What does solidarity actually require—and what happens when only one side is expected to practice it?

In this episode, Tonya GJ Prince begins with a principle that gets lost in conversations about war, injustice and coalition: solidarity is reciprocal. Caring about another community’s suffering should not require ignoring racism directed at your own. Compassion is not supposed to demand self-erasure.

And Black women have encountered this bargain before. During World War I, Black educators Addie W. Hunton and Kathryn M. Johnson crossed the Atlantic to serve Black American troops. But when Johnson sought to work among those soldiers, she encountered an astonishing contradiction: Black men could be sent overseas to fight a world war, yet they could still be characterized as too “rough” for a Black woman sent there to serve them.

Johnson did not simply accept that judgment. Her story opens a much larger conversation about Black women, service, racial stereotypes, boundaries, coalition politics—and what happens when people eagerly accept what Black women provide while becoming uncomfortable when we ask how we and the people we love are being treated.

We can mourn children thousands of miles away and speak about anti-Black racism at the same time. We can stand against atrocities without surrendering our dignity. We can care deeply about another people without disappearing from our own conscience. Because solidarity that only travels in one direction has another name

.And Black women are allowed to ask what comes back across the bridge.

We Survive Abuse is an independent, survivor-centered podcast that speaks about trauma, recovery, and boundaries in plain, unvarnished language. We reject confusing corporate scripts, ideological jargon, and diluted terms that obscure reality. Healing requires truth, and truth requires clarity.

Grounded in reality, material evidence, and the lived experiences of women and Survivors, this show offers a space where things are called what they are—so you can reclaim your voice, your boundaries, and your story.