircles.com]]>1867cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz, co-host Amy Frost, and guest Dr. Kymn start our exploration of  Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson, a nationally recognized friendship expert. This episode covers chapters 1 and 2 – The Intimacy Gap. The Intimacy Gap This section includes an assessment to help you evaluate were you are in terms of relationships. The "intimacy gap" is the difference between the level of intimacy we are experiencing in our friendships, and the level we wish we were experiencing. Shasta describes this gap in the video below. "With the constant connectivity of today’s world, it’s never been easier to meet people and make new friends—but it’s never been harder to form meaningful friendships." Shasta makes the case that we are living in the "Age of Loneliness". "So I'd like to clarify what I do and don't mean when I say we're lonely. We're not lonely because we don't have any friends, we're lonely because those friends don't always leave us feeling better after spending time with them." Robin and Amy discuss the workbook that accompanies the book, and how they are finding it to be a valuable tool to explore this subject. You can find the workbook on Shasta's website. Tentative Schedule: Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection Chapters 11-13 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend, Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back Conclusion – retake the quiz… come prepared to talk about what you learned and what are our next steps in friendship. We invite you to join us each week as we work through the book and explore how we can implement the ideas in our own lives. You can support the Transformation-Cafe by purchasing  Frientimacy using this link, or use the link in the Cafe Book Club Selection in the sidebar. It won't cost you any more, but it helps us to continue providing new content. Thanks! About Shasta: Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show. Shasta's Links: Websites Shasta Nelson www.ShastaNelson.com GirlFriendCircles.com www.GirlFriendCircles.comNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-302-cafe-book-club-introducing-frient
 
Shasta has a theory. She believe that friendship can save the world. But what does that mean? Take a look at the brief video below that illustrates why she thinks friendship is so crucial.

 

Over the next several weeks, we'll be exploring Frientimacy and the companion workbook and assessments which you can find on Shasta's website.
Tentative Schedule:
Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap
Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving
Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning
Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection
Chapters 11-13 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend, Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back
Conclusion – retake the quiz… come prepared to talk about what you learned and what are our next steps in friendship.
We invite you to join us each week as we work through the book and explore how we can implement the ideas in our own lives. You can support the Transformation-Cafe by purchasing  Frientimacy using this link, or use the link in the Cafe Book Club Selection in the sidebar. It won't cost you any more, but it helps us to continue providing new content. Thanks!
Amy shares a poem by John O'Donohue in this episode.

A Friendship Blessing
May you be blessed with good friends.
May you learn to be a good friend to yourself.
May you be able to journey to that place in your soul where there is great love, warmth, feeling and forgiveness.
May this change you.
May it transfigure that which is negative, distant, or cold in you.
May you be brought in to the real passion, kinship, and affinity of belonging.
May you treasure your friends.
May you be good to them and may you be there for them; may they bring you all the blessings, challenges, truth and light that you need for your journey.
May you never be isolated.
May you always be in the gentle nest of belonging with your anam cara (soul friend).
John O’Donohue –  Anam Cara – A Book of Celtic Wisdom
 
About Shasta:
Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country,]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2920Sun, 08 May 2016 02:03:53 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost introduce our next Cafe Book Club selection: Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson, a nationally recognized friendship expert.  The...
 
Shasta has a theory. She believe that friendship can save the world. But what does that mean? Take a look at the brief video below that illustrates why she thinks friendship is so crucial.

 

Over the next several weeks, we'll be exploring Frientimacy and the companion workbook and assessments which you can find on Shasta's website.
Tentative Schedule:
Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap
Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving
Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning
Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection
Chapters 11-13 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend, Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back
Conclusion – retake the quiz… come prepared to talk about what you learned and what are our next steps in friendship.
We invite you to join us each week as we work through the book and explore how we can implement the ideas in our own lives. You can support the Transformation-Cafe by purchasing  Frientimacy using this link, or use the link in the Cafe Book Club Selection in the sidebar. It won't cost you any more, but it helps us to continue providing new content. Thanks!
Amy shares a poem by John O'Donohue in this episode.

A Friendship Blessing
May you be blessed with good friends.
May you learn to be a good friend to yourself.
May you be able to journey to that place in your soul where there is great love, warmth, feeling and forgiveness.
May this change you.
May it transfigure that which is negative, distant, or cold in you.
May you be brought in to the real passion, kinship, and affinity of belonging.
May you treasure your friends.
May you be good to them and may you be there for them; may they bring you all the blessings, challenges, truth and light that you need for your journey.
May you never be isolated.
May you always be in the gentle nest of belonging with your anam cara (soul friend).
John O’Donohue –  Anam Cara – A Book of Celtic Wisdom
 
About Shasta:
Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country,]]>1728cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's podcast host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost introduce our next Cafe Book Club selection: Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson, a nationally recognized friendship expert.  The term "Frientimacy" is a combination of "Friendship" and "Intimacy" (as opposed to "Frenemies", which is an entirely different topic best saved for another day).   Shasta has a theory. She believe that friendship can save the world. But what does that mean? Take a look at the brief video below that illustrates why she thinks friendship is so crucial.   Over the next several weeks, we'll be exploring Frientimacy and the companion workbook and assessments which you can find on Shasta's website. Tentative Schedule: Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of Rejection Chapters 11-13 – Obstacles – The Toxic Friend, Jealousy and Envy and Holding Ourselves Back Conclusion – retake the quiz… come prepared to talk about what you learned and what are our next steps in friendship. We invite you to join us each week as we work through the book and explore how we can implement the ideas in our own lives. You can support the Transformation-Cafe by purchasing  Frientimacy using this link, or use the link in the Cafe Book Club Selection in the sidebar. It won't cost you any more, but it helps us to continue providing new content. Thanks! Amy shares a poem by John O'Donohue in this episode. A Friendship Blessing May you be blessed with good friends. May you learn to be a good friend to yourself. May you be able to journey to that place in your soul where there is great love, warmth, feeling and forgiveness. May this change you. May it transfigure that which is negative, distant, or cold in you. May you be brought in to the real passion, kinship, and affinity of belonging. May you treasure your friends. May you be good to them and may you be there for them; may they bring you all the blessings, challenges, truth and light that you need for your journey. May you never be isolated. May you always be in the gentle nest of belonging with your anam cara (soul friend). John O’Donohue –  Anam Cara – A Book of Celtic Wisdom   About Shasta: Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 65 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country,Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-301-the-transformational-journey-inte
In this interview Mark talks about his transformational journey, how being a cancer survivor has influenced his writing and his life, and shares stories from his most recently published book called Inside the Miracle. He very graciously tells some of the stories he shared with the group at the retreat.
Robin Masiewicz with Mark Nepo
About Mark Nepo:
Mark Nepo is a poet and philosopher who has taught in the fields of poetry and spirituality for over 35 years. A New York Times #1 bestselling author, he has published 13 books and recorded eight audio projects. Mark has been interviewed twice by Oprah Winfrey as part of her Soul Series radio show, and was interviewed by Robin Roberts on Good Morning America. As a cancer survivor, Mark devotes his writing and teaching to the journey of inner transformation and the life of relationship. Mark's work is widely accessible and used in spiritual retreats, healing and medical communities, and more. His work has been translated into 20 languages, and he continues to offer readings, lectures, and retreats. We recommend that you check out Mark's audio books so you'll not only experience his wisdom, but you'll get to hear his lovely baritone voice.


In the transformational journey, there are no answers to questions. Questions are lanterns that we swing ahead of us to light our way as we walk together. Think of questions as a door you would open that you want to walk through with someone. Questions are thresholds to journeys, not where we get answers.

Mark talks about his latest book, Inside the Miracle, which collects 30 years of his inquiry into suffering and healing, and two new books that will be coming out later this year : The One Life We're Given: Finding the Wisdom that Waits in Your Heart and a collection of over 200 of his poems called The Way Under the Way: The Place of True Meeting published by Sounds True. Both books are available for pre-order through Amazon.

 

Mark will be appearing at an event in Seattle July 16 – 17 sponsored by Sounds True called  Making Sense of Our Experience:The Heartwork of Resilience . Click the link for more information or to register for this great event (save $50 and register before June 1).
You can view Mark's speaking schedule through 2017 at his website.

If you're in the Southern California area, we encourage you to register for next year's retreat at Pine Manor, a unique facility nestled in the Cleveland National Forest near Lake Elsinore. The owner, Gail Warner, has integrated Mark's poetry into the facility, so it's a great place to spend time with him....]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2774Wed, 27 Apr 2016 06:10:14 +0000Transformation CafeWelcome to a very special edition of the Transformation Cafe podcast. We are pleased to present Robin's interview with Mark Nepo – best-selling author, poet, teacher, and philosopher. This episode was recorded at a special retreat that Mark held at...
In this interview Mark talks about his transformational journey, how being a cancer survivor has influenced his writing and his life, and shares stories from his most recently published book called Inside the Miracle. He very graciously tells some of the stories he shared with the group at the retreat.
Robin Masiewicz with Mark Nepo
About Mark Nepo:
Mark Nepo is a poet and philosopher who has taught in the fields of poetry and spirituality for over 35 years. A New York Times #1 bestselling author, he has published 13 books and recorded eight audio projects. Mark has been interviewed twice by Oprah Winfrey as part of her Soul Series radio show, and was interviewed by Robin Roberts on Good Morning America. As a cancer survivor, Mark devotes his writing and teaching to the journey of inner transformation and the life of relationship. Mark's work is widely accessible and used in spiritual retreats, healing and medical communities, and more. His work has been translated into 20 languages, and he continues to offer readings, lectures, and retreats. We recommend that you check out Mark's audio books so you'll not only experience his wisdom, but you'll get to hear his lovely baritone voice.


In the transformational journey, there are no answers to questions. Questions are lanterns that we swing ahead of us to light our way as we walk together. Think of questions as a door you would open that you want to walk through with someone. Questions are thresholds to journeys, not where we get answers.

Mark talks about his latest book, Inside the Miracle, which collects 30 years of his inquiry into suffering and healing, and two new books that will be coming out later this year : The One Life We're Given: Finding the Wisdom that Waits in Your Heart and a collection of over 200 of his poems called The Way Under the Way: The Place of True Meeting published by Sounds True. Both books are available for pre-order through Amazon.

 

Mark will be appearing at an event in Seattle July 16 – 17 sponsored by Sounds True called  Making Sense of Our Experience:The Heartwork of Resilience . Click the link for more information or to register for this great event (save $50 and register before June 1).
You can view Mark's speaking schedule through 2017 at his website.

If you're in the Southern California area, we encourage you to register for next year's retreat at Pine Manor, a unique facility nestled in the Cleveland National Forest near Lake Elsinore. The owner, Gail Warner, has integrated Mark's poetry into the facility, so it's a great place to spend time with him....]]>2496cleanfullTransformation CafeWelcome to a very special edition of the Transformation Cafe podcast. We are pleased to present Robin's interview with Mark Nepo – best-selling author, poet, teacher, and philosopher. This episode was recorded at a special retreat that Mark held at Pine Manor Resort in Lake Elsinore, California. In this interview Mark talks about his transformational journey, how being a cancer survivor has influenced his writing and his life, and shares stories from his most recently published book called Inside the Miracle. He very graciously tells some of the stories he shared with the group at the retreat. Robin Masiewicz with Mark Nepo About Mark Nepo: Mark Nepo is a poet and philosopher who has taught in the fields of poetry and spirituality for over 35 years. A New York Times #1 bestselling author, he has published 13 books and recorded eight audio projects. Mark has been interviewed twice by Oprah Winfrey as part of her Soul Series radio show, and was interviewed by Robin Roberts on Good Morning America. As a cancer survivor, Mark devotes his writing and teaching to the journey of inner transformation and the life of relationship. Mark's work is widely accessible and used in spiritual retreats, healing and medical communities, and more. His work has been translated into 20 languages, and he continues to offer readings, lectures, and retreats. We recommend that you check out Mark's audio books so you'll not only experience his wisdom, but you'll get to hear his lovely baritone voice. In the transformational journey, there are no answers to questions. Questions are lanterns that we swing ahead of us to light our way as we walk together. Think of questions as a door you would open that you want to walk through with someone. Questions are thresholds to journeys, not where we get answers. Mark talks about his latest book, Inside the Miracle, which collects 30 years of his inquiry into suffering and healing, and two new books that will be coming out later this year : The One Life We're Given: Finding the Wisdom that Waits in Your Heart and a collection of over 200 of his poems called The Way Under the Way: The Place of True Meeting published by Sounds True. Both books are available for pre-order through Amazon.   Mark will be appearing at an event in Seattle July 16 – 17 sponsored by Sounds True called  Making Sense of Our Experience:The Heartwork of Resilience . Click the link for more information or to register for this great event (save $50 and register before June 1). You can view Mark's speaking schedule through 2017 at his website. If you're in the Southern California area, we encourage you to register for next year's retreat at Pine Manor, a unique facility nestled in the Cleveland National Forest near Lake Elsinore. The owner, Gail Warner, has integrated Mark's poetry into the facility, so it's a great place to spend time with him....Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-300-celebrating-our-300th-showThe Transformation Cafe started six years ago with a group of friends attending a conference in Hawaii, as Robin recounts in this week's show. They had such great conversations that they wanted to find a way to continue them. At the time internet radio was fairly new, and podcasts were just getting started.

Now you can listen any time, anywhere, using your favorite device. As Jeff observes in this week's show, the change in technology is mind-boggling; you can learn about something on a podcast and immediately put it into action by downloading an app to your smartphone. Amazing!

Two years ago we launched  Transformation-Cafe.com as a means to expand on the conversation, by adding links to videos, articles, and supporting resources.  Slowly people from all over the world started discovering the show, and now we have regular listeners from North and South America, Europe, Australia, and Asia.
We'd like to thank our contributors and guests for making the conversations so enjoyable, informative, and thought-provoking. Their individual passion and vision is very inspiring and encourages us to continue our mission to provide "A Fun Place to Nourish Your Soul"!
This Week's Guests:




Amy Frost, MBA, MA Psychology – Author, life coach, and a frequent guest host. Amy has been a major contributor in our Cafe Book Club study of Big Magic and Presence. Best of all she's Robin's sister!

Gloria Haswell – Speaker, trainer, personal development coach, and executive consultant, Gloria has been a regular with the show since it's inception six years ago. Gloria always has something unique to contribute.

Jeff Drothler – Jeff has been on the show a couple of times, most notably when we did an episode on the legacy of Wayne Dyer in episode TC 269. Jeff's specialty is connecting ideas, people, and resources



Dr. Kymn – Author and Assistant Professor at University of New York – Empire. Dr. Kymn participated in several episodes of our Cafe Book Club study of Presence.

Marvine Lindberg – Inspiration Consultant, has appeared a number of times on the show. Marvine was featured in TC 213: Cultivating Conscious Awareness.

Renee Cabourne, CFP – Author of HarMoney: A Step-by-Step Guide to Your Money. . . Your Rules, Your Way! Renee was a featured guest on episode TC 206.



 

Renee has a new Money Savvy app available for Apple and Android! Learn more at http://www.moneysavvywoman.com/5-ways-get-money-savvy-now/. You can download it from Google Play or the Apple store, and best of all it's free!
Cafe Book Club on YouTube
You can find the Transformation Cafe podcast on iTunes, iHeartRadio, Stitcher, and now Google Play Music. In addition, we've uploaded our Cafe Book Club episodes to]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2832Sun, 24 Apr 2016 14:37:04 +0000Transformation CafeOn this edition of the Transformation Cafe podcast, we welcome a half-dozen guests to help us celebrate our 300th show! The Transformation Cafe started six years ago with a group of friends attending a conference in Hawaii, as Robin recounts in this...The Transformation Cafe started six years ago with a group of friends attending a conference in Hawaii, as Robin recounts in this week's show. They had such great conversations that they wanted to find a way to continue them. At the time internet radio was fairly new, and podcasts were just getting started.

Now you can listen any time, anywhere, using your favorite device. As Jeff observes in this week's show, the change in technology is mind-boggling; you can learn about something on a podcast and immediately put it into action by downloading an app to your smartphone. Amazing!

Two years ago we launched  Transformation-Cafe.com as a means to expand on the conversation, by adding links to videos, articles, and supporting resources.  Slowly people from all over the world started discovering the show, and now we have regular listeners from North and South America, Europe, Australia, and Asia.
We'd like to thank our contributors and guests for making the conversations so enjoyable, informative, and thought-provoking. Their individual passion and vision is very inspiring and encourages us to continue our mission to provide "A Fun Place to Nourish Your Soul"!
This Week's Guests:




Amy Frost, MBA, MA Psychology – Author, life coach, and a frequent guest host. Amy has been a major contributor in our Cafe Book Club study of Big Magic and Presence. Best of all she's Robin's sister!

Gloria Haswell – Speaker, trainer, personal development coach, and executive consultant, Gloria has been a regular with the show since it's inception six years ago. Gloria always has something unique to contribute.

Jeff Drothler – Jeff has been on the show a couple of times, most notably when we did an episode on the legacy of Wayne Dyer in episode TC 269. Jeff's specialty is connecting ideas, people, and resources



Dr. Kymn – Author and Assistant Professor at University of New York – Empire. Dr. Kymn participated in several episodes of our Cafe Book Club study of Presence.

Marvine Lindberg – Inspiration Consultant, has appeared a number of times on the show. Marvine was featured in TC 213: Cultivating Conscious Awareness.

Renee Cabourne, CFP – Author of HarMoney: A Step-by-Step Guide to Your Money. . . Your Rules, Your Way! Renee was a featured guest on episode TC 206.



 

Renee has a new Money Savvy app available for Apple and Android! Learn more at http://www.moneysavvywoman.com/5-ways-get-money-savvy-now/. You can download it from Google Play or the Apple store, and best of all it's free!
Cafe Book Club on YouTube
You can find the Transformation Cafe podcast on iTunes, iHeartRadio, Stitcher, and now Google Play Music. In addition, we've uploaded our Cafe Book Club episodes to]]>1801cleanfullTransformation CafeOn this edition of the Transformation Cafe podcast, we welcome a half-dozen guests to help us celebrate our 300th show! The Transformation Cafe started six years ago with a group of friends attending a conference in Hawaii, as Robin recounts in this week's show. They had such great conversations that they wanted to find a way to continue them. At the time internet radio was fairly new, and podcasts were just getting started. Now you can listen any time, anywhere, using your favorite device. As Jeff observes in this week's show, the change in technology is mind-boggling; you can learn about something on a podcast and immediately put it into action by downloading an app to your smartphone. Amazing! Two years ago we launched  Transformation-Cafe.com as a means to expand on the conversation, by adding links to videos, articles, and supporting resources.  Slowly people from all over the world started discovering the show, and now we have regular listeners from North and South America, Europe, Australia, and Asia. We'd like to thank our contributors and guests for making the conversations so enjoyable, informative, and thought-provoking. Their individual passion and vision is very inspiring and encourages us to continue our mission to provide "A Fun Place to Nourish Your Soul"! This Week's Guests: Amy Frost, MBA, MA Psychology – Author, life coach, and a frequent guest host. Amy has been a major contributor in our Cafe Book Club study of Big Magic and Presence. Best of all she's Robin's sister! Gloria Haswell – Speaker, trainer, personal development coach, and executive consultant, Gloria has been a regular with the show since it's inception six years ago. Gloria always has something unique to contribute. Jeff Drothler – Jeff has been on the show a couple of times, most notably when we did an episode on the legacy of Wayne Dyer in episode TC 269. Jeff's specialty is connecting ideas, people, and resources Dr. Kymn – Author and Assistant Professor at University of New York – Empire. Dr. Kymn participated in several episodes of our Cafe Book Club study of Presence. Marvine Lindberg – Inspiration Consultant, has appeared a number of times on the show. Marvine was featured in TC 213: Cultivating Conscious Awareness. Renee Cabourne, CFP – Author of HarMoney: A Step-by-Step Guide to Your Money. . . Your Rules, Your Way! Renee was a featured guest on episode TC 206.   Renee has a new Money Savvy app available for Apple and Android! Learn more at http://www.moneysavvywoman.com/5-ways-get-money-savvy-now/. You can download it from Google Play or the Apple store, and best of all it's free! Cafe Book Club on YouTube You can find the Transformation Cafe podcast on iTunes, iHeartRadio, Stitcher, and now Google Play Music. In addition, we've uploaded our Cafe Book Club episodes toNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-299-30-day-sobriety-solution-part-2
Part 1 can be found in episode TC296.


From Booklist review: "Not everyone wants to join a support group to deal with their drinking problems. With that in mind, Jack Canfield, of Chicken Soup for the Soul and The Success Principles, and coauthor Dave Andrews have joined forces to produce The 30-Day Sobriety Solution: How to Quit or Cut Back on Drinking in the Privacy of Your Own Home, a 30-day blueprint to help anyone who wants to cut back or eliminate alcohol from their lives.
To learn more about the 30-Day Challenge, check out Jack's video at http://jackcanfield.com/30-day-sobriety-challenge/

For more information about the 30-Day Sobriety Solution and other programs by Jack Canfield, check out the websites below.
Companion Website:
The30DaySolution.com
http://jackcanfield.com

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Part 1 can be found in episode TC296.


From Booklist review: "Not everyone wants to join a support group to deal with their drinking problems. With that in mind, Jack Canfield, of Chicken Soup for the Soul and The Success Principles, and coauthor Dave Andrews have joined forces to produce The 30-Day Sobriety Solution: How to Quit or Cut Back on Drinking in the Privacy of Your Own Home, a 30-day blueprint to help anyone who wants to cut back or eliminate alcohol from their lives.
To learn more about the 30-Day Challenge, check out Jack's video at http://jackcanfield.com/30-day-sobriety-challenge/

For more information about the 30-Day Sobriety Solution and other programs by Jack Canfield, check out the websites below.
Companion Website:
The30DaySolution.com
http://jackcanfield.com

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amzn_assoc_default_category = "Books";]]>1817cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and her guest Amy Frost continue their discussion on The 30-Day Sobriety Solution by Jack Canfield and Dave Andrews. Amy has been going through the book with a friend, and using the techniques to make positive changes. Amy's friend ended up getting his "dream job" after completing the program. Part 1 can be found in episode TC296. From Booklist review: "Not everyone wants to join a support group to deal with their drinking problems. With that in mind, Jack Canfield, of Chicken Soup for the Soul and The Success Principles, and coauthor Dave Andrews have joined forces to produce The 30-Day Sobriety Solution: How to Quit or Cut Back on Drinking in the Privacy of Your Own Home, a 30-day blueprint to help anyone who wants to cut back or eliminate alcohol from their lives. To learn more about the 30-Day Challenge, check out Jack's video at http://jackcanfield.com/30-day-sobriety-challenge/ For more information about the 30-Day Sobriety Solution and other programs by Jack Canfield, check out the websites below. Companion Website: The30DaySolution.com http://jackcanfield.com amzn_assoc_placement = "adunit0"; amzn_assoc_enable_interest_ads = "true"; amzn_assoc_tracking_id = "transfcafe-20"; amzn_assoc_ad_mode = "auto"; amzn_assoc_ad_type = "smart"; amzn_assoc_marketplace = "amazon"; amzn_assoc_region = "US"; amzn_assoc_linkid = "ba33000cf59905a2b358066f8a6e8b6f"; amzn_assoc_emphasize_categories = "51569011,16310101,3760901,1055398,3367581,133140011,284507,301668"; amzn_assoc_fallback_mode = {"type":"search","value":"new releases"}; amzn_assoc_default_category = "Books";Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc298-healthy-narcissismAmy often conducts workshops on dealing with difficult people at work. She is currently reading Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed by Wendy Terrie Behary, LCSW. In this episode Robin, Amy, and Gloria discuss traditional narcissism (an undesirable psychological condition) and "healthy narcissism".

A Narcissist's World View

This book contains a checklist to find out if you are dealing with a narcissist. Some examples of the thirteen narcissistic traits listed by Behary include:

Self-absorbed (acts like everything is about him or her)?
Entitled (makes the rules and breaks the rules)
Demeaning (puts you down and is bullyish)
Demanding (demands whatever he or she wants)
Demanding (demands whatever he or she wants
Distrustful (is suspicious of your motives when you’re being nice to him or her)
Unempathic (is uninterested in understanding your inner experience or unable to do so)



Healthy Narcissism
"Narcissism sounds like a disaster, doesn't it? But is narcissism always bad? Actually, it's not. Healthy narcissism contains the seeds of assertiveness and self-respect. While "healthy narcissism" sounds like an oxymoron, in reality narcissism occurs along a spectrum within the human condition. Embodied in human nature itself is a tendency for narcissistic expression. And that isn't all bad."
"So how might we characterize healthy adult narcissists? Typically, they possess many of the following traits and display them frequently and with intensity:

Empathic: They are attuned to the inner world of others.
Engaging: They are charismataic, socially literate, and interpersonally companionable.
Leadership: They can conceptualize a purpose or a vision and can formulate a direction when collaborating with others.
Self-possessed: They are confident and rigorously commtted to generosity and authenticity.
Recognition Seeking: They are fueled by positive approval and motivated to make a difference.
Determined: They can push beyond dense briers of opposition.
Confrontational: They hold others accountable, but without assassinating their souls.
Wisely fearful: They can discern between reasonably disquieting solicitation and destructive seduction.


The myth of Narcissus in modern life and Art
The Myth of Narcissus has inspired several artists as well; the most known is Caravaggio who painted a young man admiring his reflection in the water.

The painters Turner and Dali were also inspired by the myth, while poets, such as Keats and Housman, used his example in many of their works.
The myth of Narcissus is known also for one additional reason; the flower Narcissus (also called Daffodil or jonquil) that is found usually at the banks of rivers and lakes, took its name after the mythical hero.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2772Thu, 07 Apr 2016 03:12:48 +0000Transformation CafeAre you dealing with a narcissist at home or at work? Is there such a thing as "healthy narcissism?" Amy often conducts workshops on dealing with difficult people at work. She is currently reading Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with...Amy often conducts workshops on dealing with difficult people at work. She is currently reading Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed by Wendy Terrie Behary, LCSW. In this episode Robin, Amy, and Gloria discuss traditional narcissism (an undesirable psychological condition) and "healthy narcissism".

A Narcissist's World View

This book contains a checklist to find out if you are dealing with a narcissist. Some examples of the thirteen narcissistic traits listed by Behary include:

Self-absorbed (acts like everything is about him or her)?
Entitled (makes the rules and breaks the rules)
Demeaning (puts you down and is bullyish)
Demanding (demands whatever he or she wants)
Demanding (demands whatever he or she wants
Distrustful (is suspicious of your motives when you’re being nice to him or her)
Unempathic (is uninterested in understanding your inner experience or unable to do so)



Healthy Narcissism
"Narcissism sounds like a disaster, doesn't it? But is narcissism always bad? Actually, it's not. Healthy narcissism contains the seeds of assertiveness and self-respect. While "healthy narcissism" sounds like an oxymoron, in reality narcissism occurs along a spectrum within the human condition. Embodied in human nature itself is a tendency for narcissistic expression. And that isn't all bad."
"So how might we characterize healthy adult narcissists? Typically, they possess many of the following traits and display them frequently and with intensity:

Empathic: They are attuned to the inner world of others.
Engaging: They are charismataic, socially literate, and interpersonally companionable.
Leadership: They can conceptualize a purpose or a vision and can formulate a direction when collaborating with others.
Self-possessed: They are confident and rigorously commtted to generosity and authenticity.
Recognition Seeking: They are fueled by positive approval and motivated to make a difference.
Determined: They can push beyond dense briers of opposition.
Confrontational: They hold others accountable, but without assassinating their souls.
Wisely fearful: They can discern between reasonably disquieting solicitation and destructive seduction.


The myth of Narcissus in modern life and Art
The Myth of Narcissus has inspired several artists as well; the most known is Caravaggio who painted a young man admiring his reflection in the water.

The painters Turner and Dali were also inspired by the myth, while poets, such as Keats and Housman, used his example in many of their works.
The myth of Narcissus is known also for one additional reason; the flower Narcissus (also called Daffodil or jonquil) that is found usually at the banks of rivers and lakes, took its name after the mythical hero.]]>1842cleanfullTransformation CafeAre you dealing with a narcissist at home or at work? Is there such a thing as "healthy narcissism?" Amy often conducts workshops on dealing with difficult people at work. She is currently reading Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed by Wendy Terrie Behary, LCSW. In this episode Robin, Amy, and Gloria discuss traditional narcissism (an undesirable psychological condition) and "healthy narcissism". A Narcissist's World View This book contains a checklist to find out if you are dealing with a narcissist. Some examples of the thirteen narcissistic traits listed by Behary include: Self-absorbed (acts like everything is about him or her)? Entitled (makes the rules and breaks the rules) Demeaning (puts you down and is bullyish) Demanding (demands whatever he or she wants) Demanding (demands whatever he or she wants Distrustful (is suspicious of your motives when you’re being nice to him or her) Unempathic (is uninterested in understanding your inner experience or unable to do so) Healthy Narcissism "Narcissism sounds like a disaster, doesn't it? But is narcissism always bad? Actually, it's not. Healthy narcissism contains the seeds of assertiveness and self-respect. While "healthy narcissism" sounds like an oxymoron, in reality narcissism occurs along a spectrum within the human condition. Embodied in human nature itself is a tendency for narcissistic expression. And that isn't all bad." "So how might we characterize healthy adult narcissists? Typically, they possess many of the following traits and display them frequently and with intensity: Empathic: They are attuned to the inner world of others. Engaging: They are charismataic, socially literate, and interpersonally companionable. Leadership: They can conceptualize a purpose or a vision and can formulate a direction when collaborating with others. Self-possessed: They are confident and rigorously commtted to generosity and authenticity. Recognition Seeking: They are fueled by positive approval and motivated to make a difference. Determined: They can push beyond dense briers of opposition. Confrontational: They hold others accountable, but without assassinating their souls. Wisely fearful: They can discern between reasonably disquieting solicitation and destructive seduction. The myth of Narcissus in modern life and Art The Myth of Narcissus has inspired several artists as well; the most known is Caravaggio who painted a young man admiring his reflection in the water. The painters Turner and Dali were also inspired by the myth, while poets, such as Keats and Housman, used his example in many of their works. The myth of Narcissus is known also for one additional reason; the flower Narcissus (also called Daffodil or jonquil) that is found usually at the banks of rivers and lakes, took its name after the mythical hero.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-297-living-the-charged-life-and-the-hBrendon is the author of The Charge: Activating the Ten Human Drives That Make You Feel Alive, The Motivation Manifesto, The Millionaire Messenger, and many other books. He also has a very popular YouTube channel.

Brendon Burchard
 
Brendon Burchard on The Caged Life

 
About Carolyn Ortman
Carolyn Ortman, owner of CKO Marketing.
CKO Marketing Group specializes in dynamic marketing and business solutions for entrepreneurs, businesses, and professionals. The company offers services through expert facilitators, consultants, and coaches.
CKO is led by Carolyn Ortman who acts as a "Marketing Matchmaker" because she empowers her clients and applies strategies and techniques to create messages and brands that bust through marketplace clutter, launch business profiles, and perfectly match their ideal audiences. Carolyn was featured in episode TC 238 of the Transformation Cafe where she discussed Marketing Yourself.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2744Mon, 04 Apr 2016 13:19:31 +0000Transformation CafeAre you Caged, Comfortable, or Charged? In this week's episode host Robin Masiewicz, and guests Amy Frost and Carolyn Ortman discuss Brendon Burchard's work on living a Charged Life, and his High Performance Academy. Brendon is the author of The...Brendon is the author of The Charge: Activating the Ten Human Drives That Make You Feel Alive, The Motivation Manifesto, The Millionaire Messenger, and many other books. He also has a very popular YouTube channel.

Brendon Burchard
 
Brendon Burchard on The Caged Life

 
About Carolyn Ortman
Carolyn Ortman, owner of CKO Marketing.
CKO Marketing Group specializes in dynamic marketing and business solutions for entrepreneurs, businesses, and professionals. The company offers services through expert facilitators, consultants, and coaches.
CKO is led by Carolyn Ortman who acts as a "Marketing Matchmaker" because she empowers her clients and applies strategies and techniques to create messages and brands that bust through marketplace clutter, launch business profiles, and perfectly match their ideal audiences. Carolyn was featured in episode TC 238 of the Transformation Cafe where she discussed Marketing Yourself.]]>1791cleanfullTransformation CafeAre you Caged, Comfortable, or Charged? In this week's episode host Robin Masiewicz, and guests Amy Frost and Carolyn Ortman discuss Brendon Burchard's work on living a Charged Life, and his High Performance Academy. Brendon is the author of The Charge: Activating the Ten Human Drives That Make You Feel Alive, The Motivation Manifesto, The Millionaire Messenger, and many other books. He also has a very popular YouTube channel. Brendon Burchard   Brendon Burchard on The Caged Life   About Carolyn Ortman Carolyn Ortman, owner of CKO Marketing. CKO Marketing Group specializes in dynamic marketing and business solutions for entrepreneurs, businesses, and professionals. The company offers services through expert facilitators, consultants, and coaches. CKO is led by Carolyn Ortman who acts as a "Marketing Matchmaker" because she empowers her clients and applies strategies and techniques to create messages and brands that bust through marketplace clutter, launch business profiles, and perfectly match their ideal audiences. Carolyn was featured in episode TC 238 of the Transformation Cafe where she discussed Marketing Yourself.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-296-the-30-day-sobriety-solutionhttp://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2720Sun, 27 Mar 2016 23:53:10 +0000Transformation Cafe1826cleanfullTransformation CafeNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-295-how-to-pose-for-presence-and-selfhttp://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2681Sun, 20 Mar 2016 21:18:17 +0000Transformation Cafe1897cleanfullTransformation CafeNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-294-posture-technology-starfishhttp://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2658Mon, 14 Mar 2016 04:38:48 +0000Transformation Cafe1810cleanfullTransformation CafeNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-293-healing-pts-through-yoga-and-breahttp://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2627Sun, 06 Mar 2016 03:49:50 +0000Transformation Cafe1711cleanfullTransformation CafeNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-292-cafe-book-club-presence-part-7-pohttp://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2599Sun, 28 Feb 2016 23:07:30 +0000Transformation Cafe1761cleanfullTransformation CafeNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-291-cafe-book-club-presence-part-6-thby Amy Cuddy, titled "Slouching, Steepling, and the Language of the Body".



More than 30 million people have watched Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk, “How Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are.” It is ranked second among the most-viewed TED talks. Amy recently discussed her research and her book on CBS Sunday Morning.



Power posing has entered the pop culture as fans of Dilbert may have noticed.









 
THE FIERCEST DISPLAY OF power at a New Zealand rugby match occurs before actual play begins
Amy Cuddy refers to the New Zealand rugby team, the All Blacks, who have performed a ceremonial dance called the "Haka" prior to each international match since 1905. It's a combination of chanting, vigorous movements, and foot-stomping with rhythmically shouted accompaniment. It comes from the Maoiri war dance and is intended to get the team pumped up (and scare the opposing team). Below is a video of the Haka at a match against France. Judge for yourself whether you think the All Blacks' body language has any effect on them and the French team. And yes, New Zealand won the match against France.

Walking with Swagger
How you walk reflects your emotional state. The Patakosmos Bio Motion Lab has an online experiment that allows you to see how someone who is happy walks versus unhappy. You can also change it from male to female, heavy to light, and nervous to relaxed. Look for the BMLWalker and move the sliders back and forth to see how the figure's walk changes.


2 Minute Posture Experiment
Take note of your posture now. How are you sitting as you read this? Are you hunched up cross legged, or stretched out? Or something else? Notice how you feel. Now, I suggest you make some adjustments. If you are sitting, move forward in your chair so that your Sitz bones are towards the front of the chair. Place your feet evenly on the floor. Allow your spine to lengthen, and come into alignment. Allow your breath to fill your lungs easily and fully. Do this for 2 minutes. What do you feel now?
Big Ideas from Presence:

Presence – Attuned and expressing your personal power
Self-Affirmation Theory – You’re Awesome!
Priming and Nudges – Build your personal power
Expand your Body – to expand your personal power
iHunch – Hunching over your phone diminishes your power
“I’m Excited!” – Reframe feelings of fear or nervousness as excitement
Boldest Version of You – Move like that. Today.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2547Sun, 21 Feb 2016 04:00:11 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and her guest Amy Frost discuss chapter 5 of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, titled "Slouching, Steepling, and the Language of the Body". More...by Amy Cuddy, titled "Slouching, Steepling, and the Language of the Body".



More than 30 million people have watched Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk, “How Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are.” It is ranked second among the most-viewed TED talks. Amy recently discussed her research and her book on CBS Sunday Morning.



Power posing has entered the pop culture as fans of Dilbert may have noticed.









 
THE FIERCEST DISPLAY OF power at a New Zealand rugby match occurs before actual play begins
Amy Cuddy refers to the New Zealand rugby team, the All Blacks, who have performed a ceremonial dance called the "Haka" prior to each international match since 1905. It's a combination of chanting, vigorous movements, and foot-stomping with rhythmically shouted accompaniment. It comes from the Maoiri war dance and is intended to get the team pumped up (and scare the opposing team). Below is a video of the Haka at a match against France. Judge for yourself whether you think the All Blacks' body language has any effect on them and the French team. And yes, New Zealand won the match against France.

Walking with Swagger
How you walk reflects your emotional state. The Patakosmos Bio Motion Lab has an online experiment that allows you to see how someone who is happy walks versus unhappy. You can also change it from male to female, heavy to light, and nervous to relaxed. Look for the BMLWalker and move the sliders back and forth to see how the figure's walk changes.


2 Minute Posture Experiment
Take note of your posture now. How are you sitting as you read this? Are you hunched up cross legged, or stretched out? Or something else? Notice how you feel. Now, I suggest you make some adjustments. If you are sitting, move forward in your chair so that your Sitz bones are towards the front of the chair. Place your feet evenly on the floor. Allow your spine to lengthen, and come into alignment. Allow your breath to fill your lungs easily and fully. Do this for 2 minutes. What do you feel now?
Big Ideas from Presence:

Presence – Attuned and expressing your personal power
Self-Affirmation Theory – You’re Awesome!
Priming and Nudges – Build your personal power
Expand your Body – to expand your personal power
iHunch – Hunching over your phone diminishes your power
“I’m Excited!” – Reframe feelings of fear or nervousness as excitement
Boldest Version of You – Move like that. Today.]]>1789cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and her guest Amy Frost discuss chapter 5 of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, titled "Slouching, Steepling, and the Language of the Body". More than 30 million people have watched Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk, “How Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are.” It is ranked second among the most-viewed TED talks. Amy recently discussed her research and her book on CBS Sunday Morning. Power posing has entered the pop culture as fans of Dilbert may have noticed.   THE FIERCEST DISPLAY OF power at a New Zealand rugby match occurs before actual play begins Amy Cuddy refers to the New Zealand rugby team, the All Blacks, who have performed a ceremonial dance called the "Haka" prior to each international match since 1905. It's a combination of chanting, vigorous movements, and foot-stomping with rhythmically shouted accompaniment. It comes from the Maoiri war dance and is intended to get the team pumped up (and scare the opposing team). Below is a video of the Haka at a match against France. Judge for yourself whether you think the All Blacks' body language has any effect on them and the French team. And yes, New Zealand won the match against France. Walking with Swagger How you walk reflects your emotional state. The Patakosmos Bio Motion Lab has an online experiment that allows you to see how someone who is happy walks versus unhappy. You can also change it from male to female, heavy to light, and nervous to relaxed. Look for the BMLWalker and move the sliders back and forth to see how the figure's walk changes. 2 Minute Posture Experiment Take note of your posture now. How are you sitting as you read this? Are you hunched up cross legged, or stretched out? Or something else? Notice how you feel. Now, I suggest you make some adjustments. If you are sitting, move forward in your chair so that your Sitz bones are towards the front of the chair. Place your feet evenly on the floor. Allow your spine to lengthen, and come into alignment. Allow your breath to fill your lungs easily and fully. Do this for 2 minutes. What do you feel now? Big Ideas from Presence: Presence – Attuned and expressing your personal power Self-Affirmation Theory – You’re Awesome! Priming and Nudges – Build your personal power Expand your Body – to expand your personal power iHunch – Hunching over your phone diminishes your power “I’m Excited!” – Reframe feelings of fear or nervousness as excitement Boldest Version of You – Move like that. Today.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-290-cafe-book-club-presence-part-5-ho


Amy Cuddy says "I hear or read stories of personal powerlessness every day. Although the details differ, the basic sketch is so often the same: a change is accompanied by a self-perceived loss of power and strength and followed by feelings of insecurity, anxiety, discouragement, and defeat. Then come physical manifestations of powerlessness along with loss of confidence and ambition."

This depleted state, which can result from a small setback or even just the normal life changes we all go through, convinces us that we lack the power to control the situations that we're in. Then opportunities take on the aspect of threats to be avoided, and feelings of fear further reinforce our sense of powerlessness, keeping us locked in an exhausting cycle.



When we feel powerful, we feel free - in control, unthreatened, and safe. We feel positive and optimistic, and our behavior is largely unrestricted by social pressures.

Powerlessness activates a psychological and behavioral inhibition system, the equivalent to an alarm-threat response where we are more attuned to threats than opportunities. We feel generally anxious and pessimistic, and we're susceptible to social pressures that inhibit us and make our behavior unrepresentative our our sincere selves.

When we feel powerless we cannot be present.

Power makes us approach. Powerlessness makes us avoid.

Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power.
- Lucius Annaeus Seneca (4 BCE - 65 CE)
Social Power versus Personal Power
Social power is characterized by the ability to exert dominance, to influence or control the behavior of others. It is earned and expressed through disproportionate control over valued resources like food, shelter, money, tools, information, status, affection, and so on.

Personal power is characterized by freedom from the dominance of others. It is infinite, as opposed to zero-sum -- it's about access to and control of limitless inner resources, such as our skills and abilities, our deeply held values, our true personalities, our boldest selves. Personal power makes us more open, optimistic, and risk tolerant and therefore more likely to notice and take advantage of opportunities.

In short, social power is power over -- the capacity to control others' states and behaviors. Personal power is the power to --the ability to control our own states and behaviors.

Unless and until we feel personally powerful, we cannot achieve presence, and all the social power in the world won't compensate for it's absence.
How Does Power Shape Our Perception?

Benefits of Feeling Powerful

Power can protect us  - against judgement, rejection, stress, and even physical pain
Power can connect us - people who feel powerful are more likely to forgive others
Power can liberate our thinking - helps us make good decisions under complex conditions
Power can synchronize us - our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, bringing us closer to presence
Power can invite action - feeling powerful makes people proactive
Power can make our actions more effective - providing a lift in high-stakes situations
Power affects our physiology - it impacts our levels of testosterone and cortisol - two powerful hormones

Priming Exercise - Infuse yourself with feelings of confidence and strength
Recall a moment when you felt personally powerful. A time when you felt fully in control of your own psychological state - when you had the confidence to act based on your boldest, most sincere self, with the sense that your actions would be effective. Maybe it was at work, at school, at home, or in some other part of your life. Take a few minutes to remember and reflect on that experience of your personal power,]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2525Sat, 13 Feb 2016 18:41:12 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and her guests discuss chapter 5 of Presence by Amy Cuddy, titled "How Powerlessness Shackles the Self (and How Power Sets It Free)". Learn how Priming and nudges can build your personal...


Amy Cuddy says "I hear or read stories of personal powerlessness every day. Although the details differ, the basic sketch is so often the same: a change is accompanied by a self-perceived loss of power and strength and followed by feelings of insecurity, anxiety, discouragement, and defeat. Then come physical manifestations of powerlessness along with loss of confidence and ambition."

This depleted state, which can result from a small setback or even just the normal life changes we all go through, convinces us that we lack the power to control the situations that we're in. Then opportunities take on the aspect of threats to be avoided, and feelings of fear further reinforce our sense of powerlessness, keeping us locked in an exhausting cycle.



When we feel powerful, we feel free - in control, unthreatened, and safe. We feel positive and optimistic, and our behavior is largely unrestricted by social pressures.

Powerlessness activates a psychological and behavioral inhibition system, the equivalent to an alarm-threat response where we are more attuned to threats than opportunities. We feel generally anxious and pessimistic, and we're susceptible to social pressures that inhibit us and make our behavior unrepresentative our our sincere selves.

When we feel powerless we cannot be present.

Power makes us approach. Powerlessness makes us avoid.

Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power.
- Lucius Annaeus Seneca (4 BCE - 65 CE)
Social Power versus Personal Power
Social power is characterized by the ability to exert dominance, to influence or control the behavior of others. It is earned and expressed through disproportionate control over valued resources like food, shelter, money, tools, information, status, affection, and so on.

Personal power is characterized by freedom from the dominance of others. It is infinite, as opposed to zero-sum -- it's about access to and control of limitless inner resources, such as our skills and abilities, our deeply held values, our true personalities, our boldest selves. Personal power makes us more open, optimistic, and risk tolerant and therefore more likely to notice and take advantage of opportunities.

In short, social power is power over -- the capacity to control others' states and behaviors. Personal power is the power to --the ability to control our own states and behaviors.

Unless and until we feel personally powerful, we cannot achieve presence, and all the social power in the world won't compensate for it's absence.
How Does Power Shape Our Perception?

Benefits of Feeling Powerful

Power can protect us  - against judgement, rejection, stress, and even physical pain
Power can connect us - people who feel powerful are more likely to forgive others
Power can liberate our thinking - helps us make good decisions under complex conditions
Power can synchronize us - our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, bringing us closer to presence
Power can invite action - feeling powerful makes people proactive
Power can make our actions more effective - providing a lift in high-stakes situations
Power affects our physiology - it impacts our levels of testosterone and cortisol - two powerful hormones

Priming Exercise - Infuse yourself with feelings of confidence and strength
Recall a moment when you felt personally powerful. A time when you felt fully in control of your own psychological state - when you had the confidence to act based on your boldest, most sincere self, with the sense that your actions would be effective. Maybe it...]]>1760cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and her guests discuss chapter 5 of Presence by Amy Cuddy, titled "How Powerlessness Shackles the Self (and How Power Sets It Free)". Learn how Priming and nudges can build your personal power. Amy Cuddy says "I hear or read stories of personal powerlessness every day. Although the details differ, the basic sketch is so often the same: a change is accompanied by a self-perceived loss of power and strength and followed by feelings of insecurity, anxiety, discouragement, and defeat. Then come physical manifestations of powerlessness along with loss of confidence and ambition." This depleted state, which can result from a small setback or even just the normal life changes we all go through, convinces us that we lack the power to control the situations that we're in. Then opportunities take on the aspect of threats to be avoided, and feelings of fear further reinforce our sense of powerlessness, keeping us locked in an exhausting cycle. When we feel powerful, we feel free - in control, unthreatened, and safe. We feel positive and optimistic, and our behavior is largely unrestricted by social pressures. Powerlessness activates a psychological and behavioral inhibition system, the equivalent to an alarm-threat response where we are more attuned to threats than opportunities. We feel generally anxious and pessimistic, and we're susceptible to social pressures that inhibit us and make our behavior unrepresentative our our sincere selves. When we feel powerless we cannot be present. Power makes us approach. Powerlessness makes us avoid. Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power. - Lucius Annaeus Seneca (4 BCE - 65 CE) Social Power versus Personal Power Social power is characterized by the ability to exert dominance, to influence or control the behavior of others. It is earned and expressed through disproportionate control over valued resources like food, shelter, money, tools, information, status, affection, and so on. Personal power is characterized by freedom from the dominance of others. It is infinite, as opposed to zero-sum -- it's about access to and control of limitless inner resources, such as our skills and abilities, our deeply held values, our true personalities, our boldest selves. Personal power makes us more open, optimistic, and risk tolerant and therefore more likely to notice and take advantage of opportunities. In short, social power is power over -- the capacity to control others' states and behaviors. Personal power is the power to --the ability to control our own states and behaviors. Unless and until we feel personally powerful, we cannot achieve presence, and all the social power in the world won't compensate for it's absence. How Does Power Shape Our Perception? Benefits of Feeling Powerful Power can protect us  - against judgement, rejection, stress, and even physical pain Power can connect us - people who feel powerful are more likely to forgive others Power can liberate our thinking - helps us make good decisions under complex conditions Power can synchronize us - our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, bringing us closer to presence Power can invite action - feeling powerful makes people proactive Power can make our actions more effective - providing a lift in high-stakes situations Power affects our physiology - it impacts our levels of testosterone and cortisol - two powerful hormones Priming Exercise - Infuse yourself with feelings of confidence and strength Recall a moment when you felt personally powerful. A time when you felt fully in control of your own psychological state - when you had the confidence to act based on your boldest, most sincere self, with the sense that your actions would be effective. Maybe it was at work, at school, at home, or in some other part of your life. Take a few minutes to remember and reflect on that experience of your personal power,Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-289-cafe-book-club-presence-part-4-i-


If achieving presence requires us to be totally in tune with our truest feelings, beliefs, abilities, and values, then we certainly cannot be present when we feel like a fraud. Instead, we are discordant, frazzled, and utterly unconvincing. And just as presence is self-reinforcing, so, too, is feeling fake.

Imposterism steals our power and suffocates our presence. If even you don't believe you should be here, how will you convince anyone else?



Amy Cuddy discusses best selling author and Sci-Fi legend Neil Gaiman, winner of an amazing number of literary awards including the Newberry and Carnegie medals for The Graveyard Book, and the Hugo and Nebula awards to name just a few. Several of his books have been made into live-action movies (Stardust, which he also produced) and animated feature films such as Coraline, and the Neverwhere TV series. His works of short fiction include Trigger Warning: Short Fictions and Disturbances, Smoke and Mirrors: Short Fictions and Illusions, and Fragile Things: Short Fictions and Wonders. By any measure Neil Gaiman is an astounding success.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2483Tue, 02 Feb 2016 20:19:11 +0000Transformation CafeIn this chapter of Presence titled "I Don't Deserve to Be Here", Amy Cuddy explores the Impostor Phenomenon. Host Robin Masiewicz, Amy Frost, Dr. Kymn and Michelle explore this mind set that steals our power. If achieving presence requires us to be...


If achieving presence requires us to be totally in tune with our truest feelings, beliefs, abilities, and values, then we certainly cannot be present when we feel like a fraud. Instead, we are discordant, frazzled, and utterly unconvincing. And just as presence is self-reinforcing, so, too, is feeling fake.

Imposterism steals our power and suffocates our presence. If even you don't believe you should be here, how will you convince anyone else?



Amy Cuddy discusses best selling author and Sci-Fi legend Neil Gaiman, winner of an amazing number of literary awards including the Newberry and Carnegie medals for The Graveyard Book, and the Hugo and Nebula awards to name just a few. Several of his books have been made into live-action movies (Stardust, which he also produced) and animated feature films such as Coraline, and the Neverwhere TV series. His works of short fiction include Trigger Warning: Short Fictions and Disturbances, Smoke and Mirrors: Short Fictions and Illusions, and Fragile Things: Short Fictions and Wonders. By any measure Neil Gaiman is an astounding success.]]>1772cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this chapter of Presence titled "I Don't Deserve to Be Here", Amy Cuddy explores the Impostor Phenomenon. Host Robin Masiewicz, Amy Frost, Dr. Kymn and Michelle explore this mind set that steals our power. If achieving presence requires us to be totally in tune with our truest feelings, beliefs, abilities, and values, then we certainly cannot be present when we feel like a fraud. Instead, we are discordant, frazzled, and utterly unconvincing. And just as presence is self-reinforcing, so, too, is feeling fake. Imposterism steals our power and suffocates our presence. If even you don't believe you should be here, how will you convince anyone else? Amy Cuddy discusses best selling author and Sci-Fi legend Neil Gaiman, winner of an amazing number of literary awards including the Newberry and Carnegie medals for The Graveyard Book, and the Hugo and Nebula awards to name just a few. Several of his books have been made into live-action movies (Stardust, which he also produced) and animated feature films such as Coraline, and the Neverwhere TV series. His works of short fiction include Trigger Warning: Short Fictions and Disturbances, Smoke and Mirrors: Short Fictions and Illusions, and Fragile Things: Short Fictions and Wonders. By any measure Neil Gaiman is an astounding success.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-288-cafe-book-club-presence-by-amy-cu
On the work of the Rev. Jeffrey Brown, co-founder of the Boston TenPoint Coalition, to help reduce gang violence in the city in the 1990s, which she discusses in her book

Jeffrey and these other young ministers decided that what they needed to do was meet [gang members] in their homes, which meant going out and walking the streets from 10:00 p.m. to 2:00 a.m. And they wore their collars, but they came saying, “We don’t have answers. We want to listen.”

And it took a long time to earn the trust of these young people. Jeffrey said, “Before that, everything I knew about gang violence I learned on the 11 o’clock news. So I started asking questions, like, What’s it like to deal drugs? What’s it like to know that this is a short life?” As he would say, “Stop preaching and start listening.” And presence is so much about recognizing that. You don’t have all the answers. Sometimes you have to shut up and listen to be effective, to actually, truly, authentically engage in that situation, even when it’s really, really challenging to do that.

"The paradox of listening is that by relinquishing power -- the temporary power of speaking, asserting, knowing -- we become more powerful."

TED talk by Rev. Jeffrey Brown, a Baptist minister and key player in the "Boston miracle" that lowered the rate of youth crime and gang violence. His story is featured in this chapter.



 

During the discussion, Robin mentions a book by Mark Nepo, one of her favorite authors called Seven Thousand Ways to Listen: Staying Close to What Is Sacred.






 

Another individual featured in this chapter is William Ury, author of Getting to Yes with Yourself: And Other Worthy Opponents, and Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. Ury is cofounder of the Harvard Negotiation Project (HNP), with a mission to improve the theory, teaching, and practice of negotiation and dispute resolution, so that people could deal more constructively with conflicts ranging from the interpersonal to the international.



In this episode Amy suggests an exercise to reflect on someone in your life that has demonstrated being present by really listening. It could be a teacher, coworker, family member, clergy, anyone that has made you feel that you were being heard. Share your thoughts about this topic by leaving a comment.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2435Sat, 30 Jan 2016 01:52:26 +0000Transformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club we focus on part 3 of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy. This chapter is titled "Stop Preaching, Start Listening: How Presence Begets Presence". It features a very moving story...
On the work of the Rev. Jeffrey Brown, co-founder of the Boston TenPoint Coalition, to help reduce gang violence in the city in the 1990s, which she discusses in her book

Jeffrey and these other young ministers decided that what they needed to do was meet [gang members] in their homes, which meant going out and walking the streets from 10:00 p.m. to 2:00 a.m. And they wore their collars, but they came saying, “We don’t have answers. We want to listen.”

And it took a long time to earn the trust of these young people. Jeffrey said, “Before that, everything I knew about gang violence I learned on the 11 o’clock news. So I started asking questions, like, What’s it like to deal drugs? What’s it like to know that this is a short life?” As he would say, “Stop preaching and start listening.” And presence is so much about recognizing that. You don’t have all the answers. Sometimes you have to shut up and listen to be effective, to actually, truly, authentically engage in that situation, even when it’s really, really challenging to do that.

"The paradox of listening is that by relinquishing power -- the temporary power of speaking, asserting, knowing -- we become more powerful."

TED talk by Rev. Jeffrey Brown, a Baptist minister and key player in the "Boston miracle" that lowered the rate of youth crime and gang violence. His story is featured in this chapter.



 

During the discussion, Robin mentions a book by Mark Nepo, one of her favorite authors called Seven Thousand Ways to Listen: Staying Close to What Is Sacred.






 

Another individual featured in this chapter is William Ury, author of Getting to Yes with Yourself: And Other Worthy Opponents, and Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. Ury is cofounder of the Harvard Negotiation Project (HNP), with a mission to improve the theory, teaching, and practice of negotiation and dispute resolution, so that people could deal more constructively with conflicts ranging from the interpersonal to the international.



In this episode Amy suggests an exercise to reflect on someone in your life that has demonstrated being present by really listening. It could be a teacher, coworker, family member, clergy, anyone that has made you feel that you were being heard. Share your thoughts about this topic by leaving a comment.]]>1746cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this week's Cafe Book Club we focus on part 3 of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy. This chapter is titled "Stop Preaching, Start Listening: How Presence Begets Presence". It features a very moving story of how a group of pastors were able to address very serious problems of gang violence by being fully present. On the work of the Rev. Jeffrey Brown, co-founder of the Boston TenPoint Coalition, to help reduce gang violence in the city in the 1990s, which she discusses in her book Jeffrey and these other young ministers decided that what they needed to do was meet [gang members] in their homes, which meant going out and walking the streets from 10:00 p.m. to 2:00 a.m. And they wore their collars, but they came saying, “We don’t have answers. We want to listen.” And it took a long time to earn the trust of these young people. Jeffrey said, “Before that, everything I knew about gang violence I learned on the 11 o’clock news. So I started asking questions, like, What’s it like to deal drugs? What’s it like to know that this is a short life?” As he would say, “Stop preaching and start listening.” And presence is so much about recognizing that. You don’t have all the answers. Sometimes you have to shut up and listen to be effective, to actually, truly, authentically engage in that situation, even when it’s really, really challenging to do that. "The paradox of listening is that by relinquishing power -- the temporary power of speaking, asserting, knowing -- we become more powerful." TED talk by Rev. Jeffrey Brown, a Baptist minister and key player in the "Boston miracle" that lowered the rate of youth crime and gang violence. His story is featured in this chapter.   During the discussion, Robin mentions a book by Mark Nepo, one of her favorite authors called Seven Thousand Ways to Listen: Staying Close to What Is Sacred.   Another individual featured in this chapter is William Ury, author of Getting to Yes with Yourself: And Other Worthy Opponents, and Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. Ury is cofounder of the Harvard Negotiation Project (HNP), with a mission to improve the theory, teaching, and practice of negotiation and dispute resolution, so that people could deal more constructively with conflicts ranging from the interpersonal to the international. In this episode Amy suggests an exercise to reflect on someone in your life that has demonstrated being present by really listening. It could be a teacher, coworker, family member, clergy, anyone that has made you feel that you were being heard. Share your thoughts about this topic by leaving a comment.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-287-cafe-book-club-presence-by-amy-cu
This week we're discussing "Believing and Owning Your Story", chapter 2 of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, PhD, Social Psychologist and Associate Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School.



First, a quick definition of presence:
What is Presence?
Presence = “the state of being attuned to and able to comfortably express our true thoughts, feelings, values, and potential.”

Mikhail Baryshnikov - An Example of Presence in Performance

What is the Authentic Self?
"So here's the question: What is the authentic self? What exactly does it mean to be true to yourself? Is it what your friends have in mind when they encourage you to 'just be yourself'? Is it the feeling we have when we're 'being real'? Can we expect to be the same person, in every circumstance, at every moment? How many selves are there, and how is it determined which one we express?"

"Before we answer that, let's talk briefly about the broader question: What is the self?"

The three most important things to understand about the self, particularly as it relates to presence:
The self is:

Multifaceted, not singular.
Expressed and reflected through our thoughts, feelings, values, and behaviors.
Dynamic and flexible, not static and rigid.

So, how do we go about identifying the best parts of ourselves, the parts that feel the most "real" to you? Amy offers the following questions:
Identifying the Best Parts of Ourselves

What three words best describe you as an individual? Write them down.
Which one is most essential to who you are?
Briefly reflect on WHY it's important to you, and a specific time when you demonstrated that value.

Okay, so why is being aware of and living consistent with my values important? Here's what the science shows:
Self-Affirmation Theory
Self-affirmation is a Big Idea.

But not, as Cuddy tells us, in the Stuart Smalley cheesy “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and, doggone it, people like me!” kind of way.

Here's how we know it works: Social psychologists have created a little test to stress you out and then measure your response. It’s called the Trier Social Stress Test (TSST).

Imagine being asked to give an impromptu 5-minute speech in front of a panel of judges who are told to simply look at you sternly and offer no positive feedback. THEN, while still in front of those judges, you need to count backwards from 2,083 by 13 with the judges barking at you to "go faster".

I'm getting stressed just thinking about it. . .

Well, here’s what’s fascinating: Usually, when people go through that experience, their cortisol (stress hormone) levels spike. BUT, if they first reflect on a core value that is very important to them and write a brief description of WHY it’s important to them, they can go through that stress test WITHOUT the typical spikes in cortisol.

What's surprising about these findings is that the participants affirmed their personal core values -- not values or abilities that were relevant to the stressful tasks at hand.

That’s awesome. It’s the power of Self-Affirmation Theory. When we are aware of and living consistent with our values, we’re more powerful.

"It makes us feel less dependent on the approval of others and even comfortable with their disapproval if that's what we get."
Believing Your Own Story
So the key is not psyching yourself up or saying "I am the best at this task" or "I am a winner". Your boldest self emerges through the experience of having full access to your values, traits, and strengths and knowing that you can autonomously and sincerely express them through your actions and ...]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2379Sat, 23 Jan 2016 16:40:26 +0000Transformation CafeWelcome to the Cafe Book Club! Our illustrious panel of transformational thinkers are "present" and accounted for! This week we're discussing "Believing and Owning Your Story", chapter 2 of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest...
This week we're discussing "Believing and Owning Your Story", chapter 2 of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, PhD, Social Psychologist and Associate Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School.



First, a quick definition of presence:
What is Presence?
Presence = “the state of being attuned to and able to comfortably express our true thoughts, feelings, values, and potential.”

Mikhail Baryshnikov - An Example of Presence in Performance

What is the Authentic Self?
"So here's the question: What is the authentic self? What exactly does it mean to be true to yourself? Is it what your friends have in mind when they encourage you to 'just be yourself'? Is it the feeling we have when we're 'being real'? Can we expect to be the same person, in every circumstance, at every moment? How many selves are there, and how is it determined which one we express?"

"Before we answer that, let's talk briefly about the broader question: What is the self?"

The three most important things to understand about the self, particularly as it relates to presence:
The self is:

Multifaceted, not singular.
Expressed and reflected through our thoughts, feelings, values, and behaviors.
Dynamic and flexible, not static and rigid.

So, how do we go about identifying the best parts of ourselves, the parts that feel the most "real" to you? Amy offers the following questions:
Identifying the Best Parts of Ourselves

What three words best describe you as an individual? Write them down.
Which one is most essential to who you are?
Briefly reflect on WHY it's important to you, and a specific time when you demonstrated that value.

Okay, so why is being aware of and living consistent with my values important? Here's what the science shows:
Self-Affirmation Theory
Self-affirmation is a Big Idea.

But not, as Cuddy tells us, in the Stuart Smalley cheesy “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and, doggone it, people like me!” kind of way.

Here's how we know it works: Social psychologists have created a little test to stress you out and then measure your response. It’s called the Trier Social Stress Test (TSST).

Imagine being asked to give an impromptu 5-minute speech in front of a panel of judges who are told to simply look at you sternly and offer no positive feedback. THEN, while still in front of those judges, you need to count backwards from 2,083 by 13 with the judges barking at you to "go faster".

I'm getting stressed just thinking about it. . .

Well, here’s what’s fascinating: Usually, when people go through that experience, their cortisol (stress hormone) levels spike. BUT, if they first reflect on a core value that is very important to them and write a brief description of WHY it’s important to them, they can go through that stress test WITHOUT the typical spikes in cortisol.

What's surprising about these findings is that the participants affirmed their personal core values -- not values or abilities that were relevant to the stressful tasks at hand.

That’s awesome. It’s the power of Self-Affirmation Theory. When we are aware of and living consistent with our values, we’re more powerful.

"It makes us feel less dependent on the approval of others and even comfortable with their disapproval if that's what we get."
Believing Your Own Story
So the key is not psyching yourself up or saying "I am the best at this task" or "I am a winner". Your boldest self emerges through the experience of having full access to your values, traits, and strengths and knowing that you can autonomously and sincerely express them through your actions...]]>1852cleanfullTransformation CafeWelcome to the Cafe Book Club! Our illustrious panel of transformational thinkers are "present" and accounted for! This week we're discussing "Believing and Owning Your Story", chapter 2 of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, PhD, Social Psychologist and Associate Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School. First, a quick definition of presence: What is Presence? Presence = “the state of being attuned to and able to comfortably express our true thoughts, feelings, values, and potential.” Mikhail Baryshnikov - An Example of Presence in Performance What is the Authentic Self? "So here's the question: What is the authentic self? What exactly does it mean to be true to yourself? Is it what your friends have in mind when they encourage you to 'just be yourself'? Is it the feeling we have when we're 'being real'? Can we expect to be the same person, in every circumstance, at every moment? How many selves are there, and how is it determined which one we express?" "Before we answer that, let's talk briefly about the broader question: What is the self?" The three most important things to understand about the self, particularly as it relates to presence: The self is: Multifaceted, not singular. Expressed and reflected through our thoughts, feelings, values, and behaviors. Dynamic and flexible, not static and rigid. So, how do we go about identifying the best parts of ourselves, the parts that feel the most "real" to you? Amy offers the following questions: Identifying the Best Parts of Ourselves What three words best describe you as an individual? Write them down. Which one is most essential to who you are? Briefly reflect on WHY it's important to you, and a specific time when you demonstrated that value. Okay, so why is being aware of and living consistent with my values important? Here's what the science shows: Self-Affirmation Theory Self-affirmation is a Big Idea. But not, as Cuddy tells us, in the Stuart Smalley cheesy “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and, doggone it, people like me!” kind of way. Here's how we know it works: Social psychologists have created a little test to stress you out and then measure your response. It’s called the Trier Social Stress Test (TSST). Imagine being asked to give an impromptu 5-minute speech in front of a panel of judges who are told to simply look at you sternly and offer no positive feedback. THEN, while still in front of those judges, you need to count backwards from 2,083 by 13 with the judges barking at you to "go faster". I'm getting stressed just thinking about it. . . Well, here’s what’s fascinating: Usually, when people go through that experience, their cortisol (stress hormone) levels spike. BUT, if they first reflect on a core value that is very important to them and write a brief description of WHY it’s important to them, they can go through that stress test WITHOUT the typical spikes in cortisol. What's surprising about these findings is that the participants affirmed their personal core values -- not values or abilities that were relevant to the stressful tasks at hand. That’s awesome. It’s the power of Self-Affirmation Theory. When we are aware of and living consistent with our values, we’re more powerful. "It makes us feel less dependent on the approval of others and even comfortable with their disapproval if that's what we get." Believing Your Own Story So the key is not psyching yourself up or saying "I am the best at this task" or "I am a winner". Your boldest self emerges through the experience of having full access to your values, traits, and strengths and knowing that you can autonomously and sincerely express them through your actions and ...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-286-cafe-book-club-presence-by-amy-cu
In the Cafe Book Club we're reading Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, PhD, Social Psychologist and Associate Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School.



Amy is best known for her research on stereotyping and discrimination, emotions, power, nonverbal behavior, and the effects of social stimuli on hormone levels. And after listening to her and reading more about her, I think she is just a really good person.

Since how one is perceived plays an important part in one's success, Presence is featured in Success Magazine's January 2016 Reading List.  It's also on top of many other lists as one of the top business books of 2015. So what has people everywhere so intrigued?



Amy Cuddy’s research on body language reveals that we can change other people’s perceptions — and even our own body chemistry — simply by changing body positions.

In the introduction Amy Cuddy talks about personal power:
"The opposite of powerlessness must be power, right? In a sense that's true, but it's not quite that simple. The research I've been doing for years now joins a large body of inquiry int a quality I call Presence. Presence stems from believing in and trusting yourself --your real, honest feelings, values, and abilities. That's important, because if you don't trust yourself, how can others trust you? Whether we are talking in front of two people or five thousand, interviewing for a job, negotiating for a raise, or pitching a business idea to potential investors, speaking up for ourselves or speaking up for someone else, we all face daunting moments that must be met with poise if we want to feel good about ourselves and make progress in our lives. Presence gives us the power to rise to these moments."


Amy's story of serious brain injury
Amy Cuddy is an amazing person. She connects her research in social science to how it actually plays out in the real world. She recounts suffering from a traumatic brain injury as a result of a serious car accident while she was only 19.  It took her many years to recover, and the person she had been had ceased to exist. Her personality had changed. Her IQ dropped 30 points. She had to drop out of college. She briefly recounts this story in her TED talk which you can watch below.

After much effort she had to relearn how to learn, and study much harder than her peers. It took her four extra years, but she finished college. She says that one of the reasons she persisted was that she'd found something she liked to study: psychology. After college "I managed to enter a profession that required a fully functioning brain. . . . Along the way, not surprisingly, I became a person for whom all these questions of presence and power, of confidence and doubt, took on a great deal of significance."

More than 28 million people have watched Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk, “How Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are.” It is ranked second among the most-viewed TED talks.



In this week's conversation, Cafe regular Amy Frost references the following quote:

“What You Do Speaks So Loudly I Cannot Hear What You Are Saying”
- attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson
In case you're wondering what Ralph Waldo Emerson really said, here's a]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2316Sun, 10 Jan 2016 18:08:50 +0000Transformation CafeIt's time to get bold! This week we have a powerful group discussion about Presence. In the Cafe Book Club we're reading Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, PhD, Social Psychologist and Associate Professor of...
In the Cafe Book Club we're reading Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, PhD, Social Psychologist and Associate Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School.



Amy is best known for her research on stereotyping and discrimination, emotions, power, nonverbal behavior, and the effects of social stimuli on hormone levels. And after listening to her and reading more about her, I think she is just a really good person.

Since how one is perceived plays an important part in one's success, Presence is featured in Success Magazine's January 2016 Reading List.  It's also on top of many other lists as one of the top business books of 2015. So what has people everywhere so intrigued?



Amy Cuddy’s research on body language reveals that we can change other people’s perceptions — and even our own body chemistry — simply by changing body positions.

In the introduction Amy Cuddy talks about personal power:
"The opposite of powerlessness must be power, right? In a sense that's true, but it's not quite that simple. The research I've been doing for years now joins a large body of inquiry int a quality I call Presence. Presence stems from believing in and trusting yourself --your real, honest feelings, values, and abilities. That's important, because if you don't trust yourself, how can others trust you? Whether we are talking in front of two people or five thousand, interviewing for a job, negotiating for a raise, or pitching a business idea to potential investors, speaking up for ourselves or speaking up for someone else, we all face daunting moments that must be met with poise if we want to feel good about ourselves and make progress in our lives. Presence gives us the power to rise to these moments."


Amy's story of serious brain injury
Amy Cuddy is an amazing person. She connects her research in social science to how it actually plays out in the real world. She recounts suffering from a traumatic brain injury as a result of a serious car accident while she was only 19.  It took her many years to recover, and the person she had been had ceased to exist. Her personality had changed. Her IQ dropped 30 points. She had to drop out of college. She briefly recounts this story in her TED talk which you can watch below.

After much effort she had to relearn how to learn, and study much harder than her peers. It took her four extra years, but she finished college. She says that one of the reasons she persisted was that she'd found something she liked to study: psychology. After college "I managed to enter a profession that required a fully functioning brain. . . . Along the way, not surprisingly, I became a person for whom all these questions of presence and power, of confidence and doubt, took on a great deal of significance."

More than 28 million people have watched Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk, “How Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are.” It is ranked second among the most-viewed TED talks.



In this week's conversation, Cafe regular Amy Frost references the following quote:

“What You Do Speaks So Loudly I Cannot Hear What You Are Saying”
- attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson
In case you're wondering what Ralph Waldo Emerson really said, here's a]]>1783cleanfullTransformation CafeIt's time to get bold! This week we have a powerful group discussion about Presence. In the Cafe Book Club we're reading Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, PhD, Social Psychologist and Associate Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School. Amy is best known for her research on stereotyping and discrimination, emotions, power, nonverbal behavior, and the effects of social stimuli on hormone levels. And after listening to her and reading more about her, I think she is just a really good person. Since how one is perceived plays an important part in one's success, Presence is featured in Success Magazine's January 2016 Reading List.  It's also on top of many other lists as one of the top business books of 2015. So what has people everywhere so intrigued? Amy Cuddy’s research on body language reveals that we can change other people’s perceptions — and even our own body chemistry — simply by changing body positions. In the introduction Amy Cuddy talks about personal power: "The opposite of powerlessness must be power, right? In a sense that's true, but it's not quite that simple. The research I've been doing for years now joins a large body of inquiry int a quality I call Presence. Presence stems from believing in and trusting yourself --your real, honest feelings, values, and abilities. That's important, because if you don't trust yourself, how can others trust you? Whether we are talking in front of two people or five thousand, interviewing for a job, negotiating for a raise, or pitching a business idea to potential investors, speaking up for ourselves or speaking up for someone else, we all face daunting moments that must be met with poise if we want to feel good about ourselves and make progress in our lives. Presence gives us the power to rise to these moments." Amy's story of serious brain injury Amy Cuddy is an amazing person. She connects her research in social science to how it actually plays out in the real world. She recounts suffering from a traumatic brain injury as a result of a serious car accident while she was only 19.  It took her many years to recover, and the person she had been had ceased to exist. Her personality had changed. Her IQ dropped 30 points. She had to drop out of college. She briefly recounts this story in her TED talk which you can watch below. After much effort she had to relearn how to learn, and study much harder than her peers. It took her four extra years, but she finished college. She says that one of the reasons she persisted was that she'd found something she liked to study: psychology. After college "I managed to enter a profession that required a fully functioning brain. . . . Along the way, not surprisingly, I became a person for whom all these questions of presence and power, of confidence and doubt, took on a great deal of significance." More than 28 million people have watched Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk, “How Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are.” It is ranked second among the most-viewed TED talks. In this week's conversation, Cafe regular Amy Frost references the following quote: “What You Do Speaks So Loudly I Cannot Hear What You Are Saying” - attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson In case you're wondering what Ralph Waldo Emerson really said, here's aNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-285-on-being-a-lifelong-seeker



Update on Envisioning the Future and Following Your Intuition
In this episode Robin Masiewicz and her guests talk about their progress applying the principles of envisioning the future. Amy tells a story about how she attended a ceremony for Army Reservists that are being deployed to Kuwait for ten months, and how the reservist's children and family attended to say goodbye. Amy found out that artist and children's author Sally Huss had just released a children's book called My Father's Shirt about children dealing with military separation. Amy was inspired to reach out to Sally, and within an hour Sally responded. Wow!


 
Being a Lifelong Seeker
They also discuss how they are each lifelong seekers of wisdom, knowledge, spirituality, and other aspects of becoming a complete person. Robin mentions a quote by Socrates, Einstein and others, "The more I learn, the less I know", because as we learn we gain an appreciation for how much there is to know. The more we delve in to a topic, the deeper and bigger the questions become. Even Michelangelo said at age 87 "I am still learning", and he was a Renaissance master painter and sculptor.



 
Cafe Book Club is Back with "Presence"
Also in this episode they announce the next book in our Cafe Book Club: Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy.



"By accessing our personal power, we can achieve "presence," the state in which we stop worrying about the impression we're making on others and instead adjust the impression we've been making on ourselves. As Harvard professor Amy Cuddy's revolutionary book reveals, we don't need to embark on a grand spiritual quest or complete an inner transformation to harness the power of presence. Instead, we need to nudge ourselves, moment by moment, by tweaking our body language, behavior, and mind-set in our day-to-day lives."

This book is packed with a number of fascinating research studies proving the power of creating presence via mind and body practices along with some inspiring stories of people who have put the wisdom to use and changed their lives in the process.

 

 

So what are you seeking this year? How will you put your wisdom to use and transform your life? Let us know your thoughts by leaving a comment.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2306Sun, 10 Jan 2016 04:39:00 +0000Transformation CafeWell, here we are in the New Year! Happy 2016 to everyone in the Transformation Cafe Community! We genuinely hope that you are doing well wherever you are in the world. Here in beautiful Southern California we're finally getting some relief from our...



Update on Envisioning the Future and Following Your Intuition
In this episode Robin Masiewicz and her guests talk about their progress applying the principles of envisioning the future. Amy tells a story about how she attended a ceremony for Army Reservists that are being deployed to Kuwait for ten months, and how the reservist's children and family attended to say goodbye. Amy found out that artist and children's author Sally Huss had just released a children's book called My Father's Shirt about children dealing with military separation. Amy was inspired to reach out to Sally, and within an hour Sally responded. Wow!


 
Being a Lifelong Seeker
They also discuss how they are each lifelong seekers of wisdom, knowledge, spirituality, and other aspects of becoming a complete person. Robin mentions a quote by Socrates, Einstein and others, "The more I learn, the less I know", because as we learn we gain an appreciation for how much there is to know. The more we delve in to a topic, the deeper and bigger the questions become. Even Michelangelo said at age 87 "I am still learning", and he was a Renaissance master painter and sculptor.



 
Cafe Book Club is Back with "Presence"
Also in this episode they announce the next book in our Cafe Book Club: Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy.



"By accessing our personal power, we can achieve "presence," the state in which we stop worrying about the impression we're making on others and instead adjust the impression we've been making on ourselves. As Harvard professor Amy Cuddy's revolutionary book reveals, we don't need to embark on a grand spiritual quest or complete an inner transformation to harness the power of presence. Instead, we need to nudge ourselves, moment by moment, by tweaking our body language, behavior, and mind-set in our day-to-day lives."

This book is packed with a number of fascinating research studies proving the power of creating presence via mind and body practices along with some inspiring stories of people who have put the wisdom to use and changed their lives in the process.

 

 

So what are you seeking this year? How will you put your wisdom to use and transform your life? Let us know your thoughts by leaving a comment.]]>1740cleanfullTransformation CafeWell, here we are in the New Year! Happy 2016 to everyone in the Transformation Cafe Community! We genuinely hope that you are doing well wherever you are in the world. Here in beautiful Southern California we're finally getting some relief from our long drought, but as with anything, sometimes you get more than you ask for. Mudslides and flooded streets are a problem here, and we've had 20 foot (6 meter) waves on the coast. But today it is clear and there's new snow on the mountains. Update on Envisioning the Future and Following Your Intuition In this episode Robin Masiewicz and her guests talk about their progress applying the principles of envisioning the future. Amy tells a story about how she attended a ceremony for Army Reservists that are being deployed to Kuwait for ten months, and how the reservist's children and family attended to say goodbye. Amy found out that artist and children's author Sally Huss had just released a children's book called My Father's Shirt about children dealing with military separation. Amy was inspired to reach out to Sally, and within an hour Sally responded. Wow!   Being a Lifelong Seeker They also discuss how they are each lifelong seekers of wisdom, knowledge, spirituality, and other aspects of becoming a complete person. Robin mentions a quote by Socrates, Einstein and others, "The more I learn, the less I know", because as we learn we gain an appreciation for how much there is to know. The more we delve in to a topic, the deeper and bigger the questions become. Even Michelangelo said at age 87 "I am still learning", and he was a Renaissance master painter and sculptor.   Cafe Book Club is Back with "Presence" Also in this episode they announce the next book in our Cafe Book Club: Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy. "By accessing our personal power, we can achieve "presence," the state in which we stop worrying about the impression we're making on others and instead adjust the impression we've been making on ourselves. As Harvard professor Amy Cuddy's revolutionary book reveals, we don't need to embark on a grand spiritual quest or complete an inner transformation to harness the power of presence. Instead, we need to nudge ourselves, moment by moment, by tweaking our body language, behavior, and mind-set in our day-to-day lives." This book is packed with a number of fascinating research studies proving the power of creating presence via mind and body practices along with some inspiring stories of people who have put the wisdom to use and changed their lives in the process.     So what are you seeking this year? How will you put your wisdom to use and transform your life? Let us know your thoughts by leaving a comment.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-284-envisioning-your-future-self


Using the power of intention and visualization of how you want to be in the future, the "optimal you", helps you to make better decisions in the present, and enables you to take steps to achieve the future you imagine.
Vision Boards
Vision Boards have been around for quite a while. Creating a vision board will give you a clear picture of what is important to you and, will define for you what your goal actually looks like. Huffington Post has an article on 7 Reasons Why You Need a Vision Board in 2016.
Visualization Techniques
An article titled Visualization Techniques: The Future Self Movie is available from Visualmeditation.co. It provides a four step process to create a mental movie of your happy and successful future self.
Making Better Decisions
According to this article in the Harvard Business Review, being able to connect to your future self helps you make better decisions now. The Stanford study used a technique of creating photos of each person "aged" to make them look 10 to 20 years older. Being able to connect to this older  representation of your future self made them more conscious of the decisions they make in the present.

Here's to having a great 2016! Happy New Year!]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2301Mon, 04 Jan 2016 04:47:08 +0000Transformation CafeHappy New Year! In this week's podcast, hosts Robin Masiewicz, Amy Frost, and the panel continue their discussion on techniques for envisioning your future self. This process can take many forms -- from journaling, letter writing, meditation, mental...


Using the power of intention and visualization of how you want to be in the future, the "optimal you", helps you to make better decisions in the present, and enables you to take steps to achieve the future you imagine.
Vision Boards
Vision Boards have been around for quite a while. Creating a vision board will give you a clear picture of what is important to you and, will define for you what your goal actually looks like. Huffington Post has an article on 7 Reasons Why You Need a Vision Board in 2016.
Visualization Techniques
An article titled Visualization Techniques: The Future Self Movie is available from Visualmeditation.co. It provides a four step process to create a mental movie of your happy and successful future self.
Making Better Decisions
According to this article in the Harvard Business Review, being able to connect to your future self helps you make better decisions now. The Stanford study used a technique of creating photos of each person "aged" to make them look 10 to 20 years older. Being able to connect to this older  representation of your future self made them more conscious of the decisions they make in the present.

Here's to having a great 2016! Happy New Year!]]>1796cleanfullTransformation CafeHappy New Year! In this week's podcast, hosts Robin Masiewicz, Amy Frost, and the panel continue their discussion on techniques for envisioning your future self. This process can take many forms -- from journaling, letter writing, meditation, mental visualization, vision boards, and other techniques. Using the power of intention and visualization of how you want to be in the future, the "optimal you", helps you to make better decisions in the present, and enables you to take steps to achieve the future you imagine. Vision Boards Vision Boards have been around for quite a while. Creating a vision board will give you a clear picture of what is important to you and, will define for you what your goal actually looks like. Huffington Post has an article on 7 Reasons Why You Need a Vision Board in 2016. Visualization Techniques An article titled Visualization Techniques: The Future Self Movie is available from Visualmeditation.co. It provides a four step process to create a mental movie of your happy and successful future self. Making Better Decisions According to this article in the Harvard Business Review, being able to connect to your future self helps you make better decisions now. The Stanford study used a technique of creating photos of each person "aged" to make them look 10 to 20 years older. Being able to connect to this older  representation of your future self made them more conscious of the decisions they make in the present. Here's to having a great 2016! Happy New Year!Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-283-letters-to-my-future-self


Amy describes how she came across the book "Letters to My Future Self" which is sort of a diary in the form of letter addressed to your self, recently featured as one of Oprah's Favorite Things for 2015.



The book contains the following 12 letter prompts:


* These are my roots...
* Where I want to go...
* All the things I'd like to try someday...
* This is what I live for...
* It was an extraordinary day...
* I promise to myself...
* There's no place like home...
* A pep talk for the future me...
* This is a letter about my love...
* I never want to forget this...
* [Blank - write your own]
* [Blank - write your own]


Apparently writing letters to yourself is not a new concept:



In the video below, psychologist Dan Gilbert talks about the Psychology of our Future Selfs.



The end of the current year and the beginning of the next is often a time for reflection. Where do you see yourself in the future? How will you get there? What steps must you take? Can your intuition help you see what things will be like in the future?

Let us know your thoughts by leaving a comment.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2286Sun, 27 Dec 2015 04:50:01 +0000Transformation CafeEver wish you could talk to your future self? Can you imagine what your life will be in the future, in a month, a year, ten years? In this episode host Robin Masiewicz and her guest Amy Frost discuss writing letters to your future self. Amy...


Amy describes how she came across the book "Letters to My Future Self" which is sort of a diary in the form of letter addressed to your self, recently featured as one of Oprah's Favorite Things for 2015.



The book contains the following 12 letter prompts:


* These are my roots...
* Where I want to go...
* All the things I'd like to try someday...
* This is what I live for...
* It was an extraordinary day...
* I promise to myself...
* There's no place like home...
* A pep talk for the future me...
* This is a letter about my love...
* I never want to forget this...
* [Blank - write your own]
* [Blank - write your own]


Apparently writing letters to yourself is not a new concept:



In the video below, psychologist Dan Gilbert talks about the Psychology of our Future Selfs.



The end of the current year and the beginning of the next is often a time for reflection. Where do you see yourself in the future? How will you get there? What steps must you take? Can your intuition help you see what things will be like in the future?

Let us know your thoughts by leaving a comment.]]>1822cleanfullTransformation CafeEver wish you could talk to your future self? Can you imagine what your life will be in the future, in a month, a year, ten years? In this episode host Robin Masiewicz and her guest Amy Frost discuss writing letters to your future self. Amy describes how she came across the book "Letters to My Future Self" which is sort of a diary in the form of letter addressed to your self, recently featured as one of Oprah's Favorite Things for 2015. The book contains the following 12 letter prompts: * These are my roots... * Where I want to go... * All the things I'd like to try someday... * This is what I live for... * It was an extraordinary day... * I promise to myself... * There's no place like home... * A pep talk for the future me... * This is a letter about my love... * I never want to forget this... * [Blank - write your own] * [Blank - write your own] Apparently writing letters to yourself is not a new concept: In the video below, psychologist Dan Gilbert talks about the Psychology of our Future Selfs. The end of the current year and the beginning of the next is often a time for reflection. Where do you see yourself in the future? How will you get there? What steps must you take? Can your intuition help you see what things will be like in the future? Let us know your thoughts by leaving a comment.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-282-the-gift-of-receiving-with-grace

 









The Huffington Post has an interesting article on Giving and Receiving with Grace. The article makes the observation that "the concept of self-transcendence is bound up with the golden rule: "Treating others as you yourself would like to be treated." When we transcend our limited self, this rule becomes an inherent part of our own nature, and other people an extended part of our own reality. For this reason, learning to receive is equally vital."

"When we say, "Please don't get me anything... I don't want or need anything" -- while that may be intrinsically true, or we don't wish to burden someone who is stretching an already tight budget, we are essentially shutting that person out. Giving creates a relationship between the giver and receiver. Giving is a way people participate in our lives, a way people honor us. And when we say no, we deny them the opportunity to do so. Generosity, both in giving and receiving, opens the heart. We must learn to accept gratefully."

Below is a short video on Accepting Gifts with Grace.


Do you receive gifts with grace, or are you always saying things like "You shouldn't have"? How about saying "Thank you so much!" or "This is such a blessing to me!" instead?]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2272Sun, 20 Dec 2015 05:03:05 +0000Transformation CafeNow is the time of year when people think about giving gifts to family, friends, coworkers, and others we interact with on a regular basis. Sometimes we give a gift because someone needs something, or wants a particular thing (this year it's probably...

 









The Huffington Post has an interesting article on Giving and Receiving with Grace. The article makes the observation that "the concept of self-transcendence is bound up with the golden rule: "Treating others as you yourself would like to be treated." When we transcend our limited self, this rule becomes an inherent part of our own nature, and other people an extended part of our own reality. For this reason, learning to receive is equally vital."

"When we say, "Please don't get me anything... I don't want or need anything" -- while that may be intrinsically true, or we don't wish to burden someone who is stretching an already tight budget, we are essentially shutting that person out. Giving creates a relationship between the giver and receiver. Giving is a way people participate in our lives, a way people honor us. And when we say no, we deny them the opportunity to do so. Generosity, both in giving and receiving, opens the heart. We must learn to accept gratefully."

Below is a short video on Accepting Gifts with Grace.


Do you receive gifts with grace, or are you always saying things like "You shouldn't have"? How about saying "Thank you so much!" or "This is such a blessing to me!" instead?]]>1818cleanfullTransformation CafeNow is the time of year when people think about giving gifts to family, friends, coworkers, and others we interact with on a regular basis. Sometimes we give a gift because someone needs something, or wants a particular thing (this year it's probably something Star Wars related or an Apple smart watch). In some cases we find something we're sure our loved one will really like. Other times we give gifts out of a sense of obligation, maybe because they gave something to you.   The Huffington Post has an interesting article on Giving and Receiving with Grace. The article makes the observation that "the concept of self-transcendence is bound up with the golden rule: "Treating others as you yourself would like to be treated." When we transcend our limited self, this rule becomes an inherent part of our own nature, and other people an extended part of our own reality. For this reason, learning to receive is equally vital." "When we say, "Please don't get me anything... I don't want or need anything" -- while that may be intrinsically true, or we don't wish to burden someone who is stretching an already tight budget, we are essentially shutting that person out. Giving creates a relationship between the giver and receiver. Giving is a way people participate in our lives, a way people honor us. And when we say no, we deny them the opportunity to do so. Generosity, both in giving and receiving, opens the heart. We must learn to accept gratefully." Below is a short video on Accepting Gifts with Grace. Do you receive gifts with grace, or are you always saying things like "You shouldn't have"? How about saying "Thank you so much!" or "This is such a blessing to me!" instead?Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-281-character-and-resilience


According to Cornell psychologist and therapist Greg Eells, Ph. D, resilience can be defined as:

* Positive outcomes despite high-risk status
* Competence in the face of stress
* Adapting to trauma
* Using challenges for growth to make future hardships more manageable



Below are 10 Tips to Boost Resilience from A Simple Guide to Teaching Resilience:



In the video below, David Brooks discusses the key ideas from "The Road to Character".





Below are some quotes that illustrate the concept of resilience:
If your heart is broken, make art with the pieces. - Shane Koyczan
 
The Beauty of Life surrounds me, the Joy of Life uplifts me, and the Resilience of Life protects me. It is enough.
—Laura Teresa Marquez
 ]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2253Mon, 14 Dec 2015 03:02:52 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe Podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria talk about New York Times columnist David Brooks' book "The Road to Character", and the character trait of resilience. According to Cornell...


According to Cornell psychologist and therapist Greg Eells, Ph. D, resilience can be defined as:

* Positive outcomes despite high-risk status
* Competence in the face of stress
* Adapting to trauma
* Using challenges for growth to make future hardships more manageable



Below are 10 Tips to Boost Resilience from A Simple Guide to Teaching Resilience:



In the video below, David Brooks discusses the key ideas from "The Road to Character".





Below are some quotes that illustrate the concept of resilience:
If your heart is broken, make art with the pieces. - Shane Koyczan
 
The Beauty of Life surrounds me, the Joy of Life uplifts me, and the Resilience of Life protects me. It is enough.
—Laura Teresa Marquez
 ]]>1823cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe Podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria talk about New York Times columnist David Brooks' book "The Road to Character", and the character trait of resilience. According to Cornell psychologist and therapist Greg Eells, Ph. D, resilience can be defined as: * Positive outcomes despite high-risk status * Competence in the face of stress * Adapting to trauma * Using challenges for growth to make future hardships more manageable Below are 10 Tips to Boost Resilience from A Simple Guide to Teaching Resilience: In the video below, David Brooks discusses the key ideas from "The Road to Character". Below are some quotes that illustrate the concept of resilience: If your heart is broken, make art with the pieces. - Shane Koyczan   The Beauty of Life surrounds me, the Joy of Life uplifts me, and the Resilience of Life protects me. It is enough. —Laura Teresa Marquez  Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-280-cafe-book-club-big-magic-divinity



Robin says overall that Big Magic reaffirmed a lot of what she already knew about creativity, but that hearing someone say it "out loud" really gave her a chance to reflect on her own understanding of creativity. She particularly enjoyed "Accidental Grace", the story of the dancers in Bali that created a "secular" form of a dance for tourists, and in the process revitalized their sacred dances that they perform in their sacred rituals to keep the universe intact. So far it seems to be working.



Amy's main take away from this last section was to learn to "lean in to curiosity". Many people talk about finding your passion, but if you don't feel passionate about any particular thing, then what are you curious about, even a little bit?
Conclusion:
Elibeth's conclusion to this section and to Big Magic is quoted below.
Creativity is sacred, and it is not sacred.

What we make matters enormously, and it doesn't matter at all.

We toil alone, and we are accompanied by spirits.

We are terrified, and we are brave.

Art is a crushing chore and a wonderful privilege.

Only when we are at our most playful can divinity finally get serious with us.

Make space for all these paradoxes to be equally true inside your soul, and I promise--you can make anything.

So please calm down and get back to work, okay?

The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes.
Comments:
We encourage you to leave your comments about this section and Big Magic in general in the Cafe Book Club forum. We also welcome your suggestions for future titles for the next Cafe Book Club.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2238Sun, 06 Dec 2015 23:56:59 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and her sister Amy Frost conclude their discussion part 6 of Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. The last section is titled "Divinity". Robin says overall that Big Magic reaffirmed a lot of what she already knew...



Robin says overall that Big Magic reaffirmed a lot of what she already knew about creativity, but that hearing someone say it "out loud" really gave her a chance to reflect on her own understanding of creativity. She particularly enjoyed "Accidental Grace", the story of the dancers in Bali that created a "secular" form of a dance for tourists, and in the process revitalized their sacred dances that they perform in their sacred rituals to keep the universe intact. So far it seems to be working.



Amy's main take away from this last section was to learn to "lean in to curiosity". Many people talk about finding your passion, but if you don't feel passionate about any particular thing, then what are you curious about, even a little bit?
Conclusion:
Elibeth's conclusion to this section and to Big Magic is quoted below.
Creativity is sacred, and it is not sacred.

What we make matters enormously, and it doesn't matter at all.

We toil alone, and we are accompanied by spirits.

We are terrified, and we are brave.

Art is a crushing chore and a wonderful privilege.

Only when we are at our most playful can divinity finally get serious with us.

Make space for all these paradoxes to be equally true inside your soul, and I promise--you can make anything.

So please calm down and get back to work, okay?

The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes.
Comments:
We encourage you to leave your comments about this section and Big Magic in general in the Cafe Book Club forum. We also welcome your suggestions for future titles for the next Cafe Book Club.]]>1807cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz and her sister Amy Frost conclude their discussion part 6 of Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. The last section is titled "Divinity". Robin says overall that Big Magic reaffirmed a lot of what she already knew about creativity, but that hearing someone say it "out loud" really gave her a chance to reflect on her own understanding of creativity. She particularly enjoyed "Accidental Grace", the story of the dancers in Bali that created a "secular" form of a dance for tourists, and in the process revitalized their sacred dances that they perform in their sacred rituals to keep the universe intact. So far it seems to be working. Amy's main take away from this last section was to learn to "lean in to curiosity". Many people talk about finding your passion, but if you don't feel passionate about any particular thing, then what are you curious about, even a little bit? Conclusion: Elibeth's conclusion to this section and to Big Magic is quoted below. Creativity is sacred, and it is not sacred. What we make matters enormously, and it doesn't matter at all. We toil alone, and we are accompanied by spirits. We are terrified, and we are brave. Art is a crushing chore and a wonderful privilege. Only when we are at our most playful can divinity finally get serious with us. Make space for all these paradoxes to be equally true inside your soul, and I promise--you can make anything. So please calm down and get back to work, okay? The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes. Comments: We encourage you to leave your comments about this section and Big Magic in general in the Cafe Book Club forum. We also welcome your suggestions for future titles for the next Cafe Book Club.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-279-cafe-book-club-big-magic-trust


Key concepts from this section:
The creative individual may love their craft, whether it is art, writing, dance, or any other occupation, but there is actually a reciprocal relationship, that is your craft "loves you back". It came to you, didn't it? It asked for your attention and devotion. Why wouldn't it love you?

Approach your work from a place of "stubborn gladness". Inspiration is always trying to work with you, so you need to trust it and work too.

Producing legitimate meaningful work doesn't require suffering. Adopting the  "Trickster" mind-set versus the "Martyr" allows you to approach things in a more playful way, but can still result in high quality, meaningful art.

It's okay to take pleasure in your work; there is no need to feel guilty because you're creative process isn't causing you anguish.

You can "choose your delusion". "Because we all live in delusion, no matter what our beliefs. So you might as well choose your delusion, right? I mean — it's your life, isn't it? I choose trust. Works for me."



This section opens with a story about Elizabeth's friend Dr. Robin Wall Kimmerer, a botanist and author that teaches environmental biology at SUNY College of Environmental Forestry in Syracuse, New York. Robin asks her students these two questions. The first question is: "Do you love nature?" As you might expect every hand in the room goes up. The second question is: "Do you believe that nature loves you in return?" Every hand in the room goes down.

The problem is that her students believe that the living earth is indifferent to them. They have no sense of conversation, no relationship. Without a sense of relationship they are missing something incredibly important: They are missing out on their potential to become cocreaters of life. As Dr. Robin puts it, "The exchange of love between earth and people calls forth the creative gifts of both. The earth is not indifferent to us, but rather calling for our gifts in return for hers--the reciprocal nature of life and creativity."

In the video below Dr. Robin Kimmerer talks about nature and reciprocity at TEDx Sitka.

Nature provides the seed; man provides the garden; each is grateful for the other's help.
Trust the Trickster
Elizabeth tells a story about her friend author Brene Brown. Brene comes from a academic background, where the idea of suffering for years to produce work that only four people will ever read is the expectation. But Brene tuned into the possibility of writing from a place of trickster energy, and she had a breakthrough. As Brene says in this section "I'm done with all that (suffering). Never again will I write about the subject of human connection while suffering in isolation."



Lighten Up
In this section Elizabeth tells a story of her first published article for Esquire magazine where she was required to pare her story down by 30%. This exercise caused her to realize that her article, which she considered the best thing she had written to date, is not sacred. "What you produce is not necessarily always sacred, just because you think it's sacred.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2214Sat, 28 Nov 2015 03:33:47 +0000Transformation CafeThis week Robin Masiewicz and her guests Amy Frost and Dr. Kymn discuss Trust,  part 5 of Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. Key concepts from this section: The creative individual may love their craft, whether it is art, writing, dance, or any other...


Key concepts from this section:
The creative individual may love their craft, whether it is art, writing, dance, or any other occupation, but there is actually a reciprocal relationship, that is your craft "loves you back". It came to you, didn't it? It asked for your attention and devotion. Why wouldn't it love you?

Approach your work from a place of "stubborn gladness". Inspiration is always trying to work with you, so you need to trust it and work too.

Producing legitimate meaningful work doesn't require suffering. Adopting the  "Trickster" mind-set versus the "Martyr" allows you to approach things in a more playful way, but can still result in high quality, meaningful art.

It's okay to take pleasure in your work; there is no need to feel guilty because you're creative process isn't causing you anguish.

You can "choose your delusion". "Because we all live in delusion, no matter what our beliefs. So you might as well choose your delusion, right? I mean — it's your life, isn't it? I choose trust. Works for me."



This section opens with a story about Elizabeth's friend Dr. Robin Wall Kimmerer, a botanist and author that teaches environmental biology at SUNY College of Environmental Forestry in Syracuse, New York. Robin asks her students these two questions. The first question is: "Do you love nature?" As you might expect every hand in the room goes up. The second question is: "Do you believe that nature loves you in return?" Every hand in the room goes down.

The problem is that her students believe that the living earth is indifferent to them. They have no sense of conversation, no relationship. Without a sense of relationship they are missing something incredibly important: They are missing out on their potential to become cocreaters of life. As Dr. Robin puts it, "The exchange of love between earth and people calls forth the creative gifts of both. The earth is not indifferent to us, but rather calling for our gifts in return for hers--the reciprocal nature of life and creativity."

In the video below Dr. Robin Kimmerer talks about nature and reciprocity at TEDx Sitka.

Nature provides the seed; man provides the garden; each is grateful for the other's help.
Trust the Trickster
Elizabeth tells a story about her friend author Brene Brown. Brene comes from a academic background, where the idea of suffering for years to produce work that only four people will ever read is the expectation. But Brene tuned into the possibility of writing from a place of trickster energy, and she had a breakthrough. As Brene says in this section "I'm done with all that (suffering). Never again will I write about the subject of human connection while suffering in isolation."



Lighten Up
In this section Elizabeth tells a story of her first published article for Esquire magazine where she was required to pare her story down by 30%. This exercise caused her to realize that her article, which she considered the best thing she had written to date, is not sacred. "What you produce is not necessarily always sacred, just because you think it's sacred.]]>1861cleanfullTransformation CafeThis week Robin Masiewicz and her guests Amy Frost and Dr. Kymn discuss Trust,  part 5 of Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. Key concepts from this section: The creative individual may love their craft, whether it is art, writing, dance, or any other occupation, but there is actually a reciprocal relationship, that is your craft "loves you back". It came to you, didn't it? It asked for your attention and devotion. Why wouldn't it love you? Approach your work from a place of "stubborn gladness". Inspiration is always trying to work with you, so you need to trust it and work too. Producing legitimate meaningful work doesn't require suffering. Adopting the  "Trickster" mind-set versus the "Martyr" allows you to approach things in a more playful way, but can still result in high quality, meaningful art. It's okay to take pleasure in your work; there is no need to feel guilty because you're creative process isn't causing you anguish. You can "choose your delusion". "Because we all live in delusion, no matter what our beliefs. So you might as well choose your delusion, right? I mean — it's your life, isn't it? I choose trust. Works for me." This section opens with a story about Elizabeth's friend Dr. Robin Wall Kimmerer, a botanist and author that teaches environmental biology at SUNY College of Environmental Forestry in Syracuse, New York. Robin asks her students these two questions. The first question is: "Do you love nature?" As you might expect every hand in the room goes up. The second question is: "Do you believe that nature loves you in return?" Every hand in the room goes down. The problem is that her students believe that the living earth is indifferent to them. They have no sense of conversation, no relationship. Without a sense of relationship they are missing something incredibly important: They are missing out on their potential to become cocreaters of life. As Dr. Robin puts it, "The exchange of love between earth and people calls forth the creative gifts of both. The earth is not indifferent to us, but rather calling for our gifts in return for hers--the reciprocal nature of life and creativity." In the video below Dr. Robin Kimmerer talks about nature and reciprocity at TEDx Sitka. Nature provides the seed; man provides the garden; each is grateful for the other's help. Trust the Trickster Elizabeth tells a story about her friend author Brene Brown. Brene comes from a academic background, where the idea of suffering for years to produce work that only four people will ever read is the expectation. But Brene tuned into the possibility of writing from a place of trickster energy, and she had a breakthrough. As Brene says in this section "I'm done with all that (suffering). Never again will I write about the subject of human connection while suffering in isolation." Lighten Up In this section Elizabeth tells a story of her first published article for Esquire magazine where she was required to pare her story down by 30%. This exercise caused her to realize that her article, which she considered the best thing she had written to date, is not sacred. "What you produce is not necessarily always sacred, just because you think it's sacred.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-278-cafe-book-club-big-magic-persiste
 



This is the longest section so far, which may be telling as to how important persistence is in achieving the "creative life" that we're seeking. Sometimes it all boils down to just showing up each day, every day.
Key concept
People must be persistent when it comes to creativity in the face of all odds, including negative criticism that they may encounter.  When a person is persistent in spite of the odds, that is when the real work is being done. Persistence is a crucial part of the creative process.
"On bad days, when I felt no inspiration at all, I would set the kitchen timer for thirty minutes and make myself sit there and scribble something, anything. I had read an interview with John Updike where he said that some of the best novels you’ve ever read were written in an hour a day; I figured I could always carve out at least thirty minutes somewhere to dedicate myself to my work…”
Financial demands
One of the points that Elizabeth makes in this section is that you don't have to quit your day job to be creative. And even if your creativity alone is not enough to support yourself, the work is still worth doing even if it doesn't cover the rent. “Financial demands can put so much pressure on the delicacies and vagaries of inspiration. You must be smart about providing for yourself. To claim that you are too creative to think about financial questions is to infantilize yourself.” She advocates for us to own our place in the world and be responsible. “This is a world, not a womb. You can look after yourself in this world while looking after your creativity at the same time.”
Perfectionism
“Perfectionism stops people form completing their work, yes – but even worse, it often stops people from beginning their work.”

This is something that I know all too well. Perfectionism is a trait I have been struggling to overcome - it can be paralyzing. But in the face of looming deadlines I have begun to embrace "perfect is the enemy of  done". Intellectually I understand that it is impossible to know enough or be skilled enough to make anything "perfect", but as Michelle says in the podcast, there is honor and value in simply finishing a project, regardless of whether it meets your own (impossible) standards.

When you aim for perfection, you discover it’s a moving target.



As Gilbert quotes from General George Patton: “A good plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan executed next week.”


Commit
These are suggestions from Elizabeth Gilbert:

Write down four fiercely creative goals. Put it up on your fridge, tuck it into a book, hang it beside your door—anywhere you’ll be reminded of the Big Magic inside you! Onward!
Questions to consider

Think about what it would mean for you to take vows for your creative life. What ceremony could you invent? What promises would you make?
What small, sustaining action can you take daily to show your devotion to your creative life?]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2195Sun, 22 Nov 2015 01:24:33 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode we continue our discussion of Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. This week Robin, Amy, Michelle, and Gloria discuss the section on Persistence.   This is the longest section so far, which may be telling as...
 



This is the longest section so far, which may be telling as to how important persistence is in achieving the "creative life" that we're seeking. Sometimes it all boils down to just showing up each day, every day.
Key concept
People must be persistent when it comes to creativity in the face of all odds, including negative criticism that they may encounter.  When a person is persistent in spite of the odds, that is when the real work is being done. Persistence is a crucial part of the creative process.
"On bad days, when I felt no inspiration at all, I would set the kitchen timer for thirty minutes and make myself sit there and scribble something, anything. I had read an interview with John Updike where he said that some of the best novels you’ve ever read were written in an hour a day; I figured I could always carve out at least thirty minutes somewhere to dedicate myself to my work…”
Financial demands
One of the points that Elizabeth makes in this section is that you don't have to quit your day job to be creative. And even if your creativity alone is not enough to support yourself, the work is still worth doing even if it doesn't cover the rent. “Financial demands can put so much pressure on the delicacies and vagaries of inspiration. You must be smart about providing for yourself. To claim that you are too creative to think about financial questions is to infantilize yourself.” She advocates for us to own our place in the world and be responsible. “This is a world, not a womb. You can look after yourself in this world while looking after your creativity at the same time.”
Perfectionism
“Perfectionism stops people form completing their work, yes – but even worse, it often stops people from beginning their work.”

This is something that I know all too well. Perfectionism is a trait I have been struggling to overcome - it can be paralyzing. But in the face of looming deadlines I have begun to embrace "perfect is the enemy of  done". Intellectually I understand that it is impossible to know enough or be skilled enough to make anything "perfect", but as Michelle says in the podcast, there is honor and value in simply finishing a project, regardless of whether it meets your own (impossible) standards.

When you aim for perfection, you discover it’s a moving target.



As Gilbert quotes from General George Patton: “A good plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan executed next week.”


Commit
These are suggestions from Elizabeth Gilbert:

Write down four fiercely creative goals. Put it up on your fridge, tuck it into a book, hang it beside your door—anywhere you’ll be reminded of the Big Magic inside you! Onward!
Questions to consider

Think about what it would mean for you to take vows for your creative life. What ceremony could you invent? What promises would you make?
What small, sustaining action can you take daily to show your devotion to your creative life?]]>1848cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode we continue our discussion of Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. This week Robin, Amy, Michelle, and Gloria discuss the section on Persistence.   This is the longest section so far, which may be telling as to how important persistence is in achieving the "creative life" that we're seeking. Sometimes it all boils down to just showing up each day, every day. Key concept People must be persistent when it comes to creativity in the face of all odds, including negative criticism that they may encounter.  When a person is persistent in spite of the odds, that is when the real work is being done. Persistence is a crucial part of the creative process. "On bad days, when I felt no inspiration at all, I would set the kitchen timer for thirty minutes and make myself sit there and scribble something, anything. I had read an interview with John Updike where he said that some of the best novels you’ve ever read were written in an hour a day; I figured I could always carve out at least thirty minutes somewhere to dedicate myself to my work…” Financial demands One of the points that Elizabeth makes in this section is that you don't have to quit your day job to be creative. And even if your creativity alone is not enough to support yourself, the work is still worth doing even if it doesn't cover the rent. “Financial demands can put so much pressure on the delicacies and vagaries of inspiration. You must be smart about providing for yourself. To claim that you are too creative to think about financial questions is to infantilize yourself.” She advocates for us to own our place in the world and be responsible. “This is a world, not a womb. You can look after yourself in this world while looking after your creativity at the same time.” Perfectionism “Perfectionism stops people form completing their work, yes – but even worse, it often stops people from beginning their work.” This is something that I know all too well. Perfectionism is a trait I have been struggling to overcome - it can be paralyzing. But in the face of looming deadlines I have begun to embrace "perfect is the enemy of  done". Intellectually I understand that it is impossible to know enough or be skilled enough to make anything "perfect", but as Michelle says in the podcast, there is honor and value in simply finishing a project, regardless of whether it meets your own (impossible) standards. When you aim for perfection, you discover it’s a moving target. As Gilbert quotes from General George Patton: “A good plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan executed next week.” Commit These are suggestions from Elizabeth Gilbert: Write down four fiercely creative goals. Put it up on your fridge, tuck it into a book, hang it beside your door—anywhere you’ll be reminded of the Big Magic inside you! Onward! Questions to consider Think about what it would mean for you to take vows for your creative life. What ceremony could you invent? What promises would you make? What small, sustaining action can you take daily to show your devotion to your creative life?Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-277-cafe-book-club-big-magic-permissi
In Big Magic, Gilbert writes: “Defending yourself as a creative person begins by defining yourself. It begins when you declare your intent. Stand up tall and say it aloud, whatever it is.”


Key concept from this section:
You don't need permission to be creative; it is an instinctual part of being human. If anything, people should embrace their creative entitlement.

And if you're not an "artist" you still don't need permission to live a creative life, no matter what type of work you do. You can be a creative engineer, a creative nurse, farmer, or any other occupation. It's not so much what you do that matters; what matters is that you give yourself permission to use your innate creativity in all facets of your life, and let things unfold as they will.



The Color Spectrum at the Guggenheim

John Morse brought a pop-up installation to the Guggenheim earlier this month. Six seemingly random people wandered around the museum and then slowly gathered on the railing to form a rainbow. Morse did not ask permission from the museum, but he was pleased when one of the visitors who had seen the rainbow performers  gather tapped him on the shoulder and said "Did you see the art? Look, it’s art!"

Click the photo below to read the article.



 
Entitlement
In order to be free to create, free to explore, "you must possess a fierce sense of personal entitlement, which I hope you will learn to cultivate". Entitlement doesn't mean "behaving like a princess, or acting as though the world owes you anything whatsoever. No, creative entitlement means believing that you are allowed to be here, and that--merely by being here--you are allowed to have a voice and vision of your own".

Elizabeth says "The poet David Whyte calls this sense of creative entitlement "the arrogance of belonging," and claims that it is an absolutely vital privilege to cultivate if you wish to interact more vividly with life. Without this arrogance of belonging, you will never be able to take any creative risks whatsoever. Without it, you will never push yourself out of the suffocating insulation of personal safety and into the frontiers of the beautiful and unexpected".
Defining yourself
Part of embracing a creative life is to define yourself and adopt the mindset that you are entitled to your creativity. This approach says that you are willing and capable participant in your craft, whether that be writing, singing, dancing, drawing, flower arranging, or any other form of creative expression. Defining yourself can help you overcome fears and the need for outward acceptance of your creative ideas. But you must do this on an ongoing basis, it doesn't work if you just say it once and expect your life to magically change--you must assert your creative self every day.

 
Big Strong Magic
One of the things that Robin mentions is Elizabeth's podcast called "Magic Lessons", a series of podcasts that complement her book. Below is episode 12,]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2158Sat, 14 Nov 2015 17:27:16 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode we continue our discussion of Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. This week we're talking about Permission. In Big Magic, Gilbert writes: “Defending yourself as a creative person begins by defining yourself....
In Big Magic, Gilbert writes: “Defending yourself as a creative person begins by defining yourself. It begins when you declare your intent. Stand up tall and say it aloud, whatever it is.”


Key concept from this section:
You don't need permission to be creative; it is an instinctual part of being human. If anything, people should embrace their creative entitlement.

And if you're not an "artist" you still don't need permission to live a creative life, no matter what type of work you do. You can be a creative engineer, a creative nurse, farmer, or any other occupation. It's not so much what you do that matters; what matters is that you give yourself permission to use your innate creativity in all facets of your life, and let things unfold as they will.



The Color Spectrum at the Guggenheim

John Morse brought a pop-up installation to the Guggenheim earlier this month. Six seemingly random people wandered around the museum and then slowly gathered on the railing to form a rainbow. Morse did not ask permission from the museum, but he was pleased when one of the visitors who had seen the rainbow performers  gather tapped him on the shoulder and said "Did you see the art? Look, it’s art!"

Click the photo below to read the article.



 
Entitlement
In order to be free to create, free to explore, "you must possess a fierce sense of personal entitlement, which I hope you will learn to cultivate". Entitlement doesn't mean "behaving like a princess, or acting as though the world owes you anything whatsoever. No, creative entitlement means believing that you are allowed to be here, and that--merely by being here--you are allowed to have a voice and vision of your own".

Elizabeth says "The poet David Whyte calls this sense of creative entitlement "the arrogance of belonging," and claims that it is an absolutely vital privilege to cultivate if you wish to interact more vividly with life. Without this arrogance of belonging, you will never be able to take any creative risks whatsoever. Without it, you will never push yourself out of the suffocating insulation of personal safety and into the frontiers of the beautiful and unexpected".
Defining yourself
Part of embracing a creative life is to define yourself and adopt the mindset that you are entitled to your creativity. This approach says that you are willing and capable participant in your craft, whether that be writing, singing, dancing, drawing, flower arranging, or any other form of creative expression. Defining yourself can help you overcome fears and the need for outward acceptance of your creative ideas. But you must do this on an ongoing basis, it doesn't work if you just say it once and expect your life to magically change--you must assert your creative self every day.

 
Big Strong Magic
One of the things that Robin mentions is Elizabeth's podcast called "Magic Lessons", a series of podcasts that complement her book. Below is episode 12,]]>1802cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode we continue our discussion of Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. This week we're talking about Permission. In Big Magic, Gilbert writes: “Defending yourself as a creative person begins by defining yourself. It begins when you declare your intent. Stand up tall and say it aloud, whatever it is.” Key concept from this section: You don't need permission to be creative; it is an instinctual part of being human. If anything, people should embrace their creative entitlement. And if you're not an "artist" you still don't need permission to live a creative life, no matter what type of work you do. You can be a creative engineer, a creative nurse, farmer, or any other occupation. It's not so much what you do that matters; what matters is that you give yourself permission to use your innate creativity in all facets of your life, and let things unfold as they will. The Color Spectrum at the Guggenheim John Morse brought a pop-up installation to the Guggenheim earlier this month. Six seemingly random people wandered around the museum and then slowly gathered on the railing to form a rainbow. Morse did not ask permission from the museum, but he was pleased when one of the visitors who had seen the rainbow performers  gather tapped him on the shoulder and said "Did you see the art? Look, it’s art!" Click the photo below to read the article.   Entitlement In order to be free to create, free to explore, "you must possess a fierce sense of personal entitlement, which I hope you will learn to cultivate". Entitlement doesn't mean "behaving like a princess, or acting as though the world owes you anything whatsoever. No, creative entitlement means believing that you are allowed to be here, and that--merely by being here--you are allowed to have a voice and vision of your own". Elizabeth says "The poet David Whyte calls this sense of creative entitlement "the arrogance of belonging," and claims that it is an absolutely vital privilege to cultivate if you wish to interact more vividly with life. Without this arrogance of belonging, you will never be able to take any creative risks whatsoever. Without it, you will never push yourself out of the suffocating insulation of personal safety and into the frontiers of the beautiful and unexpected". Defining yourself Part of embracing a creative life is to define yourself and adopt the mindset that you are entitled to your creativity. This approach says that you are willing and capable participant in your craft, whether that be writing, singing, dancing, drawing, flower arranging, or any other form of creative expression. Defining yourself can help you overcome fears and the need for outward acceptance of your creative ideas. But you must do this on an ongoing basis, it doesn't work if you just say it once and expect your life to magically change--you must assert your creative self every day.   Big Strong Magic One of the things that Robin mentions is Elizabeth's podcast called "Magic Lessons", a series of podcasts that complement her book. Below is episode 12,Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/cafe-book-club-big-magic-part-2-enchantm

Key concept from this section:
Creativity can be seen as magical in not just the figurative sense of the concept, but the literal interpretation of inspiration and creation as "the supernatural, the mystical, the inexplicable, the surreal, the divine, the transcendent, the otherwordly . . . a force of enchantment -- not entirely human in its origins."

The power and nature of inspiration and the way it works are magical as well.
How Ideas Work
As Elizabeth says in the section on How Ideas Work "I believe that our planet is inhabited not only by animals and plants and bacteria and viruses, but also by ideas. Ideas are an energetic life form. They are completely separate from us, but capable of interacting with us--albeit strangely. Ideas have no material body, but they do have consciousness, and they most certainly have will. Ideas are driven by a single impulse: to be made manifest. And the only way an idea can be made manifest in our world is in collaboration with a human partner. It is only through a human's efforts that an idea can be escorted out of the ether and into the realm of the actual."


Ideas are looking for partners
So in Elizabeth's view, ideas will come and visit you in an effort to be made manifest. You can disregard them if you choose (most people do), or you can decide to "hear them out" and then decide if you want to enter into this partnership. If you decide not to pursue the idea, Elizabeth suggests using your "most gracious manners  when sending an idea away; you don't want word getting around the universe that you're difficult to work with."

Her suggested approach is to "cooperate fully, humbly, and joyfully with inspiration." You are "neither a slave to inspiration or its master, but something far more interesting--its partner--and that the two of you are working together toward something intriguing and worthwhile."
I believe that inspiration will always try its best to work with you--but if you are not readily available, it may indeed choose to leave you and search for a different human collaborator.
Ideas may visit more than one person at the same time
In this section Elizabeth writes about "multiple discovery--a term used in the scientific community whenever two or more scientists in different parts of the world come up with the same idea at the same time." This applies to artistic or business ideas as well. Perhaps inspiration is just "hedging its bets."
"When the time is ripe for certain things, they appear at different places, in the manner of violets coming to light in early spring."
Elizabeth sums it up by saying "Work with all your heart, because--I promise--if you show up for your work day after day after day after day, you just might get lucky enough some random morning to burst right into bloom."
Work diligently and thank the process
It's important to continue the work diligently because that is what you must do to live a fully creative life. She says "I work steadily, and I always thank the process. Whether I am touched by grace or not, I thank creativity for allowing me to engage with it at all."

"I don't need to know why an idea visited you today and not me. Or why it visited us both. Or why it abandoned us both.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2134Sat, 07 Nov 2015 22:30:41 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode we continue our discussion of Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. This week we're talking about Enchantment and the concept that ideas are "an energetic life form". Key concept from this section: Creativity...

Key concept from this section:
Creativity can be seen as magical in not just the figurative sense of the concept, but the literal interpretation of inspiration and creation as "the supernatural, the mystical, the inexplicable, the surreal, the divine, the transcendent, the otherwordly . . . a force of enchantment -- not entirely human in its origins."

The power and nature of inspiration and the way it works are magical as well.
How Ideas Work
As Elizabeth says in the section on How Ideas Work "I believe that our planet is inhabited not only by animals and plants and bacteria and viruses, but also by ideas. Ideas are an energetic life form. They are completely separate from us, but capable of interacting with us--albeit strangely. Ideas have no material body, but they do have consciousness, and they most certainly have will. Ideas are driven by a single impulse: to be made manifest. And the only way an idea can be made manifest in our world is in collaboration with a human partner. It is only through a human's efforts that an idea can be escorted out of the ether and into the realm of the actual."


Ideas are looking for partners
So in Elizabeth's view, ideas will come and visit you in an effort to be made manifest. You can disregard them if you choose (most people do), or you can decide to "hear them out" and then decide if you want to enter into this partnership. If you decide not to pursue the idea, Elizabeth suggests using your "most gracious manners  when sending an idea away; you don't want word getting around the universe that you're difficult to work with."

Her suggested approach is to "cooperate fully, humbly, and joyfully with inspiration." You are "neither a slave to inspiration or its master, but something far more interesting--its partner--and that the two of you are working together toward something intriguing and worthwhile."
I believe that inspiration will always try its best to work with you--but if you are not readily available, it may indeed choose to leave you and search for a different human collaborator.
Ideas may visit more than one person at the same time
In this section Elizabeth writes about "multiple discovery--a term used in the scientific community whenever two or more scientists in different parts of the world come up with the same idea at the same time." This applies to artistic or business ideas as well. Perhaps inspiration is just "hedging its bets."
"When the time is ripe for certain things, they appear at different places, in the manner of violets coming to light in early spring."
Elizabeth sums it up by saying "Work with all your heart, because--I promise--if you show up for your work day after day after day after day, you just might get lucky enough some random morning to burst right into bloom."
Work diligently and thank the process
It's important to continue the work diligently because that is what you must do to live a fully creative life. She says "I work steadily, and I always thank the process. Whether I am touched by grace or not, I thank creativity for allowing me to engage with it at all."

"I don't need to know why an idea visited you today and not me. Or why it visited us both. Or why it abandoned us both.]]>1832cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode we continue our discussion of Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. This week we're talking about Enchantment and the concept that ideas are "an energetic life form". Key concept from this section: Creativity can be seen as magical in not just the figurative sense of the concept, but the literal interpretation of inspiration and creation as "the supernatural, the mystical, the inexplicable, the surreal, the divine, the transcendent, the otherwordly . . . a force of enchantment -- not entirely human in its origins." The power and nature of inspiration and the way it works are magical as well. How Ideas Work As Elizabeth says in the section on How Ideas Work "I believe that our planet is inhabited not only by animals and plants and bacteria and viruses, but also by ideas. Ideas are an energetic life form. They are completely separate from us, but capable of interacting with us--albeit strangely. Ideas have no material body, but they do have consciousness, and they most certainly have will. Ideas are driven by a single impulse: to be made manifest. And the only way an idea can be made manifest in our world is in collaboration with a human partner. It is only through a human's efforts that an idea can be escorted out of the ether and into the realm of the actual." Ideas are looking for partners So in Elizabeth's view, ideas will come and visit you in an effort to be made manifest. You can disregard them if you choose (most people do), or you can decide to "hear them out" and then decide if you want to enter into this partnership. If you decide not to pursue the idea, Elizabeth suggests using your "most gracious manners  when sending an idea away; you don't want word getting around the universe that you're difficult to work with." Her suggested approach is to "cooperate fully, humbly, and joyfully with inspiration." You are "neither a slave to inspiration or its master, but something far more interesting--its partner--and that the two of you are working together toward something intriguing and worthwhile." I believe that inspiration will always try its best to work with you--but if you are not readily available, it may indeed choose to leave you and search for a different human collaborator. Ideas may visit more than one person at the same time In this section Elizabeth writes about "multiple discovery--a term used in the scientific community whenever two or more scientists in different parts of the world come up with the same idea at the same time." This applies to artistic or business ideas as well. Perhaps inspiration is just "hedging its bets." "When the time is ripe for certain things, they appear at different places, in the manner of violets coming to light in early spring." Elizabeth sums it up by saying "Work with all your heart, because--I promise--if you show up for your work day after day after day after day, you just might get lucky enough some random morning to burst right into bloom." Work diligently and thank the process It's important to continue the work diligently because that is what you must do to live a fully creative life. She says "I work steadily, and I always thank the process. Whether I am touched by grace or not, I thank creativity for allowing me to engage with it at all." "I don't need to know why an idea visited you today and not me. Or why it visited us both. Or why it abandoned us both.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-275-cafe-book-club-big-magic-courage

Part I - Courage
In this section Gilbert shares several stories about how people overcame their own fears and encouraged others to do the things that brought them joy.
Main points:

Creativity can be scary; your self-critic will come up with a hundred reasons why you shouldn't even try.
The key is to feel the fear and do it anyway.
Fear may be a constant companion, but that doesn't mean you have to let it have any control.
Creative living is "a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than fear."

Jack Gilbert
The first story is about poet Jack Gilbert (no relation to Elizabeth). Jack "worked in steel mills as a young man, but was called from an early age to write poetry. He answered the call without hesitation. He became a poet the way other men become monks: as a devotional practice, as an act of love, as a lifelong commitment to the search for grace and transcendence.I think this is probably a very good way to become a poet. Or to become anything, really, that calls to your heart and brings you to life."

Jack wrote "We must risk delight. We must have the stubbornness to accept our gladness in the ruthless furnace of this world."

Later in life Jack was a visiting professor and writer-in-residence at the University of Tennessee, Knoxville. Elizabeth writes "He asked his students to be brave. Without bravery, he instructed, they would never be able to realize the vaulting scope of their own capacities."
Do you have the courage to bring forth this work? The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes.

- Jack Gilbert to an aspiring student writer
The hunt to uncover those hidden treasures is what Elizabeth calls creative living. "The often surprising results of that hunt--that's what I cal Big Magic."

To learn more about Jack Gilbert and his work, check out the Jack Gilbert page on Poeticous. Below is a video of Jack reading some of his poems.

 
Susan's Story
Elizabeth recounts the story of her friend Susan, who took up figure skating when she was forty years old. When she turned forty "She was listless. She was restless. She felt drab and heavy. Then she did a little soul-searching, the way one does on the big birthdays. She asked herself when was the last time she'd felt truly light, joyous, and--yes--creative in her own skin." Susan was shocked to discover that the last time she felt that way was as a teenager back when she was still figure skating. "She was appalled to discover that she had denied herself this life-affirming pursuit for so long, and she was curious to see if she still loved it."

She did. "She loved it even more than ever, perhaps, because now, as an adult, she finally had the perspective to appreciate the value of her own joy. Skating made her feel alive and ageless."

Elizabeth notes that her friend did not quit her job, did not sell her home, did not sever all her relationships. She didn't win any medals. Susan "continues to skate several days a week--simply because skating is still the best way for her to unfold a certain beauty and transcendence within her life that she cannot seem to access in any other manner. And she would like to spend as much time in such a state of transcendence while she is hear on earth."]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=2107Sun, 01 Nov 2015 23:03:18 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast we launch our new Cafe Book Club! We discuss part I of Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. Part I - Courage In this section Gilbert shares several stories about how people...

Part I - Courage
In this section Gilbert shares several stories about how people overcame their own fears and encouraged others to do the things that brought them joy.
Main points:

Creativity can be scary; your self-critic will come up with a hundred reasons why you shouldn't even try.
The key is to feel the fear and do it anyway.
Fear may be a constant companion, but that doesn't mean you have to let it have any control.
Creative living is "a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than fear."

Jack Gilbert
The first story is about poet Jack Gilbert (no relation to Elizabeth). Jack "worked in steel mills as a young man, but was called from an early age to write poetry. He answered the call without hesitation. He became a poet the way other men become monks: as a devotional practice, as an act of love, as a lifelong commitment to the search for grace and transcendence.I think this is probably a very good way to become a poet. Or to become anything, really, that calls to your heart and brings you to life."

Jack wrote "We must risk delight. We must have the stubbornness to accept our gladness in the ruthless furnace of this world."

Later in life Jack was a visiting professor and writer-in-residence at the University of Tennessee, Knoxville. Elizabeth writes "He asked his students to be brave. Without bravery, he instructed, they would never be able to realize the vaulting scope of their own capacities."
Do you have the courage to bring forth this work? The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes.

- Jack Gilbert to an aspiring student writer
The hunt to uncover those hidden treasures is what Elizabeth calls creative living. "The often surprising results of that hunt--that's what I cal Big Magic."

To learn more about Jack Gilbert and his work, check out the Jack Gilbert page on Poeticous. Below is a video of Jack reading some of his poems.

 
Susan's Story
Elizabeth recounts the story of her friend Susan, who took up figure skating when she was forty years old. When she turned forty "She was listless. She was restless. She felt drab and heavy. Then she did a little soul-searching, the way one does on the big birthdays. She asked herself when was the last time she'd felt truly light, joyous, and--yes--creative in her own skin." Susan was shocked to discover that the last time she felt that way was as a teenager back when she was still figure skating. "She was appalled to discover that she had denied herself this life-affirming pursuit for so long, and she was curious to see if she still loved it."

She did. "She loved it even more than ever, perhaps, because now, as an adult, she finally had the perspective to appreciate the value of her own joy. Skating made her feel alive and ageless."

Elizabeth notes that her friend did not quit her job, did not sell her home, did not sever all her relationships. She didn't win any medals. Susan "continues to skate several days a week--simply because skating is still the best way for her to unfold a certain beauty and transcendence within her life that she cannot seem to access in any other manner. And she would like to spend as much time in such a state of transcendence while she is hear on earth."]]>1831cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast we launch our new Cafe Book Club! We discuss part I of Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. Part I - Courage In this section Gilbert shares several stories about how people overcame their own fears and encouraged others to do the things that brought them joy. Main points: Creativity can be scary; your self-critic will come up with a hundred reasons why you shouldn't even try. The key is to feel the fear and do it anyway. Fear may be a constant companion, but that doesn't mean you have to let it have any control. Creative living is "a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than fear." Jack Gilbert The first story is about poet Jack Gilbert (no relation to Elizabeth). Jack "worked in steel mills as a young man, but was called from an early age to write poetry. He answered the call without hesitation. He became a poet the way other men become monks: as a devotional practice, as an act of love, as a lifelong commitment to the search for grace and transcendence.I think this is probably a very good way to become a poet. Or to become anything, really, that calls to your heart and brings you to life." Jack wrote "We must risk delight. We must have the stubbornness to accept our gladness in the ruthless furnace of this world." Later in life Jack was a visiting professor and writer-in-residence at the University of Tennessee, Knoxville. Elizabeth writes "He asked his students to be brave. Without bravery, he instructed, they would never be able to realize the vaulting scope of their own capacities." Do you have the courage to bring forth this work? The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes. - Jack Gilbert to an aspiring student writer The hunt to uncover those hidden treasures is what Elizabeth calls creative living. "The often surprising results of that hunt--that's what I cal Big Magic." To learn more about Jack Gilbert and his work, check out the Jack Gilbert page on Poeticous. Below is a video of Jack reading some of his poems.   Susan's Story Elizabeth recounts the story of her friend Susan, who took up figure skating when she was forty years old. When she turned forty "She was listless. She was restless. She felt drab and heavy. Then she did a little soul-searching, the way one does on the big birthdays. She asked herself when was the last time she'd felt truly light, joyous, and--yes--creative in her own skin." Susan was shocked to discover that the last time she felt that way was as a teenager back when she was still figure skating. "She was appalled to discover that she had denied herself this life-affirming pursuit for so long, and she was curious to see if she still loved it." She did. "She loved it even more than ever, perhaps, because now, as an adult, she finally had the perspective to appreciate the value of her own joy. Skating made her feel alive and ageless." Elizabeth notes that her friend did not quit her job, did not sell her home, did not sever all her relationships. She didn't win any medals. Susan "continues to skate several days a week--simply because skating is still the best way for her to unfold a certain beauty and transcendence within her life that she cannot seem to access in any other manner. And she would like to spend as much time in such a state of transcendence while she is hear on earth."Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-274-big-magic-creative-living-beyond-


Announcing the Cafe Book Club
The Cafe Book Club is a live on-air discussion starting Tuesday, October 28 at 8 PM PST. To participate in the live discussion through BlogTalkRadio, call (646) 727-3206, or visit online at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/transformationcafe.  In addition to the live on-air discussion, we're introducing a new Discussion Forum where you can post your thoughts, ask questions, and interact with other readers. We want to encourage lively conversation, so please take a moment to go to Transformation-Cafe.com and sign up. You can use the link below (or in the sidebar) to purchase your own copy of the hard cover or paperback book, audio CD, or kindle editions through Amazon.com.
About Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear
"When I talk about 'creative living' here, please understand that I am not necessarily talking about pursuing a life that is professionally or exclusively devoted to the arts," Gilbert assures."I'm not saying you must become a poet who lives on a mountaintop in Greece, or that you must perform at Carnegie Hall, or that you must win the Palme d'Or at the Cannes Film Festival. (Though if you want to attempt any of these feats, by all means, have at it. I love watching people swing for the bleachers.)

 

"No, when I refer to 'creative living' I am speaking more broadly. I'm talking about living a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than by fear."

"If you're alive, you're creative," Gilbert writes, noting that all we need to do to be creative is to do whatever makes us feel alive.

"While the paths and outcomes of creative living will vary from person to person, I can guarantee you this: A creative life is an amplified life. It's a bigger life, a happier life, an expanded life, and a hell of a lot more interesting life. Living in this manner – continually and stubbornly bringing forth the jewels that are hidden within you - is a fine art, in and of itself."


In the TED talk below, Elizabeth talks about success, failure, and the drive to keep creating.



“An empathetic and inspiring guide to mustering the courage to live a creative life. … Nearly anyone who picks up this self-help manual should finish it feeling inspired, even if only to dream of a life without limits.” —Publisher's Weekly

We are looking forward to interacting with our listeners from all over the US and the rest of the world. If you can't join us live, please join us in the Cafe forum. We'll see you there!

Create a Podcast
//]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1970Sat, 17 Oct 2015 00:23:23 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, Robin and her guests discuss the book Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert, and announce our new Cafe Book Club! Let's get creative! Announcing the Cafe Book Club The Cafe Book Club...


Announcing the Cafe Book Club
The Cafe Book Club is a live on-air discussion starting Tuesday, October 28 at 8 PM PST. To participate in the live discussion through BlogTalkRadio, call (646) 727-3206, or visit online at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/transformationcafe.  In addition to the live on-air discussion, we're introducing a new Discussion Forum where you can post your thoughts, ask questions, and interact with other readers. We want to encourage lively conversation, so please take a moment to go to Transformation-Cafe.com and sign up. You can use the link below (or in the sidebar) to purchase your own copy of the hard cover or paperback book, audio CD, or kindle editions through Amazon.com.
About Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear
"When I talk about 'creative living' here, please understand that I am not necessarily talking about pursuing a life that is professionally or exclusively devoted to the arts," Gilbert assures."I'm not saying you must become a poet who lives on a mountaintop in Greece, or that you must perform at Carnegie Hall, or that you must win the Palme d'Or at the Cannes Film Festival. (Though if you want to attempt any of these feats, by all means, have at it. I love watching people swing for the bleachers.)

 

"No, when I refer to 'creative living' I am speaking more broadly. I'm talking about living a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than by fear."

"If you're alive, you're creative," Gilbert writes, noting that all we need to do to be creative is to do whatever makes us feel alive.

"While the paths and outcomes of creative living will vary from person to person, I can guarantee you this: A creative life is an amplified life. It's a bigger life, a happier life, an expanded life, and a hell of a lot more interesting life. Living in this manner – continually and stubbornly bringing forth the jewels that are hidden within you - is a fine art, in and of itself."


In the TED talk below, Elizabeth talks about success, failure, and the drive to keep creating.



“An empathetic and inspiring guide to mustering the courage to live a creative life. … Nearly anyone who picks up this self-help manual should finish it feeling inspired, even if only to dream of a life without limits.” —Publisher's Weekly

We are looking forward to interacting with our listeners from all over the US and the rest of the world. If you can't join us live, please join us in the Cafe forum. We'll see you there!

Create a Podcast
//]]>1762cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, Robin and her guests discuss the book Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert, and announce our new Cafe Book Club! Let's get creative! Announcing the Cafe Book Club The Cafe Book Club is a live on-air discussion starting Tuesday, October 28 at 8 PM PST. To participate in the live discussion through BlogTalkRadio, call (646) 727-3206, or visit online at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/transformationcafe.  In addition to the live on-air discussion, we're introducing a new Discussion Forum where you can post your thoughts, ask questions, and interact with other readers. We want to encourage lively conversation, so please take a moment to go to Transformation-Cafe.com and sign up. You can use the link below (or in the sidebar) to purchase your own copy of the hard cover or paperback book, audio CD, or kindle editions through Amazon.com. About Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear "When I talk about 'creative living' here, please understand that I am not necessarily talking about pursuing a life that is professionally or exclusively devoted to the arts," Gilbert assures."I'm not saying you must become a poet who lives on a mountaintop in Greece, or that you must perform at Carnegie Hall, or that you must win the Palme d'Or at the Cannes Film Festival. (Though if you want to attempt any of these feats, by all means, have at it. I love watching people swing for the bleachers.)   "No, when I refer to 'creative living' I am speaking more broadly. I'm talking about living a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than by fear." "If you're alive, you're creative," Gilbert writes, noting that all we need to do to be creative is to do whatever makes us feel alive. "While the paths and outcomes of creative living will vary from person to person, I can guarantee you this: A creative life is an amplified life. It's a bigger life, a happier life, an expanded life, and a hell of a lot more interesting life. Living in this manner – continually and stubbornly bringing forth the jewels that are hidden within you - is a fine art, in and of itself." In the TED talk below, Elizabeth talks about success, failure, and the drive to keep creating. “An empathetic and inspiring guide to mustering the courage to live a creative life. … Nearly anyone who picks up this self-help manual should finish it feeling inspired, even if only to dream of a life without limits.” —Publisher's Weekly We are looking forward to interacting with our listeners from all over the US and the rest of the world. If you can't join us live, please join us in the Cafe forum. We'll see you there! Create a Podcast //Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-272-pope-francis-beacon-of-compassion


Pope Francis visited the United States from September 22-27. He traveled to Washington, D.C. , New York, and Philadelphia. The news covered his visit extensively, including his speech to Congress, his visit to the United Nations, and his participation at the World Meeting of Families in Philadelphia. Rather than traveling in an enormous limousine that one would expect for a person of his stature, he traveled in a tiny Fiat. At each stop he provided a thoughtful and encouraging message to the world: We share this world, and we must each do our part to protect it.







While these events were certainly important, it was his interaction with the people as he moved from place to place that may have had the biggest impact. He showed a jaded public what true compassion looks like. He visited the poor and the imprisoned, and blessed the masses as he made his way to each new location. The joy that people felt as he kissed babies and waved at the enormous crowds was something that we haven't experienced before. Nearly everyone, Catholic and non-Catholic alike, were deeply moved by what they witnessed.
The thing the church needs most today is the ability to heal wounds and to warm the hearts of the faithful. - Pope Francis


While he was in the US, the Pope made it a point to visit the homeless. ""He doesn't change the doctrine" of Catholicism, said Monsignor John Enzler, the President and CEO of the Catholic Charities Archdiocese of D.C. "Those are things the Catholic Church has said for years." Rather, Enzler explains, "It's his emphasis. His words are for the poor."
"We can find no social or moral justification, no justification whatsoever, for lack of housing," he said. "The Son of God came into this world as a homeless person. The Son of God knew what it was to start life without a roof over his head."
Before he was Pope, Jorge Mario Bergoglio taught literature and psychology at the Colegio del la Immaculada Concepcion, a Jesuit high school in Santa Fe, Argentina.

 ]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1939Sun, 04 Oct 2015 01:51:25 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and her guests discuss the recent visit of Pop Francis, and the concept of being a change-agent for compassion. They talk about their reactions to the Pope's visit, and how he...


Pope Francis visited the United States from September 22-27. He traveled to Washington, D.C. , New York, and Philadelphia. The news covered his visit extensively, including his speech to Congress, his visit to the United Nations, and his participation at the World Meeting of Families in Philadelphia. Rather than traveling in an enormous limousine that one would expect for a person of his stature, he traveled in a tiny Fiat. At each stop he provided a thoughtful and encouraging message to the world: We share this world, and we must each do our part to protect it.







While these events were certainly important, it was his interaction with the people as he moved from place to place that may have had the biggest impact. He showed a jaded public what true compassion looks like. He visited the poor and the imprisoned, and blessed the masses as he made his way to each new location. The joy that people felt as he kissed babies and waved at the enormous crowds was something that we haven't experienced before. Nearly everyone, Catholic and non-Catholic alike, were deeply moved by what they witnessed.
The thing the church needs most today is the ability to heal wounds and to warm the hearts of the faithful. - Pope Francis


While he was in the US, the Pope made it a point to visit the homeless. ""He doesn't change the doctrine" of Catholicism, said Monsignor John Enzler, the President and CEO of the Catholic Charities Archdiocese of D.C. "Those are things the Catholic Church has said for years." Rather, Enzler explains, "It's his emphasis. His words are for the poor."
"We can find no social or moral justification, no justification whatsoever, for lack of housing," he said. "The Son of God came into this world as a homeless person. The Son of God knew what it was to start life without a roof over his head."
Before he was Pope, Jorge Mario Bergoglio taught literature and psychology at the Colegio del la Immaculada Concepcion, a Jesuit high school in Santa Fe, Argentina.

 ]]>1702cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and her guests discuss the recent visit of Pop Francis, and the concept of being a change-agent for compassion. They talk about their reactions to the Pope's visit, and how he personifies caring for the least among us. They discuss tools for cultivating compassion for ourselves and toward others. Pope Francis visited the United States from September 22-27. He traveled to Washington, D.C. , New York, and Philadelphia. The news covered his visit extensively, including his speech to Congress, his visit to the United Nations, and his participation at the World Meeting of Families in Philadelphia. Rather than traveling in an enormous limousine that one would expect for a person of his stature, he traveled in a tiny Fiat. At each stop he provided a thoughtful and encouraging message to the world: We share this world, and we must each do our part to protect it. While these events were certainly important, it was his interaction with the people as he moved from place to place that may have had the biggest impact. He showed a jaded public what true compassion looks like. He visited the poor and the imprisoned, and blessed the masses as he made his way to each new location. The joy that people felt as he kissed babies and waved at the enormous crowds was something that we haven't experienced before. Nearly everyone, Catholic and non-Catholic alike, were deeply moved by what they witnessed. The thing the church needs most today is the ability to heal wounds and to warm the hearts of the faithful. - Pope Francis While he was in the US, the Pope made it a point to visit the homeless. ""He doesn't change the doctrine" of Catholicism, said Monsignor John Enzler, the President and CEO of the Catholic Charities Archdiocese of D.C. "Those are things the Catholic Church has said for years." Rather, Enzler explains, "It's his emphasis. His words are for the poor." "We can find no social or moral justification, no justification whatsoever, for lack of housing," he said. "The Son of God came into this world as a homeless person. The Son of God knew what it was to start life without a roof over his head." Before he was Pope, Jorge Mario Bergoglio taught literature and psychology at the Colegio del la Immaculada Concepcion, a Jesuit high school in Santa Fe, Argentina.  Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-271-from-head-to-heart


Even if you don't suffer from negative self-talk and other issues, living a head-centered life may prevent you from experiencing an abundant, deeply rewarding life. As Robin's guest Amy Frost says, when she finds herself in times of stress and she's not sure what she should do, she takes a step away from the logical/worrying part of herself and asks "what does my heart want?". By tuning into her heart-centered truth, she is able to take the appropriate action.



Huffington Post has an article titled "Move from Head to Heart in 3 Easy Steps". While the simple technique the author shares won't solve all your problems, it may help you get started.

In a another article titled "Moving from Head to Heart", author Suma Varughese observes:

"Heart thinking is at a level higher than reason, not lower. And it is not opposed to reason. The difference is that it does not allow reason the star role it plays in head thinking. Heart thinking arrives at conclusions through faculties other than the mind, but it will use the mind to articulate these conclusions, and even validate them. So what are these faculties?"

"Most of us would call it intuition-a knowing that seems to come from the very depth of our being, from every cell in our body. Unlike the logic-driven processes of the mind, this knowledge seeps into our being and the certainty of knowing is utterly indisputable. The conclusions that the head arrives at can never give us that level of deep-rooted certainty, particularly in matters of ethics, values, decision-making and behavioral choices."



If you are in a state of distress your best option may be to seek professional help. As guest Gloria observes in the podcast, your friends can only do so much; they are not trained to help you move past your issues or deal with clinical depression, so it's best to work with someone that is qualified to offer guidance and the tools to help you.

If you want to learn more techniques for moving from your head to your heart, we suggest you take a look at the books below.

 
Books








 
As always we welcome your feedback. Please leave a comment and tell us what you thought, or rather, what your heart feels. ;)]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1926Sun, 27 Sep 2015 03:59:26 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and her guests discuss the journey from "Head to Heart". They share techniques for moving from feeling isolated, filled with worry, anxiety, self-doubt, and critical self-talk...


Even if you don't suffer from negative self-talk and other issues, living a head-centered life may prevent you from experiencing an abundant, deeply rewarding life. As Robin's guest Amy Frost says, when she finds herself in times of stress and she's not sure what she should do, she takes a step away from the logical/worrying part of herself and asks "what does my heart want?". By tuning into her heart-centered truth, she is able to take the appropriate action.



Huffington Post has an article titled "Move from Head to Heart in 3 Easy Steps". While the simple technique the author shares won't solve all your problems, it may help you get started.

In a another article titled "Moving from Head to Heart", author Suma Varughese observes:

"Heart thinking is at a level higher than reason, not lower. And it is not opposed to reason. The difference is that it does not allow reason the star role it plays in head thinking. Heart thinking arrives at conclusions through faculties other than the mind, but it will use the mind to articulate these conclusions, and even validate them. So what are these faculties?"

"Most of us would call it intuition-a knowing that seems to come from the very depth of our being, from every cell in our body. Unlike the logic-driven processes of the mind, this knowledge seeps into our being and the certainty of knowing is utterly indisputable. The conclusions that the head arrives at can never give us that level of deep-rooted certainty, particularly in matters of ethics, values, decision-making and behavioral choices."



If you are in a state of distress your best option may be to seek professional help. As guest Gloria observes in the podcast, your friends can only do so much; they are not trained to help you move past your issues or deal with clinical depression, so it's best to work with someone that is qualified to offer guidance and the tools to help you.

If you want to learn more techniques for moving from your head to your heart, we suggest you take a look at the books below.

 
Books








 
As always we welcome your feedback. Please leave a comment and tell us what you thought, or rather, what your heart feels. ;)]]>1746cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and her guests discuss the journey from "Head to Heart". They share techniques for moving from feeling isolated, filled with worry, anxiety, self-doubt, and critical self-talk about who we think we are (the head) to recognizing your authentic self, increasing awareness, and moving toward what you truly want (the heart). Even if you don't suffer from negative self-talk and other issues, living a head-centered life may prevent you from experiencing an abundant, deeply rewarding life. As Robin's guest Amy Frost says, when she finds herself in times of stress and she's not sure what she should do, she takes a step away from the logical/worrying part of herself and asks "what does my heart want?". By tuning into her heart-centered truth, she is able to take the appropriate action. Huffington Post has an article titled "Move from Head to Heart in 3 Easy Steps". While the simple technique the author shares won't solve all your problems, it may help you get started. In a another article titled "Moving from Head to Heart", author Suma Varughese observes: "Heart thinking is at a level higher than reason, not lower. And it is not opposed to reason. The difference is that it does not allow reason the star role it plays in head thinking. Heart thinking arrives at conclusions through faculties other than the mind, but it will use the mind to articulate these conclusions, and even validate them. So what are these faculties?" "Most of us would call it intuition-a knowing that seems to come from the very depth of our being, from every cell in our body. Unlike the logic-driven processes of the mind, this knowledge seeps into our being and the certainty of knowing is utterly indisputable. The conclusions that the head arrives at can never give us that level of deep-rooted certainty, particularly in matters of ethics, values, decision-making and behavioral choices." If you are in a state of distress your best option may be to seek professional help. As guest Gloria observes in the podcast, your friends can only do so much; they are not trained to help you move past your issues or deal with clinical depression, so it's best to work with someone that is qualified to offer guidance and the tools to help you. If you want to learn more techniques for moving from your head to your heart, we suggest you take a look at the books below.   Books   As always we welcome your feedback. Please leave a comment and tell us what you thought, or rather, what your heart feels. ;)Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-270-playing-your-own-game


In case you're wondering if a tennis match played in 1973 is even relevant to today's world, Variety reports that Fox Searchlight is producing "Battle of the Sexes" with Brie Larson as Billie Jean King and Steve Carell as Bobby Riggs. HBO is producing "Proof" with Elizabeth Banks and Paul Giamatti, and coming from Chernin Entertainment is “Match Maker” with Will Ferrell attached to play Riggs.

"That's the way I want the world to look: men and women working together, championing each other, helping each other, promoting each other -- we're all in this world together."



Billie Jean King isn't just a pioneer in of women's tennis - she's a pioneer in women getting paid. In the TED talk below, Billie Jean talks about identity, the role of sports in social justice, and her the famous "Battle of the Sexes" match with Bobbie Riggs.






Recommended Books








About Billie Jean King
Athlete, coach, leader, activist, and one of the most illustrious and celebrated tennis players in history, Billie Jean King is recognized for her life-long struggle for gender equality, both on and off the court. She was honored with a Presidential Medal of Freedom. Her work led to the landmark Title IX law requiring that girls/women and boys/men be given the same opportunity in sports, and she empowered women and educated men when she defeated Bobby Riggs in the Battle of the Sexes in 1973. Life magazine named King one of the "100 Most Important Americans of the 20th Century," and she is ranked No. 5 on the Sports Illustrated "Top 40 Athletes" list for significantly altering or elevating sports the last four decades.

If you'd like to share your thoughts about Billie Jean King, women's issues, or any other topic, please leave a comment. We'd love to hear from you!]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1897Sat, 19 Sep 2015 17:22:13 +0000Transformation CafeHost Robin Masiewicz and guest Amy Frost talk about tennis great Billie Jean King and her famous "Battle of the Sexes" tennis match with Bobbie Riggs in 1973. Billie Jean's win helped lead the revolution in women's sports, and changed how women are...


In case you're wondering if a tennis match played in 1973 is even relevant to today's world, Variety reports that Fox Searchlight is producing "Battle of the Sexes" with Brie Larson as Billie Jean King and Steve Carell as Bobby Riggs. HBO is producing "Proof" with Elizabeth Banks and Paul Giamatti, and coming from Chernin Entertainment is “Match Maker” with Will Ferrell attached to play Riggs.

"That's the way I want the world to look: men and women working together, championing each other, helping each other, promoting each other -- we're all in this world together."



Billie Jean King isn't just a pioneer in of women's tennis - she's a pioneer in women getting paid. In the TED talk below, Billie Jean talks about identity, the role of sports in social justice, and her the famous "Battle of the Sexes" match with Bobbie Riggs.






Recommended Books








About Billie Jean King
Athlete, coach, leader, activist, and one of the most illustrious and celebrated tennis players in history, Billie Jean King is recognized for her life-long struggle for gender equality, both on and off the court. She was honored with a Presidential Medal of Freedom. Her work led to the landmark Title IX law requiring that girls/women and boys/men be given the same opportunity in sports, and she empowered women and educated men when she defeated Bobby Riggs in the Battle of the Sexes in 1973. Life magazine named King one of the "100 Most Important Americans of the 20th Century," and she is ranked No. 5 on the Sports Illustrated "Top 40 Athletes" list for significantly altering or elevating sports the last four decades.

If you'd like to share your thoughts about Billie Jean King, women's issues, or any other topic, please leave a comment. We'd love to hear from you!]]>1759cleanfullTransformation CafeHost Robin Masiewicz and guest Amy Frost talk about tennis great Billie Jean King and her famous "Battle of the Sexes" tennis match with Bobbie Riggs in 1973. Billie Jean's win helped lead the revolution in women's sports, and changed how women are viewed on and off the field. In case you're wondering if a tennis match played in 1973 is even relevant to today's world, Variety reports that Fox Searchlight is producing "Battle of the Sexes" with Brie Larson as Billie Jean King and Steve Carell as Bobby Riggs. HBO is producing "Proof" with Elizabeth Banks and Paul Giamatti, and coming from Chernin Entertainment is “Match Maker” with Will Ferrell attached to play Riggs. "That's the way I want the world to look: men and women working together, championing each other, helping each other, promoting each other -- we're all in this world together." Billie Jean King isn't just a pioneer in of women's tennis - she's a pioneer in women getting paid. In the TED talk below, Billie Jean talks about identity, the role of sports in social justice, and her the famous "Battle of the Sexes" match with Bobbie Riggs. Recommended Books About Billie Jean King Athlete, coach, leader, activist, and one of the most illustrious and celebrated tennis players in history, Billie Jean King is recognized for her life-long struggle for gender equality, both on and off the court. She was honored with a Presidential Medal of Freedom. Her work led to the landmark Title IX law requiring that girls/women and boys/men be given the same opportunity in sports, and she empowered women and educated men when she defeated Bobby Riggs in the Battle of the Sexes in 1973. Life magazine named King one of the "100 Most Important Americans of the 20th Century," and she is ranked No. 5 on the Sports Illustrated "Top 40 Athletes" list for significantly altering or elevating sports the last four decades. If you'd like to share your thoughts about Billie Jean King, women's issues, or any other topic, please leave a comment. We'd love to hear from you!Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-269-celebrating-wayne-dyer

"My beliefs are that the truth is a truth until you organize it, and then becomes a lie. I don't think that Jesus was teaching Christianity, Jesus was teaching kindness, love, concern, and peace. What I tell people is don't be Christian, be Christ-like. Don't be Buddhist, be Buddha-like. Religion is orthodoxy, rules and historical scriptures maintained by people over long periods of time. Generally people are raised to obey the customs and practices of that religion without question. These are customs and expectations from outside the person and do not fit my definition of spiritual."
Biography
Wayne W. Dyer, Ph.D., was an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development. He authored 30 books, created many audio programs and videos, and appeared on thousands of television and radio shows. To us he was a teacher, a mentor, and someone we watched evolve from a psychologist and public speaker to a true spiritual leader. He always treated people with dignity and respect, knowing that they too were "spirits having a human experience".



His books Manifest Your Destiny, Wisdom of the Ages, There's a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem, 21 Days to Master Success and Inner Peace,]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1867Sun, 13 Sep 2015 03:11:29 +0000Transformation CafeHost Robin Masiewicz is joined by her sister Amy Frost and Amy's friend Jeff Drothler to discuss the life and influence of Dr. Wayne Dyer, who recently passed. They share stories of how Wayne influenced each of them in their journey toward more...

"My beliefs are that the truth is a truth until you organize it, and then becomes a lie. I don't think that Jesus was teaching Christianity, Jesus was teaching kindness, love, concern, and peace. What I tell people is don't be Christian, be Christ-like. Don't be Buddhist, be Buddha-like. Religion is orthodoxy, rules and historical scriptures maintained by people over long periods of time. Generally people are raised to obey the customs and practices of that religion without question. These are customs and expectations from outside the person and do not fit my definition of spiritual."
Biography
Wayne W. Dyer, Ph.D., was an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development. He authored 30 books, created many audio programs and videos, and appeared on thousands of television and radio shows. To us he was a teacher, a mentor, and someone we watched evolve from a psychologist and public speaker to a true spiritual leader. He always treated people with dignity and respect, knowing that they too were "spirits having a human experience".



His books Manifest Your Destiny, Wisdom of the Ages, There's a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem, 21 Days to Master Success and Inner Peace,]]>1719cleanfullTransformation CafeHost Robin Masiewicz is joined by her sister Amy Frost and Amy's friend Jeff Drothler to discuss the life and influence of Dr. Wayne Dyer, who recently passed. They share stories of how Wayne influenced each of them in their journey toward more spiritual and balanced lives. Amy and Jeff share several of their favorite quotes from Wayne's work. "My beliefs are that the truth is a truth until you organize it, and then becomes a lie. I don't think that Jesus was teaching Christianity, Jesus was teaching kindness, love, concern, and peace. What I tell people is don't be Christian, be Christ-like. Don't be Buddhist, be Buddha-like. Religion is orthodoxy, rules and historical scriptures maintained by people over long periods of time. Generally people are raised to obey the customs and practices of that religion without question. These are customs and expectations from outside the person and do not fit my definition of spiritual." Biography Wayne W. Dyer, Ph.D., was an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development. He authored 30 books, created many audio programs and videos, and appeared on thousands of television and radio shows. To us he was a teacher, a mentor, and someone we watched evolve from a psychologist and public speaker to a true spiritual leader. He always treated people with dignity and respect, knowing that they too were "spirits having a human experience". His books Manifest Your Destiny, Wisdom of the Ages, There's a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem, 21 Days to Master Success and Inner Peace,Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-268-highly-sensitive-people-hsps


The term "sensitive" means different things to different people. In the article Mistaken Identities: On Being a Highly Sensitive Person, author Peter Messerschmidt considers how the terms "highly sensitive", "empath", and "Sensitive" are somewhat ambiguous. leading to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. He concludes that although they have some elements in common, they are really quite distinct concepts.



The term "Highly Sensitive Person" is relatively new, but more and more research is being done to support this classification every day. Below is a brief discussion on some of the characteristics of an HSP. For more detailed information we recommend that you peruse one of the recommended books below. We've also included a brief video of the key concepts by Elaine Aron, a prominent researcher in this field.
Highly Sensitive People (HSPs)
One of the leading researchers in the area of highly sensitive people is Elaine Aron, Ph.D., author of the book The Highly Sensitive Person. According to Aron's research, about 20% of people can be classified as "highly sensitive", which means their brain and nervous system react differently to stimulation. Below are some characteristics common to most HSPs.
Characteristics of HSPs

* Highly bothered by sound, noise, bright lights, chaos
* Like quiet
* Make decisions carefully
* Get upset if a “wrong" decision is made
* Prefers to do one thing at a time and may get frazzled if they have to multitask
* Worries about how others will react
* Is prone to anxiety
* Hypersensitive

On the average, most HSPs

* Are better at spotting errors and avoid making errors
* Highly conscientious
* Able to concentrate deeply (but do best without distractions)
* Especially good at tasks requiring vigilance, accuracy, speed, and the detection of minor differences
* Able to process material to deeper levels of what psychologists call "semantic memory"
* Often thinking about their own thinking

The Highly Sensitive Person: An Interview with Elaine Aron



In developing her theory, Dr. Aron created a by now widely used 27-item assessment questionnaire, which consisted of a highly accurate list of attributes common to highly sensitive persons. A number of items on this “HSP Inventory” list dealt fairly specifically with the aspects of the trait related to a heightened awareness of environment and people, their moods, needs, actions and motivations—attributes central to the definition of “Empath:”

Empathy: n. 1. The ability to sense and/or understand emotion(s) from another person, animal, inanimate objects incorporating stimulation to any and or all of the senses (including the 6th Sense) without verbally being told and/or without obvious visual clues. 2. The ability to be sensitive and receptive to outside emotional stimuli. – adj. empathic or empathetic., v. to empathize

Empath: n. 1. A person who has the ability to experience empathy towards another person, and/or animate/inanimate objects, in part or from all of the above definition. 2. A person who is sensitive to the emotions in others.
Resources:




Books]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1830Wed, 02 Sep 2015 04:35:06 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss the topic of highly sensitive people, empaths, and "sensitives". Are these terms interchangeable? Are you highly sensitive to stimulation? Do you...


The term "sensitive" means different things to different people. In the article Mistaken Identities: On Being a Highly Sensitive Person, author Peter Messerschmidt considers how the terms "highly sensitive", "empath", and "Sensitive" are somewhat ambiguous. leading to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. He concludes that although they have some elements in common, they are really quite distinct concepts.



The term "Highly Sensitive Person" is relatively new, but more and more research is being done to support this classification every day. Below is a brief discussion on some of the characteristics of an HSP. For more detailed information we recommend that you peruse one of the recommended books below. We've also included a brief video of the key concepts by Elaine Aron, a prominent researcher in this field.
Highly Sensitive People (HSPs)
One of the leading researchers in the area of highly sensitive people is Elaine Aron, Ph.D., author of the book The Highly Sensitive Person. According to Aron's research, about 20% of people can be classified as "highly sensitive", which means their brain and nervous system react differently to stimulation. Below are some characteristics common to most HSPs.
Characteristics of HSPs

* Highly bothered by sound, noise, bright lights, chaos
* Like quiet
* Make decisions carefully
* Get upset if a “wrong" decision is made
* Prefers to do one thing at a time and may get frazzled if they have to multitask
* Worries about how others will react
* Is prone to anxiety
* Hypersensitive

On the average, most HSPs

* Are better at spotting errors and avoid making errors
* Highly conscientious
* Able to concentrate deeply (but do best without distractions)
* Especially good at tasks requiring vigilance, accuracy, speed, and the detection of minor differences
* Able to process material to deeper levels of what psychologists call "semantic memory"
* Often thinking about their own thinking

The Highly Sensitive Person: An Interview with Elaine Aron



In developing her theory, Dr. Aron created a by now widely used 27-item assessment questionnaire, which consisted of a highly accurate list of attributes common to highly sensitive persons. A number of items on this “HSP Inventory” list dealt fairly specifically with the aspects of the trait related to a heightened awareness of environment and people, their moods, needs, actions and motivations—attributes central to the definition of “Empath:”

Empathy: n. 1. The ability to sense and/or understand emotion(s) from another person, animal, inanimate objects incorporating stimulation to any and or all of the senses (including the 6th Sense) without verbally being told and/or without obvious visual clues. 2. The ability to be sensitive and receptive to outside emotional stimuli. – adj. empathic or empathetic., v. to empathize

Empath: n. 1. A person who has the ability to experience empathy towards another person, and/or animate/inanimate objects, in part or from all of the above definition. 2. A person who is sensitive to the emotions in others.
Resources:




Books]]>1759cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss the topic of highly sensitive people, empaths, and "sensitives". Are these terms interchangeable? Are you highly sensitive to stimulation? Do you feel other's emotions and/or subtle shifts in energy when you walk in to a room? Are you highly intuitive? The term "sensitive" means different things to different people. In the article Mistaken Identities: On Being a Highly Sensitive Person, author Peter Messerschmidt considers how the terms "highly sensitive", "empath", and "Sensitive" are somewhat ambiguous. leading to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. He concludes that although they have some elements in common, they are really quite distinct concepts. The term "Highly Sensitive Person" is relatively new, but more and more research is being done to support this classification every day. Below is a brief discussion on some of the characteristics of an HSP. For more detailed information we recommend that you peruse one of the recommended books below. We've also included a brief video of the key concepts by Elaine Aron, a prominent researcher in this field. Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) One of the leading researchers in the area of highly sensitive people is Elaine Aron, Ph.D., author of the book The Highly Sensitive Person. According to Aron's research, about 20% of people can be classified as "highly sensitive", which means their brain and nervous system react differently to stimulation. Below are some characteristics common to most HSPs. Characteristics of HSPs * Highly bothered by sound, noise, bright lights, chaos * Like quiet * Make decisions carefully * Get upset if a “wrong" decision is made * Prefers to do one thing at a time and may get frazzled if they have to multitask * Worries about how others will react * Is prone to anxiety * Hypersensitive On the average, most HSPs * Are better at spotting errors and avoid making errors * Highly conscientious * Able to concentrate deeply (but do best without distractions) * Especially good at tasks requiring vigilance, accuracy, speed, and the detection of minor differences * Able to process material to deeper levels of what psychologists call "semantic memory" * Often thinking about their own thinking The Highly Sensitive Person: An Interview with Elaine Aron In developing her theory, Dr. Aron created a by now widely used 27-item assessment questionnaire, which consisted of a highly accurate list of attributes common to highly sensitive persons. A number of items on this “HSP Inventory” list dealt fairly specifically with the aspects of the trait related to a heightened awareness of environment and people, their moods, needs, actions and motivations—attributes central to the definition of “Empath:” Empathy: n. 1. The ability to sense and/or understand emotion(s) from another person, animal, inanimate objects incorporating stimulation to any and or all of the senses (including the 6th Sense) without verbally being told and/or without obvious visual clues. 2. The ability to be sensitive and receptive to outside emotional stimuli. – adj. empathic or empathetic., v. to empathize Empath: n. 1. A person who has the ability to experience empathy towards another person, and/or animate/inanimate objects, in part or from all of the above definition. 2. A person who is sensitive to the emotions in others. Resources: BooksNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-267-robots-for-humanity


An assistive robot is a device that can sense, process sensory information, and perform actions that benefit people with disabilities and seniors.These robots may be fixed (next to a bedside for example) or mobile.

In the video below, Steve Cousins talks about the Robots for Humanity Project, a collaboration between Willow Garage, the Healthcare Robotics Lab at Georgia Tech (http://www.hsi.gatech.edu/hrl/) led by Charlie Kemp, the Man and Machines Group at Oregon State led by Bill Smart, and Henry and Jane Evans.


Ask a man in solitary confinement if he wants just an hour of freedom a day. I tell you, he will live for it. Robots are my freedom.
– Henry Evans (Forbes, Dec 13, 2012)
The PR2 robot and other assistive machines being developed can make a huge impact on people like Henry. PR2 combines the mobility to navigate human environments and the dexterity to grasp and manipulate objects in those environments. Controlling the robot provides a sense of freedom and accomplishment. For most men, a simple task like shaving is a mundane chore. Henry was very happy when he learned how to shave himself using the robot to hold the razor.

Using a Texai remote presence device developed by Willow Garage, Henry is able to tell his story at the TEDxMidAtlantic conference. Henry has also learned how to fly a small quadrotor drone, so he can once again navigate through space, looking through his garden, and exploring other places outside.


Therapeutic Robots
Robin discusses robots like Paro, a little robot that resembles a baby seal. These cute and cuddly robots are used to help treat patients with dementia. They have embedded sensors that let them respond to touch and to voices. Check out this article (http://www.thestar.com/life/breakingthrough/2014/06/09/robot_gets_seal_of_approval.html)from the Toronto Star on how Paro has been shown to have a calming effect on patients with dementia, and how in many ways a robot can be even better than a therapy pet.

(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/paro1.jpg)

According to the Paro (http://www.parorobots.com/index.asp)website:

Unlike industrial robots, “Mental Commitment Robots” are developed to interact with human beings and to make them feel emotional attachment to the robots. Rather than using objective measures, these robots trigger more subjective evaluations, evoking psychological impressions such as “cuteness” and comfort. Mental Commitment Robots are designed to provide 3 types of effects: psychological, such as relaxation and motivation, physiological, such as improvement in vital signs, and social effects such as instigating communication among inpatients and caregivers.




Resources:
Willow Garage

Healthcare Robotics Lab at Georgia Tech - http://www.hsi.gatech.edu/hrl/ (http://www.hsi.gatech.edu/hrl/)

News Medical article: Animal Robots for Dementia Treatment (http://www.news-medical.net/news/20130405/Animal-robots-for-dementia-treatment-an-interview-with-Professor-Wendy-Moyle-Griffith-University.aspx)]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1811Sun, 23 Aug 2015 23:50:11 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss how robots are helping quadriplegics perform tasks, and how therapeutic robots are being used to treat patients with Alzheimer's. An assistive...


An assistive robot is a device that can sense, process sensory information, and perform actions that benefit people with disabilities and seniors.These robots may be fixed (next to a bedside for example) or mobile.

In the video below, Steve Cousins talks about the Robots for Humanity Project, a collaboration between Willow Garage, the Healthcare Robotics Lab at Georgia Tech (http://www.hsi.gatech.edu/hrl/) led by Charlie Kemp, the Man and Machines Group at Oregon State led by Bill Smart, and Henry and Jane Evans.


Ask a man in solitary confinement if he wants just an hour of freedom a day. I tell you, he will live for it. Robots are my freedom.
– Henry Evans (Forbes, Dec 13, 2012)
The PR2 robot and other assistive machines being developed can make a huge impact on people like Henry. PR2 combines the mobility to navigate human environments and the dexterity to grasp and manipulate objects in those environments. Controlling the robot provides a sense of freedom and accomplishment. For most men, a simple task like shaving is a mundane chore. Henry was very happy when he learned how to shave himself using the robot to hold the razor.

Using a Texai remote presence device developed by Willow Garage, Henry is able to tell his story at the TEDxMidAtlantic conference. Henry has also learned how to fly a small quadrotor drone, so he can once again navigate through space, looking through his garden, and exploring other places outside.


Therapeutic Robots
Robin discusses robots like Paro, a little robot that resembles a baby seal. These cute and cuddly robots are used to help treat patients with dementia. They have embedded sensors that let them respond to touch and to voices. Check out this article (http://www.thestar.com/life/breakingthrough/2014/06/09/robot_gets_seal_of_approval.html)from the Toronto Star on how Paro has been shown to have a calming effect on patients with dementia, and how in many ways a robot can be even better than a therapy pet.

(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/paro1.jpg)

According to the Paro (http://www.parorobots.com/index.asp)website:

Unlike industrial robots, “Mental Commitment Robots” are developed to interact with human beings and to make them feel emotional attachment to the robots. Rather than using objective measures, these robots trigger more subjective evaluations, evoking psychological impressions such as “cuteness” and comfort. Mental Commitment Robots are designed to provide 3 types of effects: psychological, such as relaxation and motivation, physiological, such as improvement in vital signs, and social effects such as instigating communication among inpatients and caregivers.




Resources:
Willow Garage

Healthcare Robotics Lab at Georgia Tech - http://www.hsi.gatech.edu/hrl/ (http://www.hsi.gatech.edu/hrl/)

News Medical article: Animal Robots for Dementia Treatment (1821cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss how robots are helping quadriplegics perform tasks, and how therapeutic robots are being used to treat patients with Alzheimer's. An assistive robot is a device that can sense, process sensory information, and perform actions that benefit people with disabilities and seniors.These robots may be fixed (next to a bedside for example) or mobile. In the video below, Steve Cousins talks about the Robots for Humanity Project, a collaboration between Willow Garage, the Healthcare Robotics Lab at Georgia Tech (http://www.hsi.gatech.edu/hrl/) led by Charlie Kemp, the Man and Machines Group at Oregon State led by Bill Smart, and Henry and Jane Evans. Ask a man in solitary confinement if he wants just an hour of freedom a day. I tell you, he will live for it. Robots are my freedom. – Henry Evans (Forbes, Dec 13, 2012) The PR2 robot and other assistive machines being developed can make a huge impact on people like Henry. PR2 combines the mobility to navigate human environments and the dexterity to grasp and manipulate objects in those environments. Controlling the robot provides a sense of freedom and accomplishment. For most men, a simple task like shaving is a mundane chore. Henry was very happy when he learned how to shave himself using the robot to hold the razor. Using a Texai remote presence device developed by Willow Garage, Henry is able to tell his story at the TEDxMidAtlantic conference. Henry has also learned how to fly a small quadrotor drone, so he can once again navigate through space, looking through his garden, and exploring other places outside. Therapeutic Robots Robin discusses robots like Paro, a little robot that resembles a baby seal. These cute and cuddly robots are used to help treat patients with dementia. They have embedded sensors that let them respond to touch and to voices. Check out this article (http://www.thestar.com/life/breakingthrough/2014/06/09/robot_gets_seal_of_approval.html)from the Toronto Star on how Paro has been shown to have a calming effect on patients with dementia, and how in many ways a robot can be even better than a therapy pet. (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/paro1.jpg) According to the Paro (http://www.parorobots.com/index.asp)website: Unlike industrial robots, “Mental Commitment Robots” are developed to interact with human beings and to make them feel emotional attachment to the robots. Rather than using objective measures, these robots trigger more subjective evaluations, evoking psychological impressions such as “cuteness” and comfort. Mental Commitment Robots are designed to provide 3 types of effects: psychological, such as relaxation and motivation, physiological, such as improvement in vital signs, and social effects such as instigating communication among inpatients and caregivers. Resources: Willow Garage Healthcare Robotics Lab at Georgia Tech - http://www.hsi.gatech.edu/hrl/ (http://www.hsi.gatech.edu/hrl/) News Medical article: Animal Robots for Dementia Treatment (http://www.news-medical.net/news/20130405/Animal-robots-for-dementia-treatment-an-interview-with-Professor-Wendy-Moyle-Griffith-University.aspx)Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-266-worlds-oldest-yoga-teacher




Watch this video to learn more about Tao's inspiring journey.



The World's Oldest Yoga Teacher. (http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20942/the-worlds-oldest-yoga-teacher-turns-97-today-happy-birthday-tao.html) Tao Porchon-Lynch on Mindbodygreen.com.

Later in the conversation Robin discusses an interview on Regena Thomashauer (Mama Gena) from Marie TV. The video appears below.


Resources:
Tao Porchon-Lynch's website: http://www.taoporchon-lynch.com/ (http://www.taoporchon-lynch.com/)

The Tao Experience (Tao's blog, videos, calendar of events, and information on pre-ordering her autobiography): http://www.thetaoexperience.com/ (http://www.thetaoexperience.com/)

Interview with Regena Thomashauer on Marie TV: http://www.marieforleo.com/2015/07/regena-thomashauer/ (http://www.marieforleo.com/2015/07/regena-thomashauer/)

Mama Gena's School for Womanly Arts (Regena Thomashauer): http://www.mamagenas.com/ (http://www.mamagenas.com/)]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1795Sun, 16 Aug 2015 18:15:27 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, Robin and Cafe regular Gloria start with a conversation about Tao Porchon-Lynch, a woman that is still actively practicing yoga, dancing the tango, and doing many other amazing things at the age of...




Watch this video to learn more about Tao's inspiring journey.



The World's Oldest Yoga Teacher. (http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20942/the-worlds-oldest-yoga-teacher-turns-97-today-happy-birthday-tao.html) Tao Porchon-Lynch on Mindbodygreen.com.

Later in the conversation Robin discusses an interview on Regena Thomashauer (Mama Gena) from Marie TV. The video appears below.


Resources:
Tao Porchon-Lynch's website: http://www.taoporchon-lynch.com/ (http://www.taoporchon-lynch.com/)

The Tao Experience (Tao's blog, videos, calendar of events, and information on pre-ordering her autobiography): http://www.thetaoexperience.com/ (http://www.thetaoexperience.com/)

Interview with Regena Thomashauer on Marie TV: http://www.marieforleo.com/2015/07/regena-thomashauer/ (http://www.marieforleo.com/2015/07/regena-thomashauer/)

Mama Gena's School for Womanly Arts (Regena Thomashauer): http://www.mamagenas.com/ (http://www.mamagenas.com/)]]>1728cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, Robin and Cafe regular Gloria start with a conversation about Tao Porchon-Lynch, a woman that is still actively practicing yoga, dancing the tango, and doing many other amazing things at the age of 97. She holds the world record as "Worlds's Oldest Yoga Teacher". Her mantra is "There is nothing you cannot do". Watch this video to learn more about Tao's inspiring journey. The World's Oldest Yoga Teacher. (http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20942/the-worlds-oldest-yoga-teacher-turns-97-today-happy-birthday-tao.html) Tao Porchon-Lynch on Mindbodygreen.com. Later in the conversation Robin discusses an interview on Regena Thomashauer (Mama Gena) from Marie TV. The video appears below. Resources: Tao Porchon-Lynch's website: http://www.taoporchon-lynch.com/ (http://www.taoporchon-lynch.com/) The Tao Experience (Tao's blog, videos, calendar of events, and information on pre-ordering her autobiography): http://www.thetaoexperience.com/ (http://www.thetaoexperience.com/) Interview with Regena Thomashauer on Marie TV: http://www.marieforleo.com/2015/07/regena-thomashauer/ (http://www.marieforleo.com/2015/07/regena-thomashauer/) Mama Gena's School for Womanly Arts (Regena Thomashauer): http://www.mamagenas.com/ (http://www.mamagenas.com/)Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-265-thyroid-health




View an article and illustrations of the thyroid (http://www.webmd.com/women/picture-of-the-thyroid)at WebMD.

3 Types Of Thyroid Problems

* Hypothyroidism, or under-functioning of the thyroid gland. This means that energy and metabolism are low.
* Hyperthyroidism, or over-functioning of the thyroid gland. In this case, your metabolism is running on overdrive.
* Autoimmune thyroid diseases. This includes both Hashimoto’s disease, where the thyroid is underactive, and Graves disease, where it's overactive.

 
Resources:
13 Ways to Treat Hypothyroidism Naturally (http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-3139/13-Ways-to-Treat-Hypothyroidism-Naturally.html)

10 Signs You Might Have a Thyroid Problem (http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20774/10-signs-you-might-have-a-thyroid-problem.html)

5 Foods that May Help Ease Hyperthyroidism Symptoms (http://www.endocrineweb.com/conditions/hyperthyroidism/5-foods-may-help-ease-hyperthyroidism-symptoms?page=1)

 ]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1783Mon, 27 Jul 2015 04:49:21 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss ways to support the function of the thyroid gland, a very important gland in the body that secretes hormones that influence metabolism, growth and...




View an article and illustrations of the thyroid (http://www.webmd.com/women/picture-of-the-thyroid)at WebMD.

3 Types Of Thyroid Problems

* Hypothyroidism, or under-functioning of the thyroid gland. This means that energy and metabolism are low.
* Hyperthyroidism, or over-functioning of the thyroid gland. In this case, your metabolism is running on overdrive.
* Autoimmune thyroid diseases. This includes both Hashimoto’s disease, where the thyroid is underactive, and Graves disease, where it's overactive.

 
Resources:
13 Ways to Treat Hypothyroidism Naturally (http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-3139/13-Ways-to-Treat-Hypothyroidism-Naturally.html)

10 Signs You Might Have a Thyroid Problem (http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20774/10-signs-you-might-have-a-thyroid-problem.html)

5 Foods that May Help Ease Hyperthyroidism Symptoms (http://www.endocrineweb.com/conditions/hyperthyroidism/5-foods-may-help-ease-hyperthyroidism-symptoms?page=1)

 ]]>1801cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss ways to support the function of the thyroid gland, a very important gland in the body that secretes hormones that influence metabolism, growth and development, and body temperature. During infancy and childhood, adequate thyroid hormone is crucial for brain development. View an article and illustrations of the thyroid (http://www.webmd.com/women/picture-of-the-thyroid)at WebMD. 3 Types Of Thyroid Problems * Hypothyroidism, or under-functioning of the thyroid gland. This means that energy and metabolism are low. * Hyperthyroidism, or over-functioning of the thyroid gland. In this case, your metabolism is running on overdrive. * Autoimmune thyroid diseases. This includes both Hashimoto’s disease, where the thyroid is underactive, and Graves disease, where it's overactive.   Resources: 13 Ways to Treat Hypothyroidism Naturally (http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-3139/13-Ways-to-Treat-Hypothyroidism-Naturally.html) 10 Signs You Might Have a Thyroid Problem (http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20774/10-signs-you-might-have-a-thyroid-problem.html) 5 Foods that May Help Ease Hyperthyroidism Symptoms (http://www.endocrineweb.com/conditions/hyperthyroidism/5-foods-may-help-ease-hyperthyroidism-symptoms?page=1)  Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-264-herbal-remedies-for-women
One of the supplements they discuss is Vitex, a "hormonal tonic for women". Extensive clinical studies, as well as over two thousand years of use in folk medicine, have proven the effectiveness of this remedy. It works by stimulating and normalizing the pituitary gland, which regulates the balance of estrogen and progesterone in the body.



Vitex agnus-castus, or chasteberry, is a small brown berry fruit of the chaste tree which is about the size of peppercorns and smells like peppermint. It is sometimes called “the women’s herb.” Vitex nourishes and supports the endocrine system to find its own balance. David Hoffmann, herbalist and author of Holistic Herbal: A Safe and Practical Guide to Making and Using Herbal Remedies (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0007145411/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0007145411&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=USCDEOSWV7A2NIKO)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0007145411), says "Vitex will always enable what is appropriate to occur."

As with any herbal supplement, we recommend that you consult your health care provider before taking chasteberry or its supplements therapeutically to rule any potential clash with any other medications that you may be taking.


"In every legend, every story, every creation story around the world no matter what it is, whether God created the Earth in seven days or this Darwin evolutionary thing. . . the plants were always here before humans which makes them our teachers and our elders." - Rosemary Gladstar
In the video below, herbalist and author Rosemary Gladstar gives a presentation about herbs for depression and anxiety at the MOTHER EARTH NEWS FAIR in Topeka, Kansas.  Rosemary is the founder of the wonderful Sage Mountain (http://www.sagemountain.com/) Retreat Center and Native Plant Preserve in Vermont, and has been teaching and writing books on herbal medicine for over twenty years.



In the video below, Rosemary discusses the healing properties, folklore, and uses for Elderberries and Elderflowers. Interestingly the elder branches and leaves are said to be poisonous, but the berries and flowers have healing properties and are safe to consume. Rosemary mentions elderberry jam, elderberry wine, and fritters made from elder flowers.



Rosemary said something in this video that I found particularly profound. "Sometimes plants appear where they want to be, where they know they're supposed to be. They just show up. People are not aware that they've had this ancient relationship. We're genetically connected to these plants, and we've been evolving with them for thousands and thousands of years. In fact in every legend, every story, every creation story around the world no matter what it is, whether God created the Earth in seven days or this Darwin evolutionary thing. . . the plants were always here before humans which makes them our teachers and our elders."


Resources:
If you're interested in growing your own herbs or buying high quality organic bulk herbs, gourmet spices, loose leaf teas, essential oils, herbal extracts, and natural body care ingredients, check out the sites below. Mountain Rose Herbs has a wide selection to choose from.

Horizon Herbs: https://www.horizonherbs.com/ (http://www.horizonherbs.com)

Mountain Rose Herbs: https://www.mountainroseherbs.com/ (https://www.mountainroseherbs.com/)
Want to learn more about herbal medicine?
Check out the California School of Herbal Studies (http://www.cshs.com/index.html). David Hoffmann is on the faculty.
Books by Rosemary Gladstar
(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Rosemary-Gladstar-sm.jpg)

For a complete list of Rosemary Gladstar's (http://]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1751Sun, 19 Jul 2015 18:46:24 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria continue their discussion on herbal remedies. One of the supplements they discuss is Vitex, a "hormonal tonic for women". Extensive clinical studies, as well as...
One of the supplements they discuss is Vitex, a "hormonal tonic for women". Extensive clinical studies, as well as over two thousand years of use in folk medicine, have proven the effectiveness of this remedy. It works by stimulating and normalizing the pituitary gland, which regulates the balance of estrogen and progesterone in the body.



Vitex agnus-castus, or chasteberry, is a small brown berry fruit of the chaste tree which is about the size of peppercorns and smells like peppermint. It is sometimes called “the women’s herb.” Vitex nourishes and supports the endocrine system to find its own balance. David Hoffmann, herbalist and author of Holistic Herbal: A Safe and Practical Guide to Making and Using Herbal Remedies (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0007145411/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0007145411&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=USCDEOSWV7A2NIKO)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0007145411), says "Vitex will always enable what is appropriate to occur."

As with any herbal supplement, we recommend that you consult your health care provider before taking chasteberry or its supplements therapeutically to rule any potential clash with any other medications that you may be taking.


"In every legend, every story, every creation story around the world no matter what it is, whether God created the Earth in seven days or this Darwin evolutionary thing. . . the plants were always here before humans which makes them our teachers and our elders." - Rosemary Gladstar
In the video below, herbalist and author Rosemary Gladstar gives a presentation about herbs for depression and anxiety at the MOTHER EARTH NEWS FAIR in Topeka, Kansas.  Rosemary is the founder of the wonderful Sage Mountain (http://www.sagemountain.com/) Retreat Center and Native Plant Preserve in Vermont, and has been teaching and writing books on herbal medicine for over twenty years.



In the video below, Rosemary discusses the healing properties, folklore, and uses for Elderberries and Elderflowers. Interestingly the elder branches and leaves are said to be poisonous, but the berries and flowers have healing properties and are safe to consume. Rosemary mentions elderberry jam, elderberry wine, and fritters made from elder flowers.



Rosemary said something in this video that I found particularly profound. "Sometimes plants appear where they want to be, where they know they're supposed to be. They just show up. People are not aware that they've had this ancient relationship. We're genetically connected to these plants, and we've been evolving with them for thousands and thousands of years. In fact in every legend, every story, every creation story around the world no matter what it is, whether God created the Earth in seven days or this Darwin evolutionary thing. . . the plants were always here before humans which makes them our teachers and our elders."


Resources:
If you're interested in growing your own herbs or buying high quality organic bulk herbs, gourmet spices, loose leaf teas, essential oils, herbal extracts, and natural body care ingredients, check out the sites below. Mountain Rose Herbs has a wide selection to choose from.

Horizon Herbs: https://www.horizonherbs.com/ (http://www.horizonherbs.com)

Mountain Rose Herbs: 1801cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria continue their discussion on herbal remedies. One of the supplements they discuss is Vitex, a "hormonal tonic for women". Extensive clinical studies, as well as over two thousand years of use in folk medicine, have proven the effectiveness of this remedy. It works by stimulating and normalizing the pituitary gland, which regulates the balance of estrogen and progesterone in the body. Vitex agnus-castus, or chasteberry, is a small brown berry fruit of the chaste tree which is about the size of peppercorns and smells like peppermint. It is sometimes called “the women’s herb.” Vitex nourishes and supports the endocrine system to find its own balance. David Hoffmann, herbalist and author of Holistic Herbal: A Safe and Practical Guide to Making and Using Herbal Remedies (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0007145411/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0007145411&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=USCDEOSWV7A2NIKO)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0007145411), says "Vitex will always enable what is appropriate to occur." As with any herbal supplement, we recommend that you consult your health care provider before taking chasteberry or its supplements therapeutically to rule any potential clash with any other medications that you may be taking. "In every legend, every story, every creation story around the world no matter what it is, whether God created the Earth in seven days or this Darwin evolutionary thing. . . the plants were always here before humans which makes them our teachers and our elders." - Rosemary Gladstar In the video below, herbalist and author Rosemary Gladstar gives a presentation about herbs for depression and anxiety at the MOTHER EARTH NEWS FAIR in Topeka, Kansas.  Rosemary is the founder of the wonderful Sage Mountain (http://www.sagemountain.com/) Retreat Center and Native Plant Preserve in Vermont, and has been teaching and writing books on herbal medicine for over twenty years. In the video below, Rosemary discusses the healing properties, folklore, and uses for Elderberries and Elderflowers. Interestingly the elder branches and leaves are said to be poisonous, but the berries and flowers have healing properties and are safe to consume. Rosemary mentions elderberry jam, elderberry wine, and fritters made from elder flowers. Rosemary said something in this video that I found particularly profound. "Sometimes plants appear where they want to be, where they know they're supposed to be. They just show up. People are not aware that they've had this ancient relationship. We're genetically connected to these plants, and we've been evolving with them for thousands and thousands of years. In fact in every legend, every story, every creation story around the world no matter what it is, whether God created the Earth in seven days or this Darwin evolutionary thing. . . the plants were always here before humans which makes them our teachers and our elders." Resources: If you're interested in growing your own herbs or buying high quality organic bulk herbs, gourmet spices, loose leaf teas, essential oils, herbal extracts, and natural body care ingredients, check out the sites below. Mountain Rose Herbs has a wide selection to choose from. Horizon Herbs: https://www.horizonherbs.com/ (http://www.horizonherbs.com) Mountain Rose Herbs: https://www.mountainroseherbs.com/ (https://www.mountainroseherbs.com/) Want to learn more about herbal medicine? Check out the California School of Herbal Studies (http://www.cshs.com/index.html). David Hoffmann is on the faculty. Books by Rosemary Gladstar (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Rosemary-Gladstar-sm.jpg) For a complete list of Rosemary Gladstar's (http://Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-263-herbal-remedies-for-emotional-iss




Robin discusses a collection of articles on the Psychology Today website under the heading "Natural Remedies for Emotional Health (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/natural-remedies-emotional-health)". Some of the topics include Supporting Work-Life Balance with Natural Medicines, Supporting a Shy Child, Naturally, Anxious Mothers-To-Be: Natural Options, and others that show how homeopathic medicines can provide a safe and effective treatment for many common emotional issues. The articles are by Burke Lennihan, R.N., C.C.H. Burke currently practices at the Lydian Center for Innovative Healthcare (http://www.lydiancenter.com/index.php) in Cambridge, Mass., and is the author of "Your Natural Medicine Cabinet: A Practical Guide to Drug-Free Remedies for Common Ailments (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0983443025/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0983443025&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=CMPJPXKTP3YFIO4N)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0983443025). She also hosts GreenHealing TV (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC591e_btTywjw9bhmhu_t8Q) on YouTube. The video below focuses on treatments for anxiety.


Bach's Rescue Remedy and Flower Remedies
Many health food stores carry Bach's Rescue Remedies (http://www.bachflower.com/rescue-remedy-information/) and Bach Flower Remedies (http://www.bachflower.com/original-bach-flower-remedies/). According to their web site "the Bach Flower Remedies are made from wild flowers and are safe for the whole family including pets." We've used "Rescue Remedy" personally, and have found that it does help to reduce anxiety and keep us calm. A couple of drops under the tongue is usually all it takes.

Robin shares a story about how our cat's groomer uses lavender and other scents to keep the animals she works with calm and relaxed. Rescue Remedy can be given to your pets to help them cope with fear from thunder showers and loud noises such as fireworks. Check out Bach Flower Pets (http://www.bachflowerpets.com/) to see how pets can benefit from these 38 Bach Flower Remedies.

(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Lavender-oil.jpg)
Resources:
Books:

There are numerous books on herbal medicine and using herbs to improve your overall health. Below are a few examples:

(http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B00OEAT300&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B00OEAT300)

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Below you'll find links to more information about Bach products:

http://www.bachflowerpets.com/

http://www.bachflower.com/

http://www.BachFlower4Kids.com

Articles on natural remedies for emotional health: 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/natural-remedies-emotional-health (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/natural-remedies-emotional-health)

http://www.alternativementalhealth.com/herbs-for-treatment-of-emotional-and-mental-states/

http://www.globalhealingcenter.com/natural-health/top-5-herbs-for-controlling-mood-swings/

http://www.helpguide.org/harvard/natural-mental-health-remedies.htm

Have you used natural herbs or flower essences as an alternative to medicine? If so, how has it helped you? We'd love to hear more about it in the comments.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1731Sun, 12 Jul 2015 00:40:33 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss herbal remedies for treating emotional issues such as anger, depression, mood swings, and anxiety. Robin discusses a collection of articles on...




Robin discusses a collection of articles on the Psychology Today website under the heading "Natural Remedies for Emotional Health (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/natural-remedies-emotional-health)". Some of the topics include Supporting Work-Life Balance with Natural Medicines, Supporting a Shy Child, Naturally, Anxious Mothers-To-Be: Natural Options, and others that show how homeopathic medicines can provide a safe and effective treatment for many common emotional issues. The articles are by Burke Lennihan, R.N., C.C.H. Burke currently practices at the Lydian Center for Innovative Healthcare (http://www.lydiancenter.com/index.php) in Cambridge, Mass., and is the author of "Your Natural Medicine Cabinet: A Practical Guide to Drug-Free Remedies for Common Ailments (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0983443025/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0983443025&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=CMPJPXKTP3YFIO4N)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0983443025). She also hosts GreenHealing TV (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC591e_btTywjw9bhmhu_t8Q) on YouTube. The video below focuses on treatments for anxiety.


Bach's Rescue Remedy and Flower Remedies
Many health food stores carry Bach's Rescue Remedies (http://www.bachflower.com/rescue-remedy-information/) and Bach Flower Remedies (http://www.bachflower.com/original-bach-flower-remedies/). According to their web site "the Bach Flower Remedies are made from wild flowers and are safe for the whole family including pets." We've used "Rescue Remedy" personally, and have found that it does help to reduce anxiety and keep us calm. A couple of drops under the tongue is usually all it takes.

Robin shares a story about how our cat's groomer uses lavender and other scents to keep the animals she works with calm and relaxed. Rescue Remedy can be given to your pets to help them cope with fear from thunder showers and loud noises such as fireworks. Check out Bach Flower Pets (http://www.bachflowerpets.com/) to see how pets can benefit from these 38 Bach Flower Remedies.

(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Lavender-oil.jpg)
Resources:
Books:

There are numerous books on herbal medicine and using herbs to improve your overall health. Below are a few examples:

(http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B00OEAT300&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B00OEAT300)

(1708cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss herbal remedies for treating emotional issues such as anger, depression, mood swings, and anxiety. Robin discusses a collection of articles on the Psychology Today website under the heading "Natural Remedies for Emotional Health (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/natural-remedies-emotional-health)". Some of the topics include Supporting Work-Life Balance with Natural Medicines, Supporting a Shy Child, Naturally, Anxious Mothers-To-Be: Natural Options, and others that show how homeopathic medicines can provide a safe and effective treatment for many common emotional issues. The articles are by Burke Lennihan, R.N., C.C.H. Burke currently practices at the Lydian Center for Innovative Healthcare (http://www.lydiancenter.com/index.php) in Cambridge, Mass., and is the author of "Your Natural Medicine Cabinet: A Practical Guide to Drug-Free Remedies for Common Ailments (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0983443025/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0983443025&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=CMPJPXKTP3YFIO4N)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0983443025). She also hosts GreenHealing TV (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC591e_btTywjw9bhmhu_t8Q) on YouTube. The video below focuses on treatments for anxiety. Bach's Rescue Remedy and Flower Remedies Many health food stores carry Bach's Rescue Remedies (http://www.bachflower.com/rescue-remedy-information/) and Bach Flower Remedies (http://www.bachflower.com/original-bach-flower-remedies/). According to their web site "the Bach Flower Remedies are made from wild flowers and are safe for the whole family including pets." We've used "Rescue Remedy" personally, and have found that it does help to reduce anxiety and keep us calm. A couple of drops under the tongue is usually all it takes. Robin shares a story about how our cat's groomer uses lavender and other scents to keep the animals she works with calm and relaxed. Rescue Remedy can be given to your pets to help them cope with fear from thunder showers and loud noises such as fireworks. Check out Bach Flower Pets (http://www.bachflowerpets.com/) to see how pets can benefit from these 38 Bach Flower Remedies. (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Lavender-oil.jpg) Resources: Books: There are numerous books on herbal medicine and using herbs to improve your overall health. Below are a few examples: (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B00OEAT300&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B00OEAT300) (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=0983443025&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0983443025) Below you'll find links to more information about Bach products: http://www.bachflowerpets.com/ http://www.bachflower.com/ http://www.BachFlower4Kids.com Articles on natural remedies for emotional health:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/natural-remedies-emotional-health (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/natural-remedies-emotional-health) http://www.alternativementalhealth.com/herbs-for-treatment-of-emotional-and-mental-states/ http://www.globalhealingcenter.com/natural-health/top-5-herbs-for-controlling-mood-swings/ http://www.helpguide.org/harvard/natural-mental-health-remedies.htm Have you used natural herbs or flower essences as an alternative to medicine? If so, how has it helped you? We'd love to hear more about it in the comments.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-262-sustainable-living-with-jenny-gre


Jenny's mission is to "inspire you with advice and information on how greener choices big and small can impact our lives and the health of our planet". On her blog jennyGREENjeans.com (http://www.jennygreenjeans.com/), Jenny provides informative articles  on sustainability issues that affect most people, and really useful information on things like safe fruit and veggie washes, safe sunscreens, the trouble with bleach, and many other healthy living topics.

In the interview Jenny discusses the Green Schools NY Public School Composting Pilot, a very successful program aimed at reducing waste in NYC's Upper West Side. The program has since expanded citywide. You can read more about the program here (http://www.cec3.org/www/cecd3/site/hosting/Committees/D3%20Green%20Group/Composting%20Pilot%20Brochure.pdf).

Jenny tells Robin about Safe Summertime Sunscreens (http://www.jennygreenjeans.com/safe-summertime-sunscreens/), and how not all sunscreens are created equal.
(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Woman-Using-Sunscreen.jpg)

Spray-on sunscreens, for example, should be avoided because of the chemicals they contain and put into the air. Check out her article (http://www.jennygreenjeans.com/safe-summertime-sunscreens/)for a list of ten recommended safe sunscreens.

Jenny also shares her recipe for a safe fruit and veggie wash:
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Fruit & Veggie Wash
½ cup Apple Cider Vinegar

½ cup Distilled water

½ cup Lemon juice

1 Tablespoon 3% Hydrogen Peroxide (optional)*

* Hydrogen Peroxide gives an added antibacterial/antifungal boost

Sustainability and green living is very important to us here at the Transformation Cafe. If you have any other suggestions or tips for the Transformation Cafe Community, let us know in the comments!]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1712Wed, 01 Jul 2015 01:09:23 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode Robin Masiewicz interviews Jennifer Prescott, AKA Jenny Greenjeans, about Everyday Sustainable Living. Jenny is a New York-based writer and a former Home market editor for top shelter magazines such as Real Simple, Better Homes &...


Jenny's mission is to "inspire you with advice and information on how greener choices big and small can impact our lives and the health of our planet". On her blog jennyGREENjeans.com (http://www.jennygreenjeans.com/), Jenny provides informative articles  on sustainability issues that affect most people, and really useful information on things like safe fruit and veggie washes, safe sunscreens, the trouble with bleach, and many other healthy living topics.

In the interview Jenny discusses the Green Schools NY Public School Composting Pilot, a very successful program aimed at reducing waste in NYC's Upper West Side. The program has since expanded citywide. You can read more about the program here (http://www.cec3.org/www/cecd3/site/hosting/Committees/D3%20Green%20Group/Composting%20Pilot%20Brochure.pdf).

Jenny tells Robin about Safe Summertime Sunscreens (http://www.jennygreenjeans.com/safe-summertime-sunscreens/), and how not all sunscreens are created equal.
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Spray-on sunscreens, for example, should be avoided because of the chemicals they contain and put into the air. Check out her article (http://www.jennygreenjeans.com/safe-summertime-sunscreens/)for a list of ten recommended safe sunscreens.

Jenny also shares her recipe for a safe fruit and veggie wash:
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Fruit & Veggie Wash
½ cup Apple Cider Vinegar

½ cup Distilled water

½ cup Lemon juice

1 Tablespoon 3% Hydrogen Peroxide (optional)*

* Hydrogen Peroxide gives an added antibacterial/antifungal boost

Sustainability and green living is very important to us here at the Transformation Cafe. If you have any other suggestions or tips for the Transformation Cafe Community, let us know in the comments!]]>1792cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode Robin Masiewicz interviews Jennifer Prescott, AKA Jenny Greenjeans, about Everyday Sustainable Living. Jenny is a New York-based writer and a former Home market editor for top shelter magazines such as Real Simple, Better Homes & Gardens, and Organic Style.  Jenny's mission is to "inspire you with advice and information on how greener choices big and small can impact our lives and the health of our planet". On her blog jennyGREENjeans.com (http://www.jennygreenjeans.com/), Jenny provides informative articles  on sustainability issues that affect most people, and really useful information on things like safe fruit and veggie washes, safe sunscreens, the trouble with bleach, and many other healthy living topics. In the interview Jenny discusses the Green Schools NY Public School Composting Pilot, a very successful program aimed at reducing waste in NYC's Upper West Side. The program has since expanded citywide. You can read more about the program here (http://www.cec3.org/www/cecd3/site/hosting/Committees/D3%20Green%20Group/Composting%20Pilot%20Brochure.pdf). Jenny tells Robin about Safe Summertime Sunscreens (http://www.jennygreenjeans.com/safe-summertime-sunscreens/), and how not all sunscreens are created equal. (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Woman-Using-Sunscreen.jpg) Spray-on sunscreens, for example, should be avoided because of the chemicals they contain and put into the air. Check out her article (http://www.jennygreenjeans.com/safe-summertime-sunscreens/)for a list of ten recommended safe sunscreens. Jenny also shares her recipe for a safe fruit and veggie wash: (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/washing-grapes-sm.jpg) Fruit & Veggie Wash ½ cup Apple Cider Vinegar ½ cup Distilled water ½ cup Lemon juice 1 Tablespoon 3% Hydrogen Peroxide (optional)* * Hydrogen Peroxide gives an added antibacterial/antifungal boost Sustainability and green living is very important to us here at the Transformation Cafe. If you have any other suggestions or tips for the Transformation Cafe Community, let us know in the comments!Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc261-difficult-people-at-work


Another topic is the importance of self-care via nutrition, meditation, exercise, and other means to help you stay positive and deal with day-to-day issues. Taking care of yourself will help you manage stress more effectively.

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We all encounter difficult or unreasonable people in our lives (if you don't then you may be someone else's difficult person!). We may be stuck with an annoying relative at home, or a difficult or demanding person at work. Some people are aggressive and angry, others are passive but will undermine people behind their back. Having a strategy for dealing with difficult people can help you respond when the situation arises.
Key points:

First, recognize that it isn’t helpful or healthful to take the behavior of difficult people personally.
Second, realize that you aren’t going to change or fix them.
Third, manage your emotions in your dealings with these people. Learn to depersonalize their behavior.
Do seek support from others. Depending on the seriousness of the situation, you may find it useful to keep a dated written record of your interactions with your difficult person.
Finally, as with anything in life, recognize that dealing with difficult people is a skill worth learning and that as a skill it is one you can cultivate with practice.

Recommended Resources:
There are numerous articles and books on this subject, but here are a few to get you started.

Psychology Today offers "Ten Keys to Handling Unreasonable & Difficult People (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201309/ten-keys-handling-unreasonable-difficult-people)", an article by Preston Ni.

Dealing with Difficult People (http://www.webguru.neu.edu/professionalism/professionalism/dealing-difficult-people) from WebGURU offers some very good advice. As the article says "it really is critical to master this life skill early in your as you will encounter difficult people in the workplace."
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Guest Bios:
Amy Frost, MBA and MA Psychology - Amy Frost is an accomplished Author, Coach, Group Facilitator, Keynote Speaker, Life Manager, and Trainer for Get Back to Work, Personal Leadership and Life Coaching Programs. Read Amy's complete bio at www.amyfrost.com (http://www.amyfrost.com/).

Do you have a story about a difficult person at work, and how you learned to deal with them? Have additional resources that you've found helpful? Let know about it by leaving a comment!

 ]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1682Sun, 28 Jun 2015 16:18:04 +0000Transformation CafeHost Robin Masiewicz welcomes her sister Amy Frost (http:amyfrost.com) to discuss techniques for dealing with difficult people in the workplace. Amy offers a five-step technique to help you regain your composure and respond more thoughtfully when...


Another topic is the importance of self-care via nutrition, meditation, exercise, and other means to help you stay positive and deal with day-to-day issues. Taking care of yourself will help you manage stress more effectively.

(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Difficult-People2.jpg)

We all encounter difficult or unreasonable people in our lives (if you don't then you may be someone else's difficult person!). We may be stuck with an annoying relative at home, or a difficult or demanding person at work. Some people are aggressive and angry, others are passive but will undermine people behind their back. Having a strategy for dealing with difficult people can help you respond when the situation arises.
Key points:

First, recognize that it isn’t helpful or healthful to take the behavior of difficult people personally.
Second, realize that you aren’t going to change or fix them.
Third, manage your emotions in your dealings with these people. Learn to depersonalize their behavior.
Do seek support from others. Depending on the seriousness of the situation, you may find it useful to keep a dated written record of your interactions with your difficult person.
Finally, as with anything in life, recognize that dealing with difficult people is a skill worth learning and that as a skill it is one you can cultivate with practice.

Recommended Resources:
There are numerous articles and books on this subject, but here are a few to get you started.

Psychology Today offers "Ten Keys to Handling Unreasonable & Difficult People (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201309/ten-keys-handling-unreasonable-difficult-people)", an article by Preston Ni.

Dealing with Difficult People (http://www.webguru.neu.edu/professionalism/professionalism/dealing-difficult-people) from WebGURU offers some very good advice. As the article says "it really is critical to master this life skill early in your as you will encounter difficult people in the workplace."
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Guest...]]>2422cleanfullTransformation CafeHost Robin Masiewicz welcomes her sister Amy Frost (http:amyfrost.com) to discuss techniques for dealing with difficult people in the workplace. Amy offers a five-step technique to help you regain your composure and respond more thoughtfully when a difficult situation arises. This allows you to use your better judgement to respond to the situation, rather than simply reacting. Another topic is the importance of self-care via nutrition, meditation, exercise, and other means to help you stay positive and deal with day-to-day issues. Taking care of yourself will help you manage stress more effectively. (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Difficult-People2.jpg) We all encounter difficult or unreasonable people in our lives (if you don't then you may be someone else's difficult person!). We may be stuck with an annoying relative at home, or a difficult or demanding person at work. Some people are aggressive and angry, others are passive but will undermine people behind their back. Having a strategy for dealing with difficult people can help you respond when the situation arises. Key points: First, recognize that it isn’t helpful or healthful to take the behavior of difficult people personally. Second, realize that you aren’t going to change or fix them. Third, manage your emotions in your dealings with these people. Learn to depersonalize their behavior. Do seek support from others. Depending on the seriousness of the situation, you may find it useful to keep a dated written record of your interactions with your difficult person. Finally, as with anything in life, recognize that dealing with difficult people is a skill worth learning and that as a skill it is one you can cultivate with practice. Recommended Resources: There are numerous articles and books on this subject, but here are a few to get you started. Psychology Today offers "Ten Keys to Handling Unreasonable & Difficult People (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201309/ten-keys-handling-unreasonable-difficult-people)", an article by Preston Ni. Dealing with Difficult People (http://www.webguru.neu.edu/professionalism/professionalism/dealing-difficult-people) from WebGURU offers some very good advice. As the article says "it really is critical to master this life skill early in your as you will encounter difficult people in the workplace." (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=1491245522&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1491245522)   (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=0440202019&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0440202019) Guest Bios: Amy Frost, MBA and MA Psychology - Amy Frost is an accomplished Author, Coach, Group Facilitator, Keynote Speaker, Life Manager, and Trainer for Get Back to Work, Personal Leadership and Life Coaching Programs. Read Amy's complete bio at www.amyfrost.com (http://www.amyfrost.com/). Do you have a story about a difficult person at work, and how you learned to deal with them? Have additional resources that you've found helpful? Let know about it by leaving a comment!  Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-260-on-the-roads-of-america


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Robin talks about television personality and journalist Huell Howser, best known for his many series of travel shows focused on the history, culture, and people of California. Huell traveled all over the Golden State, and his shows such as California's Gold, Visiting. . . with Huell Howser, California Missions, and other shows aired on Public television stations for years. We have seen numerous episodes and gone to a number of the sites featured in the shows. We would never have known about some of the interesting people and places in California (like the California Poppy reserve (https://blogs.chapman.edu/huell-howser-archives/1994/06/01/california-flowers-californias-gold-506/) in Antelope Valley, or the Underground Gardens (http://www.forestiere-historicalcenter.com/) of Baldasare Forestiere in Fresno) without Huell. No matter where he traveled his enthusiasm and exclamation of "That's AMAZING!" in his Tennessee accent was sure to inspire you to want to go there too.



Sadly Huell is no longer with us, but he lives on in his work. Huell donated his archives to Chapman University (https://blogs.chapman.edu/huell-howser-archives/) leaving a tremendous legacy of his various shows, documents, books, and other items that he gathered during his many travels. You can see Huell in action as he visits the Self-Realization Fellowship Lake Shrine (http://www.lakeshrine.org/) in Pacific Palisades, created by Paramahansa Yogananda (http://transformation-cafe.com/awake-life-of-yogananda/), one of our favorite places to visit.

Here's the link: http://www.kcet.org/shows/huell_howser/visiting-with-huell-howser/lake-shrine.html (http://www.kcet.org/shows/huell_howser/visiting-with-huell-howser/lake-shrine.html).

Whether it's in the USA, Canada, Ireland, Germany, or wherever you may be, there are always great places to visit. Tell us about a road trip that you've taken, we'd love to hear about it!]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1664Tue, 23 Jun 2015 02:21:01 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss the roads and bridges of America, from gas taxes to pay for repairs and infrastructure, to the joys of traveling across the states to see all the...


(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Route-66-motel-sign.jpg)

Robin talks about television personality and journalist Huell Howser, best known for his many series of travel shows focused on the history, culture, and people of California. Huell traveled all over the Golden State, and his shows such as California's Gold, Visiting. . . with Huell Howser, California Missions, and other shows aired on Public television stations for years. We have seen numerous episodes and gone to a number of the sites featured in the shows. We would never have known about some of the interesting people and places in California (like the California Poppy reserve (https://blogs.chapman.edu/huell-howser-archives/1994/06/01/california-flowers-californias-gold-506/) in Antelope Valley, or the Underground Gardens (http://www.forestiere-historicalcenter.com/) of Baldasare Forestiere in Fresno) without Huell. No matter where he traveled his enthusiasm and exclamation of "That's AMAZING!" in his Tennessee accent was sure to inspire you to want to go there too.



Sadly Huell is no longer with us, but he lives on in his work. Huell donated his archives to Chapman University (https://blogs.chapman.edu/huell-howser-archives/) leaving a tremendous legacy of his various shows, documents, books, and other items that he gathered during his many travels. You can see Huell in action as he visits the Self-Realization Fellowship Lake Shrine (http://www.lakeshrine.org/) in Pacific Palisades, created by Paramahansa Yogananda (http://transformation-cafe.com/awake-life-of-yogananda/), one of our favorite places to visit.

Here's the link: http://www.kcet.org/shows/huell_howser/visiting-with-huell-howser/lake-shrine.html (http://www.kcet.org/shows/huell_howser/visiting-with-huell-howser/lake-shrine.html).

Whether it's in the USA, Canada, Ireland, Germany, or wherever you may be, there are always great places to visit. Tell us about a road trip that you've taken, we'd love to hear about it!]]>1708cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss the roads and bridges of America, from gas taxes to pay for repairs and infrastructure, to the joys of traveling across the states to see all the wonderful things each state has to offer. (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Route-66-motel-sign.jpg) Robin talks about television personality and journalist Huell Howser, best known for his many series of travel shows focused on the history, culture, and people of California. Huell traveled all over the Golden State, and his shows such as California's Gold, Visiting. . . with Huell Howser, California Missions, and other shows aired on Public television stations for years. We have seen numerous episodes and gone to a number of the sites featured in the shows. We would never have known about some of the interesting people and places in California (like the California Poppy reserve (https://blogs.chapman.edu/huell-howser-archives/1994/06/01/california-flowers-californias-gold-506/) in Antelope Valley, or the Underground Gardens (http://www.forestiere-historicalcenter.com/) of Baldasare Forestiere in Fresno) without Huell. No matter where he traveled his enthusiasm and exclamation of "That's AMAZING!" in his Tennessee accent was sure to inspire you to want to go there too. Sadly Huell is no longer with us, but he lives on in his work. Huell donated his archives to Chapman University (https://blogs.chapman.edu/huell-howser-archives/) leaving a tremendous legacy of his various shows, documents, books, and other items that he gathered during his many travels. You can see Huell in action as he visits the Self-Realization Fellowship Lake Shrine (http://www.lakeshrine.org/) in Pacific Palisades, created by Paramahansa Yogananda (http://transformation-cafe.com/awake-life-of-yogananda/), one of our favorite places to visit. Here's the link: http://www.kcet.org/shows/huell_howser/visiting-with-huell-howser/lake-shrine.html (http://www.kcet.org/shows/huell_howser/visiting-with-huell-howser/lake-shrine.html). Whether it's in the USA, Canada, Ireland, Germany, or wherever you may be, there are always great places to visit. Tell us about a road trip that you've taken, we'd love to hear about it!Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/the-rock-star-janitor


"On June 2, students at Alan Shepard Elementary School in Bourbonnais, Illinois were given a designated time where they could exchange and sign yearbooks. However, it was Mr. Steve who was getting all the attention."

How do people like "Mr. Steve" Weidner, the janitor, have such a profound affect on children? Is he really a superstar, or is this just media hype? Check out this week's discussion about role models and how important people like janitors, teachers, crossing guards, grandparents, and other people can have a great impact on our lives.



 



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Did you have someone like Mr. Steve in your life? Was there someone that had a inspires you to this day? Tell us about it by leaving a comment!]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1648Sat, 13 Jun 2015 04:19:04 +0000Transformation CafeHost Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria talk about the story of a grade-school janitor who is so popular with the students that the entire second grade class at Alan Shepard elementary stood in line to get his autograph at the end of the school...


"On June 2, students at Alan Shepard Elementary School in Bourbonnais, Illinois were given a designated time where they could exchange and sign yearbooks. However, it was Mr. Steve who was getting all the attention."

How do people like "Mr. Steve" Weidner, the janitor, have such a profound affect on children? Is he really a superstar, or is this just media hype? Check out this week's discussion about role models and how important people like janitors, teachers, crossing guards, grandparents, and other people can have a great impact on our lives.



 



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Did you have someone like Mr. Steve in your life? Was there someone that had a inspires you to this day? Tell us about it by leaving a comment!]]>1822cleanfullTransformation CafeHost Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria talk about the story of a grade-school janitor who is so popular with the students that the entire second grade class at Alan Shepard elementary stood in line to get his autograph at the end of the school year. A picture of the kids standing in line (below) was posted online and quickly gained over three MILLION views in a matter of hours. "On June 2, students at Alan Shepard Elementary School in Bourbonnais, Illinois were given a designated time where they could exchange and sign yearbooks. However, it was Mr. Steve who was getting all the attention." How do people like "Mr. Steve" Weidner, the janitor, have such a profound affect on children? Is he really a superstar, or is this just media hype? Check out this week's discussion about role models and how important people like janitors, teachers, crossing guards, grandparents, and other people can have a great impact on our lives.   (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/facebook-post-1024x434.png)   Did you have someone like Mr. Steve in your life? Was there someone that had a inspires you to this day? Tell us about it by leaving a comment!Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/transformation-cafe-positive-psychologyhttp://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1601Sat, 06 Jun 2015 20:39:46 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, we continue our discussion on happiness. Robin and Gloria discuss the work of Martin Seligman, Ph. D., and his research into "Authentic Happiness". Seligman is the former president of the American Psychologic...1995cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, we continue our discussion on happiness. Robin and Gloria discuss the work of Martin Seligman, Ph. D., and his research into "Authentic Happiness". Seligman is the former president of the American Psychologic...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-257-the-three-as-of-awesome
In this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss the little things in life that are awesome, "simple, universal, little pleasures that we all love but we just don't talk about enough. Things like waiters and waitresses who bring you free refills without asking, being the first table to get called upto the dinner buffet at a wedding, wearing warm underwear from just out of the dryer, or when cashiers open up a new check-out lane at the grocery storeand you get to be first in line even if you were last at the other line, swoop right in there".



Robin was inspired to talk about this topic by Neil Pasricha's TEDxToronto presentation. Neil is the author of the Webby-award winning blog 1000awesomethings.com (http://1000awesomethings.com), and the bestselling books The Book of Awesome (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0425238903/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0425238903&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=4RPKUDP4XMKRFOXS)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0425238903) and the The Book of (Even More) Awesome (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0425245551/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0425245551&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=ZFY7LDAMUS7BB4G2)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0425245551). View Neil's TED talk here: The 3 A's of awesome (http://go.ted.com/b4Qj).
The Three A's of Awesome: Attitude, Awareness, and Authenticity
Attitude - You will face lumps and bumps and there will be highs and lows. No one is exempt from a measure of heartache. You have two choices: 1) Swirl in the gloom and doom, or 2) grieve and then face the future with newly sober eyes and take one baby step at a time. Here's hoping we all choose the second option.

Awareness - As Neil observed in his TED talk, three-year-olds have an innate sense of wonder; they are experiencing things for the very first time. Having a sense of awareness is about embracing your inner three year-old, and paying attention. Watch the wind move the clouds across the sky, marvel at the softness of a cat's fur, or listen to the flutter of a hummingbird's wings. Maybe you've seen it a zillion times, but take the time to be aware, be in the moment. Isn't it amazing?

Authenticity - This one is simple: be yourself. Don't worry about what others think, don't try to conform to their notion of who you are. If you love square-dancing but don't want to tell your coworkers that's what you do with your time on the weekends, then own up to it. "I'm a square-dancer Goldarnit!" Then dosado proudly back to your desk.


(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0802704212)The Fourth A: Appreciation
While I agree that Neil is right on the money, I think that Appreciation should be the "fourth A". It goes along with Awareness, but it includes a sense of gratitude for the positive people and things in your life. If you want to learn more about Appreciation in the Workplace, check out our recent show on Grace in the Workplace (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc256/).



Books by Neil Pasricha
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If you've had something awesome happen recently, tell your story in the Comments. We'd love to hear about it!]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1569Sat, 30 May 2015 04:58:56 +0000Transformation CafeEverything is Awesome! In this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss the little things in life that are awesome, "simple, universal, little pleasures that we all love but we just don't talk...
In this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss the little things in life that are awesome, "simple, universal, little pleasures that we all love but we just don't talk about enough. Things like waiters and waitresses who bring you free refills without asking, being the first table to get called upto the dinner buffet at a wedding, wearing warm underwear from just out of the dryer, or when cashiers open up a new check-out lane at the grocery storeand you get to be first in line even if you were last at the other line, swoop right in there".



Robin was inspired to talk about this topic by Neil Pasricha's TEDxToronto presentation. Neil is the author of the Webby-award winning blog 1000awesomethings.com (http://1000awesomethings.com), and the bestselling books The Book of Awesome (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0425238903/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0425238903&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=4RPKUDP4XMKRFOXS)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0425238903) and the The Book of (Even More) Awesome (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0425245551/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0425245551&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=ZFY7LDAMUS7BB4G2)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0425245551). View Neil's TED talk here: The 3 A's of awesome (http://go.ted.com/b4Qj).
The Three A's of Awesome: Attitude, Awareness, and Authenticity
Attitude - You will face lumps and bumps and there will be highs and lows. No one is exempt from a measure of heartache. You have two choices: 1) Swirl in the gloom and doom, or 2) grieve and then face the future with newly sober eyes and take one baby step at a time. Here's hoping we all choose the second option.

Awareness - As Neil observed in his TED talk, three-year-olds have an innate sense of wonder; they are experiencing things for the very first time. Having a sense of awareness is about embracing your inner three year-old, and paying attention. Watch the wind move the clouds across the sky, marvel at the softness of a cat's fur, or listen to the flutter of a hummingbird's wings. Maybe you've seen it a zillion times, but take the time to be aware, be in the moment. Isn't it amazing?

Authenticity - This one is simple: be yourself. Don't worry about what others think, don't try to conform to their notion of who you are. If you love square-dancing but don't want to tell your coworkers that's what you do with your time on the weekends, then own up to it. "I'm a square-dancer Goldarnit!" Then dosado proudly back to your desk.


(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0802704212)The Fourth A: Appreciation
While I agree that Neil is right on the money, I think that Appreciation should be the "fourth A". It goes along with Awareness, but it includes a sense of gratitude for the positive people and things in your life. If you want to learn more about Appreciation in the Workplace, check out our recent show on Grace in the Workplace (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc256/).



Books by Neil Pasricha
(1112cleanfullTransformation CafeEverything is Awesome! In this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria discuss the little things in life that are awesome, "simple, universal, little pleasures that we all love but we just don't talk about enough. Things like waiters and waitresses who bring you free refills without asking, being the first table to get called upto the dinner buffet at a wedding, wearing warm underwear from just out of the dryer, or when cashiers open up a new check-out lane at the grocery storeand you get to be first in line even if you were last at the other line, swoop right in there". Robin was inspired to talk about this topic by Neil Pasricha's TEDxToronto presentation. Neil is the author of the Webby-award winning blog 1000awesomethings.com (http://1000awesomethings.com), and the bestselling books The Book of Awesome (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0425238903/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0425238903&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=4RPKUDP4XMKRFOXS)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0425238903) and the The Book of (Even More) Awesome (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0425245551/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0425245551&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=ZFY7LDAMUS7BB4G2)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0425245551). View Neil's TED talk here: The 3 A's of awesome (http://go.ted.com/b4Qj). The Three A's of Awesome: Attitude, Awareness, and Authenticity Attitude - You will face lumps and bumps and there will be highs and lows. No one is exempt from a measure of heartache. You have two choices: 1) Swirl in the gloom and doom, or 2) grieve and then face the future with newly sober eyes and take one baby step at a time. Here's hoping we all choose the second option. Awareness - As Neil observed in his TED talk, three-year-olds have an innate sense of wonder; they are experiencing things for the very first time. Having a sense of awareness is about embracing your inner three year-old, and paying attention. Watch the wind move the clouds across the sky, marvel at the softness of a cat's fur, or listen to the flutter of a hummingbird's wings. Maybe you've seen it a zillion times, but take the time to be aware, be in the moment. Isn't it amazing? Authenticity - This one is simple: be yourself. Don't worry about what others think, don't try to conform to their notion of who you are. If you love square-dancing but don't want to tell your coworkers that's what you do with your time on the weekends, then own up to it. "I'm a square-dancer Goldarnit!" Then dosado proudly back to your desk. (http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0802704212)The Fourth A: Appreciation While I agree that Neil is right on the money, I think that Appreciation should be the "fourth A". It goes along with Awareness, but it includes a sense of gratitude for the positive people and things in your life. If you want to learn more about Appreciation in the Workplace, check out our recent show on Grace in the Workplace (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc256/). Books by Neil Pasricha (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=0425238903&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0425238903) (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=0425245551&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0425245551) If you've had something awesome happen recently, tell your story in the Comments. We'd love to hear about it!Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-256-grace-in-the-workplacehttp://amyfrost.com) and Amy's colleague Dr. Nancy Kymn to discuss Grace in the Workplace. Amy and Dr. Kymn are currently co-writing a book on this subject. They share some recent examples of people that demonstrate these virtues in their own workplaces --from the hotel shuttle driver, to the waiter at the restaurant, to the corporate executive.



One of the questions they ask people as they continue their research for the book is "What does grace at work mean to you? How does one exhibit that?"
 
Some tips from this episode:

Look for the good things that are happening, and acknowledge the people that are making them happen.
Before lunch, find someone to acknowledge, someone to praise. Let them know that you appreciate them. Find another person in the afternoon.
Continue to practice acknowledgement and appreciation and watch how it impacts not only the people you interact with, but you too.

The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace
Appreciation is such an important topic that Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/080241270X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=080241270X&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=AMCUVFEBQY6V5EBO)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=080241270X) and numerous other books, collaborated with Dr. Paul White, a licensed psychologist who focuses on relationships in the work environment, to write The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace: Empowering Organizations by Encouraging People (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/080246176X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=080246176X&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=6YUABBYTCX7KDLAS)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=080246176X). This book applies the love language concept to the workplace, and according to their studies, helps supervisors and managers effectively communicate appreciation and encouragement to their employees, resulting in higher levels of job satisfaction, healthier relationships between managers and employees, and decreased cases of burnout. Sounds like transformation to me!

Number 1 Factor for Job Enjoyment: Feeling appreciated and valued in their job (but most people do not).
79% of employees that quit their job cite lack of appreciation as a key reason for their leaving.
65% of North Americans reported that they received no recognition or appreciation at their workplace in the past year.
87% of job seekers report the #1 characteristic they desire in a workplace is feeling valued.

Click to buy the book:
(http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=080246176X&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=080246176X)

 ]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1539Fri, 22 May 2015 04:34:17 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz is joined by her sister Amy Frost (http://amyfrost.com) and Amy's colleague Dr. Nancy Kymn to discuss Grace in the Workplace. Amy and Dr. Kymn are currently co-writing a book on...http://amyfrost.com) and Amy's colleague Dr. Nancy Kymn to discuss Grace in the Workplace. Amy and Dr. Kymn are currently co-writing a book on this subject. They share some recent examples of people that demonstrate these virtues in their own workplaces --from the hotel shuttle driver, to the waiter at the restaurant, to the corporate executive.



One of the questions they ask people as they continue their research for the book is "What does grace at work mean to you? How does one exhibit that?"
 
Some tips from this episode:

Look for the good things that are happening, and acknowledge the people that are making them happen.
Before lunch, find someone to acknowledge, someone to praise. Let them know that you appreciate them. Find another person in the afternoon.
Continue to practice acknowledgement and appreciation and watch how it impacts not only the people you interact with, but you too.

The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace
Appreciation is such an important topic that Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/080241270X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=080241270X&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=AMCUVFEBQY6V5EBO)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=080241270X) and numerous other books, collaborated with Dr. Paul White, a licensed psychologist who focuses on relationships in the work environment, to write The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace: Empowering Organizations by Encouraging People (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/080246176X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=080246176X&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=6YUABBYTCX7KDLAS)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=080246176X). This book applies the love language concept to the workplace, and according to their studies, helps supervisors and managers effectively communicate appreciation and encouragement to their employees, resulting in higher levels of job satisfaction, healthier relationships between managers and employees, and decreased cases of burnout. Sounds like transformation to me!

Number 1 Factor for Job Enjoyment: Feeling appreciated and valued in their job (but most people do not).
79% of employees that quit their job cite lack of appreciation as a key reason for their leaving.
65% of North Americans reported that they received no recognition or appreciation at their workplace in the past year.
87% of job seekers report the #1 characteristic they desire in a workplace is feeling valued.

Click to buy the book:
(http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=080246176X&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=080246176X)

 ]]>1888cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz is joined by her sister Amy Frost (http://amyfrost.com) and Amy's colleague Dr. Nancy Kymn to discuss Grace in the Workplace. Amy and Dr. Kymn are currently co-writing a book on this subject. They share some recent examples of people that demonstrate these virtues in their own workplaces --from the hotel shuttle driver, to the waiter at the restaurant, to the corporate executive. One of the questions they ask people as they continue their research for the book is "What does grace at work mean to you? How does one exhibit that?"   Some tips from this episode: Look for the good things that are happening, and acknowledge the people that are making them happen. Before lunch, find someone to acknowledge, someone to praise. Let them know that you appreciate them. Find another person in the afternoon. Continue to practice acknowledgement and appreciation and watch how it impacts not only the people you interact with, but you too. The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace Appreciation is such an important topic that Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/080241270X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=080241270X&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=AMCUVFEBQY6V5EBO)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=080241270X) and numerous other books, collaborated with Dr. Paul White, a licensed psychologist who focuses on relationships in the work environment, to write The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace: Empowering Organizations by Encouraging People (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/080246176X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=080246176X&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=6YUABBYTCX7KDLAS)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=080246176X). This book applies the love language concept to the workplace, and according to their studies, helps supervisors and managers effectively communicate appreciation and encouragement to their employees, resulting in higher levels of job satisfaction, healthier relationships between managers and employees, and decreased cases of burnout. Sounds like transformation to me! Number 1 Factor for Job Enjoyment: Feeling appreciated and valued in their job (but most people do not). 79% of employees that quit their job cite lack of appreciation as a key reason for their leaving. 65% of North Americans reported that they received no recognition or appreciation at their workplace in the past year. 87% of job seekers report the #1 characteristic they desire in a workplace is feeling valued. Click to buy the book: (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=080246176X&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=080246176X)  Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-255-discovering-your-life-purpose
But how do you find your life purpose?


 
Our guest Al Diaz has developed a technique to help people find their life purpose, and to discover their personal gift to help them achieve it. In this interview Al discusses his involvement in Evolution Fest, and his work with other leaders in the field of personal development.
"Be a producer of something that supports, enables, and propels the common wealth."
~ Al Diaz
Upcoming Events: Evolution Fest
Evolution Fest is a three-day event held in the Los Angeles area. Hosted by Rewrite Your Story, it features leading experts in the fields of mental, emotional, physical, financial, and essential core health to help you remember your inner knowing and guide you through powerful, personal transformation. Al is one of the featured presenters at the event.

Remembering Your Why: Getting Back to the Real You — by Al Diaz (http://rewritestory.com/evolution-fest/leaders-of-change/)
You were born to BE a leader – most importantly, a leader of your Self. But if you don't look closely, you may be unconsciously living other people's thoughts, ideas, attitudes, philosophies, or paradigms. In other words, you are living what everybody else wants you to be, and how everyone else wants you to live. So when is it your turn? Join us to remember why you’re here, get back to loving yourself, and reclaim your power for a fulfilled Life!
About Al Diaz
From his web site: Al Diaz is an internationally recognized Visionary, Transformational Guide, and Change Agent as an International Keynote Speaker, Author, Film Producer, and Co-Founder of Rewrite Your Story. He has over 10 years experience and 1,000's of satisfied clients. He has guided many people to remember the gift, value, or purpose they bring to our world… and most importantly into their own Life.
Links:
Al Diaz website: http://www.mylifepurposeandgift.com/ (http://www.mylifepurposeandgift.com/)

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IlumineAoAlDiaz (https://www.facebook.com/IlumineAoAlDiaz)]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1516Thu, 14 May 2015 05:31:35 +0000Transformation CafeMany people reach a point in their lives where they start to really question why they are here, what is the purpose of their life? What are they supposed to be doing? Whatever it is, they know it's not what they're doing now. But how do you find your...
But how do you find your life purpose?


 
Our guest Al Diaz has developed a technique to help people find their life purpose, and to discover their personal gift to help them achieve it. In this interview Al discusses his involvement in Evolution Fest, and his work with other leaders in the field of personal development.
"Be a producer of something that supports, enables, and propels the common wealth."
~ Al Diaz
Upcoming Events: Evolution Fest
Evolution Fest is a three-day event held in the Los Angeles area. Hosted by Rewrite Your Story, it features leading experts in the fields of mental, emotional, physical, financial, and essential core health to help you remember your inner knowing and guide you through powerful, personal transformation. Al is one of the featured presenters at the event.

Remembering Your Why: Getting Back to the Real You — by Al Diaz (http://rewritestory.com/evolution-fest/leaders-of-change/)
You were born to BE a leader – most importantly, a leader of your Self. But if you don't look closely, you may be unconsciously living other people's thoughts, ideas, attitudes, philosophies, or paradigms. In other words, you are living what everybody else wants you to be, and how everyone else wants you to live. So when is it your turn? Join us to remember why you’re here, get back to loving yourself, and reclaim your power for a fulfilled Life!
About Al Diaz
From his web site: Al Diaz is an internationally recognized Visionary, Transformational Guide, and Change Agent as an International Keynote Speaker, Author, Film Producer, and Co-Founder of Rewrite Your Story. He has over 10 years experience and 1,000's of satisfied clients. He has guided many people to remember the gift, value, or purpose they bring to our world… and most importantly into their own Life.
Links:
Al Diaz website: http://www.mylifepurposeandgift.com/ (http://www.mylifepurposeandgift.com/)

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IlumineAoAlDiaz (https://www.facebook.com/IlumineAoAlDiaz)]]>1704happiness,joy,meaning,purpose,wealthcleanfullTransformation CafeMany people reach a point in their lives where they start to really question why they are here, what is the purpose of their life? What are they supposed to be doing? Whatever it is, they know it's not what they're doing now. But how do you find your life purpose?   Our guest Al Diaz has developed a technique to help people find their life purpose, and to discover their personal gift to help them achieve it. In this interview Al discusses his involvement in Evolution Fest, and his work with other leaders in the field of personal development. "Be a producer of something that supports, enables, and propels the common wealth." ~ Al Diaz Upcoming Events: Evolution Fest Evolution Fest is a three-day event held in the Los Angeles area. Hosted by Rewrite Your Story, it features leading experts in the fields of mental, emotional, physical, financial, and essential core health to help you remember your inner knowing and guide you through powerful, personal transformation. Al is one of the featured presenters at the event. Remembering Your Why: Getting Back to the Real You — by Al Diaz (http://rewritestory.com/evolution-fest/leaders-of-change/) You were born to BE a leader – most importantly, a leader of your Self. But if you don't look closely, you may be unconsciously living other people's thoughts, ideas, attitudes, philosophies, or paradigms. In other words, you are living what everybody else wants you to be, and how everyone else wants you to live. So when is it your turn? Join us to remember why you’re here, get back to loving yourself, and reclaim your power for a fulfilled Life! About Al Diaz From his web site: Al Diaz is an internationally recognized Visionary, Transformational Guide, and Change Agent as an International Keynote Speaker, Author, Film Producer, and Co-Founder of Rewrite Your Story. He has over 10 years experience and 1,000's of satisfied clients. He has guided many people to remember the gift, value, or purpose they bring to our world… and most importantly into their own Life. Links: Al Diaz website: http://www.mylifepurposeandgift.com/ (http://www.mylifepurposeandgift.com/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IlumineAoAlDiaz (https://www.facebook.com/IlumineAoAlDiaz)Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-254-e-squared-by-pam-grout
These are the spiritual experiments you can prove in E-Squared:

1. There is an invisible energy force or field of infinite possibilities.
2. You impact the field and draw from it according to your beliefs and expectations.
3. You, too, are a field of energy.
4. Whatever you focus on expands.
5. Your connection to the field provides accurate and unlimited guidance.
6. Your thoughts and consciousness impact matter.
7. Your thoughts and consciousness provide the scaffolding for your physical body.
8. You are connected to everything and everyone else in the universe.
9. The universe is limitless, abundant, and strangely accommodating.

Among other things, it teaches people how to drop poundage by doing nothing but changing the focus of their thoughts.

Pam wrote a follow-up to E-Squared called appropriately, E-Cubed:

Robin also shares a story about Jim Carrey and how he was able to go from a broke unknown to manifesting $10 Million is a few short years by setting his intention and writing himself a check. Here's a video of him telling this story to Oprah Winfrey.



Gloria also provides some suggestions for training ourselves to course-correct when negative thoughts and speech start to surface, and to shift them into the positive. She's been able to teach this technique to others with very positive results.

Finally, here's a great illustration of this principle.

(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/Manifestation-med.jpg)]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1502Fri, 08 May 2015 04:06:42 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria continue their discussion on the Power of Intention. Robin talks about e-squared: Nine Do-it-yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create...
These are the spiritual experiments you can prove in E-Squared:

1. There is an invisible energy force or field of infinite possibilities.
2. You impact the field and draw from it according to your beliefs and expectations.
3. You, too, are a field of energy.
4. Whatever you focus on expands.
5. Your connection to the field provides accurate and unlimited guidance.
6. Your thoughts and consciousness impact matter.
7. Your thoughts and consciousness provide the scaffolding for your physical body.
8. You are connected to everything and everyone else in the universe.
9. The universe is limitless, abundant, and strangely accommodating.

Among other things, it teaches people how to drop poundage by doing nothing but changing the focus of their thoughts.

Pam wrote a follow-up to E-Squared called appropriately, E-Cubed:

Robin also shares a story about Jim Carrey and how he was able to go from a broke unknown to manifesting $10 Million is a few short years by setting his intention and writing himself a check. Here's a video of him telling this story to Oprah Winfrey.



Gloria also provides some suggestions for training ourselves to course-correct when negative thoughts and speech start to surface, and to shift them into the positive. She's been able to teach this technique to others with very positive results.

Finally, here's a great illustration of this principle.

(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/Manifestation-med.jpg)]]>1696consciousness,energy,intention,manifesting,thoughtscleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and Cafe regular Gloria continue their discussion on the Power of Intention. Robin talks about e-squared: Nine Do-it-yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality by Pam Grout. These are the spiritual experiments you can prove in E-Squared: 1. There is an invisible energy force or field of infinite possibilities. 2. You impact the field and draw from it according to your beliefs and expectations. 3. You, too, are a field of energy. 4. Whatever you focus on expands. 5. Your connection to the field provides accurate and unlimited guidance. 6. Your thoughts and consciousness impact matter. 7. Your thoughts and consciousness provide the scaffolding for your physical body. 8. You are connected to everything and everyone else in the universe. 9. The universe is limitless, abundant, and strangely accommodating. Among other things, it teaches people how to drop poundage by doing nothing but changing the focus of their thoughts. Pam wrote a follow-up to E-Squared called appropriately, E-Cubed: Robin also shares a story about Jim Carrey and how he was able to go from a broke unknown to manifesting $10 Million is a few short years by setting his intention and writing himself a check. Here's a video of him telling this story to Oprah Winfrey. Gloria also provides some suggestions for training ourselves to course-correct when negative thoughts and speech start to surface, and to shift them into the positive. She's been able to teach this technique to others with very positive results. Finally, here's a great illustration of this principle. (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/Manifestation-med.jpg)Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-253-the-power-of-intentionhttp://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1468Sun, 03 May 2015 22:17:03 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and regulars Gloria and Jamie discuss two important topics: The Power of Intention, and Angel Appreciation. With the devastating earthquake in Nepal and unrest in many other parts of the ...1730angels,creation,intention,power,realitycleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and regulars Gloria and Jamie discuss two important topics: The Power of Intention, and Angel Appreciation. With the devastating earthquake in Nepal and unrest in many other parts of the ...Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-252-celebrating-earth-day


Gloria mentions the EarthFair celebration that takes place annually in San Diego's wonderful Balboa Park. EarthFair is the largest free annual environmental fair in the world. Each year, the EarthFair draws around 60,000 visitors. The fair even has an Earth-friendly food court.



Robin  mentions a collection of essays and poems called The Soul Unearthed: Celebrating Wildness and Spiritual Renewal Through Nature (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0971078637/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0971078637&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=JHI4KXQSCTBX2KRK)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0971078637). This book is available through Amazon at a very nominal cost.

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Robin also shares a story about John Muir, the famous naturalist, about his true adventures  exploring a treacherous glacier with a brave little dog named Stickeen. Muir turned the story into a children's book that has since become a classic: Stickeen: John Muir and the Brave Little Dog (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1883220785/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1883220785&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=2SMOW3DDCGFGGIO6)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1883220785).


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Another version of Muir's book called John Muir & Stickeen (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1559719036/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1559719036&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=I5IRC4UG643CGV5K)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1559719036) is available in hardcover with illustrations by Bill Farnsworth. This story is partly responsible for people changing the way they think about their relationship with animals.

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What does Earth Day represent to you? We'd love to hear your comments.

 ]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1448Sat, 25 Apr 2015 21:16:51 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and her friend Gloria discuss Earth Day celebrations. The first Earth Day on April 22, 1970, activated 20 million Americans from all walks of life and is widely credited with...


Gloria mentions the EarthFair celebration that takes place annually in San Diego's wonderful Balboa Park. EarthFair is the largest free annual environmental fair in the world. Each year, the EarthFair draws around 60,000 visitors. The fair even has an Earth-friendly food court.



Robin  mentions a collection of essays and poems called The Soul Unearthed: Celebrating Wildness and Spiritual Renewal Through Nature (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0971078637/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0971078637&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=JHI4KXQSCTBX2KRK)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0971078637). This book is available through Amazon at a very nominal cost.

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Robin also shares a story about John Muir, the famous naturalist, about his true adventures  exploring a treacherous glacier with a brave little dog named Stickeen. Muir turned the story into a children's book that has since become a classic: Stickeen: John Muir and the Brave Little Dog (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1883220785/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1883220785&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=2SMOW3DDCGFGGIO6)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1883220785).


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Another version of Muir's book called John Muir & Stickeen (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1559719036/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1559719036&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=I5IRC4UG643CGV5K)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1559719036) is available in hardcover with illustrations by Bill Farnsworth. This story is partly responsible for people changing the way they think about their relationship with animals.

(1719cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and her friend Gloria discuss Earth Day celebrations. The first Earth Day on April 22, 1970, activated 20 million Americans from all walks of life and is widely credited with launching the modern environmental movement. Today over one billion people observe Earth Day all over the world. Gloria mentions the EarthFair celebration that takes place annually in San Diego's wonderful Balboa Park. EarthFair is the largest free annual environmental fair in the world. Each year, the EarthFair draws around 60,000 visitors. The fair even has an Earth-friendly food court. Robin  mentions a collection of essays and poems called The Soul Unearthed: Celebrating Wildness and Spiritual Renewal Through Nature (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0971078637/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0971078637&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=JHI4KXQSCTBX2KRK)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0971078637). This book is available through Amazon at a very nominal cost. (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=0971078637&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0971078637) Robin also shares a story about John Muir, the famous naturalist, about his true adventures  exploring a treacherous glacier with a brave little dog named Stickeen. Muir turned the story into a children's book that has since become a classic: Stickeen: John Muir and the Brave Little Dog (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1883220785/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1883220785&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=2SMOW3DDCGFGGIO6)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1883220785). (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=1883220785&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1883220785) Another version of Muir's book called John Muir & Stickeen (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1559719036/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1559719036&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=I5IRC4UG643CGV5K)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1559719036) is available in hardcover with illustrations by Bill Farnsworth. This story is partly responsible for people changing the way they think about their relationship with animals. (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=1559719036&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1559719036)   What does Earth Day represent to you? We'd love to hear your comments.  Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-249-the-art-of-stillness


Pico Iyer was recently interviewed by Ophrah Winfrey on her Super Soul Sunday series. In the excerpt below he talks about "The free health club everyone needs to join".

Of course this is not a new idea. Seekers throughout the ages in all spiritual traditions have encouraged stillness and silence as a means to finding one's inner peace.

Be still. Stillness reveals the secrets of eternity. ~Lao Tzu

I also like this quote by William Butler Yeats:

We can make our minds so like still water that beings gather about us, that they may see their own images, and so live for a moment with a clearer, perhaps even with a fiercer life because of our quiet. ~William Butler Yeats

The quote below comes from Tolle's book on the subject called Stillness Speaks:

"Your innermost sense of self, of who you are, is inseparable from stillness. This is the I Am that is deeper than name and form."
~Ekhart Tolle

Stillness: Daily Gifts of Solitude by Richard Mahler makes a good case for the healing and salutary benefits of quiet alone-time. For millions of stressed out and inwardly discontent souls, it will prove to be good medicine.

Clinical studies have revealed that even small periods of solitude can improve one's health and well-being by producing sharper memory, less irritability, improved concentration, deeper relaxation, an easing of depression, and better sleep. Writers Terry Tempest Williams, May Sarton, Anthony Stores, and others are quoted in Mahler's book as they bear witness to other benefits of quiet alone-time, such as access to spiritual or mystical experiences, expanded self-understanding, communion with nature, development of the imagination, and liberation from unwanted distractions.

How wonderful that we have a way to practice stilling the mind as a means of dealing with the frantic pace of the world. We can use silence to get in tune with ourselves, and in the process, learn to approach the world in a new way.

"If you would keep quiet, clear of memories and expectations, you would be able to discern the beautiful pattern of events. It’s your restlessness that causes chaos." ~Nisargadatta Maharaj]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1422Mon, 30 Mar 2015 00:52:37 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and regular diner Gloria discuss Pico Iyer's book "The Art of Stillness" and the importance of stillness in ever accelerating world. As Iyer observes, there’s never been a...


Pico Iyer was recently interviewed by Ophrah Winfrey on her Super Soul Sunday series. In the excerpt below he talks about "The free health club everyone needs to join".

Of course this is not a new idea. Seekers throughout the ages in all spiritual traditions have encouraged stillness and silence as a means to finding one's inner peace.

Be still. Stillness reveals the secrets of eternity. ~Lao Tzu

I also like this quote by William Butler Yeats:

We can make our minds so like still water that beings gather about us, that they may see their own images, and so live for a moment with a clearer, perhaps even with a fiercer life because of our quiet. ~William Butler Yeats

The quote below comes from Tolle's book on the subject called Stillness Speaks:

"Your innermost sense of self, of who you are, is inseparable from stillness. This is the I Am that is deeper than name and form."
~Ekhart Tolle

Stillness: Daily Gifts of Solitude by Richard Mahler makes a good case for the healing and salutary benefits of quiet alone-time. For millions of stressed out and inwardly discontent souls, it will prove to be good medicine.

Clinical studies have revealed that even small periods of solitude can improve one's health and well-being by producing sharper memory, less irritability, improved concentration, deeper relaxation, an easing of depression, and better sleep. Writers Terry Tempest Williams, May Sarton, Anthony Stores, and others are quoted in Mahler's book as they bear witness to other benefits of quiet alone-time, such as access to spiritual or mystical experiences, expanded self-understanding, communion with nature, development of the imagination, and liberation from unwanted distractions.

How wonderful that we have a way to practice stilling the mind as a means of dealing with the frantic pace of the world. We can use silence to get in tune with ourselves, and in the process, learn to approach the world in a new way.

"If you would keep quiet, clear of memories and expectations, you would be able to discern the beautiful pattern of events. It’s your restlessness that causes chaos." ~Nisargadatta Maharaj]]>1637health,meditation,oprah,pico,stillnesscleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and regular diner Gloria discuss Pico Iyer's book "The Art of Stillness" and the importance of stillness in ever accelerating world. As Iyer observes, there’s never been a greater need to slow down, tune out and give ourselves permission to be still. Pico Iyer was recently interviewed by Ophrah Winfrey on her Super Soul Sunday series. In the excerpt below he talks about "The free health club everyone needs to join". Of course this is not a new idea. Seekers throughout the ages in all spiritual traditions have encouraged stillness and silence as a means to finding one's inner peace. Be still. Stillness reveals the secrets of eternity. ~Lao Tzu I also like this quote by William Butler Yeats: We can make our minds so like still water that beings gather about us, that they may see their own images, and so live for a moment with a clearer, perhaps even with a fiercer life because of our quiet. ~William Butler Yeats The quote below comes from Tolle's book on the subject called Stillness Speaks: "Your innermost sense of self, of who you are, is inseparable from stillness. This is the I Am that is deeper than name and form." ~Ekhart Tolle Stillness: Daily Gifts of Solitude by Richard Mahler makes a good case for the healing and salutary benefits of quiet alone-time. For millions of stressed out and inwardly discontent souls, it will prove to be good medicine. Clinical studies have revealed that even small periods of solitude can improve one's health and well-being by producing sharper memory, less irritability, improved concentration, deeper relaxation, an easing of depression, and better sleep. Writers Terry Tempest Williams, May Sarton, Anthony Stores, and others are quoted in Mahler's book as they bear witness to other benefits of quiet alone-time, such as access to spiritual or mystical experiences, expanded self-understanding, communion with nature, development of the imagination, and liberation from unwanted distractions. How wonderful that we have a way to practice stilling the mind as a means of dealing with the frantic pace of the world. We can use silence to get in tune with ourselves, and in the process, learn to approach the world in a new way. "If you would keep quiet, clear of memories and expectations, you would be able to discern the beautiful pattern of events. It’s your restlessness that causes chaos." ~Nisargadatta MaharajNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-248-growth-mindset-and-success
Robin learned about Carol Dweck's work from an article called "Brainology: Transforming Students’ Motivation to Learn" (http://www.nais.org/Magazines-Newsletters/ISMagazine/Pages/Brainology.aspx).


 
The 5 Big Ideas of Mindset

Fixed versus Growth
Effort is Good
Genius is Made - Not Born
Feeling Depressed?
Embrace Failures!

In a fixed mindset, people believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They spend their time documenting their intelligence or talent instead of developing them. They also believe that talent alone creates success—without effort. They’re wrong.

In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment. Virtually all great people have had these qualities.

Teaching a growth mindset creates motivation and productivity in the worlds of business, education, and sports.
Developing a Growth Mindset


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For a more concise discussion of this topic, check out "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success in 15 Minutes"

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Geoff Colvin tells us talent is overrated. Where’s it at? 10,000 hours of deliberate practice. That’s the bedrock on which greatness is developed.

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Additional Resources:
The Talent Myth (http://gladwell.com/the-talent-myth/) - article by Malcolm Gladwell]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1404Tue, 24 Mar 2015 02:36:21 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz discusses the concept of "Mindset", a simple idea discovered by  Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck in decades of research on achievement and success—a simple idea that makes...
Robin learned about Carol Dweck's work from an article called "Brainology: Transforming Students’ Motivation to Learn" (http://www.nais.org/Magazines-Newsletters/ISMagazine/Pages/Brainology.aspx).


 
The 5 Big Ideas of Mindset

Fixed versus Growth
Effort is Good
Genius is Made - Not Born
Feeling Depressed?
Embrace Failures!

In a fixed mindset, people believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They spend their time documenting their intelligence or talent instead of developing them. They also believe that talent alone creates success—without effort. They’re wrong.

In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment. Virtually all great people have had these qualities.

Teaching a growth mindset creates motivation and productivity in the worlds of business, education, and sports.
Developing a Growth Mindset


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For a more concise discussion of this topic, check out "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success in 15 Minutes"

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Geoff Colvin tells us talent is overrated. Where’s it at? 10,000 hours of deliberate practice. That’s the bedrock on which greatness is developed.

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Additional Resources:
The Talent Myth (http://gladwell.com/the-talent-myth/) - article by Malcolm Gladwell]]>1406cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz discusses the concept of "Mindset", a simple idea discovered by  Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck in decades of research on achievement and success—a simple idea that makes all the difference. Dweck's work is summarized in her book "Mindset". Robin learned about Carol Dweck's work from an article called "Brainology: Transforming Students’ Motivation to Learn" (http://www.nais.org/Magazines-Newsletters/ISMagazine/Pages/Brainology.aspx).   The 5 Big Ideas of Mindset Fixed versus Growth Effort is Good Genius is Made - Not Born Feeling Depressed? Embrace Failures! In a fixed mindset, people believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They spend their time documenting their intelligence or talent instead of developing them. They also believe that talent alone creates success—without effort. They’re wrong. In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment. Virtually all great people have had these qualities. Teaching a growth mindset creates motivation and productivity in the worlds of business, education, and sports. Developing a Growth Mindset (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=0345472322&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0345472322) For a more concise discussion of this topic, check out "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success in 15 Minutes" (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B00OFDFPBW&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B00OFDFPBW) Geoff Colvin tells us talent is overrated. Where’s it at? 10,000 hours of deliberate practice. That’s the bedrock on which greatness is developed. (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B001HD8NZ8&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B001HD8NZ8) Additional Resources: The Talent Myth (http://gladwell.com/the-talent-myth/) - article by Malcolm GladwellNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-247-let-there-be-tea-interview-with-lhttp://littlecandletea.com) in Las Vegas, Nevada, to talk about the little known facts about tea. I met Louise a few years ago through my sister Amy and we've been friends ever since!

Did you know that the fragrance of tea, just like wine, plays a large part in its taste? So make sure to enjoy the aroma as you sip your tea!


Is Herbal Tea really Tea?
Technically any drink you make from an infusion of herbs, spices, or other plants - but doesn't contain tea leaves - is called a tisane (tea-zahn). These drinks are distinguished from true teas like green, white, yellow, and oolong, which are prepared from the cured leaves of the tea plant Camellia sinensis (cam-MEE-lee-ah sin-EN-sis), so herbal "tea" isn't technically tea. Still, if you go to a restaurant and order a tisane, you'll probably be met with a blank stare.


Benefits of White Tea
White tea is the least processed form of tea and has a more delicate flavor. Because of it's minimal processing it contains more nutrients than black or green tea, making it "the ultimate Health Tea". You can learn more about the health benefits of white tea at the White Tea Guide (http://www.whiteteaguide.com/whiteteahealthbenefits.htm).
Benefits of Green Tea
Green tea is considered one of the world's healthiest drinks and contains one of the highest amount of antioxidants of any tea. It's been shown to improve brain function, aid in fat loss, and lower risk of cancer. You can learn about the 10 Proven Benefits of Green Tea (http://authoritynutrition.com/top-10-evidence-based-health-benefits-of-green-tea/) at Authority Nutrition, and the 11 Benefits of Green Tea You Didn't Know About (http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/11-benefits-of-green-tea-that-you-didnt-know-about.html) from Lifehack.org. There are also numerous medical studies that demonstrate the medicinal benefits of green tea.


Herbal Teas
Herbal teas have been used traditionally for their medicinal effects. Chamomile, for example, helps to calm you and has a mild sedative effect. Teas made from peppermint, spearmint, and other types of mint are often recommended to help soothe digestive issues. I like green tea infused with spearmint and a little honey as a refreshing change of pace.

 


Recommended Herbal Teas:

* Chamomile
* Mint
* Raspberry Leaf
* Lavender tea









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If you would like to order tea online, visit Louise's The Little Candle Tea Company (http://littlecandletea.com).

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Louise's Bio

After teaching elementary school for 30 years in California, I decided to retire to Las Vegas. I did teach for one year here, and met a friend who loved drinking coffee, as I still do, and also loose leaf tea. She introduced me to the aromas and flavors of so many teas, my interest was piqued and that was that! I started learning all I could and began a business focusing on tea education. Most of my customers were also new to loose leaf (specialty) tea, and we began the journey together; learning and drinking this most wonderful brew.

I’ve now been in the tea business for 8 years and still learning! I give tea tastings, tea talks in the work place and teaching journaling classes with tea. I love what I do and the people I’ve met along the way!
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//]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1328Fri, 13 Mar 2015 04:58:28 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe Podcast, I welcome my friend Louise Carruth, owner of the Little Candle Tea Company (http://littlecandletea.com) in Las Vegas, Nevada, to talk about the little known facts about tea. I met Louise a few years...http://littlecandletea.com) in Las Vegas, Nevada, to talk about the little known facts about tea. I met Louise a few years ago through my sister Amy and we've been friends ever since!

Did you know that the fragrance of tea, just like wine, plays a large part in its taste? So make sure to enjoy the aroma as you sip your tea!


Is Herbal Tea really Tea?
Technically any drink you make from an infusion of herbs, spices, or other plants - but doesn't contain tea leaves - is called a tisane (tea-zahn). These drinks are distinguished from true teas like green, white, yellow, and oolong, which are prepared from the cured leaves of the tea plant Camellia sinensis (cam-MEE-lee-ah sin-EN-sis), so herbal "tea" isn't technically tea. Still, if you go to a restaurant and order a tisane, you'll probably be met with a blank stare.


Benefits of White Tea
White tea is the least processed form of tea and has a more delicate flavor. Because of it's minimal processing it contains more nutrients than black or green tea, making it "the ultimate Health Tea". You can learn more about the health benefits of white tea at the White Tea Guide (http://www.whiteteaguide.com/whiteteahealthbenefits.htm).
Benefits of Green Tea
Green tea is considered one of the world's healthiest drinks and contains one of the highest amount of antioxidants of any tea. It's been shown to improve brain function, aid in fat loss, and lower risk of cancer. You can learn about the 10 Proven Benefits of Green Tea (http://authoritynutrition.com/top-10-evidence-based-health-benefits-of-green-tea/) at Authority Nutrition, and the 11 Benefits of Green Tea You Didn't Know About (http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/11-benefits-of-green-tea-that-you-didnt-know-about.html) from Lifehack.org. There are also numerous medical studies that demonstrate the medicinal benefits of green tea.


Herbal Teas
Herbal teas have been used traditionally for their medicinal effects. Chamomile, for example, helps to calm you and has a mild sedative effect. Teas made from peppermint, spearmint, and other types of mint are often recommended to help soothe digestive issues. I like green tea infused with spearmint and a little honey as a refreshing change of pace.

 


Recommended Herbal Teas:

* Chamomile
* Mint
* Raspberry Leaf
* Lavender tea









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If you would like to order tea online, visit Louise's The Little Candle Tea Company (http://littlecandletea.com).

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Louise's Bio

After teaching elementary school for 30 years in California, I decided to retire to Las Vegas. I did teach for one year here, and met a friend who loved drinking...]]>1969cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe Podcast, I welcome my friend Louise Carruth, owner of the Little Candle Tea Company (http://littlecandletea.com) in Las Vegas, Nevada, to talk about the little known facts about tea. I met Louise a few years ago through my sister Amy and we've been friends ever since! Did you know that the fragrance of tea, just like wine, plays a large part in its taste? So make sure to enjoy the aroma as you sip your tea! Is Herbal Tea really Tea? Technically any drink you make from an infusion of herbs, spices, or other plants - but doesn't contain tea leaves - is called a tisane (tea-zahn). These drinks are distinguished from true teas like green, white, yellow, and oolong, which are prepared from the cured leaves of the tea plant Camellia sinensis (cam-MEE-lee-ah sin-EN-sis), so herbal "tea" isn't technically tea. Still, if you go to a restaurant and order a tisane, you'll probably be met with a blank stare. Benefits of White Tea White tea is the least processed form of tea and has a more delicate flavor. Because of it's minimal processing it contains more nutrients than black or green tea, making it "the ultimate Health Tea". You can learn more about the health benefits of white tea at the White Tea Guide (http://www.whiteteaguide.com/whiteteahealthbenefits.htm). Benefits of Green Tea Green tea is considered one of the world's healthiest drinks and contains one of the highest amount of antioxidants of any tea. It's been shown to improve brain function, aid in fat loss, and lower risk of cancer. You can learn about the 10 Proven Benefits of Green Tea (http://authoritynutrition.com/top-10-evidence-based-health-benefits-of-green-tea/) at Authority Nutrition, and the 11 Benefits of Green Tea You Didn't Know About (http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/11-benefits-of-green-tea-that-you-didnt-know-about.html) from Lifehack.org. There are also numerous medical studies that demonstrate the medicinal benefits of green tea. Herbal Teas Herbal teas have been used traditionally for their medicinal effects. Chamomile, for example, helps to calm you and has a mild sedative effect. Teas made from peppermint, spearmint, and other types of mint are often recommended to help soothe digestive issues. I like green tea infused with spearmint and a little honey as a refreshing change of pace.   Recommended Herbal Teas: * Chamomile * Mint * Raspberry Leaf * Lavender tea (http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B0002AAP5I) (http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B003S86KVY) If you would like to order tea online, visit Louise's The Little Candle Tea Company (http://littlecandletea.com). (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/Little-Candle-Tea-logo2.jpg) Louise's Bio After teaching elementary school for 30 years in California, I decided to retire to Las Vegas. I did teach for one year here, and met a friend who loved drinking coffee, as I still do, and also loose leaf tea. She introduced me to the aromas and flavors of so many teas, my interest was piqued and that was that! I started learning all I could and began a business focusing on tea education. Most of my customers were also new to loose leaf (specialty) tea, and we began the journey together; learning and drinking this most wonderful brew. I’ve now been in the tea business for 8 years and still learning! I give tea tastings, tea talks in the work place and teaching journaling classes with tea. I love what I do and the people I’ve met along the way! Subscribe (http://transformation-cafe.com/subscribe-to-podcast/) to the podcast. //Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/the-ultimate-anti-bullying-solutionhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1928155367/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1928155367&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=GBGZQWTPG5L2TC2L)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1928155367) and several children's books designed to help children expand their understanding and acceptance of what is 'different' and to develop strategies when confronted with bullying behavior.




“I truly believe that the day we embrace different as perfect is the day we can celebrate the end of bullying”
Anita Telle

In this interview Anita clarifies information about bullying and offers positive solutions parents can adopt with their child:
What are the 4 most common forms of bullying?

Verbal bullying – Cruel, venomous, judging words, name-calling, threats, taunting.
Social – Leaving someone out on purpose, shunning.
Physical – Hurting a person’s body or possessions. Hitting, spitting, and/or pushing.
Cyber – Bullying using electronic technology.

Books by Anita Telle




For Parents


For Children



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From Anita's Website:
Anita Telle has a mission: To teach acceptance and love to children ages 4 – 9 so they will grow up to be amazing, supportive and loving teenagers, immune to peer pressure and bullying.

Anita Telle also has a story to tell. And it’s an important story; one that touches everyone, everywhere, from every culture. But it is especially important for children:

Being different IS normal. We are all different, in different ways.

Her recent book The Ultimate Anti-Bullying Solutions Guide: The Sure Fire Way To Stop Bullying Now! (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1928155367/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1928155367&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=CHVW3AT3B3YF3JER)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1928155367) crystallizes her mission and her story into a handbook for people who want to be part of the solution.
Learn more at AnitaTelle.com (http://anitatelle.com)
Subscribe (http://transformation-cafe.com/subscribe-to-podcast/) to the podcast.]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1284Sat, 07 Mar 2015 01:15:49 +0000Transformation CafeIn this special episode of the Transformation Cafe, Robin welcomes Anita Telle, author of The Ultimate Anti-Bullying Solutions Guide: The Sure Fire Way To Stop Bullying Now!...http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1928155367/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1928155367&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=GBGZQWTPG5L2TC2L)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1928155367) and several children's books designed to help children expand their understanding and acceptance of what is 'different' and to develop strategies when confronted with bullying behavior.




“I truly believe that the day we embrace different as perfect is the day we can celebrate the end of bullying”
Anita Telle

In this interview Anita clarifies information about bullying and offers positive solutions parents can adopt with their child:
What are the 4 most common forms of bullying?

Verbal bullying – Cruel, venomous, judging words, name-calling, threats, taunting.
Social – Leaving someone out on purpose, shunning.
Physical – Hurting a person’s body or possessions. Hitting, spitting, and/or pushing.
Cyber – Bullying using electronic technology.

Books by Anita Telle




For Parents


For Children



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From Anita's Website:
Anita Telle has a mission: To teach acceptance and love to children ages 4 – 9 so they will grow up to be amazing, supportive and loving teenagers, immune to peer pressure and bullying.

Anita Telle also has a story to tell. And it’s an important story; one that touches everyone, everywhere, from every culture. But it is especially important for children:

Being different IS normal. We are all different, in different ways.

Her recent book The Ultimate Anti-Bullying Solutions Guide: The Sure Fire Way To Stop Bullying Now! (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1928155367/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1928155367&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=CHVW3AT3B3YF3JER)(1908cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this special episode of the Transformation Cafe, Robin welcomes Anita Telle, author of The Ultimate Anti-Bullying Solutions Guide: The Sure Fire Way To Stop Bullying Now! (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1928155367/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1928155367&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=GBGZQWTPG5L2TC2L)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1928155367) and several children's books designed to help children expand their understanding and acceptance of what is 'different' and to develop strategies when confronted with bullying behavior. “I truly believe that the day we embrace different as perfect is the day we can celebrate the end of bullying” Anita Telle In this interview Anita clarifies information about bullying and offers positive solutions parents can adopt with their child: What are the 4 most common forms of bullying? Verbal bullying – Cruel, venomous, judging words, name-calling, threats, taunting. Social – Leaving someone out on purpose, shunning. Physical – Hurting a person’s body or possessions. Hitting, spitting, and/or pushing. Cyber – Bullying using electronic technology. Books by Anita Telle For Parents For Children (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B00PKS25S2&Format=_SL160_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20) (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=1468119826&Format=_SL160_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20) (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=1470054795&Format=_SL160_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20) (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=1484821556&Format=_SL160_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)   From Anita's Website: Anita Telle has a mission: To teach acceptance and love to children ages 4 – 9 so they will grow up to be amazing, supportive and loving teenagers, immune to peer pressure and bullying. Anita Telle also has a story to tell. And it’s an important story; one that touches everyone, everywhere, from every culture. But it is especially important for children: Being different IS normal. We are all different, in different ways. Her recent book The Ultimate Anti-Bullying Solutions Guide: The Sure Fire Way To Stop Bullying Now! (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1928155367/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1928155367&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=CHVW3AT3B3YF3JER)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1928155367) crystallizes her mission and her story into a handbook for people who want to be part of the solution. Learn more at AnitaTelle.com (http://anitatelle.com) Subscribe (http://transformation-cafe.com/subscribe-to-podcast/) to the podcast.Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc245-5-tips-for-soul-care


Our Higher Self will communicate with us in various ways: through intuition, hunches, sudden unexpected life changes, etc. We may or may not choose to listen or act on those communications.
5 Tips for Soul Care


Breath work - The breath is our anchor. Practices such as Qigong (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc220/) and Yoga (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc219/)combine breath work with movement, and are highly recommended. We recently featured an interview with Kiyomi Kagiyama (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc220/), Qigong instructor and artist, and Lauren Rovira (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc221/), yoga teacher and owner of Source Studio in Riverside, California. We've included links to a couple of breathing meditations in the Resources section below if you'd like to practice on your own.
Movement - Recently we featured Dr. Ted Pena (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc233/) in a discussion if the benefits of movement for your physical, emotional, and psychological well-being. Movement can be combined with your mindfulness practice to enhance harmony between mind, body, and spirit. Walking, dancing, or even simple stretches will help keep your body flexible and improve your balance and mobility.
Spending time in Nature - Make time every day to connect with nature. Go outside, sink your bare feet in the grass, put your palms on a tree, take a look at the sky, and just breath it all in. Take outdoor walks or hikes as often as possible. Create an herb garden. Play in the sand or make mud pies with the little ones. If you want to bring nature indoors than fresh houseplants and flowers are a great way to go. You can even keep a jar of sea shells, acorns, or pine cones on your desk to remind you of the outdoors.


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Journaling - Recording your innermost thoughts, hopes, fears, and desires through writing is a form of self-expression that leads to all-around better understanding. You don't have to worry about what to write, just write whatever comes into your mind and allow yourself to explore your thoughts and feelings. You can write on paper (my preference) or type it out, whichever you prefer, but we recommend making it a daily practice to write at least a page a day. In The Artist's Way (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1585421464/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1585421464&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=PAFPDBOFQ5CBBVC5)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1585421464), author Julia Cameron three handwritten pages or 750 words every morning.
Tea Time - Brewing a cup of your favorite herbal tea and sitting down to enjoy each sip can help you feel less stressed-out. Chamomile is one of the most consumed teas behind black tea, and helps to relieve stress due to its soothing and mildly sedative effect. Mint is also popular - peppermint soothes the digestive tract and is helpful for heartburn and nausea. Other tea drinks such as Chai, an Indian drink made from boiled milk, black tea, ginger, cardamom, cinnamon, fennel, clove and black pepper are also popular and good for your digestion and immune system. Studies (http://ajcn.nutrition.org/content/94/2/601.abstract?sid=c3d63130-3cc4-47e1-9441-ac56483087f1)have shown the numerous health benefits of drinking green tea, although if you are trying to relax you might want to get the kind without caffeine.

(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/woman-with-tea-200x300.jpg)

To order tea online, check out our friend Louise Carruth's Little Candle Tea Company (http://littlecandletea.com/).
 
Resources:
Breathing Meditation]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1241Sat, 28 Feb 2015 20:07:44 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and regulars Jamie and Gloria discuss tips for nurturing our self (little "s") and our Self (big "S"). Robin refers to this work as Soul Care. Our Higher Self will communicate...


Our Higher Self will communicate with us in various ways: through intuition, hunches, sudden unexpected life changes, etc. We may or may not choose to listen or act on those communications.
5 Tips for Soul Care


Breath work - The breath is our anchor. Practices such as Qigong (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc220/) and Yoga (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc219/)combine breath work with movement, and are highly recommended. We recently featured an interview with Kiyomi Kagiyama (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc220/), Qigong instructor and artist, and Lauren Rovira (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc221/), yoga teacher and owner of Source Studio in Riverside, California. We've included links to a couple of breathing meditations in the Resources section below if you'd like to practice on your own.
Movement - Recently we featured Dr. Ted Pena (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc233/) in a discussion if the benefits of movement for your physical, emotional, and psychological well-being. Movement can be combined with your mindfulness practice to enhance harmony between mind, body, and spirit. Walking, dancing, or even simple stretches will help keep your body flexible and improve your balance and mobility.
Spending time in Nature - Make time every day to connect with nature. Go outside, sink your bare feet in the grass, put your palms on a tree, take a look at the sky, and just breath it all in. Take outdoor walks or hikes as often as possible. Create an herb garden. Play in the sand or make mud pies with the little ones. If you want to bring nature indoors than fresh houseplants and flowers are a great way to go. You can even keep a jar of sea shells, acorns, or pine cones on your desk to remind you of the outdoors.


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Journaling - Recording your innermost thoughts, hopes, fears, and desires through writing is a form of self-expression that leads to all-around better understanding. You don't have to worry about what to write, just write whatever comes into your mind and allow yourself to explore your thoughts and feelings. You can write on paper (my preference) or type it out, whichever you prefer, but we recommend making it a daily practice to write at least a page a day. In The Artist's Way (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1585421464/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1585421464&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=PAFPDBOFQ5CBBVC5)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1585421464), author Julia Cameron three handwritten pages or 750 words every morning.
Tea Time - Brewing a cup of your favorite herbal tea and sitting down to enjoy each sip can help you feel less stressed-out. Chamomile is one of the most consumed teas behind black tea, and helps to relieve stress due to its soothing and mildly sedative effect. Mint is also popular - peppermint soothes the digestive tract and is helpful for heartburn and nausea. Other tea drinks such as Chai, an...]]>1758cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast, host Robin Masiewicz and regulars Jamie and Gloria discuss tips for nurturing our self (little "s") and our Self (big "S"). Robin refers to this work as Soul Care. Our Higher Self will communicate with us in various ways: through intuition, hunches, sudden unexpected life changes, etc. We may or may not choose to listen or act on those communications. 5 Tips for Soul Care Breath work - The breath is our anchor. Practices such as Qigong (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc220/) and Yoga (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc219/)combine breath work with movement, and are highly recommended. We recently featured an interview with Kiyomi Kagiyama (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc220/), Qigong instructor and artist, and Lauren Rovira (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc221/), yoga teacher and owner of Source Studio in Riverside, California. We've included links to a couple of breathing meditations in the Resources section below if you'd like to practice on your own. Movement - Recently we featured Dr. Ted Pena (http://transformation-cafe.com/tc233/) in a discussion if the benefits of movement for your physical, emotional, and psychological well-being. Movement can be combined with your mindfulness practice to enhance harmony between mind, body, and spirit. Walking, dancing, or even simple stretches will help keep your body flexible and improve your balance and mobility. Spending time in Nature - Make time every day to connect with nature. Go outside, sink your bare feet in the grass, put your palms on a tree, take a look at the sky, and just breath it all in. Take outdoor walks or hikes as often as possible. Create an herb garden. Play in the sand or make mud pies with the little ones. If you want to bring nature indoors than fresh houseplants and flowers are a great way to go. You can even keep a jar of sea shells, acorns, or pine cones on your desk to remind you of the outdoors. (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/woman-relaxing-in-leaves-sm.jpg) Journaling - Recording your innermost thoughts, hopes, fears, and desires through writing is a form of self-expression that leads to all-around better understanding. You don't have to worry about what to write, just write whatever comes into your mind and allow yourself to explore your thoughts and feelings. You can write on paper (my preference) or type it out, whichever you prefer, but we recommend making it a daily practice to write at least a page a day. In The Artist's Way (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1585421464/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1585421464&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=PAFPDBOFQ5CBBVC5)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1585421464), author Julia Cameron three handwritten pages or 750 words every morning. Tea Time - Brewing a cup of your favorite herbal tea and sitting down to enjoy each sip can help you feel less stressed-out. Chamomile is one of the most consumed teas behind black tea, and helps to relieve stress due to its soothing and mildly sedative effect. Mint is also popular - peppermint soothes the digestive tract and is helpful for heartburn and nausea. Other tea drinks such as Chai, an Indian drink made from boiled milk, black tea, ginger, cardamom, cinnamon, fennel, clove and black pepper are also popular and good for your digestion and immune system. Studies (http://ajcn.nutrition.org/content/94/2/601.abstract?sid=c3d63130-3cc4-47e1-9441-ac56483087f1)have shown the numerous health benefits of drinking green tea, although if you are trying to relax you might want to get the kind without caffeine. (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/woman-with-tea-200x300.jpg) To order tea online, check out our friend Louise Carruth's Little Candle Tea Company (http://littlecandletea.com/).   Resources: Breathing MeditationNohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc244-the-power-of-flowershttp://www.mcleodwellnesscenter.com/workshops.php)" workshop at the Mcleod Wellness Center in Las Vegas, Nevada. This workshop is designed to help the participant tap into their "Nature Self" through the practice of Flower Journaling.



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The use of flowers in ceremonies can be traced back 60,000 years to the Neanderthals (http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/the-skeletons-of-shanidar-cave-7028477/?no-ist); pollen found in ancient graves suggests that Neanderthals used flowers in their burial rituals. This discovery was documented in a book by Smithsonian (http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/the-skeletons-of-shanidar-cave-7028477/?no-ist)archaeologist Ralph Solecki: Shanidar, the First Flower People (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0394445112/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0394445112&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=VB7ETPK6T6T6XXAE)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0394445112).

Growing Concerns (http://www.postbulletin.com/life/lifestyles/growing-concerns-promote-kindness-and-well-being-using-flower-power/article_0d6b7337-e45d-5f58-89eb-eaeb74bfbd22.html): This article talks about how you can promote kindness and well-being using flower power. A behavioral study completed by Rutgers University demonstrated that flowers decrease depression, encourage social networking and refresh memory as we age. Flower-givers are perceived as successful and caring. Enhance friendships, romances and business relationships by giving flowers.

According to research conducted by Jeannette Haviland-Jones (http://urwebsrv.rutgers.edu/magazine/archive1013/departments/spring-2010/insights/flower-power), Ph.D., director of the Human Development Lab at Rutgers University, “flowers have immediate and long-term positive effects on reactions, mood, social behaviors and even memory for both males and females.”



Another Rutgers University psychology study noted the effects flowers have on seniors (http://aboutflowers.com/health-benefits-a-research/flowers-a-seniors-study.html) (also conducted by Haviland-Jones). The study finds flowers decrease depression, encourage companionship and enrich short-term memories in seniors, proving that flowers have the power to ease us into a peaceful place of old age – while perhaps reminding us of the vitality in all life forms.

 

 
Read more:
http://urwebsrv.rutgers.edu/magazine/archive1013/departments/spring-2010/insights/flower-power (http://urwebsrv.rutgers.edu/magazine/archive1013/departments/spring-2010/insights/flower-power)

You can view some of Robin's floral creations at Riverside Flowers for You (https://www.facebook.com/RiversideFlowersforYou).]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1204Sat, 21 Feb 2015 05:48:17 +0000Transformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz discusses her upcoming "Flowerful Wisdom (http://www.mcleodwellnesscenter.com/workshops.php)" workshop at the Mcleod Wellness Center in Las Vegas, Nevada. This workshop is designed to help the participant tap into...http://www.mcleodwellnesscenter.com/workshops.php)" workshop at the Mcleod Wellness Center in Las Vegas, Nevada. This workshop is designed to help the participant tap into their "Nature Self" through the practice of Flower Journaling.



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The use of flowers in ceremonies can be traced back 60,000 years to the Neanderthals (http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/the-skeletons-of-shanidar-cave-7028477/?no-ist); pollen found in ancient graves suggests that Neanderthals used flowers in their burial rituals. This discovery was documented in a book by Smithsonian (http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/the-skeletons-of-shanidar-cave-7028477/?no-ist)archaeologist Ralph Solecki: Shanidar, the First Flower People (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0394445112/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0394445112&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=VB7ETPK6T6T6XXAE)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0394445112).

Growing Concerns (http://www.postbulletin.com/life/lifestyles/growing-concerns-promote-kindness-and-well-being-using-flower-power/article_0d6b7337-e45d-5f58-89eb-eaeb74bfbd22.html): This article talks about how you can promote kindness and well-being using flower power. A behavioral study completed by Rutgers University demonstrated that flowers decrease depression, encourage social networking and refresh memory as we age. Flower-givers are perceived as successful and caring. Enhance friendships, romances and business relationships by giving flowers.

According to research conducted by Jeannette Haviland-Jones (http://urwebsrv.rutgers.edu/magazine/archive1013/departments/spring-2010/insights/flower-power), Ph.D., director of the Human Development Lab at Rutgers University, “flowers have immediate and long-term positive effects on reactions, mood, social behaviors and even memory for both males and females.”



Another Rutgers University psychology study noted the effects flowers have on seniors (http://aboutflowers.com/health-benefits-a-research/flowers-a-seniors-study.html) (also conducted by Haviland-Jones). The study finds flowers decrease depression, encourage companionship and enrich short-term memories in seniors, proving that flowers have the power to ease us into a peaceful place of old age – while perhaps reminding us of the vitality in all life forms.

 

 
Read more:
http://urwebsrv.rutgers.edu/magazine/archive1013/departments/spring-2010/insights/flower-power (1724cleanfullTransformation CafeIn this episode host Robin Masiewicz discusses her upcoming "Flowerful Wisdom (http://www.mcleodwellnesscenter.com/workshops.php)" workshop at the Mcleod Wellness Center in Las Vegas, Nevada. This workshop is designed to help the participant tap into their "Nature Self" through the practice of Flower Journaling. (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/what-kind-of-flower-300x156.jpg) The use of flowers in ceremonies can be traced back 60,000 years to the Neanderthals (http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/the-skeletons-of-shanidar-cave-7028477/?no-ist); pollen found in ancient graves suggests that Neanderthals used flowers in their burial rituals. This discovery was documented in a book by Smithsonian (http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/the-skeletons-of-shanidar-cave-7028477/?no-ist)archaeologist Ralph Solecki: Shanidar, the First Flower People (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0394445112/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0394445112&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=VB7ETPK6T6T6XXAE)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0394445112). Growing Concerns (http://www.postbulletin.com/life/lifestyles/growing-concerns-promote-kindness-and-well-being-using-flower-power/article_0d6b7337-e45d-5f58-89eb-eaeb74bfbd22.html): This article talks about how you can promote kindness and well-being using flower power. A behavioral study completed by Rutgers University demonstrated that flowers decrease depression, encourage social networking and refresh memory as we age. Flower-givers are perceived as successful and caring. Enhance friendships, romances and business relationships by giving flowers. According to research conducted by Jeannette Haviland-Jones (http://urwebsrv.rutgers.edu/magazine/archive1013/departments/spring-2010/insights/flower-power), Ph.D., director of the Human Development Lab at Rutgers University, “flowers have immediate and long-term positive effects on reactions, mood, social behaviors and even memory for both males and females.” Another Rutgers University psychology study noted the effects flowers have on seniors (http://aboutflowers.com/health-benefits-a-research/flowers-a-seniors-study.html) (also conducted by Haviland-Jones). The study finds flowers decrease depression, encourage companionship and enrich short-term memories in seniors, proving that flowers have the power to ease us into a peaceful place of old age – while perhaps reminding us of the vitality in all life forms.     Read more: http://urwebsrv.rutgers.edu/magazine/archive1013/departments/spring-2010/insights/flower-power (http://urwebsrv.rutgers.edu/magazine/archive1013/departments/spring-2010/insights/flower-power) You can view some of Robin's floral creations at Riverside Flowers for You (https://www.facebook.com/RiversideFlowersforYou).Nohttps://www.spreaker.com/user/transformation-cafe/tc-243-activate-joy-interview-with-alixshttp://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B007R3PVAM/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B007R3PVAM&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=WN7X24GASDGTDARC)".(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B007R3PVAM)
 
 
 


The major teachings in Activate Joy include:

* The art of blessing--intentional blessings to replace criticism and condemnation
* Finding perfect alignment-actions for instant joy retrieval
* Discarding emotional debt for joyous living
* The goodness process--I Am the Essence of Pure Goodness uncovers and transforms core shadow issues
* Profound insight into recovering from grief and returning to joy

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You can learn more about AlixSandra and her work at http://www.activatejoy.com (http://www.activatejoy.com) or at http://www.alixsandraparness.com (http://www.alixsandraparness.com).

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AlixSandra Parness, DD, is an ordained minister, doctor of divinity, trained clairvoyant healer, and dedicated teacher. She is the founder of the Inner Focus Church and the Inner Focus Advanced Energy Healing School, an international vehicle for attaining enlightenment and world peace. As a teacher of teachers, she has trained thousands of students in her extensive workshops and healing school, many of whom have their own expanding networks and now touch thousands more. A dynamic and unforgettable presence, she teaches through seminars, teleconferences, and special classes. She is also a keynote speaker at venues across the United States and Canada. She resides in Las Vegas, Nevada.

If you have any comments about this episode, or any suggestions for future topics, please leave a comment below. We'd love to hear from you!

Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/transformation-cafe/id877295844).  (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/itunes-download.png)]]>http://transformation-cafe.com/?p=1103Fri, 13 Feb 2015 15:28:00 +0000Transformation CafeOn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast host Robin Masiewicz welcomes author AlixSandra Parness to discuss her book "Activate Joy: Live Your Life Beyond Limitations...http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B007R3PVAM/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B007R3PVAM&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=WN7X24GASDGTDARC)".(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B007R3PVAM)
 
 
 


The major teachings in Activate Joy include:

* The art of blessing--intentional blessings to replace criticism and condemnation
* Finding perfect alignment-actions for instant joy retrieval
* Discarding emotional debt for joyous living
* The goodness process--I Am the Essence of Pure Goodness uncovers and transforms core shadow issues
* Profound insight into recovering from grief and returning to joy

(http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B007R3PVAM&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B007R3PVAM)

You can learn more about AlixSandra and her work at http://www.activatejoy.com (http://www.activatejoy.com) or at http://www.alixsandraparness.com (http://www.alixsandraparness.com).

(http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/AlixSandraatwork.jpg)

AlixSandra Parness, DD, is an ordained minister, doctor of divinity, trained clairvoyant healer, and dedicated teacher. She is the founder of the Inner Focus Church and the Inner Focus Advanced Energy Healing School, an international vehicle for attaining enlightenment and world peace. As a teacher of teachers, she has trained thousands of students in her extensive workshops and healing school, many of whom have their own expanding networks and now touch thousands more. A dynamic and unforgettable presence, she teaches through seminars, teleconferences, and special classes. She is also a keynote speaker at venues across the United States and Canada. She resides in Las Vegas, Nevada.

If you have any comments about this episode, or any suggestions for future topics, please leave a comment below. We'd love to hear from you!

Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/transformation-cafe/id877295844).  (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/itunes-download.png)]]>1943cleanfullTransformation CafeOn this episode of the Transformation Cafe podcast host Robin Masiewicz welcomes author AlixSandra Parness to discuss her book "Activate Joy: Live Your Life Beyond Limitations (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B007R3PVAM/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B007R3PVAM&linkCode=as2&tag=transfcafe-20&linkId=WN7X24GASDGTDARC)".(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B007R3PVAM)       The major teachings in Activate Joy include: * The art of blessing--intentional blessings to replace criticism and condemnation * Finding perfect alignment-actions for instant joy retrieval * Discarding emotional debt for joyous living * The goodness process--I Am the Essence of Pure Goodness uncovers and transforms core shadow issues * Profound insight into recovering from grief and returning to joy (http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B007R3PVAM&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=transfcafe-20)(http://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=transfcafe-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B007R3PVAM) You can learn more about AlixSandra and her work at http://www.activatejoy.com (http://www.activatejoy.com) or at http://www.alixsandraparness.com (http://www.alixsandraparness.com). (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/AlixSandraatwork.jpg) AlixSandra Parness, DD, is an ordained minister, doctor of divinity, trained clairvoyant healer, and dedicated teacher. She is the founder of the Inner Focus Church and the Inner Focus Advanced Energy Healing School, an international vehicle for attaining enlightenment and world peace. As a teacher of teachers, she has trained thousands of students in her extensive workshops and healing school, many of whom have their own expanding networks and now touch thousands more. A dynamic and unforgettable presence, she teaches through seminars, teleconferences, and special classes. She is also a keynote speaker at venues across the United States and Canada. She resides in Las Vegas, Nevada. If you have any comments about this episode, or any suggestions for future topics, please leave a comment below. We'd love to hear from you! Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/transformation-cafe/id877295844).  (http://transformation-cafe.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/itunes-download.png)No